I have a question as a wife (f29) of a PA (m32). This is our second time going thru this. I found out originally about his addiction in 2021 when I was pregnant with our 2nd baby, and apparently it has been a thing since he was 12. We did therapy from marriage counseling to CSAT but only saw both of them just a few times because insurance didn’t cover and it was expensive. Anyway, he made all the promises and everything that he would never do it again and he couldn’t stand how hurt I was. He would even go to the bedroom alone and just bawl his eyes out. Fast forward to now.. 2024. I TRICKED him when we were in an argument and acted like I knew he still did it and he actually admitted it.

So tonight, he was joking around about my period because it has been irregular and he said “you’re getting old baby.” I told him to shut up because you don’t even go into menopause until wayyy later in life, obviously, unless you’re a rare case. So I said “yea you probably like them younger.” He said “yea right.” But the WAY he said it was so unconvincing it wasn’t funny. I even said “yea I bet” and he said it again the same way. So my question is do all PA’s, married or not, prefer the younger sexy girls over what they have in real life? It seems like I have heard no and that they would rather have the real thing and then yes from some people so it’s like idk what to do or believe. I’m just so freaking tired of these thoughts running thru my head.

PLEASE BE BRUTALLY HONEST, IT’S NOT LIKE WE KNOW EACH OTHER!

So I got exposure to porn when I was 10(magazines )and started masturbation at 10, since then I became an addict,i masturbate 2-3 times daily with maximum time 8-9 in a day some day..... So effect it has on me:- 1)i became too weak,and skinny I am 22 years old,5'8 and Just 51kg🙂

2)my studies are destroyed,i can't study I just search for phone,porn even if I have exam tomorrow

3)I fantasies about every women

4)i became too shy no social life no friends no female interaction irl

5. depression, suicidal thoughts, directionless about life

So please avoid it and suggest me ways to overcome

Hi guys I'm 16 now and Ive been trying to battle it for like three years now and I don't have any luck the maximum I went without jerking is like 4 days and I believe it's a serious problem. So please.if there's anyone who can help me please help me recover from this thing. Please

If I'm bored of porn, does that mean I have an addiction? I usually just watch it when I'm bored, usually neglecting stuff I need to do and instead watch it, until I'm relieved. However, I usually feel sad and empty afterward. I'm supposed to feel bliss afterward, so why don't I? Why do I feel like nothing? I've been bored of life recently, these past few months. It might just be the porn, I'm honestly not sure.

I like realistic stuff, so maybe that's it? I mean, there isn't a lot of realistic stuff, so maybe I'm just bored of it. But even the stuff I DO enjoy, I get bored of. Whether it's irl or animated.

Is it a porn addiction?

Sorry if this is against the rules, but I don't think so (?). Not sure, tbh, read them and they didn't say anything abt it!! 😅

Hey everyone, it’s me, WarBreaker!

I hope you all had a great thanksgiving and stayed strong during the month!

Unfortunately, today, I lost to the urges, and ended up watching, you know.

Right now, and initially, I was ashamed, heartbroken, and disappointed. And I will most likely hold those feelings for a while.

But, I will stay strong, as will all of you remain strong. You are all fighting the same battle as me, and there will be potholes, struggles and such. But in the end, we will all make it through this battle.

Regardless of my streak loss, I thank everyone who had supported me, gave advice and helped keep me feeling strong during this. I’ll remake my streak, and go even further than before!

Thank you everyone! Have a great night/day, and I will see you all soon. Stay Strong!💪

• WarBreaker💚

I want to quit, it’s been making me feel horrible and less productive, and honestly has been taking up embarrassing amounts of my time. I’ve tried everything to quit, but maybe this will keep me honest.

I stopped for awhile but after me and my ex broke up I couldn’t stop, even during the relationship it was a problem because I couldn’t come during sex

TW: Please don’t take the caption as a jab, but I would like some insight on a situation. I (26f) am married and my husband (34m) watches porn, looks at scandalous women on instagram, and relentlessly searches for onlyfans leaks of different types of women. Mostly twitch streamers and cosplay girls. My husband doesn’t give me much affection, he doesn’t call me beautiful often and we have sex about once a month. Some months twice but generally once a month and I get zero foreplay and when he’s finished we are done and he goes to smoke. Usually I’ll finish myself when he goes to smoke but these days I just cry. This has been a common theme in our relationship and I was going to leave but then I got pregnant so now I’m stuck with him. Our baby is 10 months and nothing changed when we could have sex again. We’ve had countless talks about the sex problem but over the summer I went through his phone because I was being nosy about his screen time, then I went to far and saw websites and found out how often he watched porn. 3/4 times a week. I was astonished and it really fucked me up. He was even watching on a trip we were on to visit family. I get no sexual advances from him, I rarely even get a spontaneous kiss. I brought it up pretty much right away because I couldn’t stand not knowing why. I didn’t get much of an answer as to why. He is in the navy- 14 years. But yeah the conversation went silent and I was trying to be nice about it. He never brought it up again but I would and not get much out of him. He didn’t want to talk about it. I kept checking his phone and nothing really changed. So I went into our WiFi gateway and blocked like 50 porn sites. Unfortunately it didn’t work because you can just turn off WiFi and access websites. It did slow him down tho. A couple weeks ago I just straight up added a content restriction on his phone. Which is also useless because apple allows you to bypass them but at least it’ll have him think twice. We’ve had conversations about all this and it always seems like we’re on the same page and he wants to do better and wants to have a better sexual relationship but then nothing changes. I’ve tried being more slutty since it seems that’s what he’s into, I’ve tried being silent and letting him lead, nothing. I’ve tried so much and nothings changed. Recently he’s not watching as much porn but he’s searching these women on Instagram and looking for leaked nudes and I just do not fucking understand. I see these women are beautiful and I don’t blame him for looking but why does he look at other women and give me zero attention? I’m bot ugly, I give excellent head, I’m great in bed and I’m fucking funny and chill. There’s nothing wrong with me. I don’t understand why I’m so ignored. Please helppppp.

I just don't get why it's so hard to fuckin quit.

I am an attractive woman that has never had any problem with getting my partners off. I recently was dumped by my partner of 1 year for not being able to satisfy him. We had a wonderful relationship- except there were issues with sex. Why am I in such denial over this? I can’t stop blaming myself for not being “more” in the relationship and it’s making me feel broken. These are the things I saw in the relationship, but can someone smack some sense into me to stop blaming myself or feeling inadequate? He’s a porn addict, right?

1. He once said he “used to” have a problem with porn
2. A while later I asked him if he was still struggling with it and he started crying and asked if he can call me when he wants to watch porn, but he never outright admitted that he has an addiction
3. He has erectile dysfunction, he cannot orgasm. When we had sex, it eventually led to me having to watch him jack off HARD and still he couldn’t orgasm.
4. He is an artist and his art is very sexually natured
5. He was following thirst trap accounts and couldn’t stop “liking” pictures of sexy women on social media, even after I set a boundary with it
6. He asked if he could take a video of us having sex, I declined
7. He was obsessed with taking sexy photos and video of me, which I let him do

7.He kept pressuring me for more intensity in sex, specifically anal 8. He started blaming his erectile dysfunction on me 9. He wanted me to dress really sexy, he even asked if I’d wear stripper heels in public 10. He ultimately broke up with me when I was going through a family crisis and our sex dropped to 1 day a week for a month. The sex also was a little vanilla around that time. I think he needed it to be intense all the time?

I really cared about him and I’m shattered over this breakup. I don’t care if my partners watch porn, but I never realized what an actual addiction can do to people and relationships.

my fingers hurt from masturbating, i feel horrible and i cant stop. what can i do? i have a good life but keep getting back to this shit. if its not video its erotic literacy.

I have been in deep depression, I'm socially isolated and I have never dated in my life. I think my depression is rooted in real things, its not like everything is okay and I'm just depressed. Today a woman told me I'm good looking. I said okay, great. I heard that one before. Doesn't seem to help with my dating life. I must be piece of shit personality then, great.

I don't really know if this should be called depression because I should feel like shit because my life is shit. Every week the same thing, work, then weekend, then jerking off. I know why I watch porn, I'm seeking dopamine because I don't have it.

But seriously I will stop for now, but I'm not sure if my condition gets better because the reality is reality, I was not lucky in life. I'm just trying to survive.

Going strong so far

Hello there you all. I'm 20 years old and I was exposed to porn at a young age. It all started at a young age where it was all vanilla and similar stuff then it gradually escalated where I would PMO everyday to pornography and hentai.

Eventually just recently, I was exposed to the infidelity side in hentai hich is ntr or the cuckold genre. I began exploring it because it had a bigger dopamine hit rather than the normal vanilla stuff. Eventually I found myself consuming this type of content everyday where I would PMO. It also led to the interracial genre and then after almost a year.. I just fully realized how damaging this is. I didn't pursue any more porn stronger than this or any porn at all because despite everything, I know this is wrong. Porn is very wrong. I still remember that when I was younger I thought to myself: "Man you know that this will ruin you in the future since you saw that one story where porn destroys relationships." And boy why the fuck did I let it escalate.

Deep inside my heart, I do not want any of this infidelity shit from pornography or the cuckold genre, interracial, etc. or anything about pornography at all. I know some of you may doubt me but genuinely I crave true love where I would spend time with my loved one. Besides looks or anything I truly value her personality. I don't want to just get a girlfriend because I'll just have sex with her, I'm talking about a lifelong commitment of trust, communication, and loyalty.

So despite my autopilot on pornography due to coping from loneliness or boredom which led me to this dark place, I just want out of this. I do not watch porn anymore as I swore myself to build my character. Character is so important because of what my parents taught me and because of that one time where my cousin raged against her mother claiming that he's always right not the parent.. (They're in good terms)

But man.. I feel guilty so much from all of this that I'm ashamed of confessing to my parents about this. Eventually, I know I have to confess to my future girlfriend about this. I know she'll feel bad about it, I know she might ask for advice..

I exercise often now (gym, cardio, etc.) I also pray more and try to talk more to people because I'm shy and that introverted stuff. I know there has to be change. Whenever the urges come during bed time I just let it pass. When the dirty imaginations come I let them pass instead of fighting or rejecting them. I think that they're just thoughts not reality.. just thoughts not reality. That's just how messed up my brain and I'm literally shivering as I am typing this out of guilt.

I just want a normal life and if I can apologize as many times then I'll do it. I don't want to beat myself up on this anymore, I'm genuinely sorry for letting myself be consumed by lust and pornography. Deep inside my soul I crave a normal romantic love where it's all wholesome, intimate stuff.

I apologize.. for my disgusting foolishness over this past decade. I don't know but It'll take more research and self forgiveness for my actions. Thank if you read fully to the end and I would appreciate some thoughts.

Difficult anxiety, thinking of how bad I am as a person. I am pressing my self to at least be a little sosial with friends. I think this is worth it in the end.

Others that have had same struggles?

now its the hardest so far, my body feels the need to masturbate and its hard bcz im home alone and i dont have anything to do rn. i will try my best to not do it, i have gone 3 days before but now its harder for some reason. i think its because my mind knows i want to quit for real this time

I'm addicted to so many years it's destroyed me totally and now I understand i failed to control me. When someone control themselves and become great I fall apart with un payable consequences I'm trapped.😭😔 .Today I didn't done becauseexam result came i failed probably 10th time.

Life broke Relationships failed Nothing special Below average at everything Suicidal.

Anyone who reads it just don't do it noatter your age just don't do it. Don't involve in these sexual things.please.

Home alone and just fapped and I thought to myself that I could've done something to pass the time. Like study for my chem test, do some situps, watch Netflix or just do something productive besides pleasuring myself and wasted so much time in searching porn. Man, it's tiring and the habit just keeps on repeating itself. I do know that it would be a bother in the future since I'm in college and still hanging into the porn videos back at high school. Could'nt even make myself time for my family sometimes or my studies because of this addiction. It's hard, I know and I always tell to myself that I could've done something or be discipline in my responsibilities as a man to grow up and find ways to over come this. Haven't spoken to anyone about this but this is something I would note on. Sure I sometimes go on without jacking off and no porn for a week but it sometimes goes back. And I feel the regret coming in, I don't even know what to do anymore. Should I delete my old porn or should I just stash it and wait for the best moment to jack it off, damn I don't even know. I mean, is it even worth it to save porn in my devices? The more porn I watch, the more nastly and extreme the content gets. It's a drug, a poison that slowly destroys my mental focus and understanding on women. Making me feel anxious when a week passes without porn, making it my reward. It's difficult and tiring, but I do know that I musn't given up. Maybe what I should do is create time to be happy and just be pleasure when the time is right because sometimes I pleasure myself when I'm not feeling it making me more down and feeling of something like a waste of time. A balance to other responsibilities in my life. it's something for me to solve. Hopefully along the way I can understand on what's best for me and what helps me to keep on moving forward.

Good morning everyone. Just wanted to check in and ask about something.

Yesterday went well overall until I got into bed. Beforehand, I had quality time with my family as well as getting out and about a bit. But after I laid down to try and sleep, I just could not do it. So I put on some YouTube and tried to fight my urges. I nearly gave in, and searched TikTok, which luckily is one of the safest apps for me in terms of content and triggers. I didn’t masturbate to any videos, either, but I was close.

So my question is how do you deal with nighttime urges? It’s too late to get up and stretch or go for a walk. Do you just stand up and stretch a bit?

Thanks for reading and I wish you all the best on your journeys to recovery.

Heres how it goes: I'm in my early 20s and have been musterbating to porn for ten years. Not normal porn, extreme porn. It just kept getting worse. The usual 1-2 times per day. This affected early relationships as I am not able to get erect in sex (have to rely on viagra), and still can't.

I became incel for 3.5 years up until this year, and by definition, involuntarily. I would go on the occasional date, but could not succeed sexually. I would go to sleep at 3am, wake up at 11am, study (college), watch porn, eat junk. A loser.

This year it all changed with guidance from God. I repented and began the journey to becoming better. I started gyming hard, got abs, had a major facial glow up, started getting compliments often, and most importantly, was sleeping with actual girls on a consistent basis (viagra). Sin was switched to another yet much better alternative. I would have the occasional relapse but then lock in again.

Now heres my issue. I'm around 65 days in straight of no porn. Yes I have sex, but do not musterbate or watch porn. I have even began a testosterone journey for months increasing it via multiple natural methods and diet. But, I have not had morning wood for 7 years. My erections are not as hard as normal. I still have to rely on viagra for sex. But why the fuck can't i get morning wood like everyone else? Why isn't it as hard? I'm on literal natural suppliments for erections.

Please, I need advice. This is beyond a flatline, am I permanently broken, or can my situation be healed?

So the first thing I want to say PA can stem from several causes. The major are lack of self esteem, frustration with life, lack of discipline and the biggest for me is loneliness. First step you have accomplished since you have recognized your addiction and feel like you can do something about it. Next thing is to write something you want to achieve don't be too ambitious but something set within a year write atleast a paragraph long how your addiction will stop you achieving this goal, every time you feel like opening porn, read this note this will force you to choose what to give up.

Never negotiate with yourself, too many times our mind will trick us when things are going well that we deserve what ever we want hold firm. If you want a reward go to a restaurant, cinema buy something nice to yourself except porn.

Loneliness is the hardest thing to overcome specially when you are in your bedroom. Within the first month try to spent more time out in public achieving your goal whether it be in the library, in the gym, café or whatever just try to reduce your isolation as much as possible. It is hard to trust ourselves within certain environments l.

The other possible relapse time, is when you are trying to sleep, this has been the hardest part for me, I read my note, think how far I have come, if that doesn't work, I come to this sub and read stories that I want to avoid happening to me, it is a hard fight. You will lose some sleep find something to read about without involving any nudity.

Now Sexual frustration is real, specially in the beginning channel it in doing some exercise activity try tire yourself as much as possible that when you want to go to bed you just want to sleep. If you an addict this will sometimes work other times if its too much get the release but without porn, if you need visual aids you are not too pent up

If all else fails try to think what watching porn will do and try to conclude no good will come from it, it is a short term gratification that tricks your brain that you are OK.

Keep fighting your problems and stay strong

All the best from a 2 month sober addict

hi i’m only 14(f) and my other friend 14(m) have a porn addiction and its really bad…. i used to watch porn and masturbate everyday for 4 years and would even starve myself just to do this, i did get better tho!!! so yippee :3! i don’t watch porn as often and have actually been getting better! he’s only been getting worse day by day and any help would be seriously appreciated… i want to help my friend out but it’s also online (dw i promise u, im not being groomed or anything like that!) so im not too sure how to help and i know only he can help himself but any advice would be great and appreciated! thank you <3

I try ....but is difficult

This morning after 1 day of NoFap ,i quit....its hard for me ...can u help me ? I want to stop watching porn and the image of feet's girl .

ive restricting my access to the internet just using the built in "adult content restrictions" in the iPhone settings and Ive successfully had all p*rn sites and explicit images blocked since like september. today I went on incognito to get access to nyt article so I didn't have to pay and there was full on p*rn in the image results for it.. out of curiosity I google a site and it let me on when it wasn't doing that before. I updated my phone last night so idk if that's why but does anyone know how to fix this and get my sit blockers back working??

Porn addiction has taken such a toll on my life, and today I have decided that I’m done. I’ve been watching it since I was 13. When I was 21 I had the girl of my dreams and watched P in the restroom while she was in my bed.. and it wasn’t just vanilla, it was some nasty stuff I’d never attempt in my life. It’s always been my go to to cure my loneliness and has set unrealistic standards in my life. I’m 23 for reference, I’m wondering if anyone else has been through the same circumstance I’ve been through

Today makes 12 days in with no porn, Iam almost two weeks in I hooping not to relapse Iam just taking it one day at a time!

It’s wild how everytime I get to 14 days I start dreaming that I’m masturbating to extreme porn. everytime I get to this mark specifically. The brain is crazy cause I could even tell at what times going to try to watch porn, what actions are going to lead to me watching, what day I’m going to start feeling like staying away is fatiguing. Honestly at the end of it all I would’ve still been relapsing if I wasn’t talking to this new girl and porn ruins my confidence and sex drive and I refuse porn to be the ender of things so I stay away. At first I was mad I even put myself in this situation but how I feel after sex vs how I feel after masturbation is the difference between sunshine and desire to die so that’s my biggest reminder of why tho there’s many other positive benefits. Hope it gets easier

I (F) first found porn when I was like 9. I didn’t know anything about masturbation so just did what felt natural, which was humping pillows and towels. I didn’t know what an orgasm was so in my head I called it SSS, Simulated Sex Surge. I was heavily addicted to porn for the next 15ish years. Now I don’t need to watch it to finish, I can just imagine scenes, but I can’t finish with a partner, my own hands or sex toys. Only from humping fuckin towels. I think it’s the motion and pressure combined with imagery in my head from porn that does it so my poor partner has no chance in hell unless I figure out some kind of sex act that is similar enough to what I grew up doing. I’m sure to most this sounds so weird but I KNOW I’m not the only one out there. Does anyone have any suggestions? I love having sex with him but hate not ever being satisfied, and it’s not his fault. He doesn’t know I do this by the way. Please any suggestions welcome. Thanks.

Okay so I just found out my boyfriend of 1 year has been watching porn behind my back. we established at the beginning of our relationship that I am extremely uncomfortable with it and that it’s not okay in a relationship and he agreed. and then when I found it on his phone he tried to tell me it was old and from a long time ago, right to my face. and then i clicked on his history and saw the truth and then he came clean. i freaked out and was really mad and i was going to leave him. i basically did. but i decided to stay (for the time being) the information i have gathered on it is that it started in 6th grade and he used to do just about every day until he started having sex with his ex girlfriend and then it slowed but did not stop (he did it all throughout their 3 year relationship) and then he stop when he met me and then it started back up about halfway through our relationship. he is disgusted with himself and wants to change and is assuring me that he can. he’s doing it through our church. but i can not stop thinking about it. we have a very active sex life, i live with him. i just don’t understand why this happened and what it means. also backstory he has lied to me about many other things before, it is a problem. he says he won’t lie to me anymore but im unsure. he seems very committed to changing and is being reassuring and patient and i just dont know what to do. do i stay and try to help him through this? do i leave? do we take a break for a little while? are there any tips people have for dealing with this kind of thing?