After some failed relationships, I remain the only guy in my circle unmarried. At work, among friends wherever I find myself everyone is all about marriage family etc. I feel depressed sometimes cos I feel I’m too old to be single and that aside, I personally have the desire to get a family. But how to start is the problem. Difficult to find a good one and most are also attached. Just super scared when I sit to think about my future🥲

Sorry guys I didn’t know where else to post this, I’m kind of freaking out, I had the weirdest dream about making pregnancy test and it was positive, so I went but it for fun and just in case…Anyways, feel free to report it or debate whether I just wrongly peed on this stick. Hoping for someone who is more experienced with these than me.

Si me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for almost 5 years. The problem here it’s me. I’ve survived cancer more than once and yet I still haven’t grown up. I rely on everyone else whenever I found myself in trouble. How can I grow up and be the man that my girlfriend deserves?

Hello, my name is Brian. I am 37 M mid-Atlantic region of the United States. I am autistic.

I started to want to date at the age of twenty. Obviously, I have spent many years reading and reacting to a wide variety of dating advice. Some of them good some of them bad. Many I have followed, many others I have completely ignored.

One relatively frequent form of advice is to not be too honest or open right away with the person you are trying to date. While I understand this in a theoretical sense this has long been a piece of advice I have ignored.

I suppose it is a little bit ironic that I do not believe in this advice. Since in general I am a very shy, reserved and private person. That said when I am interested in someone and talking to someone I do not mind really opening up and trying to show them my most authentic and true self possible.

This means telling them my positives, my negatives, my weaknesses, my fears, concerns and anxieties. As well as my hopes, my dreams, my joys and my love and happiness as well.

I guess the argument is that by concealing some of these more negative aspects of our personalities a person might grow more attracted to us. I do not fully get the concept.

The whole thing is I only want to date fully grown and mature adult women. Who by now have realized that we all have faults, we all have shortcomings, we all have failures in our lives. That to reveal this part of ourselves is to be more human and more venerable to the other :)

I am curious what other people think on this subject? Has anyone out there been really open and honest about themselves with someone and still got into a long term relationship before?

Thank you all so very much :) any and all answers will be greatly appreciated :)

Hey guys, l'm a recent grad from UofT, need everyones opinion on how to prioritize my finances. My student loans are 35k, no interest (because I made a lump sum payment for the Ontario portion) I invest in some ETFs every month in my tfsa, so far $7k and good returns. I have a high interest TFSA as my emergency fund, around 16k. I want to open a FHSA soon before end of year. I'm debating if I should pay off my student loans in full, I have enough savings to do so. OR keep making monthly payments and pay it off eventually in 2 years, and allocate more money for my investments (max out my TFSA, FHSA, RRSP). The reason I'm confused is because my boyfriend is the same position and his family told him that he should pay it all off and be debt free and then start investing afterwards. But I think investing my money right now and paying my debt off afterwards is a better choice. Need some opinions please :)

For the first time in my life...I want small tittles... (Ee),hurts

I'm an American teaching English abroad. I'm in an Asian country and I haven't really made any friends yet. People want to talk to me to practice their English or because I'm American but not to really get to know me. There are cultural differences too. In class, students show up late or sometimes don't show up and it makes me doubt my teaching skills. Recently, only a third of my students showed up to class which devastated me because I put a lot of time and effort into my lessons to customize them for the students. Lots of old hurts are being dug up lately.

I often hear the theory of men having a first love messing up, cutting the woman off or her cutting him off and then years later having a baby and marrying someone else but deep down longing for his past love. There was a thread on here years ago that proved this theory true. Is this often the case?

Recently my ex got engaged and is having a baby, he was my first love and I was his, he broke my heart and I ended it, I wanted back in whilst I was still deeply hurting and he didn't, some of that was likely down to his guilt and him being tired of hurting me or feeling like the villain, however this recent news hurt me to my core, and everyday I think about it, how this woman will experience something I never have with him and how this is a new dimension of love entirely. It does feel like a marriage because of the baby because her culture is strict on that but I can't help feel distraught. Whether it was right or wrong, a part of me likely hoped that one day we would find our way back or at the very least I'd just know the love wasn't nothing. We haven't spoken in years and I don't even want him back, but do I still love him? Yes.

I used to be a really active gamer, but work and family cause my steam account to sometimes show "time played this week" in minutes instead of hours.

Despite that, I catch myself trying to at least use some time Saturday morning, before my family wakes up, to rush trough all the games I used to play a lot, as if I'm trying to fool myself (or someone else) that I still play all these games actively.

Anyone else recognize this behavior? I've been doing this for years, but I only just started wondering why.

Hey guys, had a more psychological question today and I do think this applies to adulting especially.

Do you guys ever think of clapbacks ahead of time because you know someone's gonna make a snarky comment?

I definitely know that this can be due to anxiety (thinking of putting yourself in a bad, almost theoretical situation). Although, I find myself doing this a lot with friends and family. Whether it's snarky comment about not visiting more from a family member or someone trying to make themself look better in a passive aggressive way to put you down.

And my clapbacks arent always to harm the other person, a lot of the time it's to spin the conversation into something that we can laugh at.

Not sure if I need therapy but I always theorize people in my life making fun of me for something Im self concious about. Honestly this is almost everyone in my life (except parents) so it's probably a me issue being too defensive... I wish I was more quit witted and able to spin everything into a joke but some comments make me want to roast the shit out of people because of what they say to me.

It's crazy, this is something Ive done throughout my life. It's mostly with people that are competitive in my life, they take everything as a joke, or they actually are toxic. I do think some of the people in my life are narcissists but Id like to deal with them easier rather than just cutting them out of my life. Im getting better at differentiating a mean comment and a joke as I get older but wanted to post this... Posting this in hopes to finding someone that might be able to pinpoint this issue, can relate, or has some advice. This is something Ive always struggled with.

First of all I’m genuinely asking for help or advice, it is a pattern that keeps repeating in every relationship that I don’t act on (always rather break up) but it is there and I already feel bad about that myself.

So I’m F21 diagnosed with ADHD & BPD.

I’m currently seeing someone for about 5 months. It’s a long distance but we have really raw and special connection with long term potential, shared values, good chemistry…

Recently I started feeling like I’m whitdrawing from the relationship mentally which is always a bad sign. I find myself being annoyed with him, he starts to feel too clingy, whenever he wants to talk on the phone, I feel so drained, he talks a lot about himself, and I feel like I’m just a therapist, but this is like the bad 10% of the relationship…Plus I can’t communicate this to him. But there is this passive aggression building up which I don’t think it’s good foundation for healthy relationship, and I’m trying to maintain this relationship a healthy one.

My mind started really wandering off and I don’t like that. I want to be faithful, but I don’t if it’s the dopamine, or the commitment issues, I’m just young, low self esteem, or I just met someone I really like more?…It’s like an escape but I know this pattern would repeat with the other guy…So I guess I’m just wondering, how do you know, that a person is the right one to built a relationship with? Or how do you commit to a person even when your mind is wandering? Or should your mind be wandering with the right person?

while i love being around my girlfriend, I can't spent everyday with her, she's still doing college and i have to be in bed by 9 to be able to not be tired for work, im extremely terrible at making new friends, even online ones so i kinda doubt ill make new ones anytime soon, what are some ways to cope with having less friends, as childish as that may sound.

I’m typing this as i prepare to fly home for the holidays. At 18 I joined the military and next thing I know i’m deployed 7000 miles away in a foreign middle east country. During my 4 year enlistment, I grew exponentially and became very independent. I had a very important job and was always held to a high standard. At 21 I became direct supervisor to 10 subordinates, some even older than me. Now that i’ve separated, i’m in a different state, going to college.

My mom is an amazing person, and i’m glad she’s my mom. but man, visiting home is a pain in the ASS. She as is cannot go more than 2 days without facetimeing me, and quite literally with no filter admits i’m her favorite child(I have 2 much older brothers). I am the youngest in my family. I do everything myself, cook, clean, finances, work, school. At the same time, she “prepares” for her passing. She always reminds me where the documents are to take to the lawyer when she passes, and reminds me i’m the sole responsible person in charge dispersing assets to my older brothers 36 and 38. It’s so weird how i have this massive responsibility and respect as adult to take care of these actions, yet I get treated like a actual toddler when I visit home

edit: thanks you guys, yall really opened my eyes on this one

So how do I (25) explain this situation fully. Me and my fiancee (21) live with my aunt. We pay some of the utilities and they got behind. The reason they got behind (and the aunt supported this also) was because my fiancee got out of a bad job to get another. Wile doing that she didn't send money anymore for the utilities.

Since they have gotten behind we have uncovered multiple lies or what we suspect as being lies. Firstly she started to limit towels and hid them in her room in a chest and put some out periodically. Second the internet was turned off and we were all using hotspot. As a result the router lights blinked like a traffic light would. Recently it started to blink as there was internet going through it again. She denied this and said she was using a hotspot from a friend and she didn't know why the router lights were blinking. She claims she is using a hotspot also but nothing else is connected to the router. She also claimed the cable runs through the router in which it does not. Her TV is connected to a network that when the router is turned off her TV loses internet. She also asked me as to why the hotspot usages was so high and to watch it.

She has stopped telling us when she was going to wash clothes (we can wash it ourselves) but she turned the breaker off to the washer and washes hers and the grand fathers. She also barely communicates anymore with us.

Need some advice on what to do here.

It's true that there are only a few, but there are still people becoming parents in the middle of the danger going on now in Europe.

And why are there still people making such a decision now?

How do I financially set myself up as a young adult? I'm 22 and want to be completely independent of my parents by the age of 30. I'm a guy who has a girlfriend (26) and wants to get married to her. Of course, this is going to require money. Then I after that I need to think about where I will live and neither of us have a car yet so there's that as well...🤔 (Neither one of us is financially stable and I know at least I lack some crucial life-skills and experience.) I know she at least has a high-school diploma and a decent credit score. I don't have any debt. I don't have a credit card so I have no credit score right? I only have a little over 7,000$ in savings. I'm getting an associates degree in business and marketing. I am primarily interested in Digital Marketing and want to use those skills that I learn in the classes to help make a successful YouTube channel as a side-hustle. I have this idea of turning my girlfriend's favorite hobbies into a brand, her favorite hobbies being drawing art and writing stories. In other words, making an animated series! Do you think this plan of mine could be successful? ​

I'm doing a cheese-wine-meat night for my friends. We are a total of 8 people, is this enough? It's my first time organising something "fancy"

Just an example : If I get a place to rent for 1.000$, and I rent that place to another person, the person will pay me 1.500$, in the end I’ll give 1.000$ to the original landlord and I’ll keep those 500$.

Is it illegal? Breaking any laws? Can I go to prison for doing that?

I'm 17 but I keep hearing about the cost of living crisis and how rent is rising and how wages are coming up, at this point I'm not even asking to be rich I just want a life where I have food a place to stay, a car, extra money for leisure, but even then that sounds impossible, my family supports me and I'm still in school rn but everything just seems so daunting. I've heard their rants about rent and bills and I'm scared for myself.

I'm afraid that in the future, even though I'm not a big spender, I'm scared of not being able to get a job, pay taxes, bills ,rent, because I've seen the prices and did the math, minimum wage can maybe scrape you by in my country, not to mention people with masters still struggle

How do you cope, do you think this will ever change, any advice?

Edit: Also, does one need to give up on ones interest and dream job and go for a job that sustains you? Like tech, engineering or as mentioned in comments trades?

It’s such a better experience, that shit is LOUD. It’s not hard to pop them in. And hearing protection is undervalued in our society I feel.

Also when using blenders or food processors because they can also be INSANELY loud.

I just started doing this on my 30s and thought I’d share

What’s the best TED Talk you’ve ever watched that left a lasting impact on you? Maybe it changed the way you think about something or even shifted your perspective entirely. I'd love to discover some life-changing talks

Hello Redditors! I am a 25year old mom with 2 kids , ages 3 and 1 . I am so close to getting into a nursing program I am just short the gpa requirement and I have to take the TEAS test . Recently I interviewed for a position working with mentally disabled in a town 2.5 hours from my hometown . My plan is to relocate and enter a nursing program that takes a year for ADN (RN) as I already have my prerequisites . But I feel like it’ll take longer and will be tougher if I relocate with the boys vs me leaving them with their dads for that year, getting licensed and getting settled before I take them back on full time . I do not want to leave my kids but I feel like I need to focus so that I don’t have to worry about providing for them in the long run . Thoughts? Am I being selfish ? What would you do differently?

As the title says I've came to an conclusion that I'm genuinely not that nice of a person. I still consider myself a good person at heart; but the more I get older the more I realize my mental state deteriorates. Mostly because I've been labeled a nice guy since I was in Highschool. Not saying that being kind and a overall good person will do wonders for you and other people. For some reason I always had this voice in my head that says avoid confrontation at all cost, don't stick up for yourself, you can't do that, be nice to that person so you can get that from them. Truly is a shitty way to live as most of the conversations I have now are with myself and not other people. This personality trait of always being a nice person has fucked up my social life, dating life, and professional life, and truly stops me from living. Suicidal thoughts are constant usually on a daily basis but I made a quote to help myself "I don't quit until my heart stops." Not really sure why but this helped me a lot as I got older.