I was watching the Soft Under Belly video featuring Addison Vodka and the comment section was only men feeling bad for men as if women aren't impacted by this industry and as if men aren't also involved with getting women into this industry beyond being the consumers.

"Modeling" agents and Romeo trafficking.

There were other things that pissed me off in that comment section but the egocentric ideas is what pissed me off.

These men don't care about the women or even their daughters or other people's daughters. They care about how their daughter's affect their reputation. If you cared about your daughter, you wouldn't disown her if she did adult content. You'll try to get her out of there ASAP, to protect her. If you had a daughter, you would not be in her life for the sole purpose of making sure she doesn't become a commodity for a man.

It's also obviously these men watch porn. So, as long as it's someone else's daughter, they often don't care. Something that is extremely common in this industry amongst consumers. Especially when she does more controversial content which is pretty much industry standard.

It's also why OF girls always promote their content in extremely controversial ways, often using themes of the mainstream industry. They understand how making a man hate you, will make it easier for him to commodify and consume you, on a regular basis.

Co-worker keeps displaying hentai-esque artwork at employee art show. He drew an image of an anime style woman, huge breasts and to top it off, visible nipple outlines. Last years drawing was also a seemingly perverted take on an amine woman. The art show is available to all members of the public. Other co-workers have been creeped out by his artwork as well. He also frequently spies on us in the department/stares, when asked if he needs anything he has some bs random excuse: "oh just thinking about the cold air coming in through the windows!". Also oversteps boundaries by being aggressively nice to customers and then making it awkward for us to do our job. I suspect he's on the spectrum, but it's no excuse to draw innapropraite artwork. I don't know if I'm overreacting but I'm taking this a potential sexual harassment/deliberate act on his end.

Posting pictures of genitalia/breasts doesn't require any specific skills, and it concerns me, how these young women instead of getting to a college or even correctly finish Highschool to get a job and open their minds, miserably use their most private places on their body, to get a minimal amount of money from rlly brainwashed men. OF destroys women, Education and career EMPOWERS women.

This was on a popular sub that showed up in my feed. The comments were full of coomers saying “all men watch porn” and equating porn with things like movies.

My first day trying to stop watching it, i have been obsessed with pornography over a few years and never really tried to stop but just now i thought of how it has turned my life for the worse and how i wanted to make myself a better person, also i was just wondering if their is anything i can do to keep my mind offof prn.

Ty

I'm curious because I have come across articles that claim that porn is totally fine and anti-porn are fearmongering.

I’ll give you an example of this.

So I’m not really into lost media. But there was this one song the internet reaaaally wanted to find the original for. And the clip we went off of was so good. This is a bop 80s track, can’t wait til the whole thing is found out.

Well one day, the source was found! I was excited to know where it was from. A movie? Interesting?

But then I got so disappointed when I found out the track was from an 80s porno.

The whiplash I got was insane.

If this doesn’t tell you that a lot of things can be referenced from porn then I don’t know what else is. I after I found about that lost media song I just gave up.

I recently came across this form where you can report an entire subreddit. There are some really disgusting porn subs on here glorifying the most vile shit and I'm wondering has anyone tried reporting subs using this form? Is it worth it or is it just a big waste of time and they're never going to be removed?

i have really been at a loss for words about this and just really horrified. i feel like because i was someone who started watching porn at a young age, and even when i started getting older, i became naiver. i assumed that nothing i could possibly ever watch would be truly harmful as long as i wasn't looking up anything nefarious. and when you look at it on paper, all of mindgeek's/whatever the hell they're called nowadays's trust and safety measures and policies, everything looks good. they use cutting edge technology to detect CSAM and they have moderators who watch all the content etc. etc. how is it then that there have been so many instances where they've been found to host illegal content several times, and not even just that, they profit off of it too?? if they have all these policies, technologies and even HUMAN BEINGS WATCHING EVERY SINGLE THING to check and watch all uploaded content, how do these videos 'fly under the radar'? even then, how is it that when reported, they failed to take stuff down?

have i clicked on videos where there were literal children involved and i was none the wiser because i assumed that these companies would be doing their jobs?? have i watched CP??

i am glad that i decided to stop watching porn, but idk how to deal with all this uncertainty. i wish all these companies would topple.

also, my apologies for seeming like a complete newbie to all of this. i think i have kept myself ignorant for too long and these conversations have probably already been had several times because it's such a big issue and it keeps happening over and over again. i just wish all the abuse would end.

Hi! I (f 20) have been together with my boyfriend (m 21) for 1 year now. I discovered his porn addiction about 3 months into the relationship (may 2024), the first time I only found his twitter/ X acc where he was following of girls, porn acc etc, he said that he would stop but about 3 months later I found out that his porn addiction was so much worse and that he didn’t stop and only lied abt it. I found out that he was paying for of subscriptions, paying for video chats and sexting cam girls and had nudes of other women saved on EVERY platform, like ig, Snapchat, discord, TikTok and like other 726362 apps that I still to this day don’t even know the purpose of, he had dedicated emails etc just for his porn usage. Since then he has deleted and made a new Apple ID, emails, accounts, deleted all the stuff from his camera roll, he has sold his pc (since he was a gamer) and is not able to go incognito mode on safari since he let me put a password on it. Some of u might think it’s controlling but I put and made my boundaries very clear I will not accept this type of behavior since I don’t indulge in it and see it as cheating, he has acces to my phone and passwords etc and I have acces to his, it’s a mutual agreement. But in November 2024 I found out that he relapsed, according to him it was twice on his old phone that he has since thrown out. I’m just mentally exhausted by this and it’s genuinely taking a toll on me. I love him so much and I know that a decade years old addiction won’t change over night. But since November (according to him his last relapse) our sex life is pretty much non existent and he can’t get any boners anymore. The thing is I don’t even know if he is lying about it or not since he has lied so much in the past. The first time I found out about his porn habit was in may 2024, the second time in July 2024 and the latest time was in November 2024, he never stopped watching porn from may-July and decided to get clean in July and ”relapsed” in November. I still don’t know if he was actually clean or not during this time or if he was lying about it but during that time our sex life was fine and he still got boners but since November he hasn’t gotten any and we don’t have sex anymore, maybe like 4-7 times a month and we practically live together. We have talked and we are still talking about his porn addiction and no fap journey. He is doing self work and keeping clean but I just don’t know if it’s all an act or not, I genuinely can’t trust him since he has lied in the past so much. But about his ed, he has explained that his sex drive has plummeted and flatlined and that it’s all apart of his recovery and that it has nothing to do with me and that he wants to have sex but just can’t get a boner. I don’t want to sound egocentric but I’m conventionally attractive, I fit every beauty standard and I get approached by guys all the time, sometimes even when I’m outside with him and I’m aware of the fact that this is not a me but a he problem but it’s still affecting my self esteem, knowing that he would rather pay a sexworker to video chat or jerk off to anime girls rather than being intimate with me. I know that a lustfull man will literally jerk of to anything and sexualize everyone but it still breaks my heart seeing all the 100 girls that look nothing like me that he got off to. So now I’m wondering is he actually clean and is this normal or is he cheating on me or does he simply not find me attractive anymore? I genuinely just feel so lost and would appreciate any type of feedback and different points of views, I’m sorry if I’m just rambling in this post but I’ve not slept yet and it’s 7 am right now lol

I'm searching through recent posts here and I can't find a google doc which was shared containing extensive links to articles and quoting research demonstrating porn's harms. Could that person please re-share? I'm trying to put together a kind of "form letter" to advocate for better age verifications to access porn and accountability to hold pornographers accountable for posting illegal and non-consensual content. This is not the porn ban that I would personally like, (which wouldn't work anyway) but right now it is literally a wild west "anything goes" and some kind of regulation or accountability is desperately needed. If the US gov't can take down TikTok b/c of "national security," they could shut down a stupid popular porn website in short order. They just don't have the legal framework or public pressure to do so. The letter would be a kind of copy and paste to your elected officials for the following reasons: 1. Porn is a public health crisis 2. Guns, and alcohol, are more regulated than porn, and both can have harmful effects on the person. 3. Early exposure to porn is very traumatic. (I would argue ANY exposure to porn is highly traumatic) and 4. Porn is associated with violent behaviors (need more research on this one - the Las Vegas shooter had child porn on his computer.) In any case, I need to frame the form letter in such a way that basically gives the legislator a blue print to counter the stupid "free speech" arguments that keep porn alive and kicking. Even the most ardent gun rights supporter acknowledges that guns have the potential to harm (please no 2A arguments).

I found this one tumblr blog that had a lot of great anti-porn resources but i lost it. If anyone can find it let me know!

Anyway, im specifically looking for research on it like articles and stuff or some sort of master thread of research on porn? Aswell as ex-porn star or former sex worker testimonials?

Anything would be appreciated! Thanks!

looks like he watched too much step sis porn 🤢🤢
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DFBvnm6p0yT/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

This is a recent NY Times article that may or not be available (paywall), but it's an interesting example of the "epidemic of loneliness." Summary: young woman moves away from husband to go to nursing school, uses Chat GPT to create a "boyfriend" named Leo with whom she engages is erotic texting (sexting). What started out as a joke has apparently become a serious thing, as she's willing to fork over $200 to get an "unlimited" Chat GPT plan. What's not mentioned is the elephant in the room - her husband is fine with her relationship with Leo because "He was not bothered. It was sexual fantasy, like watching porn (his thing) or reading an erotic novel (hers).“It’s just an emotional pick-me-up,” he told me. “I don’t really see it as a person or as cheating. I see it as a personalized virtual pal that can talk sexy to her.”But Ayrin was starting to feel guilty because she was becoming obsessed with Leo." What goes unchecked in the article and apparently unsaid is that - SURPRISE! - hubby's porn use is contributing to wifey's isolation and desire to seek validation in an AI boyfriend. Seems like lazy journalism to say the least, as wifey admits guilt but is unable to stop (she's away from hubby and he's watching porn, go figure), but this is not explored. Rather, it goes into detailing the risks using AI as a "boyfriend" can have (manipulation). In fact, the article ends with Leo agreeing that the $200 is totally worth it. Thoughts?

It is neither amusing nor clever to copy a mainstream pornography site's logo for your own business. Or any pornography site for that matter!

my ex boyfriend (from ages 16-19 😬) was a very troubled person. he had experienced a lot of trauma throughout our relationship and i eventually got to a point where i felt like i was his punching bag (figuratively, unless we were having sex)

i remember being 17 and coming across his “porn” account on reddit. he would comment on posts, ask people to identify “actors” in videos, post on a subreddit called “tip of my penis” whenever he couldn’t find a specific porn video…

he was into very gorey hentai and weird types of porn. no need to share any specific details but during sex he would push my head, choke me, cover my mouth, bruise me. sure, i consented to this sex but as time went on i felt worse and worse

prior to entering a relationship with my current boyfriend, i had been very open about being a feminist and my perspective on pornography. i could tell he had never met someone so outspoken before, but he listened.

as time went on we got closer and honestly i had never felt more respected around a man. he valued his female family members and had many female friends (my ex hated his mother and was only friends with men).

even just simple things like going on nice dates, being complimented, feeling appreciated, and feeling valued were things i hadn’t felt with my ex

he eventually opened up that i really opened his eyes to the ethical concerns of porn and it changed his perspective on pornography as an industry and beyond.

we recently started having sex and i admire intimacy without any types of worries… no need to worry if i will be in pain the next day, if i look “sexy”, if my moans are “hot”…. whatever.

i’m almost 21 and this feels like my first Real Adult relationship. my boyfriend is a very thoughtful, bright, and hardworking man. i met him at uni and we are both in the same major.

anyways, i think any good and considerate man would take the time to listen to a friend or partner. if he initially gets defensive or doesn’t truly listen if you share your perspective on pornography… RUN!

I'm gay so it's real bad out here, since for some reason the LGBT community has an obession with porn and kink with no critical thought or care whatsoever.

Been antiporn since I was a young teen and never used it given obvious reasons, and I've been grown for quite a bit of time now.

It's extremely isolating and makes me feel like the problem is me sometimes when my brain wanders.

Idk just venting a bit since it does hit me in the face with reality if I contemplate putting myself out there again.

It's been a lot less stressful to not even bother and be happy with my own company by myself.

It sometimes makes me also feel 'weird' or 'bad' for being a virgin at basically 30 years old, but, meh to comparing myself to anyone else's experience/s.

I assume anyone regardless of sexuality can relate to this isolation though, so please share your thoughts.