not the best upliftment but still is nice to see :)

I’m looking to get on hormones. I’m 19 and I want to decide what’s best for me so I’d love to hear what you guys recommend. From what I’ve read here while lurking DIY is very much achievable but I would hate to do it unprepared

I was wondering if anyone else has had a period after so long of being on nebido. I have had blood tests done and need to email my gic but wondered if it's natural to have a bleed after so long. My oestradiol is higher than the range so I am not sure if that is the issue. My t levels are in a good range too though so I am confused. Do I need a blocker to suppress the period. I have pcos and rarely got periods even before taking testosterone.

Hi so I’m a trans man and I really struggle with face dysphoria id say it’s quite chubby, is there anyway to sort this or reduce it? I just want to masculinise my face:)

For about a year I've been getting blood tests from my GP (I buy hormones privately and use these to manage levels) but recently moved back home after leaving Uni and had to switch GPs, but the GP back home is refusing to provide me blood tests. For context I spoke with a supervisor before switching who told me the GP would support me and I'd be able to receive blood tests (I'm not trying to ask for hormones at all I'm well aware even asking for bridging treatment is a fruitless endeavour) so I was hopeful. However, when trying to arrange a blood test, the doctor I spoke with refused me, saying "it would be a risk for me to give you a blood test without a specialist" which I think is ridiculous. I tried to explain I'm not asking my levels to be explained and I can handle that myself (it's what was agreed at my prior GP) but he then said "we still have to do work, my team don't get paid for you having this" which I thought was a baffling statement. I said I'd have to find a new GP then, to which I was told I could have just one blood test for now, and then a few days later received a letter saying that they won't allow me any more.

I'm not sure the best course of action here, as I could try find another GP to allow me blood tests but I'm worried I'd be given conflicting information again. And I have no idea how I'd go about convincing my current GP beyond what I've tried.

I’d moved houses about two months ago, and I’d immediately signed up for the closest practice to my house.

The first red flag was, even though their website said that you could fill out a sign up form in-person or online, they would not let me ask for a physical form.

Second, when I filled out their online form, they said that my registration will take up to 4 weeks to process (what?) and once it has, they would contact me.

A month and a half passed by, I decided to go in to ask what’s up, I told them my name and my date of birth, and they said that I’m on their systems and if I want anything, all I gotta do was book an appointment.

I did about 2 weeks after that, I decided to request an appointment for an initial checkup (My parents for some reason hated the idea of their child being seen by a doctor, so haven’t been seen by a doctor since I was 11), as well as an autism assessment.

An hour later I get a voicemail from them asking if I requested an appointment, because they can’t see it on their system (again, what?), and after calling them back (half an hour later cause the gp randomly shuts an hour and they shut the phone off) I got this awfully rude lady on the phone, telling me that they not only don’t see my name on the system, but they also don’t see that I would have requested an appointment. After trying to negotiate with her for about another half an hour, she told me that it is my deadname that is on the system, don’t know what reason for though, as I haven’t given them my deadname a single time because there is literally zero reason to.

She tells me she would call me back to sort it, half a day goes by and she doesn’t, so I walk in again, and ask to get things sorted out there. A somewhat nicer lady tells me that she doesn’t have access to my records and to come back tomorrow.

I just got my psych appointment confirmed, and this GP is meant to sort out my shared care, as well as my bloodwork later on down the line, but if i cannot trust them with memorising my name or operating my records how could I trust them with either of those?

I’ve been out since like 2021, but after a devastating job search, I’ve decided to hide my transness at my new job. The political climate is wack right now, and it just seemed like the easiest thing to do. Anyway, today I overheard two of my managers talking about a trans person very transphobically, so I made the right call.

I don’t do anything to actively girl mode, I just don’t mention being trans. I’m severely non passing so no one would even think about it.

One problem - I finally have the funds to get back on T. I’ve been on T before (8 months) but stopped due to funds + i was unsure at the time & needed to take a step back.

But liike.. is it even possible to girlmode on T?? Have any of you tried it??

What private gender services are other people using? I'm currently using gendergp and have been since like 2018, at the time it seemed like the best option but I'm fed up. The final straw was them loosing the £195 set up fee and demanding i pay again so yeah i wanna switch. I'm on hormones already, have had the surgery I want for now, I just need someone to monitor my hormone levels. Probably looking for online but I'm in cornwall if there is anything local.

I am under 18 I am 16 next year where can I get surgery (ffs)

I've been lurking here for a while now and have decided to finally make a post about something that happened to me yesterday as an ftm (and has been a smaller thing in the past).

The other day I was using the toilets at my college and when I walked out there was a large group of girls just hanging around the door. As I walk past them, they start to freak out and I very clearly here "THATS A MAN" and one runs to grab a tutor or security or god knows anyone else who will look. I very quickly left the area to avoid an awkward conversation and to get to my next lesson before I was late.

So I pass pretty well and get 'sir'd' about 70% of the time, so I'm torn between being quite happy about this and mortified. I don't trust myself to pass enough just yet to use mens toilets so I'm sticking to womens for now but it's becoming an increasing problem for me with upsetting women by accident. I now even plan which toilets I use based on how busy each is at different times to try and avoid this.

So I guess I'm just a little frustrated at the moment and wanted to share what, to me, is both a positive for me and a negative for others. Thanks for reading tho, Just wanted to get this off my chest y'know?

Title.

I have no idea. I don't want to ask my mom because I don't really wanna explain why I need it.

I don't have any letters or anything it would be on and I don't know who exactly my gp is.

I'm almost 17 and have been on the Sandyford young people's waiting list for years. Obviously I'm no closer to getting a first appointment now as I was then, so I will age out of the waiting list before I'm seen by them. I was wondering what happens then? Will I automatically get put on the adult waiting list for Sandyford, or will I get transferred to the closest gender clinic geographically to me (Chalmers in Edinburgh), or do I need to refer myself to Chalmers?

Is 76.4 SHBG too high? What's this test good for? To control my T? E2 is 230 pmol/l on 3rd day injectable And T 0.5 nmol/l Many thanks 😊

hey, i plan to change my name via deedpoll in the new year and consequently need a new passport issued for any trips coming up. my one concern is the second bullet point about evidence of using your new name through a payslip etc ?? how am i supposed to get my name on the payslip when ive seen a lot of banks aren’t helpful with changing your name when you don’t have a form of valid ID to go along with it ? i don’t have a drivers license and so it wouldn’t need to be the passport, but for the passport i need evidence like a payslip ? i’m stressed and overwhelmed, sorry if this seems silly. also does anyone know how long it might take for me to get my new passport ? i might be going abroad in april.

Hi, I book and did my igs a few days ago but I had an email saying I have treatment recommendation and I need to book and it’s for consent even though I already did one. People said it’s an automatic email and it should be fine but today I’ve received the exact same email? Did this happen to anyone else?

Edit: the country is Sierra Leone if that helps with anything

Hello reddit. This is my first time using reddit so I'm sorry for any mistakes and i know this doesnt make sense im just very scared. Just a 15 year old transmasc enby looking for help or advice.

I dont want this to be too long so im going to leave out a few bits. This whole mess started between 2022 and 2023 when a huge fight happened (again) resulting in my mum taking my phone away permanently after readong through my chats with my friends and assuming we were all lesbians 💀. I ended up having to use a button phone instead, she gave it to me, for over a year. I confided to the first secondary school i went to all about my mum abusing me (in different ways but mostly physically) and they got social services involved. I honestly didn’t really pay attention at the time to who was who and was more focussed on trying to get away from my mum.

She constantly guilt trip me during this, talking about how i betrayed her, how all of it was just "dicipline", how normalised it is in my culture (she even got different family members to talk to me and tried to convince me to tell the school i was lying and she would buy me a new phone???) and I'd basically recite it all and tell social services and the other people involved. Long story short, my mum removed me from the school and after around a month she had me attending another school instead and completely separated me from all of my friends. Luckily, i had written down their numbers in my sketchbook which i still have.

During this new school, i dont remember how but eventually i told my mum i was trans (she gaslighted me into feeling like she was going to listen to me only to turn around and start a large arguement about it). There was also a lot of religious arguements too, she would throw the bible at me and cry, screaming ect.

This was constant but everything she did, i'd tell social services so she could no longer hurt me, i thought. She still did physically hurt me a couple of times and i was planning on telling them when out of nowhere my mun told me we have to go to her home country where she grew up because a family member died. I didnt want to. I expressed that. But i had no say. I dont really remember how i was convinced but she eventually told me we would only be gone for 3 days and i believed her.

We left on the 14th October 2023. Its been a year now 💀 When we first arrived, she told me we'd actually stay for 5 days. Then 2 weeks. Then 4 weeks, then till december and it just keeps going. Im pretty sure she didnt even inform social services or anything. As far as im aware, there was an actual funeral which she did actually go to and i decided not to so i stayed with my aunt. After he funeral, my mum told me she went to the hospital for her feet and they told her she shouldnt go on a plane because she has bad blood pressure and heat odema or smth like that. She used this excuse for a long time.

My aunt (and so far everyone ive met here) is transphobic and she would constantly walk into my room to have a chat about how i should be compromising with my mum, the way i dress, how much time i spend with her and especially what they both hated. I used 2 sports bras as a binder and it worked pretty well. One day, my aunt told me theyd wash it for me. In the mean time, they made (and still make) me wear those uncomfy bras with the underwires and omg i hate it sm. And obviously I never saw the sport bras again 💀... up until now. Throughout all of this, ive tried to convince my mum that ive changed and im not trans anymore and last week she told me it might be in her suitcase (shes currently gone to england to fix some things in our house but shell be back by around christmas or new years). I found it and lied, telling her it wasnt there so she just said she probably threw it away. Im keeping it a secret.

A lot of other stuff has happened like one time my mum saw my search history in april or june and she did a lot of stuff to me includong forcing me to pray for very long hours with her and someone even suggested to her about getting "spiritual and religious" help. The abuse has gotten worse here, this country allows and enables child abuse 💀. I also have to attend school here. While i dont know the specifics, social services were in contact with my mum for the first maybe 3 months we arrived to this country and they told her to enroll me in a school while im here and they even called the school to make sure i was attending. I havent heard of them since so im pretty sure theyve forgotten about me.

I dont know what to do about my GCSE's, here we have "streams" and you cant really pick your own subjects. I wanted to be in arts stream (they focus more on english and history and stuff) but on the day i was supposed to join the school, my mum chabged my stream to science where i have to focus more on biology, physics, chemistry and maths. I hate it. Im now in year 11 and she didnt even allow me to drop french. Mind you, i wanted to pick arts and psychology in england gcse. She keeps telling me that she might pay for a private Center in england to do my GCSE's but shes "scared ill get her into trouble again" and doesnt want me to "follow the wrong crowd again" so i might just do it here.

She's messed up everything and i dont know what to do. Im also scared that she'll use all the pictures she forces me to take with her as proof incase social services get involved when we go back to england.

Im so sorry gis is so long, i swr im leaving out a lot i just dont know what to do or how i come back to england right now. She might even keeo me here till im 18 and im terrified of that. Im so Dysphoric and i dont even know how to hide it anymore. Im scared of having to contact people, i do talk to my 3 friends in england, the ones that i managed to keep their contacts in my sketchbook, on different apps and hide it but when my mum comes back we'll have to talk a lot less. Im also scared of getting them involved but i dont have anyone else here thats supportive. No family member, no other friends or anything like that.

Hi everyone! First post here. I just went through the process of getting my diagnosis with Dr Popelyuks Gender Clinic, which went well! So now I just need to find an endocrinologist, and given they said they couldn’t suggest any to me besides one that’d require me to travel to london, I’m having a bit of trouble.

Does anyone know of any options around the Sunderland / Newcastle area? Any guidance on picking one at all would be amazing, I’m feeling super lost.

just making this post as a heads up to people who were referred in 2020 or around then that you may receive an email from TransPlus which states you are being transferred to be under their care

i got referred to Tavistock in early Nov 2020 and got the email from TransPlus today- i think they might be sending these out in batches or something cus they have auto-replies on, so be aware during the upcoming holiday week if you dont want to be transferred to them, or if you want to reply to them asap since that might make the move to them as a provider easier since they state their work is unconnected to Tavistock

if you don't reply by the date they say (for me it was in jan) they will assume you are happy with the change and contact you via email or phone to discuss next steps, and that this might be in a few months time due to a lot of patients being transferred to TransPlus

they said they estimated me being seen in the next 12 months, which is in-line with the 5 year wait (atm for me it's been 4yrs and 1.5-ish month lol), and that this might actually mean i am seen quicker than if i stuck with Tavistock, but the bar is on the floor so i don't expect much

thought i'd let people know in-case they haven't heard about this, i don't think i've seen anything regarding this on here/in other subs/online generally but i try not to visit these subs as often for my own mental health nowadays

I'm going CRAZY. This whole process has been going on for like, a year at this point, mostly mine and my referee's fault but finally we got all the documents checked. I have a passport and a change of name deed poll, and yet they STILL won't accept it.

The reason is because the document says "Change of gender and name deed" and mentions my change of gender. They said "we do not accept a change of gender and name deed, please upload ONLY your change of name deed" BUT IT'S THE SAME THING! This document is from Deed Poll Office, the most official looking deed poll ever, and yet they still won't accept it.

Anyone have tips for me?? Am I doing something wrong?? Literally everywhere else has accepted this document so far. I'm losing my mind!!!

I have a confirmed apointment for The Gender Clinic for psych. For my endo, I’m planning to go to Gender Care, and ideally i’d like to have my appoinment as quick as possible. Does anyone know approximate waiting times for endos?

I was primarily looking at Dr Coxon, Dr King Sun Leong, and Dr Victoria Millson Brown, but information about any other endos is welcome also.

I've been DIYing (shhh!) and have my injectables all ready but didn't dare use them. Not long ago my trans FB group (Nottingham) carried a PSA for a harm reduction one-to-one for anyone doing DIY trans HRT injections and I booked me a session... (they don't help with sourcing or dosing... they are simply there to make sure we're safely doing what we are going to do anyway)

Oh my god! What an amazing service. A lovely chat with a knowledgeable, friendly, accepting and affirming person... I talked her through how I was planning to go through the process... she refined a couple of steps for me and identified that my injection needles might not be the best. (She's also well connected with the GIC so answered a few concerns I had about that too).

So I came away with the confidence to self-inject, a pack of low dead-space needles so I don't waste my precious tiddy juice and some leads to more support groups etc. (She did offer me the chance to do my first one there in front of her if I wanted, but I wasn't quite ready).

Gave myself a pep talk on bus on the way home, got in, got a cup of tea and some choccy biccies for after and actually did it!

So when all the transphobia is going on around us, remember there ARE people who care about other people. There are people who ACCEPT us and want to help us.

I might cry later when the sheer loveliness of this care and attention sinks in.

I'm so grateful right now 😊

(She did ask me to tell others, so if you're near Nottingham and want help with injecting I can give you her number...)

Hey,

I recently came out at Demi-girl and wanted an affirming haircut, like a mullet(original I know) but I’m worried about going to a hairdresser for a mullet but also worried about going to a barber shop in case they are less accepting.

Any recommendations would be really appreciated 💖

trying to work out shared care between my gp and dr millison brown and after several requests for her to send my doctor a shared care agreement document which my gp can't start care without she's still only sent reports which my doctor isn't satisfied with.

Is there some other kind of language i should be using or is my gp confused?

Would appreciate help or advice from anyone who's had a similar problem

Hello, I'm (mtf) looking for Fertility Persevation but I'm not sure how... I'm a bit lost so please bare with me, I'm looking for the fastest and soonest option since every NHS GP is incompetent (even tho I wish for it to be under NHS since it's free). So I was looking for private options however they are expensive, my issue aren't the prices themselves but rather how the upfront costs are (I can afford storage and monthly fees on the longer run, can't afford consultation atm) and It's hard to hold longer, I want to start HRT really bad asap but wanna also have bio-kids in the future. I don't want to wait longer and wish to find a solution asap, also I'm confused about the referral letter from GenderGP (about Fertility Persevation) and what I can do with it/how it can help me.

TL;DR:

I want to freeze sperm but NHS aren't helping and private is expensive (I can't afford upfront costs atm) in the beginning. Not sure how the GenderGP refferal letter helps in my case (I don't want to pay £100 for nothing)

Gender Care Help i recently reached out to gender care and got some questions to answer, but im concerned about a few of the questions and what my answer will change, and if its best to be honest.

Q) Have you had any treatment for mental health conditions? Have you ever harmed or tried to kill yourself?

ive never had any treatment for mental health but i have, in the past harmed myself and attempted (nobody knows about this other than two friends)

if i answer honestly and say i have harmed myself and attempted, what could happen? would i be denied anything, would it actually change anything? my friend says its asked to know if i qualify for a gender dysphoria diagnosis because part of the diagnosis is becoming depressed kinda, and some ppl who go to him are trans but dont have dysphoria and are in less need of immediate treatment.

also another question concerns me

Q) What do you do during the day (work, study, volunteering, social activity)?

if i just work or am an apprentice, what do i say and why is this asked? is it important to go into detail?

one more that is worrying is

Q) Are you living, day to day, as you'd like to live, gender-wise? Have you made a social transition? If not, what are the obstacles? What needs to change?

i wouldnt say im living day to day as id like to live gender wise as dysphoria is kinda always there, and i havent made a social transition yet, im out to my closest friends, parents and girlfriend but nobody i dont know close enough. the only obstacles are how im not very fem presenting at all, id find it easier if i had hrt access.

all help is appreciated, thanks<3

hi! I just took my first estrogen injection today and wanted to ask yall what changes happened for you first and how quickly?

I'm 17 (ftm) i live in Northern Ireland and need advice from anyone who's on hormones right now and how they got it. I'm thinking of just going private as I'm well aware waiting lists are ridiculously long to go by the NHS. I was looking at gender gp, but I've heard mixed reviews, I'd like some advice for people who went with ggp, or for other trans folks, what route did you guys go down? Any advice would be so good!