So, because of scheduling, my wife and I have to have our 'scenes' on Saturday morning. Not ideal, but oh well.

So each week, I need to come up with ideas for a 'three act scene.' Last week, I had her walk naked to the exercise room in the basement, where I tied her up standing to the weight lifting machine as if it were a St Andrew's cross, and played with her mercilessly. For act II, I let her tie me up and play - not really her thing, but she was a good sport. Then I brought her back upstairs and took her like a slut. She came four times, and then passed out, utterly spent.

It was all a little rough. I put her butt plug in, spanked her with a slut paddle, all sorts of naughty things. Well, naughty for us, we're pretty vanilla. She'd never worn a BDSM harness before ... and she'd certainly never seen me wear one. It was a big surprise.

So this week, I'm thinking of something more gentle. She has a huge Daddy fetish. So I got some pink lipstick for her to wear, when she comes out of the bathroom naked, ready to become whatever I whisper in her ear. She's very suggestible, almost a changeling, she becomes for a little while the character I describe to her.

So when she comes out, I'll whisper some Daddy/Good girl talk, play with her a little, make her pose for Daddy, and put her butt plug in - we're slowly working back up to full-on anal. Then I'll take her in the bathroom and give her a lavender bubble bath, keeping up the daddy talk. I've heard some people have a feeding fetish, so I've found little things I can feed her while she's in the bubble bath: chocolate, baklava, melon balls. Those will be fun later. I'll make her sip a margarita, and she'll say "But Daddy, I'm not old enough to drink." And I'll say "It's OK, Princess, just take a couple sips for Daddy. You'll feel all warm inside."

I'll still be fully dressed, necktie and everything. She won't know it, but I'll be covered in temporary tattoos, like a full on biker. This will be a big shock to her: I'm a poet/professor/academic, and neither of us would ever dream of getting a tattoo. I keep koi ponds, so the 'sleeves' are koi themed, and there will also be mermaids - she likes mermaids - and some music themed ones (she's a classical musician).

And I have some 'tattoos' for her: butterflies, hummingbirds, roses. We'll have fun putting them on her after she gets out of the bath. She'll have lots to choose from.

Then I'll get her dressed. I got a bouncy-flouncy puffy purple skirt - her favorite color. And a cute pink top, easily accessible, that says 'Babygirl.' She'll have a good girl collar, and a princess tiara. Remember she'll still have her jeweled butt plug in. And for act II, I'll lead her into my office, after I put her wrist and ankle cuffs on, so she'll know she belongs to Daddy.

I'll sit down in my office, and make her come bouncing down the hallway, 'just home from school,' all excited. She has a small exhibition fetish, so I'll have her say 'Daddy, I have something to show you.' And I'll have her lie on the office couch, and 'show me.' She'll beg me to come over and touch her, but I'll refuse, and she'll get so excited she'll follow all of Daddy's instructions: "Show me your tender little breasts. Play with your nipples. Daddy wants you to open your legs wide, so he can see your princess parts. Does my pretty girl want to rub her little pussy for Daddy?" I'll hand her some toys and make her play with them while I call her my pretty little good girl slut. She'll come so hard!

Then I'll take her into the bedroom, and tie her spread eagle to the bedposts. And I'll tease her, play with her, feed her little treats. I'll slowly change her butt plug to a new vibrating one, and that's when she finally gets Daddy's cock. But first I'll slip some melon balls into her tender little pussy. I'm really looking forward to that moment: She'll be tied up, helpless, with a butt plug vibrating in her ass, melons balls in her pussy, and my cock slowly going in as she says "Daddy, it's too big! I'm just a little girl!" She loves to say that. I love watching her face when she comes.

Then I'll untie her, have her turn on her side, and take her tenderly from behind. It's almost like our version of aftercare. She always comes for me when I come inside her. I'll let her lie there for a little while, and then have her turn over and put her head on my shoulder. And I'll have her whisper "Daddy, was I a good girl?" And I'll say "Yes, princess, you were the best good girl ever!" I love her smile in those moments.

Anyway, all this happens tomorrow morning. I still have a little time to plan. So if you have any ideas that will make this even more fun for her, I'd love to hear them. Or, are there any red flags in the plan? Things I'm forgetting? Things I should say? Remember, she's very suggestible.

I am having trouble being fisted. When I got together with one of my partners he told me he really likes fisting and I said ”why not?”. He can’t get his hand in past the knuckles no matter how relaxed and/or turned on I get. His hands are very large.

My new partner also likes fisting and has small hands and I thought, “Good, he should be able to fist me no problem and I can work my way up to my partner with the big hands.“ No dice. He can’t get his hand in past the knuckles either.

To be clear they have both fisted plenty of other people and know how to hold their hands. It feels to me that they run into bone, but my pelvis can’t be that narrow. So, is it muscle or what?

This has now become a point of pride for me, since I bragged I could easily take a good fisting because I’ve had whole ass people in there. I’ve given birth four times and my youngest was over nine pounds. Why can’t I take a proper fisting?

Hi kinksters! So,

Me (22F) and my bf (25M) are having issues and I'm the problem. He doesn't feel loved or desired enough by me though I try to show him. I love him and we're going to make it work, I would really appreciate some advice. I've always had trouble opening up and have been insecure about my desires & I'm not going to quote him- can't remember, but he's said things before that I took as him not being open to doing certain things I enjoy (which I'm totally ok with). I've assured him that vanilla sex with him is so enjoyable but the whole bdsm thing is unfamiliar to him and I don't think he understands the importance of it to me outside of sex. I don't know how to help him understand without sounding like a complete weirdo. It's been taking a toll on our sex life, and lately he wants sex more than I do, and it's hurting our relationship. I had him take the bdsm test.... we both lean submissive with neither of us having dominant traits. I'm not closed off to the idea of being dominating for him sometimes or tying him up. We've talked about taking turns tying each other up and me controlling his orgasms. But I'm really looking to get more from him too, and have expressed it. I just feel embarrassed. I think I'm just now realizing how important my kinks are to me. He's definitely open to trying things. Rougher sex with him is so good, but he's mentioned before that he feels pressure that sex always has to be rough & dominant and it wasn't the best conversation but I tried to reassure him that's not the case. That I'm satisfied regardless. He's said things (before he fully knew what I'm into) along the lines of cnc being anti-feminist and that he didn't think he could ever be comfortable hitting a woman, and that bdsm is a black hole that you just fall deeper in and it will never be enough, and that a lot of the time it stems from unhealthy past experiences.

I want to be a sexual being again, I want the feeling of being subby but it's so hard for me to get into that headspace. Thoughts or suggestions of how I can get him to be more dominant with me? Is bdsm really a black hole? Can two submissives maintain a healthy sex life? How!

Please help :( Peace

Hey all. Looking to see if anyone knows a good place online to order something like the title says internationally. Baking them myself isn't an option of course so if anyone knows a site for either human made ones or possibly regular ones just safe for humans.

Just looking for some fun and exciting methods to explore being tamed as a brat, and hopefully learn something to add to my pouch of ideas! (no hard limits besides substance play) (not a dom)

How did you all find your current partner(s)? My interests are not compatible with my current dating partner, and I've never met someone organically who I connect with in these areas. I'm a bit nervous to go to a meetup or club by myself but don't currently know anyone personally in the community. Help!

All right… I’m just going to let myself fully vent here.

My first king relationship was also my first kink relationship. To be fair it started when I was in high school… so while I was learning about my sexuality I was also being trained to be a perfect little sub brat baby.

The sub/dom dynamics in my relationship before where so insanely perfect and hot (subs let your daddy know how much you love them 🥺) Things he would do that I love: -make me beg to be fucked and give me spankings until I said it just the way he wanted me to -fuck my throat until spit was pouring down my face. Then he would make me play with it and blow bubbles -offered SO much praise and called me a good girl constantly (as I deserved) our dynamic outside of the bedroom was constant sexual tension and it was so yummy

That relationship went on for many good years, and we had a peaceful ending. I am now very in love with current partner. We have been together 6 years!! But y’all.. this guy does not have a dominate bone in his body. He.. makes love ❤️ and is sensual… and authentically.. vanilla!

I feel like I’ve tried it all. We talk about it obvi… I’ve explained to him in great deal what turns me on or I enjoy and I try to pull some of these things out when we are in bed. I get no responses 🥺 he’s just not a dom.

We are going to see a sex therapist. I really love him and want to feel MORE sexually with him. Anyone have any new ideas I’m not trying?

I want to start being a domme for my boyfriend and maybe get a cuck, how should I start?

I have a crying kink. In my life I haven't been in front of many people who have cried, except funerals and people crying once in a blue moon outside that. So it is interesting to me that I as a sadomaschist am drawn to crying scenes in stories. Think of wump too.

Do you have a crying kink? How did you realize? What are your thoughts regarding dacryphilia?

I know the basics of bdsm, safewords kinks etc what I’m looking for is a book teaching me about the safety aspect, like safe ballbusting, knife play etc. TIA

In her video "Pump it up", Drea Morgan uses a leather collar with inflatable bladders inside.
(Link here: https://bondagevalley.cc/watch/pump-it-up\_3d9c607d3cbc1a573a40f27a915eac02.html# )
For those who don' t want to watch the video, here's a couple of screenshots
https://i.redgifs.com/i/unnaturalsilvercardinal.jpg
https://i.redgifs.com/i/spectacularwhoppingarieltoucan.jpg
The collar has two bladders, with an "empty spot" in the front, so it shouldn't press much on the trachea. Also, this is the only collar I've ever seen with a "dead man" safety.
My wife loves the feeling of being strangled, but I am always in search of a safer way to play that game. This would be very good (I think), but I do not know who makes it, or where to buy it.
I'd appreciate any help you can offer in finding this device.

So i want to try enjoy anal more and need some advice/help. Im not incredibly new to anal. I have a set of start plugs and can fit 1.5inch plug in comfortably.

The problem more comes in when I want to try fuck myself with a dildo or someone fuck me I cant do it for very long. I end up sadly feeling a burning sensation like ring burn. Anyone have any advice for how I can enjoy anal for longer and more? I know stretching is always good and using plenty of lube.

I dont do much anal maybe only once a month as it can be a bit messy at times to try practice every night but I'd love to be able to enjoy it more. Any adivce appreciated ❤️

Anyone know any good things to say or names for a female brat with a praise kink? It’s a weird combo for me because how do you give someone praise while you punish them?

Howdy! I'm looking for advice on a potential anniversary gift. My wife and I will be celebrating three years of being together soon so I've been thinking of potential gifts and one idea a vial of my blood (something we've talked about before so I know she'd like it). I feel like I can't be the ONLY one to have done this so I was wondering if people have experience and have any advice such as what sorts of containers would work, if this is something that'll stay good or can the blood "go bad", etc. and any thing I may be overlooking.

I appreciate any advice, input, or even ideas about this!

I'm going through a separation and moving towards divorce. It's been 7 months since I initiated and recently became active (January) and I'm pretty slutty. I have a Daddy and I've been getting into Bimbofication. I do this when my kids aren't around, and Daddy gives me assignments and I go out as Bimbo. And I take men home after being veted and without kids.

I saw one of my neighbors (who saw me in my Bimbo gear for an assignment a week or so ago) yesterday and I was wearing sweats and an oversized t-shirt and the man would not look at me. On one hand I thought it was hilarious and thought better than to give him a wink - I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable, but then I wondered if I should be concerned or tone it down a little. His girlfriend saw me with a guy a couple of days ago.

I live in a small complex, which I really like but if I'm without kids I'll be dressed as Bimbo in some capacity. With kids I might wear something slightly more revealing (crop top) than in the past but nothing crazy.

I'm new to BDSM after being in a long term vanilla relationship so while on one hand I don't give a fuck, otoh I get concerned about how this may inadvertently impact my kids or potential custody.

Should I be concerned? Any advice?

I’m (48F, sub) new to D/s relationships, but recently started an ENM relationship with a Dom (52M). I’m super excited by the physical components of it (both sexual and impact, bandage, etc) but what’s most surprising to me is how into the emotional aspects of it I am. It’s not a 24/7 dynamic by any means (I’m married in a vanilla relationship and he also has a primary partnership with another sub), but he’s super solicitous, checks in with me via text throughout the day, actually asks how I’m doing, etc. I’m new to a dynamic like this, but I’m old enough that my expectation of cis straight men (e.g., the vanilla ENM relationships I’ve had) is that they’re not often very emotionally available or especially interested in checking in on a partner’s wellbeing. I don’t really have a concrete question to ask, other than to say I’m curious to hear others’ thoughts about how Dominant (straight, cis) men seem to buck societal norms (perhaps to a greater degree than non-kinky people) to enjoy what is a kind of demanding caretaking role (assuming a consensual motivation and not an abusive/controlling one, of course. Sorry for all the parentheses!)

I am not looking for a cage that prevents erections, but actually allows the full erection but blocks touching or masterbation. Any suggestions?

So as part of my quest to deep throat often and well for Sir, I invented my own training regimen. It involves wearing naughty things, placing the tip of one dildo in my cunt, and going for longer and longer with my new soft dildo (we named it "Flacido Domingo") as deep in my throat as I can manage. I tease my nipples and wiggle the lower dildo a bit to stay relaxed and sexual, but I'm mostly trying to eroticize having a cock deep in my throat as long as I can and work on going deeper. If I gave the session my all I am allowed to masturbate until I cum when it is over (which takes about 10 seconds :) ) Oh... and I have a dungeon playlist, with some music I found thanks to the community here.

Thing is, I forgot one of the pieces of music, "The Dream is Collapsing" from Inception, was in another playlist. And when it started playing, I promptly found my mind rocked with all sorts of intrusive thoughts and my pussy wet in a Pavlovian kind of way.

I'm also finding that when I masturbate just to masterbate, I now want that dildo in my throat. Although that may be part of Master's doing

So I'm curious what kind of work others have done on themselves and God forbid, if I ever have to undo some of this, how difficult is it?

I have an online relationship with a new sub. I’ve never met anyone like her - she’s so eager to make videos of herself performing for me, hurting herself for me, pleasuring herself for me.

I’m going to run out of things to do to her and I always want to surprise her. So I’m hoping someone can throw out suggestions of what to do with her to keep upping the game.

One challenge: she’s 19, still lives at home with her strict parents while she’s going to college, so I have to use items around the house. I can’t just buy her new toys to keep pushing her.

I did make her buy one vibrator (she’d never owned own) and hide it on her room. Within days she’s gone from never having more than a brush handle in her to fucking her pussy and ass with it. She’s used rubber bands on her nipples, pinched them… she loves breath play, hand on her own throat while she masturbates for me… I’m going to make her DP herself with brush and toy tonight but I’m running out of ideas!

She does like risk - I made her take off her panties and video herself secretly rubbing herself in class. So anything like that also welcome.

Help! And thanks in advance.

Hello fellow members of the BDSM community. I'm reaching out for some guidance regarding my journey in finding a compatible submissive partner. As a 19yo dominant with some experience under my belt (about an year, as much as I can have for now), I've encountered a hurdle that seems to stem from my age. While I acknowledge that age can be a factor in forming connections within the BDSM community finding a partner, I've personally never viewed it as a deterrent. However, I'm aware that this perspective may not be shared by everyone in the community, and it could potentially act as a barrier in my search.

I've found myself pondering if there are older, more experienced submissives who might be open to exploring dynamics with a younger dominant like myself and willing to share their experience with me to grow and improve together, both in sexual and daily life ways. While I'm confident in my abilities and approach, I understand that compatibility goes beyond age and requires a deeper understanding of individual desires and boundaries.

So, my question to you all is: Am I perhaps looking in the wrong places or approaching the search incorrectly? Maybe too ambitious? I'm open to any advice, or personal experiences you may have to offer. Ultimately, my goal is to keep learning and growing within the BDSM community while finding a lasting connection that is fulfilling and mutually satisfying.

Hello all! First of all, my (female slave) Dominant (female Mistress/Owner) and I have spoken of this at length and do have a few things we are going to be trying to get a handle on this situation. The communication remains open and we're in the trial and error phase. The point of this post is to see if anyone else in the community has had this issue, and if so what methods have worked for them.

So, my Mistress has terrible OCD and ADHD. She is on medication, but is in the process of finding one that works, which is a long and chaotic process. The problem is that her symptoms are so bad, it's negatively impacting our ability to do scenes together, or sometimes even have a simple conversation.

As I am the slave, I need to remain respectful and submissive at all times. However she has admitted she needs my help to stay grounded and focused, or multiple hours can go by with us not getting any closer to the start of a scene.

Usually when the scene stars, she is fine and we have great scenes. It's just the "prep phase" where the OCD kicks into high gear. As an example, I spent 3 hours the other day waiting while she moved things around in the dungeon, often back and forth between the same few spots.

We now have a single word I can say, to try and get her to refocus on the intention of the moment, as well as a hand signal I can do if I'm gagged or some such. I hope these will be enough, especially once we find the right medication. But, if not, I'd love to know if anyone out there also deals with this or a similar problem, and any tips or tricks you may have picked up. Thank you!

I'm a furry also, and consider myself a pet regressor

Hi!

So I have been with my partner, who is also my dom, for 2 years (known each other for about 5) and I have been really interested in getting collared.

(I got collared before and it was a very special thing for me but that person was emotionally abusive so the relationship ended. I do have some understanding of how it works, but it is just very little)

I have a lot of like written knowledge about BDSM but my partner only really got into it when we started dating and although he is super into it, I don’t know how to explain nor ask for being collared.

(I repeat: JUST BECAUSE HE IS NEW DOESNT MEAN HE DOESNT LIKE IT, HE LIKES KINK AND THE IDEA OF COLLARING HE JUST DOESNT HAVE MUCH KNOWLEDGE ON BDSM OR COLLARING OUTSIDE OF ME. I AM ALSO NOT TRYING TO MANIPULATE HIM INTO SOMETHING HE NIGHT NOT WANT OR TRYING TO BE SELFISH. HIS NEEDS ARE BEING MET.)

I don’t think we are fully ready for that step but do you guys have any advice on what I should have done before we think of collaring? Also, what even is collaring in detail because I can’t find one source that says the same thing? Are there maybe some books I can read about this?

Basically any help or tips are appreciated 🫶

(ps: i am writing it here and not in the advice subreddit because last time i wrote something there it got completely misinterpreted and i got attacked so yh)

Hello community, I'm planing to buy some more toywith my girlfriend. At this time we use only vibrators and ropes and they are lot of fun. But we want to get our self a flogger ball gag or maybe some more. Would be happy to hear recombination for newbie friendly toys. But the question is, how big role does quality of toys matters for play. We have bought previous toys in sexehops, but thinking about ordering the flogger and other small gadgets from Chinese eshops like temu or AliExpress simple because they are way cheaper there. Is it good idea or should I take look for higher quality? What is your experience.

I apologize if this is a common type of post. If it needs to be taken down, that’s fine. I live in the biggest city/capital of my state in the US and I can’t seem to find any opportunities for meeting kinky dates or play partners. None of the dating apps have ever worked for me. I am on Fetlife and there is a sex dungeon near me, but there are very few munches and they’re all either while I’m working or on Saturdays, which are the only day of the week that I get to hang out with my friends and I need that recharge time with them. It seems like the system is rigged for 40 year-olds and upwards who have typical 9-5 jobs or are retired and I can’t seem to catch a break. I guess I was wondering if anyone felt the same way and also if anyone knew of other methods of meeting potential BDSM/kink play partners or dates.

I just want to start off by saying: I have always been a sub. Thats 100% no brainer to me.

My issue is, I've grown up always being put in leadership positions. I was a team captain for years of a basketball team. And being in that role made me a whole different person that I loved being. I was egotistical, brave, arrogant, skilled, adored! Everytime I'm in a sub role, its like I cant respond. When a dom verbally addresses me or becomes dominant, I freeze. Part of that is because I become completely submissive, but the other half is I dont know how to respond. I always called the shots, so I dont know how to follow. This leads me to absolutely hate the sub that I am. Because lets face it, despite being a leader, being a dom is awful for me. It feels cold and out of place to me.

So how do I not freeze? I want to be that carefree sub that can obey on a whim, be bratty at times, and not be...well...a disapointment and mood killer to my dom. How do I overcome the vocal freezing, while maintaining that physical submission? I just want to be the perfect sub, who looks, sounds, and feels good.

I should also note that I cannot really gave sex completely naked-if I see my stomach at all, it ends the scene for me and completely shuts down the submissive side of me when im able to get into that mindspace...

Help?

tldr: Im polyam, have a partner that opted out of a specific kink of mine. totally cool and fine. dug into the reasons why as part of a unlinked conversation. since then, they've expressed an interest and even celebrated scenes we do together with elements of that said kink. I want to reconsult them on where the line is to see if they'd be willing to switch for this kink now that they're comfier.

context: A. I have a partner. partner is into many things. partner almost exclusively jacks off to furry porn. Partner and I have a like,,, 70/30 switching relationship.

B. I have an established interest in petplay from both sides of the equation. I've even dungeon monitored for petplay events.

C. I really like the total submission aspect of petplay when I bottom. I like getting attention, I like getting cuddles, I like the sexual component but that's not really the focus. I like sitting in the feeling of being a dumb creature thats only purpose is to be nice to it's owner and get loved on.

D. furry stuff and petplay have an overlap in my brain. I ask partner, I talk about it, they say it makes them a little uncomfy and they're not interested in pursuing it because my attachment to the kink can be asexual. I say ok and we table it and I seek it from another partner, all is well. done. didn't talk about it at all for a few months.

And here comes the confusing part. that first negotiation where it was a blanket no was months ago. since then, I've been the recipient of a few confusing requests/additions to our scenes in light of the no. ears and a tail buttplug in their ass? good girl as a name to call them? good doggie? calling me a good pup? requests to call them puppy and buy them a pretty collar that says puppy on it? I am happy about the development but I've spent an awful lot of time trying to figure out what's going on in their brain. they clearly asked for components of what I consider petplay. our last scene actually ended with me giving the girldog a bath while it's leash was attached to the towel rack. I am.... a tad confused. I'm happy, they're happy, but I'm so confused.

I haven't broached a big conversation yet-- obviously the big discuss is going to happen soon. we've kiiiinda talked about it before, but that discussion is normally limited to one-off mentions that I'm a little confused about the no to the broader concept if all the individual components are a yes.

the question is, do you all have advice for what I should do or say or talk about when I do have the longer conversation with them? I think ultimately my goal is to understand where the comfort line is in their brain so I can respect it, and beyond that, understand if theyd be willing to do some of the things I did to them to me. I trust this person with my whole heart, it's not like a pickup play or bdsm-scene exclusive relationship, Im in love with/financially support/do housechores with this person. frankly I think I might be a little envious of them because I'm designing scenes that I'd really enjoy living through and they like, rave about how fun it was after. maybe that's a little dumb. but I'm excited to hear any thoughts you have

Context: I was in a dom sub relationship/ dynamic for 3 years. I broke up with my dom because we were incompatible (outside of BDSM. We were very sexually compatible)

During BDSM I was EXTREMELY submissive. Like, the second he would show any dominance I would be like putty in his hands. (I can be a very good girl LOL)

Here’s the problem: I can’t make myself cum anymore because every time I get too excited I turn into a puddle. I lost my ability to masturbate!!!

Have you experienced this problem after breaking up with a play partner? Any advice would be appreciated but mutual commiseration would be nice.

Hello,

So I'm kinda question lots of things about what do to when you are with period but we are slave/sub etc.

And if the master/owner or even me is horny and want to do something. How I should act ? I know my pussy is off limit. But what can I do.

Sorry for the dumb/silly question...

Because I never got excited when I have my period but if I'm get horny what can I do...

Did you enjoy it? What kinds of people did you meet? What was the atmosphere like? What did you guys talk about? Did you make new friends? Were you invited to anything? I'm wondering general questions like these since I'm thinking of going to one.