Hey I’m Ftm trans for context and I’m like just over a month on T with the gender hormone clinic in London I have a private diagnosis of gender dysphoria and the private clinic said I could phone my gp and ask for a repeat prescription so I didn’t have to pay. So I phoned them and the receptionist said wait till the dr sees the paperwork and I will phone you back. He phoned back two days later saying that my fr would like to see me for an appointment. Which happened 2/3 weeks ago I had my appointment today I was just looking for a bit of advice on what to do I feel like my gp was a lil transphobic for this I asked my mum she feels the same but I just sorta wanted confirmation from other trans people.

Basically I arrive at the drs I was like 10 mins early and on their system my appointment was at 4:30 but it was actually at 11:30 and there had been a mix up so I was right. I wait 40 mins before a get to see the gp, then she’s just like bumbling her words and asked me about my gender dysphoria diagnosis I said I went private and gave her the name and she was like questioning who this person was where she practiced how I seen her and how I found her and then questions me on how I found the gender hormone clinic and how that company is run this was a bit weird cause I felt I had to defend my medical history and diagnosis to her. So I tell her then she’s like are you on the waitlist with sandyford I said no I’m with Charing Cross because I previously lived in London and she’s like when we’re you referred and I was like 2022 and she was trying to be like it’s not too long of a wait and I was like let’s both be honest here I have at least 5 years to go before I’m even seen. Then she is like I just wanted to talk and say that I won’t be doing shared care and I was like what’s the point of this appointment then and she was like I just wanted to have a convo about it and I said so this appointment was a waste of my time and she was like not really because most gps wouldn’t even have entertained an appointment let alone help with bloods. She offered to just do bloods which is good.

Then she goes on to say that the gender hormone clinic are not responsible because I haven’t had a blood test or a review since being on hormones and I was like but they gave me signs to look out for and I stated that I have a review in a couple months but I’m free to contact them anytime I want, I had also mentioned that other gps where doing bridge prescriptions and she was like “I wouldn’t prescribe you a pill I thought you didn’t need”, which I felt was basically referring I didn’t need hormones. I basically said I need your help I can’t afford it and I was like if I don’t have these hormones I will kill myself (I’m not really but I was trying to express the seriousness) and she deadpanned just stared at me and said nothing like am I wrong or is this not right ? Her whole demeanour gave a sort of I don’t really care.

Like isn’t this something she could have said over the phone. I understand that shared care isn’t something most gps do in the uk but she kept repeating I’m not a gender specialist I’m just a gp but arnt gp’s meant to have a duty of care or at least offer helpful suggestions because she sort of come across like “I’m not doing it and that’s that goodluck” vibes.

I feel like I should find a new gp and will be phoning some others. I live in Scotland btw

Please provide some insight to the situation- all is appreciated.

-Nico He/him ✌️😎

It looks like it's been a few years since the last Scotland tourism post...

I'll be spending a couple weeks in Scotland (coming from Canada) in late April/early May. I know I'll be in Edinburgh for several days (for the Fire Festival) and staying with a friend. But otherwise my itinerary is wide open. My only goals are get out of the cities some, drink some good Scotch, and see neat old stuff. And maybe buy some tweed because I'm That Guy.

I'm mid-40s ftm and a comfortable solo traveller, but this will be my first big trip since coming out as trans, and I'll be about 5 months on T (aka, the awkward stage) and probably won't have done name/gender marker changes yet. So I will probably confuse people every time I have to check in anywhere. At a glance, I suspect I'll "pass" as a person of indeterminate gender (but probably some sort of boring and unthreatening humanities professor).

Any suggestions for specific places to visit or avoid? Tips for traveling while trans in Scotland? Thoughts on bus/train travel vs renting a car?

Hello, I sent off my deed poll and the payment went through on the 13th November. I’m still waiting on it to come back. Is there anyone I can contact or does anyone know how long it takes. Google says it takes around a week so I’m worried as to where it is aha Any help is appreciated. Thanks EDIT: Noticed the main couple of questions: It is an enrolled deed poll as the unenrolled nobody paid attention to I did it with a solicitor and a witness and I’ve sent it off to the royal courts of justice like the gov website says. Also I understand peoples views on not enrolling it but I personally wanted to and everyone I needed to change my name with wouldn’t pay attention to my unenrolled deed poll. I want an enrolled one. I’m just looking for a rough time frame.

Looking to find more people in the uk to fhat too I'm a 24y non binary person in west Yorkshire wanting to meet more local trans people to be friends with since all my current friends are in different countries lol

I'm questioning my gender identity and I want to get an appointment to under go a dysphoria diagnosis session.

However as a politically informed person I know that NHS care is shit so I need to go private.

To this end I want a few questions.

First, what are the recommended private gender clinics for the UK. What are their waiting times like for your first appointment?

I would prefer an online appointment for speed but I'm will to make a reasonable train journey from Nottingham if needed. Also I would like a clinic that can work with the NHS.

Second, what point is there in joining the NHS waiting list? I understand that a lot of people go private while waiting for their turn on the NHS but while the benefits to this?

I have every confidence that Labor will fix the NHS, did it before and quite frankly having a government run by people who actually like the NHS is innately better than the government that wasn't.

Third, how does the first appointment and diagnosis process work?

Do you need to try dressing as the opposite gender before you appointment tell them how you feel about it? Forgive me if that's a stupid question but I never looked into the process of diagnosis only the politics around trans health and rights.

Do you need to have multiple appointments with your doctor before you can get your diagnosis?

Lots of questions do you get asked?

How long does it take to get diagnosis after you appointments? Does it have to go to a committee or something?

How long does it take to get your hormones after your diagnosis? Does it go to your local pharmacy or can it be sent to you by post?

Fourth, other than medical intervention, therapy and gender workshops like voice coaching, do gender clinics help with things like changing your legal name?

Lastly after your diagnosis does being in the closet at work affect your rights to trans care? I ask this because I work with dementia and I don't know how my possible transgenderism will affect my clients. I would like to stay in the closet at work for the sake of the people I care for. I don't think I'll be working with dementia throughout my journey and if I worked in any other sector I would be much more confident being open at work if I got a diagnosis.

Thank you for your help. I hope to give an update reasonably soon and get to know who I am.

Have a look at this: The annex to the prison allocation process for transgender people. It would have been impossible to paint a clearer picture..realising they even ignore having a GRC, should be a very clear warning at not expecting anything positive to expect from Labour. And don't forget this applies to current AND previous offenses. So if you've ever been in a fight of sorts and it's on your permanent record...This is really horrific stuff.
And FYI. The trans population in prison is around 2.9 per 1000 prisoners. The flowchart is the second link below. I've added a link to the page on the government website where this all stems from since some have asked to better understand: Hope this helps.
Care and Management of individuals who are transgender

Annex 1: Transgender women - Allocation to prison

Hey, I'm so tired of waiting lists upon waiting lists. Atp I'm willing to pay whatever it'll take to go through the system asap, does anyone know any good options? All I know is gender gp and maybe one other. Right now I'm in Wales for another few months, but I tend to travel frequently so I'm up to go about anywhere in the UK for it. Does anyone have any suggestions??

Also idk what to tag this with... my bad

I am going through hell right now for a variety of reasons and I know lots of you are too. i just wanted to say you are all in my thoughts and if everything is getting a bit much for you right now, you're not alone in that

https://transreads.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/2019-03-20_5c91a4ba712fd_document26.pdf

This is a link to a book by Janice G. Raymond. She was one of the first TERFs, I think, born in 1943, and wrote basically the TERF manifesto. FAIR WARNING: That book is incredibly upsetting, but I think it's required reading if you want to know where terf arguments come from. She's written another book, Doublethink: A Feminist Challenge to Transgenderism, but I think we start with one upsetting book for now. also there's an irony in her using the term 'doublethink' because, lets be honest, you can't be transphobic and a feminist. it's one or the other.

if you want a basic overview she basically believes that “the problem of transsexualism would best be served by morally mandating it out of existence” to quote her directly. does that not remind you of the current situation?

ETA: I'M TRYING OKAY?!

Hiya, I just wanted to ask if any of you knew if Jason Batchelor was replying to Emails at the moment

I sent one a couple weeks ago to Dr Milson browns Email regarding my blood test results but so far have had no response

Hopefully he responds soon Thank yall

I fucking LOVE being trans. I hate cisnormativity and heteronormativity. I love that I’m brave enough to be myself when most people put on a facade and lie to themselves and others about who they are. And I love other trans people, so much so that I would never want to date a cis person.

Western society is toxic and full of people who are ignorant, arrogant and selfish. Why in the world would I ever want to conform to their absolutely fucking disgusting idea of normal? Trans is unapologetically authentic and beautiful. We are amazing, incredible humans. I love you all.

I’m so proud of all of us for choosing to live as our true selves ESPECIALLY in a society that wants us to hate ourselves and where people think it’s okay to hate us for no fucking reason other than the fact that we refuse to water ourselves down to become more digestible to our deeply fucked up, morally corrupt society.

There's just a lot of community here and not much elsewhere so thanks for existing, I appreciate everyone here. Stay safe :)

ive been thinking of getting top surgery with pall mall, which is £8995 but as a student in college its very hard to save up even with the help of my bursary, what did you guys do to help you get a little extra money as im struggling to find anything in my city that would help me financially.

ive got a part time job but im not getting as much hours since its season based

Hello I'm 18, ftm and i wanna go private because of the long nhs waiting lists. Has anyone had experiences with The Gender Clinic recently? Remote preferred since i live far away from London.

I emailed them and they were quick to respons but I want to make sure before I save up to book anything.

Question: how to minimise hurting Cis people feelings when they misgender me...(I know, I know)

So situation is, nice young lad. Very fast talked, ive let acouple he/hims go from him.

But this evening on the last break I told him that for me and not for him, I had to bring it up and couldn't just let it fly for my own sakes.

There was another guy there, (relevant) I checked we were okay and left to go back to my desk, anyway he's not not spoken to me for the last two hours and I wanted to check my paranoia and asked the third guy who said "he diddnt think he had said anything, doesn't understand why I said that"

So a) I need to jump on it straight away and not ignore it as an initial reaction.

b) not mention it at all (such an unsustainable option)

c) wait for longer, pull them aside and have a more spesific discussion and explain what they said and how I felt blah blah

What do you folks think? And why do I feel so bad about doing what should have been the right thing?

Love 🩵🩷🤍

So I have been on hormones MtF for 6 months now and noticed a energy shift within myself where feel more calm and at peace with myself. Even though I cry at the smallest things now I also control how my emotions effect me. Anyway, Im not out at work yet but I have noticed that especially the women I work with seem much more comfortable around me. I suppose living as a man came with the byproduct that I pushed everyone away so they never got close enough to find out my truth I had repressed all these year. But iv noticed that my female colleagues approach me and talk to me alot more and I feel so much more comfortable with talking to women now, before I would kind of freeze up. I hadnt received a hug in years but in the last week I have been hugged in a kind of friends reuniting or making sure their okay way FOUR TIMES!! and I just kind of feel like people can sense a change in me without consciously knowing what it is and its filling me with so much happiness. I just dont think its a coincidence and its great because hugs are nice and I like feeling confident in my own skin :D

tw: toxic relationships, body dysphoria, SA

okay so i (ftm, 26) started socially transitioning when i was in a horrible traumatising "relationship" where this man did not respect my boundaries and would touch my chest and generally dehumanise me in bed it was awful. i have had a lot of therapy and i am so so pleased to say i feel in a place where i want to connect with people again and i've worked so hard to boost my confidence and improve to a point where i can securely attach! (used to be chronically anxious in relationships especially when living as female) i just have a few worries:

1. i haven't been intimate with anyone for over a year, and though i feel confident in my body when my chest is taped, my current bottom situation is a cause for anxiety still. but that area still gives me pleasure i just freak out thinking of anyone else apart from me touching it :(

2. i'm autistic and dating apps are such a headache but also ?! going outside!? i struggle to find sober events tbh

2a. why are there no t4t apps like why do i have to choose to use either grindr or HER nothing feels right smh

3. pls just general advice and reassurance for this trans guy that wants to love again but is just so worried about all of the things

ps. i'm bi/pan but want to avoid cis men pss. i'm new to reddit so if there's any etiquette i've missed here pls lmk

TIA!

#transdating #t4t #nsfw

I'm not one for social medias and I honestly fear even searching things on the internet might do some kind of weird ad-sense thing and tip off my very conservative family I live with and that would not end well.

I'm in my 30s and deeply unhappy. I've been trying to hide from so many things all my life. Earlier this year I had a bit of a mental break which has cost me almost all of what little I had. I am reclusive, shy, anxious and so many more things.

Above all else and something I have never spoken to anyone about is that I have always hated my body, my shape and my place in society.

I had a routine discussion with my GP (I say my GP they seem to have a new doctor every time I get there.) recently about some anxiety and depression medications I'm on and the appointment went well but at the end he asked if I needed anything else and... I hesitated. He saw the hesitation and so knew there might be something. I hemmed and hawed and came at it sideways with just asking to be put on a referral list, a list I know is super long and might not even amount to something... and I asked to speak to a GRC.

It was a strange feeling. Weirdly liberating to say out loud.

But then I saw it in his eyes and I knew I had made a mistake. He began to dither, to deflect. This sort of thing really needs its own appointment, we'd have to have a few long discussions first and the worst one was he said that really I would need to get a psychiatric evaluation first.

I've done my reading, no I don't.

He insisted so I just backed off entirely. Smiles, literal handwaving, thanking for the rest of the appointment, saying I'd just book another appointment. Another appointment! For this thing I had literally just told him I'd been carrying almost all my life and had never brought up to ANYONE before. This thing that I am only now casting a line towards because to be blunt my life is in ashes and I have almost nothing to lose.

I practically ran out of the surgery.

I cried the whole way home.

I will emphasise that I am not in danger, I have not gone over any edges or any other extreme action. I will be okay. Sad, anxious but safe.

But I think this has resigned me to suffer in silence. Having that moment of hope from actually admitting this only to hit a wall. That hurt me so much I don't think I could take it again.

My thanks to anyone who takes some time to read this and/or my apologies to the mod team if this violates something.

So me a mtf 25 him cis male 26. We have been seeing each other for a few months and we really get on and like each other alot, only thing I'm worried about is his politics, he's shared some his views and there quite right wing some the stuff he has said, but says he has lots of left wing views to which I haven't heard of yet. I've sorta looked past it because he accepts me. He says he agrees with me politically, but when he shares his opinion on certain issues it's normally right wing rhetoric. He talked about how bad labour is and how reform are properly gonna get in charge and said today we should let them because of labour. We are a long distance relationship and we have met twice but I'm sorta worried about this. How can you support me and have these beliefs, sorta worried about that. Am I being stupid??

Went to renew my prescriptions this morning and I was hit with a small note at the end of my order form saying: “This will be the last issue of this prescription (3 monthly script). Following this as per new practice policy, you will need to obtain your medication from your private consultant or a private GP service”

Was good while it lasted.

For context I’m in NI and was receiving shared care between my GP and GenderCare. While not explicitly stated I assume this also means they will not be managing my blood work either.

I’m gonna try to challenge it under harm prevention guidelines and see what my options are gonna be going forward. I can probably afford to get them fulfilled privately but it will be difficult.

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NEW PODCAST EPISODE:

More details of the Levy Review

New prison service documentation about housing trans offenders.

A dose of some trans joy

Another TKDB action.

And more!

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Title. Not sure if I should be totally open and honest or just make stuff up.

So I was hoping to get some idea of what other (MtF) peoples oestrogen to testosterone levels are.

I’m currently mono HRT with patches, my T levels are 1.5 to 6.4 estrogen.

My doctor said that I don’t need t blockers as apparently the patches have suppressed my testosterone.

Just curious as to what other people are seeing either on a mono or duel prescription.

So i have my gender dysphoria diagnosis! Woohoo and havr tried contacting all endocrinologists at gendercare in mid november to no avail and am getting desperate to start. So was wondering for any recomendations foe any alternative endocrinologists that anyone can recomend? Thanks so much everyone!!

I have been trying to find some online for about a week

All I have found is two subscription services which include a lot of extra stuff I don't want.

Is there anywhere online I can buy oral minoxidil?

Remember the protests that Jean Hatchet was organising? the FA got back to her.

https://preview.redd.it/mayqejuh8g4e1.png?width=1290&format=png&auto=webp&s=0bd4363b532b0f20de56ba57ea5ebec9fc5aadf9

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She's still angry, because I imagine they'd die if they suddenly stopped, but the FA appears to be on our side. also if anyone is in Sheffield the protest she's holding is 3rd dec 6pm at Bramall lane. just wanted to throw that out there in case anyone wanted to counterprotest

ETA: also I've infiltrated the enemy base