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About a week ago I started actively identifying as asexual (as in for the past couple of years I have been identifying with the orientation in the back of my mind and only recently explored it).

Right now, I identify somewhere in between oriented space and aromantic Aegosexual but the aromantic part is still in the area of “maybe” because I’ve never really tried to have a romantic relationship.

Here’s my current feelings:

Sexual attraction

I do get some kind of sexual desire that leads to… *ahem* self relieving, but I’ve sorta figured out that, if I ever experienced someone wanting to “do the deed” with me, then I would likely want to get out of there as fast as I can. I’ve danced around the terms orchidsexual and aegosexual because, while I don’t want to have an encounter with a person irl, I’m still aroused by almost all kinds of erotic media regardless of the perspective.

Romantic attraction

I currently identify as aromantic but I’m not sure because of a few reasons: I have had a crush before, but it was someone who was way above my league and I was much more attracted to how she looked than her personality, and even then, it wasn’t in an “I was to have sex with you” way, but more of an “I want to be near you because you look good”. I’ve only had one partner in my life, and that was a girl when I was 6 to which I had little to no actual attraction towards, apart from the girlfriend label.

Sorry about the wall of text, but can anyone tell me what microlabels would best describe me based on what I’ve said? It’s been a week of me basically hyperfixating on my sexuality and I’m hoping that this post will give me a final answer. Thank you and have an amazing day.

I’m in a relationship with my boyfriend, a gay relationship irl! Crazy right???? And well he’s ace, and I was pretty sure I’m ace, but now I’m sure! It’s great! We’re just in a happy asf couple and we don’t need any of that, and I just think that’s really cool! Wait… am I happy?!! Yay!

Confused teen here Sorry for spelling mistakes

I have done things on myself in my life. But I only enjoyed it in the moment and after it I just felt like bad. Like I did something bad, disgusting. Not too good overall, I guess. I never found myself sexual attracted to anyone. Or realy in any way, but esspecialy not sexualy. I just don't know. Everyone just takes sex and sexual things as normal and I don't realy think about it. Or I don't think sex is something I realy want. Like I too make jokes about it, but I can't see myself ever getting sexual with someone. Even if they would be my partner. I don't feel like sex is something I need in life. I never bring this up to anyone they would say I'm "too young" anyway. I honestly don't know.

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I never post on reddit so this feels embarrassing, but I feel like i’m the only person ever that doesn’t care about sex? obviously i’m not and i know that but it’s so hard to be asexual and exist around high schoolers.

i work retail with a bunch of other girls my age (16, 17, 18) and they are CONSTANTLY talking about hooking up with guys and i don’t mind hearing them talk about it but it’s so awkward when they look at me as if im supposed to contribute to the conversation when i have absolutely nothing to say. the other day i told one of them that i hadn’t gotten my monthly in like 3 months (tmi probably sorry) and she started panicking and telling me i needed to get a pregnancy test and i just laughed it off and told her “i don’t do anything, I’m not worried about that”. She proceeded to give me the most uncomfortable “what’s wrong with you” look imaginable 😭 and this stuff happens all the time.

when guys dm me on instagram hitting on me, if the conversation lasts longer than 20 minutes i very early on tell them that I’m asexual and they ALWAYS say they’re okay with it and then get mad later when i don’t send them nudes? I didn’t even realize how few guys don’t care about that kinda stuff. My first boyfriend wasn’t asexual but he didn’t mind me being on the spectrum or ever complain about it. That made me think that was normal i guess so it kind of took me aback when dudes started blocking me as soon as i didn’t talk sexual back to them.

I know i’m saying very common sense things like I discovered fire, but i just feel like being 15,16,17 is the absolute worst time to be ace because of how hormonal everyone is? idk man.

i sincerely apologize for how long this is !

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I (f15) have a boyfriend(he's 16), and we've been together for a bit more than a month. He asked me if I want to do stuff with him, but I don't really like the thought of having sex, and i don't feel sexually attracted to him, but I do feel romantically attracted to him. So, what should I do? How should I explain it to him?

but I like space and cake and probably not the other thing

i’ve been doing some things with myself, and i don’t know if i like it or not. in the moment it’s nice but right after im done i’m not like happy. i’m just sitting there and i feel gross. i feel horrible that i don’t know what i am

Hey all, I'm a new mod here and really have nothing more to say. So um yeah, hi :3.

I’m in high school right now, and I’ve never wanted to have sex. The idea grosses me out and as of right now, I don’t have any interest and don’t want to do it. I’ve thought about the idea of being asexual, and I’m open to it, I think that might be me, but I am still so young and I haven’t even dated anyone yet, but also like I really don’t want to WANT to have sex??? If that makes sense??? It’s kind of frustrating because I really want to know and have a determining factor that says, “Yes, you’re definitely asexual” but I’ve never had experiences that would tell me that. I kind of just have to wait until something happens, which is also frustrating.

Anyway if anyone has any advice for what I can do while I wait for a sign from Jesus it would be much appreciated

lGBTQ+'ism (for lack of a better way to say it) runs strong in my family. I have bi aunts and uncles, a gay dad and son and I'm have recently accepted that all the running in the world isn't going to make me less bi. So, I post not as an "OMG, what's wrong with my kid???????" But as a parent trying to understand what my son might be feeling/experiencing so that I can be more knowledgeable and prepared if it does turn out he's also part of the community.

On to the point, and I'll try to keep it short. We've talked a lot about relationships in our house and so far he doesn't seem to have a preference on gender for dating or marriage.... Potentially bi or bi adjacent... Not foreign to me. BUT he says kissing is "disgusting" regardless of gender. And he means it. If someone innocently tries to give him a kiss with a hug he goes full meltdown mode. He just turned 13. Is this a potential sign he's ace or something else? If you need more info, just ask. If this could be a sign he's asexual, how can I best support him so that he knows he has us in his corner without making him feel like we are labeling him. Only he knows his truth. Thanks in advance.

Hello. I’m 18 and I just graduated. I think Im aroace (if you couldn’t read the title lol). I always struggled with seeing relationships around me all the time and bot necessarily wanting one. I recently broke up with my partner because I realized I didn’t have any sexual or romantic attraction to them as well as anybody. I felt horrible because that’s not their fault. Its nobody’s fault really. But I fel like such a bad person for figuring that out in the middle of a relationship. I have a hard time identifying my emotions and i mixed up romantic and platonic when I don’t think Im able to like someone romantically. I feel very isolated from my friends because I desire to have a cute romance like in the movies and like my friends who are happy with their partners but I also don’t think I like people that way and Im unsure how to feel about that. Im sorry for such a long and very disorganized rant, but Im having a hard time finding people understanding how I feel.

Hi everyone, I'm following up from the last post. So at the end of the last post, I announced that I will be seeking out new moderators for this sub. I will now discuss with you what is going to happen from here-

1. I will be taking on new moderators to help maintain the upkeep of this sub. I will go through an application process with any volunteers that offer to become a mod of r/AceTeens.

2. Any volunteer who wants to become a mod of this sub is going to have to deal with me. There are a few requirements that you are going to need if you are to become a mod of this sub.

a) You must have a verified email address.

b) Your account must be at least a month old.

c) You must have at least 50 karma.

d) You must have a Discord account and be willing to join the QueerTeens server.

e) You must be a TEEN (13-19)

3. If you apply and meet all these requirements, you will then advance to the next stage where you will have a trial of modding the sub. This trial will last a month. If I am happy with your contribution to the moderation of this sub, I will step down.

4.You can apply for moderation by either commenting under this post or sending me a DM.

Hope I explained everything clear enough. If you have any questions, you can ask down in the comments.

Yours truly, u/dazzlinreddress

I am making this post with a heavy heart. It was going to happen eventually anyways.

I have decided that my time as mod is up. I've been head mod for roughly 2 years. It's come quicker though because of the whole API debacle.

Let me update you a bit on what made push come to shove. As you know, this sub went dark back in June as a form of protest. The sub was supposed to stay closed until the 31st of June. Idk how it went under my radar but Reddit forced the sub open 11 days BEFORE the 31st. I only saw the message they had sent me on the 31st as I went to reopen the sub.

When I came back I thought it was strange how the sub had grown without being open. I had only three requests for joining, one of which I denied. But then I went to check my notifications box for requests (because I was replying to one request) and saw that Reddit had sent me a message. I read their bs message and was furious. They said something like "subs need to have lots of active mods". If it was a real person who sent it, they would know that r/AceTeens is a small sub and doesn't need much moderation.

I was so mad, as I wanted to change the rules while it was closed to ensure the safety of this place. Even when I went to reopen it, the sub type was still set to "Private". So weird. Another thing that I'm pissed about is the shitty mod tools. You can only change the rules if you use a computer, which I don't always have access to (another reason to leave).

It's mainly Reddit's fault that I am stepping down now but I was going to leave either this year or next year, as I am getting too old. They just sped up the process.

So with all that said, I will need to make someone else a mod. I will make another post on that later as this one is already long enough.

Yours truly, u/dazzlinreddress

We are still recruiting for our study about the experiences of gender & sexually diverse individuals ages 13-17!

There has been a lack of research highlighting the distinct experiences of SGM youth as well as efforts to identify how these experiences affect each of these groups differently, continuing to facilitate a lack of awareness in various professional communities. Additionally, much of the available research has excluded sexualities that do not conform to the gender binary (e.g., pansexual, asexual, and queer individuals), which may cause harm to our understanding of distinct experiences between SGM groups.

The purpose of the study is to learn more about the problems young people experience as well as the things that increase and decrease those problems. Results of the study may help professionals like teachers, doctors, and therapists better serve youth from all parts of the spectrum.

If you are interested, here is a link to the survey: https://lsu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_5nFkB2bXbWGm09o

Participation is completely anonymous and should take no longer than 20 minutes to complete. As a thank you for their time, participants have the option to complete an unlinked survey if they would like to be entered in a $25 gift card raffle. It is made up of multiple-choice questions about your experiences in addition to a few open response questions because your voice is the most important.

For more information, see the study flyer here: https://lsumail2-my.sharepoint.com/:b:/g/personal/mhanse8_lsu_edu/Edmw21T-g-tPqhXU31KYJkQBJzzhlNz-cGgkSuns3ONK_w?e=318dWw

Please share the survey link and/or flyer if there is someone you know who may be interested in taking the survey! If you have any comments, questions, or concerns, feel free to contact me (mhanse8@lsu.edu).

Thank you for taking the time to read about our study! (:

This project is led by a doctoral student researcher in the LSU Department of Psychology (LSU IRB #IRBAM-22-1346).

Proof of IRB Approval: https://lsumail2-my.sharepoint.com/:b:/g/personal/mhanse8_lsu_edu/EcxfSE7789VBlQsYmxlz5FYBZDaf_cEaThu1dDlV_em9Gw?e=VF8Tuf

Hi everyone, during the blackout something happened that made me think twice about the security of this sub. So because of that, I am making a new rule to try and make this sub extra safe.

YOU MUST HAVE A VERIFIED EMAIL TO JOIN THIS SUB

Simple as. Yours truly, u/dazzlinreddress

Well, Reddit officially killed the third party apps. At least we tried :/

Hi everyone, just to remind you we are shutting down the sub on the 12th of June as a form of protest. I have decided that the sub will stay shut indefinitely. To those of you who don't know, Reddit is shutting down third party apps. There is more information about this on r/save3rdpartyapps.

Yours truly, u/dazzlinreddress

Personally I am not very open about it

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Hello everyone. As you may know, Reddit is getting rid of third party apps. Many subs on Reddit are shutting down in protest. I have decided that this sub should do the same. I will update you guys on the situation closer to the time.

Yours truly, u/dazzlinreddress

Wishing all of you the best and don't forget, YOU ARE ALL VALID NO MATTER WHAT!!!

So I was just pondering the idea of coming out ONLY to my dad the other day. My dad literally wouldn't give a fuck if I was ace. But the thing is though, do you think he'll tell my mother? Has anyone else tried to come out to only one parent? If so, how did it go?

Tiny Context: I'm Bi Ace

I tried to come out to my dad, told him my story from a third person perspective, chickened out last second, cried for a bit, and after I tried to explain some definitions to him, he made fun of the concept of romantic attraction and said that romance leads to sexual stuff.

So, that was my day, I'm dying inside. Anyways, how was your day?