https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMMmctBCJ/

I thought this video showed a different perspective on how toxic porn can be. Make sure to watch till the end. I feel like a lot of people don’t view it this way, I found this really interesting & wanted to share.

Hi, when I was a small child I was sexually abused twice. Once by my own dad and again by a babysitter. After my parents broke up I got dragged around the country and I developed a porn addiction. I was hooked on it for most of my life. My issues surrounding my trauma were ignored. Now I am in therapy staying with family. I have been clean from porn since November 2023 and I am doing 90 days of nofap which began feb 5th and ends may 5th.

Hello fighters. I wanted to bring up an issue with Kindle Unlimited. They have a flawed categorizing structure for Japanese comics (Manga). That means a simple search of these books produces a mix of explicit comics and kids stuff. I wrote an article trying to put this in the light. I am trying to discourage people away from the platform because it is a huge trap for comic book lovers and kids who are just looking for online books to read. Here is the link to my article: https://michaelpmordenga.blogspot.com/2023/12/kindle-unlimited-is-reckless-dumpster.html

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I stopped masturbating, an activity I couldn't have gone by any single day without, for over 2 weeks but did watch porn in the beginning. However I came accross this sub and realised the damaging effects of porn addiction and I have started trying to put an end to this as well. But now I am getting a strong urge to watch it and therefore I had a few questions below.

I was wondering whether viewing playboy pictures / or Instagram models just as bad for the mental health as watching porn. What about reading sexual stories? Or having fetishes or imagining some fetishes without masturbating?

Should I stop this abruptly or with a decreasing frequency or decreasing intensity of porn like hardcore to soft core, images, stories etc?

One thing almost no one talks about when it comes to porn addiction is 1) Attachment and 2) You are in a Relationship with Porn (Mistress)

I am defining attachment as a mental, emotional, physical and spiritual bond to porn that creates dependency to alleviate emotional distress. As I dive into these four levels, you may find new awareness in your mind on how to detach from porn and break free.

Many don't realize you are in a relationship with porn (let's call it your mistress so you have something “tangible” to hold onto in your mind). Really, you are in a relationship with everything. You are in relationship with the screen you are reading this on, the words that you are reading, and me through the connection of thought transfer. Seeing through the lens of relationships allows you to see the strings (or attachments) that are holding it together. There are four main strings - and there are many offshoots of these strings that creates a web. I am going to keep it simple, its best to use these main strings to populate the “web” associated”

You can use a paper (journal) to write down the thoughts to bring awareness to how you are attached to these four strings.

String 1: Mental Attachment: Your thoughts are attached to the mistress. Write down all the thoughts that attached to porn (This can be visual imagery, reasons for use, thinking about moments in which you have been triggered)

String 2: Emotional Attachment: Your emotions are attached to the mistress (Common emotions range from desire, love, guilt, shame, anger) When you feel these emotions, what thoughts pop up? Essentially what are you saying about yourself?

String 3: Physical Attachment: Your body is attached to biochemicals released prior, during and after use (cortisol, dopamine, oxytocin) These chemicals are released when you are triggered, surfing porn, masterbating to porn, and how you feel about yourself after)

String 4: Moral Attachment: You have morals (or values) that are at odds with your porn use. These are typically built by a religious belief system, or society that has been influenced by religion. Because your morality is based on judgment of right or wrong (good or bad) You have deemed porn use to be bad and so you experienced guilt - I did a bad thing and shame - I am a bad person. (FYI I am not against religion nor judging it, this is just stating observable truth)

By using these strings as grounding, you can start to see how you are attached to the “mistress” and the relationship you have built. From there you can work to detach the strings. This is a simple overview. I am willing to dive deeper on these topics if requested. If you choose to do this, it will help you tremendously.

One of the most valuable lessons I learned from my mentor that helped me heal from porn addiction is that I have always and will always have free will choice. We were born with free will choice. The challenging part is that we are not aware that we have a choice when we are young. So we agree to take on the belief systems of our parents, teachers, religious figureheads and other outside sources of information to tell us who we are.

When I “awakened” to the realization that porn was a problem in my life, I felt like I didn't have a choice. Like my body was just on autopilot and I had no control over the urges. Essentially, I felt like porn was more powerful than me and I was being forced to watch it. Once we opened up my mind into my subconscious I started to see the choices that I had and was making that would trigger me to want to watch porn.

Once we found the triggers, we went even deeper into my emotions that were causing the triggers. It was really wild to be able to see inside of me that was always there, I was just blind to it. The words we use direct our subconscious mind and emotional state, and this is where. The word trigger, just as pulling the trigger of a gun, implies that there is no time between the trigger and firing the bullet, except for YOU are the one pulling the trigger, so you have the choice not to.

This is where the term relapse comes in. Think about that word and how you feel in your body. You most likely feel fear - fear of not wanting to relapse. And that fear will ultimately win at some point. Another thing I learned is that what you control you fear becoming out of control, so control is not sustainable, but making a conscious choice is (free will). So relapse also implies that you had no “control” of choice in the relapse. That you were somehow “forced” to relapse - feeling forced by your body and subconscious triggers.

But again, this is not true, so you feel so much pain and out of control again, as if porn is more powerful than you. The truth is you CHOSE to watch porn again and taking responsibility for that choice gives you the best opportunity to choose differently the next time. As long as I stay conscious of my free will choice - which is the cause to take action (effect) - and stay in integrity to my personal commitments, having a “relapse” is a thing of the past, and in truth it's not real at all. It’s simply a choice you are making.

Hello!

I am new here and I feel called to share a bit of my story and what I learned along the way.

I started watching porn when I was 14 years old (36 now). If some of ya’ll are old enough to remember, this is when we moved from dial up AOL to high-speed broadband internet. And with that, the birth of the internet porn industry. I didn't have any parental issues - my upbringing was privileged and I was deeply loved. I was simply a 14 year old, horny boy, curious about sex and tired of trying to catch a boob on cinemax fuzzies lol.

Little did I know it would turn into a 16 year addiction where I experienced hell on Earth. By the time I was in my early 20’s in college I was watching masterbating to porn 3-4 times a day. This is when it became a big problem for me, but I wasn't aware that porn was the cause. I experienced some of the harshest symptoms of porn addiction.

• Debilitating social anxiety
• Performance anxiety and Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED)...in my 20’s no less.
• Brain fog and Insomnia
• Escalated to abusing marijuana (smoked all day everyday to numb out)
• Constantly lied about my use and my “success”

I had a 5 year relationship coming out of college (should have ended after 2) that was disconnected, dysfunctional and co-dependant. I met my wife when I was 26 and we got married when I was 28. I hid my porn use out of shame and even escalated to catfishing women and Craigslist to meet at hotels and said things I would never say in “real life”- never physically cheated, but boy did I feel like a cheater.

I experienced PIED with my wife (who was absolutely gorgeous) - got to the point where viagra and cialis didnt work for me anymore. I was in so much denial that porn was the cause of my symptoms, I spent over $5000 on prp shots in my penis and liquid injectable medication to stimulate an erection. Even considered getting the pump implant - was pricing them out.

Now, although my wife didn't “know” she knew. I could say I was fine and deny I had a problem but she knew. Eventually she caught me surfing porn and confronted me about it. Another example of my deep denial is I lied to her 3 times, which my porn searches on my phone directly in my face. Even the threat of leaving me wouldn't bring out the truth…until it did.

After finally breaking down and admitting I had a problem, she stuck around for a few months but ultimately decided to divorce me. She didn't leave me because of the porn btw, she left because I lied, controlled and manipulated her so much that she couldn't trust me anymore. Once she left I truly began my healing to quit porn for good and release the shame, guilt and regret I felt.

Now there’s more to the story, but for the sake of giving value to you, here are some of the most important things I learned from my journey to healing and living as my true self.

• Hiding, denying, lying, and trying keep the porn use alive and prevent you from being fully seen, heard and loved.
• Human beings are the most transparent beings on the planet (especially men) - You can hide nothing, even if you think you can
• Transparency is your key to personal freedom
• Looking at the parts of you that your avoid out of fear is more courageous than dying on a sword in battle (It is the mark of a true warrior)
• Integrity, responsibility, and honesty will provide direction, drive and accountability to be your true self and achieve your goals
• Grace, compassion and forgiveness will free you from shame, guilt and regret

These are just a few of many. If you have any questions, feel free to drop them below in the comments. I am an open book and do not shy away from any question of conversation.

I’m sorry if this is inappropriate to ask here- but does anyone have any advice on how to find a partner who is a part of/at least agrees with FTND? Its the most important thing in a relationship to me, but I feel like meeting guys who are also actually anti-porn is nearly impossible.

Also trying to set the boundary and introduce the idea to guys who do watch porn doesn’t seem to work, because they just lie and keep doing it anyway. Not to shame them or anything, but I just mean the general population who has zero intentions of trying to understand where we’re coming from with this.

I don’t want to put myself through dating people who don’t respect these boundaries anymore, and am hoping there’s some chance of meeting someone with the same values but I’m quickly losing hope.

I’m already firm and open with this being my dealbreaker when I date, so I’m not afraid of bringing it up and having the conversation. But have yet to meet a single guy who is okay with it and doesn’t think I’m some crazy person lol. Is there anything more I can do?

Hello! We are looking for more members to join our porn-free community on Discord. It's a great group to find support during those rough days, as well as a place to have meaningful discussions or just to hang out and chat. There are always people around if you need support. We also have occasional group meetings and hope to have more in the future.

Our server is slowly growing and we would love to have more of you join. If you're interested you can comment below or send me a DM and I will send you a link!

i have no idea what to think or do, i feel incredibly betrayed and feel as though my bf's promise to me that he would stop watching it is just one to get me to hop off his back. when we first started dating, i asked him about whether or not he watches porn and i set my boundary telling him that i will not be with him if he watches it. a few months later, he completely lied to me about it. i had a gut feeling so i asked him if he has looked at porn and he said no. i snooped through his phone and i found it on his reddit account. i felt so betrayed. i confronted him about it and he told me that he didnt jerk off to it and that he was just shocked it was there which i found to be absolute bs because it seemed to be looked at for a few days in a row rather than all at once. i made it clear that i dont want anything sexual/any sort of pornography on his phone. i asked him to delete reddit, he did for a while and then redownloaded it. i asked him to avoid sexual scenes in movies and he called me crazy bc its "just a movie," well so were all the fucking porn videos he watched. he has made no attempt to make me feel safe in the relationship. he hasn't helped me heal from his mistake yet he is the reason why i act this way. he assures me that he had stopped watching it when i asked him to, yet he doesnt avoid things that would trigger someone to watch porn. before i came into his life, he had been watching it on a daily basis for nearly a decade. obviously im incredibly uncomfortable because i know the studies that have been linked to men viewing women as objects due to porn usage and i know exactly the kind of "movies" that are popular on there and as a woman, i feel incredibly uncomfortable and disrespected and i dont want to be intimate with him at all at this point. i want to believe that he had stopped but there is nothing indicating that he has. he has no issues being in places where i would feel uncomfortable, has even told me that if he had to pee in a bathroom plastered with pornography, he would go in there despite me feeling incredibly uncomfortable instead of going to another bathroom, and he has also said that he will go into a strip club or places of that nature if he had to eat or go to the bathroom. he outwardly said that he will disrespect my boundaries bc hes more important. im in shock. i guess what im trying to ask is do you all feel as though he isnt watching porn? he has been honest about the fact that he will disrespect my boundaries but he has not been honest about porn and i dont know what to think or do

My 3 minute story since I stopped watching porn ~2 years ago. It's a little... deep.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjWVP4kvm-c

I hope posting that is ok.

I am glad I never got into any violent pornography and that my tastes are very vanilla compared to others. In fact I find the more ethical a site is the more I am addicted to it. However I recently listened to Fight the new Drug podcast on Girlsdoporn and one of the former victims talked about how the "ethical" porn studio was actually doing sex trafficking.

So are feminist porn sites that much better? Even if the performers are treated well, were they in the past? Are they doing "ethical porn" now because it is better than what they did before and they have no way out of the industry anyways?

In my journey of quitting porn how do I rationalize avoiding these sites. It is very easy to avoid pornhub because you know it is shady but many are not as obvious.

Just wondering if anyone more technologically minded would be willing to do this. Love educating myself on the dangers of porn and find myself opening up reddit unconsciously every now and then throughout my day.

Would love to be reminded of FTND articles and give them a read thanks to the notifications on reddit. Bit of a random request tbh, but worth the shot.

Does FTND do in-person meetings or classes like AA does? I’ve tried looking but haven’t found a clear answer.

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We have seen it mentioned over a million times that other addiction support subreddits like ours, though great for those just finding out, can be a very negative and discouraging place for couples who are on the right track and looking for others in similar situations as them. We have also heard that other communities for reconciliation aren't topic focused around porn & sex addiction, leaving many feeling like an outcast or afraid to even post. That is where the r/PornFreeRelationships sub comes in to bridge that gap!

Recovery for both the partner & addict can be scary as it comes with a whole different set of fears, hopes and triumphs. Couples that have been in true recovery are on a totally different journey than those just now getting started and they too need a place to discuss their new reality and feel heard without the added projection of others pain of just finding out.

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I do believe that fetish art and other content are considered porn. But how to fight them. Alot of fetish are on stuff that is not really sexual (different parts of the body, inflation, poop, pee, curtains clothes) are all thing that most people don't find hot. It there really anything we can do?

Stop consuming porn.

Very poor mental health is a result of consumption of porn (Professional Source)

Porn is the 3rd-most common form of sex trafficking (Professional Source)

Increased loneliness is caused by consumption of pornography (Professional Source)

If you ever get married, it will reduce the quality of your marriage. (Professional Source)

Between 33 and 90% of pornography depict sexual violence. (Professional Source)

People who consume porn frequently are highly likely to support sexual violence (Professional Source)

You won't meet women on the internet.

The girls you are commenting on don't care about you.

It's all a lie.

I'm not sharing the images here out of respect to those quitting porn >!Screenshot in my post history as proof!<, but it fucking pissed me off because all I was doing was searching information on a legal case and sex trafficking on YOUTUBE and Alphabet/Google decides to show me porn.

Just shows how compliant and sympathetic big tech is with porn. I've also seen porn channels being advertised in childrens' chess games. Someone else posted a video showing a literal porn scene with the genitals cropped out as an ad.

Disgusting people.

I have been commenting on a bunch of posts, so let me formally introduce myself to the community. Long read, but think some relatable help others can use.

First and foremost, I am a recovering Sex and Porn Addict. I did not say cured, as I believe both will remain a lifelong battle. I am the original Machine Gun Matt – spraying and spewing my seed in every imaginable way, and to what ever nasty thought I could muster. Right hand. Left hand. Both hands if I was trying to impress myself. It was not pretty, and I am going to paint a few descriptive scenes. You will have to read the entire lengthy post, as I am not going to give some condensed version that lets you get back to your porn too quickly.

To appreciate what I am going to share means you have to know a bit about me. I am just shy of 60 years old. I former Army Officer and business owner. Life was not hard, and I was blessed with opportunity. Girls were not even an issue later in life, as I thought I was in control of my actions. I was wrong. I started my Sex addiction almost 50 years ago. Yes, I’m that old, and still addicted to porn and fapping. So, for you young guys, it is not as simple as skipping 7 days and thinking you have mastered your addiction. Think about it for a second. Almost 60. For half of you, that like thinking about your dad whacking it. And sadly, for the other half, that’s dear old grand dad back in the tool shed just waxing away without a care in the world. I was already wanking away before “internet” was even a word. So, you can imagine how online porn was like the big box store of depravity!  Pretty disgusting – but that is where all of you are headed if you are not willing to admit your addiction and take action.

How did I finally do something about it you wonder? There were two prevailing motivations. Disgust and pain. I have hurt a lot of people while my life was centered around trying to squeeze just another ounce of jizz from my depleted body. 2 failed marriages, and really bad business decisions that impacted people’s lives. Or better said, not making decisions – because I had not ventured into every porn genre yet, and that takes effort and poor priorities! I became the king of poor choices. My ex-wives were both beautiful women, but they could not fuck like those porn actresses. So, I either had to choke away to the image of people fucking like pros, or go find a woman that knew how to. Any guesses on how well that worked out? Craigslist, Doublelist, and AFF ads just did not result in any volunteers, so back to the magical sex box on my desk. Year after fucking year, after year. What is the definition of insanity? Something like doing the exact same thing over and over, yet somehow expecting different results. Must not be as smart as I was giving myself credit for, huh??

But you also said Disgust? Get to the good stuff. Like I said, I am closing in on 60. Few months back, did some renovations in the house. So, stuff was not it its normal place. Well, Grandpa Horn Dog had a few minutes alone, so maybe a great time to sneak over to the monitor and see what filth I could conjure up. So here I am. Search engine is fired up, and today let’s go with some new kink. Nope, Asian is not doing it for me. Let’s bring it closer to home with some Grandpa and Barely legal action. So, pull up the chair, drop the pants down to the ankle, and let’s start the beatathon!!. Oh wait, forgot a tissue. Fuck it, not like I’m shooting ropes anymore – I’ll just let it dribble off the head and roll onto my hand.

And then it happened. Thankfully. As I sit there, ready to partake in a masturbatory feast, I see my reflection in a mirror that got moved during the remodel. For 60, I am not a bad looking man. That of course is in the eyes of maybe another 60-year-old woman. But there I glanced over and saw an old man. Wrinkles, liver spots, depleted muscle. An old man, sitting there with dick in hand. For 50 pathetic years, I have found a place to go hide, grab my dick, and watch other people have sex so that I could produce baby batter and a minute of hollow gratification. Nice visual for you younger guys wondering where all this fapping is taking you? But you can stop when ever you want, right? It’s just something you do to relieve anxiety or makes falling asleep easier. Or maybe it is just cartoon sex. Maybe even gay sex. But I’m not gay. But fuck, that was great orgasm watching that guy suck that guy – until 60 seconds later. That is about when a lot of you do the standard “I hate myself” or “I’m done with porn” post on Reddit. So it was that visual, and moment of realization as to the extreme pervert I had become, and how out of control my life had become. Once full of unlimited potential and dreams, there I was in all my glory – dick in hand and pants around my ankles. What if I stroked out right there, and that was how my wife found my lifeless corpse. That, and a video of some old geezer with a girl closer in age to a granddaughter. That a nice obituary. Sounds funny as you read it, but simply sad.

So, I had to formulate a plan of attack. I’ve accomplished things in my life, so let’s go. Well, needles to say, that failed, and failed, and just kept on failing. It was because I was treating porn like an old girlfriend that I could go do a booty call with whenever I could sneak away. Oh wow, I had a FWB called PornHub. I did a week here and there of abstaining. So, time to reward myself, right?? Hell yeah, lets stroke that puppy hard enough to power the city for the next 24 hours. I earned it. Wrong! Addiction is a disease Gentlemen. I am not a therapist. How the fuck a I going to succeed at this? And then, in a moment of resignation, I got to thinking about past successes. I realized that for all the great things I might have accomplished in life, I always had help. That is when I made the best decision of my life. I came clean. I opened up to my 3rd wife (ex’s get expensive) and told her everything. I broke – HARD. I cried like a baby. But for the first time in God knows when, I was honest. Honest with her, and more importantly – honest with myself. I am an Addict. I am addicted to Sex and Porn. I don’t know why, but I am. That made all the difference in my battle. I came out of the dark, and the light feels great. Opening up and admitting an addiction is empowering. I do live with guilt, but I know I have moved my life in a new direction, so it has allowed me to start forgiving myself. It told my wife that I wanted more out of our life, and that it was not her fault for my inability to be the husband and lover I promised her years ago. She is helping me, and I am now accountable to just not myself, but the woman I love. It has made her a happier person, knowing that I have taken my world of fantasy. And checked into living life in the now and present. I have been able to go cold turkey now since that date, after so many failures over the DECADES of trying. 

I know porn is at my fingertips – anytime, anywhere. I know I still have a battle ahead of me. I know temptation lingers. But now I have chosen to fight this battle. I have brought family and friends with me to help beat my adversary. I want a different outcome to the life and the course I was on. I am not cured, but I am winning. And I want to share what I can to help others in their fight. Think of the screwed-up world we are becoming. Men are buying sex dolls to eliminate human contact, but still experience a relationship with an inanimate object. This is a direct consequence to a porn filled world of misguided souls that have succumbed to their addiction so badly as live in an imaginary world of lust. We can do better.

So, with that introduction out of the way. Let me address a few random thoughts to different members of the audience.

What have I noticed in my journey.

Young guys – this is serious shit. I can only imagine how bad off I would be born into a world where porn is available nonstop. It would not be good. At least when I first started, masturbation was limited to imagination. Maybe a passed around magazine if you were lucky. Staying the course of fapping away will not end well/

Teens – stop worrying about meeting girls. It is part of growing up. Teen years are awkward and painful. What you think of as end of the world today is a distant concern two weeks later. Girls are just as nervous and awkward. Unfortunately, we have moved into a time period where acceptance and likes dominates the thinking of people. So, girls happily post nudes to the point of seeing the inner workings of their anatomy. But they know as little about sex and relationships as guys. It will happen – but it is not a race. Hell, I did not lose my virginity until I was 21. Then I started trying to stick my dick into everything. Only now am I learning the true value of being deeply in love with someone other than my libido.

Semen Retention – Not a concern at my age. I feel better than I have in a long time. But I attribute so much of that to just coming clean. I can finally live with myself and stop hiding from who I was. That is my biggest motivator right now. I am upbeat, and see the world with a clean, fresh set of eyes. I was on testosterone replacement until recently, so I did not ever feel like it impacted my masculinity. I am a decent size guy and can still bench 315. But I can tell you that the mental fog has been clearing, and I just have so much more of a positive outlook on life in general. If that is your goal, pursue it with reckless ambition – especially if it gets you away from porn.

Addiction – if you cannot simply walk away from any vice, then you are in some stage of addiction. The sooner you identify and address, the sooner you will start your recovery. I enjoy my alcohol, and that will be my next challenge in life. I can see in myself the addictive nature I possess. My dad was an alcoholic, and I fear that I have that gene. In my short time on reddit, I can see how just visiting this sub and reading posts has become somewhat of an obsession with me.

Counter – I am not a proponent of a counter. I know where I am in my battle. I feel like we fail by making numerical (calendar date) goals. I have too often had a number in mind, and then went on to reward myself once I made my number. Yes, it eventually got a little easier – but personally felt like I was setting myself up for failure. Too may postings where the subject is “I hit 90 days, now what?” If you have an unusually long streak, it is human nature to judge everything against your record. So, if you went 140 days, it is natural to think every streak afterwards is a failure one it is a shorter duration. Instead, I prefer to think of every day of Nofap is a victory. And my ultimate goal is to leave it behind all together. If I fap in the future, I don’t want to think everything up to that point was for nothing and move into feeling depressed.

Porn – Porn is a drug. All porn. So, I relate porn to any drug out there. It gets you hooked. So, whenever you want to ask a question with the word porn, substitute the drug. Instead of “is it okay if I just consume a little bit of porn”, think of what your answer would be if the question posed to you were “is it okay of I just shoot up a little bit of heroin”? Makes it pretty clear. Problem that makes porn even worse is that it is free and everywhere. You don’t overdose from it, you don’t die from it, and you don’t go broke consuming it. You cannot over consume it like food or alcohol. You don’t go to jail for using it. Worse case is you physically get exhausted. But in the background, it is destroying your brain, ruining relationships, stealing your youth, killing your ambitions, and depriving you of your natural abilities and contributions to this world.

General – eliminating porn is not going to bring magic. There will obviously be improvements to your health, mental composition, and view of the world around you. Many factors will play into where each of you are in life to the benefits you derive – be it mental, physical, spiritual, and intellectually. You will not know these things if you are not willing to challenge your addiction and seek improvement. As much as I have written, I count on each of you for support as well. It is therapeutic to address your demons. It is amazing to come out of the shadows, and admit you have a problem you want to fix – no matter how long or difficult. You have to want it for yourself though, and you have to be willing to be the one doing the heavy lifting. You start, and you start again, and you keep on starting. It is a fight you have to win.

That’s it for now. Happy to take questions and try to deliver insight. I am not cured, and do not have all, if any, of the answers. I am not a counselor, nor do I have any formal education on addiction treatment. Just an old guy seeking answers constantly. If I have said anything that a therapist would criticize, please relay the info, as I do not want to pretend to have information that might be improperly understood.

“Life is a journey, not a destination”