I have been researching (online) about tantra and sex and I came across articles about how in some tantric cultures, incest is also promoted. Just wanted some clarity on it.

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The author seems to be well educated about Tantra traditions. He´s into kashmiri Tantra lineage.

Basically he is saying that tantric sex is not a real tradition , but a western modification and development outa

some tantric rituals ( Neotantra mainly developed derived Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh´s teachings)

The site is originally in german . The URL links to the translated one.

TANTRA

Maybe here are some scholars in this group, who can check his claims.

There's a guy (M40) I've(F30) known since about 10 years, since we dated during a summer. It was amazing in my opinion and I think he liked it too but it fizzled out in the end when he went away and had some other encounters etc.... I was a bit heart broken at the time but kind of transcended my heartbrokeness and instead allowed our connection to develop in to a more uncoditional sexual friendship.. we've kept contact during long periods since then via social media and been sexting at occasion, and we met again about 6 months ago to have sex again...

He is on anti depressants which he has mentioned makes it hard for him to ejaculate during sex and even when he is masturbating. I've never noticed when we've had sex irl but I have noticed it during setting when we're not physical in real life. yesterday evening he mentioned that it feels amazing to have sex with me, really special, and he is quite shocked that he is able to ejaculate with me. In the way he speaks of it I interpret it as if I'm one of very very few at least that this happens with for him. I should mention that I know he's been having a lot of sexual encounters since we first met those years ago.

Last time when we met and had sex I did indeed sense as if an energy streaming from his cock through me almost as if I pulled it consciously in to me, and as if I was in control of it almost.

Do you guys have any idea if tantra and kundalini awakening may have something to do with this, the fact that I am able to make him orgasm in difference to other women and even himself. Or what could possibly be the explanation for this??

I am obviously flattered to know that I am such a special figure in his life and am intrigued to explore this further..

I'm [33m] in a state if transition right now.

I guess I'm posting this for.... Idk, visibility? Community? Advice? Commiserating with people going through something similar?

I was first exposed to kink about 10 years ago. It was interesting, a whole new world to explore, and explore I did. I always say I'll try anything twice, and that definitely applied here. What I found though, is that despite the online communities, the munches, and the play parties, something still felt missing.

I love the sex positive nature of kink, and really all sex positive communities, but I don't think I'm actually kinky. Some things, like shibari and roleplay might be things I continue to do, but I've heard people describe kink as a core part of their identity. It isn't part of mine.

Now for the transition. I went to a dating event a couple of weeks ago that was tantra themed. I felt so much more at home than I had in a while. Tantra feels like something I need to add to my practice, and I'm leaving kink communities behind. The meaningful connections I had will remain if course, but I've always kinda felt out of place in that world.

I know tantra is definitely something you can do alone, and that's an important part of the practice, I've been exploring short tantric meditation sessions lately.

Tantric community (both partners and friends) however is another challenge. How does one go about finding connections? I'm also Polyamorous, but single, so I've been feeling those solo blues for a while now.

What's everyone's best advice for feeling good about this journey instead of just overwhelmed?

sigh Ok, so I am a total newbie even though I have been interested in the subject for years. I have mentioned tantric sex to my partner a couple of times, but he is not really interested. He is not into yoga, nor meditation (I have been practicing for 10+ yrs) - but I will add here that he happily does a guided meditation when he is having a crisis. Not otherwise.

He is more into the kinky type and rough sex. I am NOT into that, not anymore. I like more contact and going slower.

Ok, so I read some advice on similar issues people have had in the group, and some mentioned taking the lead and perhaps doing a tantric massage. Sounds good but...

the thing is, I have tried that a couple of times. And going slower is a turn off for him. And he is awfully tickly (kinda cute but), he does not like massages because of that.

So, it feels kind of hopeless at this point. He feels ok with the thought of opening up our relationship. We had some adventures in the past without problems, we are not the jelous type. I am fine if he wants to have regular sex with someone else.

What would you do?

I am thinking that perhaps I should seek tantric experiences outside my relationship? Perhaps experiment with someone else?

I will now describe a method which will give you incredibly deep and profound orgasms which can last for a long time. I experimented with it just yesterday and had a deep orgasm which lasted for about an hour! Crazy right?

Although, having some experience in meditation is definitely a pre-requisite for this.

1. Lie down in a warm area or under your blankets. Stay present and relax your body.
2. FEEL the area of your genitals and visualize a White ball of light radiating brightly at that spot. Let that ball of light get brighter and brighter
3. Use other sexual imagery to help increase your arousal. Continue to feel that ball of light radiating in your genitals.
4. Its important to stay receptive and venerable. DO NOT try and force this out or control the outcome.
5. Try tilting your pelvis back and fourth to mimic penetration or receiving penetration.

NOTE: When you've fully grasped the technique, you can have multiple orgasms in one session.

Enjoy this divine experience!

Hi

In short, I tried practicing tantra with a person who practices it with many other people, and for me it didn’t work.

We didn’t really get physical. It was more of eye contact and him asserting pressure on some parts of my body and holding me from time to time.

I just couldn’t feel pleasure and couldn’t relax my body. We tried different approaches and still nothing. I guess maybe I did feel some pleasure and softening but at the end, he also said it didn’t work for me.

I have a past of sexual abuse and I know it’s hard for me to relax internally but I wonder if some of you had similar experiences and whether you were able to overcome it eventually.

Around 2019, I ran into a really good blog on Tantric sex online. I found it really good and informative, but have since forgotten the name and have not been able to track it down.

Blurting out as much as I can remember:

• I don't remember how much I read, but it was mostly focused on couple's intimacy development in a broad sense rather than spiritually or sheer pleasure.
• It was really simple, maybe built on WordPress or something similar. While the author (female) did referr to being mentored etc, she or the blog didn't offer any sort of formal training, but mostly advice based on experiences and some practices.
• I don't remember any images, just long blog emtries
• One of the practices she wrote about included individual meditation that then led with joint meditation with a partner previous to sexual activity.
• maybe there was something about lotus in the title? Not sure about this

I'll be ever grateful for your help in relocating this wonderful resource.

I have relationship problems with my GF. She was physically abused by her parents and has trauma related to touch. She has trouble doing such basic things as holding hands or hugging. She is terrified of a lot of small things. We've been dating for 4+ months and we haven't even kissed yet. We do love each other a lot though. 0% sex but 100% emotional closeness. Physical closeness is appearing veeeeeery slowly but she is warming up to me. We spend a lot of time together and now cuddle every once in a while.

I want us to have a healthy relationship so my dumbass saw an advertisement and had an idea.

"Neo Tanta group practice. Waves of love"

"Integrate sexuality and spirituality into your life"

"Increase awareness of your own body"

"It will allow you to relax and give you confidence"

"Break societal and cultural stigma around sex and express your individuality"

"blah blah blah"

"25$"

I saw this and said: "Huh this might be exactly what we need! This will be good for both of us. I wonder what will she think of this. This might just be the thing that will advance our relationship to the next level. But knowing her there's like a 90% chance that she will decline the offer." I asked the host how hard will this be for us and they said that it is a practice for beginners and there is nothing to be afraid of... (foreshadowing)

I suggested the idea to my GF and after a lot of thinking about it, she said no. I get it, and in retrospective I'm so glad that she didn't go.

I, however, was curious and decided to check it out. While I'm much more open than my GF, I'm still a pent up, shy, introverted, nervous virgin, and also, asexual (or so I thought). "This will be good for me", I said. I'm a bit scared but I'm ready to try new things.

I expected it to be a controlled environment with meditative practices, strict rules for what to do and what not to do, a relaxing time, a safe space...

...it was an orgy without sex...

Exercise 1: Stand in a circular "conga line" and massage the person in front of you. The host gave us detailed direction on what to do. 15 minutes

Exercise 2: Wave motions. We just stood and imitated waves with different parts of our body. Legs, Pelvis, Chest, Shoulders, Head ect. imagine that you're on a surf board and following the waves. It also ended with us making a lot of sound with our throats. The whole group was practically screaming and singing at the end. it was electric :D 30-45 minutes.

Exercise 3: We split into 2 groups. 7 men and 7 women. Group A puts on a blindfold and stands. Their task is to be as elastic as possible. Group B goes around the room and freely bends the bodies of the participants in a wavy motion. It's also nearly pitch black in there. 20-30 minutes for each group. Main rule: don't touch the genitals.

Exercise 4: We split into groups of 3. One person puts on a blindfold and lays on their back. The other two massage their whole body in wavy motions. 10 minutes per person. Again, don't touch the genitals.

You might read this and say "this doesn't sound too bad"... By the end of the evening I had 2 woman laying on top of me and the three of us moaning! I think I had some form of an orgasm.

2 people have left out of fear when Exercise 3 started. 2 people refused to participate in Exercise 4 but stayed to watch. It all started innocently. Here's how Exercise 2 went.

I stand blindfolded.

Someone gently touches my hand. "that feels nice"

Someone else touches my shoulders. "nice"

Someone touches my face. "...? oh"

Someone embraces me in a tight hug and dances a little bit. "oh wow"

Someone breathes loudly into my neck "o_O"

Her hair wrapping my face and her scent filling my nose "What is going on! Aaahh!"

Someone tightly wraps me from behind with both her hands and legs and bends me forwards and backwards, forcing me to balance myself on top of them and balance them on top of me. "Craygasm"

Someone walks to me straight and touched my face with both their hands while slowly going lower and lower but still returning to my face.

I was bent and played with like a doll.

The longer it continued the hotter it got. Moaning and laughter filled the room. Sweaty aroused bodies. Just 10 Strangers pleasuring each other.

When we switched roles and it was my turn to go around I got into the groove surprisingly quickly. All fear was gone and my mind went blank. I didn't know that I was capable of doing what I did that night. Touch one girl, touch another, make them quiver, brush my hands against their legs and arms, brush my face against their bellies and necks, put their arms around me, make them go crazy, synchronize our bodies, move the hips. I look around and I see some pairs even laying on the ground and everybody doing progressively more erotic things.

Exercise ends. Snap back to reality

...

WHAT THE FUCK WAS THAT?! Was that even me? Did I just do all that? H.. HOW?

Exercise 4 was even hotter.

As I lay on the ground with a blindfold on, 2 girls touch every inch of my body. (except the genitals, but does it even matter at that point) They started slowly but as you might guess already it got out of control pretty quickly. More pressure, more energy, more moaning. My mind goes blank, my fingers feel tingly, I have a strong erection, my lips go numb, my spine reflexively bends, I shake, I moan, the girl gets on top of me and starts using her whole body.

When it was my turn I performed just as well. (I am terrified of myself) I might be wrong but I think the girl came. The other girl started crying in the process, then calmed down and when it was over thanked us both for our unconditional love and kindness.

(what the fuck)

it is over...

The host tells me that I did very good for a first-timer...

I got invited to the next session for "advanced users"...

I go home...

I lay in bed...

"Did all of that just happen? Was this all a very hot dream? No, unfortunately it wasn't"

I couldn't fall asleep until 3am. Also since recently I now don't masturbate out of principal, it was extra difficult for me that night. I had bluest blue balls.

By this point you might have forgotten but I have a girlfriend. Oh my god what have I done! I wanted to drag her into THIS???!!! She would've fainted! This could've damaged her beyond mending. I think it damaged ME beyond mending. Did I just accidentally cheat on my first true love with 7 other woman in 4 hours??? How do I live with that now??? I think I'm permanently fucked up now.

I will repeat it to you. I didn't know what I was getting into and the ad made it feel mild and comfortable. The host also reassured me that it is mild and comfortable. It started as mild and comfortable, and before I knew it, it got fucked up and ugly.

To add insult to injury, I had a date planned with my girlfriend the next day. I didn't know what to do with all those new feelings, so during our dinner I told her about what happened. We don't hide anything from each other in our relationship. And to my surprise she was very chill about it. She did feel some discomfort at times, but as we talked we laughed at this whole situation. She was just glad that she didn't have to go through all this. But I can't help but think if she doesn't understand the seriousness of the situation or if she actually chill about it. To check I asked her directly.

-"Why are you so fine about it? Don't you mind that I touched and was touched by like 10 other people?"

-"No, why would I be? It's not like it was sex"

-"Really? Umm. You sure? So you don't mind if I'll go there again?"

-"Pfft ha-ha-ha! You want to? Yeah I don't mind"

-"Don't answer so fast, just think about it for a bit, are you REALLY okay with that?"

-"Yes, {name}, I am okay with that."

The date continued, it went well. I actually talked to her a lot more openly that evening. Unsurprisingly, we talked about touch and feelings quite a bit. I walked her home, we planned our next date, hugged, said some nice things to each other, and went our ways.

I am now debating If I should actually go there again. I hate to admit it, but I liked it. It was TERRIFYING, it was EXHILIRATING, it was FANTASTIC, it was HORRIBLE, it was DELIGHTFUL. I never knew that all that sexuality was inside me and that I'm capable of expressing myself so openly. In just 4 hours I turned from a closed off introvert into a man who can please 7 people at the same time. (once again, what the fuck) I want to continue just to know what else I'm capable of. And I also never in my life felt so unconditionally loved. Everyone was just making everyone else feel joy. I didn't realize how much I craved that.

On the contrary. What will this do to my relationship? What will this do to me as a person? What will this do to my mental health? What will this do to my manliness? If it feels good, it doesn't mean it's actually good. It feels good to eat burritos but it doesn't mean I should eat burritos every single day. Same goes for smoking. You get the point.

If a frog is put suddenly into boiling water, it will jump out, but if the frog is put in tepid water which is then brought to a boil slowly, it will not perceive the danger and will be cooked to death.

I'm sort of lost on what to do now. Life will not be the same after that day. If you have anything to say, please do.

I am trying to get clear on something - is it a good thing to have many sexual partners and be fully embodied in your sexual energy and open, or does having many sexual partners confuse your own sexual energy?

I have heard people say that “you take on the energy” of people you have sex with. How does that work exactly?

What of someone who is conscious and in the tantra world who is fully open and a “sacred slut,” as some might say, living fully in their sexual desires? Are they taking on a lot of unwelcome energy?

Hey everyone, I just started looking into tantric massage due to a very strong anxiety stage concert big me and my boyfriend. Loads of insecurity and fear of him living made me lose control of my mind during sex and we end up not doing it at all. I'd appreciate if anyane has any sort of tips that could share with me, where to start and if there's anything specific about gay tantric.

So, I’ve been seeing my partner for seven months. We’ve had several tantric-like experiences such as losing track of time and feeling extremely connected while kissing. We’ve also had experiences where we’ve shared or matched our breathing and heartbeats and we’ve had sex where we feel ultra connected in our minds and bodies. We’re both in our mid-50s and never experienced anything like it. We haven’t researched tantric sex and haven’t been trying to practice it, we just love each other and it’s what we do when we’re together.

Then, this weekend we crossed over into a level I never knew existed. The first night we were out on my screened in porch and all of our senses were on high alert with the breeze and candles and the sounds of leaves blowing. We had a drink or two and we’re getting in the mood. We moved inside to my bed where he sat up and I straddled him. At some point it felt like we were one body. We had merged and we were connected from PIV all the way through our core and to our soft kisses. Afterwards we both described it the same way- one body and almost like we were hallucinating. We completely lost track of time, but it felt like at least 30 minutes went by until the feeling faded and we took a break. We had what felt like body orgasms, but I didn’t feel the strong contractions of a usual orgasm. This was much better and deeper! The next night we didn’t expect to be able to recreate that magical experience, but turns out we found a new gear! After plenty of good oral and PIV sex, I rolled over on my back and reached in the drawer for my vibrator because I felt like I wasn’t going to orgasm. (Menopause and tired- LOL) My partner put his fingers inside me and I put the vibe on my clit. He started to kiss my nipples and I immediately knew I would come. My orgasm started slowly and built up, then receded and built up over and over and over again. I just kept saying don’t stop and he kept the same pace going. It went on at least ten minutes and then I experienced what he called the crescendo where my whole body had an orgasm and I collapsed in tears from the emotion of it all. I have never been multi-orgasmic or experienced the full body merge like this. In fact, I’ve had to talk to my doctor about low libido, dryness etc. Our eyes are opened to a whole new world. I had to share this here because it was too special to keep to ourselves and it’s not something I could explain to my friends. I’ve never felt closer to another person in my life and I wish this for everyone. Btw, he lives three hours away so we only see each other every two weeks or so. We completely trust each other and don’t have any hangups about sex. We are shocked that the best sex of our lives is happening at 55 and 56.

Hi,

I've always loved the idea of tantric exploration but I feel like many others I may have just have very surface level thoughts about what it entails.

Are there any good resources that break down the different elements of tantric sex and different practises? E.g. is there the equivalent of a kinktionary covering Breathe work, Massages, Yoni..etc.

From there, I'd like to discover what calls out to me so I can look into workshops or lessons. Hopefully there are some options available in the there are some reliable practioners willing to help... Or ideally I get lucky and meet a partner with a wealth of he knowledge above already

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Are there any psychedelic tantric guides?

I am experiencing burn out from work and loneliness, and I need a getaway escape. Reset my mind, body, and spirit. So at first a week long spa vacation sounded great. However, I’ve also always wanted to experience a guided psychedelic retreat. I have plenty of experience with psychedelics, but typically more casual and less intentional. I’ve also always wanted to attend a guided tantric sex retreat to explore my own sexuality and really get into my body, and out of my head.

With that said, is there anywhere in the western hemisphere I can go where someone provides a guided tantric experience that includes psychedelics? Like a 3-4 day getaway on the beach, or mountains or jungle. I see these two things separately offered, but have not found anything combined. It might not exist, but I wanted to put it out there if anyone knows of something along these lines. Thanks!

Just what the title says. I'm wondering if this is a common phenomenon and if it's tied to any specific terminology. When I am feeling better connected internally and to my partner, the penetration is a war,m, glowing inner light that rises upwards inside my body in rhythm with the penetration. What's the word for that? Thanks.

Hi, I am a straight male and looking for advice in my tantric journey.

I am aware that there are feminine and masculine energies in every person. I'm just wondering if tapping into the feminine side is something that's common in tantra?

For instance, when I do feel more receptive and venerable while stimulating myself, I don't know why, but I get much deeper and more profound orgasms, and they last for longer periods of time.

What advice would you give to me for tapping in my feminine side with tantric sex?

Excuse this rant, I just have a few misconceptions to clear up about tantric sex.

Isn't it weird that society considers receiving a full body massage as a positive, but touching your self sensually as negative?

After all, you get pleasure from both things, right?

I truly believe that the human body is sacred - it is capable of infinite amounts pleasure and joy. The universe has not given these trillions of nerves, our prostate gland or pleasurable organs for nothing. Amoung other things in nature, It is meant to be enjoyed and explored.

Am I wrong in saying this?

Was suggested in another post I made to give tantric a try but have no clue where to start or what to try. Any help is appreciated.

Hi.. we are a western couple living in Bangkok looking for a course or teacher to get us started on a tantric sex journey. Any recommendations from Redditors? 😎 xoxo

I recently (m47) attended my first Tantric 'play party' based on Wheel of Consent and it was a wonderfull eye-opening experience that shed more light into my own trauma-induced patterns that kept me in a perpetual loop of avoiding intimacy with the opposite sex since my latest breakup 2yrs ago.

After this event I now know for sure that plain therapy (Schema/Gestalt/Hypno) has been largely useless up till now to make me a more functional sexual being. Going further I now need to chose what to spend my hard earned money on. Tantric events or therapy? I can't do both atm.

In short, I want to use Tantric events to possibly heal my unconscious patterns that keep sabotaging my romantic relationships. Do I attend more Tantric/conscious kink/BDSM events to practice being more aware? Or a sex therapist ? Or just plainly getting used to 'rejection'? What Tantric practice specifically can help with this ? I'm fortunate to live in Europe and have access to all types of Tantric events. Thank you!

I've been practicing a tantric technique on my own for some time and the effects are marvelous. Now I have a partner and want to direct my orgasms up my spine would it still work even if my partner is not really interested in that? Or does he need to be part of it?

Hey all.

I have a question. Is there a kind of guide on what physical and Spiritual practices to cultivate & practice in order to seperate Orgasm from ejaculation?

Thanks

Probably has been asked many times, couldn't find a pinned post so here I am..

I am soon 32, cannot say I have ever experienced anything like tantric sex, tho I have my fair share of experience with spirituality in general, psychedelic etc..

I am looking for a book with some general knowledge but I am more interested in "specific" exercises to I guess train and prepare myself in case i will meet someone one day..

Thanks..

My partner and I have been exploring Tantra together for about 6 months. I’m fairly new to it, though he’s been a Tantrika for 15+ years and I have been a Buddhist with a deeply spiritual meditation practice for 25+ years.

I’ve never been one to believe in the metaphysical, I approach transcendence from a neurobiological perspective of altering states of awareness to reach transcendental moments of connective and hallucinatory states of awe. But I’m finding it harder and harder to explain the intense levels of connection in our tantric play and rituals, and especially being able to sense and share energetic experiences when we aren’t even in the same physical space.

I understand things like time dilation, sharing physical sensations, hyper awareness during the dopamine peak to extend orgasmic states, and reaching hallucinatory transcendence through tantric rituals. However, I can’t seem to understand how we can both reach spontaneous orgasms just from both of us pressing our hearts together, or the unexplainable feeling of intense energetic connections that feel like twin flames mirrored in each of us. I especially can’t explain feeling otherworldly sensations like sudden heat, warmth, and affection emanating from my heart chakra and him feeling it at the same time even when we aren’t anywhere near each other.

He says he hasn’t had this type of tantric dynamic in many years, but did have a partner once where they had energetic connections like this before. I’m curious if others have had experiences like this, and especially seeking perspectives from other scientifically minded folks like me who have had experiences we can’t explain.

I am a boy who wants a full-body energy orgasm, such as the video below. However, most Tantric courses are paid. Are there any free resources? Any tips?

https://youtu.be/-P0fD7Ywcew?si=phPseHtDrOL0awDB

The tantric partner (64M) of my (61F) dreams just had open heart surgery Tuesday. The docs say I saved his life by recognizing the symptoms and pushing to go to the ER.

It’s been three weeks of intense stress and my Tantra and pompoir practices have necessarily fallen by the wayside. I’m now resuming my solo sexual practices while I wait for my partner to heal.

I’m not on HRT and relied on sexual practices to keep my tissue and libido alive. I’m demoralized because function is slow to recover. My personal practice had lessened already in favor of our partnered practice.

I need encouragement and support to keep me going. It will be months before my partner can even spoon again. And I miss him.

I’d appreciate encouraging words, acknowledgement of grief and loss, personal experiences. TIA

Peace to everyone. I wanted to ask if there was any significance behind feeling a surge of energy in my non dominate hand during orgasm. It is a very intense but never painful surge of energy flowing into my right hand transforming into what feels like a ball extending from my palm to finger tips.

As one orgasm wanes the energy flow back. This occurs even when my hands are not in use. I don't have the vocabulary to describe what this might be in tantric practices.

But I definitely feel attached to something during orgasm. Kinda like being suspended from a very thin fishing line. During particularly strong full body orgasms I can feel myself hover just over my physical self. It is incredibaly relaxing!

Do you have any guidance on energy flows or books that would cover why I am feeling this way?

TLDR: tantra novice and partner share a sex experience that felt spiritual, hallucinogenic and extremely meaningful (lack of spatial and bodily awareness + state of pure consciousness). Wondering if it is a tantric experience or we were just tired?

Context:

My partner (M) and I (F), spent all day yesterday talking about life and sharing personal experiences and ideas on various topics. When we got home, we were so exhausted we just cuddled and caressed each other's bodies for what felt like an hour. During this time, both him and I were in and out of the "twilight zone" (so almost asleep and dreaming but very conscious still), we would share what we were seeing in our dreams outloud. This felt trance-like and quite intimate.

The experience:

We decided to go to sleep because of how tired we were but suddenly, we both started kissing very passionately, neither of us knew what was happening but we just let it happen. For me, it felt like someone took over my body and I was just "pure presence" kissing him. That lead to penetration. But I wouldn't even call it penetrative sex as the act felt more like a spiritual experience rather than a sexual one. neither of us was there for the gratification. We started having hallucinations. He felt like it was just us two in space, and he felt our "souls touching" . For me, no body part seemed to really exist besides my yoni, and my awareness I guess. With every thrust I visualized him pushing a light yellow, blinding energy inside of me, like the sun. It felt like the physical border between my body and his were merging into one. Like through this physical act, we were meeting somewhere in a "higher spiritual plane".

He has done LSD before and describes this experience as somewhat comparable. The "surreal feeling" lasted for at least one more hour after the sex. We just shared our experiences and thoughts.

My experience with tantra:

around 6 months ago, I discovered tantra on reddit as I felt like my sexual energy was completely blocked. I did some research and tried several solo exercises that really helped me recconect with my body. Since then, sex (solo or with partner) has often had a somewhat devine quality to it, But never like this. I would say that my research and experiences are still very much beginner level. (he has never explored tantra)

Question :

Is this a tantric experience or were we just so tired we started tripping? Any advice on how to explore this further?