Roughly 1990, Junior year of high school, I was ousted from my friend group due to my best friends girlfriend cheating and me calling her out. A day later I was confronted by a guy that was a fringe friend (DS) of the group..he presented drawings mocking my looks, told me I had better find somewhere new to eat (open campus), and in general that I was a geek, nerd, loser...

After lunch that day while opening my locker, DS sucker punched me while my head was down busting my lip and actually injuring a tooth. I froze with shock and as he mumbled off and walked the other direction I walked away. the next year as I made new friends, I always was leary he would be around. I was able to avoid most my interactions with him and his group of friends.

A few years later, as I had a new friend group our paths would cross and at a party at my apartment he showed up. At some point he gave an apology. I know it was a bullshit apology but as I didn't care and was more concerned with my party and just blew him off.

Years go by and occasionally I would bump into him and would get trigger and be on edge.

The incident still bothers me and I have carried it neither weighing me down or pulling me down but it was just there.

I have been living in a different city with a different life since 97-98. I have told my wife the story as she had issues with bullies as well. I would replay from time to time but try to not carry it with me very often. I saw a friend request and would look at his page from time to time. In my mind my success in work and life didn't repair that sucker punch.

I found out that he passed away this week. I am assuming natural causes. Again I am numb to it. I am not happy someone passed away, but I am angry that it was something I never acted on. I just feel numb to it. However the comments on social media about him being a person of faith and "so" well liked by all irritates the living hell out of me.

Has anyone else had a situation like this? I mean for fucks sake, I have tried to unpack my emotional suitcase and just when it's almost empty this happens

You're all bullies yourselves. I don't feel sorry for any of you. I did, but I don't anymore.

There's a kid in my sister's class that bullies almost everyone. Like literally pushing others over, not letting them pass, taking their stuff, etc...

Few days ago she hit her in the stomach, they went to a teacher, and the teacher said "I don't care, just hit back".

Yeah no so my sister is 8 fucking years old. They freshly moved to town, so she's also new, and she's never been violent at any stage, so it's like telling a fly to smash in a window... And even if she did, she'd get in trouble, because the bully is colored, and they're in this "equal opportunity whateverthefucknonprofitthing" program, so they wouldn't even move her to another school, or do LITERALLY ANYTHING. And she'd also be exposed to more bullying, obviously.

So what can I do? The teachers apparently "don't care", the principal's "hands are tied", the parents "can't do anything about it besides telling her not to", so what? I will not just fucking accept that my sister comes home almost everyday with tearful eyes bc that little shit did something, and none of the fucking school staff care! I'm not violent, I'm not threatening, but if the ones that LITERALLY EXIST TO PROTECT THE KIDS, DON'T, and just let it happen for almost a year now, then what?

So ive been bullied since i got into middle school and im pretty much weak and cant do nothing about it and really insecure should i stab them and i know the consequences of my actions but i think this is the way to get them

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So i'm 25m . I was not interested on my Studies nor i was a scholar from my school times. But i was Bullied for not being Studious & Weak student. (Just like Nobita but without Doraemon) . From Kindergarten to Std X. I was Bullied By my Tution Mam and Kids of tution. My teacher was So Agressive During Maths class and also other subjects. She always targets weak students and that was me from my batch. Teacher use to slap me hard In front of whole class & my friends. Even she had my pants off in front of all. Just to remind every students that if You don't study then you will be next. But there were none.

In 2010 i was in 6th Std. There was a guy 14m who was my neighbour. We were in same class. One day we were playing in his house, at that time he had his phone, he started recording and he said "Bharatnatyam karke dikhana please" . I told him "Nhi re merko nhi aata he" then he forcefully insisted ki "kar varna pitega". Fir I got scared .. then i did what he said. After recording . I told him ki "Please kisiko dikhana mat" he said nhi dikhaunga re... Next day I was late for my classes. Just i entered tution everyone was laughing at me. I had no clue what's going on. While lauguing teacher was like " Padhai karne toh aata nhi he ye sab dance barabar aata he ". "DABBA". (She Used to calls me oftenly). Every student were laughing at me . I was embarrased and hide my face on my notebook for straight 45 mins.

2nd case : I was in 7th std and there were 4 girls in my batch . Woh ladkiya kaafi Chapri the us waqt. They used to tease every weak students and make fun of them. I was also the one there when these girls made false allegations on me that i made vulgar signs like 👐. (You might understood the action). She fakingly started crying and Teacher asked her what happened? She said " Ye meko dekhke ganda ganda harkat kar raha tha. Then teacher angrily bursts on me saying " Kya re???? Bohot himmat aaya he kya terko?? She slapped me 2-3 times by saing tere ghar me ma behen ko aisa karega toh kaisa lagega?. I said " mene nhi kiya teacher aisa kuch bhi. & one of my batchmate he was good friends with those girls. He turned against me saying "haa teacher isne kiya he aisa". Mene kuch kara hi nhi me bol raha hu fir bhi ?. Then another batchmate said after tution " ik tune kuch nhi kiya toh bolna teacher ko. Me bola ki me kaise bolu koi saath nhi he mere. On next day again this topic discussed . Then i said ki mene kuch nhi kiya he pooch lo isse . He also turned against me saying " Meko q laa raha h beech me mene kuch bola hi nhi" he lied and me firse fass gaya.. koi kuxh kaha hi nhi and i lost again .

There are more cases me 2nd part me dalunga.

Asking for a friend. I can't go into detail.

So this is the asshole who’s been trying to break me and my boyfriend up for 5 months already and he won’t stop at nothing this dude is a straight up narcissist. He literally knows nothing about me and chooses to disrespect me and my boyfriend both. I’ve known my boyfriend for 14 years of my life. We were elementary friends back in the day and now we are official. You can read more about that on my previous posts if you want in my profile especially all the stuff they have tried to pull. He’s been trying to turn my boyfriend’s mom against me as well because this sicko is that controlling. Also keep in mind this man isn’t even a stepdad to my boyfriend he is only a boyfriend his mom dates they aren’t married whatsoever. This man right here has done other possessive things as well. Such as getting upset because I’ve blocked him on all socials even though this forty year old man wants to see what I’m up to. It’s like leave me alone I’m a 25 year old woman I don’t deserve to get harassed by you. He also tries to stalk my boyfriends other ex’s my boyfriend knows this because the dude literally tries to remind my boyfriend all about the woman that did him wrong. It’s making me think does this dude have something for young women 20 year olds she’ll I say. Something else that this dickhead does as well is try and force my boyfriend to try and block his father on social media with zero contact. This man is beyond messed up and that’s why I’m exposing him for what he is a jerk. Also my boyfriend is 23 but he plans to move out soon with me and he has no problem with that whatsoever but he still lives at home for the time being hence having to deal with this lunatic still. We have already looked at apartment places and plan to move out in this coming new year. His mom and her asshole boyfriend don’t want him to move but he knows he needs to they are severely affecting his mental health and trying to sabotage are relationship.

I am back everyone and you might be wondering how I prepared to take revenge on my bully and let’s just say im not going to lose at all Stats: 5’11 140lbs bully:6’0 180lbs now I have significantly bulked up and continuously trained doing 50 pushups sit-ups and 70 squats everyday along with going to the gym and finally benching 150lbs And I couldn’t join martial art classes or train in martial arts because my family is broke so I copied moves from YouTube videos now tomorrow im going to get revenge so I hope everyone is cheering for me and please tell me any martial arts moves that would help me out

Hello, I'm a 14-year-old student at a new school. I've been there for 4 months now, and ever since I started attending, my life has been a living nightmare. Since I'm in Bulgaria and there are a lot of Gypsies in my school, all of the bullies happen to be Gypsies. They constantly make fun of me for no reason. They keep calling me "fatty" even though I tell them I've started working out. They also mock my speech defect. I'm not racist; I'm just pointing out that all of the bullies are Gypsies.

Edit: Sorry for bad language. I only saw sticky post rules after this was posted. This is mostly just a vent post. I (27f) am currently going through a mental health crisis, which has led me to do some self-reflection. I grew up eith a sister 7 years my junior who I would often physically assualt. When sje was a baby I tried to put her in the washing machine (it was off) but didn't know how to turn it on.

At school, I was the kid who threw others into walls, spat in kids food, called other girls sluts and whores, and refused to do schoolwork. I was suspended severel times and was sent to a behavioural counsellor, which did nothing.

I don't know why I was like that. For the longest time, I felt an agonzing anger amd hatred that I couldn't place, so I wanted to spread it to the world. Eventually, I figured I wouldn't get anywhere acting the way I was, so I started to pretend. I held the anger in, bottled it up, amd exploded on my sister or mother. There was something innately wrong with me as a child. Still is.

I started this self-reflection back in univeristy, after my parents and sister (13 YEARS OLD) were murdured. My first experience with grief. I fell into your typical depression and began self-harming. I stopped myself and forced myself to be okay. Pretended it was. Graduated. Got married. Pregnant. Times three. Husband gets diagnosed with gastric cancer and dies six months later, that was nine months ago.

The fact that I'm realizing what a piece of shit child I was, and I can't even apologize to my sister, or to the kids at school because I didn't even know their names. God. Kids kill themselves because of people like me. I want nothing more than to see my child self and beat her into a pulp.

Elaboration: Does anyone have any bullies outside of work, school and home? I mean same neighborhood, cul-de-sac, apartment complex, street, that sort of thing. If so, did you ever manage to escape or remove them? Just wondering if this is a thing.

I think I'm just gonna end it all. I'm tired of false allegations made against me by my "friends", I'm tired of getting physically AND mentally tortured and abused by said "friends". I am tired of people judging me at school. I'm tired of being seen as an ugly nerd. I'm tired of said "friends" not even caring about me. I'm tired of being avoided by people.

I am tired.

I hope you (my bullies) are proud of you all for making a kid suicidal and self harming.

I don't think im gonna make it to 18 tbh.

So, this random ugly kid decided to bully me by taking my clip on tie. I have to have it for certain reasons so please don't hate. Anyway he has one for no reason aswell. Basically he always takes my clip on then runs off with it. I feel like I should be able to stand up to him but I can't. He's about 13 days older than me, but 6 inches (maybe more) shorter. I'm slightly overweight though so my running is not as fast as him. I'm honestly sick of him taking it. I'm not getting rid of my tie because of medical reasons. What should I do?

Edit: He’s doing it to one of my close friends too and they haven’t been anywhere at break because of it. My friend doesn’t wear a clip on so she is literally being strangled when he does it. I honestly put it down to a bad upbringing that’s making him do it.

I live in Italy and I am 12 (M) today some guys where bulling me and my cousins they had surrounded hime I ran to help him but three of the guys fought me but I won and i noticed one of the guys was crying so I asked my cousin who told me that he sketchd his neck and held it for so much time that the guy just was red and then we got out of the school he explains me that a the guy he screced not real was name Karen was bulling him in class but my cousin fought back and he said let's wait after school and they got back to us while we were talking they said shit like w ll call the police and fourth I got super angry I took out a lot of and one spided on my face than I was about to frikin kill him but I didn't and than I told my mom who told it to my cousin parents and they will go to the principal to talk things my father was super angry because I lost they were in 25 or 30 but I fought them 2 weeks ago specialy Karen and his friend I had beaten them up not to badly they were trying to bully me but I'm a pretty strong guy they insultsd me my family and my god (I'm indian) I had red frinkin eyes from the rage and If they continue some serious consequences are waiting them I'm not a guy who can be bullied.

Its 2 am right now im 17 have school tomorrow but actually cant be bothered to go i have been isolated for the passt few months just keeping myself occupied with video games or just sleeping actually its to get away from my problems i did not used to be like this i had wrestling practise 3 times a week basketball practise 2 times a week and went to the gym 7 times a week was very social did stuff basically like a normal 17 year old i have only really had 4 really good friends in school they were arabs and could speak greek so we got along because im greek im in very ghetto school drugs are everywhere and the kids are just little demons i never had any problems with anyone untill last year i met this girl we stayed together for a year and a couple months and that was it did not really think anything of it they were always these guys who tried to act tuff infront of her or to other people and as soon as they insulted me or her or my friends i would always talk with them one on one and get things straight they would always shit thier pants and act like we were best friends the whole school would always somehow find out and come to watch it very cringe but my school in known for drugs and violence im very religios and dont ever do something bad to anyone hit,snitch,call names,talk behinds someones back ect because i am so good to everyone i got pretty fucked by them people that acted as if they respected me showed the opposite as soon as they had the chance alright no probem i thought this all transpired immediately after the breakup you know how girls are tried to ruin my life telling everyone that i hit her and was abbusing her and holding her in a relationship against her will her familiy hearing this threating me with the police basically the whole school believing her except my close friend i thought alright whatever i just continue my life let all these people be troubled by some lies it doesnt effect me untill this one guy that i was friends with in the passt gets in a relationship with her i thought nothing of it and explicitly told him that i have no problem with them being together so that he does not think i have something against him this kid is just insane though i did not account for that it was all fine saw them together and stuff did not really care untill this kid randomly starts cussing at my friend i try to stop them from doing anything they make a termin to 1 on 1 after school all his friends went and the 3 of mine i was still in school cause i had a class they meet they hit echother and my friend send this kid to the hospital his friends ofcourse tried to intervene but it was already to late so the kid goes to the hospital and my friends get suspended his friends come to me in school and start threatening me i just ignore them after some time my friends leave the school now i am alone in school and all the other guys are his friends this kid uses this to his advantage to bully me for no reason we go to a school trip to hamburg they start threatening me one of his friends pushed me on the stairs i went up to his face then 20 of them pressed me all the kids in my grade made a snapchat group so they could all communicate these kids post some lewd prictures of someone and say that they are mine a get completely humiliated in school and in my town i couldnt even walk around in the hotel every girl would look at me in disgust and would be scared to come near me these kids continue threatening me that i will not come out alive out of this city and that if come home they will find me exactly one day after the school trip as i am walking home from wrestling practise with a friend a see this kid with one of his friends i go up to them they shit thier pants and go away with those electric scooters i think alright they are not searching for me and wont kill me they just have a big mouth so we turned around and made our way home we saw them on the phone as we were walking away after a couple of minutes they come at us and start cussing we go up to them i just ask whats the problem they just stay there for 20 seconds untill this car rolls by it was the father of this kid he starts coming at us cussing threatening us his father is like 48 he acts like a mafia boss so me and my friend just stood there taking the threats and cussing from his father and his son and his friend we couldn’t really so anything his father said he will kill me ect after some time i get followed home by 15 of them after school i thought that was strange then they would wait in my street one day after practise i walk home they wait for me in my stress like 20 of them and some cars beeping as soon as they saw me they were standing like in a line i went up to them asked why they are here they just threatend me i thought nothing of it because i knew that these kids were all talk and told nobody on day at 10 pm as i was going to go to the gym i see 2 of them in my street waiting for me looking at my house door i go up to them i say to this kid for the thousand time what do you want they hit me and run away i had my hands in my pockets headphone in a bag i wasnt ready expecting that or was ready for that so now i have a black eye and realised that these kids actually want to do something to me a couple days after this as i am outside witha friend of mine i see him and 7 of his friends we got up to them i ask this kid if he wants to go alone with me and we will deal with things alone his cousin had told me over the phone that he wanted a 1 v 1 this kid said no i asked him multiple times so i sit there dumb founded with my friend like he comes to my house hits me tells everyone that hes the man cause he beat me up now refuses a one on one i just say whatever cause i dont really care its just a black eye and if thats all it took for them to stop i was happy as we are walking away a couple of them on the electric scooters follow us and yell at us to go back to talk with someone me and my friend though alright lets not go there its a trap but what would we do otherwise? Maybe they would be a small chance that we could talk with someone that has some sense in them wo go back now there are 20 people there and his father his father comes up to us starts threatening like he is the mafia leader we just sit there like what did we do to deserve this then all of a sudden his father gets agitated and hits my friend in the face then all of these kids see that and take it as a signal to jump in my friend is on the ground getting kicked im trying to defend myself against his father and 10 others his fathers trys choking me out i get out i hook one then unzip my jacket then they start backing off i see my friend run to him and someother people nearby stept in we got fucked i had no injuries my friends nose were bleeding his head had bumps he got hit badly my friend calls the police because this was in the middle of the shops of the town the police come dont really give a fuck and tell us to go seperate ways keep in mind i just turned 17 and my friend too and a grown ass man comes to beat us up with 20 other people so we dont really know what to do the police said that we could press charges we do that then it goes to questioning witnesses we do that the police is telling us that we are at fault they all lied that we pulled knife and hit them first and that we have been threating and bullying this kid for a long time ect so they just turn the victim perpetrator roles around the police eat it up and were very upset with us i couldnt go to school because these kids would bully me and follow me home basically terrorise me the sister of a friend of mine heard what happened and got into contact with me told me that the school and the police isnt doing anything because they are racist and dont give a fuck and believe the bullshit this kid and his family is telling them my friends sister is a doctor and know a lot about the law ect she got me a lawyer and talked with the school the school still really did not do anything my parents and siblings are fuming at this point my older brother says he wants to go decapitate this kids whole family we got told to not do anything and wait for the law fast forward to a week ago i was walking home after school this kid runs up behind me grabs me by the neck and starts kicking me elbowing me knees everything i got told by my lawyer and everyone that it would ruin the case if i hit the kid or his friends so i did that the primary reason i did not defend myself was that i knew if i hit him his friends would jump in and badly injure me so now i cant go outside have lost all my hobbys most of my friends have no social life my whole family is troubled i have to be brought to school and my dad is at work i have to live with this really bad anxiety wenn im walking home i just have constant anxiety 24/7 and dont really know what to do i have to wait for the court case wich schould take about 6 months in the meantime i have to live like this i am basically in prison i am sacred to talk to anyone because they will then also be a target has happened a couple of times already i am devistated at the sorrow this situation has inflicted onto my parents im finding it hard to forgive my enemies and love them my life feels very emty without hobbys social life ect or not being able to go outside i also missed a lot of school so now my grades are going bad and i have to write exams with no prior learning i just huddle in my room eveyday pray distract myself with video games and sleep i dont really want to think about this situation my freedom has been stripped away and the sorrow that i feel for everything that’s happening is immense and i dont know how to stop it everyone is going against god it hurts me these kids hurt one another and dont repent i do forgive but others do not i worry about the people that are near to me they also will get attacked i worry about the stress this gives to my parents i worry about my own self maybe i will get badly injured if i defend myself they will use more force i know they have knifes and batons im trying to find away to be able to go safe atleast to my local church and talk with some people about god i have given up on my hobbys relationships aswell the girl i was with was there as they beat me up and ripped the phone out of the hand of someone who was filming so there is no evidence it dosent hurt me that so many people betray me hate me try to hurt me spit in my face and pray for my death it hurts me that people do these sins against god i want to turn them to god to forgive the world is such a shit place i cant count on anyone everyone is selfish has too much pride and wants to maliciously hurt everyone around them for there own benefit i dont want to be apart of this world i hat being in school i am disgusted by everyone and have this anxiety my heart skips beats i am really scared they will come after me again because i cant do anything i cant fokus on school one class i skipped and just sat outside and heard prayers i dont know how to calm my anxiety its 3 am now i really dont wanna go to school tomorrow i fear the worst i dont wanna see the people there and thier fake smiles i suddenly get immense pain and start to actually cry if i think about the way people are going against god i myself am the biggest sinner i know this and i know the living should not complain for being punished for thier sins and i am not let gods will be done but how am living right now is not living i see not future i see no end i dont see how this can get any better only worse everyday is a challenge being awake is a chore i get very upset wenn its nightime and i have to sleep because i know if i do then ill immediately wake up and have to so one more day it terrifies me i cant be alone outside everytime im walking and i hear walking behind me my heart skins i almost faint it reminds me from last week were the kid ran behind me my stomach aches from anxiety i feel really sad the whole day wich is really unlinke me i dont want to do anything i used to overtrain extremely to the point were i had such bad eyebags people asked me who punched me i went to the hospital because of overtraining i also fucked up my schoulders my to much training and the top orthopedic doctors screamed at me that i am way to young and need to stop all training they told me that the mri showed that i have 3 times the muslce mass as a boy in my age im not saying this to flex or anything they actually said that and said to me that i have a gym bann every always thought i was very wierd we would go swimming with school I always wear a long sleeve shirt i dont to show myself i am orthodox and get heavily inspired by the saints one saint said wear humble clothing so that you may crush the thoughts that arrise within wich is pride i wear only the same clothes everyday like the people that prepare themselves for monastic life my only wearing black i wear the same black baggy clothes everyday i also stopped cutting my hair my parents are really upset at me after deliberately changing my appearance to not try to present myself as better looking i have noticed how different people treat me this has spooked me and now i cant go back it has showed me that people dont really care about you only your appearance so now only the people that actually like me for me will be friends with me that has really destroyed my social life wich is saddening but inturn i have learned that i hate feeding the ego im greek ego means me i hate feeding the me i hate me i stopped doing anything that is for me for that raises the pride pride is the root of all sin the devil is the manifestation of pride pride makes you rebell against god nobody is better than anyone else people need to understand that i have come to turms with that i will probably not have a relationship for a while or ever because its so driven by pride and how you present yourself and material possessions wich i am all very against i like monsatic life but the life were i live is very far away to anything close to that the worlds passions are going rampid everywhere i go with everyone taking drugs smoking vaping goddamn tiktok never installed it never will the world just feels fake it feels really wierd i dont know how to continue or what to do next i just try to get through a couple of anxiety induced hours of school then run back into my room and try to distract myself from my thoughts and what is happening or wheep in prayer for hours i also never had anyone to talk to my whole life i guess thats were some problems come from i would love to be able to talk to someone who understands but life just dosent work that way now its 4 am and i have school tomorrow even though i really really dont wanna go to sleep because i have to deal with tomorrow i have to do it tomorrow is an exam i ace everything in school anyway but i have brain fog constantly with little sleep i used to only sleep 4 hour’s because i had no time and had to train now i dont train at all wich is really hard on me i did that for years now everything is changed it feels like im in a dream it doesnt feel like my life the life i used to live i feel just like a bystander expieriencig this mess just praying that it will end not knowing what im living for and for what reason im living through this day to day even though it will be the same tomorrow

Thanks to anyone who actually red this i really doubt anyone will i hope it made you rethink the why you are doing what you are doing maybe gave you some interest in god i hope i am open to advice an want to know what i should do to avoid getting bullied or jumped again i want to end this with a quote by the beloved seraphim rose

Christ is the only exit from this world; all other exits-sexual rapture, political utopia, economic independence-are but blind alleys in which rot the corpses of the many who have tried them

How do you feel your experiences with bullying affect your responses (inwardly and outwardly) to criticism?

As an adult, I think I have a pretty low tolerance for criticism, and usually feel terrible when someone either criticizes me or does something that could be interpreted as annoyance, disgust or dislike.

Then I go on to criticize and hate myself for not being able to accept criticism, calling myself defensive or too sensitive. Maybe it's true, maybe I'm just bad at taking it.

But often when I describe a conflict to other people, they seem to easily feel that I am not to blame. Yet I still pretty much always blame myself. My therapist has pointed this out too.

Now, having a minor conflict with my roommate yesterday has more or less sent me over the edge.

I do feel like this probably has a lot to do with certain experiences with bullying, where I was made into a scapegoat, essentially. Other times, I was attacked and made to apologize for random things, like simply looking at them.

There's also just the general internalizing you get with any kind of bullying, where you start to feel there must be something very wrong with you to be targeted in that way. Especially when it happens over and over again in different contexts, different schools, different groups.

I know at the end of the day, you have to not care what other people thing of you. And I have gone through periods where I successfully manage that. But sometimes certain things are still extremely triggering. I feel like I need to get to the bottom of why it triggers me so much before I'll be able to grow from that completely.

Anyway, I would be interested to know how others feel about this. What impact did bullying have on you with regards to accepting criticism or dealing with mild conflicts?

My kid stopped being friends with someone increasingly a while ago and their friend group mostly dissolved from his standpoint. It was just from what I can tell a separation and changes with classes etc. Growing up is tough with changes, etc.

His former very close friend is now teasing him multiple times throughout the week and I feel it's edging into bullying territory. It's affecting his well-being at this point. This former very close friend seems to be tagging up with another kid (no encounters with him before this started, positive or negative). I've reached out to teachers, but it mostly occurs when not under their obvious watch (in class - presumably intentionally).

I don't know what im asking for here but I am obviously not letting this go, am following up with teachers etc but his mood and self esteem are so down. It's hilarious what an "anti -bullying" culture can ignore. He's getting wrecked by this and it's like I'm watching a slow motion train wreck. He even hinted at self harm which I hopefully shut down as an avenue for positive attention or even relief but I'm getting scared and randomly posting on reddit about how to deal with this. He's young, think 7-11yo but before high school.

Edit: he's not neurotpical, has ADHD and usually can be okay in most settings. Not asd but has some traits of asd. He gets hyper focused on stuff but at this age outside of siblings, functions pretty well socially. I can't even imagine this all without his meds. He would be destroyed. He would crumple immediately and have a full blown meltdown.

Ok so basically i’m a 17 yr old girl in high school. Senior. I mind my business and i don’t talk to many people except my childhood bff and a few other friends & classmates. I dress pretty normal for the most part: hoodies, leggings, flared leggings, crop tops, baggy jeans. But for some reason, people i’ve never even met or seen in my life ever come up to me a make fun of me? Last year i got asked out as a joke by some kid a grade below me. That same year, another kid in the hallway said his friend liked me and obviously it was a joke. This year, its gotten a little worse. This girl & her friends came up to me one day during lunch when i was sitting alone because my friends were not at lunch that day and asked if i could scoot down so they could sit. I say “Sure!” and they sit. A few min go by and the girl starts talking to me, asking me what i ate for lunch and if i like the game i’m playing (i was playing a game on the school laptop cause my phone died). I noticed that her friends were looking straight at me and snickering and giggling. My stomach IMMEDIATELY sank as i realized that they were making fun of me like how people go up to kids they deem as “weird” and pretend to be friends w them. I wanted to get up and leave or say something but was afraid it’d create a big scene so i just did nothing. Another time, i was running out the door to get to my friend’s car in time to go home, and this white dude ive also never even met gets in my face and is like “STOP RUNNING CUH” and it was just so weird… And then yesterday, school was about to end and i was holding the door open to just run out, and another random from across the hallway in another class says hey to me repeatedly. I ignore it cause i sense weird vibes. Bell rings, and i walk out, and this guy PUSHES ME INTO A LOCKER all because i didnt say hi to him…

all these people aren’t in my grade, i assume theyre mostly sophomores and some juniors. And ik that im in a higher grade so i shouldnt be afraid and should stick up for myself, but i feel like that rule only applies if youre popular.

I just don’t get it. I changed my clothing style and makeup to be more basic so that i wouldn’t get made fun of, and somehow i’m getting bullied even more???? I really don’t know what im supposed to do to stop this and i know i should just ignore it but it happens like every 2 weeks and its so weird. Please help!

If a bully has been abused or beaten themselves, why do they still choose to hurt others? Wouldn’t they know how bad it feels? What makes them continue this cycle?

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***update: My daughter spoke with the school principal, her counselor, and a social worker today. They are having her meet with a school therapist every week. They said she didn’t know how to handle the situation but that she doesn’t actually want to harm herself. I feel as if the school hasn’t been doing enough about the bully however. My daughter said that he is finally getting an actual punishment for his behavior. This is apparently not the first time that he’s had problems bullying other kids (shocker right..) My daughter said this time he told her that he was going to kill her in her sleep. Luckily she came clean about everything that’s been going on. I’m waiting for an update about the situation. I’m glad what my daughter is getting help, glad that they validated her feelings as well. Thank you for everyone that gave me advice. I appreciate you all!

I’m not sure how long this has been going on but my 11 year old daughter googled “how to hang myself” on her Chromebook and it resulted in the school calling us to alert us of the search. Today she told me a boy at her school has been calling her “the f word” he write on his desk, notes, and tells her that she needs to go f herself constantly. She said this is the second time he is pulled into the principles office. She doesn’t know why he hates her but she said this is everyday that it’s happening. She has another girl that is constantly telling her that she’s going to hell because she doesn’t believe in God. Today I sat down with her and I asked her why she felt this way and ways that I can help. She just said that she feels so alone. She feels like she doesn’t have anyone to go to or talk to. I wish I knew how long she was feeling this way.

Can anyone tell me how I could help? She is my first daughter and I’m not sure how I should go about this. I’m calling her school in the morning to address the bullying matter but all else I’m totally lost on. I feel as if I’ve failed her as a mom. We are going to be putting her in therapy to get some counseling. Thank you for listening and for any advice.

I just don’t know. I don’t know if this counts as bullying, or harassment or anything.

But for some reason I and a very few others seem to be the runt of this school. We’re targeted and our friends won’t do anything about it. Because they are also afraid, afraid they might be targets just like us.

But why? why do me and my friends share such similar personality’s yet I’m the one who’s bullied.

Lemme give an example, So I was out with a few friends and these kids who go to my school enter the place were in, they recognised a few people at our table and were doing something (I didn’t see as I was trying to keep my head down) when like 2 or 3 came up behind me and poked me in the back asking, oh is this (my name)? And I just tried ignoring them, then one tried forcing my hood over my head, so I left.

The one thing I don’t get is why did that only happen to me? I didn’t do anything to these kids, didn’t even know their names, yet I’m the one who’s pointed out.

That was only one example of many things that kind of group has done to me. It’s probably something to do with the fact I have an American accent whilst living in Britain. But I don’t know.

Does anybody have any tips other than saying “there just idiots” and “just ignore them, the worst thing you can do is give a reaction” Ima Lao sorry if this read as me being a baby or attention seeking. I can’t say it in any other way but im sorry if it seems that way.

I rarely think about my bullying experiences now and life has gotten better. I actually have friends now, however I still have nightmares about the name calling, social exclusion and threats.. anyone else relate?

a long, long time ago, so distant in my memory that many details have been long forgotten, I asked somebody to turn up the radio because I really liked the song that was playing. Little did I know I was about to learn an important life lesson.

You like that? Do you know what that song's about? Are you a f###ing q###r or something?

I don't remember what the song was, what it was about or even what I liked about it but it meant something to me in that moment. The memorable part though, was what the song meant to them was that I was a f###ing q###r and, as anyone who survived the 70's and 80's in middle America knows, the last thing anyone wanted to be was q###r.

So for a week or two I was tagged with a label. I was a q###r. A little f###t. I was not, and am still not by the way. I also don't have my own jet airplane, nor am I a millionaire. Actuality I tend to like fat bottom girls, which is ironic in a way because Freddy Mercury was gay. Furthermore, it's a pretty safe bet that my bully had no problem enjoying whatever music Queen had on the charts at the time.

Certainly, I am not unique in that the intended message of the artist is not the same as the impression the art makes upon those who experience said art. Beauty is on the eye of the beholder, right? Additionally, the whole of the piece may not be what moves you, clips and phrases can spark an emotion far afield from the context, yet those emotions are bound to the work as a whole. Hell, if it's got a great beat and it's easy to dance to, what difference does it make that whatshisname wrote it in a drunken stupor, it's about banging some chick that turned out to be a dude, it was recorded in the basement studio of a now prestigious producer's exotic location apartment on a shoestring budget using couch cushions and mattresses on the walls and the drummer in a closet and one take this and dubbed in that... Cool info, I like hearing about that stuff too, but sometimes I just want to close my eyes and imagine that I can dance.

Once upon another time, just about as long ago but not quite, I fell in love. Remember the fat bottom girls? Yeah, she was one of those. She was a wild thing though, and she moved me!

So, you like fat girls? Did you f##k her? Are you f###ing that fat girl?

Yes. Yes I was. And as a result I was accused of showing feelings of an almost human nature. At least I wasn't a q###r little f###t anymore.

So what was the lesson I learned from all this? I dunno, while rambling on about some random connections in my mind I lost track of it. Make what you want of it, the lesson isn't mine to dictate, I just wrote the song. Interpret it as you wish.

If a manager decides to place an employee on a Performance Management program it is because

They want to drive the employee in question out of the workplace. They hope the PM program stresses out the employee, the employee thinks they will fail and they decide to leave.

Or

To legally cover themselves when they terminate the employment of the staff member. They make the criteria so difficult that the staff member fails and the employer uses this as a reason to terminate their employment.

Thoughts?

My kid was attacked by a group of kids in middle school today. One kid had him in choke hold, while other kicked pushed and shoved him. His head was slammed, he was punched in the gut and kicked in the groin As other posts here say, we experienced the same indifference in school response .. like it is no big deal. Typical bully behavior- my kid is tiny, small, kind and timid. And bullies love to pick on that kind of personality. Many kids watched in the hallway and one teacher watched from the corner and pretended to turn sideways as if she did not see or hear anything. Can I call the police on these kids? Also fuck the school system.

So rn im a 16m in high school and i feel like i always get walked on. I wouldn’t say im unpopular as many kids do know me, and im very involved as im in track and xc, im an honors students and im in multiple clubs. But there is this one annoying kid who always annoys me and other kids who aren’t his friends, he throws food at kids during lunch, takes videos of kids, pants other kids and for me he always makes fun of my last name. I tried standing up for myself but he just makes fun of me and it just annoying like today he was stealing my phone and AirPods and it go annoying. There is also this girl who I used to like but she friendzoned and we are friends but she always makes jokes and roasts me in a way that brings me down, I told her I don’t like it but she still does it to me. What can I do so that these kids can stop walking over me and so I can not get bullied by them

Most of the time I bump into bullies or been followed home for some reason.

Even in common places I go most of them are there and takes turns monitoring me there. I don't understand what goes through people's heads stalking me knowing all of their actions themselves they would know better than to leave me alone. Sometimes I think people justify their actions in their head just to make themselves feel better to what their doing.

Do anyone know the reason to this question?