sexting is morally better than watching pornography because you can make sure that it is consensual. watching random pornography can lead you to easily watching stuff that involves people who never consented to whatever is happening to them and they really are complete strangers, but even in sexting there is a chance that you can simultaneously develop an emotional connection with the person on the other end, making it morally better.

What have I become useless piece of shit. This addiction fucked me up I'm trying and failed its seems like it has taken of me and controlling me to act out. The world has gone to shit hole sexualizing everything nudes photo everywhere like come on do better. Creeps everywhere what is life anymore fuck you porn. This shit never leaves me like it want me and need me. I have said too much.

Just finished up my binge session, and feel awful. I've spent hours watching porn and feel ashamed of it. I can't believe how deep this addiction has become, and this time, I'll put an end to it once and for all. From now on, I will go 7 days without MO and will quit porn for good.

Every day it’s the same thing. I give in, I regret afterwards and promise to change, and then it starts again. Every single day for 5 months I’ve relapsed, which I counted because I feel awful after every time. It’s like I’m two different people, and they switch whenever I feel an urge. I don’t know what to do.

I don’t even see the point. I feel like slamming my head into a desk.

Man, I gotta be honest, I got this smoking habit 2 years ago. If I compared it with porn watching habit (at least 5 years of non stop porn watching every day), the smoking habit turned out to be quite a short time. Nowadays, you can get help from doctors to beat the smoking habit (that was what I did to beat smoking), but porn? No, you normally don't get any practical advice or assistance from doctor and no medicine for helping you beating this habit, at least for now there ain't any medicine labeled as anti-porn medicine that help men stop watching porn. That's the reason why it's so difficult to beat porn watching habit.

Another reason is that most men treat porn as "a normal way to relax, a quickie to get release". But man, please think about how you feel after porn watching or after releasing, how you feel? Most of the time, you may encounter a fleeting moment of joyfulness, but what then? The empty, the powerless, and the regret. That's how porn DO to us, mentally and physically, if we keep watching it non-stop. It would only lead to a downfall that eventually you would need so much time to get purified.

The last reason why it's so difficult to quit porn is that the wide spreading of arousal content, and it's like continuous "BOOMING" phenomenon.

Let's take it this way, let's say if there was a male ancestor who encountered 30 different females in his life and fell in love with one female and he's satisfied. Then, how many female encounters do you think we modern men can get, under the influence of the arousal content environment such as non-stop clicking on porn sites? It's like hundreds to thousands of female encounters, and we can't even got satisfied! Why? Because we always keep clicking "next page" while we are watching porn on porn sites, that's how messed up we are, how can it be normal if we got so many female encounters on the porn sites? How can our heart be satisfied in real life if we keep watching porn every single day.

Our brain acted like craving every single of them on the porn site (if you got this porn watching binge as me before, you would know what I meant), if we allowed ourselves to be indulge in this terrible habit. Man, how messed up we would be after 10 years if we don't make up our mind to quit it as soon as possible right now? How would our future selves think about us?

I got into this terrible porn watching habit in the beginning of high school, it bothered me for years like shackles that I can't break off. It was not until the year of 2022, I start treated this issue seriously. I admitted that 've stumbled many times since 2022, but right now, I'm currently on a 11 month pure streak. Life is so much brighter and better and I can finally walk confidentally and freely under the clear sky knowing that there's no guilty feeling in my heart.

I sincerely encourage every man, no matter you married or not, DO QUIT this habit together, do it right now, don't let yourself regret in the future.

I came home from the bar and feeling stressed about a commitment I have tomorrow. I’m all alone and I’m thinking about it. It feels like it’s pulling me in. I’m gonna do my best not to watch it.

I'm tired. I'm tired of all this. The fight, the battles, resisting for what? To lose later? What's the point?

Coming off a really bad relapse I was literally jerking off for 2 hours straight and it got to a point where I needed to watch and think things against my own beliefs as a man to get off. It’s horrible now I’m stuck with thinking is this really me….I hate porn and what it has been doing to me I’m trying to quit so bad.

For awhile I had been lurking in this subreddit and I have seen many people that have been tormented by their addictions. I honestly cannot break mine. I'm 19, and I've been addicted to hentai since I was at least 14. It was something I gravitated towards because I was completely unsupervised on the internet and naturally found myself in many strange rabbit holes until I found regular porn and then eventually hentai. When I started beating it for the first time to it and had my first orgasm, that shit was life altering. Ever since, my Twitter/X account has followed hundreds of hentai artists and I interact with that content daily.

This has become routine for me. Every day when I open Twitter/X I immediately see hentai mixed in with my regular content. Admittedly, I view this content in public and at work when I'm at break. Either I simply view it passively due to it intermingling with normal content, or I actively engage with the artists to compliment their work. Since this has become a cycle, I find it impossible to break since it's become normalized. I hate to lose those accounts and stop interacting with them because it's a huge change. I'll often engage with regular porn as well.

Honestly, I haven't searched the subreddit for similar cases of people addicted to hentai. I'm not sure whether the addiction is the same or stronger compared to normal porn. Over the years, I've seen awful, degenerate content, although not for sexual gratification. I've seen many doujins of guro simply out of morbid curiosity to test my tolerance for that content. That's besides the main topic, however, since I don't actually get off to it.

I've also indulged in AI and bought tokens for OpenAI's GPT models to fuel SillyTavern bots. This is to fulfill other fantasies and I cannot contain the urges to buy more when I get horny again. Due to all of these addictions, the kinks I've developed, and the casual viewing of content despite my surroundings,

I am burdened by massive self-hatred and shame that has constantly made me consider suicide. I've been speaking with a therapist, but he simply says, "To not do it." As if that helps. There's simply too much for me to talk about. I'm so sick of myself, who I am, and this addiction. Even if I wish to quit, I can't make myself. I've been surrounded by it and desensitized so much I struggle to get hard anymore. It's fucked up. Even when I'm walking in public, minding my own business, I feel an overbearing sense of dread and self-hatred that crawls on me like bugs. It's revolting just how far I've fallen. I don't even know if I could explain all the shit I look at. I'd be willing to explain more in the comments if anyone sees this.

I had a few slip-ups on the first days but still managed to not go further. But I didn't Control myself todas and had a bad lapse while Bring bedridden, I watched porn for almost three hours, jerked off and had an orgasm.

I searched P, but haven't MOed. I feel devastated and beaten. I allowed myself to slip and rot my brain with this devilish iconography.

Porn is escapism, we are not constantly horny. With proper transmutation techniques, you can easily get your life in order and forget about porn, however, it lurks in your hardest periods of struggle, because brain wants an 'escape', it wants 'relief' from stress. But PMO is not the answer and it will only make you miserable. When you overcome the urge, that's where the true relief begins.

Fall down seven times, get up eight. I've felt great on this streak, time for new wins and eliminating porn once and for all.

Hello everyone,

I have been attending Sex Addicts Anonymous for a while now and I'm looking to finally grab this by it's neck and block pornography on all my devices. Just something to break the compulsions and, at the very least, put a hurdle between me and acting out. I was recommended an app called Covenant Eyes by a member of my group.

https://www.covenanteyes.com/

I was wondering if anyone had any experience with it? If it's not a good choice, what do you suggest as an alternative?

Ive been pornfree for 4 months now with 2 slip ups and a few cases where i stumble across shit but dont stay on for more than a minute.

But since being off porn i feel no different and if anything less horney (making bedroom with my gf harder) and also just less ashamed of myslef which does make life more positive.

I just dont get why nothing is changing???

Hi. I'm 22M and a newbie on pornfree. I first opened my eyes on masturbation this year, and after a while I found myself addicted to hardcore ones and masturbate on them. I guess I've been addicted to them daily for 2 months in total, and now I'm going through the cold-turkey for 19 days. I regret what I did since I've experienced a panic attack, it was like a thunderstroke hit through me and my whole life. I feel like I finally got my reason back. Now I go out and meet my friends, exercise, and try to read books but none of them give pleasure to me, and make my anxiety even worse. It frustrates me, and makes me feel like this has ruined my whole life. But even so, I still feel the unbreakable urge sometimes, which I restrain super-hard, is always converted into a serious anxiety and even gives me panic. Will my symptoms be cured as the time goes on? Please give me advices.

I discovered it the summer of highschool. It was like the greatest thing to ever exist that feeling of watching it was incredible. Now I do it almost everyday, always feeling drained, social anxiety, nervousness, scared to talk to girls the list goes on. I really dug myself into a hole. Now I’m 21, a virgin, never had a real girlfriend. In our society these are things your told to be ashamed of.

I don’t want to stare at the screens and watch women but damn it’s hard out here. I use it as a way to feel some time of connection to a woman. It’s not right but my mind tells me that they’re not going to leave me or not want me. It’s their job to please me and they’ll always be there when I open up my laptop.

I’m two days into not looking at porn or women online and I don’t have urges for porn but looking at women in real life just makes me sad because I feel like it’s just not meant for me. You have to be strong, confident and check all the boxes just to get a conversation and I don’t have any of that. I just feel like it would be so hard to maintain any type of ——ship with a girl.

I always tell myself I gain absolutely no benefit or gain from watching that but I still do it because I’m lonely, everyone else around me has somebody or has had somebody.

I viewed porn today in a small setback, but noticed something interesting.

The porn was way more enticing than it was at the start of my journey! This sounds bad, and may be bad news for resisting the temptation, however it really means that my brain is getting less desensitized to sexual material!

It also showed me that the further my sobriety goes the more dangerous peeking will become.

Just wanted to share how my slight relapsemade me even more hopeful for the future!

So I've noticed that I start to think of day when I am free as. I can watch and not be bothered and I fell like I am allway doing this and this has lead to many of my relapses so how do I stop planing ahead is what I'm going. To call it to watch because I feel like I'm sabataging myself when I do this

I have a beautiful girlfriend which I am so in love with, we've been together for 7 months and I feel like she's the love of my life. We have an amazing sex life and everything, but for some reason 4 times during this relationship I couldn't stop myself from jerking off. She was very clear about how much this hurt her and this is the only thing we've ever seriously been mad about, and I have absolutely no fucking idea at all why I do it.

First of all, before we met I've never been addicted to porn or anything. I might have jerked off once a week or so and I never felt uncomfortable with the amount I jerk off. Second of all, the way I jerk off now is really fucking weird: all 4 times I jerked off during this relationship I exclusively stuck fingers up my ass which is something I've never done ever, I come in like 3 seconds and feel absolutely literally nothing, and then immediately afterwards I feel like the worst fucking person in the world, and sometimes cry a ton. I usually don't look at porn, but I like fantasize about futanari and stuff like that. I was into that before I met my girlfriend and she does peg me but definitely not this much and I have no idea what's going on. I know what I'm doing is horrible as I'm doing it and I feel so bad and I know it hurts my girlfriend which I love so much, and so the only option I thought about is that maybe I'm such a deeply closeted homosexual that I can't even admit it to myself. I feel pretty comfortable about my sexuality and I think I'd be comfortable with myself if I was to come out, so what the hell is going on? What do I do? This happens very rarely only once in a few months, usually a day after I meet her so it's not like I'm missing her unusually much, I really can't think of any cause at all

F28 dealing with a feeling of moral failure after relapsing due to chronic feeling of emptiness due to my relationship not being in the best place. Talked to my bf about it and seemed even way too understanding. Episode happened this morning, cried for 3 hours straight after that, told my bf as soon as he came back home. Any advice as to how to deal with this? The disappointment I feel in myself is out of this world and although I am feeling a bit better I can't entirely shake off this feeling. However the good news is that now I find porn just plain boring. It's really nothing special. I get far more aroused thinking about my bf or even better being intimate with him.

I know it’s been asked a million times on this sub, but I’m feeling too low to dig through this sub for the answer. Need porn blocker recommendations for phone and laptop. Preferably no easy way to bypass, as I think I will be unable to stop myself. Really need to break the cycle of relapse. Thanks in advance

I'm trying to stop/reduce the frequency of when I masturbate, I typically do it at least once a day to fetish art unless something gets in the way of me masturbating and that's it, but it's not like I'm addicted to the fetish and overall nsfw content I consume (mainly art) and it's more like I'm addicted to masturbation cuz of the pleasure and satisfaction it brings, like a drug. Is this a normal thing to feel?

So I have been watching porn since a very young age, I was molested as a child maybe that exacerbated me coping with it but I can’t say for sure but I know this for real when ever I was bullied in school of at home I tried to numb the pain through porn, slowly from surface level porn I have started to consume extreme stuff at first I was shocked at myself but after a period of time I totally disassociated myself from the moral issues of watching such extreme stuff.

I never had a girlfriend but that not to say I am afraid of girls or meek I can talk to them I am polite and good friends with them, I not the one who sees irl women as objects but rather I am very normal I would say.

I don’t know if I have it or not but I think I have porn induced Ed and I tried quitting porn and msturbation before but couldn’t successfully do it, I feel like people I confessed to don’t understand the level of problem I have with porn, so I am hear for any constructive criticisms and a online accountability partner who understands my problems.

Thank you for reading.

I've been thinking about this for a bit but finally got clarity on my thoughts thanks to a brother who asked abour re-wiring our brains.

So thank you dude!

Here's the deal, you're born with 0 porn in your head Thank God!!

You learn about it and gain the skill to watching it.

Yes is a skill, it's a low barrier skill so it doesn't take much to master it. haha.

But you know how to get porn, you know where to get porn and you are HIGHLY skilled at getting it.

If you went after getting a job like you do porn, you'd be making 6 figures. /s

You then had knowledge of porn and what it can do in your head.

At this point you're trying to stop watching porn but the wiring is fully installed so it's damn near impossible (or so we think).

To get free of it, you need to re-write your brain to not turn to it or depend on it.

This is done by pretty much by reverse training of how you got here.

You're bored or stressed and you turn to porn, then masturbate & orgasm. Then feel like shit and beat yourself up.

You have to undo that wiring by being bored or stressed and NOT turning to porn and doing the same thing.

You have to have urges and not look at porn to re-wire your brain.

This is really hard because we really believe that we want to watch it.

One way to make this way easier is to tackle stress and boredom independently so that you're not turning to porn as much.

You'll still get triggered and have urges but like 80% of your watching would be reduced if you learned how to be bored and stressed better.

So your brain is wired and you have to re-train it to re-wire it off porn.

That is what happens no matter how you get free.

Resisting all the urges thru brute force, going to 12 step meetings, doing therapy, doing coaching, a combo of everything or somethings.

No matter the methed the brain starts to understand that stress, anxiety and boredom are not reasons to go watch porn (like they are now).

It starts to depend on it less.

For you, you don't have to worry about that wiring as much because its just going to happen.

Your job is to just make it so that the re-wiring CAN happen.

and you do that by learning a new skill called, Not watching porn.

No matter the method by which you obtain this skill, the results should be the same. So find the method or create the method that works for you and master it then you'll be both highly skilled and re-wired.

Plus you'll have a shit-ton of confidence for doing such a badass thing.

• You can make this even better by intentionally focusing on the values that reflect your decision to be a man who doesn't watch porn.
• This will further enable the re-wiring because you're telling your brain who you want to be.
• By focusing on this as much as you can, you're telling your brain, this is important, remember this and it will.
• If you can take all the emotion and drama out of your story, you'll go further faster.
• By that I mean, let go of the guilt and shame, let go of the regrets, let go of your story that you've been addicted for X years and can't get free.
• Forget about your days free and focus on how many urges you let pass by today.
• That's the real win, that's where your counters should be, that's celebrating the re-wiring in real time!

Anyway, lots of thoughts today, have an AMAZING porn free Day!

If anyone is stuck and needs some help, throw it in a comment and I'll see if I can help get you unstuck haha. Let me know what's blocking you.

I've been struggling with porn addiction for years, but I've finally reached 30 days porn-free. It hasn't been easy—there have been countless urges and temptations, but the clarity and self-awareness I'm experiencing now are incredible. I decided to tackle this head-on when I realized how much of my energy and focus this habit was draining. Instead of beating myself up, I started tracking my progress and setting small, achievable goals.

One thing that really helped was redirecting my energy into activities that I used to love but had neglected. Picking up my guitar again and losing myself in music transitioned my mind away from harmful habits. I've also started journaling daily, writing down the thoughts and feelings I experience during this journey, which has proven therapeutic.

To anyone still in the grip of porn addiction, I urge you to set that first target and reach out to someone you trust. It's a daunting step, but having a support system is invaluable. The road to recovery is full of ups and downs, but I can finally see a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel. Stay strong, folks.

fifth day no porn / no fap. i was wondering if it was normal that today i didn't get hard even once... i read about other people that around the fifth day the same thing happened? did it happen to you too?

anyway it's my fifth day and i'm satisfied... i'll go straight like a train!!

(italy - 07:17 p.m.)

Im feeling defeated and drained today. Its my first relapse since July 20th. Yea i have been doing good but i cant help but feel like a failure and like giving up. Last time i wrote in here, i received encouragement. Someone so lovingly said not to focus on the failure. Focus on the Success. This relapse doesnt mean i lost. Today Porn won. But Its been 1-121 in the last 122 days. So im trying to move forward and forgive myself. Get back on the saddle and keep moving forward. I just felt the need to type out my thoughts. any postive vibes would be appreciated!

I've been struggling with porn addiction for a while now, and I've come to understand the negative effects it has on my brain and relationships. I've read about the rewiring of my brain's reward system, the impact on my self-esteem, and the potential for desensitization to real-life intimacy. I've even tried to quit a few times, but it's tough.

I'm looking for some perspectives from the community on why quitting porn is important. I know it's not just about the "what" (i.e., the negative effects), but also the "why" (i.e., the underlying motivations and benefits of quitting).

I'm looking for honest, relatable, and supportive responses. If you've struggled with porn addiction or know someone who has, I'd love to hear your story and any advice you might have.

I (38M) thought I had a healthy relationship with porn. I’ve probably watched porn every single day for the past 20 years, well, up until a week ago.

I keep very busy at work, so my porn was limited to two events for the past few years: 1. right before taking a shower 2. before going to sleep (if I didn’t have sex with my wife)

I work from home, and occasionally, if I was very stressed or horny, I’d go to my bathroom, and jerk off to porn in breaks from work.

I masturbated on an average twice a day. My before bed session was usually prone-masturbation. I got really good at doing it with my wife sleeping next to me. I think she knows, but she’s very accommodating. My sessions were always between 5 minutes to about an hour.

What made me want to try quitting:

[trigger warning: porn categories]

Apart from regular porn communities, I have enjoyed browsing captions, cheating, free use, cuck communities. They represent a fantasy, and I know that it is always going to be a fantasy.

Something happened about a month ago, and I ended up in communities on reddit that displayed humiliation and objectification of women.

[end of trigger]

For the first time in my life, after every session, I felt a tinge of guilt, and “hey, I’m not OK with this stuff - why am I watching this?”

As I thought about this more, I realized that some other ongoing issues could also be attributed to my porn habits:

1. Not being satisfied with my sex life - My wife and I have sex enough - not too frequently - but nothing wild. I found myself victimizing myself for not getting to do things my wife was not interested in.

2. Worry about my urine flow - I have pretty low urine flow, and it might be due to my prone masturbation habits.

In the past few years, when I’ve tried to masturbate without porn, I’ve usually never been able to.

I decided to quit porn (but not masturbating) last week.

I have not been able to successfully masturbate since then, and I’m ok with it. I have never admitted to my porn habit, so my wife is also not aware of the decision to quit.

I hope she notices the harder hard-ons. I also got morning wood after a long time (years) yesterday.

If I am not able to have sex (due to schedule or unavailability of my partner), and I’m not able to masturbate without porn, I might be at the risk of relapsing. However if these two things don’t happen, I think I might be able to do it.

Time will tell. Thanks for reading