As Salam alkum everyone, soon I'm gonna go into year 10, and for a long time I have been struggling to keep my iman up, (not praying) I do truly believe in allah swt, but really want some ideas to help be get into the habit of being closer to allah swt by praying and doing what is necessary.

I am also really worried I won't do well in year 10 since I am struggling with praying and reading the Quran, and I feel like if my faith isn't better soon for when I'm in year 10, I will fail?

Please give advice and tell me tips for people wanting to get more close to allah and still have that strong connection even during the school year😭🙏

I’ve been in pain for almost a year with this sudden condition that I have tired to seek so much help for but nothing seems to help. I beg Allah for relief, but I’m still suffering. I have faith he’ll heal me one day but when will that day come? How can I get my dua accepted quicker

This is sensitive so I ask you to be gentle please. Kind of long sorry - and sorry for format and grammar.

TLDR: guy SA’d a woman and abused her while they were married - she’s considering doing to the police but fears if it’s the correct move.

Say a man SAd a woman, more than once and she still married him. You can Call it trauma bond, manipulation, etc. basically made her feel like she had something to do with it but the fact is he got an explicit no. It's actually worse bc he knows it happened to her in another relationship. (Yes Zina is haram but that’s not the discussion). He violated her consent and invalidated her fast during Ramadan. They separated later when he kept being violent but she never called police. Part of the reason was because she already married him anyway so she didn’t know if her feelings were even valid - like I said manipulation.

Edit- he’d do the same thing in his parents home. He’d talk to them so nasty and kicked a hole in the wall because they didn’t gift him a car like his sister or something.

Sidebar - Fun thing is she found out he gave her an STD one month into the marriage (though he claims it’s from a previous hookup which he stated he was clean when they started dating - she found out from the gyno - anyways)

He tried for a govt job and an investigator keeps his info. She didn't report at first because she blamed herself for marrying him anyway and hoped he would support his disabled & low income mother (I doubt it now though. He would use her to cover his obligations like rent but buy random food constantly and waste money even though she cooked and packed food that he claimed to like (since he’d eat it all without bothering to tell her so she can make something for herself)

But towards the end it's almost certain he used the woman and her family's money and left after when the abuse cycle was complete. Never paid back anything he was “borrowing”, let her parents pay a vacation even right before separating. He has flipped at this point and tends to switch the story to make the victim look bad - but everything was confirmed in therapy to be trauma reactions to his behavior. He’d lie constantly, never was on top of bills, in general he’d grip her wrists so hard they would be bruised & when she tried to leave he would block the door. If she ever did manage to leave he’d get messy drunk and keep calling while crying and locking himself in the boiler room like a child.

He busted her eyebrow with a door, broke an iPad he bought her, and would smash things when he was frustrated. It hurts more that somehow he acts like he is the one with trauma but she only ever reacted to his abuse.

Anyways she's scared if Allah will take away her opportunities if she does give his confession (he confessed on tape), because that would mean she is causing someone else to lose out on a job. She's also scared he will flip and say she was the one abusing him because sometimes she would have to defend herself. She ended up begging Allah to remove her from his life even if she felt he was part of her would.

He seemingly taunted her towards the end. He kept calling to say he loved her after the divorce, kept asking to talk more, lots of BS. It was so cruel. He pushed the divorce twice and she allowed it. But it hurts that he makes her the villain and he got to talk away. She wishes she was strong enough to herself sooner.

What does she do? She doesn't want him to do it to anyone else but again worries if Allah would frown upon this & she wanted to prevent her family from finding out about it because they won't be able to handle hearing that. She has the investigator’s number and has considered simply sending the confession video - but don’t really want to be involved in a case.

I’m writing a pros and cons list of my death. The only major con I can see is the possibility of not entering heaven even though I’m not worthy to in my own eyes. I am willing to suffer in hell fire for eternity if it’s means my family will have a more positive life in the present. I have nothing else to offer…

I’m sorry, I waited, I tried.

Asalamulaikum, I hope everyone is doing well. I have an exam result that is supposed to come back in a few days. I was wondering if people can make dua for me that I pass my exam. May Allah reward you for this. JazakAllah

As-salamu alaykum,

I am having surgery today/tomorrow to have 2 cancerous tumors from my brain removed InsAllah.

Please make dua that my surgery goes smoothly and that recovery is quick and easy. Amin.

Jazakallah khair.

Asalamuallaikum everyone,

I’ve posted this story before, but deleted it out of embarrassment, so please bear with me.

Last year, I was accepted to two colleges. One was an elite private institution that is one of the best in the WORLD, and the other is a program that allowed me to become a doctor faster and without having to take entrance exams.

I prayed istikhara on what I should choose, and while I really really wanted to go to the elite institution, I chose the latter because I wanted to receive my MD as soon as possible.

However, I’m not performing nearly as well as I thought I would at this local institution, and I’m scared of being dismissed from the program. I’m not doing horribly, but not as well as my other classmates. I still have a few years before I have to worry about not matriculating into the medical portion of the program, but I keep getting scared thinking I made the wrong choice. I keep thinking that I could’ve gone to the elite institution instead and gotten a degree from there which is much less stakes than possibly not finishing the MD program.

Everywhere I go there’s always someone wearing merchandise of the institution or I meet someone who attended there. Every single day.

If anyone could offer some comfort, reassurance, or verses, I would be extremely grateful. I know Allah’s plan is better than mine, and that nothing is possible without His command, but I’m just so afraid. Yesterday, I saw my advisor dismissing a few upperclassmen from the program, and it has sent me spiraling.

I’m making dua that I come out of this stronger and manage to finish the program as a doctor. Please make dua for me as well.

Jazakallah khayr

Assalamu alaikum

"I'll start by saying that with my parents I have always been a respectful daughter. I've never raised my voice at them, I've never had problems at school, never associated with bad people, and I always help my mother with house chores and managing expenses since they don't know how to use online payments. (Sometimes when my mother is sick, I go with her to work to help her, as she is a cleaner).

The thing is, lately my mother has become very sensitive and gets angry with me very easily.

For example, yesterday she came to ask me, in an accusing tone, where I had gotten the money I keep in my drawer in my room, because she had gone through my things while I was at work. I told her that it wasn't right to rummage through other people's things without their permission, to which she yelled at me saying that as long as I live in her house, she has the right to know what I keep, especially since I’m her daughter and I don’t respect her. Once in the past, she even read my personal WhatsApp chats.

Is this normal? Can she look through my personal things without my permission just because she’s my mother? I feel trapped because I won’t be able to leave home for at least another two years (I’m studying medicine and i have still a couple of years before graduating), and her mood swings are making things difficult for me."

Friday reminder

As-salamu alaikum brothers and sisters

Remember to send salawat upon the prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alayhi wa sallam

And Remember to make dua between asr and magrhib

Please stay safe and always read the dua of leaving the house

Bismillaahi, tawakkaltu 'alallaahi, wa laa hawla wa laa quwwata' illaa billaah.

In the name of Allah, I trust in Allah; there is no might and no power but in Allah

❤️

2 guys looked at my shoes and laughed and my heart was boiling of anger so I stared at them and started walking towards them but they kept walking while looking back at me and later stopped following them. And if they only confronted me I think this would go really really bad quick. Makes me realize that my fragile ego is my greatest weakness. And I think the reason why these sort of things touch a sensitive place in me is because I’m very strict on myself and how I make sure I treat everyone around me in a good and genuine way so when one does something to me that I find the opposite of what I give I get this deep urge to punish them by any means even if I die. How do you deal with these sort of situations? something feels off about me.

Hello everyone, I’m a uni student and exams are approaching if you can please make a dua for me to pass my exams. Thank you everyone barak Allah feekum.

When I was little, I had alot of fondness for Islam. I loved praying, sharing hadiths, especially fasting for Allah.

But as I'm growing older, this has changed. I do not harbor the same feeling towards my religion anymore, month by month its dying down.

I have suffered alot in my life, ever since I was 2, living a life of poverty isn't easy at all, that coupled with an abusive father who doesn't care about you and makes your life hell on daily basis.

Even my other relationships like friendships have not been good, I have always had toxic friends and ended up leaving them everytime it got too much for me.

Now that I'm an adult, it's still not easy, if anything it's harder, my father still tortures us on daily basis, I cannot get a job, despite being a topper all my life, I cannot receive further education due to my financial situation. One thing I really loved was studying, it was my escape and now I can't even do that cause in modern world education is nothing but a business, a product. People around me who don't like studying, don't want to study and are bad at it are receiving education at good universities just because their parents have alot of money. I tried scholarships, but even with good grades maximum scholarship you get is 50%, full fledged scholarships are for prodigious kids only.

All of this makes me feel like Allah is being so unfair to me, what did I even do? I don't do any haram, I don’t drink, smoke, get involved in pre martial relationships, I don't sabotage people or do anything evil. I have always helped those around me in whatever way I can. Yet I see people who are the worst human beings to walk on this planet doing all sorts of harm have a better life than me.

Muslims don't help either. The most vile people I met have been the most religious ones. I know most Muslims are extremely bad representatives of Islam, and these people are only hiding their ugliness under the facade of being religious, but it still leaves a bad taste in my heart. Makes me want to stay away from religious people.

I do not like this at all, and wish I do not stray away further from Islam. I want to be close to Allah too, but my dunya makes it harder for me.

Then again there is also this fear of things getting harder, I've always heard from my elders and seen it myself, that Allah repeatedly tests those he loves the most, and this makes me scared of getting closer to Islam. What if my life gets more harder? I don't want that, I'm tired already.

I know all of this comes off as very immature, honestly I know it's immature too, but I can't help how I feel

Salam All

From the past 6 months I have been feeling sad/depressed and all this started due to my work. I am not able to focus on anything except thinking about pending things at work, I feel like I will not be able to live life in this Duniya anymore. I usually have thoughts of ending myself. I have consulted therapy but feels like it isn’t working.

I need help and I am always crying for this same reason, doubting on my ability to work.

I really don’t understand how to get out of this mess.

My prayers aren’t on time I keep skipping. Feels like Allah is punishing me.

Someone please help and advise.

assalamuakium everyone , i am not praying salah no matter what , im 16 i used to pray salah a lot of times when i was during 9 to 12 years old , but then i just stopped i cant get myself to pray its been so long since i have prayed i have become extremely depressed have no friends i cant seem to laugh at jokes anymore i feel like crying i want to repent to allah for all my sins i dont know what to do i tried praying by doing wudu a lot but i forget to pray namaz or " meh ill do it later " i had memorized atleast 4 parah when i was a kid now i forgot everything i feel so gulity , i can only pray properly during ramadan , then after that i cant , you may think this is just a simple kids post who is lazy to pray but no i just cant i feel like i have moved away from allah , ive done many countless sins , my entire is tired i want to do something i have decieved my parents by saying i pray all 5 salah but i dont i lie , i cant tell them that i didnt pray for 4 years , im feeling so scared of the hereafter i just want to pray salah and be a good man in life , then yesterday while iwas sleeping when i saw something i mean something black shadowy stuff i was sleeping but it came closer closer to me i was so scared i couldnt move or open my mouth then it started choking me so badly that i felt like i just died in my mind i kept reciting darood but i had forgotten it then i woke up today morning and i just cried just cried i cant do anything anymore my grades have fallen to the ground ... i want to do something ya allah please guide me

Salam Alakium everyone, I applied for a university program that is very competitive and results should come back in 2-3 weeks. I need dua please. brothers and sisters I have been waiting four years for this opportunity and inshallah I get accepted. I need dua. I have done my part by working hard for years, I have left it to Allah to help ease my path. Jazakum Allah Khair

Is whey found in biscuits and chocolate and cheese flavoured snacks halal? And if pepsin was used to extract the whey will it be listed in the ingredients list?

Friday reminder

As-salamu alaikum brothers and sisters

Remember to send salawat upon the prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alayhi wa sallam

And Remember to make dua between asr and magrhib

Please stay safe and always read the dua of leaving the house

Bismillaahi, tawakkaltu 'alallaahi, wa laa hawla wa laa quwwata' illaa billaah.

In the name of Allah, I trust in Allah; there is no might and no power but in Allah

❤️

Assalamu alaikum, I don’t really know where else to go for this but for context i’m a teen girl, i live with my parents and an older sister but they all have a rough relationship with each other. I feel as if I’m the most considerate person among them which is why they have me act as a middle man during their own conflicts w each other. I always listen to both sides but it’s always frowned upon when i actually say something to defend myself, or when i hold someone accountable for what they have done. I love my family but it’s difficult when i’m dealing with my own problems by myself and i’m exposed to everyone’s difficulties and it’s just dumped on me.

I know how this can sound dramatic but the extent it’s gone to, I genuinely consider just packing my things to leave and never look back or talk to my sister one day when it’s in my capacity. I know these thoughts are wrong but nobody ever realizes how their actions have outcomes on others. There are sm details left out but how do i even go about this, the thought of even leaving all of them alone scares me as i’m sure they will be at each others throats when i’m gone. I know that cutting family off is haram, so what do i do? I don’t want to feel a pit in my stomach everytime i’m around the people closest to me esp when i care about them.

Guys, I have tried read Quran 2 pages daily but after monitoring my self for 3 weeks I just read 3 days specifically so I got the idea of let the number of page be 7 pages and just read in the 3 days. I think I will be more consistent with this and also everyweek I will read about 21 pages instead of just 14 pages. Can I do this or it isn't a good idea to read Quran for 3 days per week only

I have ADHD , it's extremely hard for me to focus on one lecture , I still my try my best , I don't want to fail , I will work very very hard but I need your prayers guys because I'm very worried and stressed

I have something really big happening in my life right now. It’s not confirmed yet, but I’m hopeful and expecting it to work out. I shared it with my professor when he asked me what was going on, but he ended up telling the whole class. Now it’s being discussed in the girls’ group chat, and I’m worried they might put nazr on it and ruin it. I really want this to work out, but now I’m feeling scared and don’t know what to do.

I’m scared please help :/

As-salamu alaikum brothers and sisters

Please make dua that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala heals and guides these 2 women and their families

Friends mom got injured on work

Other friends grandma is very sick

May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala help every muslim and may Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala grant jannah to deceased muslims and may Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala accept our duas and make the things we want good for us all and may Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala reward you for this, ameen

Please stay safe and always read the dua of leaving the house

Bismillaahi, tawakkaltu 'alallaahi, wa laa hawla wa laa quwwata' illaa billaah.

In the name of Allah, I trust in Allah; there is no might and no power but in Allah

Thank you all

❤️

I have ocd and it hadn't come to the point where I was scared of salah, until it did. Today, I deliberately slept until 2.30pm just so I couldn't deal with luhr. I know it's wrong but I was so scared of what I needed to deal with. Even today, I was feeling slightly ill because of how long I am spending in the washroom.

I'm so scared that this will continue forever. Because I can't do this anymore. I feel like I'm drowning and I don't want to live like this anymore.

I’ve been making this dua in all of my prayers for a month now and prayed tahajjud + qiyam al layl and as of today, I know for sure my dua has been rejected.

I know I shouldn’t lose trust in Allah’s (swt) plans but I really had so much hope for this and wanted this so so bad. Was it because I didn’t pray tahajjud enough or wasn’t sincere enough in my prayers or maybe that’s just the minimum?

The dua was just for me to get a place in medicine or at least dentistry in this uni and I thought it was possible also considering Allah (swt) has helped me up until this point. My dad has also worked hard to help me get into these courses and it feels like I’ve failed him. I just need some reassurance, advice, or even a story of your own experience bc i know it would be wrong to lose trust in Allah. Thank you 🙏

A couple sentences to describe my background - I am suffering from a disorder known as ''anhedonia'', the inability to feel pleasure or reward. In my case it is even so severe that I am completely and chronically emotionally blunted. My surroundings don’t have an impact on my emotional state anymore and I even feel a little dissociated at times. Ever since I’ve had this, brain is unable to produce any, let alone happy feelings - it’s completely physical, no emotions or thoughts involved and there is no moment in which I feel any sort of relief from it.

Now here is the issue. Due to my absence of emotions, I practice Islam only because I’m rationally convinced that it’s the truth, not because it gives me spiritual tranquility. I decided to agree to go on an Umrah trip and spend a couple days in Mekka and Medina, which so many people dream of doing at least once in their lifetime without ever having the opportunity to. I am currently in Medina and most people would feel some sort of inner peace or happiness when praying in Masjid an-Nawabi or get really emotional when they see the Prophet's ﷺ grave or pour out their heart while making Du'a in sujood. But to me it just feels like… nothing, I even feel constant distress when I’m there because it’s physically exhausting and exhaustion without a feeling of reward or relief is just, well… exhaustion. People say they feel peace when they’re in the city of Medina but I feel pure discomfort and emptiness just being here.

Now, don’t get me wrong. Intellectually, I know I love Allah azzawajal more than anything and I have no doubt that Muhammad ﷺ is the best of his creations. It’s just my dopamine reward circuit malfunction that is preventing me from feeling spiritual relief or relaxedness. I am also trying to praise and thank Allah as often as possible and still make a lot of adiyat even though I don’t feel true gratitude, I just intellectually know Allah has blessed me with something special.

This is not supposed to be that way. I should feel comfort and inner peace worshipping God and being close to the beloved prophet ﷺ. It is supposed to strengthen my Iman, not lower it. How can I find peace in the remembrance of Allah if everything feels so cold and pointless?

Please make Du’a for me

This quite honestly just a rant cause I have no one else to talk to. I've been suffering ocd in the past month(I had it in 2021, but it stopped because I stopped praying entirely. Now I've turned back to Allah and its back.)

I told my parents about it, that is, everything I know how to say in my mother tongue, yesterday. I was a wreck. I think it was of no use. I can't face them anymore, talk to my mum like usual(my dad and I already have a relationship that consists of very few words.) They see me as this sick child that they can't talk to.

They're always looking at my face to see if I am crying(which I am, all the time but that's besides the point.) They're not intervening when I'm doing my compulsions like they used to and sometimes I feel like they're enabling it. I know they're doing it for me and it makes my ocd monster happy, but is it good for me though? I asked them if I could go to the hospital about it(to get professional help) but I was crying so much during it that I think they didn't hear it. But I can't muster up courage to ask again.

I don't know. I should've just kept it to myself like I did last time. Any advice on how I should deal with this? And please make dua for me, I desperately need it. Jazakallah khair for reading it.

EDIT, the reason I included this on muslim support group is because I have religious ocd (also I'm muslim) and I thought a lot of people on here will better understand my culture and why I needed to tell my parents lol.

It's easier with material damages. Regret, repent, resolve to never do it again and compensate them. It's sort of easy with time (irreplaceable) repay them with your time and dua. What if it's emotional pain?

I was wrong. Completely. It's not a case of "I'm sorry for being rude but I was actually right with the idea, only wrong with my word choice". I was wrong, I detest doing this and... "wasn't feeling myself" is a lame excuse.

I regret it. I have an actual workable strategy to prevent slipping ever again. I've been actually less prone to it lately, until (another lame excuse!) unrelated events happened which broke my sanity to the point of panicking and making bad decisions. I wish I could cancel this.

How do I show them it's not a fake apology? What if they don't want to talk to me? I've been reminded of surah Kahf. You have three chances. After that, it's the separation between me and you. How many chances do we have today?

It's not that I want to necessarily keep that person in my life. This decision is with Allah anyway. I regret hurting them, even if they don't want me back. How does one even heal a heart.

Please pray for us, someone here MUST be in a better position than me, in a better standing with Allah. Please pray that He gives us patience, the ability to repent and to listen, and that all arguments between Muslims are resolved.

I'm sorry and disgusted with this behavior. Can't give details but I've said something inappropriate to a third person which of course got forwarded. Not their fault either, I shouldn't have SAID it, Allah is with every two people speaking secretly, He Knows anyway. Is there anything I can do? Stopping this now and for good is obvious, consider already done.

PLEASE I AM BEGGING PRAY THAT I GET THE HIGHEST GRADE ON MY EXAM AND PASS.

A STRANGERS DUA IS POWERFUL

I WILL MAKE SURE TO MAKE DUA FOR YOU ASWELL (comment below for me to make dua )