The problem of finding partners is a recurring theme on this sub. We made a decision at the beginning of the reboot of this sub to disallow "r4r" and "massage wanted" posts, because that just turns the sub into a typical r4r bulletin board filled with massage parlor ads. In the past, we've pointed people to /r/TantricMassage, /r/EroticMassage, or their local r4r sub. But there's clearly a demand for something more focused.

So we've been experimenting with having a single, stickied thread every month where readers can post what they're looking for. So far, it's been working well.

Here are the rules:

1. Reply to this post with your gender, sexual orientation, age, and general location, and describe who and what you are looking for. For example, short-term partner to learn with, possible long-term partner, paid massage, or whatever.
2. Keep it short and simple. E.g., "27M, London, UK, looking for skilled female massage therapist with authentic knowledge of tantra, for paid massage."
3. ONE listing per month! People who spam the thread will be banned.
4. If you want to respond to any of these listings, do it in DMs. Do NOT reply to any of the listings here.
5. Please remove your listing or add a note if you find what you're looking for.

Reminder: if you usually sort this sub on "New," you will need to switch it to "Hot" to keep this thread at the top. But you will need to *sort this thread* on "New" to see new listings. (Complicated, I know. Sorry!)

Are there any psychedelic tantric guides?

I am experiencing burn out from work and loneliness, and I need a getaway escape. Reset my mind, body, and spirit. So at first a week long spa vacation sounded great. However, I’ve also always wanted to experience a guided psychedelic retreat. I have plenty of experience with psychedelics, but typically more casual and less intentional. I’ve also always wanted to attend a guided tantric sex retreat to explore my own sexuality and really get into my body, and out of my head.

With that said, is there anywhere in the western hemisphere I can go where someone provides a guided tantric experience that includes psychedelics? Like a 3-4 day getaway on the beach, or mountains or jungle. I see these two things separately offered, but have not found anything combined. It might not exist, but I wanted to put it out there if anyone knows of something along these lines. Thanks!

Just what the title says. I'm wondering if this is a common phenomenon and if it's tied to any specific terminology. When I am feeling better connected internally and to my partner, the penetration is a war,m, glowing inner light that rises upwards inside my body in rhythm with the penetration. What's the word for that? Thanks.

Hi, I am a straight male and looking for advice in my tantric journey.

I am aware that there are feminine and masculine energies in every person. I'm just wondering if tapping into the feminine side is something that's common in tantra?

For instance, when I do feel more receptive and venerable while stimulating myself, I don't know why, but I get much deeper and more profound orgasms, and they last for longer periods of time.

What advice would you give to me for tapping in my feminine side with tantric sex?

Excuse this rant, I just have a few misconceptions to clear up about tantric sex.

Isn't it weird that society considers receiving a full body massage as a positive, but touching your self sensually as negative?

After all, you get pleasure from both things, right?

I truly believe that the human body is sacred - it is capable of infinite amounts pleasure and joy. The universe has not given these trillions of nerves, our prostate gland or pleasurable organs for nothing. Amoung other things in nature, It is meant to be enjoyed and explored.

Am I wrong in saying this?

Was suggested in another post I made to give tantric a try but have no clue where to start or what to try. Any help is appreciated.

Hi.. we are a western couple living in Bangkok looking for a course or teacher to get us started on a tantric sex journey. Any recommendations from Redditors? 😎 xoxo

I recently (m47) attended my first Tantric 'play party' based on Wheel of Consent and it was a wonderfull eye-opening experience that shed more light into my own trauma-induced patterns that kept me in a perpetual loop of avoiding intimacy with the opposite sex since my latest breakup 2yrs ago.

After this event I now know for sure that plain therapy (Schema/Gestalt/Hypno) has been largely useless up till now to make me a more functional sexual being. Going further I now need to chose what to spend my hard earned money on. Tantric events or therapy? I can't do both atm.

In short, I want to use Tantric events to possibly heal my unconscious patterns that keep sabotaging my romantic relationships, mostly anxiety around my sexuality. For this, do I need to attend more Tantric/conscious kink/BDSM events to practice being more comfortable in myself? Or a sex therapist ? Or just plainly getting used to rejection by asking more women out ? What Tantric practice specifically can help with this ? I'm fortunate to live in Europe and have access to all types of Tantric events. Thank you!

I've been practicing a tantric technique on my own for some time and the effects are marvelous. Now I have a partner and want to direct my orgasms up my spine would it still work even if my partner is not really interested in that? Or does he need to be part of it?

Hey all.

I have a question. Is there a kind of guide on what physical and Spiritual practices to cultivate & practice in order to seperate Orgasm from ejaculation?

Thanks

Probably has been asked many times, couldn't find a pinned post so here I am..

I am soon 32, cannot say I have ever experienced anything like tantric sex, tho I have my fair share of experience with spirituality in general, psychedelic etc..

I am looking for a book with some general knowledge but I am more interested in "specific" exercises to I guess train and prepare myself in case i will meet someone one day..

Thanks..

My partner and I have been exploring Tantra together for about 6 months. I’m fairly new to it, though he’s been a Tantrika for 15+ years and I have been a Buddhist with a deeply spiritual meditation practice for 25+ years.

I’ve never been one to believe in the metaphysical, I approach transcendence from a neurobiological perspective of altering states of awareness to reach transcendental moments of connective and hallucinatory states of awe. But I’m finding it harder and harder to explain the intense levels of connection in our tantric play and rituals, and especially being able to sense and share energetic experiences when we aren’t even in the same physical space.

I understand things like time dilation, sharing physical sensations, hyper awareness during the dopamine peak to extend orgasmic states, and reaching hallucinatory transcendence through tantric rituals. However, I can’t seem to understand how we can both reach spontaneous orgasms just from both of us pressing our hearts together, or the unexplainable feeling of intense energetic connections that feel like twin flames mirrored in each of us. I especially can’t explain feeling otherworldly sensations like sudden heat, warmth, and affection emanating from my heart chakra and him feeling it at the same time even when we aren’t anywhere near each other.

He says he hasn’t had this type of tantric dynamic in many years, but did have a partner once where they had energetic connections like this before. I’m curious if others have had experiences like this, and especially seeking perspectives from other scientifically minded folks like me who have had experiences we can’t explain.

I am a boy who wants a full-body energy orgasm, such as the video below. However, most Tantric courses are paid. Are there any free resources? Any tips?

https://youtu.be/-P0fD7Ywcew?si=phPseHtDrOL0awDB

The tantric partner (64M) of my (61F) dreams just had open heart surgery Tuesday. The docs say I saved his life by recognizing the symptoms and pushing to go to the ER.

It’s been three weeks of intense stress and my Tantra and pompoir practices have necessarily fallen by the wayside. I’m now resuming my solo sexual practices while I wait for my partner to heal.

I’m not on HRT and relied on sexual practices to keep my tissue and libido alive. I’m demoralized because function is slow to recover. My personal practice had lessened already in favor of our partnered practice.

I need encouragement and support to keep me going. It will be months before my partner can even spoon again. And I miss him.

I’d appreciate encouraging words, acknowledgement of grief and loss, personal experiences. TIA

Peace to everyone. I wanted to ask if there was any significance behind feeling a surge of energy in my non dominate hand during orgasm. It is a very intense but never painful surge of energy flowing into my right hand transforming into what feels like a ball extending from my palm to finger tips.

As one orgasm wanes the energy flow back. This occurs even when my hands are not in use. I don't have the vocabulary to describe what this might be in tantric practices.

But I definitely feel attached to something during orgasm. Kinda like being suspended from a very thin fishing line. During particularly strong full body orgasms I can feel myself hover just over my physical self. It is incredibaly relaxing!

Do you have any guidance on energy flows or books that would cover why I am feeling this way?

TLDR: tantra novice and partner share a sex experience that felt spiritual, hallucinogenic and extremely meaningful (lack of spatial and bodily awareness + state of pure consciousness). Wondering if it is a tantric experience or we were just tired?

Context:

My partner (M) and I (F), spent all day yesterday talking about life and sharing personal experiences and ideas on various topics. When we got home, we were so exhausted we just cuddled and caressed each other's bodies for what felt like an hour. During this time, both him and I were in and out of the "twilight zone" (so almost asleep and dreaming but very conscious still), we would share what we were seeing in our dreams outloud. This felt trance-like and quite intimate.

The experience:

We decided to go to sleep because of how tired we were but suddenly, we both started kissing very passionately, neither of us knew what was happening but we just let it happen. For me, it felt like someone took over my body and I was just "pure presence" kissing him. That lead to penetration. But I wouldn't even call it penetrative sex as the act felt more like a spiritual experience rather than a sexual one. neither of us was there for the gratification. We started having hallucinations. He felt like it was just us two in space, and he felt our "souls touching" . For me, no body part seemed to really exist besides my yoni, and my awareness I guess. With every thrust I visualized him pushing a light yellow, blinding energy inside of me, like the sun. It felt like the physical border between my body and his were merging into one. Like through this physical act, we were meeting somewhere in a "higher spiritual plane".

He has done LSD before and describes this experience as somewhat comparable. The "surreal feeling" lasted for at least one more hour after the sex. We just shared our experiences and thoughts.

My experience with tantra:

around 6 months ago, I discovered tantra on reddit as I felt like my sexual energy was completely blocked. I did some research and tried several solo exercises that really helped me recconect with my body. Since then, sex (solo or with partner) has often had a somewhat devine quality to it, But never like this. I would say that my research and experiences are still very much beginner level. (he has never explored tantra)

Question :

Is this a tantric experience or were we just so tired we started tripping? Any advice on how to explore this further?

Hi all, so my wife and I have been practicing a yab yum meditation ritual, we have set up a space for it complete with a sort of altar. It is a deep, beautiful, refreshing experience that connects us seemingly beyond the physical realm, we will slowly proceed into the yab yum position before uniting sexually, physically connecting on the root chakra with my ligham in her yoni, and we will mediate with synchronized and circular breaths, merging on each chakra. Sometimes we will use this as a precursor to more amorous tantric intercourse, other times we will simply enjoy the meditation as long as possible. I am looking for ways to make it even deeper, with ideas such as intention setting, visualizations, etc, and was wondering if anyone had knew of any audio or guided meditations that would involve this?

Does anyone have any experience with this? I am going to do a cat dog pose to child, planche, cobra and back to cat dog pose routine before bed. I’d like to add a perineum message to the end. What do I do just circles and presses?

The title explains it. It’s been almost 15 years since I had the only tantra partner I’ve had. we would be deep in divine union sitting facing each other, and holding eye contact, while synching our breathing together. Often we included mediation chants like “om mani padme hum” or loving kindness prayers during the sessions. That 6 months with that partner before she moved to India was the most profound period of my life. I think that experience started the spiritual awakening process within me. which i’ve had to work on solo since then. The spiritual growth progress has been haltingly slow at times since then. I miss the deepness of fully surrendering yourself to the divine nature within another human being.

The problem of finding partners is a recurring theme on this sub. We made a decision at the beginning of the reboot of this sub to disallow "r4r" and "massage wanted" posts, because that just turns the sub into a typical r4r bulletin board filled with massage parlor ads. In the past, we've pointed people to /r/TantricMassage, /r/EroticMassage, or their local r4r sub. But there's clearly a demand for something more focused.

So we've been experimenting with having a single, stickied thread every month where readers can post what they're looking for. So far, it's been working well.

Here are the rules:

1. Reply to this post with your gender, sexual orientation, age, and general location, and describe who and what you are looking for. For example, short-term partner to learn with, possible long-term partner, paid massage, or whatever.
2. Keep it short and simple. E.g., "27M, London, UK, looking for skilled female massage therapist with authentic knowledge of tantra, for paid massage."
3. ONE listing per month! People who spam the thread will be banned.
4. If you want to respond to any of these listings, do it in DMs. Do NOT reply to any of the listings here.
5. Please remove your listing or add a note if you find what you're looking for.

Reminder: if you usually sort this sub on "New," you will need to switch it to "Hot" to keep this thread at the top. But you will need to *sort this thread* on "New" to see new listings. (Complicated, I know. Sorry!)

Greetings all. I've started dating a man who's has been practicing tantric solo sex for years, and I have been practicing normal, more kinky sex. I find it challenging to connect as he wants everything to last for ever, to be slow, etc while I like it a bit rough etc. Is there any way I can get some tips on how to meet him half way? Tips to how to touch his whole body, where etc. I'm getting a bit tired, as it takes forever to make him cum.

Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

I have been meditating for about 6 years. I LOVE how it brings me into presence with my body and my feelings. It has helped me process so much!

I have a history of childhood sexual trauma, I have always struggled with remaining present during sex & also experience anorgasmia due to this.

I have long been interested in tantric practice as a way to help resolve this. I have worked tirelessly in therapy & day to day life to seek healing both psychologically & somatically. Through meditation I have already released layers of numbness, which has led to stages where I experienced extreme physical pain with arousal & then that would pass. I'd release another layer & then encounter more pain. Then about 2 years ago I hit a block & it was like some part of my pysche just refused to engage in that work anymore. I have been waiting patiently for something to change, but I feel stuck.

I recently started dating a man who has been a dear friend for about 5 years. So I already know & trust him.

My boyfriend & I would like to explore greater presence with each other. So we've been doing breathing exercises & eye gazing, etc. Anytime I become present with him it's incredible for a min or 2 & then I get really triggered & end up in tears. He is very kind, safe & responds exactly how you would hope your partner would respond. I'm super grateful for him, but I'm increasingly frustrated & dissatisfied with my blocks. I want to be able to be present with him & it hurts that it doesn't feel possible right now.

I'm also a bit pissed off that this is even something I have to deal with in the first place.

Presence isn't really a problem in regular meditation. It only becomes a problem when intimacy is added.

I'm curious if anyone else has encountered these types of challenges and what has helped you move through it? I'm open to ideas, practices and advice!

I’m new to tantric sex and want to practice with my partner. I read that I should not have a clit orgasm for at least 3 weeks so that my body can become more sensible. But i also read many other things that say otherwise. What are your experiences/thoughts?

Hey, I had an extraordinary dream and at the end of it, I got a message that I needed to find a tantric shaman or perhaps a white witch to help me let go of something I'm carrying (energetically/emotionally?)... in orders to get to the next stage in my life.

a) Do tantric guides/shamans exist?

b) Should I perhaps see a psychiatrist instead lol

Thanks

Hey I'm looking for audiobooks/books, YouTubers, podcasts, etc. surrounding tantric sex and any help with sexual/relationship trauma. I'm trying to get through some stuff while learning about tantric sex and developing my abilities I guess??? Anything helps!

I’m really want to start practicing tantric sex, I’m (F) eager to learn how to give my partner(M) a tantric massage. He barely knows about it, or anything to do with meditation or spiritual.

Where are the best resources to learn?

Any advice?

As I mentioned I just had my first tantric massage yesterday and I can’t get him/ the massage out of my head! Couldn’t get a wink of anything done today. I’ve already left a website review at his request and dropped a message to see him again soon but would it be weird to tell him how much I enjoyed it and can’t wait for next time ?

Hi guys as the title suggests, I 26F had my first session yesterday and im mind blown. Recently started thinking about tantric massages and decided to take the leap and find someone professional (was a hassle as im in the UK). I found someone and he was quite responsive, website checked out, he was trained etc, and we literally booked in for the next day.

Was terribly nervous but semi excited. As I’ve only been in 1/2 proper relationships and let them touch my body so this was very new. Took the leap and went. I truly didn’t know what to expect and as a first timer, I thought it would just be an introductory light session. I opted for naturist / body to body.

And guys let me tell you, it was a DEEP session. Felt my heart beating so hard the massage table was probably vibrating lol! Don’t worry I’m not in love or anything haha) but I can’t stop thinking about him and the session. I think he truly unlocked my body and I didn’t even know it was locked before 😂. Also I orgasmed. Did… not… expect that to happen (as that has never happened with a partner). I was floating before he even touched me intimately. I think I wanna spend all my money there’ and do this every second, but obviously don’t him to think I’m some obsessed weirdo lol 😩.

Anyway thought to update you guys. Wishing you all luck !

Hi everyone, I am looking to learn more about tantra/tantric sex both alone/with a partner. I am looking for recs on where to start as I see a lot of online course and books and not sure where is the best place to go. Would love to hear some recs 🩷

Hello - Does anybody know of a tantra center that allows guests to live there and practice/learn tantra? Something beyond a normal 5 day retreat? Thank you!