I 33 F have had 3 kids 2 normal 1 c-section. My current boyfriend is by no means small he's 7 inches however we struggle in the bedroom. My first partner to whom I was with off and on for 8 years was larger not much by length but more so by girth. My 2nd long relationship of 9 years he was about the same as my current just a bit smaller. In between I did have a couple other sex partners both larger than my first and well below.

I say all of this because in the last 18 years I had never had someone describe having sex with me as walking through a door way into an open room or tell me he spread my Cookie apart and said he felt like he could see my ovaries.

Many comments such as this have made me become beyond disgusted with my body and I am now severely embarrassed. 1 of the girls I messed around with told me that it doesn't feel lose to her nor look blown out and that is with her fingers not a dick so I'm super confused and feel just ugh.

It's now causing a wedge in our sex life because he thinks I need to be with a bigger guy or I will in the future but when I was with bigger I didn't orgasm and it would hurt meanwhile with him I can orgasm multiple times. I need to find a resolution. I try to kegel but I don't know if I'm doing them right. I don't know how to properly use the kegel weighted balls and I don't want to lose the man I am in love with because my vagina is making him paranoid that I want more.

My apologies for such a long rant and if it seems stupid I really just need some kind of help.

Hi, I did not find any group of vaginal strenght training specifically, so this is for you who want to train strong vagina OR who like strong vaginas! Discussion about vaginal weight lifting. https://www.reddit.com/r/VaginalWeightLifting/

Hi, I love to do pompoir and especially I have trained strenght. I love it for many reasons. Maybe I have some kind of fetish for strong vaginas too. My own vagina, and others. But where I can see videos of pompoir skills? I have made some videos myself but only for my partners joy. But I would love to get new ideas! And see others doing it.

Hello All,I just posted this in r/sexover30 but figured it might make more sense here. I had been reading various sources online and speaking to a few women in the sex work industry about Pompoir, but couldn’t find enough specifics on many details Denise Da Costa mentioned in her book, Pompoir - The Ultimate Guide To Pelvic Fitness. My plan was to call or email her for clarification and write an update to the post, but unfortunately was never able to get ahold of her.

Then, at the start of this year, another Redditor reached out to me about potentially working together on experimenting with different techniques: she knew a handful of women open to trying different kegel-related exercises based on her own studies of Pompoir. Over the course of the summer, her team sent these women and me various exercises and patterns of kegels (squeezing slowly and releasing quickly in a whip-like movement, isolating the side muscles and flexing them as though twisting from left to right, for two examples) and requested feedback while they came up with a service that would visually show women how to execute these exercises. Her tutelage clarified a lot of questions I’d wanted to send Ms. Da Costa, including the difference between squeezing and contracting the muscles. She has since worked with gynecologists to launch a 3-month course called Goh!ddess that teaches every exercise using detailed animations and a very thorough walkthrough.

I am in no way sponsored by this company; I just felt I should share an update in case anyone would be interested and because I was finding so little information on the topic online. I have, as a thank-you for my participation, received an affiliate link from them that I can share if requested (that would provide a discount of $100 to anyone who uses it and will also give me $100) but I encourage everyone to go out and do their own research to find out what would work best for them. I can say that as a result of this training, I feel much tighter (possibly because of the muscle bulk) and also like I’ve just discovered sex for the first time. I used to think playing an active role in vaginal sex was mostly limited to being enthusiastic and maybe using a finger or two, but now I can bring my partner to climax, rather quickly if he doesn’t pull out, using my kegel muscles and hips alone. Sex is newly enjoyable in part because the increased friction–Pompoir is all about friction–leads to especially intense orgasms for me. My partner’s favorite move seems to be when I’m squeezing as I push down on him and release very hard (as though sneezing) as I pull away, and I find I can expel him using only my kegel muscles, sort of the way women can propel a ping pong ball across a room in some movies. According to some of the literature I've read, real masters of Pompoir can make a man climax without moving their hips at all, but I haven’t reached that level yet. It does feel very empowering to be able to bring both of us off without him doing any thrusting, though.I’ve been doing these exercises in conjunction with using a Yarlap, which wasn’t dictated by Goh!ddess and is another product with which I have no sponsorship, but it was a recommendation I saw here on Reddit and is something I’ve found has helped me build muscle pretty quickly (it’s an EMS device). Anyway, I’m not an expert on this subject at all but if anyone has any questions, feel free to ask and I’ll try to answer them as promptly as I can!