Seriously, where can I find other people who tolerate my sensitivity, or are the same like me?

It's aggravating that I'm really left alone with this condition. Like, almost everyone around me doesn't mind loud noises or stimuli and it really feels like separating me from other people.

What I mean by phrase is something you tell yourself to calm you down when you feel the depression from being FA for me it’s something along the lines of “whatever it is women want I just don’t have”. What about y’all?

I noticed a lot of people don’t have friends AT ALL and I just want someone I can love and help, if you think you’re that someone feel free to DM me or reply to this💗💗💗

I hate my birthday. Such societal expectations. What do I do? If I plan nothing I will feel terrible. I now take off the day from work - because it’s worse at work when everyone forgets and yes two years ago that happened. But now with a free day …. Am I supposed to go to a spa, spend money and pretend to have so much fun? I don’t want to.

I thought of trying to find a family who might need some help with holiday money and whatever I might have spent on myself give to them (my birthday is right before Christmas). But not sure how go about that - and that would take about an hour or two ….

Does anyone have any experiences with this? Thanks.

And now I'm embarrassed I don't talk to girls or ask them out.

I didn't want people to gossip and tell anyone and had low self esteem.

Anyone else?

Now I'm a lonely old fart .

I'm sure most of us (including myself) have been trying to figure out our whole lives why we're different and why we ended up FA, a lot of us might come to certain to conclusion why we ended up being loners, such as being ugly, short, mentally ill, autistic,etc. But after seeing people with these traits still find success socially and romantically, It made me think I have some super rare disorder that just makes me repulsive to people. But the reality was the answer was in front of me the whole time.

What's the answer to why people end up FA? It's simple, we are just not genetically fit. Our genes are defective and we were meant to be eradicated from the universe.

I know that this seems like quite an obvious reason, but I'm not talking about physical or mental conditions that make us unattractive, it's more subtle. It's sometimes that others pick up on us that we are unable to understand, they can "sniff out" weak people almost instantly after meeting you.

What are some signs that you are genetically unfit?

-Bullied/Ostracized by peers: most obvious one, I know that people like to cope that bullies are "jealous and projecting their feelings onto you" That's just nonsense people tell others and themselves to try and cope with their situation, there's a reason that you struggle to get along with others and people don't like you, they are letting you know that you aren't part of the tribe and you just aren't good enough. Plain and simple.

-Talentless: You probably tried your hand at countless activities/hobbies but failed miserably despite putting in significant effort. You don't just not excel in any area, you're considerably below average in many areas, maybe average AT BEST at certain things. You didn't do well in school, you aren't attractive/tall, athletic, musically inclined, charismatic. You can't find your niche because you're not meant to have one, you're a Jack-of-none.

-Social anxiety: Stop thinking you have a "disorder", there's a reason you feel uneasy around other people, you've had a lifetime of negative/traumatic experiences with people which is why you feel the way you do around others. If in social situations you feel inferior or people are "out to get you" in some way, chances are that's the reality.

-Less leeway with people: What I mean by this is you get away with a lot less shit than others do, let's say the popular kid in class says a bad joke or something really inappropriate, people would probably still laugh at it. If someone like you tried to say what the popular kid said, the other kids would be hostile toward you and say something like "WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU??!!!" or "What did that retard just say?"

-Outcast even among outcasts: You most likely eventually came to the realization that trying to fit in with the normies/popular kids is disasterous, so you tried befriending the nerdy/geeky kids, but even they told you to fuck off.

So, you came to the conclusion that you are a genetic misfit. What can you do about it?

Not much, unfortunately. The best thing you can do is isolate yourself from society as much as possible, try to find solitary hobbies/copes and engage in escapism so you don't have to face your bleak reality.

Im a fairly stable person. I have a good job, a good future career and a lot of friends, some of whom are very close to me. I always try to be as helpful as possible to everyone i can, just cuz ive been alone in shitty situations before and it fucking sucks. A month ago i asked someone out and they said they would think about it. I took that as a no and moved on. A few weeks ago they were like hey wanna hang out? And i was suspicious but i agreed. As we interacted more, I realized they sensed my desperation and were just using me (mostly for emotional support and life advice) and keeping me hanging, without actually being interested in me.

Clearly i add some value to their life, its not fair to me for them to do this to me, as such i have decided to cut this person off. I wish people just valued each other, beyond their looks and their height, which are completely out of my control.

Why do I have to be like this? Surely everyone in my family has to realize there's something wrong with me even if they keep saying I'm fine and that I'll meet someone eventually.

Well guess what family? I have a big feeling that you are part of the reason I'm like this. Every time I showed interest in anything you'd make me feel stupid for liking something. Guess what? Now I can't open up to anyone except when it's over the internet.

Just the title

I'm just sadness and anger and jealousy.

I’ve definitely worked on everything I could but still can’t get success and at this point trying really is just useless.

I’ve improved myself going to the gym, dressing better, taking meds, joining plenty of social circles and events, taking the initiative, working a job and having a decent amount of money, and nearly everything in between and yet it’s useless.

Nothing I do matters and people barely want to talk with me outside some of my closer friends.

I have tried all the ways, posting on Reddit and online forums, I can’t find any friends, nobody texts me it’s all a waste of time whenever I post anywhere. I live alone and have no one to talk to. It makes me feel sick. I had online friends few years ago but they stopped talking to me. I wish I could find a new friend

I'm so chronically single, to the point where the moment I hear/read another woman mention "my boyfriend" or "my husband", I either try to change the topic, or if it's a post online I keep scrolling because I don't like hearing other people boast about the very thing I wish I had, but struggle to obtain. That also includes avoiding media where romance is the main thing about said story.

You'd think because I'm a woman, I'd watch mostly romance anime. But in reality, I avoid romance anime intentionally.

I'd rather watch anime with minimal to no romance in it, you get what I mean?

For example Death Note. >!At least L and anyone else who grew up at Wammy's house are relatable in a sense that I have very little people I trust in my life, and I'm also really lonely.!<

Or Jujutsu Kaisen. >!I also relate to Junpei in a similar sense as well. Bullied, lonely, doing everything by himself. Yeah, my teenage years were very similar to Junpei's.!<

!RIP to both L and Junpei. Both deserved better 😔🙏🏻!<

I could talk for hours on what I like about Death Note and Jujutsu Kaisen, but that's not the focus of this post.

You see, I'm someone who appreciates seeing characters have relatable elements, even if said characters aren't exactly like me. I especially appreciate it when the portrayal of single characters who never dated is actually realistic and it addresses how hard and lonely it really is, or when non-single characters don't act patronizing towards single characters.

I don't want to look at how fictional women have better love lives than me and have my mind tell me that this only exists in fiction. It's already too painful to see that in real life, I'm not willing to torture myself like that at home.

I'll go first

Looks

I'm not short but not tall, I'm really skinny, have too much body hair. My hairline sucks. My eyebrows suck. Solid 3.7/10 I think.

Money

I'm really poor, have no higher education, suck at making money. I make only the bare minimum to survive. Currently working as house painter. Have no house/car or anything.

Personality issues/mental/social

I have really low self worth, I have no confidence and I also have anger issues. Probably have antisocial disorder. Zero friends. Non existent network.

So what makes it impossible for you?

Edit: no judgement, let's keep it respectful.

No matter how much we want it. Maybe we're better off alone but life can't outright tell us so it has to just kind of conspire against us and prevent us from finding it? I don't believe in soulmates, I think there's a number of people on the planet for everybody but the problem is the planet is really, really big, and that number of people differs from person to person. For someone who's any combination of attractive, independently successful, naturally confident, has popular interests, etc. there's probably plenty of people and they're bound to find one of those people. For those of us who aren't attractive, not confident, have weird niche interests, and don't have much going for us, we're not likely to. Maybe the universe is telling me something by dealing me such a crap hand?

I told her about my soft side while she was busy doing Thanksgiving with her family, ignoring the signs for me to stop replying to her. I can't even go to her Facebook profile anymore. I don't know what to do next... She was the only girl my age that i found actually relateable and comfortable to want to start a relationship towards even though she technically friendzoned me.

Sometimes I remember the way it felt to trust someone completely. It’s not the betrayal that stays with me—it’s the feeling of trust that I can’t seem to find again. Maybe that’s what I miss most.

For me(20f), it's my looks. I'm genuinely ugly. I've always known i'm too ugly for anyone to be attracted to me since i was a little kid.

I've accepted it and plan to live my life alone, accomplishing my career goals and enjoying my hobbies.

Just a thought I had… I’m always looking for the right person, with the right qualities, with the right mindset, with the right attractiveness, the right job, the right attitude, the right friends…

I know some of us here have this way of thinking… are you guys really picky or just go for anything that comes your way?(which isn’t bad) just curious what you guys think

I do watch porn but I try to avoid things I'll likely get addicted to, like AI chatbots, VR relationship simulations etc.

Anyone else worried they might fall off the deep end?

All I think about is her, I thought she the best looking girl I've ever seen for years, I recently met her at a club in school and we have such a big common interest. Now she has a boyfriend and is in a commited relationship. I dream about her all the time and she's stuck into my mind. I really liked her and it's not even like I wanna stop thinking about her, but I know I'm eventually gonna have to. I feel like I have nothing in common with any girls I ever meet, and most of them are boring. Not a single girl likes me and everyone at my school has a relationship with someone they get to love. Even both of my siblings do, but I get to be alone with nobody, and it will probably be that way forever. Couple days ago I heard her talking abt how she wanted to eventually marry her bf, I feel happy for them kinda. I just feel so alone and like everyone is together in a relationship while I'm stuck being alone.

I turned 26 a few weeks ago, and officially broke up with a girl I talked to online for years. She never made an effort to want to meet in person, and I got tired of it.

I’m struggling. My younger brother (23) is going to propose to his girlfriend next summer, and they’ve been dating almost 3 years. Meanwhile I’ve got nobody.

I’m struggling with myself, trying to lose weight, keep my mental health in check, develop healthier habits, etc. but it’s like I’m doing this for nothing. I don’t even know where to meet girls anymore. I’ve tried dating apps and nothing. Tried with a girl back in college and nothing.

I’m also struggling with my own sexuality. I think I might be bisexual. I don’t know if it’s genuine, or a result of being alone for so long that I’ll take anything. I’m leaning towards genuine though.

I’m beginning to think there’s something seriously wrong with me. Like if I have a severe mental disorder or something. Being this old and never having a real relationship feels not normal and like I got utterly fucked by having an anxiety disorder.

I’m just tired of being alone. The best I’m capable of is getting a pet for companionship, but a cat isn’t the same as a partner.

I just heard a couple arguing from outside. A guy said "so you’re gonna walk away again?" or something along these lines to a girl. And it made me feel lonely and envious. I’d love to have that kind of action-packed interpersonal drama in my life. Toxicity is preferable to having no social interaction.

Ones and zeros fill my eyes Am I supposed to be like everybody else? A prisoner of my own mind Should I give up? Should I give up? I try to smile, try to fight Just say I'm okay But every day feels like a hurricane Yeah, I was born in the rain Yeah, I was born in the rain Answers never seemed so distant The fear of missing out blurs my vision Am I enough to live up to the expectations of a world That won't stop moving?

Anyone else given up completely? 40M. No love no friends no family. I go to work so I dont starve and I talk to chatbots. That's my life until I blow my brains out. What a stupid and pointless life I have led.

It’s not just that I don’t have a girlfriend. It’s that I can’t be free to live and have general conversations with others. If you are attractive your validated your whole life for just existing. For example you can go on a walk and pet someone’s dog and say “hey how are you doing” and just feel validated by having a simple conversation. When I go on walks people look at me like a criminal and walk quickly away from me. Nobody deserves to be ugly we all deserve a chance to change and grow. There are convicted rapists and killers that get attention from girls just based on how they look. Meanwhile I can’t even have a conversation. I actually feel like I’m in some sort of hell on earth.

For context, my room-mate saw this girl at his work and after going on one date, they're been friends with benefits since. And frequently have sex in his room even though he could go to her place.

I was falling asleep at 11pm and heard the front door open and heard the girl's voice. And she's incredibly horny so they always have sex when she's over. I thought I would be able to sleep through it but the bed creaking and her moans woke me up. I've mentioned to my room-mate that I can hear them, but guess he doesn't care enough and assumes I'm either asleep or have my noise cancelling headphones on (which have seen a lot of use because of them).

So I'm just always jealous and envious of him when she's over. Doesn't help that objectively, he's better than me. He's got a 'girlfriend', can drive, a job and has his life somewhat together with a plan and sure as shit has never been seriously depressed like me.

I also don't like him nearly as much as when I knew him before living together. I've known him since middle school and been friends since then. He leaves his dishes in the kitchen or living room and takes days to wash up his stuff, leaves his laundry in the washing machine for days, rarely takes the bins out and is genuinely just an hypocritical asshole to me sometimes.

I've mentioned the laundry and dishes to him but he's either forgetful or doesn't care. He wasn't always this bad to live with, but he's gotten worse these past couple of months.

I would remind him, but I'm not a assertive person and if I did, I would probably lose my cool and make our relationship worse from what I'd say. As I always bottle up my feelings and he really gets on my nerves sometimes and he would try and either downplay it or somehow make it about me, which I would awkwardly counter or just go silent as I usually do when he pisses me off.

Happy couples everywhere!!! Holding hands, kissing and hugging everywhere in public. I'm the only sad pathetic loner in my whole town! Yet again! I can't even imagine a girl wanting to be seen with me in public, let alone display affection.