I can't believe I have been using this app for ten years!! Cheers to another ten and many, many more after that.

I want to reciprocate with a meal subscription because he eats to live on weekdays(mainly due to work) but I want to change things up so ideas are welcome! Also, how do people keep the sparks alive when they are physically away from their partners?

I went septic 2 years ago due to a kidney stone that was obstructing my kidneys flows but after almost 3 YEARS (and it growing 2mm) its out due to me going to the ER and getting medicine because I knew something was wrong!

Listen to your body, and advocate as much as you need!

I recently did a purge of all negative thinking, embracing only positive thinking. And it's the most rewarding thing I ever did.

Being as reflective, critical, and analytical as I am, I hit some roadblocks that made me consider if I should balance the positivity with negativity for a complete perspective. But the results are in, from experience I can see that I live my best life when I'm positive minded, peaceful, healthy, drug-free smoke-free and alcohol-free, vegan, happy, kind, and compassionate.

I recommend a great book that helped me find this lifestyle called The Power by Rhonda Byrne. It's about the law of attraction and the power of love to put yourself on a frequency to receive happy things, events, people, and experiences.

The momentum just keeps building and I keep getting happier.

I also learned that life is easy this way! I used to thrive off the thrill of challenges and overcoming difficulties, but I'm even happier when everything is smooth and easy.

I'm looking to make friends who are also living the happy life, so feel free to DM me 🕊️

I just wanted to share it with somebody who can appreciate it. I am a young aspiring writer and I have never got actual recognition for it before. It's a small contest, but I am still incredibly overjoyed by it. It was a short story, but I mostly specialise in those anyway. It feels so awesome to have someone see my work and like it. I'm not even excited about whatever my reward will be. I'm just happy someone read that little story and enjoyed it.

Today is day 1 of no contact after being married to a narcissist for 8 years this is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life I’ve lived through the abuse the torture the cheating the lies and yet I miss them but today I started making a list every time I want to call them I add to that list a reminder of all the things my brain made me forget all these years I am hoping this is day 1 of a life without being controlled

My boyfriend lives on the other side of the world, so we only get to see each other a handful of times each year. I arrived last night after a very long day of driving, flying, and layovers.

This is my second time seeing him in 2024, and we’ll get 2-3 more visits if we’re lucky.

Before I left, I googled concerts in the area, and my favorite band is playing nearby! I found out about the show completely by chance, and I’m so excited!

Currently sitting on his couch, crocheting a blanket for him, and he’ll be home in about 30 minutes (:

So grateful I get to see my favorite band live with my favorite person!!! Happy Thursday everyone

At 9:56 am today my boyfriend (m23) of 4 years and I (f21) both randomly texted each other "I love you ❤️" while we were apart and it just made me smile. I was in my social work course watching a mock therapy group and one of the girls said her partner is her comfort person and I thought of him because he's mine. He told me that "dreams" by the cranberries was playing at his work (🥺) and it reminded him of me (omfg I'm winning). Life is funny and this just really reminded me that there are people who love you and think about you even when you're not around.

Grew up in a small poor town in rural midwest. First of my family to go to college. I did two years of community college first while working at the mall and lived with parents, then I transferred to University and I only needed a loan for my final semester. That was in 2012. Not gonna lie, I was pretty much couch surfing/homeless til 2014 where I decided to learn programming (my major in college was history, what a waste of time).

Got my big break in 2015, but still living on the edge and needed roommates until 2019. In 2022 I joined a tech startup which I am still working at. I have zero debt outside of a mortgage (got a house at 3% in 2022 whew!), and have savings of a bit over $500k thanks to some smart investing. I got married in 2019 and have a daughter, and life is pretty good as I get to work from home and my wife doesn't have to work. My hours are flexible at work as well as long as I get my tasks done, that's all they care about. No set hours.

After expenses we have about $3k left over every month to invest or do something fun with.

I am pretty happy. Hopefully it lasts.

2 years ago, when I told my family and friends I wanted to release all original music as a fully independent artist, and try to turn it into a full time living, almost everyone I knew didn’t believe I’d get very far… I know realistically the vast majority of people that try don’t get far, so I could understand where they were coming from (the music industry is insanely hard to make a living in). But I would never know if I didn’t try…So I did. And I worked so hard, and so many times I asked myself why I was doing this…So many times I wanted to give up. But looking at this milestone, I feel very happy and proud that I didn’t give up. I’m also earning a decent part time income from my music too! The next goal is full time! Just thought I’d share this, and to not give up on your dreams if you truly love doing them! :)

Hey all, today I woke up and stepped on a weight scale and saw it was 158.5lbs :) I was around 202lbs when I started and it's amazing I reached into the 150 range, the last recorded weight of me I can remember was being around 160 a couple years back and it has only gone up since then. The fact I'm lower than that makes me extremely proud of myself and that change really is possible!

It really helps I also have my boyfriend supporting me and he's one of my main motivators, he helps me feel secure and safe :D

There were times I "failed" and felt terrible about myself that I didn't keep myself in check, then I always tell myself, "it's a marathon, not a race" and that along the way you will have difficulties snacking, plateaus, and others where you just go beyond your calories for the day. But also, times where you'll do it and be succcessful. In the end they all add up and you will see that no matter what, that you DID lose weight because you didn't give up regardless of all the missteps. The smallest steps are my favorite, esp at the beginning! Because something is working. The scale isn't always accurate and fluctuates, so I take pictures and the differenc is very noticable :)

Super proud of myself, and thankful to my boyfriend in this journey.

I’m kinda lonely in college I didn’t find many good friends here throughout the years, I got good friends back home though but kinda sad I can’t spend it with them bc I feel like 21 is kinda special? Maybe? But here’s to another trip around the sun of life 😄

I just feel so much better now that I've learned to cope with all of my mental health issues and even though is not perfect I just feel so proud of myself :))

I’ve done an emotional 180 over the past two years for the better! These books have helped me more than therapy, antidepressants, and sleeping pills. Some of them contain spirituality but can be enjoyed by any religion. I tell everyone I know about them and just wanted to share here!

• hang out with people you love. go out, get drunk, have fun. everything in moderation hehe
• touch people. hugs, touches, pets, holding hands, squeezes, cuddles... EVERYTHING
• talk to people. open up. it's okay to allow yourself to be held by the people you want to be cared by. it's okay to have the selfish desire to be burdensome. it is OKAY! keep moving. never stay in one place too long (small and large scale). comfort is the foil of growth.
• exercise. even if you don't feel like going, just do 15 minutes. the rest will come. and I KNOW you always feel better after moving. whether it be a walk after dinner, a gym run, or even a a simple stretch outside.
• always push yourself. no matter how hard it seems, you can always go further. one extra lap, minute, or rep... just that extra breath of effort will push you boundlessly. you will realize you can overcome the goals you set for yourself, which slowly seep into the rest of your life.
• correct negative thoughts gently. when you feel hateful, reflect on your own thoughts. why are you being mean? your inner thoughts heavily influence your perspective on the outer world. humans are creatures of projection, so PLEASE be kind to yourself and others.
• eat breakfast. even if you don't think you want to. a coffee, a fruit, or a slice of bread. I promise that extra boost of energy is worth it.
• talk to people that make you happy. keep the company of people who uplift you. keep those who support you, purge the ones who denounce you. may the bridges you burn light the way!
• talk less, act more. for me, actions have always spoken louder than words. making less excuses and just doing things will help propel your plot.
• MUSIC. listen to it, play it, learn it, make it, worship it. make playlists, sing songs, listen with people. it's the best thing to boost you up and feel understood when no one else understands. (the best part about music is there's so freaking much of it you can't possibly find something you don't like)
• question your perspective to the world. think of the external and internal causes that lead you to your beliefs. learn to question EVERYTHING, but keep a grounding foot on your intuition as well.
• don't overthink. if you're self conscious about it, they probably are too. no one is focusing on your faults. you are your biggest critic!
• you get out what you put out and that's that!

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* DISCLAIMER: *

this is the unsolicited advice of a (highly opinionated) 22F yr old onliner, so take everything with a grain of salt. this just happens to be a helpful guide i keep in my notes app and wanted to share.

on paper, i have no impressive concrete accomplishments in my life. i am a classic instance of a burnt-out-gifted-kid turned college drop out. so, if you would like to tell me i am living my life wrong, go ahead.

i am quite content.

i have spent a lot of time trying to find that sense of normalcy we've all been aching for since graduating high school. it felt like i would never experience that grandiose feeling of truly "living in the moment" and "seeing in color" again. i wished the world would pause for me just once. just to allow me to relive a core memory from my childhood again. but alas, that nostalgic relief never comes...

because truly, life goes on, and it never stops.

to some, it might sound harsh, but i interpret it as a comfort saying. accepting that "it is what it is" but "what will be, is in my hands", is the most important takeaway.

ultimately, there is no "cure" or solution to find happiness. it comes and goes, wanes and rises, just as the moon and the sun! if you remember the world always has balance, whether it be spiritually, mentally, or physically, you begin to understand that

spread kindness and patience, or don't. it is up to you do as you please! just remember to challenge yourself always, and truly focus with intention.

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I just wanted to share to everyone that I am truly happy. The past couple of weeks, I have spent my afternoons and nights outside on my back porch just enjoying life. Sometimes I will watch my phone, or I’ll browse Reddit, but just being outside in the bliss, cool, and calming air just makes me feel some kind of way. Pair that with the beautiful sounds of the birds, and the frogs in the distance. It all just puts me at ease. Most of my life has been pretty stressful, especially now that I’m graduating high school in less than a month. To be able to enjoy the creations of God with the moon shining, the chirps of the birds in the trees, the speckled sky littered with stars, and the gentle sway of the pine trees… I’ve rambled. Point is guys, I truly feel happy. I have nothing to complain about. I have great friends, great parents, a cute little chihuahua, supporting teachers and staff at my school, and most importantly what seems to be a great future. No idea what I’ve done to deserve it all but I’m grateful. Just wanted to share my emotions because seeing life at face value, excluding all negatives, is so special to me.

This is very small, but I haven't stopped thinking about it since it happened and it makes me happy! Sorry, this might get long.

I have a weird role at my job and it was created when I was hired so there were no processes or procedures in place. It's listed as a Customer Experience Specialist role, but I am involved in every aspect of the company. One thing that's evolved, that definitely wasn't part of the job, is that coworkers confide in me knowing I have a "loose lips sink ships" mentality. I never reveal details or gossip, but if I'm concerned about something/someone I'll roundabout bring it up to management.

On Friday one of my direct teammates was venting pretty hard and I went to my manager to say I was concerned this person may be experiencing burnout and I'm not sure how long they'll be with the company. My boss said he noticed it too and if they need to leave for their mental wellbeing it's understandable and there are contingency plans in place. Then he said, all except you, there's no contingency plan if we lose you.

Folks, I know everyone is replaceable, but this made me feel so valued and seen. I already love my job, but this was icing on the cake.

Thank you for reading.

Has a sad start, but trust me it’s really nice once you read it all.

Long story short many years ago I had a lot of falling out with people I cared about. All my fault. Since then I thought of myself as a horrible person due to the guilt and shame. Lead me down a dark road. Even tried to kill myself in 2022 due to it all since it was getting harder and harder to handle.

Last night I decided to reach out on social media to one of them who I had falling out with in 2019. He accepted the apology. He even said everything was alright. How he moved on for everything, and then we wished each other well.

This came to a shock to me. Honestly I thought he was gonna get angry at me, but no. Was very sweet really.

The next morning I decided to reach out to anyone else I could to apologize, to forgive them, or just to send thanks. Really was a great feeling to do. Gave myself closure and even them if they needed it. Plus, I think it was good for me to thank the people in my life who treated me well too.

Some haven’t responded or even said much, but that doesn’t matter. My actions I took made me forgive myself regardless.

I feel so much peace. Serenity and contempt all over my body. Almost as if a giant weight was lifted from my body and now the wound is stitched and healed.

Can’t remember the last time I felt like this. It’s a beautiful feeling and I hope get to experience it too.

Back from a deployment and finally got to take my mom out for a birthday celebration. Long overdue.

after dealing with anxiety my whole life and suffering a lot of traumatic events, i finally got the help i needed (prozac/fluoxetine) !!

i finally feel happy and less anxious, im arguing with my dad less and things are looking up ! yay !!!! 😁 life is good and it DOES in fact get better

There isn’t much that brings me pleasure anymore but i am so grateful for warm blankets. I just put a blanket in the drier until it was warmed up, i took it out and laid under it for a few seconds and it was one of the most pleasurable things I have ever felt in my life. I just felt so safe, so comforted and loved and even though i was completely alone i didn’t feel like it at all. All of the tension in my body just completely went away and breathing became so easy, my lungs felt so open and every time i breathed i could feel my breath traveling throughout my whole body. The pleasurable sensation that started in my chest began to expand, until it expanded to the blanket itself. I didn’t even feel like a separate entity anymore, nothing was separate, all that exists is warmth, and every aspect of my surroundings including myself is a part of the Great Warmness. I was so affectionate i started smiling so intensely and i felt so happy i started crying in the middle of nowhere. It was beautiful. Why is a heated piece of cloth capable of this?? Even though it only lasts a few seconds, it makes everything around me seem perfect and it makes everything seem okay. It’s the only friend i have. I love the warmth of heated blankets so much and i am so thankful for its sweet embrace, i don’t deserve it at all