/r/TheSensualReviewed
r/TheSensualReviewed is a subreddit to share and learn about non-fiction erotic and sexual help books, movies and tv shows. You will find links to useful websites, social media pages and online shopping experiences to enhance your sexual experiences.
Other subreddits:
r/sex r/sexover30 r/bdsm r/bdsmcommunity r/lgbt r/tantra r/passionx r/tantricsex r/sextoys r/sexpositive r/passionsex
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Author: Joanna Bolouri
Couldn't resist the sub heading: The naughtiest rom com you will read this year.
As the title suggests all is far from well in the relationship. I finally stopped reading at 4 in the morning. Well crafted characters, well written, many chuckles, a few laugh out loud moments, for me this a real page turner - which I had not expected. Plot and sub plots galore. I'm 61% through according to the info provided on my Kindle. Thoroughly enjoyable.
Personally I've only tried the former, (M) and it's OK but I need to stay on top of it otherwise my hairy garden grow. I understand there are some products for the use in this area, frankly I've been scared off by some of the reviews. As a female do you prefer your man free of genital hair? As a male do you like a clear of hair genital area preferentially? Is there any "in-between". I have never tried waxing yet though in my past someone slapped a waxing strip on my inner thigh and ripped it off - it wasn't a pleasant experience. Supplementary question: Should men shave their nipples?
Can anyone recommend a glass butt plug that will actually stay in place on its own while actively (and perhaps vigorously) attending to other areas?
https://www.xruniversity.com/ is eXtreme Restraints University
Also see https://www.extremerestraints.com/xr-university.html which is another link to the episodes on offer
And finally, please check out https://www.extremerestraints.com/ for sex toys including bondage gear, fucking machines, sex furniture and clothing
XR University is a website dedicated to providing educational content completely free. There is no sign up required.
I don't mind that some websites ask you to join as a member or pay a fee, but I am still not a member of most of the sites I use. I like my privacy. I like keeping my mailbox free of junk mail. And if I was a member of every site I frequent, I would be completely broke.
I think knowledge should be free (within reason). I am a medical professional and had to pay my own tuition which should need no further explanation. I have a problem with educational sites and clubs that require membership fees and more money for add-ons. I am careful with what I sign up for and hope you are too. Concerns have been raised recently about one sex membership group 'OneTaste' with members claiming to be deeply in debt due to the cost of classes and sessions.
Wonderfully, XR is completely free and user friendly. You don't have to be a fan of bondage to enjoy the educational offers this site has. You can simply skip and choose the videos and articles you wish to read.
Here is a selection of their episodes (71 episodes are currently listed on their page):
Masturbation a collection of 4 scenes from 10 to 30 min in length
I haven't watched all of the episodes as I haven't had enough time but I can tell you that I am very impressed with the content. There is a mixture of interviews, in-depth discussion and practical explanations. It doesn't feel like porn being filmed and passed off as 'educational'. On occasion there are short commercials (e.g. for lubricant). Due to the nature of eXtreme Restraints being a sex toy retailer, this makes complete sense. These commercials are short and not too in-your-face.
Take a look and enjoy!!
Follow eXtreme restraints:
Podcast - available on iTunes, Stitcher, Google Play, Tuneln and iHeart (see website for details)
Lingam - Comes from the Sanskit लिंगम् meaning 'sign, symbol or mark'. In Indian society, the linga is seen as a symbol of the energy and potential of god Shiva. It loosely translates to 'wand of light'.
it is often a phallic symbol in origin and this is why it has been used to describe 'lingam massages'.
The female equivalent is the 'yoni' which I will post about at a later date.
A lingam massage is a type of tantric massage which focuses primarily on the male genitalia. It is much more than a hand job and not to be confused with a 'happy ending' at the end of a massage.
There are two ways to enjoy a lingam massage. The first is for a man to learn about it and practice on themselves during masturbation. The second is where a partner gives the massage. This can be an independent act or during foreplay before sex.
During a tantric massage, we can connect with ourselves and our partner on a deep level while also connecting with the universal sexual chi (or energy) which is within ourselves and our partner's body as an energetic life force.
A lingam massage involves not only massaging and stroking the penis, but also incorportating the testicles, perineum, abdomen and prostate (Sacred Spot).
How to perform a lingam massage
Take care:
As well as massage parlours offering happy endings, there are commercial 'tantra temples' offering lingam massage. Some of these venues have genuine tantra practitioners and offer a deeply spiritual experience. Others are trying to make money by offering a sexual service. A tantric massage can cost up to $1000 for one hour. Be careful and do your research.
Let's finish with an example of a great lingam massage . Please enjoy this video and aim to give yourself, or your partner a lingam massage very soon.
Xvideos Lingam Tantra Massage 54min
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Similar to my Slut Academy post, I came across this one on my deepthroat research adventure.
This site annoyed me a little. There is an extensive menu, but your eyes will be drawn to the 'click to access powerful sex tips' icon. I did and it took me to a sign up page. I haven't signed up yet as I loathe websites that annoy you with these requests and then clog your mailbox with clickbait. Let me know if you have signed up to the site and what your experiences have been.
On the rest of the homepage there is a link to 'cutting-edge sexuality research' and a few links to their recent studies. I enjoyed reading about their ejaculation mapping study and recommend you take a look.
Other features:
I liked the layout and artwork. I didn't like being asked to sign up to the newsletter again and again. The sex positions had great descriptions but you needed to click through them one by one which was time consuming and the format wasn't clear.
I think this site has great potential but I haven't decided if I want to signup just yet.
After providing a link to this site in my thread on deepthroat techniques I decided to check out The Slut Academy in greater detail.
The website is well organised and looks up to date but the first page says that it is under construction 'through 2016'. Therefore I don't know how up to date it really is. Nonetheless, I signed up, which was free.
If you wish to sign up, you need to be able to follow the admissions guidelines. The material on the site is free to read whether or not you sign up, but signing up has the benefits of access to a forum and being able to track your progress through the courses set up.
If you sign up, check your junk e-mail as that's where my login info was sent.
Over the next few months I will review those I find particularly interesting and invite you to do the same. Although the site is primarily aimed at women, I believe the information is useful to both men and women of all orientations (just pick and choose what you like).
Here is a list of some of the courses offered:
Basic Human Sexual Anatomy and Physiology
Fashion Sense for Today's Slut
Advanced A&P: Female Sexual Anatomy
Advanced A&P: Male Sexual Anatomy
Understanding Dominance and Submission
Masturbation: The Art of Self Love
Some of the courses appear to be under construction, others say 'to start in 2015'. I have contacted the 'Headmistress' to find out more and if the website is still being updated. It would be truly sad to lose what seems to be a great resource.
p.s. How do you feel about the word 'slut'? I have always disliked the word and it's connotations. How does it make you feel?
After my last thread (on the awful deepthroat video), I wanted to share some of the good resources I have and welcome you to share yours. (with thanks to u/thecuntyvaginashow)
Starting with The Huge Dildo Homepage, this retro website gives great advice with simple anatomical diagrams. I recommend starting here.
From The Slut Academy I bring to you a longer, much more detailed explanation of deep throat techniques.
The Bad Girls Bible provides a range of information, including a podcast.
And here is an old reddit thread I found which has some useful info
Enjoy and please share any resources or tips you have
When I was researching blowjob and deepthroat techniques I came across this video
It's from 2001 and stars Heather and Jim Harmon. Their website is ideepthroat.com
The site is definitely out of date as Heather introduces herself as 24 years old (and she is now 37). It appears that the site still accepts payment for membership so I advise you to be careful before pursuing this, just in case you lose your money.
The video on pornhub, is just over 39 mins long and promises to teach how to deepthroat. I love giving blowjobs, and I love to deepthroat when I can but almost always end up with a sore next, sore jaw, or worry a lot about me technique. I was hoping to get some tips and tricks from this vid.
Throughout the introduction, Heather reads from cue cards and it's uncomfortably bad. What came next was footage of Heather performing a blowjob. No narration, no instruction. It felt as though this was made by a young couple who wanted to make it big in porn.
After this, Heather gives her advice which was nothing I haven't heard before. She then demonstrates her technique on some dildos.
The reading from cue cards continues and the editing gets worse.
I considered not bothering to review this video but think it's important to cover both the good and the bad. Let me know if you disagree.
My advice, don't waste your time here. Don't join up on their site. And please send me any good deepthroat resources that you may have.
Just wanted to say hello to my 1.5k subscribers. This sub has been active for less than 7 days and I hope it continues for many many more.
I just wanted to introduce myself and invite you all to take part in making posts. Don't be shy! Throwaways are welcome if you don't want your posts to be associated with your main account.
I'm PheebDweeb. A new redditor but long time lurker. I'm 33, single, and I live in the UK. I love all things sex. I have never had any professional training in this area but I love to research it.
What kind of posts have I made so far?
Well so far, I'm putting together resources I hope we can all use. I propose we make titles such as 'Book:, Video:, Website:, Audio:' etc. But I'm happy to hear ideas.
I receive no sponsorship whatsoever from anything that I choose to post. My topics will always be in my opinion and you are welcome to disagree with how I feel about things.
Please get involved and introduce yourselves,
PheebDweeb xx
How to Eat Pussy Like a Champ - Seymore Butts
Also starring Ron Jeremy, Nina Hartley and Jack Lawrence.
This 94 min instructional video promises to teach you 'how to eat a pussy right'
More info here
The beginning is a mix of clips showing what's to come with cast and crew names displayed.
At 01:58 the introduction begins with Seymore Butts (what a name!)
The first expert is Nina Hartley (with Sunny Lane). Nina is on the floor in front of a sofa, while Sunny Lane is sat legs spread on the sofa. Nina discusses anatomy without being too scientific and it never gets boring. Despite the title (eat pussy), Nina spends a lot of time talking about techniques she uses to simply play with a pussy (just with her own hands and Sunny Lane's kegel exercises). I loved her segment and have tried some of the 'play' techniques in my own masturbation.
The second expert is Jack Lawrence (with Veronica Rayne) at 22:28. Jack says that women are like crockpots while men are microwaves. Sounded weird at first but actually makes sense. Women need to warm up over a long time. Jack discusses foreplay (his pre-game show), warming up, anticipation and how to drive a woman crazy. Similar to the Nina Segment, I was surprised how long it took before Jack put his mouth on Veronica's pussy. I had the (wrong) opinion that this video would be a disappointing 94 mins of pussy eating to music. I was so happy to be wrong.
At 51:42, the third expert is Ron Jeremy (with Veronica Rayne). Ron likes to tease and it looks amazing. There seemed to be less spoken instruction with Ron but a lot could be learned through watching him at work (and Veronica definitely enjoyed it).
Seymore Butts then shows us his tips at 59:33 with Mari Possa. Seymore starts with the G spot and how to approach it from different positions. He then talks about eye contact during oral sex, and then ass play as part of pussy eating. In a variety of positions Seymore shows some of his ass play techniques.
At 1h16min, Seymore presents an award for your undivided attention. The rest of the video is a'free for all'. This felt unnecessary to me and didn't add anything to the experience. Watch for yourselves and let me know what you think.
Today I will introduce a website you may or may not have heard of. I'm sure you have come across a hegre-art massage video, even without knowing it's source.
www.hegre.com (formerly hegre-art.com)
Also see masseurporn.com/hegre-art
Founded in 2002 by Peter Hegre, herge.com brings a natural and intimate style to contemporary erotic photography.
My first introduction to herge-art videos was through pornhub massage videos. Here are some of my favourites:
The website itself is modern and user friendly. With the options of explore, photos, films, massage, models, live cams, sexed, tantra, news, casting and testimonials.
Member options are available 'Our members are not like the usual crowd; they're not here for cheap thrills and fake experiences. They're connoisseurs of quality erotica.' A year of full membership comes to $0.40 per day.
Edit: I am not a member of Hegre and this is not a sponsored post in any way. I made this post to introduce it to you and let people know about it. I thank everyone for any feedback you have and how this and future posts can be improved. If anyone here is a member please let us know about it and if you think it's worth the cost.
Better Gay Sex 1994 Pornhub 51m51s IMDB link
First off, let me say that I am not a gay male. I am a bisexual female. I chose to watch and review this video due to my interest in all things sexual. If you feel that it is not appropriate for me to review anything outside of my own sexual interests, please let me know and I won't be offended.
The introduction is by Dr Jonathan Cartledge (an HIV consultant) who discusses what to expect from the video but also the serious health concerns with sex and HIV transmission and hepatitis. I was impressed with his candidness and use of language. I have yet to see such an introduction in a heterosexual video and think it should be encouraged.
Just over 2 minutes in, the film starts with two men playing pool. A weird poem is read out by a narrator and the music is a bit odd (but not the worst that I have heard in porn). Then the kissing begins and the title of the video is displayed.
Dr Robert Flynn then talks about gay sex and the forms it can take (from committed relationships to one night stands). My favourite quote from him is the following (which made me laugh out loud) '...you'd think we'd all be damned good at it [sex] but I know a lot of guys who think whacking it out and shaking it a few times until the old spermatozoa start flying is the most fun they can have..' and '...there's more to a man than his dick...'.
Then comes more poetry. I didn't appreciate this at all but maybe it was hip in the 90's.
Throughout the rest of the film passion, intimacy, foreplay and full sex are discussed. Real couples (I'm not sure if they were real or actors) narrate at times and discuss what they like about their partners.
Other topics touched upon are commitment, relationships, monogamy, anatomy (including circumcised vs uncircumcised), kissing, oral sex, mutual masturbation, penis sensitivity, speed, pressure, hand job techniques, use of condoms, lubricant, fantasies, testicles and anal sex (bottoms and tops).
'Great sex takes time'
I loved the sex scenes and was turned on at times (imagining myself in the place of one of the men). I think this video can be enjoyed by both men and women of any orientation.
https://www.bestsexpositions.com/
I found this site when I was making my previous post (How to give a world class blowjob).
The first page features headlines such as
It has a 'What's hot' section, 'Sex position of the week' and 'Our favorites'
The top of the page features a drop down menu
This site is easy to navigate and the links are up to date. It appears strictly heterosexual though as I have yet to find a gay or lesbian video.
Check it out and let me know what you think
Lovers Sex Guide - How to give a world class blow job Pornhub link
This is a 55min instructional video starring Angela Crystal and Tristan Seagal
More info here
This instructional video promises to teach the following:
What I liked:
The chemistry between the actors
Unlike many 'instructional' videos which are just two people have sex, this video has actual instructions and gives tips and tricks to improving blowjob technique
Anatomy discussion - demonstrated on a dildo and diagrams
Does give swallowing tips
What I didn't like:
The link I watched on pornhub was out of sync but this didn't affect it too much
The music was awful
This video was strictly focused on man and woman interactions for blowjobs. I would have preferred an all inclusive approach including gay blowjob content. I will work on finding more gay and lesbian content for future posts.
Doesn't discuss deep throat techniques (including relaxing the jaw) in detail
My wife is a extremely multi orgasmic and a very heavy squirter probably 90% of the time.
We’ve been using these Mambe silky throw blankets for over a year and they are a life saver. No more avoiding sleeping in the wet spot or changing sheets multiple times a week.
They are perfect for massages with lots of oil, period sex, anal, squirting, and general play. They are soft and comfortable. Look very nice and really do the trick without feeling crinkly or unnatural.
For marathon sessions, we layer them and remove the top one to be on a dry one continuously and bring two in our play bag. Not affiliated with the company but it’s a small business and we recommend them highly. They are also less expensive and higher quality than some of the products out there marketed for squirters.
Just a warning, if you over-saturate them they can spill over the edges. Has only happened twice while I was there and on their smallest throw.
This suggestion was made by SurreptitiousSpark in another sub. I have never delved into audio erotica before but decided to give it a try. I am aware of r/gonewildaudio but found it hard to navigate and find something that interested me. Please send me links you like if you think you can change my mind.
From the LinkedIn page: Dipsea is building a platform for audio stories that turn women on. Founded on the belief that female desire and pleasure are more a question of brain than body, Dipsea is taking on a new medium (audio), and a new format (short stories) to create elevated, feminist content for millennial women.
So, I ventured to https://www.dipseastories.com/ and was met with a Sign up request. I ignored it and selected 'Listen'.
I am met with a list of five options. Each has a simple description 'female perspective' 'intimate' 'sensuous'. I chose one of the first on the list Through the Window
13min34sec long. I found it unerotic. I am a very visual person. I need to see things to experience them. I struggle with audio only.
There is some background noise (traffic etc) but I found it quite sterile. The woman speaking sounded as though she was reading from a script with little emotion at first. Over time she relaxes.
I listened to the whole thing but it didn't do anything for me.
I may explore the other options at a later date, but for now I'll stick with resources that I know will entice me.
Annie Sprinkle is a sex educator, former sex worker, feminist stripper, porn actress, television host, porn magazine editor, writer, produced and sex-positive feminist. Wikipedia page
Her website is fun and inviting with photos that immediately show Annie's vibrant personality. Her CV is available on her site and it is very impressive.
Annie can also be found on Facebook and Twitter
The site is split into sections, including:
I first came across Annie's site when I was reading around the topic of cervical orgasms and I came across this page - Seven Types of Female Orgasm
The article is found in the Writings and musings section which is definitely worth browsing if you are looking to increase your sexual knowledge.
In the article Annie touches upon the work of Freud, Masters & Johnson, Kinsey and others. She delves into the mystery surrounding the female orgasm.
My favourite quote from the article:
'Orgasms are like grains of sand; no two are exactly alike'
At the end of the article, Annie sources her information and provides a list of workshops where she gathered some of her orgasm information.
I love learning about sex experts and educators, so I made a list of the people Annie Sprinkle mentions and where they fit in sexual exploration:
How does everyone feel about setting up a book club? This was my original idea and the reason why I joined reddit last month.
I would like to set up a club where we choose a book (based on discussion or online vote), read it by a given time and then discuss it together. What do you think?
My first book choice was 'Bonk' by Mary Roach Amazon UK link ISBN 978-1847676061
Reasons why I think this would be great:
Being people together
Learn about new sexual topics
Broaden horizons
Reasons why this may not work:
Different time zones and work schedules (I'm based in London)
Everyone reads at a different speed and has other commitments
Different taste in books
So, I leave it up to you. This is a small subreddit but we have to start somewhere. What do you think?
An alternative idea is that everyone reads and looks up resources in their own time and then shares a review as and when they are ready.
Or, third idea, we set up different book clubs. E.g a womens club, lesbian club, gay club, bdsm books etc. Therefore people choose whichever content they would like.
Please let me know what you think xx
Sexology (2016) IMDB link
Description: A taboo breaking quest to discover the secrets of the female orgasm
Storyline (written by Lee McLellan on IMDb) In a post sexual revolution world, where you can purchase a vibrator just as easily as a pair of shoes, roughly one-third of all women have never experienced an orgasm. Armed with shocking sexual data, a bunch of insecurities and a determination to unlock the key to feminine sexual energy, filmmakers Catherine Oxenberg and Gabrielle Anwar seek out sexual experts, tantric masters, researchers and everyday women to unearth feminism's full potential.
This 92min documentary is definitely worth a watch. It is split into a series of lessons
Lesson 1 - Know Your Body
Lesson 2 - Lose Your Mind
Lesson 3 - The Practices
Lesson 4 - Partnership
Lesson 5 - Know Yourself Know Your Partner
Lesson 6 - Love Yourself
Conclusion - The Ultimate Orgasm
Here is a list of the experts involved in the documentary.