As each day passes I desire to heal and focus on myself more. And I feel like blocking him will help. We don't talk. But at this point I'm pretty pissed with the way he left to realize now, I don't want to try again.

He sent me a text projecting a lot of truama onto me then ended it with "accept it and move on" then unadded me on everything so I can't message him (all his socials are private).

But I feel like part of the reason I can't move on is because I don't have him blocked. Keeping that possible connection open is only holding me back. We don't talk, but I don't think waiting around for a message that's likely never coming is healthy.

I need help it’s been over A year now and I can’t seem to ease the heart break I feel from my last relationship. We were state to state making money eating out having fun and great sex … eventually I found him texting girls constantly following them liking their posts and all . All of the great out of state sex I fell pregnant and decided I can’t keep it because of my living situation… this caused us to split up leaving me to go through the termination alone . A few months later he moved on to the next girl , tattooed her name on him bought her jewelry and and car .. all of which he didn’t do for me . Idk if I can’t move on because my ego is hurt or because I feel like I deserve more but I’ve been going stalker crazy and watching his story and hers off fake pages and my heart breaks every time . Let me show yall how much money this man has smh

I need to hear advice please. We broke up a year ago and ever since then I try to leave or say my final goodbye because he keeps saying he wants to work on things then turns ice cold. He will just start stating that he has a lot on his mind and he needs to figure shit out. It’s been a year of this and I’m growing tired. If he still can’t figure out his shit why is he just stringing me along? Why is it always this cycle? Do I just say my final goodbye and block? Thanks for any input

I know I have family but I crave for a relatonship like a guy taking me out to a restaurant treating me like his girlfriend and when I noticed how ugly I looked no wonder no one wants to date me ,I also have heard people say I have a big nose and it breaks my heart but if I had surgery they would say im a fake bitch who teaches young girls to not love themselves but if another Gil does surgery she can be accepted and appreciated but it's me so they avoid me and put the blame on me, I never fit in with female friends,grew up with 3 brothers really damaged me grew up with gta instead of barbie movies never really had a boy ask me out in 8th grade all the girls had theyre bfs Giving them teddy bears while I got nothing I was 14 they were like 12 so now I guess im alone and I am heartbroken 💔 he left me even before I had the time to talk to him.

I met this guy during a summer camp. I’m 18F & he’s 19M. We bonded over our individual love for cars and cars movies (ex: Fast&Furious). We decided to get to know each other first as we both got out of relationships recently. 2 weeks later, nothing. Not even a call. A text. Nothing. To this day I don’t know why he did that (And I’m sure I did nothing wrong). I pretend that I don’t care but I do care. It hurts. And the worst is that he found another girl. So I don’t get the point of him telling me he likes me to this afterwards for no reason. Is it normal?

I met this girl a few months ago. Before I met her, she was kind of involved with a guy for over a year. He has kids. It was kind of an on and off relationship, and at one point they did date. When I met her she said she hadn't talked to him in three weeks. She expressed how he wasn't really Consistent with her because he was involed with the baby mama etc. she claimed it was over.

Fast forward a month or two. I myself suffer from mental illness. She does as well. We were able to get along and build a connection. Arguments here and there but nothing that couldn't get moved past. A month and a half in, she ended up telling my friend that if she left she was scared I would do something because of my depression. She told my friend to never tell me and he never told me until the break up. This goes to show I feel she wanted out a month and a half in. However we continued to stay together. There were things in the relationship I am Not proud of. Financially I wasn't the best. I was a little controlling here and there. I started to turn it around by the time she left. She broke up with me a week and a half Ago. I found out she was talking to that Guy for three weeks. Those three weeks She continued to have sex with me, hangout, have fun, etc. that hurt. Now, i have a lot of theory's. I think she stayed because she did enjoy time with me. I don't think it gives her the right to cheat if your unhappy. Sometimes I do wonder if I would ever hear from her.

Since the last week she has reached out to my friend. The same one she told that thing to. She basically explained her side of the story, said not to tell me again and said she didn't want him to be mad at her (my friend), (we all hung out as a group). She does have BPD and one of the symptoms is poor sense of self. I assume that's why she reached out to my friend. Even though Reddit will think I'm dumb part of me still wants her back and wonders if I'll ever hear from her. Probably not. I just feel like it won't work out with that guy. Even so I worry she'll find someone new. The fact she reached out to my friend to basically say her peace to him (in her text she basically just reaffirmed what I did wrong and didn't even take accountability for what she did. )shows me where her mind is at. She isn't coming back probably. I'm just hurt. In general I'm crushed. I feel I pushed her to cheat. I guess I have to say this: If you had history with someone relationship wise, maybe a year or so, and you found someone new, but it kind of got rocky here and there, and if you had the choice to talk to your them, would you? Things weren't the best between us, but they were great for the most part.

My gf in the past 2 years has become addicted to valorant(video game) she plays all the time.

In the past 4 months she became close with this guy online and they started play constantly everyday. Multiple hours a day, started to Send each other videos and texts on discord everyday, messaging throughout the day. She says they are just friends and nothing else. (I let it go because I didn’t wanna be the controlling jealous partner)

Two fridays ago they played for legit 8 hours straight and were flirting and being super suspect on the game chat with each other. I confronted her the next day and said “here is my phone go through the whole thing I have nothing to hide…. Buttttt just lemme see your discord chat with this dude”. She refused to show me and started backpedaling and got so shook and never showed me. Calling me jealous and insecure. I said “ prove me wrong and just show me. if you have nothing to hide what’s the big deal”. She Never showed me.

I agree that I am being jealous and insecure and I hate how I did that but at the same time… why couldn’t she show me?? I would never hide anything from her ( 7 year relationship)

I think she was emotionally cheating on me and perhaps worse ( btw she was drinking that night while playing)

Do I suck ? Or does she ?

everyone's like "oh you'll move on just forget about them" no, i've fucking MOVED ON from relationships before. but i've never truly been in love until i met him. it was slow, it kept growing and even now my love for him only grows even in his absence. it's been so long since we last spoke and i couldn't help but stalk him and i see him interacting with all these girls online... it hurts me but i don't care how pathetic i am at this point. i'll wait for him forever, i'll die alone if he never returns. even if someone else makes him happy i know i could've made him happier than anyone. i would've done anything for him. if me being out of his life is what he wants that's fine, but i know that one day, if he changes, he'll realize his wrongs... and i'd still take him back. i don't know why i feel so strongly for him, but i genuinely can't help it. i know i'm pathetic. i'm like a dog just waiting here. i can't eat properly, sleep properly, i've lost all desire to live and my only way to cope is either to write stuff about him in my diary, to listen to music or to sleep but in all honesty i'd rather die.

i miss him, i miss what could've been and i would've tried infinite times to make it work, i would've started over with him as many times as we need even if it takes us forever to get it right, i just wanted him an him alone. his presence itself made everything okay. i wish he felt the same. 💔 and i know he doesn't love himself and he always doubted it and never knew why i loved him so much and he just couldn't understand me when i'd reply "because it's you". if he loved me the same he would understand. it feels hopeless and all i do is sit in my room all day crying and hoping one day he'll change and come back to me.

this post is all over the place, sorry. just venting...

one of many fake quotes. every guy i had a crush on didn't liked me back. when will my lifelong love come???

I meet this beautiful woman while I was at work 9 months. She is (20) and I am (35). Yes I know the age gap is big but I feel head over heels in love with girl and we got into a relationship and we got pregnant with twins a boy and a girl. Unfortunately we lost them about 2 months ago in an unforseen accident they was 19 weeks and 2 days. Then she left and I didn't go with her and truly I hate myself for not going. Now as it stands we haven't spoken in 2 weeks and it's killing me I just want to know if she is ok at least. And I don't know what to do anymore.

I'm 25y (F) and he is 26. Context: situationship for ~2years 🙃

What are you all opinion on blocking him (whether it's an ex or situationship ex) on WhatsApp, instagram..? Does it help in the beginning with the no contact?

The way I think is: it's not that I can't control myself and go and message him - not at all. But I have this feeling that he still has access to me if I let that "open" if that makes sense, you know? Idk just a thought!

Another thought is - if I block him for an indefinite period of time, subconsciously I don't want because I am kinda closing a way for him to reach out eventually, knowing now that I'm hurt and he is not good for me.

Need someone to listen without judgment or advice? l'm here to help. You can talk to me about anything on your mind, whether it's relationships, work, hobbies, dreams, struggles, or successes. Don't suffer alone reach out today. Looking forward to hearing from you Soon.

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I finally gave up being the writer and wanna share the writing I wrote for him for a year length as a final sign of letting go just so I could delete shit from my notes app. Is anyone up to read them?

when i reminded her of the kiss she promised me that she'll do on monday, she started making up excuses like, im too young, she needs time, just wait, i have to wait, she wants to be confident with our relationship, she needs to forget her ex ( which she broke up with like 5 months ago ) she says im to young i say i dont care but she says she cares she said she didnt agree i asked her does she still love me and she avoid the question by asking why am i asking it

Does she still love me anymore? she isnt affectionate at all she doesnt even want to kiss i wanted to buy her a red rose but she refused to take it

now im sad.

him (james 22m though 21 at the time) and i (f19… 18 at the time) met last year. we were in a relationship for a while and broke up in july, not too long after his 22nd birthday.

when him and i met it was pretty obvious that i liked him. he didnt even seem to like me until he knew i likes him. throughout everything he made me so confused. at times we would confess he was questioning if he actually loved me or not and when that was said i would shake it off because i couldn’t bare the only man i ever truly loved not loving me.

he was never really patient with me. he would call me a brat, and if i had differing opinions than his he would think i was “consumed by the wicked” (we’re both christian but hes more religious than me). i loved him, i still love him. his grandmother (someone who helped raised him) had passed so he broke up with me to deak with the grief. and though i understand at times i think he never truly loved me.

he was never truly patient, gentle, or understanding. he wasnt toxic so all of this was subtle. i love him and i just got done crying over this man again. i want him back. and i swear im not insane… or weak or anything. if anyone knew the things i went through then maybe someone could understand why im hurt by this the way i am. he was my first real love.

I am really sorry. I hope you know how much I care and love you. I hope you know I was never trying to convert you. You were my escape, my thrill, my indulgent adventure when life felt a little too routine. I hope you know that I was never trying to change you or make you fit into something you’re not. You’ve been perfect just as you are—a mix of flavors, atmospheres, and memories that I’ll never forget.You taught me how beautiful life can be. Please forgive for my indecisiveness and for wasting your time.I didn’t always appreciate you the way I should have, and I regret that. You’ve given me so many beautiful moments. I still hope to reunite with you in the future. There’s nothing quite like you.

I miss my Ex so much!! I wish we were still together. I want him back. I want to text him so badly.

I have texted him before and sometimes I get short answers and sometimes he calls me honey. That’s after the breakup.

I want to text him so many things. Ask him so many questions. I miss my good morning and good night messages. I miss the FaceTimes. I miss us playing video games together. I miss hearing about him practicing driving. I miss hearing him say that he talked to his mom about me.

I’m also checking his, and his family’s Facebook a lot. But here is a big problem I don’t have a Facebook, but I can view them.

I never got to celebrate him getting his learners permit, because he got it a month after we broke up. (We only went on monthly dates because of his autism)

I will never get to see him get his license. That breaks my heart so bad.

For some reason, I’m crying a lot right now. My friends are tired of hearing about him and the breakup. One of my friends still works with him. So she has a lot of inside scoop, about the breakup and about him that I don’t know about. (I use to work with him, but I moved away to be closer to family).

There are things that I never got to ask him. I just really miss him a lot.

Why did he have to break up a few days after my birthday.

I’m almost 2 months post breakup.

My love,

Here I am again, writing, trying to put everything I feel into text to prevent myself from reaching out to you, from bothering you once again. Because, even though for you I might just be another mistake, just part of your past, to me, you’re still my everything… My whole world.

My queen, my beautiful queen, I miss you, every night, every day, I miss you. You’re still that one last thought lingering in my mind that stays just as I fall asleep at night. I miss your eyes, your smile, your hands holding mine… I miss you more than anything and my heart breaks each time that the thought of you invades my mind.

I pray for your well-being, I really do hope you’re happy. I wish I could be there for you, be the one responsible of that beautiful smile of yours as I was in the past. But I can’t, for now, the only thing I can do is to stay here, destroyed, just hoping that the sound of this rain carries every “I love you” I wish I could tell you to wherever you are.

Nothing I could ever write comes close to describe the pain I have to live through each day. Remembering what was, thinking about what couldn’t be, knowing that I just don’t have you. I have no one, and I want no other one but you, my darling, you and only you.

I love you, more than I could ever put into words, I love you.

And if your kinda cute, kinda smart, and we feel open with you we are easy to sleep with

• and easy for you to think it means nothing to us at all.

We share parts of our soul not just our bodies.

I waited a long time just to feel open enough as a person to let you in. I knew what I wanted.

And, I feel like I betrayed my own soul.

My boyfriend of 3 years ghosted me and I don't know what to do. Basically we met during university and had a class together, became best friends then started dating. We had plans for the future for marriage etc so I'm really heartbroken. This past year has been the hardest I'd say, he would get mad a lot when we play video games and call me stupid, retarded etc (being emotionally abusive) which took me by surprise because he never spoke that way to me until recent. He'd also say I never listen to him. Then about 8 days ago we went on a date everything was perfect until I made a mistake while on our date something minor I apologized for, he got mad and I asked why and said I was sorry. He said I always ask stupid questions and to not ask him why and just do what I'm told by him. Since then he drove me home never texted me again for a week, I've sent him messages and he's left me on read. This is the longest we've been without talking. I'm really hurt and don't understand how or why he would do this to me instead of telling me he's done at least a text... I don't know what to do or what to say anymore, I just need help please

So I met this girl recently and I knew her for a day or two and she let me hit, she tells me she wants something serious and that she regrets what we did because we should have waited but she also has lied to me twice, she told me she had slept with one person before me and I trusted her on that but then she told me after that she has been with 3 people and I feel uneasy about it because I don’t think that’s the right way to start a relationship. I was thinking to just give her a chance but im really conflicted, what you guys think?

As the title says, don't say things in relationships you don't mean.

My ex boyfriend told me "once I say I love you I'm locked in for good" then fucking broke up with a month and a half later.

Don't say shit like this in a relationship if you don't actually mean it. Being lied to like this HURTS. It sucks.

I’m in some dire need of guy advice. My crush liked me, but it was very obvious that he was shy talking to me. For example, one time I was sitting down on a bench, and he sat down next to me. He was fiddling with a screw in the bench for a good, five minutes until I’ve finally initiated.

He was taken, so he cut off contact with me. I don’t want to get into the whole story of what happened, but let’s just say he did it very sloppily, and I got really upset with him and I blocked him on social media. He’s not blocked anymore though.

Since he’s been single, he hasn’t reached out to me. Another factor too is that we live in different countries. I know he doesn’t owe me a relationship. But I know he genuinely did like me. And I don’t want to be the one that’s always paving the way between us.

My ex girlfriend and I recently broke up our long-distance relationship on good terms for a break like maybe get together in the future maybe not. we still would text, she would tell me she still loves me still and shes not talking to other guys she told me this on ft i guess that helped feel better and relax me. Until i see a video of her kissing some guy at a party. Yea im heartbroken now.

Not really a public person, and I've gone into detail about this with a lot of close friends. I broke up with my ex 3 months ago, we have had a few conversations, going back forth, and I had one today. She told me multiple times she wants me out of her life, and to move on, but also that she wants to have a friendship potentially in the future, but she doesn't know if we can ever be close again in any form, while she keeps sending me mixed message things, like I deeply appreciate what you've done and this and that are great memories. She told me she wanted time, but also to move on and go away essentially, but then told me "You can reach out to me in january, but I can't promise you anything." she also told me

"I'm thankful for the time I spent with you. I have no regrets other than it ended, but life goes on and so must we. I forgive you, tho I've said it before, I can see you still blame yourself for a lot, so I must say, I've forgiven you ever since everything happened. I never hated you or resented you for anything. I loved you right until the end and then some. I still have a place for you in my heart, but after a lot of things happen, it's better to end things in a bittersweet note than nothing or worse.
Thank you because I'll use the money to give ***** and ***** a good place here in ****. They're who I need most these days and I can't wait to have them back with me. You've done a lot for me and I appreciate it. Whether bad or good things happened, I won't forget what we had and I won't forget us. I'll do all I can and hopefully turn into the doctor I hope to be. If we ever talk again or not, I'll try to update you someday. I've tried to move on, and while I'm still having a hard time not checking our messages every other day, I'll keep going forward and hope you will too. Have a good one, ****."

While shes also said things like "I don't know, if ever, but you can reach out" and all these other things.

Shes changed her messages a few times in my full blocked out dms, and evidentally I was the one to reach out.

I know her pretty well internally, and evidentally things need time to rekindle friendship if anything.

I am a pretty stupid lovefool, with a lot of hope, but the future is very bleak. I do get off her implications and songs she sent me, she wants to talk in the future but not any time soon.

So.... I guess I just... want some support.

You can reach out to me here or leave a discord. I unironically met her through league, Xayah and Rakan, and after a couple months we began dating in January, I do not know if that significance matters, she originally told me before we had these conversations she'd message me on the day we started dating, and that she promised, and I don't know if this is her reinforcing it. The mixed messages kill me, but I evidentally think she wants to move on and is just struggling, and does want me out. So I'm...really just in the gutter. Anything helps, hard truth or not. I just want someone to talk to, because being down under puts your mind in bad places, thinking of mixed messages suck, and while I am no muse, its evidentally not healthly I keep checking her changed messages and getting stuck up on writing and drawing about her. This was my fault in the relationship, I did a lot of poor health choices for her emotional health, and she gave me multiple chances. She did tell me she does believe I can change, and I am, so I don't know what that implies, I told her I was going to change to be better, and she asked why 7 months later, I really had no answer, I told her I was remorseful and sorry, I wanted to improve and be her muse, so I don't know, if that gesture meant anything. She had the song Acolyte by Slaughter dog on her bio after, and now I am fully blocked.

Give me your advice, give me your support, I really need it. Sorry for ranting, sorry if I wasted your time, I just feel I have no outlet, and I am crushing myself now. Again and again.

She was my best fucking friend and I fucked it up. She was the only person I could tell everything and now I can't because my stupid fucking feelings fucked it up. I had a really good thing going I had a friend that actually cared about me and who I could tell everything, we would text every day and we'd talk basically all day about fucking everything from shit as trivial as the sky looks nice to my fucking abandonment issues and I fucked it up. I don't know how to go on without her and she said that she just needs a break but I don't know how long the break would be and I'm scared. What if I can never get that back what if we're never best friends anymore? I'd give 70 years of my life if it meant I could get that back but I can't and I don't know how to go on. I'm only 18 and I've never loved anyone the way I'm in love with her and she doesn't feel the same fucking way and it fucking sucks this shit sucks it fucking sucks and I hate it I fucking hate it.

Context:

I should probably give some context because I don't want this being misinterpreted and shit. Theirs this girl who is/was my best friend and I fell in love with her and I knew she didn't like me back but I deluded myself into thinking that maybe one day I'd have a chance and she'd like me back but she won't. She doesn't like me and she never will and I hate this feeling so much she's the only girl I want she's the only person I want to be with and now I don't even know if she wants to be my best friend anymore and I'm scared.

Hey, I don’t know if you’ll even read this, and I did try resisting reaching out anymore but again I failed and here I’m writing this again but I need to try—maybe just for closure. I’m not asking you to reply a bit but I’m sure it’d be in vain, whatever you choose for your life, that’s up to you. It’s been almost a month now, and even though I’m healing bit by bit, every day still feels like a struggle to leave behind something that was once so meaningful. You were such a big part of my life, a 1/5th of my life, really. I grew up with you, changed from a goofy teenager into an adult right before your eyes, and even now, I’m still growing. I can’t just forget you in an instant,the way you forgot me because I loved you . though sometimes, I really wish I could. I never stopped loving you—not even when I was sad or angry at the way you treated me. I admit, there were moments when I said I didn’t wish you well, but that was only hurt talking. Deep down, I know those words weren’t truly meant. I could list all the things I could hold against you, but I won’t—it’s not worth it. I just wish that after all we shared, after six years of building something together, I didn’t have to face being ghosted as the ending. I think I deserved at least a goodbye. I even put my pride and even self respect aside, and I don’t even have ego I put that aside too , reaching out to your friends, hoping for a simple farewell. That’s all I wanted—just a goodbye to close this chapter. There are things I could have done in retaliation, ways I could’ve hurt you back. I could’ve used what I know about you, the way you did with me all the time , but that’s not who I am. I loved you, and maybe you never felt the same, but I’ll accept that. Just a goodbye, though… that’s all I hoped for. So here’s my goodbye to you ! . I’m finally setting you free from my mind and heart . I’m leaving everything sooner than expected guess your ghosting worked as a fuel , haha ! . Well , I tried and I’m not embarrassed of you ignoring my texts calls or mails (I know you’ll discard this mail too and not reply me back , just want to get this outta my chest ) guess I’ll always be a bad woman, always not enough for you but know it I contacted everyone I knew from you , your friend GRAYDEN , JETT and AUGUST but failed there too . I don’t have hopes you’ll respond to this too but bye from my side ! And thanks for leaving because staying with you was equally painful and either ways it would have been painful for me because I loved you ! And please don’t share this to your friend he doesn’t have to know . It’s between you and me . You keeping a little bit dignity for me would mean a lot ! Thanks !I never cheated on you and at this point not sure if I’d love any other man anymore not because Ill not get someone way better but I emptied my love vessel for you but I’d try my best to . And if I had known destiny gave only two times to meet you in person and the last time was the only last time we’d meet .I’d have hugged you a bit tighter the last time , only if I had known ! So goodbye old buddy until we meet again or maybe never :’)) and yes I loved you always so don’t abuse it ever in your life telling people I didn’t otherwise I wouldn’t have stayed loyal to you over years of being mistreated . Soon you’ll realize grass is not greener on other side . Take care !

Ps- met this guy when I was 19 and he was 22 going 23 back in march 2019 . Was my first and promised me the world would love bomb me and then back to be verbally and emotionally abusive . Made me question me and still makes me in his absence . I loved him dearly ! Went through his all brain games and “tests” and what not but never loved him less !. Used to ask him to treat me nice but in vain ! . Stayed loyal through and through in a long distance relationship where we met only twice for 10 days each visit . I loved him was my truth don’t know about him anymore . Ghosted me after 6 years without a goodbye . Shattered but I know I’ll be strong as always ! Changed the names of the friends here tho . I was never enough for him never !, he thought he could always find better than me , maybe but I loved him with all I could when I wasn’t even shown affection just love bombing only to be verbally abused the next moment . I wish it ended better . Can’t love any other man anymore not because I won’t get anyone better but I don’t have love to give anymore . I’m so done guys !

I don't cry about him anymore but I still think about him all time time and it's been 3 years.