Hi all, I’m a 22 year old lesbian from the North East of England. I’m looking for new friends, due to having very few lgbtq+ friends. I’d love to discuss different movies/tv shows, games and eventually meet potential friends in person. A show I’m currently watching is Arcane. I’d love to have a conversation about this amazing show, so feel free to reply :)

Hi there. My name is Ben, and I'm a gay man living in the United States, Oregon specifically. I'm new to this subreddit, and I was hoping I could get some... suggestions. I've recently made the decision to immigrate out of the United States. I've hired an attorney, and together we've narrowed my choices down to three options... Those options being the UK, Canada, and Australia. It's been suggested to me to reach out to queer friendly advocacy groups in these countries to help ease my potential transition. She's also told me that my experience in health care could potentially qualify me for a 'skilled worker visa' to the UK and Australia as well (I'll have to check my paperwork). I was wondering if anyone here could point me in the direction of any kind of... Advocacy groups in the UK that could help me with this should this become the option I umm... Go with. I know that no one here is under any obligation to give me like, advice or even speak to me for that matter. As you have probably surmised I'm not particularly good at this. But if any of you are aware of any resources that could assist me on my potential journey, I would be very grateful.

There is a Queer Prom happening in Yate for those who want to "re-do prom but gayer this time".
The organisers are non binary and very friendly.

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Hello everybody, I'm 20m (bisexual). I moved in to the UK in September 2024 and I came out to my parents in 2 October 2024. They're really upset and mad that I'm bisexual. They're giving me death threats that they'll kill me whenever they could find me. They've blocked my bank accounts. I have no idea what I should do. It's a good thing that I paid the rent and food expenses for a year when I moved in so I have a place to sleep and food to eat. My university fees is pending because I have no money anymore. My parents are pretty influential people in India, So I know they'll kill me if they ever know I returned back. They're expecting me to get deported and fun fact is I'm their only child. Anyways, please lemme know if you guys can help in any way. I'll be so grateful.

Hello everybody, I'm 20m (bisexual). I'm getting really depressed because I don't have any friends. I really wanna have some friends to have fun with and chat. I'm getting suicidal because I'm too lonely. Please if anyone is looking for friends then text me please.

Trigger warning: I will be briefly misgendering a transgender person in this post

Please let me preface this by saying that everything I write comes from a place of love and respect for my friend- J- as we’ve known each other for five years and they’re honestly a wonderful person.

Okay, so. J and I attended school together for two years, and have kept up online/occasionally in person for three years since. They’re very creative, artistic, and they were diagnosed with ADHD as a kid (this is important.)

A few days ago I unexpectedly received a message from them that they were ‘transgender now’ (their phrasing, not mine) and identified as a woman, something that they’d figured out over the past month.

It seemed a bit sudden, and very surprising given the nature of their character, but okay, sure, why not.

My concern, however, is that they later went on to elaborate that they discovered they were transgender through a new therapist that they’d been seeing for a month also, and that a major turning point was that they said they experienced emotional attraction, and their therapist told them that men don’t experience that, only women. (Implying that J must’ve been a woman on the inside if they were experiencing it.)

As I mentioned, J is diagnosed with ADHD (as am I) and I’m aware that historically neurodivergent people are more likely to experience strong emotions in a way that neurotypical people don’t, including emotional attraction and connections to people.

I guess what I’m trying to say, is that I’m worried this new therapist has got the wrong idea, and now J feels as though they have to be transgender, even if it doesn’t feel right, because a professional has told them that they have an association with something that is strictly feminine. (Which- again- it isn’t, women are known to develop more intense feelings of emotional attraction, but men also experience it. I don’t know where that therapist got the idea from.) I don’t want my friend to be taken advantage of by a therapist who suddenly pushes ideas into their face and expects them to accept it, and this all just feels a bit sudden.

Obviously exploring with your gender is normal when you’re a young adult, but this all seems to have hit a bit of a fast track in that suddenly J is telling everyone, changing their name, updating socials, etc. within a month of the new therapist even suggesting the idea. I hate the idea that this becomes something they feel obliged into without the freedom and time to explore as needed. I want to reach out and express my concerns, but I don’t know how to do such without coming off as transphobic.

If they’re genuinely transgender, from their heart and no one else’s, then I- of course- support them in everything, but I just worry that someone else might be using them as a platform to express something that isn’t true based on inaccurate facts.

Help?

TLDR: New therapist has told friend that they’re transgender because men don’t experience emotional attraction, the entire thing seems a bit iffy.

Went to vault on Wednesday. Undue night. A friend recommended and said do go early. Arrived that at 7 and can tell is the best time to come. Was just starting. Basically a bar with 3 main play areas e some cubicles. Vibe is very chill and staff friendly. Had some beers and talked with some guys. Crowd is mostly 25-40. Some younger some older, but not majority. Some bigger guys but majority skinny and lean. Diversity wise low. Mostly white and latinos. Enjoyed the place very much. It’s more of a communal vibe. Once someone starts the action, a group forms around. And then there are 10+ guys doing it in a circle. Some go to the cubicles but I think everyone is down for the public of it and everyone’s gets on with everyone. Didn’t have any problem with consent. Loved the place and stayed till 11. At 10pm starts to get down but there was still action happening and guys coming in, but not as much. Had really some nice convos while there. Entry was 12 pounds. Funny enough a guy I fucked and made friends with while there said it was a low night with not many people, but coming from NZ seems was the packest I have been. He himself had at last 4 guys that I could see.

Sweat box: went on a Thursday next day, a guy from vault said would be the best day to go Thursday. Naked night and younger than 25 gets free entry. I arrived at 9, which maybe was a bit later. Felt there was not as many people as Vault, but that may be because of the 3 floors that makes people spread out and maybe due the time. Staff looked tired. Stairs are wet and I think they should give sandals and better towels. Facilities for socializing are not as good as vault in my opinion. Crowd is majority 25 less but more diverse. Plenty black people and Asians. Think since is more a touristic place, more tourist go to. Vault seems more local. Not much action happening in Sweet Box (SB). Got on with one guy at the sauna, and was quite hot there so doesn’t do it for me. No penetration tho, a lot of jerking and sucking in SB. Whereas Vault people just went for it. A problem for me in SB was the young twinks: they just get on with themselves and when socialising they have a bitchy dismissuve tone. Btw, I’m 29 years old and looks I’m too old for them. Not a single person wanted me, whereas in vault I get more than 10. Young twinks are not as public as well. More private orientated. Lasted for 1:30h there because I didn’t want to pay 25 pound and not get any action. But didn’t get any regardless. Sauna was too hot in my opinion and not the best place to get some fun. There are cubicles and maze. Not many people there tho. Was my last night in London and I regret not going to Vault again instead. I kinda felt old and undesired. The facilities were not the best. Have been to better saunas.

So I would say, go to :

• Vault: if you like more communal all for all public young professionals (25-40) chilled taking vibe and don’t want to pay much.

• Sweat box: if you are under 25, like doing at saunas and likes more diverse people (black and other tourists)

Are you trans and want to get involved in activism (or the behind the scenes work?)

You might have heard about us before but we are a trans+ youth-led action network. We have taken action against the LGB Alliance, the Department for Education and NHS England.

We are expanding our group beyond London and setting up 'branches' across the UK if you want to take part in actions, help us behind the scenes, or just get updated on our work. Sign up here https://transkidsdeservebetter.us17.list-manage.com/subscribe u=2547e94b7aa7433097de90885&id=d85f20618c and we will contact you, you can also follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/transkidsdeservebetter

Happy to answer questions if people have any.

I’ve not been in London for long and I’m shocked by the percentage of guys that will only bareback.

I’m mainly bottom, so maybe this is predominantly a ‘top’ thing. But the majority of guys I talk to on the apps will exclusively only BB, for a variety of reasons. I understand most people are now on PreP, but there are other STD’s that can also be caught. My main concern is contracting something you can’t cure, such as herpes.

What i’d like to know is, why are people so laidback about this? Is it a case of a high percentage of people already have herpes so it doesn’t matter - ‘I’ll catch it anyway’ mindset? Am I missing something? Someone please enlighten me!

I will be visiting the UK for the first time, is there anything special happening between December 28- January 12? Thanks in advance!

I’m a 28 year old Indian dude, slightly skinny chub, looking for company to go the “ROAST” nightclub (London) on this Saturday-23rd Nov 2024. Would love to team up with like minded decent and kind gay men.

Hmu if interested!

Also anyone playing animal crossing?

So I’m gay and live near Crawley in W Sussex and dont know how to find someone to date as am u16. Any advice a/o guys?

Hi I am Turkish guy who works a lot as a chef. I recently came out to myself not to my family yet. Where can I meet gay men like me?

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Mate called have asked if he wants to talk about things, but he says no, I told him to call here after he tried the LGBTQ+ Foundation and got no answer either. Seems like everything is failing people.

Hey! NYer moving to London. Anyone know of a gay ice hockey team, or at least a gay friendly ice hockey team in London? Thanks!

Anyone knows telegram groups for London gays? Gay parties, kinks, group meets etc? Any recommendations would be appreciated xx

What's happened to all the UK Gaymer Discord servers? Have they been taken down? Or just gone private/silent?

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Hey, I’m S 👋🏾 I’m 22, black, gay and I live in the UK. Trying to find new people, cause I don’t have any gay friends who I can relate w and I gets very boring and frustrating sometimes. Especially when life kicks you in the teeth 😪 I’m into fashion and anime as well . I’m watching Kaiju no. 8 and I’m thinking of starting 86 when I’m done. Someone who’s watched tell me if it’s good

Hi, recently I came out as gay ( to myself, long story) as in I finally accepted my own sexuality; but I am left without any friends from the community so I am looking to create some connections, on top of that I am quite shy and introvert and is a struggle for me to go alone at a gay bar or club.

Tried the apps, but with many the end goal seems to be sex, personally I don't have a crazy sex drive, I am the sort of guy who enjoys more cuddles in bed while watching a move and falling asleep in each others arms; besides the apps can be tiring so much talking which leads to nothing.

Any advice?

Hey everyone!! I’m not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I’ll give it a shot.

I’m moving to London in January, and I’m really excited but also a little anxious since I’ll be completely new. I’d love to connect with some people around my age (19-21, max 22) so I can have a few friends to meet up with once I arrive.

A little about me—I’m into creative things, such as painting, sketching, writing and sewing. I like to play piano, sometimes my guitar, i enjoy reading and cooking.. I'm really into language learning, tho i'm not the best at it and i enjoy going to concerts. Sometimes I like to game as well (: I’m super open to meeting people who share similar interests or just want to be friends!

If anyone’s up for chatting and maybe becoming friends, feel free to reach out! ᡣ𐭩

Hi , I’m (M) 22 visiting London for the first time during new years and am was wondering what the best queer friendly bars are. I’ve seen a lot of bad reviews regarding SoHo, and I’m not sure if I want to go as I am a bigger guy. I was wondering what are some of your favorite spots?