For those of you who battle with lust and temptation,porn and escorts.HOW THE HELL DO YOU DEFEAT THIS SHIT?I can go 2 weeks to 2 months while retaining but it’s hard to not look at beautiful women on social media.It builds so much to the point where I seek escorts online for hours until I find one I want and just give her my semen.I hate this shit so much I can’t even think to stop my myself when I’m horny.Its like I’ve gotten weaker overtime and I feel like I have to orgasm when my mind is made up.

This day 80 of trying to get rid of porn and I’ve had 22 lapses. Does anyone else struggle with knowing that you really do want it. Like I can’t help but think about how much I enjoy it which in turn makes me feel even worse about it. I’m trying to remember that I want the feeling of freedom way more than I want the feeling of porn but it’s been so long since I’ve been free of it - I’m beginning to forget what’s on the other side :(

I am 14. Started watching about 3 years ago. I seriously need help. It is fine in day but at night is when the urge gets strong. I take stress reduction pills to avoid strong urges. Porn distances me from god. I hate it. I tried so much to stop. I watched religious videos, motivational videos and everything. I just couldn’t stop 😢. I need advice please. I am scared. I keep thinking “what if I die while watching porn. What answer will I give to god?” I just want to live a normal clean life 😢😢😓. I need tips and advice please. If someone cares to help me and motivate me, I will be very thankful and pray for you. Help 🙂

It's defiantly not easy, when I get to work I'm fine but as soon as I wake up I'm looking for that dopamine hit the corn gives me.

Didn't sleep well / unmotivated to get up in the mornings but I'm sure it will pass, hopefully sooner then later.

It’s really hard to stop but not impossible, trying to go for a month without it

On April 13, 2024 I made an emotionally strong commitment to quit for the first time in decades of feeding an addiction that I did not understand. This addiction has had me secretly indulging in porn on an almost daily basis since I was about 12 or 13 years old.

On my "tipping point" day in April, I deleted a collection of meticulously curated and well consumed content, which has potentially taken thousands of hours of my life. I wiped backup drives and thought I had fully covered my tracks in keeping myself away from offline content.

I managed to get to 3 weeks clean. A few days later, I witnessed myself take a slide down a very slippery slope as simple triggers got the better of me and I went deep back into old habits.

I considered myself "lucky" when I was desperately rummaging through a stack of hard drives and "scored" when I connected a backup drive from earlier in the year that I had marked as faulty. With great "relief" I was able to run software to recover a few hundred GBs of some of my absolute favorite pieces of content.

I then spent my time setting up my stash, filing everything I could recover and then spent almost 2 weeks downloading, hunting for specific content I once had, looking for "new stuff I missed while I was away", encoding, tagging, etc for my "prized" offline collection.

I have been drooling and edging over this stuff in a major way and "feeling good about it"... I created accounts to some old favorites including OF and came close to throwing money at those girls too.

I am observing myself doing all this stuff, and I know I am not doing myself any good at all. I feel tight in my gut, my insides hurt, my heart has been aching, my energy feels captured/depleted as again, all my thoughts are about this and no longer my own.

When I close my eyes, this is all I see. When I wake up (after minimal sleep) and get ready to go to work, I am sneaking in a quick edge. When I duck off to check my emails or focus on WFH, I am checking in on my collection. When I am "working late", once everyone in the house is sleeping, I am actually "gooning out" to hours and hours of indulging in my soul-destroying, but extremely delicious and painfully irresistible, dopamine-producing drug of choice. The urges feel insatiable and my doped-up brain swims in ecstasy while I'm deep in the hole.

I need to get sober again.

All the content I had recovered and all the new stuff I had downloaded has now been "securely erased" -- the secure erase process took a few hours and this was a step I skipped first time around, probably as part of my brain's defense systems in that I subconsciously knew I could recover some stuff.

I will not lie to myself about this.

Deleting this stuff (again) was extremely challenging to do and took a few attempts across a number of days. Each attempt drew me back in to indulge and even just thinking about it almost has me aching with regret...

But, here I am, starting again today.

By the grace of God I will come through this.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

The courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.

Hey guys it’s Reno mike if you live on n Reno you probably know me or know of me I’m a really big gambler and bet on sports and horse races I’m extremely overweight and did a lot of crystal meth to try and lose weight my life started to fall apart once I started smoking crystal . I would watch pornography for 12 hours straight in a greasy motel in Reno higher then a kite masturbating for hours on end apparently this is very common for a lot of people who smoke meth it can make you really horny and boy did it ever make me I had such a low self esteem and no confidence I couldn’t even look a girl in the eye I was draining my body and had hardly any testosterone. If it wasn’t for my good buddy teeto ore tatta I wouldn’t be alive he saved me and sent me to rehab and got me clean I now see a doctor for my sexual issues he’s really helping me i only masturbate 3 times a week now before I was doing it 5 times a day thank god and thankfully I’m planning on helping more people in the Reno Nevada area and Las Vegas I want to help people stop masturbating or cut down the amount they do it me and my best friend teeto ore tatta are going to help as manny people as we can . If anyone wants my contact information please contact me I really want to help

I’m having a difficult time genuinely wanting to quit JAV/japanese porn. My wife wants me to quit watching porn for personal and spiritual reasons, but I keep relapsing because I genuinely do not want to stop when it comes down to it. I haven’t experienced any serious consequences, but I know my marriage and family life is going to deteriorate if I don’t stop. I need to find a support group/network to talk about wanting to change, which is why I’m writing this post. I’d appreciate if I can hear from others concerning their experiences or recommendations. Any help is appreciated!

I finally grew the courage to delete my stuff and accounts. It kind of hurt in the beginning but i had to do. Here's to new beginnings

I think that’s what I set for myself as a relapse so if that’s the case I’m going on three weeks! But I did something that I felt like was cheating my way around this and giving me that same feeling even without looking at any pornography or images but I still think I’m going strong just an update

You can do it brothers no matter what finish what you started 🙏🙏🙏

I just wasted 2 hours with erotic material, looking at online comics and stories. 2 hours that I cannot get back. 2 hours when I am also busy with finals. It is a bad sign. I realize that is a whole movie length. I would never watch a full length movie when I am busy, nor would I read an unrelated book. But if I am in porn addiction mode, I lose all sense of real world time and place, like I'm in another dimension. Does anyone relate?

I was waiting and I tempted myself. I gave in and had a quick relapse. It didn't escalate though so that's progress.

Wanted to know how helpful having an accountability partner is on the pornfree journey. I'm so tired of falling back into porn and I've never had someone to hold me accountable before. Just curious what you guys think

Hi all!
Im in a 7-8 days streak of basically not PMO (i just watched some random minutes of some insta girls but never going to the Mast-Orgasm part of PMO).
I know this is not a 100% clean streak but im feeling like more anxious of what i use to be (i tend to be anxious, probably for my years of PMO).
Is this normal?
Thanks

Damn it's good to feel in control.

After "Let it Stick", I'm now reading "Atomic Habits". I want a better control of my days : earlier bedtime, stop procrastinating, fixed exercise schedule. Let's see where I can go!

See you tomorrow

When you think about how young we were when we were introduced to this its genuinely disgusting.

Im not even a teenager, I’m older, so imagine how fucked the next generations are. As it has become increasingly normalised and the porn becomes increasingly easy to access and shoved into your face on every single online facet.

When we describe the effects of pornography, its easy to focus on the effects to our ego - our life direction becomes obscured, maybe we don’t achieve all of the things we want to achieve, maybe our shame and sense of self makes us withdraw into ourselves and isolate. But what is more interesting to me is the ways porn has affected my very experience of life; more specifically, my ability to relate to others and the world around me. I remember having periods in my early life of wonder, of openness to others, of being able to see and feel directly and not dissociate into a world of images. I remember during prolonged streaks of abstinence in my early 20’s, going out into nature and feeling relaxed enough to truly experience a moment without holding anything back, being completely emotionally open.

This last year, my use of pornographic content has increased, and with that, my ability to be open and receptive to the world has decreased. It’s become hard for me to check in with myself because so much damage has been done to my sense of “present-moment-safety”. It feels like my heart itself has closed, or at least, has a reflex to close off and dissociate. It makes sense that porn, with its overwhelming stimulus, actually closes our awareness itself over time and makes us callous to the immense relational world in which we live. I wonder how many of the disastrous effects of chronic porn use can be understood through this inner habit, this reflect of the heart to close off to life.

I’m curious, do any of you notice a similar pattern in yourself? Do you feel that porn makes you less open to experience life? What do you think is the reason for that?

P.S. Here’s to day 1! Looking forward to this long journey of recovery

It’s crazy how bad porn was for me. Day 9 of no porn and no masturbation. I’ve been watching daily for almost 9 years. I really am so desperate and can only think about women, dating and sex for the whole day. I’m a part time stock trader and today I made some money and still felt so fucking depressed. I’m talking to this great girl on tinder and plan on taking her to the best date ever. I’m down to spend thousands on a relationship. I don’t care about money. I need a woman, I need love, I need sex. Should I hire a hooker guys??? After so many years of very low libido, I finally have a huge sex drive. It’s awesome, I know I shouldn’t be desperate but my body is going crazy. I had migraines this whole afternoon after classes. I wasn’t able to study for my exam on Thursday. I’ll definitely go no fap for at least a year and pornfree for life. NEVER AGAIN PORN !!!! I’d rather take heroin. Stole teenage love from me!!!! Please give advice on meditation and how to be less desperate.

9 days in for the first time in a while. I have noticed that I'm just tired when I wake up in the morning. I know that i'm not sleeping especially well, but it also feels like that my usual caffeine intake is less effective in getting myself moving. Wondering if this is an expected experience or if I should be troubleshooting this further?

Good afternoon,

Unfortunately, I once again had a relapse to porn and cam models. It is my third in four days. For some reason money is a major trigger to me, as the thought of having it sends me down that rabbit hole.

Unfortunately, I’ve found myself searching alternate browsers over the months and finding my way around the blocker that I have on my computer just to get my craving and fix.

Trust me when I say that it is like porn on crack. If porn itself is super dopamine, cam models are 100x as bad. The severity of my illness is very strong, and what I have been doing is not working.

I am declaring that I will not return to Reddit in any capacity until I reach the 90 day mark of abstention from porn AND masturbation. I am going to go and get help because I truly need it. This has been an addiction that has been ongoing for 18 years, and cams for 11. Sadly, even knowing the stuff that goes on, knowing the dangers of the industry hasn’t stopped me from seeking out porn after 3-4 days. I am powerless against this addiction and cannot fight this on my own. This will be my last post for a while, and I wish you all good luck.

Word to the wise, don’t get involved with cam models in any way. It is an easy way to blow hundreds if not thousands of dollars, and put yourself into debt fast. Stay away from porn in general and keep fighting the good fight.

I’ve got a lot of work to do before I can return to sanity.

As the title says. I’ve been trying to quit porn for a few years now. Back in 2020 I had actually stopped from September 2020 until June 2021, but unfortunately fell back into it.

I’ve recently been going on month long streaks and then trying to masterbate without porn. I always end up falling back into it. I know I cannot go through my life without sexual satisfaction and I’m currently trying to date for marriage and not have any sexual interactions with a girl prior (I’m a religious Jew).

Is there a timeframe that anyone feels would be long enough that I can masterbate and not get triggered to start watching porn again?

Thank you in advance!

I remember hearing Gabe Deem say that while in-person sexual encounters are almost always helpful and positive in re-wiring one's brain towards real sex rather than porn on a screen, nevertheless for some people it may be helpful/necessary to go a period of time without orgasm/ejaculation, in order to successfully reboot. Does anyone know the science behind this? The rest of it I get - addiction, dopamine, wiring and re-wiring etc - but this specific point about not orgasming I haven't seen any explanation for.

RECOVERING MINE FROM THE CLUTCHES OF PORN

Just started my streak again 2 days so far

I’m pretty new here and joined this sub because I was too afraid of joining my school’s porn addiction support group out of fear that I might get recognized and thrown under the bus or whatever. This felt like a good sub to join to negate that fear. Anyway I’ve been having problems with porn since I was 13, currently 22, I beat it at 16 but it came back at 17. Ever since then I’ve tried to beat it again but I just keep relapsing, the longest streak I had was five weeks. I The other day I gave in and right now I’m on my third day and no impulses so far. With support from you guys I can hopefully overcome this cycle.

do you guys find as well that doing any type of exercise while rebooting feels way more tiring, like having to sleep 9 hours the days after and feeling way more groggy after??

I remember back when I was about 16-17 I was going to a Christian Music festival that was pretty popular. (For reference, I am no longer religious for many reasons)

We had a guy come to speak to our big camp group that I went with (it was a church group) and it was a guy who was speaking on the dangers of porn and how he got off of it.

In retrospect, he was probably giving some awful advice for my particular situation but I wondered how everyone feels about it.

I went up to him and said I was struggling and he suggested I tell my parents about the stuff that I watched and use them as accountability partners.

To be honest, that's probably the worst idea in my situation because my parents would have no idea how to handle it and probably alienate me even more. It would have been pure judgement and they would have sent me to counseling with a pastor who went on to cheat on his wife for years during and after that time I knew him.

I do have to wonder what life would be like today though if back then is when I got a handle on the issue versus the past few months.

What's everyone's thoughts on this idea (especially as those who are parents)?

As we all know, a lot of this addiction has to do with our personal trauma and emotions; long story short i shared some thoughts/feelings that were a bit hard to talk about with a counselor and i felt amazing after I got it off my chest. But what i wanted to share with you guys is how liberated i felt when i went to take a piss and i saw my dick which is not in its healthiest state at the moment but i didnt have a negative thought--I saw it, thought oh well that needs to get better and then it occured to me--"fuck my dick I have a brain!" now that sounds like the stupidest most stoned shit ever i know but it was deeper than that in ways i can hardly explain. I just feel in touch with myself. moral of the story face the fear of sounding too emotional or sensitive, might do some good. I dunno, love you guys every single one of you shout out to all you individuals out there im one too

To begin with I am overall healthy person but I suffer from pied in both of my relationships, which is the primary reason I want to quit porn, all my teens and twenties went in porn + video game addictions. So low motivation in life to do anything I just want to feel more alive feel more manly, not to be constantly worried while making out with my partner that I will loose erection.

I did also get blood tests done and my testosterone levels came as 300ng/dl. I don't know why this is happening to me. A lot of people I know watch porn but why only I am suffering from pied. I am now 33 years old yet don't have a stable relationship cause of this fucking addiction can't even call myself a man......all my friends are become fathers ,here I am pretending to be working at 9pm,instead of being in bed with partner because of the fear of failure.

Please help me guys anybody been in my situation?

Coming to my question throughout this year I have reduced my pmo frequency to mostly 3-4 times a month rather than every other day , that ought to count right ?? I feel like I should have felt atleast some improvement but still unable to have sex....

Please help me :(

I relapsed at day 185. Due to some immense pressure I was put through for the past 7 months.

That time I have never bothered much to count the days, but eventually, it became so stressful because I had to continuously instil the thought that "porn is bad." I held on to that thought all the time. Then got tired of it.

Even by the time I started relapsing, I saw it and still held strong beliefs that I shouldn't be doing so. I was anti-porn after all.

Fast forward to two days later. Now. I've went to watch several clips, realized that those were far too unrealistic. I've done enough to know that those videos can never be comparable to real-life experiences. Furthermore, I was aware that if I were to rely on these outlets, my personality would change and I would think of things differently.

Previously, I felt free while I tried out the pornfree streak. Ironically when I turned to porn, I felt free as well. Now although the previous streak wasn't too long ago, I miss those times. I was so pure and acted natural. Another porn streak would allow me to act more genuine. I just need to work towards it to regain that back.