your body is literally ACHING for it, and of course my first thought is "okay, i can fix this problem easy and watch porn and satisfy my needs." my sex drive has always been high but it gets even worse during this time, and it's even harder because i'm home by myself all day because of my job. just sucks when your mind and heart say one thing and your body craves something you shouldn't even want.

Can anyone speak to your body arousal changes after cutting out porn?

I have never climaxed during sex with another person, only with porn. I am hoping that by giving it up, I can one day experience that level of pleasure with a partner.

Please comment if you’ve dealt with this! Thank you.

I did it! Hit my longest streak of 37 days a few months ago. Longest streak ever in my 14 years of porn use but I fell and couldn't manage to get back up - but here I am! Feeling motivated and proud and looking forward to never going back to using porn!

Hello, so as the title suggests, I (F18) just had my first relapse. I made the decision to quit 5 weeks ago on the 22nd of October. I was so proud of myself for making it a month and then my five week mark was yesterday but I had some really hard urges today and I eventually gave in and looked. I only looked for 10 minutes but it’s destroying me that I threw away 5 weeks clean for 10 minutes of nothing. I never want to use this filth again. My goal was to get to Christmas without using porn again and now i’ve destroyed that. I know one time in 5 weeks is better than everyday and that relapse is part of recovery but this just sucks.

Basically the title. I(17f) am very happy about my streak without porn, but now I want to stop masturbating. I want to stop all of the sexual things until I am married. I know you might say I'm too young and to be thinking about marriage and that life's too short, blah, blah, blah, but I've seen how not maintain abstinence can majorly mess up ones life. (My sister has three kids with three different guys and possibly an STD at 24)

I just need encouragement to stop doing this stuff and how to mitigate triggers, mainly being in the shower, I don't want to go too into as there are def creeps on here, but I just need support on how to fight urges and stuff.

Thank you for reading :]

So the background is, until 19yrs I hadn't even touched myself, I used to watch porn...why I don't know because I didn't even used to do anything (the period when I got introduced to it) i might be 14 yrs around then.

Cut to 19, I dated for the first time, broke up almost 1.5 years ago. I still didn't know how to masturbate and stuff despite being active because I didn't need to touch myself and well didn't find the need to explore by myself as well. Cut to present after the breakup, i healed a lil bit and stuff. But things spiraled. Now the thing is I don't even remember when I started watching porn and when the frequency of masturbating a day got so much. I have been trying to reduce it and have been successful it for at least now. Don't know what will happen in the future .

Since I am very new to this whole masturbating thing. Mentally i maybe able to control, idk but the main thing is physically.

When u are about to climax and if u feel like that oh u might just pee but ofc u r not gonna, and that's just the sensation and the climax is great. Can you relate this sensation? (I trying my best to make you understand,rest as a girl pls try to comprehend this all too😅) The thing is, since the addiction I might say, i feel the need to go peeing so many times a day, and it's just not possible to go that many times. I mean you can go....but it's a problem. I hope u get it. I was wondering whether this is my body asking for it since it's accustomed to it or is it actual peeing problem for which I should see a urologist. Due to this physical sensation I end up doing it, however if it was mentally i think I would have been to control it. Please help as tk whatever you can.

Actually this thing started from a place of loneliness and stuff. Not cribbing but as I have no friends around. And it's awkward to share with family members hence I reached out.

Been watching for 12 years and I quit cold turkey. I was disgusted with myself and full of shame. I swore i would go to hell for being so addicted to porn and masturbating. It was the worst but im glad to say i havent thought about masturbating or watching porn in over two years. Just giving yall some hope!

I thought I was the only one… who felt this way.I saw a vhs of “it” at 4 years old and I got started at 13 years old addicted to it in order to release my emotions temporarily to always fill void of wanting to feel loved and fill avoided…I was SAed at 21 by someone(I got professional help from said situation) sadly with my feelings of feeling so called impure and powerless and self blaming I used it as a coping mechanism in order to sleep at night and give myself temporary satisfaction. I have stopped for 3 days and felt different also on a spiritual journey and doing shadow work sex was a trigger for me but also I am gay and becoming more of my authentic self in my Queer journey.

Do you feel porn has influenced your sexuality? I feel since I would watch women or lesbian porn I started to find myself sexually attracted to women.

Hey, so I know there's people looking for accountability partners and such, but I thought it would be fun to have a small group of 3 or more people to keep each other in check. If anyone's interested, I was thinking of creating a small discord gc we would all be in :)

On day 18. Looking for accountability buddy, found having a community and people talk to really helps :) F only

For some reason November has not been going well, I’ve already masturbated and watched porn more times than in October. I just finished and I immediately started crying so now I’m just crying on my bathroom floor feeling completely defeated and confused. I don’t know what’s going on

I've not consumed any porn for 3 days, I know it's for the best but the urges and cravings are ridiculous!

I find myself spiralling in anger and picking my skin instead of watching porn😕

What helped you cope?

I am using a secondary account, sadly my primary account is being stalked and I don't want a personal post like this being seen by weird men. I want to get it out of the way that I'm a lesbian, I'm still young at 24 years old and I started watching porn at 11. I was unfortunate that my parents never found out, because my mother is homophobic and she would have really disciplined me for going on sites I shouldn't have been on.

I have social anxiety, was never good at relationships and was always a nerdy girl. I wasn't having issues discovering my sexuality, I knew I was into girls when I was 8, men never appealed to me. I need to quit this addiction because I am no different than a porn-sick man, my disgusting ass exploiting my own sex for my own pleasure, it's unacceptable.

I am also in self disgust because I was a girl who was watching grow women perform on camera. If I ever end up having a daughter on son at some point, I am not allowing them access to a computer unless I'm present. I know there's way of tracking history in the background beyond clearing a search history, if only I had that back in the 2000s.

I also don't look at women in a healthy way. I stopped seeing sex workers last year, because it was getting bad when I had an STI and it took months for me to recover. I was also seeing some older women, old as 40 or 50 and some of them made me feel uncomfortable the way they talked, I felt so dehumanized.

I need to come out to my family and friends at a certain point, I can't keep myself a slave to this disgusting habit.

Really proud of myself for not watching porn this long. I think this is potentially the longest I've gone without in the past 5 years.

I mo sometimes but rarely and try to keep it sparse and only if i really need to.

I'm grateful for having a buddy that I can rant to everyday on here and if it wasn't for them I wouldn't have got this far!

If you're feeling down and wondering if you can do it, you CAN!!

Edit:

For those wondering how I've been able to do it so far?

Well first I'm on PMO but the MO is not strictly off the table. I'm also celibate and don't desire to date anyone or have sex so this was something I had to accept - some people promote recovery through sex with others but for people who don't want to do that... there's not much choice.

Anyways, I have an MO rule which is if I really need to I will do it, but then I'll start my PMO again, until the next time.

Secondly, I avoid all the previous things I used to engage with that would lead me to watching porn. I haven't read anything sexual or even romantic that could have sex in it in ages.

I'm so busy with schoolwork I don't have time to think about that.

Thirdly, I don't use porn blockers or anything like that. I know people say those are there for when you're in a very Risky state, but I've said to myself since the beginning I need to train myself to act differently in spite of knowing what is out there. I think for me anyways when I did use porn blockers I was more incentivised to break my pmo because it didn't feel like a "choice."

Lastly and most important. Have a buddy. Rant to them everyday and talk about what you're going through. They will help you through the really hard parts.

Anyways, I'm on day 78.

Will update when I hit the 90 day mark.

This is kinda scary because I’ve never told a soul in my life about this, even my closest friend I feel I can confide everything in.

This is mostly because of the awful shit the desensitization has lead to and having people question my sexuality. I’m a lesbian but straight porn is what Im addicted to. Because it’s the most violent type of porn. I find it really gross on multiple levels and have even had nightmares about it. The more I try to step away from the porn brainwashing the more I hate it.

Since I’m a neurodivergent queer person most of my friends are lefty so I’m afraid of pushback for being “sex negative” or whatever. I suspect they already think I’m a bit of a prude because I’m still a virgin (I’m 21) but it’s entirely possible that it’s my insecurities talking.

Just finished the easy peasy method audiobook yesterday and I already feel so much better! May I relapse? Sure, but it’s better than not trying at all. Just pick up the pieces and keep going.

Before any of you ladies who’ve read easy peasy get on me for calling myself an addict, I’m still a non user. The addiction monster (ojama as I like to call it) is still there but I’m not feeding it anymore. Rome wasn’t built in a day you know!

I can’t believe it but I already feel better. I’ve gone days without porn before but I don’t feel like I’ll need it like I did before. No one needs porn. I’m as happy as a little girl! Anyways I’m gonna go eat breakfast and read Wizard of Earthsea, catch you later! 👋🏻

started on 11/8. it’s only been five days. it’s so hard. i’m trying to fight the urges right now. almost every night is a struggle. whenever i have free time it leads me down a path i don’t want to go down. i’m actually on the verge of just saying fuck it and masturbating to porn anyway.

i’m not against masturbation i just want to stop while looking at porn. i’ve opted to audios instead (which imo is diff and ok/better) because i’ve found masturbating just by myself is kinda weird

i really really need to stop 😭😭😭😭 i have sm shame. i was almost caught a couple times yet i kept doing it. i get scared whenever it’s a possibility my secret has been revealed. i didn’t accept nor realize it was an addiction until it was too late. i keep thinking about what the ppl around me would think of me and i feel so embarrassed and ashamed of myself. i don’t even like that i am posting this here. and the fact that i am just this innocent woman on the outside makes me feel even more terrible. i feel like a fraud.

edit: i also want to add the worst is when i know i’m doing wrong and it affects the people around me. such as being late to meet ups. i wasn’t like this before. it’s just horrible.

i’m also depressed and off meds now (better than in the past though) but the combo of depression and antidepressants has killed all sense of sexual desire within me. i feel very little to no organic sexual desires for ppl i meet or see. it’s all just porn doing the work. heck i wouldn’t even be masturbating at all i’m sure without my addiction. so this makes me feel even worse…

because of my condition i’m sure without porn that’s why i feel awkward just masturbating by myself without an outside stimulus. ig i can use imagination but again the natural raw sexual desires is just…. dead in a ditch somewhere.

also mods i am a woman xd idk how to verify but yeah…

I’ve struggled with depression and porn addiction since I was around 9-10 years old. I realize now that I use pornography to relieve my stress and some days it’s the only source of dopamine I feel I have. I’m a relatively normal person with lots of friends, hobbies, and activities that keep me busy. Despite this, I struggle with experiencing genuine pleasure without porn and now even that feels underwhelming.

I’m just wondering if this is it. Is/Has anybody else gone through this? I feel like the damage I’ve done to myself and my body is irreversible and I’ll never experience true pleasure again. Any advice?

Hi, I initially posted in the other pornfree subreddit not realising this one existed!

I'm 26, I've been watching porn and other harmful media since I was 8. I survived something called RAMCOA which introduced me to said content. I have been deconstructing since 2020, but have been in intense therapy for 6 years total.

I don't know how to stop, but I hate it.. I hate the dependency, the urges, the binges and heavy relapses. I always feel like im betraying myself and women in general💔

Absolutely any advice is welcome and appreciated❤️‍🩹

I don’t know if anyone else experiences this either, but I feel like im so rotted from the porn that if I just look at something I get turned on. IT MAKES ME FEEL DISGUSTING. I feel like a dirty old man. I was literally scrolling through a vent subreddit and I saw this woman pouring her heart out into this post and I felt so turned on by it. What is wrong with me

https://youtu.be/tYIkfkGJxTE?si=8j3HJByGh1vvZXll

Whatever people think about this guy is irrelevant as his point here is killer.

This smacked me in the face. How can I say I’m standing for women and girls, standing up for the world recognising us as living, conscious beings, standing against the objectification of us for some dirty, momentary pleasure, and still watch porn?

I am the one objectifying women! It is our bloody responsibility here, girls! Men can’t do it because they simply do not care as much. The danger isn’t as pressing for them as they aren’t living in the bodies that are being objectified (as much - I’m aware it works both ways). WE have the power to lessen the dangers for ourselves.

Now I know it’s easy to say it and there’s so many forces at work that make us want to stand for women’s wellbeing but also have us slip into this old pattern, but I just wanted to share this as this smacked me so hard. It made me feel sick. And I watch it every day to get that same sick feeling that pushes me in what I consider to be the right direction - the direction that does not encourage or perpetuate the objectification of my own bloody body!

Maybe this will resonate, maybe it won’t, I hope it slaps someone awake like it did me

Nothing but love to you people 🤍

19[f] Here. So i got exposed to masturbation when i was 15 and its been 4 years now I can't stop doing this. It really takes a toll on mental health because im raised as a Christian and fornication is against our morals. Its very rare when i watch porn. I really find it so hard and struggling to not do it but i cant control my hormones. In every way i feel like im drowning deep into the sin and there's no way out. It feels like someone has tied a big rock with my body and threw me in the oceans. I really need to stop masturbating because i somehow feels it's a disrespect to my boyfriend also. Please help m with whatever piece o advice you can.

I went to a feminist anti-violence against women protest and felt like such a hypocrite the whole time while also having relapsed today of all days. it sucks

Just wanted to share my struggle and hope not to be judged too much. I want to free myself from my addiction.

• started to masturbate when I was 7 years old and saw my parents having sex
• discovered porn when I was 11, my parents owned the VHS and didn't hide it well
• masturbated excessively but addiction really started when I got my first computer when I was 13
• my parents had no idea and didn't give me any rules, they didn't care if I stayed up all night on my computer
• I had complete unsupervised access to the internet
• I'm single and a virgin

I'm 30 now and I want to be healthy. I want to be able to control my impulses. And just be normal, you know.

It's my day 2 without PMO. It's not easy but I'm motivated.

Thank you for reading. I can't believe I wrote that down...

College has been kicking my ass but October went well! We got 4 days out of 31 that I’ve relapsed, so it’s fair to say I’ve been getting better! Goal for November will be to keep it the same or reduce a bit if I can :)

I (21F) was porn, hentai, and masturbation free for about 3 months before suddenly giving in and ruining my streak one evening because I was bored and missed it suddenly. I’m ashamed of myself for giving in so easily and not even fighting the urge. I once went one year without doing it, and I feel like I can never achieve that again. I’m ashamed and embarrassed and want to have a healthy relationship with sex and masturbation but I feel like I never can because the internet has warped it so badly. Porn is so harmful and I hate that I still will turn to it despite knowing that fact.

I am a woman, moderator! I thought that would be clear from my post, haha, but it got removed.

I'm about 18 days porn free, for the first time since discovering this vice at 21. That's 16 years. I discovered masturbation alongside the porn. In essence, I've never masturbated without some kind of pornographic material - videos, images, sometimes erotic fiction.

Consequently, I've realized for the first time that despite being a long-time porn addict, at times masturbating for entire afternoons and half of the day, I know nothing about my own sensuality. I don't know what pleasures myself, only the mechanical movements necessary to get myself off with the aid of porn. It was quick, efficient, and in a sense, brutal, treating my own body without humanity. In fact, I've tried to masturbate since giving up porn, and my body hadn't responded.

As you can probably guess, too, that in the past when I turned to masturbation, it was due to stress, boredom, feelings of loneliness, all the gamut of negative feelings all of us here are likely familiar with, anything except horniness, or our bodies' innate need for sex. I've talked to my boyfriend about it, and he confirmed my suspicion - he did consume porn, too, but only when he felt horny. He'd jerk off, his mind would clear of the horniness, and he could get back to his day without a second thought.

That's the difference between us and other people who casually use porn, the compulsion. Once I saw and felt that differentiation, I haven't wanted to consume porn at all.

So next time you feel like watching porn, ask yourself which part of you is wanting it - your body or your mind? If it's the former, you won't need porn to reach a release. If it's the latter, there are far more and far healthier outlets.

I'm about 18 days porn free, for the first time since discovering this vice at 21. That's 16 years. I discovered masturbation alongside the porn. In essence, I've never masturbated without some kind of pornographic material - videos, images, sometimes erotic fiction.

Consequently, I've realized for the first time that despite being a long-time porn addict, at times masturbating for entire afternoons and half of the day, I know nothing about my own sensuality. I don't know what pleasures myself, only the mechanical movements necessary to get myself off with the aid of porn. It was quick, efficient, and in a sense, brutal, treating my own body without humanity. In fact, I've tried to masturbate since giving up porn, and my body hadn't responded.

As you can probably guess, too, that in the past when I turned to masturbation, it was due to stress, boredom, feelings of loneliness, all the gamut of negative feelings all of us here are likely familiar with, anything except horniness, or our bodies' innate need for sex. I've talked to my boyfriend about it, and he confirmed my suspicion - he did consume porn, too, but only when he felt horny. He'd jerk off, his mind would clear of the horniness, and he could get back to his day without a second thought.

That's the difference between us and other people who casually use porn, the compulsion. Once I saw and felt that differentiation, I haven't wanted to consume porn at all.

So next time you feel like watching porn, ask yourself which part of you is wanting it - your body or your mind? If it's the former, you won't need porn to reach a release. If it's the latter, there are far more and far healthier outlets.

14 year habit, longest streak I’ve ever wentp was 37 days a few months ago but I relapsed and haven’t managed to get back up since until now. 1 week in! It isn’t a lot but a small win is still a win!!

Accountability post for myself. Currently halfway through day 4 PF. 28th January 2025. Mark my words I will be 3 months pornfree!