Salam, anyone here from Singapore? Looking to connect with sisters that experience hsv2. Need advice on how to cope with it and move on with life.

Assalamu alaikum, I am a 31 year-old civil engineer, I am of East African heritage, and residing in Sweden. I have been diagnosed with HSV2 and am ready to find my other half to complete my deen and build a meaningful future together. I prefer someone of East African origin.

Jumu'ah Mubarak, sisters! I wanted to check in and see how everyone is doing in this thread. As a conversation starter, I’d love to know where everyone is from—it’s always great to connect with one another.

As someone who professionally fosters communication, I’ve noticed an overwhelming focus on marriage in spaces like these, but I believe there’s so much more to explore. It’s easy to get caught up in the search for a partner, but we can also create long-lasting and meaningful relationships as sisters. Let’s be honest, the search for a partner online can sometimes feel exhausting and, frankly, a little draining. I’ve also noticed a lot of sisters on this thread looking a bit lost and unsure of where to turn.

This could be the kind of space I wish I’d had when I first joined this platform—a place to connect, support one another, and share without the constant pressure to focus on marriage. Because let’s face it, there’s so much more to life!

I’ve been inspired by the sister circles I’ve attended in person, and I’d love to bring that same vibe here for us. Oh, and FYI, I’m from the United Kingdom—so don’t be surprised if I throw in a tea joke or two!

I’m thinking of starting a Telegram chat where we can share experiences, resources, and support. If you’re interested, feel free to DM me. Let’s build a strong and uplifting community for each other as we navigate this journey together❤️🥰💁🏽‍♀️

Has there been any actual marriage success stories from this group? Doesn’t appear to be much positive momentum leading to marriage…

Salam everyone, 24F from Australia of Somali descent, working in the health industry. I’ve been diagnosed with HSV2 and am open to relocation. I am looking for a practising brother, preferably Somali, though I’m open to others as well.

Many of us probably are scared to not be able to get married. Me personally, I have additional baggage as I have mental issues, I have not lived my life like a Muslim and have autism as well so my chances of getting married to a Muslim man are very slim. I have been contemplating how to live life without marriage but I always end up feeling lonely. Has anyone here thought about how to live a fulfilling life without marriage?

Getting HSV has completely shifted how I view marriage. Before, I was focused on looks and fulfilling my own desires, often overlooking the deeper qualities that truly matter in a spouse. I thought more about outward traits and less about things like character, faith, and emotional connection. Since my diagnosis, my perspective has changed in a big way. It humbled me and made me realize the importance of finding someone who values sincerity, empathy, and understanding. It’s not just about what I want anymore, it’s about building a meaningful partnership based on shared values and mutual respect. Honestly this experience has made me look deeper into who a person is at their core rather than judging by surface-level traits. It’s not easy to open up about something personal like HSV, but it’s taught me to prioritise honesty and emotional maturity. While it hasn’t always been easy, I know this shift in perspective is guiding me toward a better foundation for a future marriage, Insha’Allah.

I am very careful to not be giving any medical advice or guidance nor am I requesting any advice.

At the lowest point it feels like if there’s an incling of hope for a cure, we can easily fall for it due to being caught when we are at our most vulnerable moment.

Does anyone (from an unfortunate experience) know if the Hekma Centre is a scam?

This is not to promote any cure as I myself am the first to be skeptical of something like this. I just wonder if anyone actually has been caught short and only then to find out they’ve been scammed.

I'm speechless to be very honest, all I do is to cry myself to sleep every night. I'm dying

Salam Everyone,

Welcome to Open Discussion Sunday! As mentioned in our first open discussion post, This is your bi-weekly thread to chat about anything you wish. Whether it's related to HSV or any other topic. Feel free to share your thoughts, questions, and experiences, or simply enjoy the company of the community.

A side note for sisters, there is a channel on discord that is a sisters only space. It is managed by a female moderator where we have been told it is quite active on there.

You can utilise the discord channel to connect with other sisters or always post here on Reddit if you'd like any sisters to reach out to you.

Please remember, while we are here to support each other, the discussions in this forum cannot replace medical advice from a healthcare professional or Islamic advice from a qualified scholar. We hope you have a great weekend!

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Salam everyone,

I’d love to share my story. This past summer, I hit my lowest point. I spent so much time feeling sorry for myself and dwelling on everything I’d lost. But eventually, I snapped out of it. I made the decision to completely turn my life around, and it’s been a 360-degree transformation. Instead of focusing on the past or who I was without HSV, I’ve worked on becoming a better version of myself.

I’ve been at the top of my health journey, improving my physical and mental well-being, getting closer to Allah, and letting go of many of my bad habits. It’s easy to get caught up in the negatives, but shifting my mindset has been life-changing.

At one point, I couldn’t stop wondering, “Who would want to be with someone with HSV?” But instead of dwelling on that, I poured love into myself. I took the time to truly get to know and care for myself. Now, even if I don’t end up with someone, I know I won’t regret it because I trust that Allah has already written everything for me.

Alhamdulillah, this journey has helped me grow in ways I couldn’t imagine. I’d love to hear your stories—how has your journey been? I know it’s so easy to focus on the negatives, but has it led to any positives in your life?

Ive previously disclosed to 6 Muslim men about HSV, 1 of them wasn’t too sure so we left it which is fine. The other 5 were fine with it (2 of them had it themselves, 1 with oral and the other with both) the others didn’t know their status and weren’t very educated on it but I explained what is was and risks and they were game.

I did a little social experiment on Muz social (with good intentions of course) and put a post up a while ago seeking someone with HSV, the post itself got a lot of engagement - mostly positive which shocked me 😂 but within an hour I had 10 DMs from brothers in the UK that had HSV themselves.

It is SO common!

Salam Everyone,

Welcome to Open Discussion Sunday! As mentioned in our first open discussion post, This is your bi-weekly thread to chat about anything you wish. Whether it's related to HSV or any other topic. Feel free to share your thoughts, questions, and experiences, or simply enjoy the company of the community.

A side note for sisters, there is a channel on discord that is a sisters only space. It is managed by a female moderator where we have been told it is quite active on there.

You can utilise the discord channel to connect with other sisters or always post here on Reddit if you'd like any sisters to reach out to you.

Please remember, while we are here to support each other, the discussions in this forum cannot replace medical advice from a healthcare professional or Islamic advice from a qualified scholar. We hope you have a great weekend!

• The Mod Team

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

I am a 45F seeking a husband age 45-52. I was diagnosed with HSV 1 & 2 last year. I live in Atlanta, GA and I am African American. May Allaah make it easier for everyone here and grant us success in this life and the hereafter.

I created a new post to ask for help in creating a group for us. It would be helpful if people can engage with the post so it doesn't get lost in the timeline.

https://go.muzz.com/mIrG0G5caOb?referrer=srf_2cvJpnbIcmazPHplJmRnYdvnc8g&location=post

Asalaaamu Alaykum. After reading such encouraging posts, I can confidentially say...profile is made. Insha'Allah I'll find a match.

Salam Everyone,

Welcome to Open Discussion Sunday! As mentioned in our first open discussion post, This is your bi-weekly thread to chat about anything you wish. Whether it's related to HSV or any other topic. Feel free to share your thoughts, questions, and experiences, or simply enjoy the company of the community.

A side note for sisters, there is a channel on discord that is a sisters only space. It is managed by a female moderator where we have been told it is quite active on there.

You can utilise the discord channel to connect with other sisters or always post here on Reddit if you'd like any sisters to reach out to you.

Please remember, while we are here to support each other, the discussions in this forum cannot replace medical advice from a healthcare professional or Islamic advice from a qualified scholar. We hope you have a great weekend!

• The Mod Team

I found the love of my life and he is ok with me having hsv2. He LOVED the honesty and is thee most kind, caring, and ambitious man and he loves everything about me. Just waiting on my wakil atp. Just wanted to let you guys know there is hope…. When finding out in February, I thought life was over for me but Alhamdulillah I found someone who is as accepting as myself.

And for the men out there wondering if a woman would accept you, I accepted the person who gave it to me. Though he violated me in the worse way possible, I would’ve been ok with marrying him even knowing he has hsv2. Alhamdulillah for it all. The good and the bad. It’s the qadr of Allah SWT. I’ll make dua that all of the ummah find a person to marry In shaa Allah ta’ala. Despite having these ailments.

Hello I hope your all good! I am a Muslim guy alhamdullilah age 24 just got HSV 2 and I feel very sad honestly I would like to meet someone with same condition. I am living in Sweden

okay, I been back for about a week - what do I notice. oh wait, I was gone for about 8 months. So, in the past week, I see the usual behavior: newbies join, then look for support. I see Ole heads, trying to figure out how to create an hsv movement - goals unidentified, a lot of words, no strategy. i do see a new post, maybe a new trend, contacting mainstream marriage sites. been there done that; I wouldn't expect a response that leads to action, moving on. I see the website, no content or unique value proposition. just generic stuff that would not persuade me - did i say no strategy, yeah I did - MIA audience unknown. NEEDS persona, fears, problems turned in solutions - a communications framework. stuff that is engaging, but i saw SO WHAT. Anyway, I mentioned the hsv topic should be incidental because the direct approach is NOT discrete. when you lead with Muslim with hsv, you just lost the game because your audience want anonymity. ahh, make hsv a subtopic, a bullet point and stop trying to hook people up. approach: you need one milestone reached - DISCLOSURE. the how: 1st, engaging content that speaks to the heart. 2nd a form. after that people go their MARRY way.

Salaam. I tried reaching out to Muzz multiple times about creating a group for us but no word. It could be that they just need more people interested? If a bunch of people created an account and requested a Muslims with HSV group, maybe they'll pay attention 🥲

Sometimes it hurts more to hold on.. let it go… let go what doesn’t make you happy, let go what is toxic and has no benefit to you, let go of what ever is stopping you from healing. Allah has chosen us to be this way so say Alhamdulillah! Allah is the absolute best of planners ♥️

I wonder how other Muslims react when they hear about a Muslim with hsv. I wonder how they think.

Asalamu alakium how is everyone? I’m new to the group, not looking for marriage just yet but In sha Allah in the future!

I came across this post today, and it really resonated with me! I remember when I was first diagnosed, seeing posts that said, "it gets easier," and thinking there was no way I could ever get past the anxiety and sadness.

But with time and a lot of self-reflection, you come to realize it's not the worst thing in the world.

I truly appreciate how supportive this group is! It's great to see so many sisters and brothers sharing their experiences to help others be in a better headspace.

Assalam-O-Alaikum,

I was diagnosed with HSV2. I am 26M. I am based in Lahore, Pakistan. This thing shooked me completely in the beginning. later on, I found it to be much better in nature. I used to offer salah off and on before the diagnosis, but this has brought me closer to the almighty. The only thing that concerns me now is the consistent peer and family pressure for marriage.

Things don't work the way they do in the West. Nobody knows about my diagnosis except my doctor.

I am certain if I reveal this to my family they gonna cut all ties with me. And there is no guarantee if I divulge this information with the proposals, which my family is asking to check, they won't.

Looking for a life partner who can complete my deen and be a source of contentment with this towering hopelessness to never have a partner.