Hi! I’m a trans guy who’s still in high school and isn’t out yet, (Dad is transphobic and mom doesn’t want me to transition yet) so the most I can do is ask people to call me Quinn and for my friends to refer to me using he/him pronouns.

(Sorry if this is a little bit all over the place, I don’t really have anyone to confide in about these issues , and this is my first time posting, so I hope you all understand)

I’ve been trans since 2021, and it was easier coping with people deadnaming me back in online school due to not physically being around people. Last year some of my classmates have been deadnaming me even though I always introduce myself as Quinn when asked. This didn’t bother me much back then, but now that it’s a new school year it’s been on my mind way more than usual.

People still call me by ma’am, sometimes I’m too shy to correct people when they deadname me, and teachers obviously call me by my deadname in class. I’m in a school that’s fairly religious, and my mom makes me wear the girls uniform once a week, so I’m well aware that there’s not much I can do in my current situation. All I want is for some advice to help me not be as affected by getting deadnamed and misgendered as I am now. Thank you in advance :) <3

(And if peope want to know more I’ll be happy to answer questions, if it helps me cope with my situation that is)

So I’m afab, but these last few months I’ve been feeling a more masculine side and it’s been becoming more and more obvious. I don’t know if I’m ready to say I’m a man yet but so far my coworkers and myself have noticed some things I say are leaning towards it.

For example: When I go to the gym, I can’t picture myself as some hot baddie rocking leggings and sporty clothes. I find myself wanting to feel and look stronger, more muscle. My goal isn’t Ariana Grande, my goal is Goku (lol)

Another, I don’t feel like myself in makeup or dresses. I can put on a mask easily but even when I try it doesn’t feel like me. Anything feminine doesn’t feel like me.

I’ve labeled myself as genderfluid and while that seemed to have calmed the storm, it looks like it’s picking back up.

I want to play around with this side and try different things out.

That being said, what advice would you give to a possible closeted trans boy?.. I already know about binders but is there anything else I could add to that?

I Am a 17(almost 18) year old trans guy that loves dressing feminine. I do fully identify as a male and use he/him pronouns but I feel comer dressing as feminine most times and ita rare for me to actually want to dress male and yes I do experience body dysphoria ans do plan on getting top Surgery in the future. Am I a trans Femboy? Is that even possible?

I’ve been really struggling to find a doctor to start Testosterone Hormone Therapy in Colorado Springs. I’m on Health First Colorado Medicaid. Ive been ftm transgender for two years, and I pass very well. I’ve asked my PCP, asked my psychiatrist / therapist and they always say they can’t really help me with that. I am willing to change providers (therapy / PCP) if needed, and I don’t really see any resources online that accept Medicaid. I am at a loss here, genuinely don’t know what to do. If anyone knows anything that can help, please let me know! :)

I just moved out of my mostly homophobic family household and right now I been doing alot of thinking about me. At first I was thinking i just bi , but after some thought, I realized I don't like any of my body hair (born a male) including my beard , and i often think about being female and I like imagining I'm a female it just feels like me.

I'm lucky I have supportive friends even one that's trans to.

(P.s. idk if this is the place to post this please let me know)

There was the usual thoughts of “being a girl sounds so much better, but I guess all guys want to be girls right?”, the wanting to date girls but, like, in a super gay way, and the obsession with gender-bender stuff but never getting into Ranma specifically because I read that it was about him wanting to get rid of the curse which I couldn’t wrap my head around. There was also this weird phase I went through where I thought gay men were weird but lesbians were normal. Totally normal cis thoughts here.

But there is one thing I remember saying(out loud too, in front of multiple people) that I just think about sometimes: “I can understand trans women but not trans men. I get wanting to become a girl, because who wouldn’t want to, but trans men? I mean why would anyone ever want to give being a girl up?” I said that as part of a conversation AT SCHOOL. LIKE GIRL, WHY?

I seriously have no idea how I went on for three more years before realising I was trans. What are your eggiest moments?

I'm newly FTM and I tend to dread the end of the day when I have to remove my binder. I enjoy being feminine so sometimes it's not too much of a problem, but some days it really gets to me. Ik gender dysphoria is just gonna be pretty bad in general no matter what, I just want tips on how to manage better lol

It's just that I can't find the courage to face the change and face my family. When I first came out it was relatively easy it's took me like 3 or 4 months to come out to everyone in my social life, but my family I've been stunted on for like 3 years now I have no idea how to do it

Hi. So. I was transmasculine, on T for a few years and then I got psychosis, lost my mind, reconnected with God, and detransitioned. I was on and off T for a few years, then finally made the decision to detransition for good a few years ago. I was off T for almost 3 years. The desire to go back on T did not leave me, left me frequently longing, and I feel kind of like an outcast of society as a detransitioned female. I recently went back on T a couple weeks ago, just to try and see if I can stay on it long enough to see how I feel after some re-masculinization. But I'm also struggling, because I'm a Christian, and I'm not sure if God is okay with me doing this. I am active in my church community and I don't have a lot of people in my life who would be supportive of me retransitioning.

Thanks for reading <3 all thoughts welcome

Ever since I (17) was a little kid, I always had somewhat of an interest in feminine things, but never really knew why. I never really thought anything of it at first, I just assumed that I was “being silly”, I guess. Though if I had to pinpoint an exact moment that I sort of realized that something was off, it was when I was about nine. I was at a cousin’s house, and my female cousin had some of her wigs in the room we were in (she has alopecia), and as sort of a joke I put one on—neck length, brunette hair. And… I actually really liked the way I looked. A lot. Keep in mind, I hadn’t hit puberty yet, so I was pretty much a spitting image of my mom, whom I already shared a lot of facial features with. Fast forward a few years, and I’m in middle school. I started to get jealous of other girls and the way they looked. Their hair, their clothes, etc. Around this time, I learned what being Trans was, and started to get the idea that maybe I am a girl. After a bunch of other miscellaneous events that happened over a few years went down that I’m not going to go into, I arrived at the conclusion that, yeah, I am in fact a Transgender Girl! Like September of this year is when I accepted it, and 12 year old me is when I started realizing it, but only recently have I accepted it.

So right before Thanksgiving Break, I decided to finally tell a good friend of mine that I was trans. I knew he would be supportive, as I had already come out as bi to him before and knew he was friendly to anybody, regardless of identity, orientation, or expression, but I was still nervous since… well, coming out is always awkward. At least when you haven’t done it a lot, I guess, maybe it’s different for other people. So after I came out to him… it turns out that SHE’S transfem too! I couldn’t believe it, not only do I now have someone irl that knows what it’s like to be like me, but that’s also just really cool too, and I’m really happy for her.

And that’s really about it. With everything going on in the world right now, I think it’s good to put some positivity in here, as every little bit of joy counts. I hope that anyone reading this, transmasc, transfem, or any other expression reading this has a good life, and I wish you all the best. You’re amazing. Never forget that!

P.S. I referred to my friend as “he” at first just to build suspense for the reveal. Obviously I support her, I just wanted to add a bit of suspense to this little exposition of mine.

Does anybody know any endos/clinics in South FL I could go to for hrt? preferably around the Miami/Palm Beach/Broward area.

I turned 18 last year (the same day the restrictions were passed...) but have been stuck without hrt because of SB 254 canning planned parenthood here

I know about folx but it's ungodly expensive, diy is basically my only other option. I know about places like hope and health but by god I just cannot make that trip and no it's not laziness.

(Edit: I got them mixed up I’m a mtf) So I started taking prescribed estradiol and spironolactone medication on like the 30th of may so it’s just been a little over 6 months now, for the first 3 months my prescription was way underdosed, so then we bumped it up for about 2 months and just again around a month ago but now it does seem like I’m at a good level. The problem is though even though I know that I was being underdosed I still look at the calendar and see the 6 month period where I barely see much progress. Then I see timeline posts where the year long change makes people look completely different while I still look relatively the same. I was wondering if anyone else has shared this experience or if it’s normal? I know I shouldn’t compare myself to others but again with how little progress I’ve seen I’m anxious that there’s somehow a possibility it just doesn’t work on me. Of course I do have a bit of breast growth and other things but I feel like those have either already stopped or my lifestyle routine (exercise and eating right) has been what’s causing the changes

I (20FTM) need to find a place quickly in the NY/NJ area. I have no idea where to look because I would really only feel safe with queer roommates and due to the current public opinion of trans people I don’t feel like it’s a good idea to look on craigslist and similar sites. Anyone know where to look?

I’m thinking about starting about estrogen but I do have worries, Will estrogen make me loss interest in football, playing bass, and activism? (ik it’s weird that I’m a trans girl that likes football)

I heard estrogen will brighten colors, is this anything like lsd or shrooms? I’m 3 years sober and clean from everything and I really don’t want to feel that way anymore

Ugh I want a kid but I think I’m just gonna have to make a sacrifice that or if I ever get better financially adopt (which I would rather do anyway)

Are the changes scary? Like am I gonna regret this? I mean I hate my face but what if I don’t like the changes? Ofc I want tits but what if they don’t grow right?

Hi! I have no idea if this is a gender identity or something else entirely, but I think it's worth asking

i feel like my soul or identity is made up of a male and a female me, but theyre not actually female and male its just like they have that essence

its sort of like a steven universe fusion i guess? like im them, and theyre me and make up me but im also my own experience when i listen to music and get really in my element its like they dance with each other and sort of fuse into "me"

it feels much deeper than simply a gender, like two halves of a soul making up mine. their personality traits making up mine in a way.

This has been going on forever now from highschool to college. I am a trans masc, demiboy. I was not out to anyone but I don't see what that has to matter because I have made it very clear that I don't like makeup and am not into fashion, makeup gives me severe sensory issues and I have always disliked wearing it, I especially hate the social obligation there is to wear it. When I don't wear it, I am seen as a child, I am called rat-faced, women around me especially judge me, they also judge my outfits since all I do is wear one shirt I found on my floor and pants, they judge me for not shaving. For a very long time I was called a not like other girls girl and a pick me and I had several people telling me that in order to be a girl, I have to wear makeup and care about my looks and enjoy fashion. I have had even other enby friends tell me that "You not wearing makeup as a woman gives me dysphoria because women are meant to wear it". Anyway, I am not a woman afaik (but I dont really understand gender), I don't understand womanhood or felt included in it. I have been pressured to conform to femininity so often. Recently I told one of the friends that Im trans masc and she stopped forcing me to be feminine, and It kind of annoyed me because how come when she thought I was a woman, she continued to force me to like girly things when I told her I was uncomfortable with it, but now that she knows my gender, she stops forcing me to conform to womanhood.

It feels a little misogynistic that I was only left alone by her AFTER I had to out myself. I don't want to out myself to the rest of my friends but I want them to stop treating me overly feminine and making me wear makeup when I have told them hundreds of times to stop, they give it to me as presents, drag me into beauty stores and get mad when I leave. Im considering getting new friends at this point. I really wanted to explore my feminine side because I've never done that before but how can I do that when so many people around me are forcing femininity on me.

Hi, im an ftm college student in texas and i have the opportunity to get financial assistance to get my passport updated to match my name and gender. However, because I live in Texas im worried about the repercussions about having my passport be different than my state id. I know with changing your passport you can also change your social security(correct me if im wrong). Im just worried about potential repercussions of having my id be different than my passport. How does it affect the name i go under with my employer? Banks? I don’t understand which one i should count as my main and it’s really confusing since I can’t find any answers about it. If anyone can help id appreciate it. The worry is keeping me from deciding whether I should take the financial assignment on it while I can or not.

I ordered my first crop top online and I’m ngl I’m kinda excited and nervous at the same time since I’m still pre hrt (I’m trying to figure out how to diy) but yeah I’m excited :D

Ive been out for a little over 2 years(still no estrogen T_T) I'm just looking for advice on things like bras and makeup where I should go to buy them sizing and such.

Ive been out for a little over 2 years(still no estrogen T_T) I'm just looking for advice on things like bras and makeup where I should go to buy them sizing and such.

Hi Everyone,

For the past couple months I have been questioning my gender identity, and just recently believe that I may be transgender (MtF) im in my early 20s but I am still worried if I dont start HRT sooner than later I will regret it.

So I did research on how to access HRT and found out a primary care doctor can help me through this. One problem is.... I dont have a primary care doctor at the moment, and to get a new one (who has worked with trans patients in the past / has the know how of how that works) would take months of waiting to see new patient.

Then I came upon a nurse practioner who specializes in primary care and gender affirming care at a fairly small clinic (essentially one person). And I have the option to set up an appointment as early as the next couple days.

But for some reason I am hesitating... idk exactly why. Am I scared of taking HRT? Am I uncomfortable going to a small clinic? Do I deep down believe its just a weird fetish. Or am I faking these thoughts and feelings.

Sorry if I spiraled there at the end, any thoughts advice would be appreciated.

Also quick note I am seeing a gender therapist next week, do you think I should hold off on making an appointment until after that session.

Thanks for reading

About 3 months ago I started dating my best friend(we're both demiromantic) and it's going amazing. I'm genderfaun and they're genderfluid. I typically like masculine nicknames/petnames but I LOVE enby ones. We couldn't find many and idk what I want them to call me at this point.

I need names for fem days as well as enby days and masc days for them.

Their name is Geo (short for Georgia, they go by either but i like Geo better) so I've been calling them my Geodude for a few weeks but it doesn't always feel right. We both watch the same shows (Gravity Falls, The Owl House, Hazbin Hotel, Helluva Boss, Heartstopper, etc) and I kinda want to call them the Luz to my Amity or the Will to my Nico. Another option is the Will to my Charlie or the Vaggie to my Charlie since my chosen name is actually Charlie and I act kinda like both characters.

Currently we refer to each other as our girlfriend, partner, boyfriend, beefriend, constantly switching between the terms. They did say to me I could call them my significant annoyance just like how I want them to call me their partner in (silly gay) crime but I need other options to try out.

I changed my name online years ago and legally almost two years ago. All my emails and contacts and chats say "Barbie" (not my real name) but I used Google to log into a website and when I posted something it had my dead name!! I have changed it on that site and it reflects on my profile but that post did not update. *grumble grumble* smf

I have scoured Google's account settings and can not find anywhere where my dead name is used. Does anyone have suggestions?

I'm trans, and even tho she ain't supportive, she's respectful about it. However.... she has recently taken to using the fact I'm ftm against me😐 Literally just now, we had to carry some groceries from the store out to the car and they were a bit heavy so I asked her to carry the milk. This transphobe looked me dead in the eyes and said "I thought you were a big strong man." Now obviously I know that not all men have to be the big strong stereotype... but you bet your sweet ass I carried all those damn groceries to the car and I'm about to carry them all inside

Since about 2019, I started to question me. I haven’t felt comfortable about in my own skin for a while at that point. But thats when I started trying out some girl clothes and some makeup too, Ive been wanting to for a while lol. And seeing my friends around me start to transition made me finally start to think about it. And in all honesty I probably would’ve started hormones by now if I wasn’t living at home.

Things have set my thoughts straight lately. I was talking with a person who did transition over the past few years. And she started talking with me about it, about how i was feeling, and then helping to encourage me. She told me to just go see a therapist get evaluated, if I really have doubts. And from there make my choice.

And honestly, it really helped me having that conversation finally. Ive been thinking to myself for a couple weeks before and now about a week afterwards. But I feel like I’m ready to take my step forward. I’m about to get a car thanks to my friend, and from there make appointments.

Ok I’m done now. I’ve just been wanting to get that out my head and off my chest lol

I have a 4 year old and was a bit concerned since I recently came out as trans. To her I'm "daddy," and I feel that won't fit when my appearance becomes more feminine after HRT. However, I also don't really want to make her to change how she's always known me. Her mom and I are also divorced and she would 100% disapprove of me being trans. Has anyone else encountered this problem?

hi! this is my first ever post on reddit and its one here! woohoo! anyways, ive known ive been trans since the end of my sophomore year of school (im 18 and a senior now). i used to identify as nonbinary and changed my name, then when i figured out i was trans i changed my name again, but thats basically been it for affirming myself (which stinks butt). thats because im scared about how my parents and distant family members would react and what they will do. they were already skeptical when they found out i was nonbinary and changed my name. so thats why im here, when i move out for college im going to completely start my transition. i mean like hrt dressing more feminine and wearing makeup and all that jazz. im wondering if i should come out to them and let them know the situation, or should i not tell them and just let them figure it out? or if you have any other ideas please let me know those too! literally anything is helping! i'm literally terrified about what my parents and distant family members will think when the know im trans. i love them all so much, especially my parents. anywayss thank you so much

tl; dr im a trans girl planning to transition fully when i go to college but need help figuring out what to do with my family about it

Anyone want to be friends and talk

Hello, I am a trans boy and today I am dating my wife (cisgender) whose ex was a cisgender man, she had relations with him however she emphasizes that she did not feel anything because he did not seem to attend to her needs well or care in the least, I used it sadly...

And currently dating me we haven't had much sexual contact because it makes me a little insecure to think that maybe he doesn't like it or isn't enough compared to a cis boy. She and I have had intimate approaches, the occasional pleasant touch and she has told me that she has really felt something with me, but despite her words I do not dare to take the step and achieve penetration;

I'm certainly a little insecure about this, I mean, I'm aware that a hand or some toy won't be able to match a real male phallus and I find myself somewhat conflicted.

Any advice, to make her feel how she deserves to feel in bed, I am open to reading you 🙏🏼