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Pronunciation of vowels

Hello everyone,

I'll get straight to the point. Since childhood, I neglected speech therapy. When I was starting elementary school, the conditions weren't ideal (due to a family loss), and in my teenage years, I didn't really feel the need for it. However, as I go through life, I realize that I need to do something about it and at least try to correct it.

To describe my issue: I can't pronounce the "R" sound at all. Additionally, I can pronounce the sounds "L," "T," and "D," but I struggle to use them fluently in speech. Last year, I worked with a speech therapist and managed to learn how to produce these sounds. Now, I’ve reached the stage where I need to integrate them into my natural speech, and that’s where I encounter difficulties.

I would like to ask for advice on how to approach this process and what methods I can use to effectively incorporate these sounds into everyday communication. I can produce them fairly well when I concentrate, but when I do so, I tend to speak twice as slowly and focus more on the form rather than the content of my speech.

So, I would greatly appreciate any tips or techniques to help me achieve proper pronunciation and fluent use of these sounds ("L," "T," and "D") at a natural pace. Once I master this, I plan to move on to the "R" sound. Ideally, I’d love a daily practice plan or specific activities that have the most impact on integrating these sounds into speech.

Thank you very much, and I wish you all a great Sunday! :)

1 Comment
2025/02/02
15:43 UTC

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Peed on top of my bad last night.

So, although I’m not certain and there are a couple of signs that it was possibly not me, I’m 90% certain I did it. Last night after a few drinks with friends, nothing crazy, I was drunk but could remember everything before falling asleep, I even went to the bathroom before bed.

I woke up at 5:30 to my bed absolutely soaked from the top of the duvet cover through the duvet itself, through the mattress protector to the top of the mattress, with piss. I have no history of sleep walking or peeing in strange places during sleep and I have zero recollection of doing this. When I woke up I even had to go pee again. I imagine i stood up pulled down my pants and peed directly on top of my bed, my underwear was completely dry.

Is there any way to prevent this happening?

24 Comments
2025/02/02
14:45 UTC

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Moving away and feeling overwhelmed

Hello everyone. Next week is the final week of my long vacation from school so I have to move back to the city (which is 12-hour away from my hometown)

Whenever I think about it, all the joy is drained out of me. I have no motivation to do anything. I've studied in a uni for almost 4 years but for some reasons when I leave for school this time I am terrified. I hole up in the house even though my parents tell me to please go out to take a breather, since I'm so tensed all the time.

I've always been a loner and I am super close with my family. My parents are literally my biggest supporters and I love them a lot, which is why I don't want to disappoint them by saying "I don't wanna go."

But living by myself is so difficult. I do have a few friends but I don't really go out. I'm not very familiar with the city I'm in, and I hate traffics ao I stay inside most of the time. It feels like I'm just living by everyday. It's lonely to not talk to someone yet it is also tiring to talk to people I don't know. Staying with my parents really makes me happier and I can be silly around them without anyone judging. I don't want to leave home.

But I don't want to make them worried so I just bottled up all my feelings. My parents can tell that I'm not okay at all but I don't want to be a big baby and tell them the reason.

I find myself looking at the calendar a lot to see how many days left until I have to go. When I wake up at night I just think about my life in uni. How bad everything is until it's morning. I try to distract myself with my phone or exercises, but it really doesn't help much.

It kinda makes it worse that my dad keeps saying how lonely it is without me helping around the house. I'm so emotional that I will break down crying if I say anything about how I feel. I don't want to worry my mom and dad. I pray everyday to get a job in my hometown so I can live near them but it is beyond difficult to get a position here. I can only work in the city for a few year (probably 10 or around that) before I can possibly move back, which means I can only visit them twice a year. My parents also advice me to stay in the city since getting a job is easier there, but I can move back if there is an open position in my town.

Everyone around me seems to do this whole living-faraway thing so easily though. I can't really tell anyone about this, it's embarrassing that I'm so glued to my parents at this age. They just make me feel so safe.

I'm crying while typing this in the middle of the night. I just hope everything will get better. Thank you for reading.

1 Comment
2025/02/01
22:43 UTC

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Question...

Has anyone ever experienced steroid induced psychosis? I feel so helpless with this as doctors say it's a bizarre situation and they aren't sure how to help. Wondering if anyone else has experienced this hell...

15 Comments
2025/02/01
19:54 UTC

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Don't know what to do. At risk of losing everything physically and mentally

West aus / In attempt to make a long story short, I was homeschooled by my abusive mother from grades 1-10. Around 14/year 10 she just kind of stopped making me do school work, and because she was more abusive when doing school work I made 0 push to keep going, having no clue it would effect my future, instead just trying to survive in the moment. I am now 18, almost 19 and trying to move out because she is still abusive. My mother told me that she was told by the homeschooling people that I need to complete GED TAFE certs I, II, and III to have equivalency of high school. I have done I and II but since I turned 18 (mother doesn't have a job) centrelink payments went down a lot and child support payments stopped (father is not in the picture at all). So now I can't afford to do III. This has lead me to struggle to find a job because I didn't graduate and they assume I dropped out, so I applied for centrelink Job Seekers payments. They got approved today which I thought was great news. However I'm facing two complications; The centrelink app asked me for a "report". I filled in my time volunteering (logic being "it is still an employment") and set the payment from work as 0. (Mother said I wasn't supposed to fill it in unless it's a real, paying job, but I tend to take whatever she says with a lot of salt due to past experiences where she blatantly lied to me.) However the big problem, when filling this out it asked if I met my "job plan requirements". I don't have a job plan, they never prompted me to set one up, I don't even know where to start setting one up, I was also in a rush to fill in this report because it said it was due two days ago and I was worried if I didn't that they wouldn't pay me. So I marked it "No" with the logic of "I don't have a job plan requirement to meet". It then said I wouldn't be paid because I didn't meet my requirements, but the home screen of the app still says I will be paid X amount in 2 days. Problem 2; on a seperate part of the app (if i click on "claims", it doesn't show on the home screen) it says I need to upload a proof of year 12 or equivalent document (which I obviously don't have). I was very careful to fill out the payment request properly because it's my only way out of this house and into an okay-ish life, so I know it never asked for a proof of year 12, I don't think it ever even asked me what level of school I completed, but if it did I would have put cert II. If I don't upload this document will I also not be paid? Do you have to complete high school to get benefits? How am I supposed to pay to complete school if I'm not allowed payments? I have no one to turn to to ask for help, and I'm terrified of ending up homeless because I live in a very dangerous suburb and as a young woman already get cat-called minimum 4 times on my way to and from work, I know sleeping on the street with no protection would lead to something worse happening. I feel so stuck with no where to turn. I literally have $2.55 to my name and if these things mean the government won't help me then I'm completely f-cked.

1 Comment
2025/02/01
08:28 UTC

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Certification/Trainings

Hi,

Someone I know needs to find a new job that pays well enough to live by oneself albeit modestly. They have a general AA degree, have worked 6+ years in food/customer service industry and has been working in a clerical position for a year.

What work trainings/certificate should someone like this pursue. Considering they are not cut out for hard physical (construction, roofing) labor?

Ideally something that does not take 4 years to get.

Thanks in advance!

2 Comments
2025/02/01
04:05 UTC

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I ruined everything in my life f 16

I have a huge ass anger problem and have hurted many people my freinds especially i have never lost any vut have hurted them deeply cus of it I don't wanna get angry but I get angry easily I am a understanding person on the inside but my stupid ego and anger ends up taking on me a lot of time so I just want some advice on how I could reduce my anger and be a better person and stop acting like a 5 year old kid

22 Comments
2025/01/31
18:57 UTC

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My stomach has taken a bad turn since starting college and it's so embarrassing

This dining hall is absolutely disgusting sometimes, and I think that, combined with stress, has made my stomach really volatile for the past year and a half. I have disarrhea or just really wet poop quite often, and on occassion I'll miss class as a result of being stuck on the toilet. My professor is a very sweet lady so she doesn't penalize me for it, but goddamn is it embarrassing :((( i rum through toilet paper like there's no tomorrow, and my butt gets sore depending on the day :(( it's not like a constant every single day every single bathroom trip thing, but it still is very frustrating. And this didn't happen until college. Does amyone have any advice :(

33 Comments
2025/01/31
18:55 UTC

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Having a horrible last 2 weeks.

Hi all.

I am 24m. I am usually a happy person however theese last 2 weeks have been horrible for me. Last week I was in a relatively bad mood and this week so much crap has happened that I am on the edge. I have been working 7 days a week for a year straight and I have been relatively ok for the most part. I go to the gym and play instruments however as of this week, I don't feel like doing anything but sleeping. Last week my back started becoming really tense as well as my neck. This week my wrist started hurting as so I can't play my instrument. On top of that, I asked someone to modify my work email account which should be relatively simple but this caused them to delete all my work data which set me off. I'm genuinely defeated and feel like crap. I don't know what to do. I don't know if I'm depressed, burnt out or what.

5 Comments
2025/01/31
15:28 UTC

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My social skills are rapidly deteriorating and I don't know why

For context, I (15m) have never been the most talkative person, but lately, I started noticing that I'm barely able to hold a conversation for 10 seconds without it dying. It got really bad today, when someone asked me something and my mind just went completely blank. Why is this happening and what can I do to fix it?

31 Comments
2025/01/31
10:23 UTC

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Living Near family vs living away?

I went to school out of state (FL) 4 years and lived across the country (WA) for 4 years, both with opportunities to come back home for at least a few months of the year. Last year was the first time there was a very little window to come back and visit friends and family and I missed everyone so much. It's a lot to live far from everyone, especially jam-packing in seeing everyone and the cost and hassle of flying with pets. I decided to move back to my home state of NJ and as happy as I am to see everyone, I'm so depressed here. I've always hated the cold as it makes my medical ailments way worse. I love the outdoors and sunshine but there's nothing to do in NJ in terms of real nature or an art scene. Everyone has their own lives and you don't see people as often as you think, but seeing them once a year is hard too. So I'm torn because I've done both and I'm still so confused on what to do. My heart tells me to go to sunny California and live in the sunshine where my pain and depression is gone, and the other part of me says live near friends and family because it would hurt them and myself to leave again. My parents are older and my family loves me, but no one has ever come to visit me when I live far away so it makes it harder. I just wondered if anyone has been in this situation before, I feel like I'm losing my mind a bit I'm so lost.

8 Comments
2025/01/30
06:41 UTC

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I don’t know if I should transfer colleges as a sophomore

Hi all! I (F20) have been going to a private Christian college for the last two years. I’m currently in my spring semester as a sophomore and I’m majored in political science planning on going into the legal field.

I have a lot of hang ups with my college. Firstly, it is so expensive to attend. I have good scholarships, but they’re trying to raise it. Secondly, it’s a Christian college, and I deconverted last year and the environment can be… a lot. Imagine a bunch of preppy Christian’s who are extremely judgmental but also still college kids but also very rich and pretentious. If you know what school it is, which you probably won’t, you know how bad it is, PLUS it’s in a southern state. Thirdly, it’s out of state so travel is very expensive. Fourth, because it’s a Christian college, the only blue spaces are going to be my major, which still has a good amount of conservatives, and other more “liberal” majors, everywhere else is screaming red and they do not take kindly to people with different beliefs. Fifth, their academics are not impressive to grad schools and their law school suuucks, even their really good professors who are literally paid to care about their students more than a state school doesn’t make up for how bad a degree from there looks on a resume. Sixth, it’s been hard making friends here and I still wouldn’t say I have a friend group even if I have really close friends that I genuinely love and cherish with my whole heart.

However, I’m from Texas. Howdy! I plan on going into law in Texas. Yes, I know how bar reciprocity works, but I have most of my legal connections in Texas and I plan on going into immigration law, so really Texas is the only good place for that other than California. I’m at a point where I know realistically, it looks better on a resume to go to a Texas school, even a school like Texas Tech which most people thinks lacks prestige would look better than my private university. Also, I would save more money having to take three more years of college at a state school than I would just song two more years of undergrad at my current university.

I’m just really scared to move because making friends is so hard. I don’t know what to do, whether I leave all my few but very close friends behind for a career I don’t even know I’ll get, or I spend more money on a degree that doesn’t even look good on a resume. I’m looking at three universities that I’ve started on applications for, which are Texas Tech (my boyfriend does happen to go there and I have friends there but that’s not motivating me), Texas A&M (I have no friends there but their law school is starting to get good since they bought it from Texas Wesleyan), and University of Texas at Austin (I doubt I could get in because I’m just right below their gpa requirement, but it’s such a good school on a resume).

What do I do? Friends or career?

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2025/01/29
00:40 UTC

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My manager always asks me to cover other people’s shifts

Okay I need some advice, I have 3 days off from work, I have been looking forward to these 3 days off for the past week, I’m so tired and exhausted from work and just life responsibilities outside of work, my manager has text me asking me to come in at 6:30am tomorrow…

I feel sick, because I struggle with saying no, but I physically can’t do it, I’m so tired, I’m so fed up of this job, I’m always asked to come in.

On the other hand I feel so guilty, because a coworker is sick ( mind you it’s one who constantly talks shit about me) I still feel bad, but is it really my problem? My work has recently lost 3 people, and hasn’t made a serious effort to employ anyone else as of yet, we are understaffed, and where I work if one person calls in sick, it’s a shit show…

My manager is manipulative and not very compassionate, doesn’t care about people’s situations much, I’m finding this job is consuming my life, but I need the money whilst I finish my education in order to get a job I’m passionate about.

What do I do? Should I feel guilty to say no? I am so sick of being asked to come in!

Just to add, I rarely call in sick myself and never miss a shift, I’m always on time and come in, do my work and go home, I’m tired of that just not being enough..

58 Comments
2025/01/29
11:21 UTC

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How to help a friend in need

Hey everyone

I feel I’m out of my depth with this situation I’ve found myself in. My friend has been struggling financially for the better half of a year and she’s really doing her best to provide for herself and her son.

She is now in a position where they are basically living out of her car and when she can afford - motels. She is driving Uber for money for the motels & food. She has submitted her resume in different places but I think due the lack of being stable (schedule & housing) she can’t get anything certain

We’ve contacted resources like 211 and most of the shelters are full, she is on waitlists for all the help that’s been provided. With the rise in homelessness, I can only imagine that the shelters and resources available are at capacity.

I have no idea how else to help. This situation seems so hopeless and I know she’s doing her best - I wish she could get a break through and be able to take care of herself and her son.

I don’t know if anyone has dealt with a similar situation and can provide some advice I could pass along to her or anything we may have overlooked. This weighs so heavy on my heart and I just don’t know how to help.

16 Comments
2025/01/27
14:02 UTC

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Feel I’m stuck and defeated and feel Im out of options

First off, I could have selected flair from mental health, to career, finance, motivation.

We’ve only just begun.. lol 😆

Ok. So I feel I’m out of cards to play in many areas of my life. A little background I’m 34 years old, no kids and I live with my dad. I have mostly worked in customer service-(call centers) and sales. The reason I live with my dad is because a few years ago I found it hard to live on my own because of not being able to hold a job and had periods of time where I had no income or not enough income. Also I’ve had mental health issues that have affected my professional life too.

So up to last year 2023 through 2024 I was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder. I started hearing voices and experiencing extreme anxiety and paranoia to the point I couldn’t leave my house without headphones. I had 12 hospitalizations throughout 2024 until September 2024. I would hear every night I’m going to die and am going be shot and also just strange things like people following me or things happening at my house. The police would come most nights after I called them. The choice was hospital or police. After I would go to the hospital I’d feel better but then it would start up again within a day when I returned home. At the time I was working at a bank in their call center. This all started November 2023. I couldn’t work so I got on my employers disability benefits until June 2024. I came back in late June 2024 to work but after medication changes and my symptoms affecting my performance suffered and couldn’t handle it. So I left for my job for health reasons and my medication made me fall asleep at work. I haven’t worked since July 2024. Just a personal hell. This all finally stopped in early November 2024.

I applied for disability benefits with social security. I got approved and will now be receiving disability payments next month. Since July I’ve been applying for literally any job you could think of…. from call centers to grocery stores to warehouses to gas stations.. anything! I would get interviews but always receive “Thank for your interest but we are pursuing other candidates.” email. After an interview or they ghost you. So recently I’ve been asking for feedback from recruiters and hiring managers. It leaves you flabbergasted when reaching out to recruiters and hiring managers for feedback, and they don’t offer much help so you can better for your next interview. Their response is equivalent to a press conference by former New England Patriots and now North Carolina football head coach Bill Belichick. “Coach, how do you feel about the loss to the Chiefs?” Coach Belichick: “I’m not going to answer that, we’re on to Cincinnati…” He responded to reporters' questions by saying "We're on to Cincinnati" five times, letting everyone know that he had moved on from the loss to the Chiefs. So what do recruiters and hiring managers want? Tell us. So I can be better. While they might be busy with accounting for 10,000 other applicants and may not have the time, they themselves might be job hunting one day too eventually, seeking feedback and advice on how to be better. I’m human. So I had a recent interview with a grocery store for a stocking position but again received the email of thank u, next. So on Saturday morning yesterday I went there seeking feedback on to why they chose to make their decision. It’s not an experience issue so I couldn’t wrap my head around it. What were they looking for? Was it my interviewing skills? The hiring manager wasn’t there and was told to come back Monday. In the meantime, I have been delivering for Instacart and DoorDash. But that recently ended because my dad doesn’t want me to use his car for it. He stated he wants his car when he wants his car, doesn’t want the miles or ware and tear on the car. I don’t have a car. He doesn’t even want to take me to work if I get a job unless it’s 10 minutes away. Buses aren’t reliable in my area and I would have to walk 30-40 minutes to a bus stop in extreme cold or heat. So currently I have no way to make money besides my disability check next month and that’s only $981 a month and it will be gone in 30 seconds. I don’t have many expenses. But enough of them and I do like a social life. Also I have goals! I want to be independent- live on my own, have a car, and travel a couple times a year. I want to start a career in digital marketing but that requires money for online courses. After my experience in 2023-2024, I want to LIVE!

So, I’ve even asked my dad who’s a joint account holder on my investment account to give me money for a car. I’m not talking about a whole $30,000 but 5-10k for a good car that runs and lasts a while. I’ve exhausted all other options for accomplishing that. It’s preventing me from working. I’ve had the investment account since I was 25 from my grandfather. Yes over the years I’ve brought up using it but always and eternally met with fierce resistance to do so. It’s for retirement. Which I’ve grown to appreciate but what about living for now when I have nothing and have exhausted all other options? My dad is considering it now, not a sure thing but he’s considering it. I feel stuck! Back against the wall. It just sucks to have no control over anything, being hired is someone else’s decision, working or getting to work is someone else’s decision. My dad said he was extremely exhausted and had nothing to offer me anymore regarding my situation or problems. He said you’re 34 years old and I’ve been helping you but his has become burdensome. I have nothing to offer you. It’s the same conversation every day. If I don’t figure this out, whenever my dad dies I might become homeless. I’ve been taking action every day but it’s fruitless. I literally thought well I’m one step away from homelessness.

Thank you for reading and please offer any advice to get out of this nightmare. Please help! Sorry for the long post!

3 Comments
2025/01/26
12:26 UTC

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How do you cope with feeling alone because of loss of loved one?

I need help. I'm very close to my mother and live together with her. Now she's unconscious and in ICU due to breathing difficulties. I have no idea what to do. I have no friends near me and I am afraid the loneliness would be overwhelming to me. I need some advice or at least some support.

6 Comments
2025/01/26
09:59 UTC

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How to stop being a germaphobe and how do I think normally again?

I've started overthinking cleanliness so much. And it's not because I'm scared of germs or getting sick. I'm just scared of regretting not cleaning everything constantly, and I need reassurance. I wanna go to therapy, but I'm traveling tomorrow, so I can't do that right here right now.

What happened was I went to pee, and then before I washed my hands, I touched my hair. I washed my hands afterward, but I had already touched my hair with hands that touched down there and maybe even got something on them (sorry for this). It was very quickly, though like, for a second or two. Kind of stupid, but I have ADHD, so I fiddle with things constantly. I'm an idiot, but anyway, I didn't have time to wash my hair, and I was trying to keep calm and not overthink. Then I touched my hair on accident later and touched my laptop, phone, headphones, etc., without realizing what I had done. Now I feel like so many things I've touched after I touched my hair and then touched my laptop (and the other things) had like pee particles on them. I want to clean everything. This isn't normal, is it? You wouldn't normally do that. I'm just scared to leave, thinking all my things are dirty or to put my laptop and some my other things into my bag, so I'll have to clean my bag, which I don't know how to do.

This isn't a normal way to view these things, is it? It's beyond stressful. It's killing me. I just need reassurance that that's not how things work when spreading stuff. I mean, it's not like it's anything I can see. It just feels dirty to me. But you can't live life like this. That's not how normal people view particles, germs, bacteria, or whatever the right word is. What do you call them and how does it actually work—I'm so confused. How can I enjoy my trip without viewing my items and bag as being dirty and having pee particles on them? I just can't live with that and focus. And I got fun things coming up; I just don't wanna be thinking of that. Of course, I could clean them, but I don't have all the necessary detergents and cleaners. I also don't wanna go down that rabbit hole. I just want to be normal again. I need someone to talk to. I feel so weird and disgusting.

I should add I probably have OCD, but I can't fix that right now. I also just wanna know how this stuff works. I need advice. Some real-life facts or science. The OCD is more so me being scared of regretting and telling myself I'm not overthinking. But I would've liked to know what was normal and what I should do regardless of OCD cause I've always been a clean person. I would've liked to know anyway. I know I need therapy for my OCD, but that's not the advice I'm seeking. I just can't call one up right now. I just need some reassurance and to know the solution. I don't think cleaning all my stuff over nothing and something I've probably done before is the solution. I mean, isn't everything covered in dirty stuff constantly? I mean, my bathroom floor is gross, too, I don't clean everything my socks have touched. But it feels different cause it's pee. I just don't know. I also just wanna get some sleep. But I'm scared I should clean my stuff, and I'll regret not doing it. But I don't have much time. I feel like I'm overthinking how this stuff spreads and thinking I've made a huge mistake. But I'm also scared if I don't do something about it, then I'm an idiot because maybe I'm right, and I obviously should clean what I've touched now. This wasn't a problem before. I just wanna be normal again

12 Comments
2025/01/26
01:46 UTC

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My teacher is going to fail me after accusing my paper as AI-generated when it wasn't

Update 1: I had a conversation with my teacher and she'll accept the document as proof

Hi, this is my first post in this subreddit because this situation has become larger than I can handle myself. I also want to point out that this post might not be the easiest to comprehend due to my current mental state. I'm dealing with some after-affects of stress as I just finished the last of my midterms along with the potential ruining of my GPA.

TL;DR How do I respond to a teacher falsely accusing my work as AI-generated?

Context: The paper was assigned and submitted in December before winter break. My teacher just graded it yesterday which was the last day of my first semester, but my grades aren't finalized yet. I'm a high school senior already admitted into a few colleges with a STEM degree.

As the title stated, my English teacher gave me a 0 on a 100-point summative assignment worth 60% of my grade on an analysis I wrote for a play (Othello by William Shakespeare). According to them, the reasons behind this score are as follows:

  1. "There's no evidence of originality nor the writing process. Everything was copy and pasted at once into the document."
  2. "Additionally, the writing doesn't address either prompt, but especially the prompt written on the paper."
  3. "Students are required to work on the provided Google Cloud template. This will provide an originality report for students to use throughout the drafting process."
  4. "Per the syllabus, students are not allowed to use AI for their written assignments. This is a violation of the academic integrity policy and will result in a '0'."

1 (and 3): The writing I did was 100% genuine - I no longer can view changes because of my Microsoft 365 gifted subscription expiring after a year and Word locking me out of my document. I also don't understand why not working on the cloud document and pasting it is such a major issue. I'll admit that I'm at fault here for not following instructions about this until I was a good way into the paper, but I feel the idea of copy-and-pasting between documents being the reason for a 0 is too far.

  1. From my understanding, my writing should've had several points taken off from the rubric for having a weak connection to the prompt, which I get because literature isn't my strong suit. There's also a policy in my class for any work submitted where "no assignment that is fully completed using best effort can earn less than 50%." But any violation of the honor code (a.k.a. my "AI-generated paper") voids the chance to earn credit.

  2. I don't see how my work was considered to be AI. At most, I used Grammarly to help assist, not rewrite, the grammar and punctuation errors, which isn't wrong since the syllabus states, "90% of all typographical errors and 75% of all grammatical errors can be avoided with self-editing". My previous teachers and the web don't consider Grammarly to be academically dishonest. I also pasted my work into the top AI detectors on Google to try and understand their perspective, but every single one of them came with >80% human with high confidence/

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I'm planning to email them very soon this weekend along with a follow-up when I see them again next week. I haven't really formed a formal plan on what to include when I communicate through email and in person with them because of the timing. Do you have any advice on how I should handle this situation? I'm willing to provide further details/clarification to the best of my ability if necessary.

24 Comments
2025/01/25
01:33 UTC

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House burnt down (uninsured). I’ve got no idea what to do or how to proceed from here. Please help?

Monday morning my house burnt down. I’m at a loss of what to do or even how to proceed.

17 Comments
2025/01/25
00:33 UTC

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I just bought a new hair care set and it’s 4 years old

So I went Boxing Day shopping and I picked up a hair care set at the body shop and I have been checking the batch codes of all my products so I can put them in order of what to use first and checked the shampoo and hair mask I got and they are both 4 years old??? Has this happened to anyone else? Should I complain? I’m annoyed because that stuff is older than things I bought like 2 years ago

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2025/01/24
23:40 UTC

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Aquired 1000 Constition Books, what to do with them?

So I gathered 1000 Constition Books that my country (Germany) is giving away for free, got them from various sources and now I am wondering what to do with them. Any Ideas?

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2025/01/24
20:44 UTC

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How can I be more respectful to parents

Hey, so I’ve been battling this ever since 2022 and I would like to know a solution. Basically my mom started dating her friend from high school in 2020, my mom moved in after a few months and that was that, my mom’s friend is now my step mom and has been since 2020. Now my step mom has a ton of mental health issues like manias and mood swings and negativity self reflects on others but she is a thoughtful caring person at the same time and this is really a struggle/battle. There have been a few times where my step mom and my mom have gotten mad/ yelled at me or felt offended, this is because I would either choose not eat on some nights(I’m a picky eater), sometimes normal conversations would go south and end bad , and just certain disagreements. Now whenever they randomly yell at me or get upset at me I’ll talk back and have an answer for everything and I’ll say rude things back to them. For some reason when this happens I forget all the good things they do/did for me and all the respect gets thrown out the window. In the past mostly my step mom would create arguments or we’d get into fights and there was a few times she kicked me out (I’m 17M btw) and got mad and yet I still didn’t learn because the same thing happened again . Basically I can’t keep my mouth shut whenever my parents abruptly yell at me for something and when my step mom assumes things or brings up old things, they still bring up me giving a guy online $10 back in 2023, like it was 2yrs ago and ik it wasn’t right but like cmon and they’re reasoning is always “you still done it tho” like it’s so frustrating. And I also live in my step moms house that she pays for and holds down so that’s why I’m seen as even more disrespectful because I’m arguing with someone who lets me live in their house but yet again I pay to stay here, and my mom too got kicked out because me and my mom are exactly the same, we can’t shut up during arguments. But now since it happened so many times my step mom has been upset at me, she barely says hi to me anymore and she didn’t even acknowledge when I got a haircut and she usually does, so can someone tell me how I can show them that I have respect and keep my mouth shut bc rn my parents aren’t too happy with me

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2025/01/24
05:29 UTC

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Help...Help...Help.....

help im panickin or i dont know.. im tearing up with no good reason my breathing is fast and im scared.... i only brought up the time my parents took my money when we were talking about how much i saved this time which i know is 18k and they denied that they took it and only said that they didnt took it she also said its only 8k not 18k... and i have a bad memory so i am not sure if its really 8k but the point is they took my money without me knowing leaving me only 4k... not enough to start a business then shr brought up the idea of me going to country side and working with my uncle and she said you shouldve earn more money since you are working there but no you payed for your electricity and water and you also didne get payed. maybe they didnt pay you for the chickens you killed but i didnt killed them...... the rainy weather did... im so scared when one of the chickens fell ill and died because im sure theyll blame me and they did... i just explained to my mom that i dont want to touch the chickens in my uncle's coop because when i came there one of the chickens died and the blame put on me im scared and told her not to talk about it and yet she continued... and i walked out and hid on my little corner then suddenly came and said out of the blue you are turning 18 this year you can leave if you want i wont stop you like.... why is she telling that she also said we feel you dont like this place so you can leave if you want whern you get 18 and im scared i am not sure why she do that is she doing it on purpose? im scared... im scaded im scared... my chest hurts and my eyes are crying for no reason i just want to stop talking why is she always doing that....im scared...

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2025/01/22
11:08 UTC

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Future

Hey everyone, I am making this post as I am unsure on what to do after university . I am currently studying economics and finance and don’t know what to do / what I want to do after I graduate this summer. This has really started effecting me and has also stopped me from meeting new people as a question everyone asks is what do you want to do and I actually don’t know lol. Any help/advice would be appreciated as I guess I can’t get worse than where I am now lol. Thank you

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2025/01/22
00:41 UTC

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How to mostly leave socials

I’m 37, I’ve been on Facebook since college, literally 19 years. There’s so much I don’t like about the world. I’d love to stop fb and ig , but I’ve realized I literally don’t know how to keep up with people any other way. It’s not like I need it to keep up with my close friends, and I really just follow random groups. I’m freaking out because I’m not sure I actually know how to be an adult without scrolling stupid social media. I go down weird rabbit holes and read weird news articles. I guess my question is, what should I do instead? It’s so stupid, but I don’t look at random websites like I use to in college. I feel like I’d be in the dark without it. Even news, yeah I have a news app, but when stuff happens I see it on Facebook, then search about it. It’s like a jumping off point. What websites should be on my rotation? How do I feel connected to people who find the same things interesting/funny as I do? Even Reddit. Is it even legit anymore? Are people still posting blogs?

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2025/01/21
19:07 UTC

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everything’s from the laptops gone

my friends mum wiped her laptops hardrive and all her emails and onedrive stuff got deleted, im not sure how this works is there ANY way to recover this stuff it's cuz she emailed herself 3 times a video proving abuse, and while we're at it is there a way to save something so that it can't be deleted. thanks guys.

EDIT:EMAILS WERE MANUALLY EDELETED OFF GMAIL AND HOTMAIL.

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2025/01/21
16:12 UTC

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Puppy potty training, advice and tips needed

So, I have a new puppy named is Katara, almost 4 months old, the most adorable and sweetest baby I know. So training is a slow process for me considering I have never trained any animals prior to her but thankfully I know someone that's given me tips on potty training at least.

Katara is mostly good with potty training, key word; mostly. She always sleeps with me in my bed because she's a cuddly pup, but recently she's been having accidents on my bed frequently. Tonight(of the time I post this) she had another accident on my bed even though I literally JUST TOOK HER OUTSIDE AND HAD HER POTTY 1 AND 2.

I'm not sure why?? I don't know if I'm doing something wrong, doing something differently, or if it's a territorial thing? I'm not sure at all and I haven't had the time to ask the person I know anymore advice on this with how busy they've been.

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2025/01/21
09:03 UTC

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How to reward 9-year-old son after bringing home great report card

My son is in third grade and typically makes very good grades. It is no surprise that he brought home good grades, but I feel it's time to start rewarding him. I feel like hard work at work as an adult nets (or at least should) you the thing you want in the form of things you enjoy, so I want to re-enforce that. I don't think cash or any substitute is appropriate as not knowing the value of money would flatten it out to the point of being meaningless. I also would prefer something material over something like an experience, but I am still open to any suggestions. Budget is probably $100-$200. He is typical for his age, meaning enjoyment of video games, legos, etc.

Lastly, they will bring home 4 per year, for the time being, so I hope to continue something of the sort. Thanks in advance.

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2025/01/21
02:23 UTC

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What do I do?

I feel like I need to run from the US as far as I can to keep me and my family safe. I don’t know where to go or how to get there or even the first thing to maybe even finding a job somewhere over seas. I am a young person (25) and I have a bachelors degree in biomedical sciences. I have maybe enough savings to get me somewhere but not enough to be stable there for very long if at all. I’m sure there’s stuff I can sell to make more money but I just need advice on what to do. I am queer and I’m not safe here to keep living the way that keeps me alive.

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2025/01/21
02:09 UTC

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Need advice on how to approach a issue with our apartment

Our apartment needs new coax cable installed from the outside connection to our unit, however our manager refuses to allow the cable company to run new cable citing the reason as they do not want new holes in the siding. The cable companies area supervisor has even talked to the manager and tried to reason with her but she would not budge. Now I'm considering going above her and calling her boss citing the reasons of needing internet for WFH. The cable tech has already stated that the issue is noise on the line and they have already replaced the line feeding the building from the street.

My question is this: would I be justified in going above the local manager? I know if I do this I'm opening myself up for targeted harassment from the office.

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2025/01/21
00:02 UTC

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