https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tjHKyYlYhmc

The CEO said it best in this video "We don't plan on going across the border and going through all of that regulatory rigamarole for just one store."

T&T is Canada's largest Asian supermarket and is owned by the nation's largest supermarket chain Loblaws (the equivalent of Canada's Kroger)

What's funny is, the owners of 99 Ranch were one of the original investors in T&T Supermarket back in the 1990s. Now it's going to come back to bite them as they invade the US!

Hello everyone,

I am a guy in my mid-20s who lives in a fairly multicultural and diverse city, but Asians are the smallest minority here. Growing up here, I was always a pretty big kid so besides some occasional slurs, I’ve never had any bullying problems.

I thought my life here was nearly perfect… until I went to Singapore for an exchange semester. The ease I felt while walking around the streets, going to the beach in Phuket and other places, and hiking in Southeast Asian countries, knowing that most people here looked like me and that there’d basically be no racist encounters was such a big relief. I never knew that I had this internalized “watching behind my back” or unease in public before this was all gone when I went on study abroad. People in my city aren’t really racist, but moments happen when you feel like you don’t belong, I live in a fairly secluded upper middle class white neighborhood, they’d say hi to each other, and be less warm to me. Going to festivals, people would say “the big Chinese guy is blocking the view” (between them, not directed at me, but my friend heard it).

People in Singapore saw me as a “normal” human being and judged me based on my character instead of being that “Chinese”/“Asian” friend/person first. It was so easy to date both people from Europe and Asians, I’ve never put in so little work for so much results.

Coming back, I’ve felt a sense of loss and the sense of ease is gone, it’s back to normal. Have you experienced anything similar, would you suggest I try to move to Asia (international hubs like HK or Singapore)? My career that’s just starting would surely suffer, I would make less money, and be less comfortable without friends and family, but I’d find a sense of belonging and my mental health could improve.

I have a hard time telling their age. Curious when do they start getting wrinkles?

Hi 21-year-old female here. My dad is Korean and my mom is white. I work at a job that is very based on appearances. I recently had a manager tell me that in several of our social media posts that I, "unfortunately, look very Asian." They then told me several ways to switch my make up in a way that was supposed to change the way my eyes look. This was the first time I'd ever had my ethnicity raised as an issue in a place of work. It really messed with me. I ended up confronting (politely, as I wanted to make sure this manager hadn't just unfortunately made a poorly worded comment without realizing exactly what the implications were) my manager and saying I didn't mind makeup tips considering the nature of my job, but also explaining that I was off-put by the comment and that I was worried about my ethnicity barring my work opportunities at the company. My manager apologized and said they hadn't realized how they were coming off and had no issue with my race. I accepted the apology and want to move forward believing that it was just a poorly worded comment and there's no real prejudice at work here. But since then I've felt very weird around this manager, despite them being nothing but kind and pleasant each time I've seen them since. The comment was made on Tuesday. But I'm still really down and depressed about it. And now whenever I see myself on the social media channels, I am extremely insecure about my eyes... I'm not sure if it's normal to be this down about a negative comment like that, or if I should. Has anyone here had similar experiences? Does it get better? I've never had anything like this happen before and honestly never expected I would- it's just hitting me really hard I guess.

My friends play this cardgame in Mandarin. I've kinda figured out how the game works but would like to know the proper rules and the name. My Mandarin isn't amazing but I can understand mostly what they are saying (I'm second gen Cantonese).

The rules are: Cards are dealt out equally, except the winner of the previous round gets three extra. Whoever has the smallest card (3 of diamonds) starts.

If you have the 3 of diamonds you can choose to play your cards as: 3 cards and 1, three cards and two cards, pairs (must be 3+ pairs), a snake of four or more numbers, or just one card. Once the person who starts plays their strategy the other players have to use it (say the first person plays 3 Eights and 1 Four, the second has to follow the pattern of 3 _ and 1 _ but their lowest card must be higher than the first person's lowest card.)

Card values in descending order: Joker - 2 - Ace - King - Queen - Jack - 10 - 9 - 8 - 7 - 6 - 5 - 4 - 3 and with suites Spades largest, then Hearts, Clubs and Diamonds smallest. So you could play 4 of diamonds the next person could play 4 of hearts.

The aim of the game is to get rid of all the cards in your hand. You don't have to play a card in your turn, but if all other players don't play the turn goes to the person who last played and they can play any of the strategies.

I think the game is 3 player? I've never seen them play with two or four people.

The game seems to be pretty popular (most of the Chinese students at my school know it) and apparently similar to poker in some ways. What is it called?

Hi all, I’ve created a Reddit to talk and anonymously seek support about this experience. A bit different, since I am a grown woman and mother.

For further context, I am a Chinese-Vietnamese-American mom, happily married to a Korean-American dad (all of our parents immigrated here in their 20‘s) and we have a beautiful baby boy together. Anti-Asian racism, ethnic identity struggles, white privilege, trivialization/marginalization have been integral struggles of our upbringing and early careers.

A European (white) makeup influencer had stated in one of her videos that “Koreans have amazing skin because they all eat kimchi everyday”. Maybe I should have just kept the thought to myself and moved on with my day (it’s just fermented veggies after all)... I just left a simple comment of my opinion that it could come off as cultural appropriation and somewhat tone-deaf- categorizing an ethnic group into one culinary stereotype and physical feature (skin).

My comment blew up a lot more than I’d expected. I’ve gotten attacked, death threats in my messages, a lot of hatred/racist comments and hypocrisy, virtually reliving my own grade school experience. All of the attacks were from non-Asians.

The comments and attacks don’t bother a woman my age… it’s mostly noise that was quickly blocked out by disabling notifications and blocking the account in general.

What got me though, was realizing that there’s still a lot of subconscious and very unforgiving racism/trivialization against us people (even amongst those who are trying to “embrace our culture”)- it was very easy for my husband and I to have forgotten about our past struggles once we’d finished college and established careers and a stable home for our family. This felt like a harsh reality check/reminder.

Edit: thank you all so much for the insight and feedback. :)

We had a lot of fun talking to Chen Tang, the actor who plays fan favorite Hong on Warrior. In our conversation, we talk about his upbringing, his experience as an Asian American actor, playing Hong, some of his hopes for a season 4, and more! Catch the episode here.

Ill be going sometime in May, and I haven't been back in a long time. im going by myself since parents have work so my aunt/uncle will pick me up at the airport. I have to change flights like twice and I've never been through airports by myself especially if its in China, do all the gates and stuff have english on them? i am actually afraid of getting lost in the shanghai airport because I legit can barely read chinese.

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Im also wondering if theres anything I should pack for the trip. ive been trying to find a good vpn service for my phone and laptop since im assuming things like discord aren't getting through the firewall. Im not entirey sure if my credit card would even work but I would assume it doesn't. I think I would still have cell service and data but I will have to double check with AT&T. my chinese is fluent when speaking with parents but probably not fluent enough for things like ordering food in a restaurant. or going to stores, etc. my reading and writing skills are basically nonexistent. I will be with family for most of the trip like my aunt and her family and my grandparents. so its not like im gonna get lost somewhere but Im still uneasy about not being able to even read stuff like public transport or stuff like that.

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Ill be in the tianjing/beijing area, anything I should check out there? I would assume my family has plans on where to go/sightsee but its not like I would know what are the best places to go on vacation lol.

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Some backgrounds: born, raised, and schooled in China, got into a pretty good college in SoCal, and got green card right before my freshman year kicked off. Pretty sure I'm gonna get citizenship in a few years and spend the rest of my life here.

My closest friends are either from high school or international students I met in college, all of whome are chinese. I've been trying to make more local friends be it ABCs or white fellas cauz I know that most of my chinese friends are gonna leave America after college. It's been 8 months now and I made a couple local friends from sports, classes, and gym. But I feel like because of the culture and language barrier (I can read listen and write in class just like any american, but my conversational english sucks, and I can't really get ppl's joke when it's abt an American show/movie/celebrity) they don't hang out a lot with me outside of the scene we met. I know that's because those barriers make me not a fun person to hang out with, but I'm struggling to change that. Any advice from somebody who went through this or had dealt with similar problem? How can I better fit?

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I recently got called whitewashed by my relatives in China because of my broken Chinese and that hit me hard but I have heard my Chinese friends who are fluent, make subtle insults/jokes about my accent before. I kept thinking about these moments so much that I decided to choose it as my topic of choice for my essay and now I need help to find more points I could focus on. Can you guys tell me about your experiences with language attrition? Anything would be helpful!

Just a question. I know neighboring Gardena and Carson have a diverse range of Asians, but how bad is Compton compared to them?

Ideally I'd love to visit my grandpa's grave on this day and clean it, give flowers and offerings but he's in Wuhan and I'm here in the US. I can think more about him today, our time together, his great influences on me, listen to the brief video recordings I got of him, eat some 青糰 qingtuan or other green mochi-like dessert, but what else? Curious to know how others celebrate this day who are also in same situation of being unable to visit their loved ones' graves

Hello everyone! I am a second-year counseling intern and I have a couple of clients who identify as Asian-American. I want to ensure I am a culturally competent therapist and I do not want to cause harm. (For context: I am a Black woman and interning at a Methodist church in an affluent suburb.)

Some of the themes I see in therapy are core familial values, pressures to do well in school/work, and navigating a white world as a minority.

For those who have been in therapy, what has been beneficial to you? What wasn’t? As a community, what is valued by therapists who are not Asian-American?

I appreciate any insight provided. 🥰

I’ve been having bad impersonator sydrome because I found out that the place I blow glass at won’t consider me for any BIPOC opportunities because I was raised by white people and therefore “I’m more white than Asian” their words. Has anyone else dealt with this? I feel like i just don’t belong anywhere, I’m too white to hang out with the Asian community and I’m too brown to be treated as an equal by the white community

Wondering if there any other Asians that were raised in the south? Specifically in NC, I was adopted and grew up as one of the few Asians in the community and being raised by country folk I grew up with a southern accent, listening to bluegrass music, catching crawdads by the creek, eating cornbread in buttermilk like cereal etc. I’m hoping to meet other Asian folk that have the same experience!

Hi there, the university I am attending next semester offers an asian dorming community to live with other Asians. I was looking into it because I would enjoy meeting and living around people who share similar culture and interests. it is open to mixed asians (I’m half Chinese). Yet recently I’ve been seeing a lot of things about how full Asians dislike wasians and don’t consider them as Asian. So I don’t know if it’s a good idea and maybe I would be intruding into the space and they wouldn’t like me so I am a bit worried. Would it be better to just get a normal dorm area instead? and is it true that many Asians don’t really like wasians? Thanks!

I'm a 33 year old, Indian American guy. I started seeing a psychologist last year in May. I told him about my uncle in-law who died in 2021. He was a toxic person. He wasn't a violent person. He was just highly manipulative. He didn't talk about himself much. He didn't show any empathy or emotions. He just controlled people by lying.

I talked to my aunt a couple days ago. She didn't recognize his toxic behavior. Most of my other relatives don't recognize it either. My dad and another uncle in-law knew about him.

I don't know what he wanted. He didn't want any money. Maybe he was just doing that for fun. Maybe he was sadistic. He was married to my aunt for 50+ years. Many Indian people stay in toxic relationships.

I guess it's because good and bad are subjective. People think different behaviors are toxic.

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I’m samoan and black just for a little background. My friend (full black) posts a video of him while he’s in the hospital chanting Asian persuasion to his Asian nurse and how “the Asians” take care of him and actually care then starts flirting with her at the end. I message him saying that’s racist and he shouldn’t talk to her like that. Also that she’s working and she very likely treats all her patients very well. There’s good and bad in every ethnicity but we are all human and the same. Don’t make her uncomfortable while she’s at work or at all in general. It’s okay to have a preference but there’s a way to go about things.

Then I ask my Filipino/black boyfriend if saying Asian persuasion to somebody is racist and he says no. I’m so confused. Is it racist to say that to somebody? I have never even thought of using the phrase myself. I think it’s extremely disrespectful.