So the past days i am building some sexual tension about this day that i will give her a magic day but i don't know if the ideia is good only in my head or its really a good thing.

First i will tell her to put specific clothing and that a car will wait for her outside the house and she has no ideia what is in that car, only that the day will be focus on bdsm love.
i wanna hire 2 professinals one man and one girl (she likes both) and make that atmosfere, they will pick her in the house on a car. They will open the dor and when she enters the girl will ask her if she trusts her husband, then inside the car she will sit on her lap and slowly make some makeup on her eyes lips and etc... after she end it one blindfold will be put on her and again she will ask if my lover trusts me. i will enter the car and drive some way she doesn't know i'm there ( its important that she feels that im not there to build some nervousness and excitement. ) .We will drive for a while and go to a fency room. There they will take her cloths of always something slow and romantic and tie my lover in an chair, the girl will offer some water and spill a little on her, that moment the guy will punish this girl while my lover only hear what its happening. i will enter the room dressed elegantly and with a feather do some things but she can't know its me. After a period i will take the couple out and go to my girl, remove the blind and ask if she wants any of those two in the room or wants them to participate, doesnt matter what she choose, they will leave and i will punish her anyways for being such a bad girl. The rest i leave for imagination.

So what u think? Its possible she likes or its too much idk... Sorry for the bad english.

Hello all I (25F service/sub) have some questions and curiosity about other people's experiences relating to my own.not sure if this is the right place but here goes

My Daddy and I work incredibly well together, we have amazing chemistry and our relationship feels ideal for us both as well as meeting our needs together.

Recently they expressed to me that when they buy a house for us together (next year) they want me to be a stay at home house bunny and be in charge of all the homely duties and chores. They'd financially be responsible and would want to absorb me entirely to better suit our dynamic which would easily possible for them.

This is something I've always wanted and believe it could work really well with this person but I'm also aware of how this could cause issues.

What are some things I should be aware of? How can I best prepare for a situation like this? What have your experiences been like both positive and negative? Where are other places or resources I can use to find more things I can relate to/learn from.

Hi there! I’m new to exploring BDSM and interested in learning more. As a beginner, I’m looking for safe and positive ways to understand the basics, connect with others in the community, and discover what resonates with me. I'd love advice on how to start exploring different roles, what resources might be helpful, and how to prioritize safety and consent. I’m especially interested in hearing from others who started out curious and found their way into the community. Thank you!

I'm unsure if I should have tagged this as Extreme/Advanced, but I'm looking for others who regularly indulge in medical fetish play, specifically gyn examinations. I won't go into detail unless a few others interact with me first. I haven't been able to find a specific community support for this that isn't clogged up with sellers (which I have no issue with).

Selfbondage and male masturbator - bad idea?

Hey.

I (male) am planning to do my first real selfbondage session in one week, when i will be home alone for some hours.

My wife and i have been doing light bondage already… i get fixated to the bedframe in a Y shape, legs with ropes and hands cuffed over my head. She gets between my spread legs and does whatever she wants…

Lately ive read a lot about prostate massage and no touch orgasms, so i asked her if it would be fine to get some toys for it.

This is what i got:

https://amzn.eu/d/4mOMBLg

She agreed but as i prepared myself and put the toy inside me, she realized that she didnt like it.

So she asked me to try it when she wasnt around. But of course theres no way i could keep my hands from myself as soon as the massager starts vibrating and thrusting.

So i decided to try out selfbondage where ice locks will keep me fixated for 1 hour at least and i wont be able to remove the vibrator or touch myself.

To further spice it up i ordered a masturbator that has stroking, vibrating and sucking function and will be fixated with a special belt, so i wont be able to remove it.

The thought of having an orgasm after a few minutes and not being able to stop the machines for a loong time is giving me chills right now. Never tried a male masturbator and planning to tie myself up, activate it and throw the remote out of reach.

Sorry for the long introduction…

Here is my question 😉

Ill have to use lube before using the masturbator. Is it a good idea to let it run without a possibility to turn it off? Not sure if im able to stay hard all the time or just slip out of it. But im hoping that the cock rings from the anal toy and the suction from the masturbator will prevent this. So will it just burn my penis once the lube stopped working?

Thanks for reading and any advices

Asking for a friend... No, seriously!

So I have a unique problem... I've been in the BDSM community for a little while now and I've played many times. But, as sex and kink are (so far) always separate for me, I've never actually played with someone I find attractive! To be clear, it's not that I thought my scene partners were ugly, they were all lovely but just not my cup of tea so I never felt that way about any of them! But coming up soon I will be playing with someone that I think is very attractive and it's low key making me nervous! So I guess what I'm asking is if anyone else has been in this situation and if anyone has any advice? I didn't think it would be that different but it's making me nervous to think of playing with someone who I find good looking!

What are the best body modifications that shows a sub's devotion to master other than the usual ones?

I’m a 19M and I have a long distance friend who is 19F and we’ve met irl couple of times but never did anything sexual. Basically every couple of months the best way to put it is she will sext me and I’m always very bad at it. I’m a very inexperienced virgin and she is the opposite. I’ve learned in the last year or so that she is very very submissive when it comes to sexual things. When she starts sexting me although it is a rare occurrence I’m usually very bad at doing it back with her. Like I don’t really know what I can say back to her in a dominant way. And I’m not having difficulty because I’m submissive it’s just I’m bad at the sexting thing already and me trying to talk in a dominant way is even harder. It’s not that I’m not attracted to her or what she’s saying. I just simply don’t really know what to say. If anyone has any ideas or tips on how I can sext better especially in a more dominant role that would be helpful. Thanks.

Need some costume ideas that give a subtle hint of kink/bdsm for a male dom or even just everyday wear

I’m pretty new to BDSM and recently started seeing someone who is willing to experiment with BDSM as well. I really want to dive in and try new things but I’m also feeling nervous about setting boundaries and communicating limits. It feels a bit intimidating to bring up wht I am and am not comfortable with and I don't want to kill the mood or make things awkward. How do you all approach this conversation in a natural way? Any tips for easing into it or specific things I should bring up?

It’s always interesting to learn from other people’s experiences

having a Halloween night in with my husDom, hoping to do a movie night that combines my two favorite things- kink and horror!!

anyone have any suggestions?

the only one that comes to mind immediately is Dogs Don’t Wear Pants which I highly recommend!

Per the title I'd really like to find a cage to let my dick atrophy away in that will work on my body after having had an orchiectomy (testicles removed). I like those ones that look like flat disks that go over it, but I'm open to other shapes!

Bit about my situation - With partner for 14 years Married for 5 Happy marriage, no issues at all No kids (don’t want them) Ages 31&32

So recently I opened up to my husband. I told him slowly over the span of a month some of the things I wanted to try.. we tried all the things I suggested(and he suggested) and everything has been amazing. I have discovered I have a pain kink amongst other things…

Anyway, I am basically horny 24/7 whereas my husband isn’t, and recently when we have sex it’s just ‘on the side’ or it might sometimes include a toy but nothing extreme. I know he enjoyed the ‘kinkier’ stuff we did and he was so enthusiastic about it. I have mentioned it a few times but nothing comes of it. I want him to completely dominate me but I fear I’m way more horny than him..

This isn’t a deal breaker for me as we have a great relationship otherwise, but I can’t help and feel disheartened. I can tell if I suggest it he will do it but he won’t be into it like he was a few months ago…

Has anyone experienced this? Any suggestions on how I can channel this feeling elsewhere (I don’t mean with someone else) I mean maybe erotic writing perhaps..? I don’t know…

Hello all! I'm not brand new to the community, but I am still relatively new and inexperienced (24F sub/bottom). It's happened that I haven't had to do any negotiating for quite awhile, so any skills I once possessed are quite rusty. Complicating things, I am on the shyer side, and absolutely HATE talking about myself, so the concept of sharing my needs and desires with another person gives me a lot of anxiety. I know to a certain degree I'm just going to have to suck it up buttercup, but I was curious if anyone has any tips for negotiating as a shy bottom? Maybe something that's worked for you, or a trick to make expressing my own desires easier? Thanks!

I am in the fortunate situation of having two submissives who both enjoy being tied up, playing with each other and also being played with while they are in bondage.

I've been digging through old posts and doing my Googling (you've got to be *very* specific- no I don't mean subwoofers...), but I would love recommendations or visual aids for idea on how to tie them up together. The dynamic is more playful and cooperative than competitive.

They both like using toys and having toys used on each other, but ideally I am looking for bondage that allows them to engage with each other while still restrained.

We have a plethora of cuffs, rope and other connecting devices to work with and can certainly procure additional needs. In terms of hard points, there is a bed with a bar across the headboard, the four legs of the bed each have a chain, as does a center point at the head of the bed.

There are some over head hard points as well to allow for hands to be bound above the head (but not suitable for suspension or anything like that).

I would love advice or feedback on what has worked for you and your partners.

Thank you!

Edit: both subs are female and I’m male

I recently started serving a couple as their servant, everything is very good between us, the problem I have is that they like me to kneel but I have a hard time kneeling for long periods of time and I wanted to ask if anyone has any advice for this problem.

To clarify, for now they only asked me to practice kneeling for 15 minutes a day, but they hope that over time I can do it for longer.

It feels like everything I find online is a dropshipping website. Any suggestions appreciated

So, I’ve been daydreaming about trying out some public play with a sub, and can’t decide if I’m more excited or anxious about it! 😅 The idea of sneaking around and getting a thrill from being out in public while still being in a dom/sub dynamic sounds amazing. But then, of course, there’s the thought of actually getting caught, which freaks me out a bit!

Like, what if someone sees us? Or worse, what if it leads to some really awkward moments?

I’d love to hear from those of you who have taken the plunge...how did it go? Did you ever get caught? Any funny stories or advice for someone who’s a bit nervous about diving into this?

Out of pure curiosity what is the texture of human blood like. Like as you drink it. Me and my partner where watching a show and now I'm genuinely intrigued

I recently bought some handcuffs for the bedroom and we want to try them out. We have played with dominance/submission some, and have enjoyed it, and we now want to try handcuffs. I think it would be fun to watch some videos together for inspiration, but I am having trouble finding videos of light handcuff play and not extreme bdsm content. Any recommendations? M/F guides are fine but we can also do ones with two women.

Looking for a bigger source of punishments, mostly the more unique and focussed on either degradation, humiliation or s/m. It's even better if it's a randomiser. I know of Please Punish Me but it barely has any options.

Im bi 19m. I mostly attract subs and I can be dominant but I feel it's hard to do when I'm not in a dominant headspace or in a neutral headspace. I feel most comfortable being dominant over text and I tend to overthink on the phone/in person when it comes to saying things. I could be submissive most times. I was just wondering if anyone has any advice or things I can work on? Idk if this the correct community to post this in sorry in advance!

Yo, me and my fiancé are really into primal and biting, vampire shit. I have involvement with the medical field so i know how serious human bites would be. Question for any experienced kinksters out there. Would it be safer to have him wash his mouth out with a disinfectant (mouthwash or peroxide) then biting, immediately cleaning and covering the area? Or would there be more risk.

(Drawing blood would be the goal, not a crush injury, though. Using fangs.)

This question is for experienced doms but anyone is welcomed to answer. What are some vital pieces of advice you would give to a beginner dom or something you wish that you had known sooner as a beginner? Thank you in advance for any replies

Maybe it’s just me, but there’s something intoxicating about balancing that space between a gentle touch and a commanding presence. I’ve found that a lot of the men I encounter as a Domme (in and out of healthcare!) crave that duality like a switch that flips between giving soft encouragement and setting firm boundaries. Personally, I thrive on letting the situation dictate my energy, but I’m curious if anyone else here feels this same pull? It’s almost like you become two different versions of yourself in one moment, all while keeping control. Is this something other dommes or switches experience? Or maybe it’s just the nature of a busy life trying to spill over into play... either way, it’s a thrill I wouldn’t trade.

So ive been freeuse for my partner for quite a long time, she’s quite a dominant person so she likes to remind me how freeuse I am to her whenever she gets the chance.

Starting last month, she’s been setting me the same challenge every morning when we wake up. Which is this, once I’m fully awake, she grabs my dick, and tells me that my only goal is to not get hard, there are only two rules involved. 1) if I have morning wood, that doesn’t count. 2) she can not directly stimulate my dick, she can hold it firmly, but she cannot give me a hand job or anything like that.

This means that the only ways that she can win, is if she talks dirty to me and that works, or by visually showing me something or by making me feel something, so for example, moving my hand to touch her ass, or tits etc.

Usually, she only needs talking dirty to win, only like 4 times has she had to resort to showing me parts of her body to win.

The consequences for losing aren’t really a punishment, it just means that she can use me in whatever way she wants, which i love, the only reason why I’m trying to win is because I’m a very competitive person by nature, and when I’m set I challenge, I gotta win it.

So like, is this challenge actually possible? Because I thought it would be easy when she first suggested it, but I cannot find a way to not get hard during it. Like recently I’ve been trying to enter a state of inner peace, but even that doesn’t work. Like the competitive side of me really wants to win at least once.

I need a collar for a person with a 20 inch neck CIRCUMFERENCE, NOT DIAMETER! MADE A MISTAKE EARLIER.

It has to be nice and relatively cheap, ideally with a quick delivery time.

Please, someone, help!

It's interesting how some of my traits in daily life inform how I practice bdsm. For instance, I would consider myself to have a higher than average physical pain tolerance, but emotionally, I am baby. Very sensitive to things. That's reflected in the fact that when I do bdsm irl, I'm interested in taking a thrashing while simultaneously being praised and being treated nicely. That's not to say the humiliation stuff doesn't turn me on. It definitely does, in some ways more so because it hurts me more. But it's one of those things where I can't handle humiliation irl, but I can handle physical pain. It also gets into the whole "fantasy vs reality" thing, which is something I needed to grapple with before I could be at peace with being a sub/masochist. Fantasizing about humiliation is doable for me, doing it is a no-go for me. And that's ok.

Can you please recommend good quality gear? Eg blindfolds, gags, restraints, paddles. Not Ann summers, love honey etc Would love to support any UK based businesses etc

Thanks💘