Hi I'm (mtf) and i live in the UK and really need to get some blood tests done but I'm really struggling with finding a good option as I'm trying to go through private healthcare services but everywhere says I need a referral which I don't have. Does anyone know where I can just pay to get my blood tests done in the UK or where I can get a referral.

Please I really need help the dysphoria is killing me How much should they cost, are they uncomfortable and where do I get them?

I'm bipolar and trans and it's only in the past few years I've been able to stabilize but it's a constant battle and I just can't deal with the stress and the fear, I don't have what it takes to fight back I just want to leave. I'm so scared for everyone who isn't white, straight, or cis. I'm seriously considering going to a different country. Would that be wrong?

(Reupload because I didn't add a flair lmao)

To start it off, I'm 16FtM (Female to Male), and I am struggling with my gender.

I have been struggling with my gender for the past 4-5ish years. The thing is, I don't want to be a boy nor a girl, but I want to be perceived as a boy to people around me by the way I look (and sound but that's not an option atm from what I know of), then I say 'haha jokes on you I'm actually a girl'

This thought is only recent since over the years I have changed from cis, genderfluid, unlabeled (here I didn't really care for my gender, I really only changed my pronouns so I'm just putting it as unlabeled) , transmasc, and currently transgender, but that label just does not sound right to me.

I have thought about my birth name, and I am fine with it. I've rotated alternate names throughout the years, but none have ever stuck with me, and my most recent one is currently not feeling good either, yet I have had it for the longest.

I'm just wondering if I should leave myself unlabeled, or maybe there is a label that explains how I feel

As the tittle says im trying to get to canada to be with my girlfriend who is also trans, if anyone could help me figure out what i need to do and the process that would be very helpful.

Hi I feel alot of symptoms that are described as dysphoria but I don't feel this all the time if i can avoid looking or thinking about certain things that trigger it and its only recently in the last 3 years (minus a few things but that's normal) that I started to feel this way. But like I said in the title I'm on the spectrum and so this could also just be my raging autism and it makes me feel like massive asshole for even thinking that I might be trans when it could just me being autistic.

Hello everyone, this Wednesday I (17 ftm) finally have a first consultation to start hrt as I finally have the resources to do so (ironically enough) and plan to start treatment within the next year. I’ve been out for years and have known about the affects of hrt, most of which I’ve come to terms with, but one thing I’m still caught up on is the emotional changes. I feel my emotions very deeply, and that makes me a big part of who I am, and I mean really. My mom says I feel empathy to a fault, which I don’t mind, even if it’s to the point I almost cried last night because the guy at the pizza place gave me free breadsticks for “being the nicest person that day” and it made me sad becuase it made me think he wasn’t having a good day, as neither was I. Still, I’m afraid that when I start hrt, I won’t feel those emotions so much, and as someone who’s also autistic that’s scary. I was wondering what other people’s experiences were and just what exactly those “emotional changes” meant for you, like if it made you more apathetic, or prone to other emotions as opposed to others, or just how narrow that range of felt emotions got. I know everyone’s experience is different, but hearing first hand accounts helps me a lot when it comes to stuff like this as apposed to medical documents. Thank you anyone who can help, because I feel like above all things this is for some reason my biggest concern still.

Hi, I have very nearly flat Asian breasts, and I'm considering getting either a full B cup or a small C cup. My underbust measurement is about 30 inches, and I'm curious about the best implant size for me. My plastic surgeon recommended implants ranging from 300 cc to 375 cc. He mentioned that 300 cc would give me a full B cup, while 375 cc would provide a C cup. However, when I was researching on YouTube, I noticed that many doctors seemed to use smaller implants to achieve a B or C cup. I'm wondering if my surgeon's recommendations are accurate.

I’m cis, I’ve been questioning for a long, long time, and the only thing that’s ever held me back is the fear. I like looking pretty, I like wearing makeup and painting my nails and going by a beautiful name, but I just can’t. I live in one of the most conservative areas in Canada, and it’s so scary to know that I could be assaulted or harassed or even worse if god forbid I just put on some makeup. I want to be beautiful, I want to be free, but it’s impossible. This community is one of the strongest communities because you face danger with so much bravery, with so much spite, and I can’t even begin to imagine how to do that.

Hi all. My name is Adrian and I realised a few years ago that I am trans (FTM) but it wasn’t until a few months back that I really (sort of) accepted that fact.

I have a lot of internalised transphobia. I wish I didn’t, but I do. And even though I know my parents wouldn’t react badly, or at least I know they are supportive of trans people generally, the idea of coming out feels so awkward. And I feel like it might get twisted and turned into how it’s impacting them. I don’t want coming out to be a big deal and I don’t want transitioning to be a big deal.

I am 26 and live with my parents (no judgement on that front please, rent is crazy) - and so that feels even more awkward because they’re right there all the time. It just feels like how on earth do you come out with that kind of news. Particularly given how political the whole situation is at the moment (though I do not live in the US).

I have always felt like for the longest time I want to fit in and ‘be normal’, and through that I lost who I was. In that regard I know actually being trans will be a positive thing because it will force me to be different and embrace that but I’m still scared. I want to not care what other people think but I care far too much.

So I guess I wanted some advice and to see how you all came out to people. Or how you have silenced the internal transphobic demons. Any advice is helpful particularly as I don’t have a community to talk to at all.

Lots of love all 💙

When I was a lot younger and first transitioning, I remember not being able to find anything about the medical risks of binding. I knew what not to do (workout and swim), but I couldn't find anything about the actual impacts or long term effects.

Today I enrolled in a study being conducted at my local university on the long term impacts of binding.

As someone who's developed breathing and rib problems from binding daily for years, it made me really happy to be apart of something to educate younger trans people :)

Progress is still happening in the US. Politically we might vary, but we exist and we've made it known socially!

TL;DR: I'm helping a study on impacts of binding after a lack of information lead to medical issues for me

I (FTM14) have 5 months at my disposal to make this happen, I plan on training 30 min daily and am wondering what are some tips that could help me not waste my time or hurt my vocal chords— The YouTube video I'm currently following also doesn't really assure me of its quality so if someone with more experience could tell me what exercises worked best for them that'd be great

Does anyone ever get the feeling that if u don’t transition sooner, u wouldnt be doing justice to ur younger self? Like they would be disappointed in you

Why do so many trans girls look so good . Some look cis but I look like a guy in a skirt pretending to be a girl 😔 😟 😿

Hi trans people i am trans mtf and i am arab so i have so much body hair and it give me so much dysphoria so i wanna get rid of it (i cant afford laser) do you have any advice?

Our allies have abandoned us, most of the LGB portion has left us to die, most democrats are corrupt and give no opposition. The republicans are having high approval ratings.

I gave up on transition, but still mentally I’m doing horrible. And I’m isolated from my friends due to geography and college. I don’t have anyone and I don’t know what to do.

There’s a lot of FUD and conjecture out there. Has anyone had any first hand issues exiting or re-entering the US with their passport?

Want to hear from anyone but especially curious to hear from someone who traveled with an updated gender marker.

You are allowed to add, remove or change 1 effect of masculinising or feminising hrt. I'll start with the obvious. Estrogen now changes your voice to be more feminine.

I've accepted the fact that in the current state of my country it's not worth the constant stress-induced-sickness to keep fighting tooth and nail for the prospect of surgery a few years down the line.

Realistically? It's probably just not gonna happen within the next few years.
So im gonna give myself a break.
But therein lies a problem ~i am phat and hate my chest~.
Here's the dealio though, chest binders? They suck when you're fat. I've had two underworks binders. One i got for free in highschool and the other I ordered online that was considerably worse quality despite being brand-new when my first one was used and donated (also the skin tone ones lowkey get nastay really fast).

But I can't go without because I'm 250 pounds and a good chunk of that weight is boobage.
Hips too but I've learned to live with cutting slits in my hoodies you cant really bind down massive hips I'm just hoping the testosterone redistributes some of that weight. lowkey begging testosterone to turn me into a rectangle. perhaps a chunky square.

anyways I had to give up on binding with my uncomfortable underworks binders that didnt really work anyway because I 1. live up a steep hill so I got winded super bad walking with it on, 2, work 12 hours, 3, there's no support under the boob my underboob was just always hanging out and I was wearing the reccomended size.

but im not actually sure what other options I have. Fat trans men like myself, what do you use to tame the twin beasts?

Years ago (10 maybe 12) I knew I felt wrong. Like my body wasn't my own. Being in a very masculine family, in a masculine job and with masculine people around me, I tried to completely bury this feeling. I submerged myself in an overly masculine lifestyle and now, it's bit me on the ass.

I'm feeling like I have before. I dream about hrt, being completely female and absolutely loving who I am. I wake up and feel genuinely distracted by that feeling throughout the day. Last night, I had a dream I ran away from my life commitments and started a whole new life, slowly transitioning into the person I want to be.

I want to be female. But I'll never be able to and it's genuinely upsetting.

I'm so happy for every single one of you who are able to take control of your lives. I wish you the absolute best in life!!

I think I would have made a very pretty girl too... :(

A friend sent this to me the other day. He told me he was at a cafe and there's a person with a cool tshirt. I responded "hot". And then the conversation below follows. I felt a bit weird when he said that this person was giving nb/ they them vibes that he appreciated. I brush it off and made a joke out of it then he said what he said about banging them. He's a cis man. We always talk about other hot cis man that we saw at the gym, big muscles, buldge etc. But when it comes to him talking that way about a trans person it feels weird. We also used to sleep together, so it makes me question on how he sees me as well. Overall the conversation makes me feel icky and I'm not sure if I am reading it the wrong way. If I should end the friendship or confront him and gave him another chance because of the lack of awareness.

Him: They did gave off strong nb/ trans/ they-them vibes too, which I appreciated.

Me: Thats how u know the cafe does amazing coffee. It's always the hot barista 😎😏

Him: Also they did look super hot and I totally wanted to bang them haha

But I was demure and well behaved

They had like a wolf cut

(I did not respond after that. He sent me a reel to get my attention. And the reel was about 2 bi pornstar one of them is a trans guy and one is a cis guy posing with the audio saying "choose your fighter")

He said: both plz. -lets share?

I was born a man and never sit comfortably in my body I always hated how I looked in a mirror I would put on some makeup and dress feminine and I would feel better and I'd love how I looked I don't feel like I have any support in my state because how republican it is in my area I don't even know where to start

Don't think I need to explain the context. America is on fire rn. I'm just afraid of whether I'll be ok or not, everything is so confusing

I am rlly happy and I just felt like telling the internet about it. Also I would have posted it on the day I actually started however I was like super busy with stuff afterwards

After a long amount of thought I have come to the conclusion that I’m trans. I’m happy that I was able to be confident enough to make this post and to discover this part of myself, but, this year isn’t exactly the best year to be trans😭 I’m having a lot of fears about acting on this, I know my friends and family will except me, I live in a blue state(red county but still)but I’m not 18 yet and the government has been making many move to deprive trans people of all ages. And I’ve been having a lot of personal struggles along with these, like I’m excited to change my appearance but bottom surgery freaks me out a little, and I’ve never really have been bothered by yk (ik surgery isn’t required to be trans)Sorry if I sound like a spaz I’m just pouring all my thoughts out.

Hello! My grandpa is getting up there in age and I haven't seen him post transition. He's accepting and I think he deserves to meet the real me. I've been thinking about doing a short trip for a few days to Florida to visit him flying in and out of Ft. Lauderdale. I want to do it before its too late, both in terms of anti trans laws and my grandpa's health.

I pretty much pass as a cis woman at this point and my passport is updated with a current picture and female gender marker so I'm not worried about TSA. However, I want to rent a car and my driver's license still says male and has a pre-transition picture of me, although the license, which is from New Jersey, itself is still valid and is so until November (I can't renew it yet due to it being too early and plan on doing so as soon as the window open, I live in a Blue state where its still legal). If I reserved a rental car online I'd put my name and gender exactly as on my DL as to not encounter an actual legal problem, but I'd pretty much be forced to out myself as trans when I pick up the rental car and am worried about being rejected since I look a bit different now or just due to transphobia.

I'm decently confident that once I have the rental car I can stealth the whole trip.

Anyways, is it a dumb idea? I wouldn't be there longer than 5 days if I went and I'd be able to stay with family so I wouldn't need to book a hotel.

This is mostly aimed at MTF people, but anyone else is free to respond as well.

1. Trans science is an international endeavor, not just an American one

2. The internet always remembers

The scientific evidence of our valid existence may not be as readily available to Americans for a time, but it will remain out there, try as these fascists might to cover it up or deny its existence. They will never erase our validity, our history, our stories, or our legacy. Never again.

They lose.

I can't attach a photo but a comment of mine got removed off tiktok.

Somebody posted "you shouldn't be in the woman's restroom" in bad faith under a trans man's post because they look like a man and assumed they were trans the other way. I said

"They are a transman so you are right, they dont belong in the women's restroom, they belong in the men's restroom... because they're a man" and it got removed. Tiktok removes fucking everything this is atrocious.

"...I must confess that over the past few years I have been gravely disappointed with the white moderate. I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro's great stumbling block in his stride toward freedom is not the White Citizen's Counciler or the Ku Klux Klanner, but the white moderate, who is more devoted to "order" than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice"
- Martin Luther, Letter from Birmingham Jail

Don't mean to be dramatic, but this happens throughout so much of American history its frightening. From native american removal, chinese exclusion, japanese concentration, eugenics movement, womens sufferage, labor reform and countless events even I don't know about. Throughout history we have repeatedly scapegoated and dumped minority groups.

Remember that every single piece of legislative action against us will be forgotten in 20 years time. In other words, people won't care about what happened to us once "the trend" is over. All the progress we make as a minority will take decades to bring back.

If you are able, don't stay silent. Thats especially important for this group whose members can just integrate as time goes on. No one is safe.