I was a customer service rep and a bank teller and i hated BOTH. I now work a physical job away from customers and i’m very happy. I HIGHLY recommend this route. White collar work (sales, marketing, insurance, banking) sucks unless its fully remote but that’s drying up unfortunately.

How do you deal with the fact you might miss out on having kids?

My ex broke up with me 7 months ago. I’m just starting to get back out there but it is tough. I’m 32 and I don’t know if or when I’ll find the right guy. Them even when I do, we need to spend several years together before getting to the point of having kids. The timeline is so tight and I don’t want to have kids with someone I don’t love or don’t view as a good partner so I know there is a good chance I will age out of having kids. How do you deal?

Once you grow up, you realize you don't want to be crazy in love. You want to be calm in love, stable in love, patient in love, understood in love, safe in love. Your partner should give you peace of mind and reassurance, not constant little heart attacks and high anxiety.

Hello, I am 23f and my fiance is 28m. We moved from Missouri to northeast Oklahoma. We have been here for 9 months and we have no luck meeting people our age. So we are looking for some friends.

We are pretty nerdy. He likes to play D&D and video games, classic. I like to watch true crime tv/YouTube. I also crochet and sew. We both take pottery classes and hike. We also cook a lot and travel when we can. We are really into movies, Disney especially.

We met on tinder, but that platform is not for making friends. So we decided to come to reddit to try our luck. Let us know if you have any advice on how to make friends as an adult, or if you are in the same boat and needs some friends too.

Your parents were figuring it out just like you are. Friends turn into strangers faster than you expect. Life doesn't get easier, you just get stronger. No one will care about your excuses, only ur results. Success often means sacrificing comfort. People you love will hurt you, intentionally or not. You're not entitled to anything; you earned it.

I HATE MY CAR. I financed a 2021 Toyota Prius in 2023. It was by far the biggest fuck up of my life. I had no idea what I was doing. A family member co signed for me and I didn’t even negotiate a price with my salesman. It’s only worth about $15,000. I still owe $23,000 on it and that’s not even including interest. My monthly payment is $585.00. Sometimes I just wanna drive it full speed into a light pole with no seatbelt. I AM NEVER FINANCING A CAR EVER AGAIN IN MY LIFE. What would you do in my shoes, how do I get out of this mess. I don’t care if I have to ride a bike everywhere or take the bus. I need my car gone cause it’s killing me every month. I know I’m upside down but I really don’t wanna keep it.

For context I am F29 working in engineering field but only doing officework. Mon-Fri 0830-1800.

On Friday night, i usually sleep around 3am (sat) then will only wake up to check my phone around 11am saturday and proceed to sleep back around 1pm.

Wake up again around 7pm only to drink some plain water, scroll on my phone for few hours and go back to sleep only to wake up on sunday almost noon.

I usually do all my laundry on weekday. Not much house chores are needed to be done as i am staying alone.

Is this pattern concerning?

I want to move out and have my own space but at the same thing I know if I move out, I won’t have enough money to travel. Has anyone been in this situation?

Hello! If you need someone to talk to, a companion, or just want to find a little happiness despite this stressful world, I’m here for you. :)

Are there any matchmaking experiments where you sign up for an arranged marriage based on some metrics like personality, values, goals, etc (not a reality show)?

If you have heard of the reality show Married at First Sight, I like the concept but think the cameras sabotage the experience. The show clearly casts people for ratings. With the state of dating at the moment, I am open to just trying something different. Personalised matchmaking doesn’t have a better reputation than online dating from what I’ve seen (hit and miss).

• In Europe would be ideal
• No broadcasting/show type of experiments
• Includes some expert input/matching
• Can be an academic or social study
• Commitment is key to the experiment
• Inclusive to people who want a family
• Preferably for over 30s

Where do I sign up? 😊😅 Please no advice about making an effort socially - I am active socially, physically (fitness), travel , etc. I have also spent lots of time on self-development.

This is not a rant post, this is simply my observations. As you all know, everything in life is getting more expensive, or is it? Because, by my observations, I think the cost of living, housing and paycheque to paycheque crisis is fake. Again, you dont have to agree with me, but there is literally no evidence that proves that any of this is real. For example, there are countless news articles out there/surveys and polls that talk about this stuff. But, how do we know its even real? People can either lie or exaggerate the info they give which skews the data and makes it impossible to tell if its real.

Also, yeah I am aware rent has gone up, but nobody seems to be affected, which coming to that conclusion, means its all fake. Like its just that you need to provide evidence in order to prove that something is real, but the evidence being provided isnt accurate or reliable. Also, the student loan crisis is fake. Again, we dont have any evidence that proves its real. Government data can be manipulated and faked, and again numbers dont mean anything. I could say I make a million dollars a year, and some of you might believe me, but i just made that up.

You can make up anything online whether its on social media, news articles or even news stations. And you might think, well maybe when you talk directly to families about this stuff and how its affecting them, that can provide some insight. Well, those can be fake as well. People can make up sob stories about things, especially if you see this stuff on social media. Never underestimate the amount of fake stories or info on social media. I just dont understand why our news networks, who are under very strict guidelines regarding what they present on tv, are lying straight to our faces.

I am not trying to be a troll. I am simply a person who observes a lot of things in my life and comes to conclusions. Oh and also another thing I should mention is I think they also lie about the average salary in a country or city. For example, the average salary in the us for a person is 60k in 2025. But how do we know thats accurate? Sure, you could go on government websites, but again, the news lies a lot. I am pretty sure that the real answer is the average salary is 200k in canada and the us, and that low income is not a thing anywhere and that every household makes 300-400k a year. Again, this is my point of view, and you dont have to agree with it, but I think its important to think about it. I am curious to hear your guys viewpoints on this matter.

18M I’m looking for a apartment rn and I really don’t know what to have or ask for when looking on fb or something like that

Me and my friend group are all arpund 20 years old now, but we are a friend group of few years, knowing each other since 14 or something. Recently there were going on a lot of romantic relationships, between people inside the group or with someone outside who then joined in on the outings.

I know this is normal part of growing up and being adult, I have friends that for sure know they want to start family in before going on thirty so it's normal they are so much into it right now, but those like me who want to start family later in life (for me after 30) it get's really lonely even while in the group. The couples are just having their own fun in two and tend to completly ignore the rest of the group. They act like they do give some time to rest of the friends here but in reality they give minimum effort, like 10 min a day to others and then they again just close themselves with their other half.

Well, I know it's normal part of growing up but it makes me really frustrated sometimes, I don't want a lot of attention or anything, but it didn't used to be like this and I honestly miss those times were bf amd gf weren't so important to them. Was it like this for other friend groups too? How did you feel when this started happening all around?

(Btw when I say 10 min a day I mean only during group trip, not everyday life. It would be something else if they put 10 min every day in their life)

Please list what and how to clean by day, week, month, season, and year.

I keep trying to clean everything at once and it’s exhausting.

Looking to cut down on my screen time without going all or nothing. I find myself aimlessly scrolling through social media or binge-watching shows, which I know is getting out of hand. It’s even impacting my productivity and mental well-being. Plus, porn addiction is something I've been trying to tackle too; it feels like everything is just a click away.

Have you found any effective methods or routines to help reduce usage gradually? Any practical tips for setting limits without feeling miserable would be super helpful!

A towel warmer.

• What’s your least favorite chore?
• What do you do to treat yourself?
• What quote gets you through hard days?
• What’s your unpopular adulting opinion?
• What’s something about being an adult that’s better than being a kid?
• What relatively insignificant thing do you worry about a lot?
• Do you like work better than you liked school?

M29, I have this friend (also M29) who has been my best friend for 15 years. We have been through a lot together, graduated together, moved cities together, went through victories and heartbreaks together; so it kills me to have this conversation with him, but we have just gone down two separate paths, and it has reached the point where continuing the friendship would not be healthy or productive.

Around 4 years ago, he went through a mental shift. He quit his job, broke up with his girlfriend, stopped renewing his IDs and everything, and was just kind of floating. Obviously hard to maintain a friendship when you are in your 20's and wanting to do shit when someone is broke, homeless, and no ID, but we still made it work.

Around a year ago he got into meth, and now he lives in a tent. What set me off was that every message he has sent for the past 4 months was to ask for shit (not money, but favors; whether it be drives, moving shit, or whatever). He fucking asked today, after not speaking for a month, to help him move radiators for whatever reason. I just had enough.

I guess what I'm asking is, do I go complete hardball and cut him out, or put it in a way where the door is open if he actually wants to talk, or be a legitimant friend? Maybe I already know and just needing to vent. Who knows

I already sew/embroider and crochet (I've tried knitting, didn't work out). I like making things, and I've dabbled in drawing and painting a little bit but not much.

Edit: I am also an avid reader!