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How to stay on top of the news related to US politics? Looking for recommendations on resources/news sites etc.

As a student struggling with ADHD dedicated to establishing good and healthy habits/lifestyle aimed at improving my wellbeing, i have limited my phone usage. But ever since Trump became a president, it feels like we're bombarded with so many new yet relevant information 24/7 that I'm unable to fully follow. Yet, i do find it very important to stay informed (even though i'm not US citizen). I want to be able to follow current events and stay on top of the news without it overtaking a significant portion of my free time.

Hence, I'm looking for resources that provide comprehensive, critical and as objective as possible insights into current events related to USA politics and Trump administration. Podcasts and YouTube resources that bring day to day news without sensationalism are more than welcome, especially if the events are discussed by knowledgable professionals such as lawyers etc.

Thank you!

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2025/02/04
07:00 UTC

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I am so tired of living in this shithole country.

People in my country are sucking Russia's dick, even though they oppressed us for hundreds of years. I don't get how anyone can want this kind of peace. I want my country to join the European Union, but the government is sabotaging it. I don't get how people with self-respect would still vote for this corrupt government, even though it's been falsified. There are people who still vote for them. I don't get it—people would rather live in shit than give any rights to LGBT people. They call themselves Christians, but 90% have never read the Bible. They believe the West wants a second front against Russia from our country. They believe in stupid conspiracy theories and fall for ridiculous propaganda.

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2025/02/04
06:58 UTC

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I hope media gets really f'ing woke now.

Like I want them to remake Braveheart but replace William Wallace with Wilma Wallace, a gay black trans disabled fat woman with vitiligo who shouts their pronouns during battle. I want every game to be written like Dustborn. I want Sweet Baby Inc to put pride flags in everything they can get their hands on.

Why? Because fuck nazis, they deserve to be bombarded with this stuff.

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2025/02/04
06:57 UTC

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I'm owed a sizable tax refund from the IRS. With all the political stuff that's been going on I'm concerned that I won't receive any of it. Thoughts?

It's been approved but I've been locked out of "Where's my refund" on the IRS website.

Future possibility of no more social security, medicare, medicaid and food stamps?

0 Comments
2025/02/04
06:53 UTC

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Am I crazy for being upset that a woman called me "a bit thin?"

I matched with someone who was 2 years younger than me and seemed really cool. She was telling me about things like "her exes and past experiences," and I didn't mind hearing her out, but she talked with me about this one guy and how he made her feel when he left. I understand that he made fun of her for her weight and belittled her a lot, but I was there for her and emptathized with her on how she felt. She told me that his absued inspired her to start working out to lose weight and improve herself. I talked with her and shared that I wanted to build myself up as I had some issues feeling confident and everything looked fine until I showed her my body. She replied with, "You look a bit thin." I felt devastated and then was told that she wasn't really looking for a long-term relationship but wanted to see where things were headed? I understand, and we just met, but Im just so confused about what the hell happened, and I told her that I felt bad about my body shape image. I kinda was lost for words, and I kinda just told her that I wanted to go to sleep to think things through, but I feel so inadequate. She was showing me these guys that she matched with, and they're all super fit and bigger than me. I feel so belittled, and this was my 2nd match on Tinder...

Edit: she did think "I was hot" or such, but it was after I discussed how I felt.

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2025/02/04
06:44 UTC

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Never coming back

At the pub after a day of wage slaving, I was standing at the bar (I'm decent in height, 6'2", probably why she tried to talk to me). She came up behind me and said hi, I turned to her to reply and I saw all the colour and excitement drain from her face and she said "sorry, thought you were someone else" and walked off.
A few moments later she was with her gang of fellow girls and I heard her say "when I saw his face I was like "ewwww omg boak" (boak is the Scottish way of saying something makes you sick).
Time to find a new pub to go to l guess.

3 Comments
2025/02/04
06:29 UTC

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2025/02/04
06:25 UTC

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Today is the day I'll confess to a girl and ask her out, I'm deadly anxious and excited at the same time

Kind of scared I'll dodge it somehow and miss out on her, but I can't give up this easy.

10 Comments
2025/02/04
06:21 UTC

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There’s nothing wrong with being a virgin, but for me, it feels unusual.

I’m demisexual, but even at 30, nearly everyone I know has had at least some romantic or sexual experience. Meanwhile, I have zero. Not even a date. I’ve never been asked out by a guy. My coworkers act surprised when they find out I’m still single, so I don’t think my looks are the issue—I’m just average.

But it really bothers me that I’m 30 and have nothing to show for it. Not even a kiss. I’ve never had a reciprocated emotional connection with a guy, and that stings more than anything.

I know not having sex isn’t the end of the world, but it would be nice to at least experience something and not feel like such an outlier. I see plenty of people who don’t fit society’s beauty standards but still have way more experience than me, and I can’t help but wonder—what’s wrong with me?

And before anyone says, "There's nothing wrong with being single! You should be happy!"—please don’t. I’ve been single for 30 years. I know how to be alone. I just want emotional intimacy for once.

Thanks for letting me rant.

3 Comments
2025/02/04
06:19 UTC

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Hair loss

My husband has very long curly hair. It's quite lovely. But he's 42 and it's starting to fall out. It bothers him more than it bothers me; I understand that this is just a passage of time.

I am, however, getting really sick of cleaning the shower drain.

2 Comments
2025/02/04
05:58 UTC

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Why does the left hate when people shame others, unless it's their enemies?

I'm a solid liberal. I've noticed though, that people on the left will be outraged if you make fun of someone for being fat, or having a disability (rightly so). I also hear them making fun of RFK for his voice. It seems to me that both sides lack any actual principles.

Edit: for the sake of what I was initially trying to convey, I'm removing the bit about trump, and keeping it to RFKs voice, since the issue here is about making fun of people for things like medical issues.

81 Comments
2025/02/04
05:56 UTC

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If your parents were of different religions, or one had a religion and the other didn't, how did your parents raise you with regards to religion, and which parent (if not equal) ended up having more influence over your religion/(or lack of) as a child?

I am a Westeuindid (being part West European and part (in my case Indian) South Asian), and for me, my mom had the greatest influence on my religion as a child, and she still has a great influence on my religion as an adult. My West European-descent dad was born a Christian, though his parents didn't continue to raise him with religion after a certain point and he eventually became agnostic. My South Indian mom has always been a Hindu. She raised me as a Hindu and suggested/encouraged me to undergo certain rituals that are usually done by some of the more religious of Hindus. I myself have been Hindu, though I have lately been interested in reading and learning about other religions.

As I grew up in a Christian dominated society, I often felt somewhat awkward about my dad having been born a Christian, because I felt like I had slightly more in common with the Christian Americans in my society than many monoracial Indian Hindus. One way to describe the relationship I had with the Christian Americans in my society, is that it was like looking back over my shoulder at people on the other side of a mesh gate that had just closed behind me. I felt so close, yet so far from them, and now the best we could do was more or less the equivalent of talking across a fence, without ever actually getting close or really being able to relate and discuss spiritual experiences etc. with each other (in my case, many of the people I knew in my childhood were not open to discussing religion if they were from a different religion than mine).

I am curious to know what those you who are religious and practice the religion of one (but not both) of your parents, feel towards the religion of your other parent (or at least the other parent's birth religion).

0 Comments
2025/02/04
05:53 UTC

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How to not be a hermit

Currently at the ancient age of 18 and a half and not stopping anytime soon.

Never had a gf and I’m worried I’ll end up as one of those 50 year olds that keep holding on to phrases such as “it’ll happen one day.”

My lack of a romantic life has lead to some unhealthy habits. Sometimes thinking about it would make me angry and to get over this anger I would do physical exercise.

However sometimes the exercise is a bit overdone. Like a few weeks ago I got angry at myself over this and ran 20 kilometres to blow off some steam, although I had no prior running for months. I did do it. But my ankle and especially hips are in ridiculous pain still

At other times I would do leg workouts to the point that I could hardly walk without unbearable pain due to extreme soreness

I’m concerned I’m hurting myself over this but I cannot find another way to let go of this anger I have

Any tips appreciated

2 Comments
2025/02/04
05:46 UTC

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Question for people without an internal narrative

How do you function in your day-to-day? How do you make decisions? How do you decide what you like?

0 Comments
2025/02/04
05:46 UTC

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I (17) think everything about reality and humanity sucks; this current dilemma is an exemplification of that

I think human nature sucks and inequality sucks, I cannot see any beauty in this reality, as I am always reminded of the deterministically awful nature of our reality.

People treat vulnerable people badly, you see how the rich treat the poor, how men treat women, how the majority treat the minority, and how straight people treat the LGBTQ+. It is almost as if people like being 'better' than others because there is nothing authentic they can base anything off.

I think almost all relationships are superficial, I also do think that nobody cares about anyone. I get even more depressed thinking about how people are living in the utmost poverty, in refugee camps, experiencing genocide and extreme crisis while people here use that to drool in superiority complex and condescension remember it could always be you.

Then you see people lack basic empathy and treat those in a more awful situation than them in a very condescending light.

Then you see billionaires exploit kids in poor situations in developing countries for a mine, then exploit the populous. Then you see dumb Trumpists fall for that.

All relationships are transactional almost, true care and unconditional love don't exist.

And getting old sucks too, you see the majority of your family die, lose your friends then your relationships become shallow. This is my vision for my sixties or seventies if I make it till then.

Then in the midst of all this, I am reminded I only feel this due to the chemicals in my brain and this is not something that is inherently bad. It just is, and then I get depressed even more

I know I am articulating my points with less nuance, relying on crappy rhetoric and sensationalism, creating a sense of cringe but try to understand the core of my implications before judging.

Is this a normal worldview? I am really 'blackpilled' right now. Sometimes I wonder why we even exist. Would I view things differently when older-if?

Edit: Everyone keeps dismissing my worldview solely due to my age, why not try to engage with the points that I have misidentified instead?

124 Comments
2025/02/04
05:37 UTC

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Feeling like people are watching me all the time.

I feel like people are watching me. Even when I cover all cameras on my device, close my curtains, and lock my door. I just feel like people are staring at me. Maybe there's a microscopic hole in my wall that someone drilled and is watching me through it, or someone in my vents. Sometimes, I search my entire room. I never find anyone, obviously, but it's scary.

It's not cold in my room, but my hair is always standing up, and I sometimes shake just thinking about how someone can see me and are judging me.

Does anyone have this?

8 Comments
2025/02/04
05:37 UTC

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How can I be kinder to myself in spite of being defective?

Well as the title says, I hate being like this, I was born fucking wrong, I just want to be at peace man. I know that I can't be the only that is going through this, someone must've an answer that actually works, please I'm desperate.

5 Comments
2025/02/04
05:26 UTC

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Here's what happens if the Department of Education is abolished

Here's what to know right now:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/education/2025/02/03/trump-education-department-dismantling-executive-order-draft/

The Executive Order to direct the Secretary of Education to dismantle ED is being put together. The likelihood of it actually being followed through on is slim but not impossible. Nothing is impossible with the Trump Administration.

I believe many Americans see ED as a vague governmental entity, and they aren't entirely sure what it does. Suffice to say, it does quite a lot.

First, there is funding. Quick side-note, here are the top 10 government agencies receiving federal funding:

What does the Department of Education do?

Notably, in 2024, ED accounted for 4.0% of federal funding, the 6th highest behind the Department of Veterans Affairs. As far as personnel, ED also happens to be the smallest staffed governmental department. Ask yourself, then, if this is the case, why would DOGE want to eliminate ED? By all evidence, it exerts a small amount of strain on the federal budget.

Back to funding.

Title 1 is a federal program that allocates funds for K-12 schooling based on Census data of national poverty levels. ED apportions the appropriate amount of funding to those states and offer recommendations on how it might be spent.

In 2023, Census data revealed that states having the highest poverty rates were Alabama, Kentucky, Mississippi, and Louisiana. This is true historically. Southern states have often been more reliant on funding from Title 1 than most any other national regions.

If ED is dismantled, Title 1 vanishes. It lies then with the states to supply funding to their educational programs, and since Southern America has a problem with that at the moment, one can imagine that there could be devastating consequences for the quality of many children's educations.

Additionally, college students may have to say goodbye to Pell grants and FAFSA. Given that 6.348 million college students used federal student loans in the '23-24 academic year, the loss of such a benefit could spell trouble for the amount of Americans applying for and receiving college degrees in the future.

The decision to abolish the ED only hurts America. There is no gain. Both blue states and red states end up damaged, some beyond repair. If you are able, contact your Senators and tell them to speak out against the action by the Trump Administration to abolish the ED.

All of America should be united on this front.

3 Comments
2025/02/04
05:25 UTC

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I love my moms. She's like the best mom ever

I just wanted to let y'all know :) I hope you guys appreciate how awesome moms can be

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2025/02/04
05:22 UTC

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I can’t back old chats or messages with old people and friends I had in high school because I stupidly deleted my social media account and got a new one because I was going thru such a rough time. And I just feel so bad about it now.

I alsmot

0 Comments
2025/02/04
05:03 UTC

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Now would be a great time for people to COLLECTIVELY stop paying their student loans in the USA ...

Stop paying down student loan debt until we have a guarantee that Elon Musk will be no where near government coffers. That's it.

EDIT: Just to reiterate how infuriating it should be that Elon Musk, the richest man on the planet and an unelected, foreign "official," is now commandeering the US government's financial infrastructure ... What the fuck?

81 Comments
2025/02/04
05:02 UTC

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Why aren't the people that took over the US Treasure simply arrested?

82 Comments
2025/02/04
04:58 UTC

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An Answer: How Did We Go From Obama to This?

A user on r/GenZ just made a post titled, How did we go from this to wanting to end birthright citizenship?"

The following is my answer. (It started as a comment in response, but it was too lengthy to post, and for whatever reason, r/GenZ deleted this post instantly.)

In 2008, Barack Obama won a decisive victory, by a 7.2% margin, against John McCain. McCain got attacked for being crotchety and militant, but he was considered fundamentally decent by most Americans, and he was a war hero. Even so, Obama was a generational candidate, personally inspiring and hugely charismatic.

When he won, Republican leaders were floored. It wasn't just that Obama had won; it's that he won Virginia, and North Carolina, and Indiana. Indiana. And he ran as an unapologetic progressive.

Republicans were terrified that he would fundamentally remake the American political map and leave them in the wilderness for a generation. None of their attacks had stuck. The voters didn't seem to care that he'd been in the Senate only four years, had a weird name, was a Chicago liberal, was friends (not really) with a 1970s socialist extremist, was black, and had run against a literal war hero.

So, before Obama's inauguration, Senate Minority Leader Mitch McConnell, House Minority Leader Eric Cantor, and several other Republicans had a series of meetings to discuss how to cripple Obama. Their solution: Obstruct Obama and attack him like it was still the campaign. This was the first time an opposition party had decided to treat an entire presidency as a political campaign.

The GOP was also aided by something that happened just two months before Obama's election: The Great Recession. The collapse of several major Wall Street banks in the span of a weekend in September 2008 started an economic slump that, for most Americans, persisted about three years. Which meant that, upon coming into office, Obama's grand visions for American had to take a back seat to trying to rescue the American economy. And, for the next three years, he was constantly hammered by the GOP for the economy.

When did the GOP begin to steal Obama's thunder? Just one month into his presidency. On February 19, 2009, CNBC reporter Rick Santelli ranted on camera from the Chicago Mercantile Exchange about how Obama's efforts to reduce mortgage foreclosures (a key part of the financial crisis) meant that hardworking people (like stock traders) were going to have to bail out their lazy neighbors. It was a "mad as hell, and I'm not going to take it anymore!" rant, and the stockbrokers standing around Santelli loved it. It also launched the Tea Party, the far-right, populist anti-Obama movement whose first protests, a few weeks later, we aggressively promoted by Sean Hannity and Fox News and largely funded by the right-wing billionaire Koch Brothers and FreedomWorks, an anti-regulation, anti-tax organization the Kochs funded.

Through the Tea Party, Republicans shifted the narrative: It wasn't Wall Street billionaires and Republican elites who were to blame for the recession, which started under George W. Bush; it was Obama and the Democrats, with their Big Government regulations and their desire to use your hard-earned tax dollars to protect those lazy, stupid welfare queens. (The early Tea Party movement, by the way, had a lot of overt racism.)

What supercharged the Tea Party? Obamacare and Glenn Beck. In his first year in office, under pressure from the left, Barack Obama decided to pursue healthcare reform. At first, Republicans in Congress actually seemed interested, and Obama was determined to work with them in good faith. But in the summer of 2009, FreedomWorks, Fox, and a new Fox News commentator, Glenn Beck, undertook an agressive campaign to oppose it. This time, GOP activists and commentators took their opposition to a hysterical level. Sarah Palin, the former Alaska governor who had run as McCain's VP nominee, accused Obama of plotting "death panels" to "kill grandma." (In fact, one Obamacare proposal included setting up a board to assess the effectiveness of various medical treatments so that Medicare could focus on those that worked and reduce payments for those that proved ineffective. This, Palin, said, was a plot to stop paying eldercare, so that the government would decided when "grandma" should die.)

Beck, for his part, took things a notch further, accusing Obama of essentially being an anti-American "socialist" who was going to send conservatives to concentration camps and destory America's way of life. Beck would cry regularly on his nightly Fox News show as he thought about the horrors that awaited. His melodrama and tears convinced millions of Americans that he was serious, and that Obama was a mortal threat.

Many of Glenn Beck's supporters also began to believe a new conspiracy theory: that Barack Obama was Muslim. Beck's supporters also followed Beck's hints that Obama was not actually eligible to be president because he was born in Kenya. It was a lie, but the "birther" movement -- as in, "Where was Obama born?" -- became the most popular Republican conspiracy theory of the early 2010s.

And one celebrity became the face of the Birther movement: Donald Trump.

Trump, who had previously been a conservative, populist Democrat, had long floated running for president. In the early 2010s, Trump enjoyed a revival of his fame thanks to NBC, which made him the badass, tough-talking, businessman-genius star of The Apprentice. And Trump converted that fame into a following among Republicans when, in March 2011, he announced that he had "real doubts" about Obama's Hawaiian birth, around the same time Trump was considering running for the 2012 GOP nomination. Soon, Trump sent a team of investigators to Hawaii to dig up the dirt. (It should be noted that Trump had a history of high-profile attacks on famous black men; in 1989, Trump took out full-page ads to demand the execution of the Central Park Five, a group of black boys who were convicted -- falsely, it turns out -- of raping and murdering a jogger in Central Park. They were exonerated years later.)

Obama schooled Trump. In April 2011, weeks after Trump announced his "investigation," Barack Obama went to the White House press auditorium to reveal his original, long-firm Hawaiian birth certificate. Then, on April 30, Obama mocked Trump while Trump sat in the audience, fuming, at the White House Correspondents Dinner. The next evening, Obama announced that the United States had killed Osama bin Laden.

In 2012, Republicans ran Mitt Romney. Romney had won the nomination by declaring himself "severely conservative," but many in the Tea Party considered him insufficiently committed to the cause. Plus, Romney came off as stiff, awkward, and rich -- and anti-populist at a time when people were still angry about the Great Recession. Obama won reelection, but this time, by 3.9 points, not 7.2.

On November 7, 2012, the day after the 2012 election, The Onion ran a video will the following title: After Obama Victory, Shrieking White-Hot Sphere Of Pure Rage Early GOP Front-Runner For 2016.

Three years later, Donald Trump announced his campaign for president. Within a year, the Tea Party became MAGA. Trump threatened to "lock up" Hillary Clinton, attacked the media as "fake news," and, in his opening campaign speech, declare illegal immigrants "rapists and murderers." Facebook and the Pepe meme became tools of his movement. And the MAGA era of American politics was born.

Original question from u/Upset_Ad2797

351 Comments
2025/02/04
04:50 UTC

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I hate my brother but i miss him so much

I’m 17 years old. My brother is 9 years older than me. We grew up in a suburban affluent neighborhood. But my mom was an alcoholic and an addict and had gone psychotic in the last year of her life. She was cheating on my dad for 4 years, told us she wanted to kill us. Fighting between my dad and mom was horrible with cops frequenting our home. She was found dead surrounded by pills and bottles. During this time and leading up to this time my brother was my hero and role model. I wanted to be just like him. Pretty soon after he came out and brought home who we will call Tom because I’m not going to use real names. At first Tom was awesome he drove a nice car and I LOVED cars. He would buy me things. Soon after he began to sexually abuse me from ages 10-13. I never told anyone. I was terrified. I put on a show and would act like everything was normal and like me and tom were close as Tom and my brother were living with us during covid. I couldnt tell anyone for many different reasons as anyone whos been abused will know. But the biggest reason for me was because after my mom passed my brother went off to college and was extremely depressed. Drinking alone every night. Then tom came along and my brother became a whole new person. I don’t want to make this too too long and I can give more details if anyone would like. Anyways fast forward to december 2023 when I confront my brother about it. He broke my heart. He explained all of it away with the most ridiculous excuses I had ever heard. Completely invalidated me but admitted that the events had occurred. My role model and hero didnt believe me. Fast forward another year. Contact w my brother becomes much more distant throughout the year. Its december 2024. I’m about to graduate high school and I’m probably at one of the lowest points of my life and knew something had to change. I’ve coped rather well with the loss of my mom. But the one thing I never healed from because I never told anyone, was the abuse. I decided something needed to change or I didn’t know how much longer I’d be able to keep going. I told my therapist who I’ve been seeing since i was 9. I kind of knew she was a mandated reporter but didn’t know for sure and had known her so long I thought shed ask first. But essentially the secret was out to my immediate family (i have an amazing 32 year old sister who is the mother of my nephews). My dad was in shock but believed me and supported me immediately. As did my sister which I know was so hard because her and my brother were so close. Contact w them shut off pretty quick. Though some of the last phone calls included my brother calling me as crazy as my mom in her final years. That stung. A report was filed by my therapist and I interviewed w the police. Charges were submitted to the DA but will probably go nowhere due to lack of evidence as do so many. My brother and Tom lawyered up real fast and refused to talk to police. Despite all this I miss my brother so much. I’ve lost so many people in my life and to now be graduating high school and I always thought my role model would be there to celebrate me. But instead he hates me and thinks im crazy.

2 Comments
2025/02/04
04:39 UTC

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Ayuda...

Estimados usuarios, me dirijo a ustedes con cierta expectativa y, debo admitir, con cierta reticencia. Nunca imaginé que me encontraría en la posición de solicitar su ayuda tras haber leído tantas experiencias compartidas en este foro.

Espero que alguien haya enfrentado una situación similar y pueda ofrecerme su apoyo, o que, al menos, alguien posea el conocimiento necesario para guiarme.

El que les contaré a sido hasta el momento mi peor error, y vaya que me aprecio de cometer errores (no me enorgullece).

Hace unos 6 meses tuve un encuentro íntimo con una persona de la cual conocía muy poco, y con la cual no formalice ninguna relación, dado que sólo era un encuentro para una sola vez. Antes de poder ser juzgado, debo aclarar que le mencioné a esta persona que sería solamente así, y que no habrían sentimientos de por medio. Ella aceptó con gusto.

Tuvimos cuatro encuentros íntimos, y fueron eso y nada más. Luego de eso al paso de dos meses ella se fue, ya que fue despedida del trabajo. (Debi aclarar que esto pasó en el trabajo).

Después de esos incidentes, su hermana llegó a ocupar un puesto similar, y prácticamente dentro de él mismo trabajo. Al suceder esto, ella en ell transcurso de una semana me separo de mis compañeros de trabajo, diciéndome que quería platicar algo muy serio conmigo. Al hacerlo, me dijo (no digo reveló, por que no estoy seguro) que su hermana estaba embarazada, de dos meses y que aparentemente era mio. Debo detenerme y nuevamente recordar que solo tuvimos una relación carnal. Así mismo tengo conocimiento con certeza de que ella tuvo más compañeros de cama que yo, cosa que no me molesta. Pero tal parece que ella asegura que el hijo que espera es mio.

Trate de llegar a una medio de arreglo que nos beneficiará a ambos. Pero al momento que me comunique con ella solo me pidió de una y mil formas que le enviara dinero. Ya que eso era lo que necesitaba para apoyarse en ese momento tan difícil. Por temas de desesperación accedí y le envié un pequeña cantidad. Debo mencionar que no spy una persona que goce de un salario alto ni tengo una vida fácil, aun así estaba dispuesto a ayudar con lo que pudiese. Al realizar esto, pasó un tiempo de dos meses más, meses en los cuales ya no supe nada de ella, ni de la situación, su hermana renuncio en este mismo periodo de tiempo, por lo tanto no tuve más noticias. Esto me relajo de cierto modo, ya que supuse que todo habría sido una falsa alarma. Viví de forma normal estos últimos cuatro meses. Pero... Justo hace dos semanas nuevamente me contacto, pero no a mi directamente, contacto con mi familia, y con mi trabajo. Contando una historia de terror.

Ella me acusa de haberla violado, y esta diciendo que a demás la force a consumir sustancias ilegales, cosa que no tiene fundamento. Pero a logrado envenenar a mis compañeros, y algunos familiares en mi contra. Los más cercanos a mi saben que yo no sería capaz de algo así. Pero si me han advertido que en estos temas las mujeres cuentan con más derechos que nosotros. Por lo tanto contacte con ella para saber por qué estaba diciendo eso y no se si sea una estrategia o si su mentira ya la consumió, pero ella me grito al teléfono que la viole y que la tome a la fuerza. Dice que el resultado es el embarazo, y que la única solución a ese problema es casarme con ell y traerla a vivir conmigo, obviamente cubriendo todos los gastos.

E vivido las semanas más angustiantes de mi vida, y debo decir que nunca pensé pasar por esto. Me e contactado con un abogado, pero me dice que no tengo pruebas y ella tampoco, por lo cual es su palabra contra la mía. Y que no puede hacer nada al respecto ya que hasta el momento solo se ha pronunciado a través del teléfono. Entonces no me está generando un gran problema, y que a demás aun no se presenta ninguna demanda, por lo cual no puede actuar ahora.

Tengo miedo que ponga la demanda y que sea muy tarde para actuar. Por favor ayúdenme.

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2025/02/04
04:35 UTC

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Hiiiiii

What's your favorite song?

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2025/02/04
04:18 UTC

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Is it my body or is it my head?

Am I getting older or is it something else?

Lately I’ve been having troubles when getting to 2nd round, if you know what I mean, it takes a while to recharge and when I finally get it to react, I need to find a way to make it keep working, like it loses sensibility and then after a while it works somehow normally, although not as powerful as the first time. I don’t feel like I have a problem with it working, it just takes a lot more time than it did before, I’m 27 so I don’t feel it’s an age thing and my gf is honestly beautiful and I like her a lot, she drives me crazy. I don’t masturbate, I don’t watch p*rn, I don’t smoke and exercise from 3 to 5 times a week. Has this happened to anyone? Is there anything to be done specifically for these type of situations?

Pd: now that I think of it, I do get really nervous and put a lot of thought into next rounds so I don’t look idk… useless

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2025/02/04
04:04 UTC

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Why do Americans do circumcision?

It makes your dick look dry and fucked up. I don't think anyone can seriously prefer cut men after experiencing uncut dick.

We aren't fucking desert merchants 3000 years ago, there's clean water to wash your dick with. Circumcision in modern day is barbaric.

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2025/02/04
03:41 UTC

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The Redditor Who Cried Wolf

For independent voters it's easy to ignore valid concerns if every post they see promotes the same view point.

The world is not black and white yet social media treats it as such. Suppressing the opposing view point only makes them suspicious.

If you want to convert undecided voters then you need to promote both view points while coming up with a better argument.

An echo chamber creates a false sense of security. The participants feel heard but the people who matter, the undecided are left out.

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2025/02/04
03:28 UTC

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I'm a therapist and all the political stuff on reddit is burning me out. And in real life I'm setting a boundary with friends on talking about politics

Honest truth. I'm a therapist IRL and being on here and seeing all the bad news and political stuff is burning me out worse than anything I've ever experienced with an actual client.

It's unfortunate because I love reddit in many ways, but the constant negativity, fighting and jumping to the worst possible conclusions...is burning me out.

And in real life, my friends want to talk about it, but I have to set a boundary and tell them no. I understand they will be mad about that, and that's okay. I have multiple clients that I see weekly, and I have to be my best self for them. I have to focus on their problems and my own problems first and foremost. The issues going on with myself and my clients, have to be my priority over what's going on in the USA.

⚠️ I will not be responding to any rude or aggressive comments.⚠️

❤️ a true boundary is about what you do in response to something. It is not trying to control the other person's behavior.❤️

❗️Update: I messaged my friends about this boundary and all of them were fully in support of it and very understanding, even if one of them wasn't the happiest about it❗️

219 Comments
2025/02/04
03:02 UTC

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