There were a few moments in middle school and high school where I had to deal with a couple of mean girls. Middle school was pretty bad however. And what made it worse was that I had no one in my corner supporting me or backing me up, not even my own mother(she’s very avoidant of conflict). Girls would bully me, I’d say or do something back, then I’d get pulled into the office and suspended. I was labeled a bad kid, so no one cared what was happening to me to make me act out. I didn’t know how to advocate for myself because I was so young. Moving forward to high school, I stopped dating this guy and he started dating someone else. His new girlfriend didn’t like me. She starts harassing me, sending me all kinds of messages (got my phone number from him) and even getting her friends to prank call me. I decided I had enough, and printed out all of her messages to me harassing me, degrading me, etc. I took those receipts to a vice principal at my school who really cared about me and I explained the situation. I told him if it continues I’d want to file charges and get a restraining order to stop the harassment. He agreed and said he’d help me if I wanted to do that. Then he sent me down the hall and called her into his office. I was out of her site but had a full view of his office(glass walls). He then called the on site police officer in, then called her parents in. I never saw him so mad, he chewed her out and let her know I was threatening to press charges. Then he suspended her for three days. That girl NEVER bothered me again. It was the first time standing up for myself in the right way actually got me somewhere. I never had an adult in my life rally behind me like that, it truly changed me for the better.

I’m not particularly popular in school and I used to think I was fine with whatever people said about me but when random people that I have never even talked to start being mean to me it does bother me. And honestly I have let that get to me too much recently so hence the question because honestly I just want to feel like everything will turn out just fine despite all the shitty things

I recently worked with the worst people I have ever met in my life. Being around them was a nightmare, and it destroyed my mental health. I worked at my local Target in Missouri

These people thought you got to pick and choose but you don’t. If those people saw someone else doing something wrong they’d jump at them point their fingers and condemn them to hell. But if they or their friends did the same thing then it’s ok. If they or their friends do it then they get a free pass, a slap on the wrist, but if someone else does it it’s wrong.

That’s not how life works. You don’t get a free pass. If you treat others poorly then you’re a bad person. You’re a bad person. There’s just nothing else to it but these people do things that make them horrible people every day but because they lack in self awareness and self honesty they can’t see themselves. They live in a bubble in their head instead of the real world, a bubble where themself is the only thing that matters. These people could never be considerate or helpful towards someone else and they could never have a shred of empathy towards someone else.

To make things even worse some of these people intentionally acted the way they did. They said to themselves they would make me sad and miserable and when they did they thought it was funny and laughed. How can you ever call yourself a good person after something like that. To see someone else suffering, crying, hurting themselves and to keep on bullying them and then to laugh at them. That’s evil. The most evil thing I’ve seen in my life

I made a post on a local subreddit about this issue. I had 2 people message me within a day saying they went to the store and the people there were bad mouthing me. Since then I’ve had multiple people message me. I don’t understand if they just don’t care or if they just can’t see themselves. These people think it’s “cool” to go around acting like they don’t care, like they’re too cool to care, but normal people think caring is cool, I like people that care a lot, that help others instead of ignoring them or bullying them.

Those people could never see themselves. They surround themselves by each other and convince each other that they’re good but deep deep down they all know they were wrong. I’m not perfect, not even close, but I am a good person. I’m go out of my way everyday to be kind and helpful towards others. Because that’s what matters. Because I care a lot about others. That doesn’t make me special it just makes me normal, it just makes me a good person. But these people are were bad people, and bullies. And they could never see themselves and they could never see how much they hurt me and damaged my life, my life that I worked so hard to build. If I went anywhere else in this world I would’ve never been sad again

For his consequence, I asked him to write letters to the kid and his parents. He sat there for 7 hours refusing to write it before he caved.

I just had an epiphany about why my bullies have targeted me so intensely for so long, and I feel sick about it.

First semester, I noticed two girls - who I already considered to be bullying me - looking at my face on two separate occasions when they thought I wasn’t paying attention. It was pretty obvious because they sat right in front of me in class, and I started to suspect they were gossiping about whether I got plastic surgery.

I made the mistake of confiding in someone I thought was a trusted friend - who, to put it nicely, turned out to be a psychopathic shit-stirrer. When I told him about this, he nodded and looked at me in a way that made me paranoid (I felt like he knew something related to this), so I asked if he'd heard anything. He shrugged and said, "Well, I’ve definitely heard things." That made me feel panicked and I pressed further, asking if he overheard them directly and he stumbled a bit and said, "Well, like I said, I heard it through the grapevine."

Maybe I should've trusted my instincts that he was being vague on purpose. Or maybe I really wanted to believe him because it confirmed what I already suspected. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that I easily misunderstand people sometimes. Either way, I ended up mentioning to a couple of friends next semester that someone told me these girls were spreading this rumor. Unfortunately, those friends are connected to someone in the same social circle as my bullies, and I suspect the information got back to them.

And now I realize he was most likely lying. Looking back, it makes sense. This guy has a pattern of instigating drama, lying about people, and playing both sides to create chaos. He’s done it before in other situations (check my post history if you're curious). And now I understand better why this group of girls kept hating me even more - because from their perspective, I falsely accused them of spreading a rumor (or maybe they were actually spreading it, I'm not sure), when in reality, I was repeating what this manipulative asshole told or strongly suggested to me.

That’s my theory anyway, but either way, I was so idiotic for ever trusting him. But even though I understand the girls' behavior a bit better now (if my theory's correct), this doesn't change the way I feel about them because they've been mean even before all of this. This is an insanely messy situation that I don't know how to fix.

I'm extremely tempted to launch a formal investigation against this guy because I'm furious, but I asked a friend what I should do and he strongly recommended to just let it go at this point and not get involved further with this guy because he's crazy and there's no telling what he'll do. I feel so frustrated and wronged and stupid. But being easily manipulated doesn't warrant getting my reputation ruined like this. This experience has given me major trust issues and I just don't know what to do anymore.

Setting boundaries is of utmost importance. Especially for those of us who experienced a good amount trauma and abuse.
Your trauma cache is only so big and the older you get the more difficult it is to delete the junk. Too many of us tend to get stung over and over and over again. It's time to set healthy boundaries.

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I feel like I have always considered myself lucky to avoid the traditional bullies throughout elementary, middle, and high school despite being a relatively easy target. Unfortunately, I think I may have stumbled upon the worst bully yet: the college bully. The college bully is the deceptive "friend", the guy who will initially make an effort to get to know you (but as soon as he does, he will throw you out of his circle), the guy who will emphasize your faults in front of others, the guy who will mask his insults as "jokes", etc. College bullies are dangerous because they drag other people down with them. Do not let them craft your narrative for you. Be vigilant.

So there is a guy, who sits behind me in class, and sometimes slaps me on the neck, and i cant do anything because if i try to hit him back, he just lean backwards and i cant reach him, and when we get out of class, i just dont do anything while i could, why, i dont think im scared, i just dont do anything. Also yesterday a guy hit me in the head with some heavy stuff he was carrying, everyone laughed and i didnt do anything, that guy also a good fighter, and knowing my abilities, the only person i could beat up is myself. I (17M) dont wanna fight because they are doing this to some other classmates too so im not a the target, they are not doing this to make someone feel like shit, they just do this beacuse they think its funny, and its like a joke to them, because if i get slapped or something, its never hard. Anyways, i just want some advice how to actually do somethings and not let them get away with shit like this. Some extra info: this will be my 8th month im going to the gym, so from going to the gym i did not gain confidence as some people said i will.

So my moms partner took down my bedroom door because this morning I had tennis training but the tennis training was ONLY for people on the team, so I told my mom I couldn’t go because I wasn’t informed in anyway that I was on the team, I texted her this, and then told her but I had my door closed, and I didn’t want to open the door because I thought my mom understood what I said, and then my moms partner (who is not my dad) gets involved and threatens to take down my room door and does… mind you I don’t have my own bathroom. Literally the only space I have for myself is my bedroom. And not only that but he took down the doors of every room upsides except for his and my mom’s door. So id have no privacy even if I TRIED. So i got really pissed and hours of arguing and he STILL won’t put up my door. What the hell do I do? He threatened to not put the door up until 12am at NIGHT. I actually hate my life

When you are the victim of bullying, word spreads. Word spreads that you can be pushed around and mistreated. I didn't realize this growing up. Even as an adult word can spread about your weakness. Which is why victims of bullying tend to experience trauma over and over again. When word gets out that you're an easy target, people sharpen their knives, and tend to point them at you.

(Look a bit irritated) It tends to fend off potential predators

So there was this thing in my middle school called competition and 2 people needed to go and lay down head to head and one needed to go to the opposites to win the tug of war which everybody watched around the mat I was cheered on and my coach told me I could do but yet he beat me easily I was getting slide from the ground and I never lose and and I'm been doing the weight room and going to planet fitness. now I'm afraid I'm getting made fun of next week what should I do

My freshman year of high school, I was severely bullied by a boy in my grade. I was an easy target for him because I was skinny, poor, and had bad teeth. He would tell me that I was ugly and that I should just end my life. Again, because I was poor, the school never cared what was happening to me, as I wasn't important to them. I wound up self-harming because of him and was almost hospitalized because of it. Though he transferred to a different high school, and I never saw him again, he badly affected my self-esteem.

A majority of my high school years was spent with me self-harming. I struggled taking selfies for a long time because I was insecure about how my teeth looked, and I thought my face looked weird in certain angles. Even during and after I got my braces removed, I still struggled with taking selfies. This past year alone I just got comfortable with posting selfies again on social media.

One night in 2023, I was struggling to go to sleep because his voice was haunting me. I remembered how there was a trend of people searching their bullies and finding out they got karma, and what I found out about him sickened me. When I googled his name, different news articles had the same headlines. Days before Christmas of 2022, he and his baby mama got busted in a city a few hours from where I lived, driving high off synthetic weed with their then two-year-old son in the car. I won't go into full detail, but their son was found in horrible conditions. Besides local news articles talking about them, even different states had an article on them. It even reached international waters as even the U.K had an article written about them. I feel horrible saying this, but it wouldn't surprise me if their son spent his Christmas in the foster care system. It also hit close to home as my now youngest nephew was almost two at the time. I don't know why anyone would do it, but they got bailed out.

I probably won't have kids for various reasons, but if that was my kid, and they did that to my grandchild, I would've left them spend Christmas in jail. I also would've disowned them and fight for full custody and would never let them see their kid again. If I was a friend or family member, I wouldn't help them out and put my money towards helping with their kid's lifelong therapy.

As of tonight, after almost two years of looking at their court updates, I found out that they both had their charges dropped and got their son back. During the time they were trying to get him back, they had another son as well who's now almost the same age his brother was during the crime.

I don't know why people like them can get away with doing such horrible crimes and even allowed to have more children.

I think this goes here? Correct me if it should be in a different subreddit!

The more context I get on the incident near 9 years ago, the less I feel guilty. And the more amused I feel because apparently what I thought was a massively childish move turned out to be a solid slap in the face to manipulative bullies~ And I still live in their heads rent free years later.

what I thought I did: I tried to manipulate my old friend group against someone because I didnt know how to express myself properly. I got caught and my former 3 best friends went for my throat I didnt take accountability. I threw blame and gave excuses.

Then I just...ghosted with a super whiny farewell note.

But as it turns out, my behavior… I thought I was gaslighting myself into thinking they were mistreating me. As it turns out, I was enduring reactive abuse. They were poking and prodding and hitting me with subtle micro aggressions until I finally lashed out.

Am I guiltless? No. I shouldn’t have jumped to manipulation. But I feel like being raised by a narcissist without therapy kinda screwed me there. Not an excuse but it sadly makes sense.

The two who went off on me hardest for my “betrayal” turned out to be in a server all about mean girl behavior. They’d been talking badly about me for ages, making fun of everything I did. One of them even goes so far as collecting evidence in folders on everyone she knows to prove them bad people.

And that one claimed I had once been her best friend…

Nine years later, the one who kept folders still somehow finds me whenever I make a new user on a new platform, blocking me before I even know she exists.

Apparently, they still talked about me for YEARS After I ghosted them until someone flat out said “CAN WE DROP HER FOR FRICKS SAKE”

Meanwhile I was getting my first job, my license, getting my life back on track…

Nine years later, in a fit of manic guilt ridden depression, I leave a donation on two ko-fis. One of the ones semi involved but not fully guilty managed to find me via my PayPal and we reconnected… She told me everything. She apologized for being complicit

I have my best friend back. And I know I wasn’t as toxic as I thought….

If they see this, Mina, I hope you get a life babygirl. And therapy. I don’t think I ever was your bestie. Besties don’t collect evidence of “wrongdoings” on each other.

Py, good on you for your streaming success but I don’t think we can ever mesh again. Not after what I was told about your jealousy issues.

/augh ranty ranty sorry

My daughter is a 15 yr old HS student and this is a classmate. They are not friends but they have some mutual friends. She says she knows he hates her but she doesn’t know why. She hears from her friends that he says mean stuff about her frequently. They have a few classes together but she never talks to him. Today he sent her this message out of nowhere. I’m pretty mad, and it hurt her feelings. My instinct is to track this little shit down and humiliate him. I’m not going to do it of course. I want to tell the principal or counselor but she is saying if I do she won’t come to me with problems like this anymore, which I don’t want obviously. I told her to block him on text and she did, do I just drop it for now?

My younger brother (15 years old) is currently at an international scout event, but instead of a great experience, he is facing bullying, physical abuse, and harassment—not just from some fellow scouts but also from the scout leaders who were sent to protect them.

He called me in distress, saying that:

If he or other scouts report the abuse, their passports might be taken away to prevent them from returning home. Some scouts who informed their parents were punished as retaliation. He is being falsely accused of something he didn’t do so they can justify mistreating him. The scoutmasters, who should ensure their safety, are instead part of the abuse. He deeply regrets ever joining scouting because of this experience. I am not just worried about my brother—I am also worried for any child who will have to go through this in the future. No child should have to suffer this kind of treatment in a movement that is supposed to shape them into better individuals.

I don’t trust the local scouting organization, as I have seen corruption, bribery, and negligence before. Reporting this to them may do nothing or make things worse.

What can I do to protect my brother now while ensuring that no other child has to suffer this in the future? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I am a 28F and just moved back in with my Mom and her boyfriend of 7 years after leaving an abusive relationship of 10 years.

I'm totally rebuilding my life. I didn't talk to my mom for years and had a VERY abusive childhood at the hands of her and my Dad. I reconnected with her out of pure necessity of needing somewhere to go to survive my DV relationship. It should only be for a few months.

I was always the family scapegoat as a child and ever since I've moved in every one has had a problem with ever single thing I do. No one respects my boundaries. I had severe OCD as a child and even things unrelated to my OCD were blamed on me, and that is continued now. A light bulb could go off and I would be berates for that and told it's my fault and it's a "respect" thing. Not only that, but my teen brother gets involved as a mediator without my consent and they have audible family meetings about me every time one of these "incidents" happens.

But the main issue is my mom's boyfriend just straight up bullying me. He'll be super confrontational when my mom's not there about the most minute issues that are bothering him about things I did?, make me cry, and then deny it when she gets home and call me manipulative and tell everyone I was lying. I have resorted to essentially checking in and out of their house everyday like it's a hotel, running straight upstairs as soon as I get home from work so avoid contact with anyone, acting like I don't exist. I told them all I refuse to have any conversations with them in person and it must all be via text so it's written down.

A lot.of his bullying focuses on him just being right. Before I left my DV relationship we set some expectations for when I moved in. I had to agree to sharing all food i bought, not having a lock on my door, etc. Now that I'm here and standing up for myself about these things because they're ridiculous, he's bullying me.

I usually use a travel lock on my door when I sleep because my ex sexually assaulted me often when I slept and it made me feel safe to keep the door lock. Stepdad didn't care.

I told him I need specific food because I have gastric sleeve surgery. He didn't care.

they just didnt know why im on reddit it is because i need to talk to my mom if my internet is not working and im getting 90 and higher scores on my teasts now

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There was a news article in my town years ago (early 2000's) of a boy and girl walking down a street when two robbers came at them with knives. The boy ran and left the girl to fend for herself. The robbers felt bad for the girl and let her go.

A year goes by, and I somehow find out that the boy who ran away was my current bully at that time. He tried to intimidate me by acting like he was going to punch me in the face, stopping mere mm from my face. But when I didn't flinch or even blink and just looked him in the eye, he asked me why I wasn't afraid.

I told him I am not afraid of cowards and walked away with all his friends laughing at him.

So there was this kid, lets call him Baron, and he was such a jerk. In fifth grade, just playful snowball fights, but now he was the reason why I almost commited su!c!d3. He did not seem to give two f@cks about what happened, when my brother pulled me from the road before a car hit me. We all talked it out, but baron had the audacity to justify his bullying. after a few months, he was making fun of me wearing a full turban, instead of a patka. My religion is sikhism, and we use the turban to keep our hair in place, and its a part of our identity. This f*cking kid had the audacity to say "every day, i see you becoming more of a terrorist". I said "this is a part of the maturing stage, which i see you dont have any idea about." The bus started screaming "OH!!!!". At that point I was decided that I would take this matter in my own hands. The school was not doing anything about it, even defending baron. Today, he said "Why are you always sitting in the back on the one seater of the bus? You listen to music, thats all." I said "I can sit wherever I want and that is not your problem is it? How about the test grade you got?" Then Baron said (i dont exactly remember how it went but oh well) "I hate you so much. I wish you would have let go of your brother, you freak of nature SPED boy. Even your dad said you are stupid." That broke me. I had no words. I was on the verge of crying. I stayed silent for the whole bus drive. I was listening to this song (Dr Dre- I need a doctor) and I was thinking about why I dont have the courage while Dre made a whole recovery from his injuries. I went home crying to my parents. They said they will say this to the school. What should I do tomorrow to get revenge on him and make him look stupid infront of the school? Any ideas to get back at him?

( I allow this to be made into a video as well.)

EDIT: A lot of people call me autistic or sped, I talk normally, so I dont really know my body language or what my behavior is considered sped? I dont look that normal, maybe thats why they call me sped? IDK

A group of boys have bullied me for a while and it's mainly name calling.

I've just been focusing on GCSEs and trying to smash through the last bit of school before I no longer have to be around these people. I did pretty good on mocks and was feeling happy for the first time in ages. Getting into a good sixth form was within reach and that made me so positive.

Today when we were doing press ups in PE, one of the boys grabbed my ankles, another sat on my back and grabbed my arms, then the rest of them gave me a wedgie. It all happened so fast and there was nothing I could do, it was so embarrassing and painful. One of them said ok that's harsh and they stopped. One boy who's the worst bully said keep holding him I wanna rip his boxers off. Before I could try get up they were holding me down again and the boy started pulling my boxers again.

This was in the sports hall with half the year group there. There was a circle of people around me and it was getting bigger cos loads of people were running over to watch. So many people were shouting wedgie and more and more people were coming to see. The boy stopped pulling and I thought ok it's over now. But actually he wrapped his hand around the material pulled up and started pulling again. This time it was much harder and I genuinely wanted to cry cos everyone was just laughing. I kept shouting stop but he didn't, he leaned back and put his full weight into pulling. It hurt like hell but my boxers didn't rip.

That's when he started yanking with his full strength, I had tears in my eyes now cos it was just hurting so bad. He kept yanking and bit by bit it started to rip. Then he did one continuous pull until they ripped clean off.

I thought wedgies only happened in cartoons. So many people made fun of me all day and kept calling me wedgie boy. Now one of the boys posted a video of it on Instagram. Loads of people are sharing it on their stories and making fun of me. I can't sleep now, I'm so scared about school tomorrow. I think bullying will get worse if I report this to my teachers.

Today, this might be the worst day of my life, and I need your help... All my school years until now I was the problem, I had most of my classmates turn on me, being the class clown for subconsciously giving myself therapy for being hated for my mistakes and my teacher manipulating my classmates to turn them on me. I had the same classmates from the first grade to the eight, due to living in a small town knowing eachother. I was always a bad example for everyone those years, but in middleschool as my classmates grew up and changed that teacher, It wasn't that bad. During those years I tried subconsciously again, making them to stop disliking and treating me like I am the problem, this led to me doing many bad things for validation. My parents were divorced and that made it even worse, I was the shortest kid from all the boys being bullied by that mostly. I am a freshman now in my highschool, and I made a restart. I did a terrible mistake yesterday that made my whole 28 other classmates hating and turning on me for snitching them to the geography teacher. The geography teacher (male) made sexual jokes, though they were not too far but they were still innapropiate to the girls from our class, ex: all trenches have girl names and telling us about his teenage years with girls, being with 2 at once, and being also with older girls, the other jokes were personal to 2 girls. After that class, our classmates told our teacher and the principal about it, they said that we should not tell anyone about this, and it escalated to a bad situation for that teacher. I liked the teacher, he was charismatic and explained the lessons well, during the break I saw him and I decided to to alert him by being in trouble with what he did. I saw him in the hall stairs next to our class (my dumbass) and got close to him and tried to tell him the situation. As I moved to his direction and made my first words, I saw one of my classmate sitting in front of our class door. I knew I fucked up seeing her look at us, but I kept telling him what he will face. I didn't tell the girls' name, I tried to keep it personal. After that, today after getting home forgetting about it I looked at the group chat seeing someone finding out and eventually that girl telling that it was me, everyone was insulting and making fun of me, they showed pure hate to me for snitching them. When I saw those messages, I knew it was too late to defend myself, but I still tried to do it, by lying to them trying to help those girls, they still said that I am making myself the victim. Tommorow will be even worse seeing all of them being against me especially having to explain it twice, It will be a nightmare. After not seeing bad things from my parents fighting in a while, I'm finally living a better life than before. But it wasn't for long. I don't know what I should do, should I dm the geography teacher try to help me? I need a suggestion or help ASAP to get through this especially having no one else to ask for help and tell this.

So one day my gf(16) was very upset and I (16)tried asking her the reason,she didn't tell me and i insisted and she shouted on me and started crying... Now I didn't wanted to attract attention so i left for timebeing.. Next day i didn't go to school and i got to know that she had an argument with a girl and all the other girls teamed up and said bad things about her and her character and many other shitty things and she actually started to cry... (Context- Most of the girls at school hate my gf maybe because her mother is teacher in our school but her mom shows no biasness and treats everyone literally equally).... So yea most of the time she even tells me to stay away from her because everyonehat the school hates her and they would eventually hate me too... So rn it's night time and all this happened today at the school... Can you guys please suggest me what can i do in order to support her as tomorrow is my school... And guys since I'm a male and all other would be female so ease suggest some appropriate method so that i can beat the shit out of those bitches... And please no suggestions of telling everything to teachers please coz they would still not stop... Please guys I don't wanna see her like this..

im gonna start by saying where I live im at the end of summer holidays and school starts in about a week.

so in one of the last days of school last year, one of my two bullies "apologised" to me. her "apology" went almost exactly like this:

im sorry for being a bit rude to you in some classes

she was not just a bit rude. she was cruel and mean and bullied me. are she was the lesser of two evils, but not by much. im obviously not gonna accept her "apology", because its stupid, but when we go back to school, I want to have a civil conversation with her and make sure she knows she did more than be a bit rude.

but its complicated because she's good friends with some of my friends, and I don't wanna "start drama." how can I talk to her?