I have read that I can’t change people and it has to come from within yourself, but I figured I’d ask someone’s opinion anyway. How do you convince a guy to get his drivers licence?

I am 24F dating a 25M and have been together for 3 years. We live a good 45 minutes from each other. Before we started officially dating I told him that I did not want to date someone who didn’t have their drivers licence. However, at the time infatuation completely took over and I made an exception since he showed interest in getting his licence. We started dating.

Fast forward 3 years, he does not have his license. The G1 license (learners permit) that he got in our talking phase has remained just that and hasn’t advanced. I would be lying if I said I am not getting increasingly annoyed.

I bring up driving often, and the answer is always “I’m going to go out driving with my dad to practice”. I ask if he can do what I did and book the driving test months in advance, so there is a deadline to push him to get out and practice regularly. He gets mad and will not book the test in advance.

Am I just dreaming that he will get his licence? Am I being too naggy? Is asking him to book the test in advance too much of an ask for a guy? I love him and want to be with him but I can’t deal with being the only driver and I’m getting annoyed.

I am in no contact with my ex for 9 months now and I noticed that his new girl has blocked me on tiktok. I have never stalked her with my account and my ex has me blocked for months now. I noticed he was dating someone new and that is when I got curious and tried to look her up but I couldnt find her. I did find her via a fake acc. I also noticed that girls he followed would sometimes look at my instagram stories. Is he not over me? What could he have told them? Why does this happen? (I have been getting no caller IDs after the break up and he keeps blocking and unblocking me)

This happened my freshman year of college, I drink wayyyy too much at my first real party and went home with this guy I liked, woke up, and yeah😅 Needless to say he was pretty chill about the whole thing but I’m wondering how most men would have reacted. Would you be understanding or disgusted to the point you wouldn’t even talk to the girl anymore?

My partner feels disrespected by me, which came as a shock since I genuinely respect him. It made me realize that our understanding of respect might differ. How can you tell if your significant other truly respects you?

I’m ready to be downvoted to hell and back but I just really need help

⚠️Just a fair warning I know the views I have of men are wrong and I’m trying to get out of that mindset I’ve wanted to ask on here for a while but I was scared to but since this is a throw away I figured I might as well I’m hoping I’ll get at least a few helpful replies ⚠️

I guess this entire thing started back when I was younger, I’m not going to get a lot into it but long story short I was young and heading to store to meet a friend and on the way there got SA’d. Now I grew up on a farm so I’m not weak by any means of the word, and i thought I’d be able to handle it if a situation like that ever came up but I couldn’t and after that my dad started kinda using that as a leverage point to keep me away from guys (stuff like “you can’t trust him, he might just be like that guy at the store”) and I think that kinda further pushed my fear and belief that most men want to hurt me in some way.

At first I wanted to start martial arts so help defend myself and get over the fear but when I brought this up to a friend of mine she said that it wouldn’t help and no matter what I did even the weakest man with no training would be able to over power me and that most men are violent anyways so there’s no point in trying to get over this fear since it was rational and told me to look up the statistics myself so I did and the more I did the more it seemed she was right and it seemed like all I could see where even the tiniest of men easily overpowering a women 2x his size or men saying that they could easily beat a professional woman athlete.

And the way most guys at my school talk about women is just truly terrifying to me everything just feels so hopeless and I know not all men want to hurt me but I’m terrified to even be left in a room with my partners brother.

I’ve talked to a few therapist but all they seem to say is either it is what it is and I need to deal with it or that I just should never talk to men again. but I don’t want to think like this I want to be comfortable around men again and have relationship with my friends again but i just feel like I’m constantly in danger and can’t do anything about it.

Sorry if this is a mouthful or annoying or not typed well (I’m dyslexic as shit)I just thought that idk maybe y’all could talk some sense into me.

Any help is greatly appreciated

I'm not dating and unlikely to do so any time soon but I read a shit ton of torturous behaviour by dating app customers both online and irl. Would or coukd such a thing be useful so folk aren't taken advantage of by attention and meal ticket seekers?

I never plan on going to a strip club (because they smell horrible), however I am curious. I saw a comment from someone saying "Western Country clubs Blue Ball you, and Asian private clubs sore ball you until you shoot blanks."

So now I'm genuinely curious. What happens at Asian strip clubs?

Edit: I'm thinking of brothels. Brothels are the ones that'll leave you sore balled.

I am not all that experienced when it comes to texting and my social anxiety isn't helping.

How do I flirt after I open the convo? Please provide me with some examples as I am quite dense.

Do I ask what she's wearing or something?

im one of those people where if im not busy my phone is in my hands and i respond super quick but a guy told me that me responding so fast was desperate and off putting?? do guys want delayed responses/for us to seem less interested? like if my phone is in my hands and i want to talk to someone, why delay the message?

I'm just genuinely curious. I do, but it seems rare for dudes to just lay in the sun for the sole purpose of tanning.

Hi, lately I am getting a bit nervous about aging, especially when someone younger jokes about my age. I know it's a normal process, but sometimes young people make you feel like your life is over once you are 30+. How to deal with it? Context: I am ~32 right now.

Serious question: I’m not sure if ive been walking around life not loving anything. I can pretty much say i love my mom and dad and siblings, but as far as the rest of life im just unsure. Im 27y/o and had a long period of time thinking everything was lame and not cool enough for me to really get involved in. What do i need to do to start loving something and how will i know ive some across something i love? Should i just pick something to love?

They say the first cut is the deepest. Would you agree?

Little bit of context, I (30M) recently broke it off with a woman (30F) I really liked. Aside from some other things, she talked about her ex of almost 6 years, whom she had been broken up with for over a year, daily. Nothing super negative about him, and I always saw it as an opportunity to learn more about her, but after a few months it started to get annoying. I saw signs early that made me second guess and had finally hit my limit when I learned she reached out to him to grieve after her family dog died (and had initially lied to me about it).

Tried to be understanding but I was labeled as “insecure” about it, so I left. Would you guys tolerate this kind of behavior?

Are there any men on here with successful relationships with a woman who you weren’t totally attracted to it first? Can you grow to find her more beautiful overtime?

For context, I just started talking to a new girl and although I wasn’t initially attracted to her. She is somewhat starting to grow on me, but I’m still not totally infatuated and not sure if that’s just because I’m single and a girl is showing me attention or I’m tricking myself into finding her more attractive. She’s like a 6/10 in my eyes looks wise. I don’t look at her and think damn she’s beautiful and not my ideal type that I would have pursued. She’s not a bad looking girl overall, Better body than face for context. What really attracted me to her is that she pursued me, we share a lot of similar qualities, our chemistry is great, and we get along fantastic every time we hang out or talk on the phone. It’s only been a few weeks so no intimacy yet which could always change things.

A friend of mine has said to stick it out and personality matters more but I’ve dated so much more beautiful women in the past although never got along like I do with this girl or have felt as comfortable around this new girl compared to others. I think I may be too picky and will always feel like I criticize too harshly. I told myself my next relationship if I had any reservations at all that I would wait it out although I’m getting older, in my 30s and I have some baggage that I didn’t have in last relationships that this girl has no problem looking past.

Just want to welcome feedback and get some opinions. Thank you

My father (early 60s) is unemployed for the first time in 30 years and is looking for a new hobby while job hunting. So, preferably not something physical.

Had a recent debate with an associate about how rare for most men to be seduced. Was elaborating that many men don't even know their turn-ons, besides the basic hump and bump

I have a good man. He treats me really well. He treats me better than anyone I have ever been with. He's supportive and sensitive. He tried to make sure I not only have what I need but what I want as well. I have no questions about whether or not I'm loved. I know that I am. My question isn't about love tho, it's about attraction and lust. I was about 20-30 lbs slimmer when I got with my guy. I felt a lot more attractive. It's only been 3 years but I've gotten alot heavier. We have a running joke about supermodels because he swears that he doesn't favor skinny women. He swears he prefers curvier ladies. He has said this even when I had my slimmer figure. But here's the thing: I've seen his search history. I've seen the videos that he streams in private. I've seen what he saves to his photos. They aren't curvy women. They're all thin perky young women. With the exception of the videos I've sent him, nothing he looks at looks anything like me or my body type. Now to put things in perspective he's 45 he has a bit of a dad bod and he's long since began seeing grey hair and less of it than he would like. I still find him attractive. This is how he looked when we got together and it didn't deter me then. I'm just not that shallow. I think that he goes for curvier women IRL because that's what he thinks he has the best shot at. He doesn't have great self esteem. I think he would rather have a younger slimmer woman and that's fine. It's natural. He is allowed to have his preferences. But I'm not a younger slimmer woman. How am I supposed to feel sexy to him when I know I'm not what he really wants visually. I don't feel sexy. I don't feel attractive. I feel ridiculous trying to be seductive. I feel like a porpoise poured into a pair of jeans and a lacy top that he's supposed to pretend he's into. I used to be so confident. I used to feel like I could have anything I wanted with a sway of my hips and a wink. I commanded the bedroom and anywhere else I wanted to have him. It was all a delusion tho. It was never real. How do I deal with this?

I know my man isn't the only one with a heavier woman at home that tends more towards these perfect body young types in their NSFW folders? Do you really still find your girl attractive even tho she looks nothing like the women you choose to look at? Am I just being insecure? Please help.

I’m told sex is “Taboo” and is hard to talk about. My husband is a good partner, but sometimes I want it rough. How do you introduce mild roughness? (Hair pulling, ass slapping, hard sex, throat f*cking) How do you bring it up without it sounding like the sex you do have is bad? I don’t mind gentle sex, but I that’s not the kind of sex I want to have every single time! I have tried books and they did not work. He got too nervous and couldn’t answer the questions honestly. Where do I start? Married for 5 years.