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Let me start off by giving a little context. My mum is verbally and mentally abusive. How? Not a day goes by where she compares me to everyone and anyone. My siblings, my cousins, family friends, and anyone else my mum could compare me to. From the moment i started my early teens all the way up to my early twenties my mum has done nothing but shame me, degrade me, disrespect me in ways i cannot explain, slapped me & more. A day cannot go by in her books where she won’t say “You will not succeed in your academics” or “Your cousins are way better than you, why did i have to have you as a daughter and not them instead” even a “You’ll not be anything in this life, you’re lazy, you can’t cook, you don’t clean the house, and you’re dirty” She even insults me multiple times in our home language and this repeats every single day.

I don’t react anymore but some days are harder than others and have to speak up for myself. Also, i’m my mums only daughter after 4 boys and oh how she would not dare to think or speak like this to her precious boys.

In the Quran, Allah stresses the importance of the mother's responsibility in parenting children. As a result, one should be more respectful to mother. Following Hadith also states the importance of mother more than father.

But the question i have always had in my mind due to my mothers verbal abuse is, how am i meant to treat my mother with so much kindness and respect after her constant harsh words day in and day out.

I always said to myself why couldn’t my mum be my safe haven where i can come to speak to her about anything like everyone else’s mother. I always try and give my mother nothing but respect whenever she insults me i always stay quiet, whenever she shouts i always speak in a soft tone but that only seems to anger her more, it’s as if she wants me to fight back so then she has more excuses to shout and scream. She even threatens me by saying “Me and you will be done forever” if you marry, so and so “Don’t expect me to be in your life if you marry him” to all the guys i even show a little interest in to marry. I’m tired of this mental abuse and i have no one to turn to for advice or help.

My mother is muslim by name and not by faith, what i mean by that is If the one who does not pray does not do it because he denies that it is obligatory, even though he is aware that Allah has commanded that prayer be established, then he is a kaafir and an apostate according to the consensus of the ummah. So many would call “muslims” who do not pray a kaafir so i do not know if i can even call my mother a muslim.

Before i continue, i apologise if this is written poorly as i’m typing this in middle of the night and need to let my thoughts out. Apart of me thinks my mum is like this due to her never praying her salah, and doesn’t see any goodness in showing kindness to her daughter. She is always bitter and has been unpleasant for as long as i can remember but i cannot do anything about it as Jannah lays beneath our mother’s feet.

What i truly want to know is why isn’t this topic spoken more about, abusive parents in islam and what you could even possibly do, as in islam, respecting parents over everything.

My mom’s side of the family is what you would expect from a family, loving and supporting. My dad’s side of the family however is a family that treats me like a price of garbage, but not all of them do that… most of them do. I don’t want to cut contact with the ones that don’t treat me badly, we don’t talk much either way, not that we are fighting, we just don’t talk much.

Long ago, when I moved houses as a kid, they started to annoy me about visiting them because I was closer. I went the first time, it was normal and nothing bad happened. I went a second time and my grandmother shamed me for so many things out of my control and she made me feel worse and more insecure about myself.

My dad is the type of person to do anything terrible and think it’s okay and day later, and he asks way too many questions about my life that he shouldn’t be asking; he doesn’t live with me and even a dad who lives with his children wouldn’t want to know about such things.

The very last time I went to my grandmother’s house, she kept forcing me out of my room to go and see the dogs but I have a severe phobia. The type that will make me scream at the sight of dogs. She kept pulling my arm like a barbarian and forced me out. My mother told my grandmother not to do that but she continued anyway. I got an unbelievable amount of panic attacks that visit.

As soon as I came back, I promised myself I would never go there again unless I wasn’t going to see the family I couldn’t view as my family anymore. The things I said above are just a small amount of things they did.

Ever since, my grandmother kept counting the years and telling me that I haven’t visited her in 2, 3, 4, years, etc. she was guilt tripping me.

I want to cut them off so much but I know it’s a major sin and I’ll be held accountable on the day of judgement.

Salam,

Are there any verses or Hadiths where Allah doesn’t accept someone’s prayers or repentance.

Say if someone killed or hurt or raped another person. Or abuses or terrorises or slaps. Changed their life but didn’t fully repent as they can’t find the person or they don’t want to be found or it might make situations worse.

Will the prayers still be accepted as the repentance isn’t valid as the other person hasn’t forgiven them?

I’ve heard off one scholar or mufti that the doors to repentance closes and Allah closes all doors for them

Jazakhallah khair

Salam wa Rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. Does anyone have experience with itikaf + are there Sunnah resources for how to perform itikaf?

Long story short - I unfortunately have desires that are haram to act on, have had them since I can remember, & knew I had them before puberty. Alhamdulillah, they will probably be present the rest of my life, Allahu A’lam.

I’m in university so not sure how feasible it is rn, but I know that if I carry on as an average person who enjoys the freedoms of being out in public at the same frequency as most ppl do - it’s going to be impossible for me to abstain from behaviors at some point. Society has unfortunately been reduced to people, irrespective of gender, looking their best all the time - & I don’t think I need to mention the pornified nature of media & other once safe aspects of western lifestyle (based in the U.S.). The picture I’m trying to paint is being as free as anyone else in this society will ruin me, and I know it. I’m still somewhat young so I’m working on myself of course, but in the meantime. As a safeguard, until I can Insha’Allah guard myself from the satanic attack of society whilst integrated into it.

The masjid is my only solice, it’s the only place where I yearn to go when I’m not occupied. It’s the only place where at times I can feel Allah inspiring me to go bc he knows through his infinite & all-encompassing wisdom that it’s good for me and that it’s the only place where I don’t feel compelled to sin in the way I do most other times due to the sanctity & divine blessing of his house. I rly need anything anyone can give me so I can create a game plan and test it out.

In order to address any possible & slightly expected follow up questions:

• yes, I see regular scholarly support for my affliction.
• yes, I study inside school and Ilm outside university.
• yes, I of course am always striving to increase my Adkhar, Quran, Salah (beyond Fardh), etc.

As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I’m reaching out to this community in search of duas, surahs, or any specific routines anyone may have followed that helped them with health issues. Alhamdulillah, I’m doing my best to stay strong, but I believe in the power of prayer and would love guidance on what I can do regularly to seek Allah’s mercy and healing. If anyone has recommendations—whether it’s a particular surah, dua, or even personal experiences of routines that helped with healing—I’d be very grateful for your advice.

Jazakum Allah khair for any help and may Allah grant shifa to all those facing health challenges.

I live in a third world country and in a village. I fed a stray dog for a week and yesterday I was looking for to give him a bath because he had tics and what not. He was breathing with alot of difficulty and couldn't even keep his head upright. I took him to the vet and got an injection and was asked to wait 24 hours for improvements. The poor baby was in so much discomfort, pain and breathing difficulty that I couldn't put him through it.

His blood was basically water at this point. I had to make the decision to euthanize him just 20 minutes ago. I didn't opt for treatment because I can't afford it , even if I manage to afford it my parents won't let me keep him even for taking care. There is only one shelter in my entire province which wasn't picking up the phone, I had to take my sister for her check up.

I think I made the wrong call, I shouldn't have. At the time it felt right but now the what ifs are killing me ? What if he could have lived a long happy life ? I choose my money and parents over his life

Salam, the title says it all.

The last 14 months have been an emotional, mental and physical roller coaster to say the least. got laid off and still haven’t been able to find a job. applying everyday. crying because of the constant rejections despite fixing my resume to match the job requirements but also remembering that Allah wants the best for me. I’m a very patient person but being 31 I have never felt more of a failure. I don’t want to complain but everyday just feels harder and harder. being hopeful and have trust in Allah is hard. I feel so numb to everything. I avoid having out friends because I don’t want to hear all of the good things happening to them tbh. I wouldn’t say I’m jealous and I know shouldn’t compare as it’s unhealthy but I feel like my life is so sad and depressing compared to theirs. I don’t see this as a punishment but obviously a test. I feel like Allah is mad at me sometimes (Allah forgive me for saying this) because I don’t feel like a good Muslim even tho I don’t take part in sinning. I’ve prayed to die so many times but what’s the point when it’ll break my family’s heart. I keep trying to do the best I can but it doesn’t feel enough and I’m so tired. tired. it’s gotten to the point when I pray salah I’m just praying because I have too. I don’t know anymore who or what I am except the fact that I’m a useless human being

Hazrat Abu Hurairah (raa) relates that the Holy Prophet (saw) said:

"It does not befit a Siddiq (A true man) that he should opt to cursing."

(Sahih Muslim, Riyadh us saleheen number 1552)

Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatulllahi wa barakatuh,

The Prophet Muhammad SAW said:

“The strong man is not the good wrestler, but the strong man is he who controls himself when he is angry.”

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 6114, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2609

Just wanted to make a post about this and ask some questions because I am really lost about this. My gf(f25) is newly converted(reverted) to Islam. Me(m28) is just having a little trouble wrapping my head around things. I’m of Christian faith so to speak. We’ve only been dating for 3 months but I just have concerns about how it will affect our relationship going forward. She loves me and claims I’m the only one she wants to be with. But I don’t want her to resent me in the future for not being of the same faith. Her family is catholic so she is the only one if her family who is of Islamic faith so the whole converting for her family thing is out of the question. But I know that a male figure for a Muslim wife is a big thing and I just don’t know how to feel about her starting to dress more modestly (hijab, covering herself, lifestyle) is all going to affect me. I personally love the way she dresses and her style was the one thing that attracted me to her in the beginning aside from her great personality and I’m afraid of never seeing that side of her again. I do my best to encourage and support her by making sure she does her prayers and things like that. But I lady was know that us being sexually active and things isn’t helping her be true to her faith and I don’t want to hold her back. Ofcourse I don’t force her to do anything she isn’t comfortable with. I just want don’t want to lose her or end things for selfish reason but I don’t want to feel invalidated by that. I guess I’m just asking for help or tips or anything that can help me see things in a more positive light. Please ask me to clarify or expand upon anything. Thanks for help if any at all.

I know a lot of people are making a big empathize on the marriage aspect which is the goal later down the line as I date to marry. But maybe you can all help me on more so on adjusting to the lifestyle aspect of things without really pushing the religious aspect on me.

Salam aleikum, everyone. I’m not sure where to begin, but I feel that I have sinned a lot. Whenever I pray, I feel guilty and believe that I don’t deserve to pray because I’m not a good person. I try to avoid thinking about my sins, but I can’t, even after cutting all contact with the person involved. Please be kind; I just need some advice because every time I pray, my heart feels heavy.

I’ve been struggling with a lot of difficulties this year and through the grief I’ve been having a hard time feeling a connection with Allah. I used to feel Him with me all the time, and I developed a genuine love and appreciation for my Lord. However, ever since my life has changed in ways I don’t really understand, I’ve been feeling abandoned and just not as connected as I used to.

What should I do to restore my faith? I pray but feel nothing :( I know it’s an issue on my end as Allah is always near. How do I become receptive to it again?

My sister and I had a convo she said something like this "if i follow all of the rules of Allah then I end up in hell what's the use" "why do women need to cover alot" "Allah created men with wanting women so how is it their fault we have to cover" i honestly didnt know what to reply so can someone answer these questions

Before I reverted I never considered myself sexist, but embracing and learning about Islam made me realize just how wrong it is to even subtly objectify women. Learning the importance of lowering my gaze madr me hyper aware of the habit of just allowing myself to be casually aroused by random women's beauty.

Salam!

Im just confused slightly.

What if someone leaves islam but still has imaan in their heart?

And then as allah said that even someone with a mustards seeds worth of imaan in their heart will come out.

So what would happen with that person? They left islam but still know its real but refuse to come into islam?

Assalamalaikum, I am a 19 year old muslim man and have been going to community college to be a automotive technician but honestly I have changed my mind since I was never interested in cars but just made a stupid decision. Inshallah I am planning on finishing my current semester and using my automotive class credits to transfer to a 4 year college. Please give me advice for a career to do bachelors degree in and get a job with no riba involved. If it's possible for me to get deskjobs without getting a degree then please do share those as well. I have been working for last three years but I am looking for a real career that pays in the 55 to 70 thousand range if possible. Also I live in midwest United States.

I just want to know if this is a shared sentiment, please do share your stories. I just feel that my problems are so trivial, of course I am not suffering and there are so many worse off than I am and I am so grateful for that. Regardless, I do have problems and they give me a lot of anxiety, this leads to mentally spiralling and just really rough days, I always make dua for Allah’s help, it’s just that I feel so ungrateful considering that these problems aren’t even a fraction of what billions of other people are going through, they’re the ones that deserve to be helped. How do I overcome this? It makes me feel really bad that my problems aren’t worth divine intervention as they really do take a toll on me both physically and mentally.

There are a few bottle bidets on the market now and I was wondering if it would be something the muslim community would find value in?

I designed the smallest bottle bidet to solve this issue for myself but figured it may solve it for other brothers and sisters as well

You can see my design here: https://www.etsy.com/ca/shop/PRZRVE?ref=seller-platform-mcnav

Salam everyone! I have a dearest friend who is so hardworking and a really inspiring person. She has board exam results coming out soon, please make dua for her to pass and be content 🙏🏽🙏🏽 stranger’s dua can really create miracles! Jzk

Assalamu'alikoum warahmatulahi wabarakatuhu,

I’m working on a project focused on making the job search easier and more aligned with Islamic principles, and I’d love to hear from the community about the specific challenges you’ve faced when looking for jobs.

Some Questions to Spark Ideas:

1. Are there specific aspects of job listings or industries that make it hard to find roles aligned with your values?
2. Have you encountered any difficulties at work due to faith-related practices, like prayer times or dietary needs?
3. What do you wish existed in a job search platform to help you find work that feels right?
4. Have you ever had to make compromises due to a lack of halal-friendly job options?

Why I’m Asking:
Before building anything, I want to understand the real problems out there and see if a platform focused on halal job listings could help address these issues.

I have personally worked in a company that has the majority of its income from haram sources. After speaking to scholars I decided to leave. I want to work on a preventative measure insha'Allah to help people from falling into the same predicament

Thanks so much for any input you can provide! Your feedback can help create a resource that truly supports Muslims in finding careers aligned with their values.

The moderators banned any posts related to marriage on here, hoping to develop diverse discussions. But that did not work out quite well. It seems like people are just flooding the sub with their skeletons from their closet.

More importantly, this trend reveals a rising problem within the Muslim communities at large, especially in the West. I would say that the Muslims are the ones who have dug themselves into this hole. It is no secret that the West is already a very corrupt place to began with. Isolation is at an all time high in these countries. On top of that, young people are at the peak of their desires. Not only that, most of these young people do not posses substantial Islamic knowledge, and they lack the faith to go with it. What do you expect would happen if they were to put in a mixed environment, where the boundaries with the opposite gender are incredibly lax? You can even say that it is analogous to sending a physically unfit and untrained person to take a deep dive in the deep sea.

As'salaam alaykum my brothers and sisters.

Let me start off by saying: I know we are all exhausted and sad by current world events and this is small in comparison. However. I've been seeing posts on here and the other Islamic subReddits that Muslims aren't voting or if they are, they aren't voting Dem.

It's totally your right to vote however you want. I am just compelled to make this post and implore those who can vote here, to go out and vote Dem. Vote for Harris. Please. I know she isn't the ideal candidate when it comes to Islamic issues and views. I'm not denying that. It would be great if we had someone who made it a point to address Palestine. I'm with you on that.

My point is this: when it comes down to it, there is really two choices. Democrat or Republican. Green party or anyone else has never won. They never get close. Nobody has heard of them. They don't get any air time or travel to cities. Again, not fair, but that's the reality. It's going to come down to Kamala or Tr_mp. That's what we are looking at and I'm scared he will win. I'm scared it will be close and things will happen. We can't help Palestine or anyone else if we ourselves are under his dictatorship. Because that's what he wants. He wants to turn the army on those who don't agree with him. He's said it. His cult fanatics want it.

So I'm here to beg and plead to please vote. Please, I know not voting is an option and that you might vote for a third party, but it's honestly a waste. I'm sorry. Maybe in the future it will change, but right now this is what we have. My heart hurt when Kamala gave her one speech and didn't really address Palestine. Trust me, it hurt and made me question. At the end of the day though, we are down to someone, Kamala, who isn't perfect, but she is the only one of the two who would listen. Can you imagine trying to get a policy or anything to help Palestine or anyone else under Tr_mp? I can't. He won't. Kamala seems like a smart, caring woman who would at least listen and want to help. She is 100% more likely to hear us out, the people, than he would.

Again, I understand you have a right to vote for who you want or not at all. I do and I respect that. As a fellow Muslim, a woman, and much more, I'm begging you to please consider voting for her so we can have a chance to help our brothers and sisters everywhere. So we don't end up in a bad situation in our own country and need saving too. Please, I know this isn't the best or what you might want, but look at the facts. Not voting is a vote for him.

Ya Allah, please help our brothers and sisters in Palestine and around the world. Please grant them victory over their oppressors. Please grant them safety and good health. Please grant them peace and what is good in this life and the hereafter. Ya Allah, please forgive them and us. You are the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful. Ameen

Narrated Amir ibn Mas’ud: The Prophet ﷺ said: “The easy reward is fasting in winter.”

“Easy” meaning something that is gained with little effort and hardship, as Mulla Ali al-Qari pointed out. The meaning of this hadith is that it is easy for one to fast in the winter due to the short days, making it possible for a person to earn reward with ease as they don’t feel as hungry as if they fasted in the summer due to the longer days and hot weather. So this hadith encourages the Muslim to fast during the winter, as this is a big and easy reward, and one won’t feel as thirsty or hungry compared to fasting in the summer!

Al-Turabushti said: “...indicating that fasting in this season achieves a reward that is unmatched by other acts.” [Al-Maysir fi Sharh Misbah al-Sunnah 2/478]

So one can fast whatever is possible for them; they can fast Mondays and Thursdays as it is Sunnah, or one of the two or both, whatever they find easy. They can also fast the three white days of each month or fast every other day like Prophet Dawud, but one should try doing what they find easy, and Allah Knows Best.

[Sharh Muhammad ibn Javed ‘ala Sunan al-Tirmidhi 797]

I’m really curious about the stories of reverts who didn’t grow up exposed to Islamic religion and culture.

If you are alone, how did you find community?

It seems my problems have piled up and there's no way out. but God has the keys but yet I transgress . make god forgive us all

Facing to resistance to do good deeds, I'm potentional seeking a friend of Allah who can make Dua on my behalf

Salam.

▪️when did Allah ordered by the prayers we so? • Praying five times was made mandatory following the Night Ascension when the Noble Prophet set on the night journey from Mecca to Jerusalem and then past the Seven Skies

▪️Surat Al Isra is Chapter 17 🔸

▪️How many Arabic Letters were used in the Athan?

• 17🔸 ( total arabic letters are 28)

▪️Total Rekaat in Salah per day?

• 17🔸 impressive right?

And some come and say that the quran isn’t from Allah🤯 man!!! It’s impossible to be written by humans with all these miracles!!!

The clothes I’ve been wearing recently have been more revealing (like tighter) than what I used to wear and I didn’t think much of it because well it’s not super tight and I always wear cardigans and skirts so everything is loosely veiled except my waist area (usually the cardigan covers that too)

But after a certain incident with the opposite gender (ugh) I’ve been overthinking this like crazy and I don’t know if it’s a sign that I need to improve my modesty or not. It’s difficult because I see other hijabis wear what I wear but tighter and it looks fine on them. I thought it looked fine on me too, until that happened. I don’t really feel the urge to impress the opposite gender either so I never thought much about my clothes, and I didn’t feel like I was doing anything wrong.

Asalamualaikum,

There is a book, Prayers for Forgiveness : Seeking Spiritual Enlightenment by Al-Hasan Al-Basree.

Where did he get these prayers and duas from? were they just put into arabic? or are there hadiths for all of them? I'm specifically curious about the one below:

للّهُمَّ إِنِّيْ أَسْتَغْفِرُكَ لِكُلِّ ذَنْبٍ لِّيْ وَأَسْأَلُكَ أَنْ تَغْفِرَ لِيْ مَا أَحْصَيْتَ عَلَيَّ مِنْ مَّظَالِمِ الْعِبَادِ قِبَلِيْ فَإِنَّ لِعِبَادِكَ عَلَيَّ حُقُوْقًا وَّمَظَالِمَ وأَنَا بِهَا مُرْتَهِنٌ اَللّهُمَّ وَإِنْ كَانَتْ كَثِيْرَةً فَإِنَّهَا فِيْ جَنْبِ عَفْوِكَ يَسِيْرَةٌ اللّهُمَّ أَيُّمَا عَبْدٍ مِّنْ عِبَادِكَ أَوْ أَمَةٍ مِّنْ إِمَائِكَ كَانَتْ لَهُ مَظْلِمَةٌ عِنْدِيْ قَدْ غَصَبْتُهُ عَلَيْهَا فِيْ أَرْضِها أَوْ مَالِها أَوْ عِرْضِها أَوْ بَدَنِها أَوْ غَابَ أَوْ حَضَرَ هُوَ أَوْ خَصْمُهُ يُطَالِبُنِيْ بِهَا وَلَمْ أَسْتَطِعْ أَنْ أَرُدَّهَا إِلَيْهِ وَلَمْ أَسْتَحْلِلْهَا مِنْهُ فَأَسْأَلُكَ بِكَرَمِكَ وَجُوْدِكَ وَسِعَةِ مَا عِنْدَكَ أَنْ تُرْضِيَهُمْ عَنِّيْ وَلاَ تَجْعَلْ لَّهُمْ عَلَيَّ شَيْئًا مُّنَقِّصَةً مِّنْ حَسَنَاتِيْ فَإِنَّ عِنْدَكَ مَا يُرْضِيْهِمْ عَنِّيْ وَلَيْسَ عِنْدِيْ مَا يُرْضِيْهِمْ وَلاَ تَجْعَلْ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ لِسَيِّئَاتِهِمْ عَلىٰ حَسَنَاتِيْ سَبِيْلاً. 

70. O Allāh, I seek Your forgiveness for all my sins. I ask You to forgive me for all my wrongdoings [mazālim] against people that You have recorded, for there are many rights [huqūq] and dues [mazālim] owed to Your servants that I am burdened with and for which I am hostage [murtahin]. O Allāh, even if these (wrongdoings) are many they are insignificant in comparison with the magnitude of Your forgiveness. O Allāh, any male or female servant of Yours who has rights upon me, in either that I have unjustly taken from him [ghasabtu] in regards to his land, possession, honor, body; whether he was absent or present; or he or his representatives demanded it from me and neither was I able to return it to him nor did I seek release of it from him. So I ask You through Your benevolence, generosity, and abundance of what You possess that You satisfy them on my behalf, and not give them a position over me that will decrease my good deeds; for You possess what You can satisfy them with on my behalf and I do not possess what to satisfy them with; and do not allow for their bad deeds to find a path over my good deeds on the Day of Judgment. (From the Prayers of Forgiveness that Save from the Hellfire by Hasan al-Basri, to be published soon). 

Allah Loves Palestine and Gaza So Much, Alhamdulillah 🇵🇸☝️