I'm trans, FTM, and going to a professtional for my long hair can't happen, there is seriously no way. People tell me that "oh (deadname) your hair is so pretty" and it's always the freaking hair! Im sick of it. It's not even my body that's the problem anymore, everyone talks about my hair! What the heck do I do? (note: I can't cut my hair for crud, I've never done it before and my family would never help me, I also have no friends that could help me)

We need this community.

I had to go off T because I developed this rare brain condition blah blah blah. Anyone else have a similar experience re needing to stop hrt?

There is a trans facebook group that I'm sure many of us are a part of... WKSS. Sometimes WKSS allows people to post pictures where they're shirts are off, showing breast growth. At the same time, WKSS hasn't explicitly banned minors, and there was a thread the other day where people stated their age and one person was 16. That is NOT okay, and I was banned for pointing this out. Why is this okay because mods don't give a shit?

Edit:

To be fair I don't think there were any photos of minors. The thread where someone said they were 16 was a separate thread without photos. It was a thread where people stated their age.

The thread with pictures I don't think anyone was under 18. The fact though that people who were 16 were allowed in a group that posted such photos is what made me so concerned.

Hello /r/srstranssupport. This a quick throwaway account I created for this. I am 14 years old, turning 15 this February, I live in the UK and I think that I might be trans and am unsure about what to do and I need some advice.

Recently I have begun to feel as if I don't want to be a man. I don't particularly like being male or the thought of being a man in the future. I feel quite stressed when I think about my this sort of stuff. I have read the effects of things like HRT and those are effects that I consider positive effects. I feel like I want to be a woman. I have tried wearing things such as skirts and I feel happier doing so.

Should I see a doctor about this? I have told my family how I feel and they are quite supportive but I haven't told anyone outside my close family (though an aunt knows and one of my mum's friends due to my mum mentioning it for whatever reason.). Should I tell friends?

So I started HRT almost a year ago, and it hasn't done shit. I still look disgusting and ugly, and that's never going to change. People who manage to pass start off looking better than I ever will. So do people who don't. I know the process takes a few years, but I have enough wrong with me that it's not reasonable to expect HRT to fix anything.

Can't afford any sort of surgery, can't focus or function well enough (despite the constant pile of "just learn to be okay with never passing" i get) that I'll ever be in a position where I can.

So if I'm stuck being disgusting and malformed to the point where leaving my room is a painful experience for the rest of my life, there's no real reason not to just quit while I'm ahead. Probably at the end of this year, unless I change plans.

Not sure why I'm even putting this here, I can't imagine anyone really cares about stuff like this. I'm pretty much just one of the ones that never manage to transition or pass that everyone looks at, thinks "wow i'm glad i'm not one of the unlucky ones," and avoids talking about as much as possible.

e: Decided to go through with it. It won't get better and I can't take more as it is. For what it's worth, thanks for listening.

(Preface: alt account because they're free. If I used any harmful/problematic language in the following, please PM me about it and I'll change it)

Hello all you wonderful people! I've recently fallen into a state of worry around my possible transsexuality, and since I've been lurking SRS for a long time, I figured this was the right place to go. First off, a little about me: I'm 16, straight, and both identify and present as male. I'm about as SAWCSM as a SAWCSM could be. I go to private college prep school that's 95% white and straight, and I live in a small, fairly moderate-Republican town. I have an appointment with a therapist next week about all this.

Now that my intro's out of the way, allow me to present my dilemma: over the past year or so, I've had some pretty wonky gender dysphoria, and I'm very confused by it. Before I go further, allow me to present my symptoms (courtesy of psych central):

repeatedly stated desire to be, or insistence that they are, the other sex

This, not so much. I do ponder from time to time what it would be like to be a woman, but I haven't directly wanted to be one until a few weeks ago.

in boys, preference for cross-dressing or simulating female attire

I do enjoy cross-dressing, but only for two purposes: theatre and sexual pleasure. I don't cross-dress in day-to-day life, but I probably would if no one would question me about it.

strong and persistent preferences for cross-sex roles in make-believe play or persistent fantasies of being the other sex

Again, only for sexual purposes. I get a great deal of - um - pleasure out of roleplaying as a girl during encounters with my SO.

a strong rejection of typical toys/games typically played by one’s sex.

Not at all, I'd rather play with stereotypical "boy's toys" than not.

intense desire to participate in the stereotypical games and pastimes of the other sex

Not so much, the only "stereotypically male" pastime I enjoy is video games, the rest are fairly balanced, such as theatre and watching movies.

strong preference for playmates of the other sex

Completely true. Since I was very young, most of my best friends have been girls.

a strong dislike of one’s sexual anatomy

This has only manifested within the last two months, since I've started having sex. When I receive oral, I can't (um again) come, which makes me both sad and regretful.

a strong desire for the primary (e.g., penis, vagina) or secondary (e.g., menstruation) sex characteristics of the other gender

Yes to primary, I would much rather have a vagina than a penis. No to secondary, I do not want to have a period or give birth.

The confusion I have is this: from my brief self-diagnosis, and personal feelings, I really would like to be a woman. However, due to my nature to start projects and not always finish them (thanks, ENFP), I fear that if I do decide to transition, I would realize I'd made a mistake or want to back out halfway through HRT, and ruin part of me permanently.
Another fear that I have came to light a little above: I get off on roleplaying as a girl (as far back as I can remember, I imagine myself as the girl almost 100% of the time I look at porn with a lady subject). I like being dressed up, made up, and then made to submit. I like being put in the position the "girl" would stereotypically find herself in, that of submitting. My current relationship could be described as "female-lead," and I love it that way. This leads me to believe I only want to transition for the sexual thrill, and once it wore off I would realize I made a big mistake.
As for societal acceptance, I'm not so worried. The school I go to is very accepting of GSM on the administration level, and I don't care what most of my classmates think of me. I've talked to my group of friends about my situation, and they're all very supportive ("we love you no matter what"), and I'm sure my parents would support me if I came out as trans.

So that's my big, messy, fucked up situation. Not as bad as some, but still a very confusing time for me. Do any of you have advice? Are there more resources I could look at about discovering myself? I would really appreciate some guidance on paths I could take with this. Thank you!

At the start of the year in February, I came out for the first time to my girlfriend. As a sixteen year old dude, I was expecting the worst and her to freak out. Instead she was stupidly supportive. Her positive reaction gave me the confidence to come out to my mother, which was a big deal considering I have felt like this for years. I told her, and she broke down into tears, told me we would have to move because we might be thought of as 'freaks' and the night ended in me having to leave the house for two weeks.

Anyone who isn't a close friend gets told I was kicked out for 'life choices' and the only people who find out the truth are my gf, mum, dad and a few close friends who I had to live with for the short space of time I got kicked out. Eventually, I tell my parents it was just a 'phase' and just to come home and be treated normally again. A little rough at first, but now it's October there isn't much talk about what happened. My mum brings up the 'February incident' sometimes, and always seems to insult transgender issues in the media.

I still feel very much this way, but haven't told anyone. I'm planning on waiting until I'm 18 but by then I feel like it will be too late for me to transition well. At this point, my girlfriend who originally supported me, thought it was cowardly to let my parents dictate who I was and so left me when I went back into the closest and haven't heard from her since. What do I do with my thoughts? Should I still continue to keep this to myself until I'm 18?

so i came out to an IRL friend recently and we’re supposed to hang out on friday for the first time since i came out to him and like

i was super excited? and then tonight got super anxious about it??? the anxiety has gone away now but i’m not sure if or when to expect it back again and i’m not sure if this is normal

he was totally cool and made like, 0% of a deal out of it when i came out to him, just asked my name and then we kept talking about other stuff so i don’t expect him to be shitlordy at all, or try to judge me for “how trans are you” or anything but at the same time

god i just don’t look like i feel i should and i’m scared to see him and my voice is still too high and just fuck it’s pressure trying to act like a girl so why is being out as myself so much pressure too???

There's an article by a well-known TERF at the top of SRSFeminism right now; it's been there a few days.

People are defending its presence, because having anti-sex-work stories of dubious truthfulness is oh so important. Transphobia isn't; it's fine to keep giving transphobes a voice within feminism! As long as they're not being transphobic at the moment, it's totally fine!

Every so often I hear people saying that TERFs aren't real feminists and real feminism isn't transphobic, but every time I see something like this, that feels like so much hot air.

I've seen this so many times that I'm tired of arguing about it. I've already abandoned most feminism-focused spaces because I keep running into transphobia in them, over and over again. SRS has been pretty good, but... maybe it's time to forget about it too.

I've talked to my clinician about Sex Dysphoria for a while now, and she suspects I have it. I have a strong desire to transition, but I will admit I'm young and my parents are not exactly supportive. Not abusive or anything, but they'd definitely turn down medicine.

My main concern here is that I've also been diagnosed with potentionally pyschotic depression, and need to take anti-depressants and psychotics daily. I'm worried that, if or when I transition, this will interfere with hormones and other supplements.

Has anyone gone through similar things?

For me personally, I simply can't understand the TERF thought process of calling me a man to destroy me. (I'm not excusing it in any way, it's repugnant and a dirty fight.)

But, I just want to say "Oh honey, nothing you throw at me could begin to meet what I threw at myself and dealt with. You're discovering the tip of an iceberg that I've already melted."

I think I'm going to be dead by the end of the year at this rate.

I look like a man, and a particularly ugly man on top of it. I'll never pass, with or without HRT (which hasn't been doing anything and probably won't start anytime soon) or surgery or anything, and it's obvious. My dysphoria is bad enough that being visibly trans the rest of my life isn't an option. I hate myself enough that I haven't been able to leave the house in weeks, because I don't want to force anyone to have to look at me. My family keeps "slipping up" with pronouns, but I look too much like a man to even bother correcting them. Not like it would stop anyone from calling me "sir" the second I leave the house anyway. I'm like 6'2", look like an ape, and nothing is ever going to fix that. I'm disgusting enough that I barely even look human, much less like I'd ever be able to pass.

I don't really have anyone to talk to about any of this. I have to keep my distance from everyone that I talk to because every time I've needed to talk, whether it's about how shitty I look or not, I've gotten blocked for being too depressing. can't really blame them for that. Definitely can't talk to my family, they've been threatening to have me committed next time I even mention it.

There's a lot of other shit wrong with me, but that's the main problem. I look disgusting, I'll never not look like a man, and even if I did have any support it would probably just delay the inevitable. I'm sure everyone has a lot of inspiring stories about "I don't pass, but everything is fine for me" and that's great, but that's not something I'm able to deal with.

I haven't made any plans or anything yet, but with the way things are going now, I think that's going to happen at some point.

Blegh. So. This is a bit of venting. I've had to apply for several background checks in the last year (Volunteered at a Hospital, Worked at a Hospital, Security Professional, Massage Therapy Program).

These weren't really an issue. I go in person, talk to a Police rep at the Information Office, and I explain the situation. They have to look my record under my name and my previous legal name, as well as mark down my sex as opposed to my gender. There have been some issues with finding me, so they generally just look under both sexes to see which one I am under.

The problem that came up is... well. I got hired at a crap, part time job. But they also need a background check. Normally I would just go get it done myself, but the company does it through a partner office in Vancouver. Still not a problem.

The problem is this. I had to fill out paperwork with my legal sex on it, with my previous name on it, and give it to someone who has power over whether or not I would get hired. He also has to "review" the info and sign off on it.

TL;DR. I had to hand over a document misgendering myself, with my previous name on it to a stranger and hope that nothing bad comes of it. :(

I came out to my parents about a month or two ago and since then they've been putting a lot of doubt in my mind about transitioning. The biggest thing recently, though, is my mother wants me to meet with each member of my extended family individually, face-to-face to tell them I'm trans. She's told me that it needs to be done before I transition and that it needs to be done face-to-face rather than via email or over the phone because otherwise it would be rude and they would feel I'm hiding things from them and it would suggest I don't want to continue associating with them.

Is this relatively common? Because I've never heard about anything like this before. And, more importantly, is it reasonable? It seems like a little much to require me to meet with everyone in person but my father doesn't seem to think so. He said that if I can't even face my family then I have no business trying to transition. But my little sister and I have always been sort of the black sheep of the family and although everyone has always been nice to us I don't really need to give them any more reason to dislike me. Does this seem unfair? Should I meet with them all anyway? It just seems like meeting with them all in person could cause so many more problems than it could solve.

I'm curious what people do and don't like about their gender identity and their transition. Everybody's story and journey is different, and I want to break the myth of an 'Universal Trans Experience', so tell us about you and yours.

It's worth mentioning again that this subreddit is for trans people only, and so cis voices are not necessary or welcome in this discussion, and if you are a cis person who considers yourself an ally, I'd ask you to not even look at this discussion.

I understand this is a strange question as, well, we are, and it's nigh on impossible to picture our lives as different about even the smallest of issues. I was simply wondering people's thoughts, as I know that I've definitely come into my own as a radical feminist individual, and if I were in an alternate universe without a need for transitioning I don't know how I would have turned out!

This is a very unusual subject as, well, it's entirely hypothetical, but I thought it may be an interesting theoretical exercise within this purely trans space.

TW: transphobia

I identify as a transgender womyn. I'm only three months past transition but I've been cross dressing for eight years, exclusively women's clothes for the last year and a half, always closer with my FAAB friends than anyone else to the extent that I was being treated as one of the ladies long before I came out.

When I came out, my mom said it came out of nowhere, to which I pointed out my cross-dressing. She outright admitted that she hadn't noticed - that she had ignored it. I don't want to drag up the micro-aggressions, but she's projected her internal bigotries on the rest of my family and has had multiple talks with me about my "safety," in which it feels like she worries about me as a passive-aggressive way to try and control me. This has happened multiple times, for my sexuality, my political involvement, and now for my gender identity.

On Saturday there was a March of Dimes fundraiser for my sister's second son, who was born 3 months premature. I slept in my make-up so I wouldn't have to redo it in the morning. She noticed and gave me a line about how it was an event for my nephew and so I shouldn't wear it. I wasn't happy, but I took it off and wasn't going to say another word about it.

When we got in the car she came at me with a stand-offish attitude about how we needed to talk. She asked me why I was so mad, I said I wasn't mad, and then she went off about how there's always consequences for my actions and if I went looking like that my sister would have to explain me to everyone and how selfish of me that would be and how selfish I am all the time. I pretty much kept quiet, except when she told me I like the attention and to cause a scene. I mean, I do like the attention women give me - I love the small compliments and sweetness and telling me I'm beautiful, hell I wouldn't have transitioned if I didn't love that. But honestly it felt like she was saying I love being gender policed and how people will perpetrate drama on me, then blame me for causing the drama when I fight back, which ALWAYS happens when you stand against oppression. So I said I don't like the attention and that she was victim blaming me for the shitty reactions some cisgendered people have to trans* people. She interrupted me and got louder and threw up some Facebook posts I had made as "proof."

So I just shut down. She had obviously thought about this stuff beforehand, and I was in the wrong no matter what, and she was trying to cause me emotional harm to get me to shut up. So I did. We drove the rest of the way in near silence, until she asked me if I was still going to march or if I was too mad. I said, softly because I was trying not to cry, that I wasn't mad. She asked me what I was then, and I said I didn't know how to answer that. She said she didn't have to take the abuse.

When we got there, she acted like nothing had happened. I talked with a few family friends for a really short time, the whole time wishing they would leave me alone, before I snuck off and hid behind a tent. I felt like I wasn't supposed to cause a scene, and even though the argument was originally about make-up I was super conscious of the internalization of new modes of walking, talking, everything really. I felt like I was supposed to undo all of that and be manly, I felt like I shouldn't talk about the last three months of my life even though everything that's happened in those months has been based off of me coming to terms with who I am (I've lost friendships, lost a job, gotten chased out of my old house). I felt like, just by being there and being myself, I would cause a scene. So I tried my hardest to not be there.

What I really hate about this situation is how my sister is involved in it because my mom made her be involved. I've always had a screwed up relationship with my family; of course I have, my ability to love myself is undeveloped so my ability to love them is crap. And I was hoping that transitioning would let me grow closer to everyone, but my mom created this situation where now I can't talk to my sister about what happened without proving how much of a self-centered drama queen I am. So even though my sister reached out to me later that day, I've only sent her a single text since then and I just feel like anything I say (or not saying anything) is the WRONG thing to say.

My mom is mostly pretending nothing happened. If someone else treated me like that I'd just remove them from my life, but I'm living in her basement and unemployed, so that isn't exactly an option. And the tone of a few conversations and text messages seems like she realized she screwed up, but she hasn't made any effort to apologize, and if she's just going to get defensive and talk over me I'm not going to bother trying to explain anything to her because it'll just be too painful. I really don't know what to do...

So last night, I was on the bus home. I was about to get off and this guy puts his comb in my hair. I ask him what the hell he is doing. He squares up to me and threatens to beat the shit out of me.

I get off the bus, and he follows me, calling me a faggot, threatening me. I stop and shout back, "all I am doing is going home, that is all I am doing!". I then cross the road and run home.

This isn't the first time this has happened. And it sure as shit won't be the last. But the worst, WORST thing is, some of my friends (all of my friends are cis) told me that they don't ever want to hear about the trans stuff. They don't like hearing about it and being trans doesn't make me special. That "we all get shit from time to time, stop making a big thing about it".

So for the longest time I kept it all to myself. I didn't talk about it with anyone. But then I thought, why the hell am I letting myself be silenced by the people in my life? Because it made them feel uncomfortable?

They don't get this shit. Yes, they get some shit very rarely, the same rare shit I get but they don't also get threats, abuse and made to feel so scared far too regularly.

Many of my friends are not like this. And are very supportive. But some also feel the need to debate me on the subject. "Did you do anything, what were you wearing? It is just something you are going to have to live with".

FUCK YOU it is.

I have decided, never to be silent on this again. If it happens, I am not going to be afraid to tell people about it. If only to show them how fucked up society can be to people who just don't fit in or are "other" types of people.

Rant over, sorry...

please let me know if i need to tw anything else from the original post

"[tw: trans issues, suicide, death & violence]

been dealin with gender dysphoria for as long as i can remember. i hate my name, hate my body, hate my voice, hate who im perceived as. depresses me to no end :^(

im not out to anybody yet, except a bit of the internet and my therapist. parents know vaguely how i feel, but last i talked to em about it was months ago, so they probably dont realize how serious what i told em was.

i live in a rural town in the midwest. the people are queerphobic as hell. have heard peers say they want to kill f(homophobic slur)s and t(transphobic slur)s because theyre "sick in the head." im frightened to death of this community. i know other queer teens who live here, but feel like organizing a queer support group would put me and them in danger.

im 17 this month and puberty hit me like a truck. ive got a masculine face and frame, and my voice is a very low bass. i feel like its too late for me to have a chance at ever transitioning well, and i feel like no one will ever truly perceive me as female, or any other non-male gender, with so much masculinizing me.

part of me doesnt even want to transition, just be perceived differently, to have people stop gendering my body and voice so i could finally feel comfortable with them, but im losing hope fast and spiraling back into depression.

where can i even go, once im out? what can i even do for a living? will i even survive

please help, srswomen"

suicide and depression

I'm sick of the fact that every time I dare point out that a cis person MIGHT, MIGHT have some subtle transphobia that is affecting their opinion. I automatically get the OP and a legion of butthurt cis people being all butthurt. I'm tired of them tone policing me and cissplaining to me what is and isn't transphobia. And how I should feel about that.

I'm not even going to bother calling out any oppression I see anymore. It's all pointless. It's never good enough. Every time I get entitlement shoved in my face. I'm tired of it. I'd rather just suffer their micro aggressions and unchecked privilege.

I don't know what to say here, except that talking to my friends and loved ones is mostly making them worry about me and I don't want to keep taking that heavy a toll on them.

I can't afford surgery, but my school health insurance covers a portion. Problem is, my financial aid and class credits are presently fucked six ways to Sunday and tomorrow I get to find out whether that's an insoluble problem or not. Even then I'd still be a few thousand dollars short of my goal and have no clue where that'd come from in such a short time frame (I have to get it done while my semester insurance isn't expired). I'm emotionally ragged after spending all day freaking out about it and even when I managed to distract myself I couldn't really calm down.

I'm not sure if I could get it anyway due to weight limitations; it's awful and frankly kinda sizeist (yes, I know there are different physical issues at sizes and body fat percentages but don't try and tell me the limitations surgeons have aren't more to do with fear of liability and pervasive mistaken ideas about fat and health; seriously if you're going to bring that up just please don't). It's fucked, but I'm willing to suffer a lot to get down to a weight where they'll operate because I just can't fucking afford to stand on principle here. Assuming there is one -- I'm really tall and with a large frame; at 210 pounds I'd be starving to death, not in good health.

I'm disabled and haven't worked a job in years. No degree, no immediate options on the horizon to change any of that. This is literally the closest I've ever been in my life to any chance of getting this dealt with, and it feels like it's just going to end in frustration.

And...meanwhile, one of my partners has been post-op for years and another is getting help from her parents, and a third is amply able to afford it thanks to her lucrative tech job. And I just spoke with an ex of mine recently who's been able to afford it, and basically it just seems like nearly everyone I know who's in a similar situation is getting this taken care of and...

god dammit I just feel abandoned and that's stupid as fuck, these people aren't leaving my life but they're all pursuing this thing and they're making it happen, and meanwhile every time I try to do something for myself it just feels like some colossla cosmic joke. It's creating emotional distance between me and others and I can tell people are holding off on talking about it with because they don't want to upset me, but that's almost worse in its own way.

The only person I know who's got anything like this level of problem is someone with similar challenges as me, but she's about ten years older and has become so bitter and jaded about it that she's actually done some pretty horrible stuff and hurt people around it. She just cuts off contact, or gets all creepy and clingy and possessive of their bodies if they're close to her. It's super disturbing and...

it terrifies me. Because oh god, that's awful. I can't stop wondering if that's me ten years down the line, with no hope and no means of getting this dealt with. It scares me that I'll become so bitter and envious and unable to cope that I'll just push everyone away, and fulfill my paranoid abandonment fears because of being so fucked up.

How the fuck are you supposed to even live with this shit?

Hi guys. Long time reader, first time posting.

I was born a girl, never felt like one, always knew this. I hate the idea of ever being a cis-female. I never wear dresses, skirts, makeup, or anything even remotely feminine, nor do I have (or even understand) the cis-female mind, and I never will. I've been giving this subject a lot of thought over the past few years and I don't think I want to be a physical male (as in, have a penis or whatever...). I feel that my mind isn't female, but not entirely male either. I have already chosen to at least change my name because I don't feel that my birth name actually fits me due to it being so feminine.

I'm about to start a new job as a server at a restaurant in a few weeks (hired as a female, but didn't really present femme to the interview... more neutral than either side). The manager seems really cool and I don't think it would be an issue for me to be out at work, especially from the beginning. I may even be able to use my new name there, but I'm not sure how to approach that.

This puts a lot of pressure on me because I know I'll make more money if I present full-cis-female (which makes me uncomfortable). Also, this got me thinking about future jobs and how most will make me conform to either cis-gender standards.

I have my very first appointment with a therapist tomorrow, and I'm not sure exactly what to talk about or what to ask... I mean, I doubt I'll transition fully to male seeing as I don't really want to be one (that I know of), so I just don't know what kind of gender limbo I'm in right now.

Any tips on what to ask or talk about on my first appointment? All help is appreciated :)

Would love advice, but mostly kinda wanting to rant. I'm a pre-transition transwoman; and due to some nifty turns of events, I'll be able to start transitioning again in the next couple months. Yay me!

But I am continually afraid of having a masculine voice. Besids being a weird thing that doesn't seem possible to "figure out" by just reading things, I've got an already-deep voice, and I smoke, like, a pack of cigarettes a day. (Haha I need to knock that shit out ASAP I think. :I) There's a pretty significant part of me that's afraid I'll never "figure out" how to get my voice working, and that I'll always get clocked playing the online videogames or talking on the phone and shit. Ugh it's the pits.

Ionno. Not really the sort of griping that requires an answer, but something tells me some of y'all might get it. >_>;

I consider myself a genderqueer male, probably agender -- that is, I'm fine with being biologically male (except for some things explained below), but I do not identify as a man; I don't think of myself as having a gender. But I often seem cisgender -- you could say I "pass" as cis -- and I'm kind of ignorant of a lot of trans...stuff (I only recently learned why the asterisk is in there). I feel like people question my identity, including one trans person I know; like, they think I'm just a special little snowflake trying to identify as trans* to be different, which I don't feel is the case.

I don't think I've really experienced gender oppression. Maybe. When people (mostly my father) refer to me as a "man," I don't say anything because it might open up a can of worms I don't want to deal with. When I was very young, I told my mother I wanted to be a girl; she told my father and he got all pissed off.

Though I'm fine with being biologically male, I really dislike my body. I want to look androgynous, even feminine. But I'm not really interested in hormones -- I feel like they wouldn't help.

But overall, I don't really consider my gender identity to be a big part of who I am. Like, if someone asks I'll say that yeah, I consider myself genderqueer, but I don't think of myself as "XYEaQMZJvS, the trans* kid." Or even "XYEaQMZJvS, the anarchist kid." You get what I mean?

Also, I'm mostly heterosexual. But I also consider myself polyamorous. And I struggle with behaviors that I at times think are sexist, like viewing pornography.

So...do you think I "count" as trans*, or no?

So a couple of years ago I started to identify as "a-gender," or lacking gender, and I started asking people to refer to me as they instead of he. Sometimes I worry that I am "not trans enough" to deserve the title. I pass as male, but I don't feel male at all, and sometimes I get really anxious to start dressing more femininely so people get it, but I don't like the way that makes me look.

I am just so confused. Idk. When my partner started using both feminine terms for attractiveness as well as masculine terms to describe my body it was the first time I really felt attractive. Idk, I guess Im just posting to vent.

well, i just yelled at a co-worker of mine for being a transphobic shit. saying about a trans woman "no, SORRY, but that is a man". i'm a closeted, female-presenting trans man so i guess i don't /appear/ trans but that doesn't mean that it's okay to say shitlordy things. i think she used slurs too but i really don't remember. god it's just fucked my head up and i'm still shaky. we're a super small company and there is no HR and besides, i think my management would be more on her side than mine so. just ugh and fuck and i hate a lot of things right now

Just an update and Thank you to all the trans forums for helping me the past 2 years. Despite dealing with an impending divorce, my ex just filed. I am happy. Saturday was my first day of full time after being part time almost a year. It was great. My employer and co workers gave me no hassle despite living in Southern WV. I have my own place and have my kids half of the month with shared custody. Dating has been interesting but not impossible. All in all I'm hurting and happy at the same time. Moving forward after an on the job transition is kind of impressive. So thank you ask for love, support, and inspiration.

I'm MTF and I really want to transition but I am so scared to. I keep imagining being stuck as looking like a female but still having guy genitalia and it feeling really weird. Like, I don't identify 100% as female but I do identify like . . . 75%? So I would much rather be a female than a male. But I'd rather go drab than be stuck between like that.

Can anyone tell me if it's likely I'd be stuck at that stage for long? I still haven't talked to a therapist about this because I only recently came out and the one I want to meet had a bit of wait for appointments.

So, sparing the lengthy contextual details: I hate my facial hair. I don't know that the aversion is strong enough to qualify as dysphoria, but I do know that I'd be ecstatic if I never had to see or feel it again. To that end, I was curious if anyone had any advice for finding a good electrolygist (as I've heard quality can vary wildly, and can very much affect results), and any insight into things I may want to consider in the cost/benefits analysis.

Any feedback is appreciated!