Context: I am Korean American, and I've been attending a Korean church for the past two years purely for social purposes, as I am not religious. It's an excellent way to connect and meet Korean people in the area and have a stable community.

However, I struggle with social anxiety, and it gets exacerbated whenever I attend church. After service ends, there's this brief period where everyone just stands around and talks with each other before we get with our small groups to discuss the sermon and then get dinner and hangout afterwards.

One thing I dislike about Korean culture is that you always have to talk formally and very respectfully when speaking with people you're not close with, and I always feel a barrier with people I'm not close with due to this. It's considered disrespectful if you talk casually with someone you're not close with, ESPECIALLY if they are older than you by even 1 year.

And also I'm not that close with a lot of people at my church aside from a small number of people who don't always come, and I'm not close enough with my small group members (changed into a new one just 3 months ago) to just go up to them and start a conversation.

Every week after service, my social anxiety flares and then I end up retreating to a shell during this short period.

When we finally get with our small groups, I also find it especially difficult to converse with the group when there's a handful of extroverts dominating the conversation, so I don't feel like there's an opportunity to get a word out. And this process ended up repeating weekly to the point where the other members of my small groups stopped conversing with me very much anymore since they've already creates affirmed biases about me being some quiet, aloof person. With my friends or S.O. and even at work I can be confident, well-spoken, and be able to lead all the conversations as a group. But only at church do I run into my social anxiety flaring up.

These situations at church deteriorate my confidence in my social abilities and may even affect my confidence to lead meetings at work for a few days.

Should I keep attending this korean church if that's the case? I heard as a person with social anxiety I should always try to step outside my comfort zone and try to always meet new people to try to alleviate it. But at the same time, I have a S.O. and have enough friends to the point where I can get my social needs met without always having to meet new people or converse with people I'm not close with at church.

What should I do here? Stop attending this church and stay in my comfort zone where my confidence in my social abilities are high? Or keep putting myself out there in uncomfortable situations to get my social anxiety to get better despite possibly lowering my self-confidence in my social abilities?

Hi all—

I’m not sure how I can describe really what’s going on but I’m going to try my best! I’ve been struggling with depression since my early teens (I’m 26 now) and it’s always been tough. Although recent life changes have made my depression much worse. TLDR: I’m a teacher trying to get into a PhD because I have no intention/ never had the intention of being a high school teacher; my partner and I are in a bit of a tough spot with her job and it’s been very grating on both of us; I’ve been extremely antisocial because I’m so tired and disinterested in seeing anyone; and, of course, I’m always stressed about money. All of this is to say that within the past year I’ve been experiencing constant guilt about everything. I feel guilty about not reaching out to friends, not doing enough work, not exercising, eating the “wrong” things, wanting to spend time alone, not partaking in my hobbies, etc etc etc. I was wondering if anyone here has advice on how to cope with this all-encompassing guilt. It’s getting to a point where I can’t enjoy anything I’m doing because I’m riddled with guilt and anxiety. (Can you tell I grew up Catholic?) Anyway, thank you in advance if you read this and offer some advice— I really appreciate it!!

I need work and the job market seems to be quite harsh right now.

I am not good in social interactions and am seeking work that has little to no interaction with others. I can't seem to find any, so I believe that I am not looking for the right kind of work.

Does anyone has advice on the kind of work I should be looking for?

I have a disability and cannot be on my feet for more than an hour, unfortunately. So this locks me out of a ton of work.

It would be easier for my disability, if I could work remotely, but I am fine with it not being so.

So, any suggestions?

Back at the beginning of the year I spoke with my boss about wanting to return to school. He was extremely supportive and told me he’d work with my schedule, even switch me to weekend work if need be (I work weeknights 6:30 pm - 5 am Monday to Thursday).

I currently have my associates in mechatronics, but I’m wanting a career where I can go into an office or work from home, thus I’m wanting to return to school for Information Management and Systems. My job is also supportive since this may be a job then could use, thus may help me pay for tuition.

Well, registration starts soon and I brought this up to my boss. I asked what hours I’ll be working on weekends so I know what to schedule my classes for and his response was that I’d be on my same schedule that I’m currently on, we’d just have to work around it. He expects me to do school and work the same day. This left me feeling numb and upset, because how are you expecting me to work a 10 hr shift, go home and get any rest, go to school to then return right back to work.

When I mentioned possibly switching with the new hire who’s on weekend nights he just shrugged me off. I’m exhausted, and to the point of tears. I cover for everyone when they’re out, I finish my PMs early just for them to throw more on me because my coworkers can’t get theirs done, I’m burnt out and exhausted. I’ve debating on finding a work from home job now that’ll help me pay my bills at least. But I don’t know if I should go for it.

We lived a very poor life and still, my parents taught us everything except how to behave socially, so basicly we grew up to have weak personality, never learned how to stand up for ourselves, our relatives were never a help to us, on the contrarly they were toxically distructive which affected us a lot... fast forward to this date, we took so many wrong turns in our lives, now im.paying for mine, but at least im trying to do my best to fix what can be fixed and not making new mistakes, i have set a goal in my life, and i know by acheiving this goal, in 3 years i can secure a job which will help a lot, there is no other way cz i have tried other ways and did not work out... plus im overweight with some health issues, so im doing what i need to do to have a healthy life like dieting, and going to a doctor and things like that...

Some things are uncontrolable, like till this day we are being hurt by some relatives for some reasons...

Anyway, fast forward to my brother... hes the most affected by everything... to the point that he likes to live his life denying any problem he have rather than facing it or trying to fix it, even though he is very depressed because of those problems he is trying to forget about it... and if i try to bring it up with respect of cource, he gets really depressed and unable to face the truth... like the last time i barely was able to take him to a dr for some minor issues, they descovered he have a very dangerously hight blood pressure dues to overweight which can endanger his life, he was sooooo depressed and blamed me for this, cz he did not want to remember about the issue as he already knew, but doesent want to face it... one of the other reasons is the lack of money which he doesnt have, so i told him not to be cheap about it, my mom can take care of the expenses, but still doesent want to (if im not mistaken but i may be wrong at this, he likes to be pittied rather than fixing the problem, but again the issue might be the money not that)... if he wants to wear clothes, if one of the clothes is bad, he wears it, and if i confront him about it, he acts in a way to pitty him like he doesnt have good clothes, which he have, and i told him so, like wtf bro you have good clothes so why wearing the bad one??? if i ask him to think about dieting, he bow his head down like a person wishing others to only pitty him, (of course i nevsr tell him this so not to hurt him, but ithurts me a lot seeing him with lots of potential but unable to take a decision to work on himself to be better) i always encourage him, and tell him, hey brother any issue you have that is making you unhappy, lets dress it up one by one and try to fix it step by step, once those issues are fixed you will be happier... but he is just again cant handle the truth, unable to take a decision that makes his life better, and doesent want to talk about it...

I dont know how should i help him... some people may say that he is an adult and should take decisions by himself, and it is not my job or something, but he is unable to do so, and his decisions not only are going to drag him further down if not dealt with, but also are going to drag us down with him...

Can someone plz help...

When I was in my last year of high-school, I was having an increasing difficulty to attend classes. It was becoming so challenging that it was nearing the impossible for me. I couldn't stand school for so many reasons, but for an umbrella term the overwhelming feeling of it. One month before school ended, we exceptionally had our Thursday and Friday off. With the weekend, I was off the hook for 4 days. But on Monday, when I came back, I was like yeah nope. That close to tears, and that close to simply running away in the kiddle of the lesson. I couldn't do it anymore. I had reached my breaking point. I didn't go back to class after that days.

Well one of the reason why high school got so difficult for me was because I moved back to a city I can't stand. I didn't grow there, I'm not used to the language. And to be pity and childish, I hate this city for no other reason that it took me away from my childhood country. Also, there's no sea. No fresh air (everything being polluted).

After high school, I stayed in this city, and got employed at the art centre I used to take classes at. They are all so nice, really amazing people. I think I'm friend with my boss? I'm not sure, but she's really understanding, really kind. And really accommodating.

But the problem with this art centre is that there's the teachers and then theirs the staff. We used to be three, with the boss. But at the beggining of the year, the third person got kinda really jealous that I'm now working with her, believing that I was replacing her. It is now a fear and a doubt I have with me. So, to make it short, she ended up quitting the job.

So it's me and the boss + the teachers.

I've started working here towards the end of summer 2023. Amazing job, can't ask for something better. Truly.

But I'm getting increasingly tired of the city. More and more and more.

I've just come back from a 10 day vacation. I think it didn't help because there's so much to do at this art centre and there's so little hands to help.

During this vacation, I got to see the sea. Really lovely.

But I'm back. And I fear that this tug I feel in my chest is growing to resemble the one I felt when I got back to school that Monday. I don't want to leave my job. I'm finally starting to find a balance in my life.

A good place.

But I can't go to sleep. I asked to come 1 hour later tomorrow to stay longer with my cat (he didn't come with me during this vacation).

I'm afraid I've finally reached this breaking point with this city.

So I’ve been friends with Sarah(23F) for about 10+years now. We meet in middle school and been together till high school. Our parents knew each other and were good friends(mostly moms - my grandma also knows about her )

After HS I moved countries we’ve been in touch mostly through social media.

But there’s this thing that I’ve noticed with her that she always tries to set me up with some guy she knows. In HS she made me hangout with a group of guys, bc she had a crush on a guy from that group and kept telling me there’s a other guy from the group who likes me (I had zero interest in this man, this man touched me inappropriately - story for an other day) I kept hanging out with this group(bc the rest of my girl pals did) but dipped anytime that weirdo came in. Also, before you judge me yes I had no self confidence in HS.

I’ve clearly told her my type, what I like in a man both in terms of looks and personality. But this women keeps hitting me with men I’ve no interest in and is very persistent about it - will share my insta, show them my posts without my consent etc.

She’s now herself moved to the country I live in - just as kind gesture I decided to go meet her and see if she needed any help with anything bc it can be a tough move.

She hits me up a few days later saying one of her guy friends is interested in me, I clearly told her there’s a man from work I’m kinda into. She shared my insta and this random dude now wants to connect. While at the meet she kept talking about how important it is to be married by 28 blah blah(she’s in a relationship) and I’m the kinda person who doesn’t believe in timelines feels too forced for me. She’s been dating since 16 and I started at 20 and I’ve a very different mindset but she doesn’t seem to listen. Also she acts so saintly every time I mention I want to have fun in my 20s (this women has had over 5 bfs and I’ve had 1 relationships)

Bottom line is she’s toxic - barely even helped me when my mom died. Feel like she desperately wants to see me married to a man she choose ( they are all way below my standards and I’m not attracted to anyone). My family might be a little bit well off then hers but goddam she really wants to get something outta me.

Reason I can’t go full silent is bc back home, her uncle rents a house my mom owned (my stepdad manages it for me now but he really wants me to take over it bc technically I’ve inherited it after her passing - I don’t wanna sell it bc it’s near to my brother (he’s 14 btw) and I’s heart and reminds us of our mom)

hi everyone, I wasn’t sure who to talk to this about because it honestly has been weighing on me so here I am posting here. one of my best friends from college recently got engaged and I texted her to congratulate her & we both said we miss each other & love each other and I said I was so happy for her.

we don’t talk regularly anymore and I’d say as of COVID we grew apart, mostly because I was living in the city and she moved back home and prior to that we lived a floor apart in our apartments and would be together all of the time. but she was such a huge part of my life - we were known as the sisters and always being with each other. we hung out after college in 2021 & she came to where I moved in 2022 and we hung out and had such a nice time together and said how much we miss living near each other. since then we’ve talked here and there, i saw on social media that she invited the close friend group she was friends with in college to the wedding although it did seem small from what I saw.

I don’t know if I should text her and say she looks beautiful I’m really happy for her to clear any needed air or if I should ask why I wasn’t invited (this is probably a hard no) I’m not sure but I’ve been pretty sad about it. If I got married, I would have 100% have invited her to my wedding. Would love any advice or shared experiences!

hi! so basically I’m 22 and transitioning (ftm). I was wrongfully detained by the cops and brought to a psych ward because my little sister told them I was violent/manic. I was then kept at the psych ward for 8 days and they continuously misgendered and deadnamed me after correcting them. They used this as fuel to say I was delusional. Being trans does not make me delusional. Anyway I am behind on my bills and everything because I missed work and I want justice. The police never should’ve pulled me out of my car and handcuffed me. I am wondering if anyone has had a similar circumstance and if anyone knows any good lawyers to help me? I’ve been searching for one for the past two weeks since being released, but have had no luck. This happened in Cincinnati so I need to have a lawyer that works in Ohio.

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I ask this question because this mirrors a situation my aunt encountered two weeks ago. A robber disguised himself as a postman and pulled a gun when my aunt opened the door. He proceeded to abscond with approximately $4,500 in cash and jewelry. Essentially holding my aunt at gunpoint, he coerced her into revealing the location of her valuables. To date, the authorities have not apprehended any suspects. This incident occurred in New Jersey. I reside in BC, Canada, in a relatively secure neighborhood, but better safe than sorry. How should one respond in such a stressful scenario?

Hello all. Basically I have always been a big dreamer. I have always wanted to do so much, but for so long I lacked the confidence, organized/grounded mindset and the ability to push myself when anxieties arise. But recently I feel as if I have finally acquired the organizational skills and a kinder mindset to really begin to accomplish my goals in life. For context, my three main goals are to learn how to speak Japanese, to become a successful content creator and to get good at drawing/painting.

However, when I sit down and am in the process of accomplishing my goals, I cant help but feel as if Im not doing enough. For example, even when I successfully sit down and successfully practice my drawing or editing or Japanese for an hour (or more) my mind tells me that I didn't do enough, that Im moving too slow, that I will never get where I want to be, that I should have started practicing more when I was younger. I end up feeling so dissatisfied when I would like to be proud of myself. I wish I could end my practice sessions with a greater sense of pride and self satisfaction, but my mind just morphs into what Im doing "wrong".

Side note: I do have a part time job, but have successfully scheduled (I like to time block) out my days to where I can practice my goals without feeling burned out. I like to practice my Japanese 25-30 mins a day, Content creation 1 hour to 4 hours and practice drawing/painting 45 mins to 3 hours per day. This all depends on how long my work shifts are/what time I get home. Sometimes my mind tells me that if I wasn't working I could have even more time to edit (for example). And because Im not editing like 8 hours a day (for example), I will never get anywhere. But I need to work and I actually like my part time job. That little voice just keeps trying to beat me up. And If I end up taking a break, my mind tries to convince me that I shouldn't have taken a break for so long, and because I took a break I will never accomplish my goals. I know it's not true but it's like my minds instinct to point out what Im doing "wrong", even if its not necessarily true.

I realize this negative thought process is unhelpful and most likely stems from me being outside of my comfort zone, old habits of extreme perfectionism and the extremely critical environment I grew up in. Im happy that I can recognize this negative pattern but I still have trouble combating it.

What should I do (or say to myself) in order to feel more content during the process of trying to achieve my goals?

Any advice, opinions or personal stories would be much appreciated. Thank you.

My grandma was diagnosed with small-cell lung cancer. It's a very vicious type of cancer, basically meaning it is nearly impossible to beat for her. I grew up with her a lot, and have fond memories. As a kid with no opinions I never realized how she really was. Now that I'm 19, i realize she is impossible to have a conversation with. She calls all of my ideas, opinion, or thoughts dumb. I have to ask permission to do literally anything or else she will critique my every move, like setting a glass of water down on the "wrong spot or surface". I honestly dread going to see her. But I also feel obligated to because she could go soon. Every day I don't go to see her, I have anxiety that she will be even more mad at me when I eventually go to see her. What should I do? Just tough through it and see her often? Or should save my sanity and anxiety and just go every now and then? Not at all?

I'm always late. I literally can remember just one time I was on time somewhere in this whole month. I had to pay a super expensive train ticket today cause I missed the train I was supposed to take. My friends are tired of me being always late.

I can't seem to anticipate how much time things are supposed to take. I feel like people do that naturally like "okay I have to take the bus, go back home, take a shower and wash my dishes. It's going to take about 45 minutes." I thought I could clean my house in 20min before going to take my train. It took me 50min. I didn't took any break, I did as fast as I could.

People told me to change the time on my phone and put it 20min early. But I know I'll know it's 20min early and it wont change anything.

Any advice ?

For reference, secondhand embarrassment is also sometimes referred to as Vicarious or Empathetic Embarrassment. I'm a male, in my mid 20's and have had this thing for as long as I can remember. I have made significant progress in realising and reducing my personal trauma, raising my self esteem, vulnerability and so on in since last one year but this is something I still struggle with.
I have a really hard time watching shows like The Office and especially the scenes with Michael and a female character he's interested in. I saw a clip of the 'Date Mike' scene on youtube and shut it up immediately, tried it again just now and just couldn't get through after the snooker shot he took, haha.
I asked gemini for some common triggers and here are the ones I resonate with.

1. Social Blunders: Scenes where a character makes a social faux pas, like saying something inappropriate, tripping in public, or forgetting someone's name.
2. Public Humiliation: Situations where a character is publicly ridiculed or embarrassed, like being rejected on stage or having a wardrobe malfunction.
3. Inappropriate behaviour: Scenes where a character acts inappropriately for the situation, like flirting with someone's parent or loudly singing off-key in a quiet setting.
4. Cringeworthy Romances: Awkward attempts at flirting, overly enthusiastic declarations of love, or public displays of affection that feel forced.
5. Second-Hand Rejection: Scenes where a character gets rejected for a job, a date, or some other social situation.

I feel this also fuels my drive for perfection which holds me back from living life to the fullest. Although, I must repeat that I'm doing much much better now, than say a year ago.
Finally, what's the psychology behind this? How can I improve in this regard?
Also, I do not enjoy psychotherapy and I believe I'm capable of making progress on my own through self help work and exercises. Thank you!

early on in my life I used to be pretty talented for my age at a good portion of things, but I feel like overtime I've progressively gotten worse and worse. even after practicing for hundreds of hours I won't improve on anything and it's feeling even worse the more I deal with it. I've platoed and even have been getting worse in a lot of my skills. Like-

Brazilian Jujiutsu: I've been doing it for over a year and I feel like no matter what I still just get demolished in sparring

Drawing: One of the skills I started when I was younger and I feel like I haven't gotten any major improvement for years despite practicing for hours

Games: I used to be a beast, I'd be better then my friends and do what I please, and now I can barely do anything in any game I touch

and the list goes on and on, it's making me feel like I'm incapable of doing anything at all. it's also making me avoid trying new things from the fear that this same trend will just keep going and going. what do I do? how do I combat this and just grow and learn?

Someone I'm not very close to (who I'll call Dave) asked me and a few other people I know to the movies. Those individuals stated they couldn't come, so it's just Dave and myself, and maybe his mother if she decides to go. Now, I think Dave is a bit strange, and I really wanted to go with other people so it wasn't just the two of us. But I know the correct thing to do is go see the movie with him because it appears he prepared this himself and wants to have fun. One side of me says I shouldn't go, while the other says I should. One advantage in this case is that he is willing to pay for the snacks and beverages. But it would be really selfish if that were the only reason I attended. Since I'm also rather awkward, I didn't want it to be just the two of us. Thank you for your time.

The title says it all and for context I graduated with my bachelor's in finance in December and have worked on my Master's in Business Analytics since. I'm open to any insight and I just ask we keep it real. Thanks in advance!

I usually don't have trouble falling asleep after dialing in the sleep hygeine but staying asleep has been a daunting thing for lately, I tend to wake up every night after 3hrs exactly and can't fall back asleep. This has been going for the last 2 months and though I am managing to survive just fine on 3hrs each night, I am worried about how long could this continue and whether I should seek prescription medications for this?

I am scared of messing up my system to the extent through the use of meds where I'd be getting the same 3hrs of sleep even on medications. I've already tried all OTC supplements.

All my friends dislike (almost hate) each other but individually love me. I thought I’d be able to handle it but it’s gotten to a point where they all keep complaining about eachother to me. Sometimes it’s because they are concerned for me, other times for their own personal benefit or ulterior motives. It’s gotten so exhausting. I know I shouldn’t have introduced them to eachother in the first place but now that I’ve already done that, please someone help. How do I manage?

I can't help but think how much I've regressed as a person since COVID. I started college at the end of 2019. During the lock downs, I've distanced myself from any contacts I had from high school and haven't met anyone since. Until recently I didn't think it mattered, I thought I didn't need any meaningful human contact.

In the past couple of months, I started noticing that I'm stuttering more and more, something I never remember doing. I live alone so I never have to talk at home, I don't have to speak at work either, and at school I don't speak much either.

When I do have to talk, I can't seem to put together a train of thought. My sentences are incoherent and I can't put my thoughts into words.

Social interactions feel foreign to me. I've found myself being very easily irritated by others when forced into a conversation. I've started feeling hateful towards people and keep developing a stronger desire to be left alone. I seem to have lost empathy and feel completely numb when faced with challenging emotional situations.

Over the last few years I created myself imaginary friends and a girlfriend. I find myself having conversations with them, have arguments, listening to their anecdotes and stories. This fictional world somehow feels more real than reality.

I don't understand how can I be conscious about this and still keep digging myself into a deeper hole. I know that what I'm doing is wrong but it doesn't feel like it. I have no idea how can I fix myself.

TL;DR - Terrible impulse control caught up to me and now I have no money, I might fail a class, and I can’t find an apartment because I can’t afford a security deposit. I’m so overwhelmed by all of this that I can barely take the steps to solve the problems.

I’m 22F, graduating college next month. I have a terrible history of money management as I’m a really impulsive spender and now it’s coming back to bite me. I have a complicated family situation and though they’re not totally cut off, I can’t live with them because they’re abusive. I need to leave the dorms and get my own place by early June. I’m ok right now because my school pays for everything, but of course that ends next month.

I’m job hunting, apartment hunting, and trying to wrap up finals and assignments. Everything feels like it’s falling apart.

Even though I have a part time job, I have no money because I’ve spent it all. My credit cards are at their limit and even though my credit score is not terrible (630) I can’t open any new ones because I don’t even have money right now for deposits or fees, and my income is only about $15k which no one wants.

I can’t get an apartment because 1) I only have a part time job income and 2) I have LITERALLY no money for a security deposit.

On top of that I’m really backed up on assignments because I struggle with ADHD (which adds to the impulse control problems) to the point that I might fail a class and not graduate next month. I can’t stop worrying about apartments and finances long enough to focus on school, and I can’t even juggle classes and work well enough to go work enough hours in the first place.

For context, yes I’m in therapy, and yes I’m on ADHD medication and antidepressants. High school and college have been really rough for me mental health wise and I’ve had a few inpatient, PHP, and IOP stays over the last few years. My therapist is great and I’ve finally reached a kinda decent point in my mental health (PTSD, OCD, Depression all managed/treated well now), but the stress of this period is really crushing me. I feel totally overwhelmed and don’t know how to fix things.

What do I do and where do I start??

Hey, so I just wanted to ask about how to talk to my parents about my problems since 1. I get anxious to actually start talking to them about it 2. I laugh every time something related to them comes up, being unable to actually talk about ‘em properly and 3. Even if I do think of some things to say ahead of time, I just end up forgetting most of what I was gonna say. What to do?

Just 2 days ago I ate a bad yogurt and got severe food positioning, felt like daggers being shoved into my belly, literally felt like I was going to die, eventually threw up, and still felt bad for hours, but finally felt fully recovered. I assumed it was just that one bad yogurt.

Now here it is about a day later, and I think I ate another bad yogurt, and am dreading the wait to see if food poisoning kicks in again. Is there anything I can do to prevent it from happening? (all 'treatments' seem to be directed to what you do when you have already been poisoned)

I guess I could force myself to throw up right now, but that is incredibly unpleasant, and might not be necessary at all. Is there any way to 'kill' the bugs already in my stomach or something? Would it help if I drank tons of water to dilute them? Should I take laxatives to get stuff flowing and flush them out?

Any suggestions appreciated!

Not sure if theres a specific sub for this topic so please feel free to point me in the right direction. In need of some help figuring out how to go about an independent contractor situation.

I’ve been a contractor at a company for over a year now. There have been “promises” made for months that I’d be getting a full-time offer so that’s why I stuck around that long. Back in February, my manager had mentioned to me that due to cutting down company expenses, they’d like for me to lessen my hours for the month of March. I went from 32 hours a week to about 10.

Fast forward to first week of April, I get another message from manager saying that my workload will be lighter than normal and giving me the heads up that they still need to wind down expenses and that my hours should still stay limited until May the longest.

I sent my recent invoice on April 15 which was the last day of that 2 week pay period. I start getting messages from coworkers asking me to upload all project files and raw videos. Basically insinuating that they have knowledge that my contract has ended…without me being aware. I checked my contract and it does say I need a 2 week written notice. I’ve e-mailed my manager and the HR person and haven’t gotten a response in days. I mentioned to them that per my contract, that 2 week written notice is required. If they really need me to upload and hand off everything I have, I’d have to log more hours for the next pay period and then we can end my contract officially on the last day of the month.

I haven’t gotten a response and I feel like their preference is to just ghost me and hopefully I don’t bother them about this again. I should be getting paid for the first 2 weeks of April but the fact they are requesting (via Slack and personal phone number might I add) for me to hand over all files without me having a clue that they’re ending my contract seems a little shady and unfair.

Do I have means here to involve a lawyer? Do I ignore these messages about providing them these remaining assets? I’m worried they’ll say these assets and files are technically owned by the company. Just a bit confused on how to go about this. Any advice is appreciated.

My entire life; I’ve dealt with people who have bullied me, threatened me and ostracized me. I quickly become the most hated person in the room if given enough time. I’ve faced this cruelty in elementary school, middle school, high school, college, graduate school, online etc. I’ve also had women hate me for no reason and regard me as disgusting if and when they find out I like them

I want to succeed in life. I haven’t been able to get a job yet and I’ve been out of grad school almost a year. I however, don’t want to make new friends or rely on anyone for my success. I want to do it all by myself and without relying on anyone for help.

I know this seems like an impossible goal but I’m looking more for a mindset than a literal way to do this.

My biggest obstacle is other people. They are the ones who hold me back.

My sister lives with me and my girlfriend and our two kids, she has for a little over two years now she came here because her and her girlfriend broke up and she had no where to go, I told her to work on getting her own vehicle first before getting her own place, she hasn't done that yet. I recently was hospitalized for multiple mini strokes and deep vein blood clots so I am in medical leave from my job and it's causing my mental health to decline along with some other issues, I'm starting to get paranoid about her and I don't want to feel that way about my sister. I want to tell her she needs to leave and get her own place, but I have a problem with because my very blunt and I come off rude very often, I don't want to make her feel any type of way.

how could I go about telling her I need her to leave and get her own place?

So I around the beginning of April I used a pre-paid Mastercard debit for $100 that I tried to use on steam to add funds to my steam wallet, which I've done multiple times with gift cards in the past. The transaction instantly failed so I re-tried it a few times to make sure the information was correct and I still got nothing. I then went to Amazon and tried the same thing there with the same results.

I called the card holder service at that point and was told that my card was active and still had the full amount on it but steam had my funds on hold until April 13th. I tried the transaction again on April 15th and got the same results. I called cardholder services again and they told me the funds would be released on the 16th. I tried the transaction again today (the 17th) and got the same results again. I called again and they told me the funds would be released on the 24th but somehow my card is now at $0 without any purchase having gone thru. When I tried to explain that I had been thru this 3 times already I was ignored. When I asked to speak to someone higher up I was ignored.

And during all of this, Steam is telling me that the problem lies with Mastercard, not them. I know $100 gift card isn't a ton of money, but $100 is $100. Is there anything I can do that I'm not thinking of? Am I just out $100?

As I was leaving work I work in the registrar office for a college. I had a car pass me in a turn lane and speed up to at least 35 miles per hour (speed limit is 20 on a college campus) and either almost hit a student or actually hit a student in the process of this happening. The student in question stumbles a bit but seems to be walking it off as I passed him. The car in question did pull over on the side of the road (thus causing more traffic) and proceed to turn off to another street on campus to hopefully check on student. I don’t have a license plate so I wonder if I should let it go or should I say something?

Hello

I'm wondering if anyone in the UK (or anyone anywhere with an ounce of knowledge) knows how to get around free prescription medicine.

Long story short. I work. But due to some slight...issues, shall we say, I can't afford my sertraline (happy pills). I tried to explain my cash shortage but because I work and am only 39 (only 39 he says) I don't qualify for free medication. Which I get. I get they can't hand out left right and centre free. But it means 7 days without the happy pills in my system - and as they took long enough to get in my system in the first place I'm just a bit worried.

Thank you