None of my friends have wanted to hangout with me and honestly this fucking sucks. If anyone wants to chat I’d really appreciate it. Video or text I’m just lonely bored and eating chicken nuggets in my bed haha. Save me from this nonsense lol m 33

I was recently diagnosed with bipolar 2, anxiety, and paranoia and show symptoms of OCD and borderline. I've always been emotionally unstable, and I don't have a good time with relationships in general.

I've attempted ending my life multiple times during some of my depressive episodes, and have done alot of missed up things during my hypomanic episodes. When I was younger near maybe 15 or younger, I once sexted an older guy and I think it made me hypersexual and made me get into very weird things sexually. Also made me a part of someone CP collection. Now a bunch of pedos are enjoying my pic. Honestly I think even if life gets better, I'll still always go back to feelin' horrible. I think I'll give it a few months, or a year then end it.

I very rarely dream when i take naps, but i did this time. Usually dreams are very random and unpredictable but this one felt so natural.

He made me happy the whole time. All we were doing was laying in bed together in complete silence, yet we were having the best time together. I could almost feel the warmth when i was holding him in my arms. I was careful and handled him so gently, almost like I knew this was a dream and it wasn’t going to last.

I’ve never regretted waking up as much as I did this time. I woke up and reached around subconsciously before fully waking up. Cried. That wasn’t a good dream, i’d call that a nightmare. Dreams shouldn’t feel this real.

And then I realized I’m a whole 20 year old guy crying over a silly dream, and went on with the rest of my day.

I've felt lonely my whole life, even at home. It's like I'm stuck in these four walls with no one by my side. I don't have siblings, and honestly, it never seems to get better. I'm 18 now, and when I was in school, every time I moved up a grade, I hoped I would finally make some real friends. But I never felt important to anyone, never felt like I was the first choice or the one people would turn to. It’s like I’m just an afterthought. I know I’m not perfect, and maybe I’m at fault sometimes too, but I always feel like I'm the one putting in all the effort while others don't care much. I’m someone who’s sentimental, protective, and really attached to my friends. I feel responsible for them, always wanting them to do well. I do everything I can as a friend, but when I need the same, it’s like I’m invisible. I’ve been through some pretty tough times, battling severe depression, and right now, I’m still struggling. I’ve tried asking for help, even begged for someone to talk to, to share what's going on, even if it’s something small. But it’s like no one is there to listen. Now, I’m in college, and it feels like I’ve spent the entire time alone. I sit at the front of the class, barely talking to anyone. I’ve tried, but the people around me just aren’t the right vibe. It feels exhausting. The people I care about are too far away, and the ones around me don’t seem to care. I just don’t understand why, when I always make others my priority, they never do the same for me. Am I not enough? What’s wrong with me? I’m funny, I make people laugh, and I know about the world enough to have meaningful conversations. I think I’m someone who can talk about anything and have fun, but it feels like people don’t want that. Why don’t I deserve to be treated the same way I treat others?

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I know that I'll be alone for the rest of my life. I have no qualities that women find attractive I don't know why I'm still alive and still trying to fix everything that's wrong with me. I know it's pointless. I don't know why I'm still going. I should have ended it years ago.

I hate this feeling so much. Like, I'm doing fine, but then I see couples around me doing stuff and I suddenly feel numb. I get jealous, obviously I get jealous. I love my friends, but it hurts so much, the fact that I'm essentially the 5th wheel of the friend group. It hurts me that I feel jealous about my friends as well. I want them to be happy, I should be happy for what they have, but at the same time I feel like an asshole as I yearn for what they have. It hurts me that I've formed this idealized vision of affection to the point that I can't properly accept platonic feelings of love and appreciation. It hurts that I know that it's just my stupid mind that's keeping me from feeling loved and appreciated. I want to feel what they feel. I want to do what they do. I want to feel like someone truly loves and appreciates and cares about me. It hurts that I can't stop myself from feeling like this, like I'm the only person I have in a room full of people I'm supposed to be close with.

It’s just still astonishing to me how utterly horrible I am for love.

Like I know I’ll never have a woman love me. But it’s so hard to accept it. I’m just fighting myself all day. I need to accept it though, cause If I don’t then I’m screwed.

Like I’m 5’3” (this by itself is beyond horrid), I’m always struggling with being fat (this also makes me unlovable on its own), I have an ugly face and body even under the fat as well, and I’m hairy as hell (didn’t use to think it was so bad until I talked to women, and then I Learned how disgusting it is).

If that wasn’t enough, I’m also a shy, nerdy, introverted, and meek guy. I’m not some over confident leader dude. Which sucks because if you’re not an attractive guy, you NEED to be super confident/dominant guy. But I just hate trying to do that whole act.

My only theory on why nature would make a creature like me, is to be some sort of disposable troop in a war. But too bad for nature I was born in a suburban hell.

Tl;DR: Incredibly awful in every way. Basically subhuman.

I try to pretend that I’m happy but I’m not. Everyday something comes up to remind me just how lonely I am and just how unhappy that makes me feel. I try and suppress it as much as I can, but I think I’ve just accepted the fact that I will be a loner forever, an outcast. I’m not tall (5’5), most people I meet only think I’m a 6/10, and most importantly, girls don’t find my personality attractive or something. I can’t even make it up by being able to talk to girls cuz i literally cannot do it. I’m 22 (M) now and will most likely go through all of college and HS without ever being in a relationship, and I’m starting to think that it’s just not meant to be for me. That really is something I’m both accepting but also know I simply cannot live single for the rest of my life, and I feel like I’m getting to the brink of my line.

Edit: I forgot to add but no girl has literally ever found me attractive as well. I should also add that I’ve gotten to the point of drinking nearly every weekend alone to ease the pain

I hope you all feel okay

Anyone know how tonfight this? Little kids. Disconnected spouse. List of friends. As adults what do we do?

I miss uh .... And missing uh makes me feel like m empty and motionless inside..it feels like my soul is begging to die ... It feels like pain is crying with me...

Its been almost like a year and I still can't move on. It feels like I randomly start reliving hearing her and feeling her and it makes me feel so lonely I just don't know what to do

I'm 27 and I can't believe I'm going through a divorce. Even though it was for the best, I still miss his company and the good memories we had. It's weird randomly waking up at 1am. to an empty bed... I'm having a hard time processing everything on my own, we were together for 10 years. Now I have news my father is terminally ill and feel more alone than ever. I don't know how I'm supposed to do this.

I have been running an art account for 2 years and trying to post stuff on it but it's just inadequate and I only have 100 followers. I try to get good enough with SOMETHING enough to be known for it or to stand out SOMEHOW someway but does it pay off ever? No. If I was good enough I would have had a job and not been rejected. If I was good enough I would be able to pull the people I like. If I was good enough people wouldn't disrespect me and look down on me. If I was good enough people would put in the effort to get to know me and it wouldn't always be me needing to start conversations. Everyone is out of my league. I have nothing to offer to anyone ever. I feel so useless. I just find the next "person" or "thing" to obsess over bjt deep down I know they're too good for me all the time and all I ever do is bother them. They are busy out there succeeding and playing with the big dogs and I'm just insignificant and ant like in comparison. I can't keep up with anyone or provide enough for anyone to be of any use or substance that would cause anyone to want me.

   Nomatter how much I like an art piece I did nobody ever cares about it outside of a few friends. It doesn't matter anyways as A.I. will be the next thing and then what? My talent doesn't get me anywhere. My talent doesn't pay well. My talent is useless. Yeah ok cool I'm good at art but art isn't a necessity. Art isn't important. Nobody cares about a picture they'll look at for a few seconds then carry on their day with. In this world I feel I have to be so much to even mean the slightest to anyone or to be desired. I'm not wanted for anything but sex from men. Is that really how inadequate I am? Is that all I'm worth? Everyone has boyfriends and good jobs but I'm not even good enough for any jobs on my campus to select me even though I've applied to a few. I try my hardest but I'm too stupid and too slow to pick up on anything fast enough to be good enough to be noticed or admired for any skillset. Picking up a new talent would take me years so I wouldn't be good at it right away and I've been trying 3D modelling. With 3D modelling I just get stuck for hours on so much stuff and I look at all my other classmates post their 3D models for their assignments and they're so much better and put together. 

 Everyone else is so professional and proper and composed and I feel like I'm just this clumsy inadequate mess.  I feel so sloppy and mediocre. I'm not enough of anything to belong anywhere and I feel like I don't have anywhere to go. I don't have a "soulmate" or a "other half" romantically that everyone else talks about having. I don't have a group I belong to. I don't serve any importance or provide anything to anyone. This is why I'm afraid of meeting new people. I don't want anyone getting their expectations up with me or counting on me because I'll only disappoint them. It's just a matter of how long I can trail off the 1 thing I did luckily 1 time before they find out it isn't the default me. Nobody in my family wished me a happy birthday, only my friends and immediate family A.K.A. my mom and dad but otherwise no one else in the family bothered or cared to even text happy birthday.

Everyone else has this "special sauce" to them. I've heard a cousin talk to my grandma about how my grandma has this "special sauce" to her and people are just drawn to her effortlessly. It made me think on the fact that that's never been me. I don't have anything magnetic about me that people just "can't put their finger around" and that's also why I'm so frusterated. Why does the universe pick favorites? Why is it that some people are "effortlessly magnetic" and I can't even get anyone to care about my existence? I leave a mark on barely anyone's life when I compare how many people everyone else has. So many others have atleast 5 friends and a significant other. 

I (20m) wanna love so deeply it hurts. I’ve never been given a chance and I’m ago never will have that chance

turned 20 a few weeks ago, and I got kind of a warning from a friend (in his late 20s) who doesn't live that close to me anymore (a couple states away), that while I am young and I still got time to figure things out, I can't just let the years pass by with complete inaction and subsequently not grow as a person.

I'm worried the years are gonna pass by in an instant and I'm gonna one day be 56 years old with no "real" job, no friends, no family, and when I look at myself in the mirror I will see my dad staring back at me.

My fiancé just ended our relationship after more than 20 years. I'm lost even though I never felt my love for her was reciprocated. I feel empty and hopeless. 57 is not the time to start over.

My birthdays coming up on the 24th and me and family and relatives all hang out and have a good time but this year I want to skip it I wanna fake being sick or something and not go at all in general. I just want to be alone and walk around town listening to music or something. Iknow it’s selfish bc some people don’t have family around the holiday and would gladly take my place.

I try and try and try to find someone a girlfriend or, at this point, just someone to talk to and appreciate.. I started to realize that I may just die alone, I don't have the motivation to try anymore...it's been years...I've lost what friends I had and lost a parent to covid. Then I met someone let's call her Kyeon, who made me feel like I was on top of the world... like I actually mattered. A feeling I have never felt before we went out and had fun times...and then...she moved ACROSS THE WORLD! literally never reaching out to me again... I feel like I was a temporary play thing for her and never mattered to her at all, which squandered what little confidence i gained while talking and being with her... I'm so afraid of trying again and I put on this smile every damn day and I go home and lay in my bed and get lost in my own thoughts wondering why I was treated this way why I was abandoned by my God. Why? What did I do to deserve any of this?

I spend so much time just thinking about what love could be like. I never do anything to make it happen. It is all my fault. Realizing that gives me nothing. I'll never have the courage

I had made a post here before and i got lovely support for a few days before it wore off, im grateful but still very lonely tbh. maybe this is an update post..!

i had broken up with my boyfriend and best friend a few days before my birthday. i was so sad as a person who hates being alone. i tried hard to go make new friends but i couldn’t really. it’s either they’re immediately wanting to make moves or they get uninterested in me fast.

i get really desperate then start turning to people who clearly have negative intentions when im lonely. i went back to being friends with people who certainly shouldn’t serve me and i definitely feel lonelier than ever even with them around.

i just moved (not far from where i originally lived just on the other side of town i guess?) and its really a struggle because everything is so brand new i can’t even eat because i dont have any of my comfort foods around me. i definitely feel like im dropping weight again and being kinda lonely doesnt help much 😅.

as someone whos not a super social person at all (like i hate phone calls and honestly hate socializing over anything but text) i don’t understand why i can’t stand to be alone. most people don’t want a best friend that isn’t in their face or on their phone screen 24/7 so i feel like ill just be alone forever.

anyways im taking friend applications i mostly use instagram and im 19 F in america <3

I know I keep posting in here about college but….. it’s nearly the end of the semester and I have met nobody that wants to hang out with me. I was very optimistic when school started that I would make friends and we’d be able to do things around campus. But I’m here and still have not. I’m trying to enjoy my time here alone but I keep getting reminded of how lonely I’m at school. I’m a little awkward sometimes and don’t come out of my shell, but that’s because I whenever I put myself out there I get hurt in some way. I have been trying to put myself out there but it hasn’t worked so far. I’m feeling optimistic for next semester but I do have concerns now that optimism is misguided. Just ranting, I know school is for learning but I have always wanted friends at school and barely had any k-12, and those “friend” groups were always were teasing or messing with me, I could tell I wasn’t respected as the other kids.

I don't want much attention but I wanted to share my life from the last few months.
Today I realized how truly lonely I am. My 19th Birthday.
I came home for Thanksgiving and my immediate and extended family is genuinely the best ever, it's the fact I have no friends. No one in college, hometown, no one. It's not common for me to wake up to any "How are you doing" chats from anyone. Just bosses asking for schedule, or my mom asking me how I am (I always lie.)
However, today was different. I have social media and expected a few happy birthdays from old friends, but nada. Everyone I have messaged months or days prior, no one ever sent me a message. even though I always made sure to send a message or more to them. (for example, I gave one of my friends a giant gift basket back in august for their birthday, no message from them)
I couldn't care less for gifts. Having no expectations is better than low expectations. However, is it too much to ask for just a message?? Waiting from 12 am to 12 am. I genuinely feel ungrateful.
Is it me?
The worst is I am 5 hours away from home, so today was truly lonely and felt like every other miserable day.
I wish there was a way in my mind to forget about my birthday and make it feel like a typical day.

It's partly my fault for not putting in enough work. They tell you to work out, join some clubs or groups for the slim chance of meeting the right person, make a ton of friends in the hopes that one of them will introduce you to a nice girl. So much work. I'm too lazy to do it...

But I also feel like modern society looks down on asking girls out, unless you're hot enough that girls will like you in the first place.

Or I could go on the dating apps. But I've heard they are horrible, so I don't want to.

Why is it this hard? I would've expected to meet a girl who I liked and who liked me in school, and then we would start dating, like some happy story. But nothing ever happens. Nothing ever comes of me talking to women, nothing ever happens even when I make friends.

I'm not looking for advice. Just complaining.

Today is my birthday and this mechanic that i thought I could trust overcharged me for something i didn’t even ask him to fix. I gave him the car last week, which then he said he’d have ready by Friday (3 days ago) for me to pick up. Instead i picked it up today on my birthday, and he charged me more. By the time i got home i figured out he scammed me 😪

I thought i was making a smart choice by investing in my car so that I could later sell it. I just didn’t know he would lie about fixing a problem just to get money out of me. I can’t even sell it in this condition. And now it’s the holidays coming up. So not only I couldn’t celebrate my birthday, but now I can’t buy gifts for christmas 😔

i just feel so alone like i don’t even have anyone to support me. i even told my mom how stressed i am and she doesn’t even know how to comfort me. i literally went all my life with a cold emotionless parent, why do i always expect things will get better 😔 i even thought about ending it all, i don’t even know why im trying to pick myself up and stay motivated. everything just ends up in shit anyways 😔

I miss having someone to text every morning/day telling her that i love her her and that she loves me. That was almost 3 years ago but it felt like yesterday. I thought dating as an adult would get easier but its only getting more difficult, im just tired of not having anyone and seasonal depression doesn't help. I get up, go to work, come home and work on projects before going to bed then repeat. I wish i had someone to go on adventures and enjoy life with.

So me and my girlfriend F20 , have just broken up a week before Thanksgiving.

We had another one of our silly quarrels that regarded me wanting to smoke a duck and her wanting to go on with basting a boring ass turkey.

So this in turn reminded me of the negligence of my mother when I was a ye small boy.

I would ask for a measly roll

And then she would burn me with the turkey baster. I remember it like it was yesterday.

My mommy would fill the syringe with the boiling turkey juice and squirt it upon my scalp. I would cry and ask for mercy yet she’d continue and tell me that’s what I get for wanting a measly roll. How I miss my Mother

Ever since then I couldn’t connect with even the most likeminded people

My repressed Feelings ate away at me and I was so grateful for my girlfriend

But not anymore on thanksgiving Where I am here on r/lonely

I hate my bitch girlfriend And how I dearly I miss my mother

I hope she gets fired from dominos I actually called them this morning and filed a complaint against her lol i told them sh e has been stealing bags of mozzarella cheese.

Don’t worry I said I was anonymous

I suck at sleeping too but it’s the only thing that makes me forgot how lonely I am. I don’t even wanna sleep half the time but in the morning waking up feels so tough bcuz I’m back to reality and there’s no one to share it with.

I’m not sure how to handle this going forward, if anyone has advice it would be appreciated. It’s sort of my first time realizing this to it’s fullest level and I’ve never viewed life through this lens so I need advice to strengthen my mental fortitude in order to more than survive. Thanks in advance :)

Please don’t mention that there are people who “care”, it’s not enough and that small bit means nothing in the long run.