After evaluating my (f28) sexual habits, I have to stop watching porn. Like many, I have been watching porn since middle school. When having sex with my partner, I’ve never been able to orgasm with him, yet have no issue when I’m by myself using porn (almost exclusively visual).

This might be a silly question, but for those that are currently living a porn free life did you give up all forms of porn? For me, I know pornographic videos / pictures have to be eliminated, but what about erotic stories or audio porn?

Typing it out feels a little “have your cake and eat it too” type of situation, but as a newby looking for advice, have people found success* by cutting out just visual porn or do you find the ‘all-or-nothing’ approach to be the only way forward?

*(I understand success is different for everyone too… I guess for me it would be masturbation using my imagination and being able to orgasm with my partner.)

i really want to stop watching p and pleasuring my selp pleaseeeee help

I was porn free for almost 7 months and I recently started watching again(the last 4 months). I want to be porn free again because I feel like maybe I oversexualize men. I’ve always developed crushes easily, but only recently have I been fantasizing about my crushes and I having sex. Like I’m talking about a brief moment of me seeing a man, finding them cute, and then now I’m day dreaming or masturbating to the thought of us having sex. Is this normal?

I am a 31yr old female from the US and a Christian. I love Jesus more than almost anything, but porn has created so much guilt in my life. Porn is my escape from the desires to drink, go off my meds, or end my life. I feel like a fake Christian and I want to stop using pornography entirely. I've gone twenty four hours for the first time in about six months.

Hey everyone!! Ive successfully survived 2 weeks gping PF!!!! Its been a struggle of alot of conflicting emotions. Started therapy and hopeful for that. But ive managed to start to have a social life again. My house is so clean and organized.llls really made me see just how much porn was a part of my life abd how much time it consumed. So thankful to have made this choice.

Hello!

Female here, I have watched some stuff, mainly lesbian. I don’t really know if I am addicted to it. I have time to workout, going to work, being with friends and doing what I love.

But sometimes I feel like doing it to porn. It can be a few times a week. Is that bad?

I f18 have been watching porn for very long while masturbating. Im ngl I love it but I know it’s wrong..

How do I stop?

In order to fight with porn, we need more information. I have found a lot stuff that gonna help you to overcome this addiction.

1. Brain Heart World, documentary by FTND (Google)

2. Addicted to Porn - chasing the cardboard butterfly (Youtube)

3. High speed internet Porn and the experiment Generation (Youtube)

4. Pornography addictive, progressive and deadly by Dr. Dobson (Internet archieve - currently going down)

https://archive.org/details/pornography-addictive-progressive-and-deadly-full-vhs

I am here to tell you it does get better. I used to watch for hours everyday losing sleep and doing nothing else. Now I have been porn free for 102 days. I have never felt so alive and I am living such a fulfilling life right now. I have more self confidence, more hobbies, and more fulfilling friendships and a loving relationship. My head is clearer and I have never felt more like myself. It was very hard. It still is. Give yourself grace. You will get there.

I relapsed and I just feel awful. Remembered this community and decided to check on it to see if it can help me somehow. I don't understand why it's so hard.

Hi (f18)

I feel so down rn…i feel hopeless and the horniness never stops😫I created this account just for motivation and to get this of my chest

I am stupidly addicted and wanna masturbate all the time😩why can’t it stop like whyyyyyy???

I never reached 39 days before. It seemed impossible all my life.

Addiction of 20+ years makes you feel like a failure. But I didn't give up.

Thank you for nofap. I just woke up with some urges so I post this to remind myself of this wonder.

So when I was 12 my mother passed away and I’m just now realizing I used porn to get over her death but now 28 I’m starting to realize it’s become a problem and I can’t stop I don’t know what to do does talking to people help? I’ve been too embarrassed for the year I’ve realized it’s an issue

Hi 👋🏻 I'm F27. It's nice to find a community that will understand, trigger warning as there are some dodgy topics surrounding me being young at the time. I was around 5 when I first started touching myself. 7 or 8 when I found porn. When my parents would catch me masturbating I was told not to do it but never told what I was doing or why I should stop. I didn't grow up in the most stable of households, so this one thing that brought "joy" stuck. It became a regular thing, and hasn't let up since. When I turned 12, I was given my own personal laptop, none of my parents monitored me/my internet usage. I started going into chat rooms, I once had an adult couple call me while they fornicated, but no one had any idea. I thought something might be wrong with me, but it only ever seemed to be boys that were warned about porn and unrealistic expectations. I put it down to raging hormones that would subside and then I would watch porn a "normal" amount. I would look forward to being alone in the house after school so I could just keep looking and touching, and there wasn't any risk of being walked in on. Tumblr was big back then, before they got rid of the porn, and I kept falling deeper and deeper into this hole, and Tumblr made it seem so cool, and I felt validated in my consumption. This went on for years, looking at taboo, BDSM, rough stuff etc. Sometimes things would be pretty tame, other times I would wonder what the fuck I'd just seen. When I turned 18 I moved out and in with my partner (who I still live with now). We've always been open with each other, but I was never able to be completely honest about this side of me. I always knew my sex drive was high, and higher than my partner's, so it wasn't really seen as odd that I had toys to satisfy, so again, nothing really clicked into my brain that there was an issue. Issues started arising in our relationship when I didn't feel I was desired the same amount as the people I saw in porn films, I wondered why my partner didn't want to be constantly in my pants.. what's wrong with me? Is it the way I look? Is there someone else? I could not fathom that desire doesn't always look like it does on the screen, that it isn't a constant flame. Seeing other women come forward about their consumption of porn made the penny drop. I've spent so much of my time watching porn I never really learned what sex should be. I can barely make friends without fantasising about them, even if when I see them irl I don't have that attraction. Everything in my life has pretty much revolved around masturbation and sex. I really want to make a change. I want to stop watching porn, and I want to ease up on the masturbation. I decided yesterday I would stop, so I didn't wank myself to sleep like I normally would. I stayed up later to ensure I was well and truly tired. I woke up a few times with my hand between my legs, but overall managed to resist the urges. I'm hoping it gets easier as it is pretty much all I have ever known.

Making the commitment today to not watch porn. I’ve been consuming since I was around 11, maybe younger, and I am turning 27 this year.

Would love to stop relying on porn when I am bored or stressed. I think about it so often.

Even since making the commitment to myself earlier today the impulses are insane.

Any advice/support would be appreciated. Mostly just posting this to hold myself accountable.

Very happy to have found this community.

YOU CAN DO IT

Thank you to everyone that reached out and responded to my last post. I officially have an appt with a therapist on wednesday!!! Just working on keeping busy and focused until then. I cant remember the last time i didnt spend an entire weekend deep in porn. Its been alot of emotions and stressful but im really trying.

Hey everyone. Im 31 and ill be honest, its embarrasing how addicted to porn ive been. I honestly created this account just for this to try to find a way to break it. I had always enjoyed some porn here and there and never thought anything of it. Since the pandemic it increased. Massively. So much so that it was a daily thing. Hours a day. I created an entire discord porn/gooning server to help fuel it. Ive cancelled plans and dates. Ive skipped work at times. Just to stay at home and enjoy myself with porn. And its emarassing. And i need help. Ive reached out to a therapist so hopefully starting that soon. Any helpful tips? Advice? Anything to try and make breaking this easier?

I didn’t do as great of a job tracking when I watched porn or masturbated but I know for sure it was less than last time. For the month of September I masturbated (give or take) 6 out of 30 days :) Being in college has definitely been a good distraction and what’s been stopping me from masturbating. Goal for October is to keep it at 6 and try to decrease :)

I’ve been thinking about quitting since last year now and I’ve finally taking quitting seriously this week. A little backstory, I’m 23f and I had exposure to tumblr nsfw as a teen and then in 2021 I discovered nsfw twitter and that’s when the spiral began. My kinks became so dark and I really enjoyed esex with randoms on nsfwtwt. It was fun to talk to strangers and also have esex. I think it made me feel validated and sexy even though it was through a screen. I liked that I got the validation from random men who lusted over me. My personal irl self is completely different to my online self and that’s what I liked. Irl I’m very put together but online I got to be a whore without the repercussions. My 24th birthday is soon and I’m thinking more about relationships and I realise that I’m jeopardising my relationship future because I’m only into sick kinks due to my twitter porn consumption. How would I meet a nice man who would respect me if I have this secret side of me? How could I be with someone who would degrade me even though I “like” those kinks. Do I really enjoy those dark kinks or is it because I’m just exposed to it and like the male validation when I do engage in those kinks? I don’t know I just had an epiphany and I want to do better for myself. I’m 5 days clean and that’s the longest I’ve gone in a long time. I hope I can stick to being clean for good now!

I'm a trans non-binary woman who is searching for an accountability partner, to make sure I and the partner can stay porn-free, who's with me?

I want to take more intentional steps to stop my porn addiction before 2025 when I turn 16. I've had access to porn at around 8 years old, and it's still there till this day. I've also found myself over the past years watching more extreme versions that I detest myself for, and it's getting too bad that I have to block off apps like Twitter or even Google play store to prevent myself downloading vpns to watch porn. I go lots of times without watching it but when I do I go down disgusting paths where I'm even selecting specific vids to watch usually on the extreme or taboo end to get off to. And thinking about it is constant and normal to me and I don't want or need that. So I've come here to share my problem (instead of googling how to stop porn addiction on incognito). Please help, I believe this community can help me

I’ve been struggling to go more than a day without pmo recently, I had made some progress but recently it’s been all I can think about I want to stop but I’m constantly craving for it when im doing anything else.

Hi everyone. I just want to share where I'm at and I don't really have a specific question but any advice is welcome

I'm an adult and I have been having an orgasm every night since I was a preteen to help me fall asleep. Having an orgasm is like taking benadryl for me, as soon as it happens the world fades away and I fall asleep almost instantly after.

In the beginning when I first started masterbating I would read erotica and rub myself on a balled up section of my blanket to reach an orgasm.

But as the years went on (and I lost excitement from normal erotic/normal porn and just my libido lowered in general with age) I started using a super powerful vibrator combined with very disturbing porn videos.

I feel like now instead of "giving" myself an orgasm, I am "forcing" myself to have one so that I can get to sleep

I haven't ever had an orgasm from sex so I don't want to stop some of what I do

And the other issue is sleep. I tried to not masturbate before and I will literally stay up until morning and not fall asleep

I am a 20 F that has been struggling with pornograogy and masturbation since i was about 14/15. I genuinely hate who i am and fell into a dark place mentally trying to take another route out of life… Today i am going to say no to lust and falling into those desires and if anyone would like to join me and tackle this battle together i am open! Is there any apps that i can use to help overcome this struggle please i am willing and open minded to any suggestions

the only thing that arouses me is a specific sort of humilitation and its definitely porn's fault. but i stopped watching porn a while back and it hasn't helped the problem.

i used to masturbate like 2-3 times per day with porn, and now i only masturbate more like 1-2 times per week and it's without porn, and i also have sex around 4-5 times per week usually.

before i stopped watching porn i also used to sell porn of myself for some guy friends but it started to change how they treated me and i didn't like it and i realized i didn't like making porn so i stopped and i stopped being friends with them cause they never treated me normally after that like they always begged for me to send them things

one of my best friends is a stripper but she doesn't enjoy it she's just stuck for various reasons. and she hates porn. like hearing her talk about why its so bad is why i stopped watching it i learned everything bad about the industry from her honestly like i didn't know any of it

and so now don't watch it ever, but quitting watching it hasn't really changed much for me

in both masturbation and sex with men i can't get myself aroused without thinking some very demeaning things about myself. and i tell them the things i want them to say to me and it feels really good in the moment. but i feel like i'm internalizing those things about myself more and more and it just feels really bad. i feel bad about myself when i think about it. but when i don't tell them to say those things i just can't get any enjoyment from it at all. i've really tried and i just can't. it doesn't matter who i'm having sex with it's always the same

i feel like i ruined my life by making myself think this way about myself. it's making me depressed i barely even feel motivated to finish college. i've been assaulted a few times too and i guess its pretty normal for most people to be assaulted a couple times like it wasn't anything super severe, but i keep thinking about that all the time too now

also even though i'm not friends with them anymore the guys i used to sell porn to are still around and i know they're thinking about it when they talk to me and it makes me want to drop out. like i know i shouldn't because i'm basically halfway there but i could also just leave college and i could do an esthetician course in six months and i'd probably never see any of them again

and like i still can't figure out how to enjoy myself without degrading myself there's just no arousal for me if i don't center my sexuality around humiliation and i just don't know how to fix all of this. and like it's all from porn i discovered it all in porn as a kid and i've been imagining the same things ever since. i have memories of thinking those things at like 12 years old and it's really sad to me to think about me as a kid thinking those things.

i just want solutions to fix this if anyone knows what i can do please

Short report:

21 days. Consciously avoiding porn and sexual content. I have not been 100% succesful, there are some times I get bamboozeled by random naked picture or cartoon but much less than before.

I definitely realised again that my dopamine circuut is fucked. I am bored all the time. Low energy. I am not sure if this is because of lack of porn use or just my life is boring right now lol.

Has anyone experienced similar low of energy after quitting? Its like part of "withdrawal" or what?

Moving on, I noticed that I daydream less. I am more in the present. I still think of having intercourse and whatnot but not as paralyzing as it used to be. It has become a passive, passing thought just like any other thought I have in the day.

Its chill.

Yes, thats right. Just want you all to know it IS possible. You got this. I feel amazing with little to no desire to go back. Woohoo!!!

(F18) I'll try to make this short as possible because it's a long story. I've been dealing with a porn addiction since I was 10 years old, and honestly I feel like this one thing has caused a butterfly affect in my life. I've always encountered inappropriate things as a child on the internet, but because I did not understand them, I usually clicked away from them until one day I didn't. I had saw a thumbnail of a man going down on a woman on youtube and I clicked away from it but then later that day, a school night, it had popped up in my mind again for some reason and I went searching on google. I typed in "porn hub" because that site is referenced alot so I went to it out of curiosity and then that's when it began. I still remember the guilt till this day.

My addiction at this time was way more severe (in my opinion). It escalated very quickly, and I regretted using it every time. I started to have Intrusive thoughts about porn and sexual thoughts about my favorite characters from my comfort shows and this upset me so much. In my mind, those things were pure and I was contaminating them with my thoughts so I began to slowly drift away from my hobbies and interest because I no longer felt worthy and didn't want to taint them. This continued through middle school and the things I watched grew more and more gross and violent day by day. I started to watch rape porn at the age of 11-12, I would actively seek these things out as well as the incest shit. I never acted these things out in real life and never had the desire to but getting off to it is still damaging to me. Here comes the part I rarely see anyone talk about, but I began to watch loli porn. I was desensitized to alot of things and they couldn't get me off anymore so stumbling across that got me off. In my head at the time, 12 year old me for some reason did not register the fact that they were practically children (Fictional). I am not excusing myself at all. I think that I knew they were on a subconscious level because why else would I be aware that it was something more extreme? Anyway, It went on like this until I stumbled across a animation of my favorite character and it finally dawned on me how fucked up it was, how fucked up I was/am. I want to clarify that I am not a pedophile, never have been, never sexualized a child in real life nor had the desire. And I no longer watch that category today. I'm also not a lolicon, I hate the whole argument of "She's not real". But I clarified fictional because I want to let you guys know it wasn't anything illegal.

But despite that I still didn't stop watching porn. My tastes changed as I got older and discovered other things and this specific fetish is the one that I deal with till this day and one that bothers me the most. I began to start watching videos of men ejaculating onto photos of celebrities, random girls on social media, used panties etc. I'm sorry if that's too graphic. I am not proud of this at all. When I'm masturbating to these things I am still grossed out, sometimes even "traumatized" and heartbroken whenever it is a celeb that I cherish. I don't know what else to say about this one, I guess I just needed to finally confess it because it eats me alive.

But for the rest of this rant I have to say; because of all of this, porn has caused me to have an obession with purity and cleanliness because of the dirty feeling I got everytime I finished watching it. My memories feel tainted, my soul and body feel tainted. I feel irredeemable. This obession manifested into OCD and I had contamination OCD for 4-5 years that spiraled out of control and completely took over my teen years, causing me to miss school and miss out of making friends etc. I was (and kinda still am) obsessed with the idea of reinventing myself or something to sort of cleanse my sins. I'm not religious. I envy children who have parents that protect them from the internet and are allowed to keep their innocence. I miss my innocence so so much. On the bright side I guess..I'm coming to make peace with myself and just let these things be in the past. To just learn from this. I can't erase all the things I've seen, or necessarily be "pure". Not even sure if that matters anymore anyway.

But yeah, that's my story I guess. I wrote this because I needed to get this off my chest, and if there is anyone else out there who can relate. I also just wasn't aware that even still today I still have this addiction even if it isn't as severe as it was before. I struggle with perfectionism, so my mind tells me that my addiction isn't severe enough to be considered one even though deep down I know it is.

Edit: For all the weirdos in my PM trying to get me to do whatever it is that you want me to do fuck off because it's not happening.

Hello everyone, I'm a 27 year old woman and I think I'm addicted to porn. I have a really high sex drive and I enjoy watching it, I didn't think it was really a problem since I don't do it every single day, but I think lately it's become enough to where it's effecting my sex life with my boyfriend.

Mostly I notice that I just can't get that turned on during sex. Even if I really want to have sex, and I feel like I'm in the mood and we do some foreplay, its like my body itself can't get into the mood if that makes sense. I can't orgasm in front of him unless I'm doing it myself and I do it really hard, which is embarrassing. As opposed to when I watch porn, I'll basically watch fetish porn for an hour or so while masturbating, and then I can orgasm way easier (also because I'm leisurely masturbating for an hour lol, but during sex I guess I feel my own pressure to finish faster but maybe I'm used to this now?).

I've kind of only recently considered this may be an issue for me. I think I've desensitized myself mentally and physically :(