Ok folks this is a long story but I’ll try to get to the point. In yall’s opinion is this a title ix violation?

I won’t be able to grab coffee today but here’s a rundown of what’s happening, sorry its really long…

A few weeks ago a fifth grade boy was chasing my daughter (we will call her H) at recess (she told him repeatedly to stop) and then ended up grabbing her butt-not an accidental touch, grabbed and squeezed. Two other boys saw it , confronted the boy and told the teachers. Admin called me and told me what happened and that he would have “consequences” and from what I can deduce he was suspended for a day and told to stay away from H.

Fast forward to last Thursday, I get a call that he was chasing her at recess again, she was asking him to stop, he didn’t. She tried to hide and then she says he grabbed her boob. Admin said they cannot confirm it as this time there were no witnesses and they couldn’t see it on the cameras. But since he had been told by admin to leave her alone and didn’t there would be “escalating consequences” I was at a doctors appointment with my son so at this point I just said ok and hung up. But the more I thought about it the more pissed I got. This is not something that H would lie about and they have witnesses that saw him touching her inappropriately before so it’s not much of a stretch to think he’d do it again in my opinion.

Then at a fundraiser last Friday evening she was hanging out with her friends while I was with my son, so not with her, and he came up to her again tapped her on the back and made a “grabbing motion” with his hands at her chest when she turned around. Her friend yelled at him to get away and they ran into the girls bathroom (he chased them) I told admin they said it didn’t happen around at school so they can’t/won’t discipline for it.

Then on Monday this boy was chasing H again at recess she told him to stop several times, he didn’t. She warned him i had given my permission to defend herself if he tried to touch her again. She told me he tried to grab her crotch. She punched him and she got suspended for it. I have 2 kids saying they saw it but admin claims no one saw it and are basically saying my kid made it up the last two times.

I’m sorry, but the school has not kept her safe so she defended herself and I’m damn proud of her for it. This kid is still in school and their “safety plan” they enacted only after the THIRD time is just that they are supposed to stay on opposite sides of the playground for 15 min then switch. And staff will monitor (staff hasn’t monitored it this whole time obviously!!! So not much faith in that!) Oh also admin admitted they have him on video following my daughter to the girls bathroom and waiting “a really long time” for her to come out. Creepy!!!

Does this sound like a title ix violation? Or just sexual harassment?

Recently, my job had an issue with their title IX office. There is an issue of mistrust and needing to work towards restorative practices. If any of you have experienced an incident like this, what did your school do to work towards rebuilding trust? Or you, as a victim, what would you like to see your university do to rebuild that trust?

If helpful, this happened with a Columbia Uni student. Thanks.

TL;DR: Title IX coordinator is a victim blaming jerk and I don't feel safe working with him. Told "tough luck, he's the boss". Who do I complain to?

I'm currently in the investigative process for Title IX at my university. The process has been retraumatizing, not because of having to retelling my story over and over again, but because my story keeps getting intentionally misrepresented by the office. I've received the same victim blaming, minimizing, and mindfuckery I got from the respondent for months. I have been punished for telling classmates about the assault, meanwhile he was allowed to be emotionally abusive in the informal hearing and that went unchecked.

I don't feel safe working with the Title IX Coordinator anymore. I was nervous about it at first because he's a man and I am a woman so I already felt like I had to accept an uncomfortable situation (which parallels how the assault occurred, I didn't want to share a hotel room with a man, the school was basically like, "well tough luck" and I accepted it instead of pushing back). He isn't the only one who's been hurtful, but he's the main one I'm working with. He has said and done too many things similar to my abuser, he has refused to correct his summary of my statement when I pointed out inaccuracies, only doubling down and getting defensive about it. Like, you weren't there buddy. I was. I think I might know a bit more about what I agreed to do than you do. Unfortunately, I was told that this Title IX Coordinator is the boss and I'm probably not going to have another option for someone to work with. I can't work with him, not just for my own well-being, but I also have no respect for this man now and don't think I can hold my tongue in meetings with him anymore.

I don't want another person to have to go through what I'm going through in this investigation. No one should be victim blamed and retraumatized by their university's Title IX Coordinator. We should come through this process reassured that our campus is a safe place and the officials have our backs in keeping it a safe place. Instead, they want to rug sweep and keep a good face. Not by expelling rapists, but by making victims feel bad for coming forward and making noise.

So my question is, who do I go to to complain? This guy might be head of the university's Title IX department, but he's not the head of the university. Someone hired him, and someone has the power to fire him. How do I figure out who that person is? Should I also complain to the state's Title IX Coordinator and/or the OCR?

Hey, just out of curiosity, a MAJOR college near me has an uneven amount of men's and women's sports, with an 8:11 ratio, what are the laws on this and how does it work. Is this allowed, and if not, how long do they have to add more to balance it out?

I (male in his 20s) was r*ped by a college professor (female in her 50s) last spring semester. Essentially, I needed help on an assignment for her class. She invited me to a hotel because she stated that her office hours would not be happening. I went to the hotel. She came out in a bath robe, and started getting flirty with me. I brushed it off and wanted to keep it professional. She offered me lemonade to drink. I initially did not want to impose, but after she kept insisting, I did not want to be rude, so I drank it. I started feeling dizzy, and I fainted. I woke up and was tied down with ducked tape completely naked. My professor then started having anal and oral s*x with me. I was dozed out, and I was fearful for my life. I am African American, so she pretended that I was a slave, and she pretended to be my slave master. She then whipped me several times while I was tied down. I kept begging her to stop. I had tears running down my face. She then took a knife and started cutting me in my thighs. Then, she let me go. I just ran away back to my dorm. When I took a shower, my cuts burned. I felt traumatized. I could not concentrate. I used to regularly go to office hours, but after I explained this situation to one of my professors, he told me that I should not complain because the professor who r*ped me was tenured. After that conversation, he distanced himself from me, and when I went to office hours for three of my classes, the TA's started distancing themselves from me. One TA told me that he did not feel comfortable interacting with me. I had to withdraw with a W from three of my classes that semester. I did not drop the one with the professor who r*ped me because if I did, she threatened to file an academic integrity case against me.

Fast forward to the end of the semester. She asked me to be her boy toy after presentations. I told her that I did not want to do anything unprofessional. She filed several academic integrity cases against me. I lost one of them because the person handling it asked me uncomfortable questions about my assault, and when I refused to answer them, the found me responsible. As I was dealing with the aftermath of my assault, I took a summer course online. While taking that course, I made several suicide attempts, and I consequently failed that course. I got therapy for it.

Then come fall semester, I was working on my fall classes. Then, after October 7, people started discriminating against Jewish students after the who Israel fiasco. When student found out I was Jewish, a few of them broke into my dorm room and beat me. The took my electronics. Then, one of them was gay, and he r*ped me while others pinned me down. They did this on several different days throughout the fall semester. Then, they would graffiti on my room walls. They drew swastikas and wrote the n word. They would follow me into my classes. In the classes, they would do things like put their hands in my pants. They would pinch me. Then, afterwards, when I would leave, if I walked into a restroom or private location, they would follow me and beat me and SA me. I have made several attempts to take my own life. As a result, I failed all my classes for the fall semester.

I have been doing research on what I can do, and I came across this pdf: https://nwlc.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/11/Supportive-Measures-FAQ-K12-vF.pdf

Are the Title IX coordinators required to do something about my failing grades? Are they required to expunge my W's and allow me to redo assignments and exams for classes I failed? Are they required to recalculate my final grades for classes I failed so that any assignments affected by my SA are omitted from the calculation of my final grade? For example, if I failed a final exam, are they required to remove that from the calculation of my final grade and recalculate my grade to omit that exam?

I just want input from a title ix coordinator. Can a title ix coordinator at a university please help advise me?

Hello,

Long story short, this person told me his secret and I don’t actually believe him anymore. I truly think he did that to that poor woman. Further more, I allowed him to defame me to friends and let the statute of limitations on suing him go by, but now I need to tell the world what happened to him because the fact that he abused me and wants me to keep his secret is the definition of abuse, so how do I legally tell people what he did without being sued for defamation my self. Obviously he told me not to tell people but what he didn’t do is tell me not to tell people and keep whatever related mental abuses on that matter to my self. This person not only hurt a woman but he destroyed my life after he got expelled because I was there for him and he took it out all his anger out on me. I admit I believed he was innocent at first, it was all so compelling, but later I started to realize this man is really violent and manipulative. What do I do? I have to tell my other classmates because this feels like manipulation.

The people I've told about the whole incident are mostly friends from my hometown as they were the ones I trusted most at the time. Can they be witnesses?

also will their interviews be in person or can they be done over the phone because many of my friends cant travel to where i am.

I'm looking for information from those who requested an investigation of either a bias incident and/or a civil rights violation at SUNY and especially at Binghamton University. This is not a claim that there are more civil rights violations on SUNY campuses than elsewhere. Other schools post data that SUNY appears unwilling to share. You may reply using your actual name or anonymously using an email constructed for this purpose. If an investigation as conducted, did you think it was a neutral fair process or not? Reply anonymously or with your actual name. The information will not be shared on Reddit or elsewhere. Use an anonymous email and a pseudonym. Describe what happened and send it to AliceFriedmanPhD at gmail dot com. Together maybe we can fuel positive change.

(Also, don't be dissuaded by anonymous troll messages you may see here. Sadly some fragile people seem triggered by efforts to gather information about this issue. They are like Trump defenders who attack Trump critics using ad hominem attacks rather than denying Trump's conduct or claiming the conduct is ok. Cowards!)

Could people give their opinion about this? I am thinking about potentially taking legal action against my university for negligence and emotional distress.. for something that happened to me my freshman first semester in the fall of 2022. The months of fall semester ultimately sent me into a mental health spiral that has affected all aspects of my life both mentally and academically. I'm copying and pasting a speech I gave at a protest below:

"College move-in’s are not supposed to be a nightmare. you might get a weird neighbor, but no one should ever have to deal with what I was given. My entire first semester was a hell on earth– I hardly slept and I dealt with various mental health issues, all because XYZ University did nothing to help my situation

The person in the single dorm beside me sexually harassed me from August to December. He stalked my instagram, stalked my boyfriend, only remembered my name out of everyone on the floor, routinely gave me compliments, woke us up at 5am to talk, and entered my room when I wasn’t there. There are a lot of other instances I had to deal with but through all of my first semester of college, my experiences brought back trauma of past sexual assault and I sank deeper and deeper into my depression and anxiety attacks.

In late September, I emailed my school's Title IX department asking for help after being referred to them by my RA. I met with an officer a week later and told them my story and how my mental health was suffering and how I wanted him to be removed from his room.

They told me “we cannot move someone against their will” yet he was forcing me against my will. I learned the hard way that ironically, the victim has no power in any of these situations because they are not able to enable someone to partake in discussion.

A follow-up email from them stated “Thank you for your confidentiality. We will follow up with an investigation. We will reach out to you within the next few days.” I received no such response. Soon, three weeks had passed and I concluded I had been ghosted by the Equity Office.

In late October, I had to meet with XXPD where they classified my experiences as sexual harassment and the case was forced into Title IX’s hands again. Over the span of the week of Halloween and the week after that, I met with my Community Director, Title IX, and the Dean of Students where I had to repeat my story over and over again only to hear “I’m sorry this is happening to you, there are resources to help you, but we cannot follow through with a no contact order because he has not physically assaulted you nor can we change your room because that is not our department”. (This decision by XXUniversity's Title IX office violates both federal and University Title IX law specifically section III-J-6, which states that stalking qualifies under Title IX’s definition of sexual harassment. The section does not state that physical assault is required to qualify as stalking.) Imagine federally lying to someone in tears. I thought over and over that I just wanted him to touch me to get it over with.

In the beginning of October, I tried to move rooms. My RA emailed my community director but I received no response from him. this was supposed to be an emergency yet when I talked to him, he shrugged it off and weakly apologized to me. I felt so alone and disrespected by the people that were supposed to help me. I was already sleeping in a different room and AU knew about this and still did not expedite my room change because they do not care about their students.

It took almost a month to get a room change, and it was of my own doing. I spoke with my Community Director at least three times and was told “I have no idea what is happening because Title IX has taken control of your housing case” the literal operator of my dorm could not help me because he was not privy to any of Title IX and I’s housing conversations. Yet on top of this, Title IX told me to reach out to the Housing Department asking for updates because they had “no idea” what was taking so long– so I was lied to and told multiple different things and therefore left in the dark.

I then emailed the Director of Housing Assignments begging for a room change. He was the first person to give me a clear answer out of all of Title IX, my Community Director, and the literal Dean of Students. He wrote that I could move rooms the following week. This was October 28th, and I moved rooms November 1st. I had been in conversation about a room change since the first week of October. I am the reason I got what I wanted, not Title IX, not Administration, and not the Dean of Students.

My assaulter is neurodivergent and XYZ University knew this about him. Yet they did not deal with the situation with Neurodiversity in mind. He still bothered me until the middle of November, when I finally told him to leave me alone and never speak to me again."

I am mostly relying on the violation of my university's no-contact order policy, as my harasser did stalk me on all of my socials as well as my s/o and friends in attempt to find information and pictures of me. I'm not sure if this is enough, but this situation has caused me so much pain that I might as well try.. right?

Thank you

some dumb b decided that she would hit me twice.

Her name is _____ _______

Such a nice school like Rice University most definitely has the recording and surveillance equipment to have mitigated that threat to society.

The school chose to have me roofied and raped instead after I supplied evidence of harassment.

I will never be silenced. I haven’t signed a non disclosure agreement or received a settlement for damages. I mean what did they expect?

I want to understand the legal obligations of school staff to act in response to sexual assault/harassment in high school regarding student offenders. My understanding is that Title IX's language is vague enough that it merely compels staff to "act" to end the harassment/hostile environment but leaves a very open ended interpretation available to schools. As in, there is no obligation to act or punish behavior from offending students.

I experienced a period of prolonged harassment by a student that culminated in what would legally be defined as aggravated sexual assault. The upper school principal had a brief talk with the student and told me that there was nothing more the school would pursue since the behavior had ended. It just puzzles me that they took so lightly something that could end up in jail time if I reported it to the police.

I have a question. I just completed my title IX case (I was complainant). And the respondent was found guilty of stalking and suspended for 1 academic year. Will a title IX violation show up on his transcript? Will the fact he was suspended be on his record?

Thank you for your help!

So I know that my program director had a Title IX lawsuit filed against him a few years ago, but my department is very hush hush, so we never found out the verdict. I heard he got a slap on the wrist since he’s our chairman’s right hand man, but is there a way I can find those documents?

my Title IX case at my University ended today, and he was found not responsible. It was an awful trial, and furthermore, I’m exhausted, and emotionally worn down from it. I’m also set to graduate from my university in 10 days and have lost so many friends because of it. Does anyone know if there is a Discord group chat of like Title IX survivors? that would really help me out right now

I know how unlikely it is for me to win, but rape is rape.

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That man is ill. He's a threat to society. He's grabbed my head and tried to force me into head while yelling debasing comments at me.

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He stalks me and torments me nonstop endlessly, be it in person or online. There quite literally is no escape from him, except through death - and I don't mean suicide, I mean I would rather have untreated cancer than deal with abuse.

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Years of counseling showed me who and what he is, a coward.

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So for context: I dated my ex V for a year and a half, until they broke up with me last December. I was explicitly SA'ed two weeks into our relationship but didn't realize it at the time. I still continued to be abused through unsafe BDSM practices for the rest of our relationship. My two close friends, S and E, became closer friends to them after the breakup and distanced from me. In February, though, S came to me and said V SA'ed both her and E, without giving much detail to either. This made me come to the realization of the abuse I went through, as it didn't seem far off for them to do. V's ex before me, whom they dated for three and a half years, also had allegations against them. I tried to help S make a case to take to Title IX, but with the stress of school she dropped pursuing legal action. I technically don't have a case myself since my actual SA happened over a year and a half ago, but I still want to bring V to justice, even for me to just have a restraining or no-contact order against them. What should I do? See if I have a case, help S or E make a case again, or drop this altogether?

I experienced a sexual assault around a year ago at my uni and took a break for a while as it had worn me down in so many ways. I had previously talked to title ix a few months after my experience happened and they were always very speedy to get me in and contact me no matter what. I finally returned back to school this semester, but due to the incident, I had failed and withdrew from all of my classes during the semester of my sexual assault which left me ineligible for any further aid I was given until I met the requirements. I reached back out to title ix about this and they responded very quickly and got me an appointment with them. During my appointment it was decided they would work with the aid office to just wipe my transcript from that semester and that would get me my aid back. It has now been 4 months and I have not gotten an update. I've repeatedly emailed the person I worked with and eventually the office email, and the most i got after 2 weeks of emailing was from the person who I held the meeting with and they said they would provide me an update when they had one. During this time I emailed the bursar and financial aid office about it and they told me that they could not help me and that this is a title ix problem not theirs. It is now the end of the semester and I have a hold on my account to register for any classes because I have not gotten my aid back to pay for this semester yet. I also desperately need to apply to housing but it is full so they closed applications except to first years and new students and once they wipe my transcript I will be considered a first year credit-wise but until then I cannot apply as I have already tried. I have no clue what to do as they've been consistently ignoring me over the issue and there is no one else I can ask. I'm so exhausted, if I can't get my aid back soon I'm going to be forced to drop out and I will not be able to transfer either because of the unpaid tuition and because I'm not in good academic standing. I only took a few classes this semester because I wasn't sure what would happen regarding my aid and I've attended almost all my classes and I'm excelling in them too. I passed all my previous classes prior to the incident and I don't understand why this is such a fight and why I'm being punished. I'm just so exhausted with this school and I really have no motivation anymore because they won't help me I just feel so stuck and I no longer want to even attend here.

I apologize beforehand if this is covered somewhere else: Is there a way to request from your university (or potentially somewhere else) previous Title IX or other sexual assault/harassment allegations against a faculty member?

as a supportive measure, can my school give me minimum enrollment partway through the semester? I was on leave but i really need the privileges of being a student to survive and continue to have access to education. I’ve been having trouble getting supportive measures bc my coordinator has denied everything— no contact orders (for SA and harassment), health insurance, housing (i’m housing insecure).

Is it possible for the University to kick out a student if somebody makes a sexual harassment or assault allegation against them? What is the process like? Do they have to do any investigation before they kick you out?

I was a student under an advisor for research who was very nice at first, but began showing traits where he was very manipulative, controlling, and very explicit in his dealings with female students. I know two classmates did file Title IX, but he moved to another university. Doing some research, it turns out he has a history of this, and just moves on to another place where he continues his cycle. I was going to be a graduate student under him but have since changed my mind on this and he is now holding my independent research hostage (unrelated) but I feel that other people, particularly his new employer, should know about this. The two female students don't feel like anything will come of their reports, and are considering filing at his new university, but also feel it will be a waste of time. Any advice one what they should do, if anything?

I was targeted and framed by an evil ex bf and it resulted in a botched investigation that was super biased just unfair. I participated in a preliminary hearing, and have been waiting to hear back regarding a student conduct hearing, but it has been a year now and I havent heard from the school. They definitely realized their mistakes and how erroneous the entire investigation was, but instead of dismissing the case or proceeding with a student conduct hearing, they just left it how it is without any closure.

As I apply to graduate school, i'm not sure what to do for my application. If I tell schools "I was a respondent in a title ix hearing, but the outcome of the investigation never reached a resolution..." seems insufficient and i'm not sure what to do. What does it mean if an investigation never reaches a resolution? Is this normal?

I go to a well known university in Pennsylvania. My freshman year I was raped on campus while I was still a minor. I ended up doing very poorly in school (since I fell into a deep depression) and had to write a letter detailing why I had performed this way if I wanted to maintain my financial aid. In the letter I detailed I was assaulted on campus, no one ever followed up or asked questions I was just told I would continue receiving financial aid. Fast forward to sophomore year, my rapist was put in one of my core classes. I reached out to Title IX and proceeded to be ignored for 3 months (I sent two follow up emails). At this point my mental health reached an all time low. It felt horrible to finally speak up on what happened to me to be left with the overwhelming feelings that no one truly cared. Or at least no one who could help me cared. Eventually they got back to me (after I started telling all my professors, and essentially anyone who would listen what happened), however at that point it was too late it was already the last week of the semester. I had meetings with the Title IX office, or rather I say the mere singular person who runs the entire office. In this meeting she agreed she failed me and did a bad job.

This has all given me terrible mental health issues and I overall feel that had Title IX answered in the first place things would not have escalated this badly. I had since been in the hospital for mental health issues, seeking therapy, and am currently on a leave of absence from school.

I've been trying to find information on suing a university's Title IX office but can only find information on doing so when you're the defendant, not the victim.

What is everyone's advice, I'd love to hear quite literally anything that anyone has to say.

Thank you guys and stay safe. Remember people love you.