As a Muslim ik it is haram and my family is strict. I also don't like what he is doing this is the 3rd time he has done this and I don't want to stress my parents out but I found his phone open and saw the text messages. Some texts were really bad. I don't know what to do my parents will be stressed even more when they find out he's doing this again. Last time was another girl he is spoiling our name. What should I do, if i speak to him ik he will get angry. He can't get married he has no income and is not stable to support a family he is also young.

My mother will have a heart attack as it is we're dealing with so much. It is like he does not care about us /his mother at all

This morning my 11y D saw me in short revealing night dress, she walked in without seeking permission. I remained calm & didn't panic. I was in the process of getting changed so I had trouser on. She asked if what I was wearing was a vest top because it was tucked in my trouser, I said yes.

What should I explain to tell her if we have a conversation about this later?

Hi, I'm sorry if this is TMI.

I (23F) accidentally saw my little brother (10M) touching himself in his bedroom. He left the door wide open and I was passing by, it shook me and bothered me. I am like a second mother to him because of the age difference. He knows I saw him and now I dont know what to do.

I dont want to ignore it because I know it needs to be addressed but I also dont want to make it worse.

Please tell me what to do.

I’ve noticed that many shows today subtly promote values that feel so out of place. Are there any high-quality, well-produced cartoons that teach kids about the stories of the prophets, good character, how to pray, and similar topics? I’m looking for captivating YouTube shows in English. For kids 8 and above.

JazakAllah

 Salam everybody I have a question i recently caught my son smoking weed I just dont know if im being too harsh on him he is not allowed to leave the house for a couple months is that too harsh or should i tone it down a little?

Just a post to express how proud I am of my daughter today. She told me she was ‘asked out’ at school today and responded to the boy that as a Muslim she cannot date and that they are too young so he is inappropriate for asking her out. The reason I am more proud is because her father (we are divorced) has a girlfriend that he brings around our child when she is in his care and it’s always been a worry of mine that our child will be influenced by this. Alhamdulillah she has made me a very proud mama! May Allah continue to lead her on the right path.

Helloo. I am a 21 F living in the Uk and recently I got into a HUGEE fight with my mum. To the point where she kicked me out and saying that I am a worthless and disrespectful daughter.

To give context, the night before the fight my mum wanted me to do grocery shopping with her and I said that I couldn’t cos my friend is coming outside the city to visit me and she already booked her coach ticket. She was annoyed at first but we came into an agreement that we would do the shopping the following morning. My mum doesn’t wake up that early and I knew that this would not work but she insisted on doing the shopping hours before I have to leave to see her.

But, the next morning arrives and she never woke up till midday. I was going to get ready to see my friend till my mum said for me to prep for the grocery shopping. I said that you woke up too late and we don’t have time to do it now and she freaked out. She started to shout out me saying how i prioritise my friends over my mum but I have cancelled plans with friends for my mum before. Then she started to call me worthless, useless and disrespectful daughter. On top of that she started to call me a bastard (which doesnt make sense at all). I said to her to call for my 26 M brother and she said to never speak his name.

The argument started to escalate even more and she started to say that she hates me and that she never loves me and that if i leave this house, i should never come back… This was the third or fourth time she said that to me as I gotten older she now threatens me to the streets since I am an adult and she has done duty as a parent. I had enough with my mum’s heartless behaviour that I just left and never came back. And before i left the house, i remember seeing my mum laughing on the phone as if she doesn’t care about me at all.

Fortunately, my nan was able to take me in and since I am currently in University, I asked to move to the dorms and they accepted me.

Now my nan said that I should forgive my mum because at the end of the day we are all Muslim and forgiveness is an important part of Islam. But I just feel like my relationship my mum is slowly getting more threatening cos I do one thing wrong, she threatens to kick me out. And why would I want to live in a place like that… I have told my best friend (who is also a muslim) about my situation and she was in shock to hear that my mum would willingly kick me out of the house, especially in this country. I always hear in Islam that we must respect our parents, but I don’t hear anything about how parents should treat their children with love and respect… My mum always says heartless things to me when she mad and this is the fourth time she screamed i don’t love you to me and i remember when i was younger (teen years), she told me that no man would ever marry me…

Anyways. I just hope that someone can give me honest advice.

Asalamu alaykum all, I am looking for advice. I am Muslim revert of 4 years, and I am a wife and a mother of a 12 month old.

I feel like my husband and I have been trapped in an endless cycle. We both have degrees, but neither of us are making much in our jobs. I work during the day, my husband works overnights, and because of that I feel like our son is not being raised in the best possible way, and he is developmentally behind on a lot of things because my husband is very tired during the day from working overnights. Additionally, my husband and I rarely have any time together, we eat fast food more than we should because neither of us really have time to cook, and often we do not pray our prayers on time. I feel like we are stuck in a loop. It doesn’t feel good for our lives or our faith.

I can’t explain it, but for the last few months I’ve been feeling really inspired to quit my job. I’ve dreamt of being a mom my whole life, and now that I am one, I feel like I’m missing out on my sons life. I would love to be there with him everyday rather than sitting at a desk away from him. I’d rather be spending time with my son, taking care of our home, insuring we have home-cooked meals, etc. My husband ever is always so tired from working a night shift. I also don’t like the idea of paying to put my son in daycare when I’m the one that wants to be doing it. Additionally, daycare would also cost what I’m making income-wise anyways.

I feel like my son is also not getting the best version of myself. When I get home from work I’m tired, depleted, so I don’t even feel like I have quality time with him. I’d rather my energy go towards him everyday.

I think quitting would be good for us in lots of ways. I’d have more quality time with my son, my husband could switch to a daytime job which would be really good for him and for us, I’d have time to make home cooked meals and strive to raise my son in a better way, less tv, etc. When I’m 90 years old I’m scared I’m going to look back with regret and feel like I missed out on my son’s life. I want to look back and know I was always there with him.

I guess the main problem is and the reason I’m hesitant to quit, is that we don’t have much money, so it almost feels dumb to give up an income. Also my son and I are currently on my own health insurance that I get through my job, and I’m worried if I quit my husband won’t be able to easily find us health insurance which is reallyyyy essential here in America. This job also has the potential for me to work my way up over time, but my heart is just not in it. The concept of “tying your camel” always sticks out to me, and part of me wonders if quitting my job would essentially just be me un-tying my camel? I feel like I’m not special for not wanting to work, as a lot of people don’t want to work. Would it be irresponsible for me to quit? How would I know if Allah truly wants me to just trust Him and quit? It feels like I’m jumping with out a parachute. It can either go really well or really bad. Part of me feels like I should just make the jump, quit my job and trust in Allah because I really believe this will be so good for all of us. But the other part of me is scared and feels like this is an irresponsible decision. How can I know for sure?

I’m also scared because they literally just hired me 6 months ago (I’m the newest addition to the team) and I practically just finished training. They’re understaffed at my company and it’s a tough time right now, so I’m also really nervous to disappoint them or cause issues by quitting. I honestly think they’ll all be mad at me.

Any advice would be appreciated!!

Salaam everyone,

I was born and raised in the UK, I am 26 and a Mum to 2 beautiful girls alhumdulillah. Some may call me mildly religious. I am really saddened by the lack of available resources for muslim kids and want to do some things to address this. One of my main things is the lack of muslim-child friendly characters that our kids can relate to. Theres no point saying kids shouldnt watch cartoons etc because they are growing up in the digital age, so lets embrace it.

I want to create like muslim-friendly tshirt set designs, wall art for bedrooms, even advice cards to muslim couples.

What kind of stuff would you want to see as muslim and would you be willing to buy and at what price?

(I am intending to donate a % of my sale profits to charity permanently throughtout the year as a form of sadaqah which will be sadaqah jaariyah for you guys too).

Let me know please! I'd really appreciate it!

👉 Survey Link  https://forms.gle/FwVaHjDpqPF9QzTg9

Assalamu Alaikum! I’m in the early stages of developing an app specifically for Muslim parents that focuses on comprehensive early childhood development, blending Islamic values and teachings with essential baby and toddler health, brain, and well-being guidance. The app will cover stages from pregnancy up to 6 years old, integrating daily activities, challenges, milestones, and Islamic learning.

To make sure this app truly meets the needs of our community, I’d love your input! Could you take a few minutes to fill out a quick survey? Your feedback will be invaluable in shaping this project and ensuring it has the right balance of education, fun, and Islamic values.

What the app will include:

• Islamic value-based early development activities
• Pregnancy and parenting tips grounded in the Qur’an and Hadith
• Daily learning tasks, health insights, and educational challenges
• A growth tracker, milestone logs, and more

Thank you in advance for helping to make this vision a reality! Your input will truly help us create a resourceful app that serves and enriches the Muslim parenting community.

JazakAllah Khair for your time and support!

Salaam everyone!

I’m a parent looking for a Muslim-friendly app that can help with my baby’s early learning and development, ideally with activities that blend Islamic values and basic skills for babies and toddlers. I’d love something that includes:

• Age-appropriate activities and milestones
• Interactive features like stories, duas, or Islamic songs for kids
• Guidance for parents on nurturing kids with a balance of faith and early education
• Tips on raising kids with Islamic values from a young age

If you know of any apps that combine Islamic teachings with early developmental support, or if you have recommendations for other resources that could be helpful, I’d really appreciate it!

Thank you in advance, and may Allah bless all our efforts in raising kind, curious, and faithful children!

Salam. For those in the UK, does anyone have any experience of sending their child to Church of England or Catholic schools? Is it okay to send Muslim children there? I have no experience. But on the one hand I feel they will be better staying away from certain things that we want to avoid children exposed to in their young age. Also I feel it is not as easy to go down the Christianity hole, compared to atheism. On the other hand, the constant drilling of Christian values may be a problem.

I’m 19 years old and I’ve been disrespectful to my parents this is leading me to struggling in doing my roles as a Muslim ( I would like to tell my story but that’s way too long) what to do cuz I know my parents hate me…. I regret my actions and I would ask for forgiveness but I’ve tried that many times and they prob won’t believe and forgive me anymore without their forgiveness will Allah still forgive me?

Hi all

I have two young daughters, one is 3 and the other is newborn.

I live in a rough area with lots of crack addicts and dealers. They generally do not interact with anybody but today they did.

Now for context, I am very protective of my daughter and while I am not a huge guy, I can and will defend myself and my family, and I do not look like a weak person at all.

Today one of the local drug dealers said hello to my daughter and said she's very cute. No problem there.

But I do not want scum of this type making it a habit to speak to my daughter.

If he asks her name, for example, I do not know how to react. I do not want people like this to even know my daughter's name, but at the same time I wouldn't want to openly disrespect these people as it could be dangerous for my wife and kids.

Does anybody have any advice?

Hello mothers (and fathers),

Do people here have pregnancy related Islamic guidelines to share with me? E.g. what guidelines to follow while pregnant, during delivery and after child birth.

I would appreciate this very much!

Thank you!

What are your thoughts on using technology for your children?

I used to be a no tech girlie until I started teaching kindergarteners.. some days my students will run and punch each other. The only thing that’ll calm them down is nature sounds or calming music.

I don’t really want to use tech with my little ones, but I think children really enjoy watching cartoons, reading on Epic or listening to calming music - it really keeps them engaged.

Of course, taking care of one child is different than seeing 25 kids in the classroom, but how are we going to navigate the balance of technology with activities that involve fine motor skills to foster a healthy learning environment for ourselves and our kids?

My Father is very sick, maybe dying can you guys make dua for his well beeing and guidance. His name is Mostafa. Jazzakaallahu khairan.

🖋️ Do Not Hate Your Daughters -

Sheikh Sulayman Al-Ruhayli

من العدل يا إخوة أن لا يكره الإنسان ما يهبه الله له من البنات

It is from fairness, brothers, that one doesn’t hate the daughters that Allah blesses him with.

بعض الناس إذا رزق بولد اعتنى بتسميته واعتنى بعقيقته...وإذا رزق بأنثى كان كأنما نزلت عليه مصيبة

Some people, if they are granted a son, they take care in naming him and take care of his Aqeeqah. However, if they are granted a girl, it is like a calamity has fallen on them.

وهذا في الحقيقة ليس من أخلاق أهل الإسلام وإنما هذا من أخلاق أهل الجاهلية

This isn’t from the manners of the people of Islam, rather this is from the manners of the people of the days of ignorance before Islam.

ولنسمع هذا الحديث البديع في هذا الباب: عن عقبة بن عامر رضي الله عنه قال، قال رسول الله ﷺ

Let's hear this wonderful Hadeeth on this issue: ‘Uqbah ibn ‘Amir reported: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said,

” لا تَكْرَهوا البَناتِ ، فإنَّهنَّ المُؤْنِساتُ الغالياتُ”

“Do not hate your daughters, for they are joy bringers and precious.”

رواه الإمام أحمد وضعفه الألباني ثم تراجع وذكره في الصحيحة، وهو الصواب فإسناده صالح

It was narrated by Imam Ahmad and deemed weak (i.e., inauthentic) by Al-Albani. Then, he retracted that and mentioned it as authentic, and this is correct, because its chain of narration is good.

لا تكرهوا البنات من الذرية فهن المؤنسات والله: الحنان والعناية موجودة في البنات وفي كل خير (ذكور و إناث)

Do not hate your daughters, for they are joy bringers. By Allah, tenderness and care are present in girls, and goodness is found in both genders.

Assalamualaikum dear brothers and sisters. I have a child, M6, and I am looking for suggestions to be involved mother. Please share your wisdom in child raising.

Jazakallahu Khairan

My daughter's name is Leanna Yasmin (Delicate or soft Jasmine) everyone in my family calls her /ˈjɑːsmiːn/ but I recently found that Arabic name of Yasmin's the "a" sound is pronounced Shorter(ياسمين) so the way we calling her is correct or not? Don't think me as picky guy. I'm concern because She is our first baby after 4 years💗🥰

I’m surprised how a lot of Muslim parents aren’t aware of their child’s dyslexic needs

Or they are, but are reluctant to get their child assessed

My child loves reading books before bedtime. So, I am looking for some kids books that are for 4-8 years old. The book should not be wordy, but having pictures, illustrations etc.

Can you suggest me few books of such kinds?

Jazakallahu Khairan!

Dont say 'Hi' or 'Goodmorning' or 'Sabah al Khayr' to ur child when they wake up or when u pick them up from school. Say 'Assalaamu Alaikum'.

Teach them to say Salam to their friends & siblings as well. Spread love in ur kids by teaching them to say the proper Salaam.

Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said: "Should I not inform you of something that, if you were to do it, would cause you to love one another? Spread the salaam between yourselves" [Saheeh Muslim]

i have difficulties finding engaging islamic books for my kids, aged 8 and 12. it doesnt have to a book for both, could be individual too - but most books i find are for much smaller children (ie. super big fonts and very short sentences, maybe for 5 year olds), or books that seem too complex to keep a 10 year old interested for long enough.

any suggestions? i dont care about the nature of the book - islamic stories, scientific or anything in between, as long as its somehow related to islam.

Salam alaikum! I have a question please. I am wondering if in this sub there is anyone who has experience with homeschooling kids to protect their Islamic values and preserve their education? Especially in Algeria. For context I am a Canadian/Algerian and thinking about homeschooling my kids in Algeria with the Canadian curriculum. Has anyone ever tried something similar? I’ll take any advice I can get. Jazakom Allah

Salaam everyone. Sorry for the weird title, I wasn’t sure what to write. I’m a mother to a one year old boy alhamdulillah. Basically (tldr?), I’m not sure about whether to start preparing for a second kid or if I should delay it for my own sanity (Sanity isn’t quite the right word but I don’t know what other word to use, and this does feel a bit more extreme than it actually is).

So background info: My husband and I talked about kids before I got pregnant (how many we want, how far apart etc.) My husband wants 5-6 kids (maybe more), I said max 4 because I’m not sure how many pregnancies and labour I can handle. But if I’m being completely honest, I wouldn’t have minded being child free either and would actually have preferred it.

If it wasn’t for the importance Islam places on children and increasing the ummat, I would have told my husband that I don’t want kids. But I am prepared to sacrifice my body and my life for the sake of Allah and the ummat. This is why (for Islam and for my husband) I agreed to having kids despite not actually wanting them. It’s confusing, but I love kids, I just hate the responsibility and especially the lack of me time.

We got married the halal way, only one meeting before we did our nikah. In that one meeting, I realised we had very similar views and personalities, although our cultures clash. But I was happy with him, and I am thankful for him every day. So it was after we’d been married that we discussed kids. He wanted kids straight away, I did not, so he agreed to wait. I wanted to wait 4-5 years before having kids, because I wanted to enjoy our marriage and our life together before taking this very big step.

But my husband couldn’t wait that long. We had lots of long talks and eventually we came to the mutual agreement that we would meet in the middle, and start trying for a baby 2 years into our marriage. Alhamdulillah that worked out well, I got pregnant very quickly and now we’ve been blessed with the most adorable little one . Now in our talks, we also discussed age gap between kids. We both had similar views, we didn’t want a big age gap because we want our kids to be close in age so they can grow up together, but not so close either because that would be too difficult. So we agreed that we would wait 1 1/2 years between each kid until we start trying for the next. Well that deadline is fast approaching and I’m filled with anxiety and dread.

My husband is an extrovert, he has endless amounts of energy and loves to socialise and everything that comes with the territory. I’m the complete opposite, an absolute introvert who gets exhausted by social interactions and needs a lot of me time. Obviously with a baby, me time is non existent.

My husband also works 12 hour days to support us in this tough economy, I’m a stay at home mum at the moment. So I’m home with the baby all day everyday, looking after him and tending to him, doing my best. My husband is obviously very exhausted from working so much, so when he comes home, he needs some rest. But even when he’s home, he’s still focused on work (on his phone, online etc.). His job is very demanding, but it helps us get by alhamdulillah.

So I feel like I’m drowning. Most days my mood is sour, and I don’t have the energy to interact, even with him. I’m constantly on social media trying to find a distraction from reality. I try to limit my phone use, but then I get overwhelmed with the lack of me time and constantly doing work and I just can’t do it. I want to be happy, I want to be my husbands safe place, but I just can’t. My husband hates seeing me so “serious” and moody all the time, but he doesn’t understand the exhaustion because his extrovertedness gives him unlimited energy. I’m sorry, this turned into a bit of a rant.

I want to add that my husbands amazing. He helps me around the house when he can, he’s an amazing father and husband. He’ll take the baby when I’m sleeping to let me rest up and does whatever he can to make me happy. He’s forgiving when the house is messy and when I’m not able to keep up with my responsibilities. But I can see how much he hates seeing the mess. He’s a very clean and organised person and he wants his wife and his house to be the same. I also want that but at the same time, I can’t keep up. The monotony of having to cook and clean every day makes me dread waking up some days. It was fine before my pregnancy, but now I spend all my energy tending to the baby and don’t have the energy left to do the housekeeping.

To get to the point, my 1 1/2 year “deadline” is coming up fast (to start trying for a second child), and I just don’t know. I really want to stick to the age gap because I don’t want my baby to grow up without siblings close in age. I want to see them play together and grow together. But I don’t know if I’m ready. I hate that I compromised and had a baby before I was ready. I’m not a perfect mother, and I sometimes get overwhelmed and show frustration towards our baby which makes him cry. I hate that I let this happen but I can’t stop it. It’s an endless cycle. I want to wait till I’m ready to have the second child, because I know I can’t handle the exhaustion that comes with having two kids. But I also don’t know if I can handle the guilt of not giving our baby a sibling close in age.

My first pregnancy was very exhausting for me, I had horrible morning sickness and a horrible recovery from labour. I can’t do all that again while running around after an active toddler. I can’t stay at home alone all day with a newborn and toddler, struggling to breastfeed and heal and everything else.

I cried multiple times a day after our first baby was born. I hated the pain, I hated the changes to my body, I hated not being able to eat or sleep without being needed, without having a crying baby in my arms. I hated struggling to breastfeed and pumping and being exhausted from the pumping/breastfeeding.

I know this is a lot, and I’m sorry. Please give me any advise you can. And please be gentle with your words. I know how harsh some Reddit comments can be. I’m in a vulnerable state of mind and I feel horrible as it is. Please please please be kind.

Thank you.

Salam,

We are in the US.

I spoke to a sheikh and he stated that my sons and my wife's daughters are non mahram and should be segregated and they must wear hijab at all times. Both sides kids are from other marriages.

I feel really bad about this, and we didn't even consider this before the nikkah. My wife hasn't moved in yet but i'm not sure what to do.