I'm Lebanese; my wife is Kenyan/Somali. We are both immigrants to Canada and came here for college many years ago and have settled here. We are PRs. Our kids are ages 1-21, all of whom were born here in Canada. Our 12-17yo kids attend a private school, and my daughter's hijab was pulled off today. Got called at work to come to school to collect my 13yo son, who went looking for this kid when my 12yo daughter told him what happened. This is the part I struggle with. My 13yo son went looking for this kid after the initial incident was over. There was no more danger to her. Yes there was humiliation and she was absolutely the victim of a bias incident, which it is being investigated as, but I'm not sure it warranted my boy finding this kid at lunch, walking up on him and randomly hitting him. No explanation or anything from him -- just rocked this kid's jaw. Told him if he ever put his hands on his sister again, he would kill him. Look, I'm every bit as angry as my son, who has been suspended for 10 days -- would've been 5 if not for the death threat. The other kid also got 10 days. My daughter doesn't want to go to school for the rest of the week because she's embarrassed by the whole thing. My wife is working on talking to her as she, too, has suffered a lot of harassment from childhood to adulthood. On my way taking my 13yo son home, he asked me if he was going to get in trouble at home too and I told him I will decide what to do with him in the morning because I understood that he wanted to protect his sister but that was just not an appropriate response. You can't just go around hitting people because you're mad.

What do you guys think? My inclination is that he had the right idea and did the only thing he could come up with in a moment of rage, but it was still a poor response.

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Assalamu Alaikum! I’m in the early stages of developing an app specifically for Muslim parents that focuses on comprehensive early childhood development, blending Islamic values and teachings with essential baby and toddler health, brain, and well-being guidance. The app will cover stages from pregnancy up to 6 years old, integrating daily activities, challenges, milestones, and Islamic learning.

To make sure this app truly meets the needs of our community, I’d love your input! Could you take a few minutes to fill out a quick survey? Your feedback will be invaluable in shaping this project and ensuring it has the right balance of education, fun, and Islamic values.

What the app will include:

• Islamic value-based early development activities
• Pregnancy and parenting tips grounded in the Qur’an and Hadith
• Daily learning tasks, health insights, and educational challenges
• A growth tracker, milestone logs, and more

Thank you in advance for helping to make this vision a reality! Your input will truly help us create a resourceful app that serves and enriches the Muslim parenting community.

JazakAllah Khair for your time and support!

Salaam everyone!

I’m a parent looking for a Muslim-friendly app that can help with my baby’s early learning and development, ideally with activities that blend Islamic values and basic skills for babies and toddlers. I’d love something that includes:

• Age-appropriate activities and milestones
• Interactive features like stories, duas, or Islamic songs for kids
• Guidance for parents on nurturing kids with a balance of faith and early education
• Tips on raising kids with Islamic values from a young age

If you know of any apps that combine Islamic teachings with early developmental support, or if you have recommendations for other resources that could be helpful, I’d really appreciate it!

Thank you in advance, and may Allah bless all our efforts in raising kind, curious, and faithful children!

Salam. For those in the UK, does anyone have any experience of sending their child to Church of England or Catholic schools? Is it okay to send Muslim children there? I have no experience. But on the one hand I feel they will be better staying away from certain things that we want to avoid children exposed to in their young age. Also I feel it is not as easy to go down the Christianity hole, compared to atheism. On the other hand, the constant drilling of Christian values may be a problem.

I’m 19 years old and I’ve been disrespectful to my parents this is leading me to struggling in doing my roles as a Muslim ( I would like to tell my story but that’s way too long) what to do cuz I know my parents hate me…. I regret my actions and I would ask for forgiveness but I’ve tried that many times and they prob won’t believe and forgive me anymore without their forgiveness will Allah still forgive me?

Hi all

I have two young daughters, one is 3 and the other is newborn.

I live in a rough area with lots of crack addicts and dealers. They generally do not interact with anybody but today they did.

Now for context, I am very protective of my daughter and while I am not a huge guy, I can and will defend myself and my family, and I do not look like a weak person at all.

Today one of the local drug dealers said hello to my daughter and said she's very cute. No problem there.

But I do not want scum of this type making it a habit to speak to my daughter.

If he asks her name, for example, I do not know how to react. I do not want people like this to even know my daughter's name, but at the same time I wouldn't want to openly disrespect these people as it could be dangerous for my wife and kids.

Does anybody have any advice?

Hello mothers (and fathers),

Do people here have pregnancy related Islamic guidelines to share with me? E.g. what guidelines to follow while pregnant, during delivery and after child birth.

I would appreciate this very much!

Thank you!

السلام عليكم

Looking for parents with teen children to discuss issues and solutions especially living in the United States . Simply looking to hear from positive parenting ideas for teens

Minnesota USA

What are your thoughts on using technology for your children?

I used to be a no tech girlie until I started teaching kindergarteners.. some days my students will run and punch each other. The only thing that’ll calm them down is nature sounds or calming music.

I don’t really want to use tech with my little ones, but I think children really enjoy watching cartoons, reading on Epic or listening to calming music - it really keeps them engaged.

Of course, taking care of one child is different than seeing 25 kids in the classroom, but how are we going to navigate the balance of technology with activities that involve fine motor skills to foster a healthy learning environment for ourselves and our kids?

My Father is very sick, maybe dying can you guys make dua for his well beeing and guidance. His name is Mostafa. Jazzakaallahu khairan.

🖋️ Do Not Hate Your Daughters -

Sheikh Sulayman Al-Ruhayli

من العدل يا إخوة أن لا يكره الإنسان ما يهبه الله له من البنات

It is from fairness, brothers, that one doesn’t hate the daughters that Allah blesses him with.

بعض الناس إذا رزق بولد اعتنى بتسميته واعتنى بعقيقته...وإذا رزق بأنثى كان كأنما نزلت عليه مصيبة

Some people, if they are granted a son, they take care in naming him and take care of his Aqeeqah. However, if they are granted a girl, it is like a calamity has fallen on them.

وهذا في الحقيقة ليس من أخلاق أهل الإسلام وإنما هذا من أخلاق أهل الجاهلية

This isn’t from the manners of the people of Islam, rather this is from the manners of the people of the days of ignorance before Islam.

ولنسمع هذا الحديث البديع في هذا الباب: عن عقبة بن عامر رضي الله عنه قال، قال رسول الله ﷺ

Let's hear this wonderful Hadeeth on this issue: ‘Uqbah ibn ‘Amir reported: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said,

” لا تَكْرَهوا البَناتِ ، فإنَّهنَّ المُؤْنِساتُ الغالياتُ”

“Do not hate your daughters, for they are joy bringers and precious.”

رواه الإمام أحمد وضعفه الألباني ثم تراجع وذكره في الصحيحة، وهو الصواب فإسناده صالح

It was narrated by Imam Ahmad and deemed weak (i.e., inauthentic) by Al-Albani. Then, he retracted that and mentioned it as authentic, and this is correct, because its chain of narration is good.

لا تكرهوا البنات من الذرية فهن المؤنسات والله: الحنان والعناية موجودة في البنات وفي كل خير (ذكور و إناث)

Do not hate your daughters, for they are joy bringers. By Allah, tenderness and care are present in girls, and goodness is found in both genders.

Assalamualaikum dear brothers and sisters. I have a child, M6, and I am looking for suggestions to be involved mother. Please share your wisdom in child raising.

Jazakallahu Khairan

My daughter's name is Leanna Yasmin (Delicate or soft Jasmine) everyone in my family calls her /ˈjɑːsmiːn/ but I recently found that Arabic name of Yasmin's the "a" sound is pronounced Shorter(ياسمين) so the way we calling her is correct or not? Don't think me as picky guy. I'm concern because She is our first baby after 4 years💗🥰

I’m surprised how a lot of Muslim parents aren’t aware of their child’s dyslexic needs

Or they are, but are reluctant to get their child assessed

My child loves reading books before bedtime. So, I am looking for some kids books that are for 4-8 years old. The book should not be wordy, but having pictures, illustrations etc.

Can you suggest me few books of such kinds?

Jazakallahu Khairan!

Dont say 'Hi' or 'Goodmorning' or 'Sabah al Khayr' to ur child when they wake up or when u pick them up from school. Say 'Assalaamu Alaikum'.

Teach them to say Salam to their friends & siblings as well. Spread love in ur kids by teaching them to say the proper Salaam.

Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said: "Should I not inform you of something that, if you were to do it, would cause you to love one another? Spread the salaam between yourselves" [Saheeh Muslim]

i have difficulties finding engaging islamic books for my kids, aged 8 and 12. it doesnt have to a book for both, could be individual too - but most books i find are for much smaller children (ie. super big fonts and very short sentences, maybe for 5 year olds), or books that seem too complex to keep a 10 year old interested for long enough.

any suggestions? i dont care about the nature of the book - islamic stories, scientific or anything in between, as long as its somehow related to islam.

Salam alaikum! I have a question please. I am wondering if in this sub there is anyone who has experience with homeschooling kids to protect their Islamic values and preserve their education? Especially in Algeria. For context I am a Canadian/Algerian and thinking about homeschooling my kids in Algeria with the Canadian curriculum. Has anyone ever tried something similar? I’ll take any advice I can get. Jazakom Allah

Salaam everyone. Sorry for the weird title, I wasn’t sure what to write. I’m a mother to a one year old boy alhamdulillah. Basically (tldr?), I’m not sure about whether to start preparing for a second kid or if I should delay it for my own sanity (Sanity isn’t quite the right word but I don’t know what other word to use, and this does feel a bit more extreme than it actually is).

So background info: My husband and I talked about kids before I got pregnant (how many we want, how far apart etc.) My husband wants 5-6 kids (maybe more), I said max 4 because I’m not sure how many pregnancies and labour I can handle. But if I’m being completely honest, I wouldn’t have minded being child free either and would actually have preferred it.

If it wasn’t for the importance Islam places on children and increasing the ummat, I would have told my husband that I don’t want kids. But I am prepared to sacrifice my body and my life for the sake of Allah and the ummat. This is why (for Islam and for my husband) I agreed to having kids despite not actually wanting them. It’s confusing, but I love kids, I just hate the responsibility and especially the lack of me time.

We got married the halal way, only one meeting before we did our nikah. In that one meeting, I realised we had very similar views and personalities, although our cultures clash. But I was happy with him, and I am thankful for him every day. So it was after we’d been married that we discussed kids. He wanted kids straight away, I did not, so he agreed to wait. I wanted to wait 4-5 years before having kids, because I wanted to enjoy our marriage and our life together before taking this very big step.

But my husband couldn’t wait that long. We had lots of long talks and eventually we came to the mutual agreement that we would meet in the middle, and start trying for a baby 2 years into our marriage. Alhamdulillah that worked out well, I got pregnant very quickly and now we’ve been blessed with the most adorable little one . Now in our talks, we also discussed age gap between kids. We both had similar views, we didn’t want a big age gap because we want our kids to be close in age so they can grow up together, but not so close either because that would be too difficult. So we agreed that we would wait 1 1/2 years between each kid until we start trying for the next. Well that deadline is fast approaching and I’m filled with anxiety and dread.

My husband is an extrovert, he has endless amounts of energy and loves to socialise and everything that comes with the territory. I’m the complete opposite, an absolute introvert who gets exhausted by social interactions and needs a lot of me time. Obviously with a baby, me time is non existent.

My husband also works 12 hour days to support us in this tough economy, I’m a stay at home mum at the moment. So I’m home with the baby all day everyday, looking after him and tending to him, doing my best. My husband is obviously very exhausted from working so much, so when he comes home, he needs some rest. But even when he’s home, he’s still focused on work (on his phone, online etc.). His job is very demanding, but it helps us get by alhamdulillah.

So I feel like I’m drowning. Most days my mood is sour, and I don’t have the energy to interact, even with him. I’m constantly on social media trying to find a distraction from reality. I try to limit my phone use, but then I get overwhelmed with the lack of me time and constantly doing work and I just can’t do it. I want to be happy, I want to be my husbands safe place, but I just can’t. My husband hates seeing me so “serious” and moody all the time, but he doesn’t understand the exhaustion because his extrovertedness gives him unlimited energy. I’m sorry, this turned into a bit of a rant.

I want to add that my husbands amazing. He helps me around the house when he can, he’s an amazing father and husband. He’ll take the baby when I’m sleeping to let me rest up and does whatever he can to make me happy. He’s forgiving when the house is messy and when I’m not able to keep up with my responsibilities. But I can see how much he hates seeing the mess. He’s a very clean and organised person and he wants his wife and his house to be the same. I also want that but at the same time, I can’t keep up. The monotony of having to cook and clean every day makes me dread waking up some days. It was fine before my pregnancy, but now I spend all my energy tending to the baby and don’t have the energy left to do the housekeeping.

To get to the point, my 1 1/2 year “deadline” is coming up fast (to start trying for a second child), and I just don’t know. I really want to stick to the age gap because I don’t want my baby to grow up without siblings close in age. I want to see them play together and grow together. But I don’t know if I’m ready. I hate that I compromised and had a baby before I was ready. I’m not a perfect mother, and I sometimes get overwhelmed and show frustration towards our baby which makes him cry. I hate that I let this happen but I can’t stop it. It’s an endless cycle. I want to wait till I’m ready to have the second child, because I know I can’t handle the exhaustion that comes with having two kids. But I also don’t know if I can handle the guilt of not giving our baby a sibling close in age.

My first pregnancy was very exhausting for me, I had horrible morning sickness and a horrible recovery from labour. I can’t do all that again while running around after an active toddler. I can’t stay at home alone all day with a newborn and toddler, struggling to breastfeed and heal and everything else.

I cried multiple times a day after our first baby was born. I hated the pain, I hated the changes to my body, I hated not being able to eat or sleep without being needed, without having a crying baby in my arms. I hated struggling to breastfeed and pumping and being exhausted from the pumping/breastfeeding.

I know this is a lot, and I’m sorry. Please give me any advise you can. And please be gentle with your words. I know how harsh some Reddit comments can be. I’m in a vulnerable state of mind and I feel horrible as it is. Please please please be kind.

Thank you.

Salam,

We are in the US.

I spoke to a sheikh and he stated that my sons and my wife's daughters are non mahram and should be segregated and they must wear hijab at all times. Both sides kids are from other marriages.

I feel really bad about this, and we didn't even consider this before the nikkah. My wife hasn't moved in yet but i'm not sure what to do.

My children are currently 3,2 and 6 months.

I want to start teaching the older 2 a little about Islam and start them hopefully learning Arabic alphabet but don't really know where and how to start.

Does anyone have any tips or advice.

Assalam alaikum all. My husband and I keep clashing over disciplining the kids and how to deal with them when they act up or fight. We have 3 boys, the oldest (7) and middle (4); we also have a new baby. The oldest is quite smart mashallah, but he can be difficult and moody and gets annoyed by his younger brother. They’ll have fights over the dumbest things and while I try and deflect and distract the kids, my husband just blows up at them instead. Lately when he does this the 7 year old just shuts down completely, refuses to engage with anyone, doesn’t want to eat, etc. He eventually comes around and goes back to normal. But it feels like a cycle.

My husband had a hard year this year; he lost his mother, also the new baby was unexpected but alhumdulillah. So I dunno if all that is affecting him. He did go to therapy for a little while. He’s also quite sensitive to noise so when the kids start screaming he can’t handle it. He got some noise cancelling headphones that help sometimes but he’s not wearing them all the time; sometimes the kids barge in the room with their fighting when he’s sleeping and he loses it over that.

When things are good they’re really good alhumdulillah. He spends so much time with them; going to activities, doing projects at home, learning Quran or going to the masjid. He’s up with the baby while I recover so alhumdulillah he does so much. I just don’t want the kids to resent him for those other times.

He just blows his top so easily and refuses to try and defuse the situation. I feel like I’m always refereeing things, trying to keep him calm or the kids. But I’m tired too. I’m still recovering from the delivery. Whenever we try to talk about it it doesn’t go anywhere, he thinks my way doesn’t work and that this is the only way they learn respect.

Can someone send some links and references, doesn’t matter if they’re Islamic or not, about how yelling isn’t effective for the kids? And what other strategies we can implement to diffuse situations with the kids?

I have digitally grounded my 14 YO daughter who got caught accessing websites she is not supposed to. she is not allowed to use mobile phone, social media, unsupervised internet or cable TV (other than News or educational/ occasional movie) for 6 months..
we are going on a 2 week vacation. any suggestions how I can enforce this rule when her siblings has phones and tablet? I do want to maintain consistancy in her punishment as she has disobeyed repeatedly

Salaams All. I'm a mom of 2 kids under 5 years old and have always tried my best to adhere to gentle parenting methods. Sometimes it is frustrating as they don't always work and the same patterns repeat themselves. I think gentle parenting is suited to my nature but I have had questions about it too. I've never hit my kids but occasionally do lose it and shout at them. Today I met a Christian nurse and she basically told me that gentle parenting goes against what the Bible says. She says that they believe they should hit their children in order to discipline them and that's something her pastor encourages as it straightens out behavioural issues. It got me wondering about what Islamic views on this would be? As all religions seem to teach through reward and punishment and gentle parenting doesn't ascribe to reward and punishment but rather "natural consequences". I'm struggling to find Islamic opinions or teachings on how to discipline children in the best way. Please recommend material if you know of any.

I'm from indonesia and a mom of a 15YO girl who is addicted to internet & social media. She has a 18 YO sister who has no issues and attending college.. when me and my husband tried to stop she raised her voice at us. this went on for about 2 years and finally we took away the phone and sent her to a Islamic boarding school (Pesantran Putri) where she is not allowed on social media or phone. Me and my other daughter is meeting her for a day outing after a month coming weekend. The school specifically tells us not not let the students on mobile or internet and they have to be in full uniform (abhaya, Niqab and gloves) throughout. We (me or my other daughter) do not wear niqab I know my daughter will beg to us to borrow a phone or let her on facebook during the outing. how can i handle this? her other sister has a phone, so shall I let her relax or follow school guideline?

Assalam alaikum!!! So I have a six year old who always asks me about allah he's super curious and already has a very good ethics and morals but he wants to learn the truth about Allah so I thought I could teach him what tawhid is but I thought maybe I could get some well appreciated advice from fellow Muslim parents first. So what exactly should I start with???

I need help from my Arabic speaking people!

I’m Muslim (non-arab) and we traditionally keep Arabic names for our babies in my family. I have a HUGE family and everyone has taken up majority of the traditional Muslim Arab names. As most know that the meaning of a name is important in our religion. It has to mean something good.

I came across the name Leya and really loved it. Google said it means “loyalty” or something along those lines but I wanted to confirm with people who actually speak Arabic or maybe know if it’s actually a good name?

Please help a sister out <3

Other name suggestions are most welcome!!