Porn is literally everywhere online, can’t even be kept to its own dirty corner.

The DarkArt subreddit has had a problem with people just posting fucked up porn art, lots of which are often very rapey. It’s been a topic of controversy whether it should be allowed or not. Personally, I don’t think it should since nearly all of it is obviously not meant to be some kind of tasteful nudity but OPs violent sexual fantasies.

Today someone posted yet again, porn art of a naked woman just spreading her legs but this time they added in some ugly fat creatures and labeled them as “art critics who can’t handle nudity.”

They quite literally did the “I drew me as the cool chad one and you as the fat ugly sobbing soyjak, therefore my argument is right!”

Everybody in the comments who criticized the art was told they’re a “puritan” and were the ugly caricatures. It definitely came off as body shaming as the woman in the art was drawn having “perfect” proportions, large breasts and everything pornsick dudes demand women have, while the 2 critics (one male and one female) were drawn as short fat creatures with malformed and misshapen genitalia and covered in wrinkles, basically saying that because of these traits the people are bad and that they’re “jealous” of the naked woman portrayed.

There was nothing even actually “dark” about the art other than giving the naked woman demon horns. It pisses me off how so many people just draw porn and post it in non porn places and then cry and get mad when someone doesn’t want blatant unbelievably sexualized art posted constantly. One post was removed from there because it was just blatant rape porn. Before it got removed I looked through the OPs profile and it was just ALL porn of naked women being assaulted or in fucked up scenarios.

I’m so fucking sick of these fuckers posting porn EVERYWHERE and getting mad at people who don’t want to see it.

I hear about my groupchat defending porn a lot and I try make them understand politely like "women get exploited by this industry", and things like that but they always have counter arguments which are nonsensical but I can't really reply to them properly something like " They do get a lot of money for it though" I reply with something like "money doesn't justify abuse".

They also have something like "they know what they are getting into" I reply with "no they don't, many young actresses don't"

They also say something like "there are many other jobs"

I basically need some efficient and fast kits against porn to have in my mind to use against my male friends so please suggest some strong points they cannot argue against...

Also they recently were joking about viewing the nudes of a girl asking links and stuff, I don't know if they were being genuine, they also said it had to do something regarding telegram? (Confirm to me whether it was serious?)

Ngl I do make some stupid jokes too which I do not realise and end up making virtue claims, but there is a level I must not cross, how can I keep this thing in my mind?

(Me and my friends group are around the age of 19)

Former adult film actor Randy Spears (one of the most famous, and successful male p*rnstars in the industry) did an interview in 2015, where he talked about his career. And a couple of things he said really stood out to me:

1. He developed a severe drug problem. And it kept him in a vicious cycle during his time in the industry. In his words: “I had to go to work, to do the prn, so that I could buy the drugs, to bury the pain of doing the prn. So I’d go to work, and do the p*rn, so I could buy the drugs, to bury the pain. And around and around it went.”

2. He mentioned how he came to view women as nothing more than sxual objects, and that prn destroyed his ability to feel love, and have real relationships.

As sad as it made me, it was also a huge eye opener.

Here’s the interview for those that are curious:

https://youtu.be/Hx-p9Wr6xg0?si=86Q1YMkeNjsN7RDM

I know trump opened the flood gates to racist and sexist remarks. However, why is it that the media Lazer focuses on trumps comments about the size of mens' penises but it's crickets when he makes a comment like "I hear she puts out" and when hulk hogan compares her to a "bad" porn prostitute and oral sex and threatens to "body slam" her? And by the way, why hasn't hulk hogan been charged with threatening bodily harm to the vice president?

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I feel so fucking stupid, being vulnerable.

I was talking to a friend of mine about my feelings on pornography and how I think it's unethical. We are both women. I said that it's wrong because it commodifies people. She asked me what's the difference between porn videos and other media like TV shows, movies. Because you also watch it for entertainment or to feel particular feelings. I wasn't sure how to respond and what argument to make to illustrate the difference between the two. What would you say? What is the difference?

I saw a post from a jewelry subreddit in which the OP had straight-up fetish porn engraved upon the inside of their ring. They defended this as some kind of homage to Victorian art hiding porn in unforeseen places or something like that, and attempted to portray it as some kind of brilliant artistic decision. Of course the comments absolutely ate it up, and called it a beautiful piece of art. Meanwhile, the sole comment criticizing the decision to pornify their ring was heavily downvoted, with the OP resorting to personal attacks on them. Because how dare they not appreciate such high art, right?

People can't help themselves and need to put porn in everything, and if anyone dares to question or criticize it, they just get backlash and insults.

Trigger warning: graphic words!

Deepthroating👏souldN'T 👏 be👏 normalized👏 🚫 Deepthriating 👏 is👏 torture👏⚠️

It blocks the airways, which momentarily suffocates you, it makes you throw up and your jaw hurt bc it almost gets dislocated. All of that all at once. I mean WTF why is this so normalized??? Waaake uuuuup!!! ❗ Let's be real.

It's sickening that this is normalized to the point where it gets part of the average s3x life of the average couple. TF. D3epthroating could be used as torture, so it can be torturous even if done ""voluntarily"". I'm disgusted by this world...

Edit: Thank you profoundly to everyone contributing with comments to speaking the truth about the violence of d3epthroating.

Traci Lords (who, if nobody here knows, filmed and shot adult films when she was a minor, and THANKFULLY, none of her films are online) once famously said:

“You know, I can tell you from my personal experience that I’ve never met a happy p*rnstar.”

I have friends who have worked/currently work in the sex industry. At worst, some of them absolutely hate their job(s), but have nothing else to fall back on, or they’re so deep into it, that they can’t get out even if they wanted to. At BEST, some of them see it as a means to an end, and have regular jobs/relatively normal lives outside of it. I’ve seen a very slim group who genuinely enjoy it. At least, none that will admit it out loud.

I try my hardest not to judge, or shame people for their life choices, but I personally have a hard time believing that well-adjusted people would get into the sex industry willingly. But I could be totally wrong.

Thoughts?

How do you feel about your partner having a friend from the opposite gender? First what is your general view? But more importantly: Has your view changed because of the circumstances? Like are you afraid of how your partner might look at his friend? Or are you nervous about how you are the nagging girlfriend compared to the relaxed girl who is easy to hang with and practically 'one of the boys'.

If this is not meant for this sub, then let me know so I can post elsewhere.

Anyways, I wanted to bring to light the discussion of minor girls dressing a certain way. I don’t know if anyone in this group was on TikTok during late 2019, but there was this 15yo girl who dressed in an alternative clothing style and became an Internet micro celeb because of it. While some of her outfits were fine, a lot of them were definitely meant to be more provocative and it did not help that she would use a lot of audios/sounds that were all raunchy in some type of way. I was her age when she got big, so naturally I defended her against the hordes of people who would comment things like, “You’re 15, why are you dressing like this and posting it publicly?” “You’re asking for the wrong type of attention by dressing this way!” etc. She would constantly respond that it’s not her fault that people view her that way (which it completely isn’t, considering the fact she was a child!) but I still heavily disagree with people (and the TikTok algorithm) pushing lewd content of a minor, which is essentially the validation for her to continue acting and posting in such a manner. I won’t say the (now) woman’s username for her sake since it has been so long, but IFYKYK.

That brings me to the next part of this post. There’s this girl on Instagram that, no matter what I do, always gets pushed out to me. She’s also a minor, and from the looks of it, has gained a following for not only her figure, but also for her alternative style of dressing and her dance videos. The comments on her posts are a mixed bag, with some people being like “Yas girl, you go, queen! People are gonna sexualize you no matter what, bodies are not inherently sexual!” and on the flip side, users commenting stuff like “You’re using your body for views” “You know what gets you views” etc. So far, pretty similar story to the one I just told you about. I think it is completely unfair to blame a child for other people sexualizing them, but at the same time, protections should be put in place so that your CHILD daughter is not attracting the wrong kind of audience. Obviously, in a perfect world, girls would be allowed to dress however they want without any repercussions, but we do not live in a perfect world. Such content creation is what garners and attracts the wrong crowd, and the parents should be ashamed that they are not keeping close watch of their daughter’s account and what she is putting out there. Instagram needs to be better and honestly not let anyone under the age of 18 have an account. The people that defend kids dressing in a provocative fashion are either actual pedophiles or legitimate teenagers, and you can typically tell which is which after exchanging a few comments with them. It makes me feel awful for these girls because how long will these accounts drag on before they realize the damage has long been done? Why is it so normalized to dress in a revealing way as a child, so much so that you have other children defending you for it? Why is it so normalized to have lewd content of minors be pushed out???

“Bodies are not inherently sexual” applies to all women and girls. I believe that statement can coexist with the statement “I think it is wrong for children to dress like adults and have content of such be posted on a public platform.” Like I said, in a perfect world, children shouldn’t feel the need to hide their bodies from adults because they would naturally just be left alone, but we do not live in a perfect world and that is why we need protections in place for our girls to lessen the blow of creeps pursuing them, especially on a place like the Internet where everything is at the touch of your fingertips. Parents need to do better at controlling their kids’ accounts, and Instagram needs to do a better job at policing the type of content it allows on the platform.

Edit: Wording

Wish I could link the post but it’s not Monday. In the self sub a woman was asking for advice to get her husband into her degradation kink. Although I am young and still trying to understand “kinks” / ideology behind them and understand them more so that I can avoid them, degradation has been one of the worst ones for me as it dehumanizes the women in every way possible. It goes beyond misogyny. What’s worse is a woman WANTING her husband who is essentially “vanilla” to degrade her with violent words and get off on that. Many men in the comments recommended her to watch porn with her husband with degradation and she agreed happily. I’m just not understanding this mindset at all. I deal with mental health issues and have severe low self esteem but I can’t even imagine putting myself in that situation much less wanting my non-porn addict partner to convert into that. I feel like enough men enjoy that and it makes me so uncomfortable and upset when a woman is the one advocating for it. She also got offended that people were suggesting she go to therapy or that something was wrong with her too which I can understand. But it’s so heartbreaking and scary for me to see women who are older than me fall for this horrible shit and seemingly enjoy it.

We’ve all seen the producers comments, coercing women into acts that are degrading and physically harmful for the sake of their male audience while offering the women involved poverty wages to do it. No women gets into porn because they’re in a good space mentally, and from what I’ve read it seems that many women In this industry are heavily abusing drugs and/or alcohol to get through it.

With that being said, would that not revoke their consent? At what point will the porn industry take responsibility for this?

The law in most North American countries is that consent stops when the person giving it is inebriated, so with that in mind, where does it stop with porn? I would venture to guess in my wildest nightmares that at least 80% of porn is filmed while the woman is no longer legally capable of consenting. It’s incredibly rare to hear a women speaking openly about doing porn because they made the choice for themselves outside of potential poverty or past sexual abuse/ addiction etc, so why is this ok? I feel like I’m going crazy trying to find the line here.

So most of the people who regret porn that we hear about are people who did Studio porn, while their experiences are valuable many pro porn people argue that with onlyfans the power dynamic of a studio isn't there and that onlyfans allows the sex worker to be in control. By virtue of being newer we don't have many people who did onlyfans and regretted it.

So if you are one of these people and or you know someone like this I would love for you to speak your truth

I went on Facebook and in the comments someone had linked to an incest abuse video. The thumbnail for the link showed up and it was disgusting. I saw a meme of a pumpkin with a thong on it and painted fingernails on it. Men in the comments were talking about how they wanted to basically have sex with the pumpkin because it looked like a butthole. It's just so depressing

My story is just the same as everyone else’s. My partner has been addicted to porn for a while, but hid it. I tried helping him stop and he didn’t. I ended up pregnant by him. We have two kids now. Now that I’ve found this subreddit and fought enough times over it I know he won’t change. Porn makes me so uncomfortable. I hate my body because of him and his addiction. I wish I could hate him too. We’ve been together almost 8 years tho. I love him in the most unexplainable way. He’s admitted to me that porn makes him look at women in public and wonder what they look like naked. One time in an argument when I asked why my nudes weren’t enough for him he said “you wouldn’t want to eat the same meal every day, would you?” . I want to leave. I want to find a man that appreciates me and is respectful. How am I supposed to do that when I love this man so much? When he’s put me in a position where I almost can’t leave because of finances and the children?