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A community for sad people

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I'm ugly

This is for the ugly people like me:

I feel ugly all the time People tell me it's not true But I have eyes I have a mirror I'm as ugly as anyone can get

Every time I like a boy There's no way they'll like me back I'm just ugly, it's that simple Can't even look at myself

Telling me "just love yourself" Won't help even a little Cause it's coming from someone Who's as pretty as a star

I wrote this bc being a teenage girl is hard enough... Especially when you are ugly and I hate every single person who say that looks do not matter cuz the people who say that are probably pretty and don't have to deal with the burden of being ugly.

Btw English is not my first language so I'm sorry if I made any mistakes and I'm not too good at poetry either so don't be too brutal ❤️‍🩹❤️‍?

19 Comments
2024/04/28
18:45 UTC

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I’m still not over her.

Hello um yeah Ive been really depressed lately after being dumped a couple of months ago I never really healed from the pain. I’ve been feeling a little better day by day but recently my ex reached out to me after months of no contact I was under the impression that I would not hear from her again she moved to Arizona and left me in Michigan so i treated the break up like she passed away I know that probably wasn’t the healthiest way to go about it but please know I loved everything about her I really thought she was the one and I was relieved to hear from her. Turns out she was feeling lonely and wanted a friend we talked for about two days that’s all i could take. I guess I was hoping that she missed me and wanted to get back together but she let me know that it wasn’t the case I can’t say I wasn’t surprised but deep down I wanted her love back and it wasn’t gonna happen. For the last couple months I’ve been losing weight losing interest in what I loved I’ve become a husk of my self I’ve been having suicidal thoughts way more after talking to her again and of course I’m in a very bad state is there any advice from anyone who might have gone through something similar give me hope please

3 Comments
2024/04/27
20:27 UTC

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I am afraid of reaching my breaking point.

I never talked about emotions or anything like that since i was a kid.

  • but i am starting to break, i am afraid of breaking because it means either two options one of them is insanity or whatever happens to ppl who have a mental break down.

  • i am just curious how long can someone survive while being sad, like physically, i go to the gym, i work, i hangout with friends... etc, but i am weaker than before, physically i am tired and have no stamina like i used to, and mentally i am strong but i can't wear my mask anymore i can't...feel anymore.

16 Comments
2024/04/26
15:23 UTC

9

I will leave the world tonight

Everyone hates me. I should've done this earlier. If anyone sees this post, please take care of those around you. Please don't hate others, they deserve to live.

24 Comments
2024/04/26
15:48 UTC

8

I feel so bad

So im a 13 years old boy that lives in italy (Can't speaker english that well) I enjoy playing roblox with my friends, and one day i decide to buy 800 robux to spend on a game. But... when i tried to reedem the card, i saw that i was on my friend account (he used my PC for playing the day before) and so my friend has 800 robux on his account. I calle him ad said: Yo, can you buy me 800 robux? I spent a card on your account, so... can you buy me 800 robux so we are good? And.. he said: No go f*** ur self. Im so sad right now. I'd like to kill my self, i feel so dumb and stupid...

12 Comments
2024/04/26
11:29 UTC

11

I hope life gets better than this.

That’s it.

8 Comments
2024/04/25
03:28 UTC

7

Why are people so fake

When you think you're friends with someone and then it just all blows up in your face.

7 Comments
2024/04/25
02:36 UTC

1

I don't know if I should be sad

I have lots of things going for me that people think I should be happy about - I have a good job, I run my own business, I won multiple awards in my field, and I'm even in a band with my best mates (which I dreamt of doing for years).

But ever since a rough breakup last year - that stuff is just not making me feel happy, motivated or fulfilled like I thought it would.

Being loved and in love for the first time felt so amazing that I thought of the other parts of my life as just little 'bonuses' that weren't the real main reason I wanted to wake up every day - I felt bulletproof knowing that even if I didn't have anything else in life I'd still come home to someone who truly loved and appreciated me.

That relationship was my main source of motivation, I wanted a good job, awards and a business to get a nice house to start a great family with a lovely woman - but since that's no longer on the table I don't know what my goal or purpose is anymore, and that makes me feel really sad.

And I can't tell if that's normal, or if there's something wrong with me.

1 Comment
2024/04/24
22:58 UTC

3

Feeling numb

It’s been 5 days already that he broke up with me for the second time. Today, was our monthly anniversary. We were Long Distance but, it was hard for him but, I tried so much. He said, “ you didn’t do anything wrong it’s not you, I’m doing this for we won’t get hurt in the future” He reminded me so much that I was worth so much loving,caring respectful, loyal, kindhearted and hardworking. Just 24 days until, I was going to see him but, now I’m not sure if I should just go to Mexico and enjoy my family and friends who are waiting for me. We started as friends we fell out, we ran into each again 3 months later, and the rest was history and we started dating. I have so many questions. The first time he broke up was the same reason because of the distance. He had experience in LDR before but, He said he tried but, If you really love the person you would fight and do everything to never give up. Relationships aren’t perfect we all have our good & bad moments and as a couple you can overcome them and grow from them. As a 20 year old, this was my first relationship.

7 Comments
2024/04/24
18:31 UTC

1

Should I tell my so that I am suicidal?

I have always been depressed but recently, due to family issues I am always thinking of suicide. I would like to be able to talk with her about this but feel like it would just make her too sad.

2 Comments
2024/04/24
15:24 UTC

18

idk whats happening

Lately i have been feeling so numb. I feel i dont deserve to be happy at all. When i go out and had fun for a day i then suddenly feel so sad to the point that i dont know what to do anymore. Its been almost 4 yrs that we broke up, part of me wanted to go back and part of me wanted to move on. Life was more colorful back then, but now all i see is gray. I always think about ending it all.

11 Comments
2024/04/23
13:57 UTC

8

Feeling like I'm gonna snap.

I'm not sure how to write all of this. I've got a lot of emotions I need to get out. I apologize if my post tends to be a bit all over the place. Do people that are in your life that tend to show off constantly rub you the wrong way? Or is it just me? I have a family member who seems to be very attention seeking lately. And it's annoying. And because of what she has been showing off about (how much money her and her husband have-its obvious with the things they've been up too lately and will be in the future) and continues to, it really makes me question now as an adult how much involvement I want to have with them in my life. Is this normal? That kimd of "look at me, pay attention to me" behavior? Cause I' ready to cry. I grew up very close to this family member of mine. And it's crazy the amount she has changed. And I get it, people change. I know I'm not fully the same myself either. That's not my point here. But when you (reffering to myself) and your husband both work your asses off at your full time jobs, get paid very little to do what you do, and struggle just to get by, then it tends to hit you (me) a little harder. Especially simce everything about her life lately is one big announcement after another and production. My family member and her husband have been very much in the foreground lately and the rest of my family seems to be under some spell and inadvertently defending her. My husband and I have been struggling with a lot of different things lately. And no one (not even my own mother that I've always been close with) will stand up for me. I feel like my husband and I get forgotten a lot about. Like things we have been through and continue to go through get no support. It's driving me mad. Yet my cousin who has lots of money and seems to have everything she has ever wanted fall right into her lap without having ever to work hard for it, does. It's driving me to madness. And I feel like I'm gonna snap. I do not have envy (even though it may sound like it). I would never want her life because I would never want to "sell my soul" just to be able to be the center of attention. Id rather struggle with my husband for the rest of my life and know that we will always love one another and be there for one another unlike my cousin. (The love with her husband all seems too fabricated in my opinion). I don't know what to do. Please help.

4 Comments
2024/04/24
10:19 UTC

12

group of people

I won't make thing too long.

I am in a group of friends. It was so much fun to hang out with this group, but recently, I feel really left out. I am unsure if this is because maybe they do not want to hang out with me or what. Nevertheless, this has led me to distance myself away from them. But here is the thing. I am a total loner outside of this friend group. I have no other "good, close friends" to hang out with other than them. I did not message them for about a week or so, and they still haven't noticed me gone or not chatting personally or in the gc.

These people are really kind btw and I do not blame them for not messaging me or whatever but, what exactly does this mean? Should I just leave the friend group? Do they still want to hang out with me?

6 Comments
2024/04/24
13:03 UTC

4

hey i just need to talk...

m17 my life was never really great, father cheated on my mother and then when i was 9 he got schizophrenia and he had to leave so i rarely see him, i was s74bbed in the neck and lung at 15 and had to crawl to a hospital although i am perfectly fine and healthy now every time i try to sleep im woken up by the same nightmare of me reliving that moment, so i now suffer from slight paranoia, anxiety, insomnia, adhd, i don't really have friends so everything just gets bottled up, ive never had a girlfriend, i always get told im good looking and i used to model until i quit at 16 for mental health reasons, idk it just feels like im always weighed down by problems, and i want a friend to talk to, a lot of people say im intimidating to approach and i think thats why ive never had a girlfriend, idk why i wrote this but i just kinda need someone to talk to, i will cope somehow i always do...

2 Comments
2024/04/24
07:34 UTC

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37 m texas

Wassup ya'll. How is everyone doing? Just want yall to know if anyone is up to talk or open up about something going on in your life, I will hear you out. Let's talk. I'm only here to help lift your spirits and give emotional support. I understand how difficult it can be to feel like no one cares and everyone judges you. Not me, I don't have to know your life story, and not here to judge or be nosy, let's just work on what's bothering you. We're here to talk about YOU. Let's find a solution to get through this rough patch. My goal is to make sure I spread some positivity and make YOU feel better. This isn't about me. This about how we can make YOU smile and boost your confidence. No pressure. I'm not asking for anything in return. When anyone is prepared to vent, I will be there for you. I apologize in advance if I do not respond immediately, but just know that I will NOT IGNORE YOU. Just here to help if I can. Loneliness can really bring a person down. You are not alone and no one deserves to be. A smile and confidence is the point of this post. So, smile because I care for you, even if I don't know you. Talk soon, huh..

1 Comment
2024/04/24
05:52 UTC

1

Puppy crossed the rainbow bridge

My downstairs neighbors 1 yr old German Shepard passed away unexpectedly yesterday, while in the backyard going out to pee.

I am so devastated. Even though he wasn’t my dog, I loved him so much. He’d greet me every morning at the fence to get his morning hello and pets. I am heartbroken. Hug your babies tight ❤️ rest easy sweet, sweet boy ❤️

1 Comment
2024/04/24
04:28 UTC

5

My girlfriend and i broke up

So we were planning to get married but my parents didn't agree. Before you all start saying that you should have married even though parents didn't agree it's not possible in my country. Here the parents decision is absolute. Now my girlfriend also blame me in grief and frustration as she said if I knew it was gonna end up like that why you started the relationship with me. And now I am here thinking maybe if I never started anything in life will everyone be happy? My parents who see their son as disappointment and my beloved girlfriend who is crying and is sad and also disappointed in me. If only i never existed in the first place. Now I think I should end my life and maybe everything will be alright and everyone around me will be happy and forget about me.

2 Comments
2024/04/23
18:16 UTC

2

I feel sad every night

So every night since i broke up with my girlfriend i feel sad lonely and depressed. She cheated on me and she covered the whole thing with him for months. She said she wanted to be with me she really loved me i saw i felt it but she did what she did without a explanation whatsoever. Ive been trying to forgive her but i couldnt and now she is with another guy i havent moved on from that point. It happened like a year ago and i feel bad even though i didnt give her a reason to cheat. I feel depressed i feel lonely because we went to bed every night before and now that same feeling is gone and i dont know what to do. When im with friends i feel better but at night i get to be alone and feel much worse. I need someone to talk to or i dont even know what i need i just feel this type of way. Its been so long and i cant shake that feeling.

2 Comments
2024/04/23
17:49 UTC

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I excersise just to keep the dark thoughts at bay

Today the thoughts started running wild in my head again. I could barely think about anything else. Everyday i drive on the highway and hope for that sweet release yet it seems to pass me by. I excersise to keep the dark thoughts at by because im living in a lonley world where i feel disconnected from those around me. No effort in the last 19 years on earth has brought me any sign of better days im just Drifting because the things that once made me smile and laugh only bring back memories of a time where i use to at least feel something. If you have people who truly care about you hold them tight and try to never let go. I wish i had friends or people who cared. I ask god to help me with this lonleyness yet i feel like my prayers go unheard so much pain in such a small amount of time will make any man give up.

3 Comments
2024/04/23
15:21 UTC

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It hurts looking at photos of a best friend that has ghosted me….😰

I came an across a post I made back in April 2020, was a post basically saying I regretted so much shit….when I read it, it was like I was starting to feel how deeply sad I was that time…I don’t think she knows , but I was pretty fucked up for close to a year and change.

And it made me wanna check her profile…..and just looking at her photos brought some feelings out 😥 I miss how close we were as friends. I wanna to be able to just be friends /again, but since I’ve been away from the home town a few years, the plans to hang with her kinda faded into nothing

5 Comments
2024/04/23
10:45 UTC

1

Fights after death

I’m 28 (F), my great aunt who was 70 passed away a week ago due to congestive heart failure. Im just sad cause my whole life she been there other than the last past 6 years. She wanted to retire in Tennessee with the family she grew up with but unfortunately she started having strokes RIGHT before retirement. She was still okay (in her right mind) and she went to Tennessee but the cousin she was staying with was taking advantage of her. She couldn’t walk well and physically she looked different after the second stroke. While I was away at college she wanted to send me money for my birth certificate (she was my guardian for a while) but she sent it in the form of a birthday card (it wasn’t my birthday) and the envelope was ripped open and taped back together with not enough money (it was 60 bucks and only 10 bucks was in there). So I called her and asked what happened and she said the cousin took most of the money out and said “money has to be used for the house”. she sounded like she wanted to cry. Then she told me “I didn’t know she was like that”. Then she would threaten to put her in a nursing home if she didnt listen. After while she started back going to the hospital again so when she was alone I finally asked again if everything was okay at the house. She said yeah, what would be happening? Keep in mind this was years later and she already had a few more additional strokes. I felt iffy but since she said it was okay, I was cool. Then she was talking about me and her living together at times and telling me she wanted to do that but I didn’t know how to take care of her with her condition.. now it’s a year later from that and she’s dead. The cousin didn’t send me any ashes even though before she died she said she would. But instead she got 2 big Urns and she said she keeping one and she sending the other big one to a cousin she only ever spoke on the phone with and visited every 5 years or so and ASKED ME if I wanted a damn necklace. My aunt also made it clear she didn’t want no one power of attorney over her but recently this cousin said she was power of attorney over her. I can’t help but think she probably forged her signature. She mentioned she didn’t want to give anyone the death certificate cause people could get money left in their name and she didn’t want that cause she got into it with my uncle who was also living with me and her for some time. Either way it goes, I’m just hurt and I have no memories other than the ones in my brain. I didn’t want any money, I just wanted some ashes and her photo albums she had.

1 Comment
2024/04/23
08:56 UTC

37

owch .. my ex responded to my 10 min voice message explaining how i feel after the breakup

59 Comments
2024/04/23
08:45 UTC

9

i feel empty

i feel so empty, i feel stuck, i want to move away from home start a new life forgeting where i was coming from, but the jobs are paying nowhere near in my area to be able to afford to live on my own, i have no friends and no support from anyone, nobody is happy for my wins in life, I wish i wasnt so alone or wasnt born, i wish someone would hold me firmly. i been feeling like this for years. its just not going away. if i would be told im gonna be dead next week, i dont think i would feel anything, maybe releaved. i kept telling myself it will get better, but it really didnt. i am not sure why i cling to life still.

6 Comments
2024/04/22
14:31 UTC

1

Missing my ex. Life is always rough.

Honestly just feeling some strong emotions tonight and wanted to get them out. Thanks to anyone who reads.

I realized I was madly in love with my last gf about two weeks after we got together. I remember telling my mom she was the one and if it didn't work out I'm not sure there would be another. Covid was pretty rough and we didn't make it through. She broke up with me just over 3 1/2 years ago now and I still think about her nearly every day. It doesn't really get easier. I miss her and still love her. I feel pretty damn alone without her in my life. I've been trying hard to work on myself lately and she's a large part of my motivation. I know it's not like we'll ever get back together but I think the fantasy of it helps me keep going some days. I definitely wonder if it does more harm than good, but thinking of her is like an addiction (or at least I imagine it is as I've only ever been addicted to food). Even if someone told me it was harmful I'd immediately go for another fix because even if thinking about her hurts like he'll, at least I get to see her in my head and hear her voice. Losing that seems worse somehow.

Man life can be painful. I feel like this a ton. I honestly don't know if I've truly been happy since we were together. I've had good times and certainly felt happy moments, but I remember this sustained feeling of contentment and looking forward to tomorrow when we were together that I just don't feel anymore. I havent felt for a long time. I don't know if that's something which can be "fixed". Either way, this is my life now. It's been my life for years and I'm sure it will continue to be my life for some time yet.

If any of you out there are feeling that similar lost/alone/meh feeling about life I empathize. I know it's rough. Nothing to do but push through another day I guess.

1 Comment
2024/04/23
03:46 UTC

11

I just took a break with my boyfriend someone please talk to me

My boyfriend (21) and I (21) have been dating for three years and I found out 4 months ago that he has cheated on me in our second year of dating. I was really upset but stayed with him on the condition he told me everything and everyone he had cheated with me on, well turns out he lied and had left out a mutual friend he used to go to college with before he dropped out. I was so upset and wanted to break up with him but he convinced me to just do a break and take some time to think. I feel so lonely, I have no one to talk to about this and whenever I’m sad I always just go to him, but now I can’t. I hate this situation and I love him so much but he is just not trustworthy. Please someone just talk to me, it doesn’t even have to be about this situation I just feel so alone.

14 Comments
2024/04/23
00:48 UTC

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I’m sad and I feel lonely

It’s like I’m on the verge of crying. But I can’t. I’m so lonely, it feels like the world has turned against me. I don’t hate it but I don’t think this is where I wanted my life to be.

I’m sad. And I don’t think I’m in a good place mentally. Don’t know if it’s the recent death I heard about or the feeling of being a loser- or even the feeling of not having someone who I can talk to openly.

Maybe it’s all of them together. I have this feeling of wanting to tell so many things together and I can’t be sure what to say first. I am lost, and I don’t know what to say or do- life goes on autopilot and I feel I would be a bad partner in life. I feel like I would latch on to the next person I see and make their life hell by being in it. I feel like I’m not worthy of meeting anyone and I feel like I’m being an idiot who lets others happiness go in front of his.

I don’t want to be this guy, the pushover and the guy who is always looking out for others. I don’t want to be the guy and I can’t be that guy anymore. But I lack courage to do anything about this. To cut the people I don’t want in my life and move on- because I’m afraid of being lonelier than I am now.

12 Comments
2024/04/23
00:11 UTC

3

Some advice would help

I’ve never really known how to talk about my feelings. Well at least in a productive manner I felt. I’ve never felt this alone and isolated. The family that raised me is all dead and the other side just wants nothing to deal with me. I just got out of a relationship I believe never should’ve ended. I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m trying to be hopeful because I’m starting a new job and that’s nice and everything. I just don’t know how to escape this feeling of loneliness and isolation.

3 Comments
2024/04/22
22:27 UTC

1

Wednesday is my dogs last day

I just need somewhere to vent and be sad other than Home, Daisy, my 14 and a half year old shih tzu who I love with my whole heart is going to be gone. And that’s ok. It just hurts.

1 Comment
2024/04/22
22:19 UTC

3

I miss my stepdad

He was the only one there for me growing up, and he died of cancer on Halloween last year. I'll be 18 in Thursday, first birthday without him. He won't see me graduate. He won't see me live my life. And I'll never talk to him again, at least not alive. But hey, maybe I'll meet him again someday when it's my time to go, just not anytime soon. I love you Oki.

7 Comments
2024/04/22
22:05 UTC

1

I can’t even vent to my mom before she makes it about herself

I’m going through such a hard breakup right now and it sucks to the MAX!!! so i just told my mom about it, after being broken up for a few days. I was telling her/venting about it and omg i can’t. i love her but omg. she made it about herself…bringing up her and my dad’s separation. I can’t stand hearing it, she can’t let it go, and i really don’t want to hear about it right now. This breakup is about ME, your daughter NOT about your past relationship. AITA? 😭 and yes i told her i didn’t want to hear it but she just kept going and obviously i can’t hang up on her, out of respect. i am not doing well lol

1 Comment
2024/04/22
21:10 UTC

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