What an incredibly sad set of circumstances. Sophia was a beautiful individual whose mental health was greatly affected by the industry, to the point of alcoholism and suicidal ideations. Whether her death was the result of the industry or not, it's incredibly sad to read about someone my age struggling so much, then dying so young.

Those close to her way that she was an animal lover, and a very beloved member of a large family.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13326059/amp/Sophia-Leone-mother-alcohol-suicide.html

As a former porn addict, rule34 was where I got most of it. Some of the stuff i saw there was NAUSEATING. They have NO rules against rpe, bstiality, and worse. How is this even legal? How are they allowed to make money off of this?!

Rage against the machine. Speak out against the porn industry. Be the voice of their victims. GET FREE!!

hi everyone i'm new here so please let me know if my post is out of line or anything.

essentially i used to be a big true crime fan (yes i know the bad morality of it now), but i remember many podcasts and documentaries mentioning this. when ted bundy was in prison he did many interviews and press things like that because he loved the attention. something that was big for anti-porn activists in the 90s was the fact that bundy said that he watched a lot of porn and believed he acted the way he did because of porn (if anyone can find a source for this pls lmk i would be very interested).

pretty much every podcast i listened to said that he only said this to please the Christian organization who was involved in the interview in some way or win their side in the public and he was actually just lying and not being fr.

however i study forensic psychology in university and i truly believe that the creation of serial killers in the mid-late 20th century was due to the proliferation of pornography (especially violent porn during and post WWII about german women) which of course combined with childhood abuse led these disgusting men to have a deep hatred of women which they expressed through violent sexual crimes.

anyway long story short, does anyone have any thoughts on this? personally i believe that bundy's actions were heavily influenced by porn. any thoughts on porn being the cause behind violent sexual crimes against women?

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There is a subset of men who do not authentically identify as a woman or trans but socially identify as such and present as such because it turns them on. This type of fetish is often driven by sissy and trans porn. It’s harmful to authentic trans women and female women for several reasons.

Firstly, it harms the public image of trans women. Secondly, it leads to creepy men invading women’s spaces solely for sexual gratification, putting trans women and cisgender women in danger.

And this is only one reason, feminist, and trans. Allies should oppose Porn there hundreds of others

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Hello, I am a 18 years old gay boy. I was exposed to pornography when I was a kid, at the age of 8. When the kids were laughing and looking at a phone's screen with their eyes shining at a woman and a man having sexual intercourse. I started watching gay pornography at the age of 12, you know, that's the time where your puberty starts to bloom and the hormones are going crazy inside your body. I am also autistic and I have been suffering from ED since my early 10s and now I am aware how maybe porn was one of the reasons my ed got worse and worse.

When I was 17, I joined tinder using a fake age. There, I met several boys around my age and even older, who were obsessed with labels like "Daddy" "Twink" and "Bear". In my "pornfied" mind, those terms were okay. Guys were scarier and scarier to handle and I realize how gay men are becoming more and more obsessed with sex – which is a clearly a sign of repression that we have to deal when we were raised in conservative families.

The point is, I have a special interest: learning foreign languages. I joined a telegram groupchat where other language learners were peacefully sharing their books, contents, videos and playlists to help each others. A few days after I joined, my phone didn't stop to receive notifications from there. Suddenly, someone was spamming gore content, I was scared and then the same user started putting illegal content with kids in it. I instantly reported the messages and the groupchat, left and uninstalled the app (keep in mind I was never exposed to gore or such illegal contents).

After that, I was very scared even to talk. Couldn't handle people in the eyes and I felt disgusted, I felt nasty. As someone who was SAed by a relative as a toddler, I couldn't feel more uncomfortable. I used to watch surface gay porn from 12 - 18 years old and I am nearing my 19's now and I realized those contents are not okay and I've been reading more and more anti-porn contents and threads.

Society is becoming more and more obsessed with porn and kids are now being easily affected by it. Can you imagine how "easy" was displayed illegal porn to us by that user on telegram?

Another topic I feel like I have to talk is our perception of our bodies when you're a male exposed to porn (women probably feel in that way, too), my ex-gay friend used to joke around about how "twink" he was, how easy was to hook up with adults when he was a minor himself, and I personally feel disgusted and now I understand that he's just another victim of this industry.

Gay men, at least from where I live, feel the urge of labelling themselves "twink" "daddy" "bear" or whatever, the idea of "a gay couple need to have a masculine man and a feminine man" "twinks are men who look younger and innocent" these are just kinks created by that industry and now society is reflecting it. I'm 6 days free of porn and I'm proud of it, learning more I feel like I can even spot who's obsessed with porn and someone who at least doesn't watch too often.

This new journey and chapter of my life seems mind-changing and I don't want to support this industry anymore. I have a question for the ones who no longer watch/interact with it, did your body perception changed? If so, how was that?

Thanks for your time reading my post.

This is my porn story https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yjo4XQCgxDE&t=10s

This sub is full of people pointing out the problems with porn, but it is much harder to find ideas and suggestions for combating this issue. What do people here actually think should be done?

I'm wondering about it because I'm a bisexual man (26 years old) and all of the gay/bisexual men I've met are very into porn. They are all the time sharing dirty pictures and videos on Telegram, or sending dick pictures on Grindr. This mindset makes me sick. Plenty of lesbians complain about how problematic lesbian porn is, but I rarely see gays and bisexuals complaining about gay porn. Gay porn is not as fake as lesbian porn but it's still problematic:

-It creates extreme beauty standars on males

-It glamourizes male-male rape

-It focuses 100% on sex and many people believe male-male relationships are only about sex because of gay porn.

I strongly believe the world would be better for gay/bisexual men if gay porn dissappear

Just wanted to share. After over a decade of consuming porn (off and on, have gone through periods of my life when it was a daily occasion) , i decided a year ago that i didn’t want to keep making the same mistakes and that i was done for good, to be better for me and for the relationship i was entering. i knew that it was damaging me and there was no way it was healthy. I am way less anxious than i was a year ago, less depressed, and overall feel so much more comfortable within myself. sex is amazing, literally nothing beats the real thing with someone you love. i feel sorry for the brainwashed girl i was for all those years.

unfortunately, it’s rough navigating the world/relationships with this new mindset when there are so few like minded people. i have an entire new outlook on the entire industry that i didn’t have just a year ago. this journey and overall shift has been a major eye opening experience that i am forever grateful for, even if it’s been rough to come to terms with.

i wanna thank everyone in this sub for sharing their experiences and opinions, i look forward to reading the posts on here. it’s made me feel not so alone.

❤️

I remember seeing a video with the topic of how smartphones were created with pornography use in mind. This was a few years ago and I can’t remember where I saw it, I believe it may have had Gail Dines in it but Im not positive. It was a very interesting video and I brought it up to someone but would like the video as reference. Is anyone familiar with it or anything to do with the topic? Anything would be appreciated thank you!

I want to preface this by saying that I am on a journey to rewire my brain away from any porn/ soft porn etc. haven't been a super heavy consumer for a while but understand the impacts it has on the brain and how this can seep into relationships and impact other aspects of life. Keen to understand if what I'm talking about below will get easier post porn or if there are broader more detrimental societal changes bought on by porn which are inescapable even if you quit.

On my journey to quit porn I've come to realise that hyper sexualised content is in so many facets of life. Thirst trap Instagram reels, music videos, to just the clothes which society has somehow deemed acceptable (super wedgie tight gym shorts for example). I can easily ignore these swipe past them and don't feel turned on or compelled to stare in public. But it just seems so hyper sexualised and I can't understand why our society is so saturated with it.

Are these things normal and it's only the porn influenced brain which is triggered by these distractions? Or has porn influenced society to such a degree to which these things have become so common. E.g. men are so porn addicted that some women feel the need to thirst trap online or in the gym etc because it's the only way of getting through to modern mans brains? Or maybe social media and porn has influenced them to only feel they're valued if they dress like this. Or is this just my porn damaged brains looking at perfectly normal things and sexualising them?

Thanks

TW for mentions of eating disorders, su1c1de & self harm, c-ptsd & relationship ocd, and p*rn obviously. this post is very unhinged and mentally ill — i just hope someone can sympathize or empathize, i suppose.

it’s been almost two years since we started dating. at the beginning i told him i did not stand for pornography usage in my relationships. i told him about how in my last relationship, this type of issue led to me planning my suicide, and that i attempted to develop anorexia (not the first nor last time lol i don’t even actually have it :/), the panic attacks, my diagnosed ocd relating to this topic (“if my partner is attracted to other people it means i’m inadequate”, things of that nature), the trauma (not just from that last relationship), the insomnia, the self harm, hitting my head on the shower wall, just going absolutely insane over this seemingly trivial thing to the rest of the world. he says, “done”, like it was easy. i had hope that i’d finally found the person i could feel safe with.

spoiler alert: it clearly wasn’t so easy for him. it’s still happening. did it multiple times, didn’t even tell me a couple times until many months later. looked at his irl friend’s nudes after he asked to sext with me and i said no (i felt guilty and he told me “it’s okay, you don’t owe anything to me” haha 😀), screenshotted our manager’s half-naked pics. it’s gotten better, but still happening. or he’ll push the boundary to the very limit — for example, “why did you watch this youtube short where the thumbnail is a girl in tight clothes posing ‘sexily’?” (for some reason there was also like half of a random guy’s face at the bottom though lmfao) “i was like WTF and wanted to see what it was” 😐 am i supposed to believe that? am i wrong for not believing that? what if we just didn’t willingly engage with content you suspect may be sexual in nature? and then he doesn’t see the problem and i feel fucking crazy. oh, he also wants a threesome so that feels awesome and i totally signed up for that.

that’s not to say i’ve handled it well. i’ve gotten very comfortable being disrespectful or even cruel when triggered. i know i’m not a good partner or person, which leads me to the title: i told him i no longer have boundaries. i will have sex whenever he wants, with whoever he wants, he can consume whatever content he wants, he doesn’t even need to include me if he wants to have sex with someone else. “um, okay” he says. but once some time passes, he’ll realize how happy he is this way.

“why not work on communicating healthily?” i tried! and it seems that i’m incapable of consistently doing so. and i still get hurt and invalidated. i feel the need to hide & suppress & do things i don’t want to do, instead of impulsively externalizing my emotions all the time.

“why don’t you just leave?” because i foolishly moved across the country for a boy and i just work all the time & haven’t started college yet so i have no other friends 😂 plus i simply don’t have the guts to leave for good.

i just believe that i deserve to feel this way. thank you to anyone who read the whole thing lol <3

(sorry no idea where to post this)

Why does it bother me so much? I wish I knew. Could be her big tits, big ass, pretty face, or the fact that she has everything I ever wanted. Could be that she has my boyfriend's eyes on her. Could be that I'm crazy and insecure.

When I first looked through his following early in the relationship it felt like a wicked punch to the gut. Drank for days. Probably did a 2 week blackout bender. He saw how upset it made me and unfollowed and unliked all of those videos. It's been like a year now but my mind still can't get over why he would do that in the first place. All of them look nothing like me. He has a type. Latina, big chest, thick, pretty face. None of which are me. That's a pretty big weight on my shoulders that I think about 24/7. How can I ever believe him when he says I'm beautiful knowing what I saw. Knowing what he jerks it to. Knowing those girls turn him on. I can't get her out of my head. I even bought clothes similar to what she was wearing in her tiktoks so I could maybe be even half as hot. I remember being like 5 beers in, crying in the fitting room while trying on a top on knowing I can try my very best but I'll never be her. The top looks similar but I was just missing the tits.

What's worse if feeling crazy and insecure throughout all of it. I feel irrational and toxic. My boyfriend has eyes, he can obviously see when a girl is attractive. But I constantly think.... why don't I ever see hot guys who are attractive and turn me on? How am I able to have eyes only for him but he can't for me? I never in my life thought to follow or like posts from some random 'hot' guy publicly while in a relationship cause that would be common sense disrespect. Why did he?

Even though he doesn't follow or like those girls anymore, I'm still so obsessed and hung up on this that I went through his tiktok watch history only to find nothing has changed. Countless of tiktoks, same girls, same type. Only difference is that he didn't like, fav, follow or anything. Just watched. I was willing to give him the benefit of the doubt that maybe one of those videos just randomly popped up and he watched a few out of curiosity. But there were so. many. SO. many. Scrolled for so long with nothing but tears in my eyes the more I went down. I couldn't stop crying. I couldn't stop repeating "Why is there so many? For how long did he look at all these girls? What did he do while watching these?"

Why did they get to be born so pretty with such a perfect body and not me. Why? I don't understand. Why do they get the big tits, small waist AND thick ass/thighs. I don't think it's fair. I wish I was as pretty as them, and my boyfriend would look at me the way I know he looks at them. He says I'm 'prettier than them' but then why would he look at them if his gf is prettier?

Why do all men have wandering eyes? Why no matter how kind or loyal they are, at the end of the day they will still think of a girl hotter and better than you to finish? It hurts a lot. Why am I not enough. I want to believe him when he says I'm beautiful, I'm hot, I'm pretty, I'm the love of his life, but all I can see are those girls.

I just can‘t deal with the world we live in anymore. It’s literally EVERYWHERE. People that watch porn are EVERYWHERE. I don’t know a single male that doesn’t watch some kind of porn except for one male friend who is asexual. I thank God for knowing him, he’s the only one who gives me hope in this cold, dull world. I work in tech and my male coworkers watch porn. One coworker there battles a porn addiction. He has these typical dead eyes with huge dark circles under them. When you look into his eyes, there is no light. He almost failed his associates degree because of his addiction. Same for my other coworker. He watches violent BDSM porn, trans porn and even videos where kids get hurt. He even makes porn videos himself with 18+ girls. One girl he did porn with was 22. They are both emotionally dead from porn as well. You can’t form any kind of emotional connection or response with these guys anymore. They’re emotionally and spiritually dead. When you bring up work related problems or emotions there is no response. When you try to have a normal conversation about ANYTHING there is no response. Silence. Stares. Like zombies. Today I found a photo of an E girl dressed in lingerie on my dad’s phone. He’s also become more and more emotionally closed off. I don’t know how live in this world anymore. Doesn’t want to be touched. I can‘t respect any male I come across anymore because they all probably watch porn. That’s the first thing that comes to my mind when I meet a male now. My other best friend watches ecchi, porn and hentai. I have no female friends. Every female I meet is either in competition with me, jealous of me, tries to bully or belittle me, or thinks I’m too masculine and our relationship doesn’t last very long because of that and they abandon me for more stereotypical feminine female friends. My ex was a porn addict as well. Males have become cold and empty and it’s caused me to become the same. I can’t connect to anyone since I only have males in my life. I am empty inside and don’t trust anyone anymore. What’s the point of living in a world like this? Why are males like this? I feel deeply hurt and entirely lost.

I was reading some other posts on reddit and it dawned just how selfish porn sick people are.

But then I'm not sure, how I can either change my social circles to be better, let alone finding hobbies/places that avoid perverted stuff.

Where do you guys usually prefer to go? Libraries, gyms, etc?

Matt Healy from the 1975 is a controversial figure and I wanted to learn why. Apparently his friend said he was watching hardcore pornography that brutalizes black women.

This website is a paid site to see black women being completely degraded by disgusting white men.

Every thumbnail is the face of a black woman, completely somber, wearing a slave type captive neck collar, covered by ejaculate. Don’t even get me started on the captions.

I felt completely sick to my stomach. And the biggest stars of our time are watching this and being paid millions of dollars to perform… despite being complete degenerates who hate both women and in this case black women.

I have not seen this poll on this subreddit yet, so I thought I would do it.
Thank you, and take care everyone.

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I want to read more about the history of the industry so I'm more informed and better able to discuss it with people who consume pornography uncritically. Although I respect other people's experiences here, I do not want a religious angle at all, or a conservative angle re: morality. I just want, as much as possible, the bare facts.

I have said it many times and I will say it again: I don't care how "normal" it is for people to be watching porn or following thirst traps, I am not okay with it in my relationship and I never will be. It doesn't matter how many people tell me I'm "insecure","controlling and will die alone, I refuse to accept this behavior. I can give plenty of reasons why I'm not cool with it, but I don't have to explain my reasons for having a completely reasonable boundary. How can you look at me in the eyes and tell me you love me while you're purposely getting aroused by other women and acting on it?

If you are willing to throw away a real relationship just so you can get off to other people, then you really disappoint me. I would rather die alone than to put up with that bullshit. What kind of a world are we living in where you're automatically insecure if your partner ogles at and orgasms to other men and women? It's not just men doing it, but also women. It's not any different if a woman does this, it's just as disrespectful.

Hypocrisy goes both ways. It's "natural" for men to do it, and when a woman does it, she's "exploring her sexuality". You have to be a whole other level of pathetic if you are so defensive about porn. I can't change people's view on this, but that does not mean anyone has to be okay with porn in a relationship just because it's "normal". I still have trouble believing that I'm living in a world where a woman isn't allowed to be uncomfortable with her partner releasing themselves sexually to others.

It's also unnerving that people say personal nudes from your partner aren't as good as porn. Oh, so tons of people admit that they aren't satisfied with their partner? Porn ruins relationships and if porn supposedly wasn't ever an issue, then why is there an increase of dead bedrooms and people feeling like they're ugly and unwanted? I didn't sign up for this bullshit!

Edit: I didn't say you HAVE TO send intimate photos, I mentioned the nudes part because it's upsetting that people think some random person online is better to look at than their partner.

"Watching porn occasionally is like drinking in moderation! 😁".

No, absolutely not. Porn is not something you can consume in moderation. And the big difference here is that you can share certain vices, like alcohol or a blunt for example. And in some cases, they can be beneficial, pornography is not. Porn is not the same as having wine with dinner, it's not something we can share the same way or bond over.

And there are appropriate times and places where you can consume vices. Smoke/vape break during your lunch off the clock? Sure, go ahead! Want to grab beers or get high with friends? Perfectly fine, just be responsible! However, porn is never appropriate and I am not sure why some people consider it to be the same as consuming nicotine, cannabis and alcohol.

The three vices I just mentioned don't wire your brain the same way porn does. Obviously, being addicted to them is bad and can lead to irreparable damage if used irresponsibly. But they don't affect your brain the same way porn does. Let's stop people from trying to talk us into accepting this shit.

As a bi woman who is like 90% attracted to women and 10% to men, wlw porn just makes me mad. No.1: oh my lord the amount of men who think women are actually like that while having sex is wild No.2: those moans are faker than a politicians promise No.3: wlw is much more than just sex....

I'm not gonna explain myself since I think this is all obvious lolol

I watched porn daily from ages 11 to 15. I'm a bisexual woman, so much of my sex education about queer intimacy came from unrealistic depictions in porn. Even having gone years without using porn, I still feel like all my ideas about what my body should look like are fueled by porn. For example, I currently can't shave my public area because I have a sore down there. Even though my partner has expressed MULTIPLE times that my body hair does not change their attraction to me, I just feel guilty for not being completely hairless and thin and perfect. It's fucked up, because not having to shave is actually a relief. No itchiness from hair growing back, no ingrown hairs, less chafing. But despite all the pros, I just feel dirty and unfeminine for having public hair. It's the same with my weight—I've gained like 20 pounds over the past year, and it seems like my current weight is where my body is comfortable at, but being exposed to porn so young just makes me feel like being anything heavier than a twig is unattractive and repulsive. Oh, and don't get me started on LABIAS! I'll say it, my labia minora is bigger than my labia majora, but because of porn, so many men will call a completely normal vagina "roast beef pussy." When I was younger I spent so much time examining my body in the mirror, so frustrated why my vagina didn't "look right." And even though I'm a huge feminist, and I know this bullshit about body hair being gross and "roast beef pussy" is misogynistic nonsense, I still can't help internalizing it.

Anyway, ramble over! Tell me about your experiences with porn and body image (if you want, I'm not the boss of you)

I've completely cut out pornography after 6 years of consuming it daily and the temptations have only got worse. My brain sabotages itself when I see people on the street or when I'm simply alone, and the bad thoughts start (images of violence and sex). But the worst thing for me is bedtime, because I can't control the lustful dreams I have. Any tips on how to stop this?