The Lakers are a terrorist organization bro istg. Luka for a 31 year old injury addict and a first round pick is robbery 🙏🏾.

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The US racial groupings and discussions confuses me a lot as India is a singular country used to refer to an entire race yet they have white, black and Asian as its own seperate category which is far more broad and generalised its so absurd how hard is it for them to use "South asian" when referring to people from that region rather than simply "Indian"

In Canada the term "Indian" is used to refer to three groups, with people from the country of India being called "East Indian" by the government and white people. I'm curious to know if Indo-Canadians actually use this term to refer to themselves when someone asks what their ethnicity is.

I'm trying to find new products to try. I feel like I'm always either getting something overly moisturizing that makes my brown skin look shiny and oily. Or I'm getting matte stuff that makes my skin look drab. What are you guys using that makes your skin look more radiant rather than just shiny. Curious about your other skincare routine as well.

I'm a guy by the way, but don't really care about using "women's" products.

We are south indian couple married for 5 years and stays abroad. Parents are in India. We love each other and the only reason we fight is the name of our parents. We had an arranged marriage. His parents didn't like me or my parents from the very beginning because of the compatibility issues. His parents are though south Indians they are born, working and living in north. When my parents come and visit us, my parents talk to them irrespective of the differences, but especially my father-in-law doesnt even tell them to come inside nor talk to them. He goes outside when they visit and only comes back when they leave. They always gets 0 respect infront of their daughter's inlaws. This is what they do to me and all my family members as well all the time. My only communication is with MIL only with my hus else she won't talk to me. When a guest comes in they wont introduce me, they introduce their son in law. Only i will be the one left. When husband asks them why they behave like this and why for last 5 years I was never considered a part of family, they tell him that I never talk to them and ask them about their health and all. The thing is me or my parents are always being insulted infront of everyone and other inlaws of theirs, (we are no less in money or anything than them, infact i get paid more than anyone in the family) and we are never valued. Still i am the one who talk to them. My father in law hates me. Still my husband says I should talk more to them. How? How am I supposed to talk more, while my parents and myself are insulted all the time, still I forgive all these. My parents nor me had never had any bad conversation with them.

Why? This is getting ridiculous.

President Donald Trump has fired Rohit Chopra, the director of the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau (CFPB). In a letter posted to X, Chopra confirmed his “term as CFPB Director has concluded.” Chopra was notified of his removal via an email from the White House, according to a report from the Associated Press.

During Chopra’s tenure, which began in 2021, the CFPB took an aggressive approach to regulating tech companies and financial institutions. The CFPB most recently proposed limiting data brokers’ ability to sell personal data in the US. It sued major US banks for “widespread fraud” on Zelle and also issued a rule that would put digital payment services like Apple Pay, Google Wallet, and PayPal under bank-like supervision — something it’s now facing a lawsuit over.

https://www.theverge.com/news/604685/trump-cfpb-head-rohit-chopra-fired

Alright question for y'all not sure if I seen too many of these but it my girl and I's first valentines this year. I'm wondering what's a good gift for an Indian girl. I feel like jewelry is kind of useless cuz wel cuz she's indian everything she has is like actual gold she was also born and raised here but I'm kinda stumped any help would be great.

For context I'm 25 and she's 24.

Tldr; what do I get for our first valentines day

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Everyday on multiple social media platforms, we hear arguments about whether or not immigrants assimilate into a culture. This question has become ever more important with even an older generation of immigrants lamenting that newer ones don't assimilate. The comments regarding this usually revolve around civic sense- talking too loud, speaking your mother tongue, erratic driving , dress sense etc..

But beyond this shallow commentary what does assimilation in the larger sense mean ? Would love to hear your thoughts on this .

hi all! hoping to crowdsource some ideas here.. providing my own example below since Im a pakistani living in Texas

when i shop for pakistani products online, my journey is fragmented. I either cannot find the things I need, or there are multiple separate websites for clothes, candles made by south asians, handcrafted products, local jewelry, gifts, home decor etc. I want to launch an online business to consolidate all things in one place so that people living in north america have access to and can shop in a one stop shop for all Pakistani things (indian down the road!). there are so many clothing websites to keep track of, there are so many small businesses that have handcrafted goods and could do with visibility in the US. Is this a need for yall out there? does anyone have experience with this? the thing I struggle with is getting stock of things from Pakistan and having inventory sitting around and what if there just isnt enough demand...

Dying to talk to anyone who can help! But also just your own struggles (if any) in this space or examples of a broken online experience could help :) THANKS all

Let’s admit it, many of us Desis in the USA get confused for being Latinos and could be inconvenienced by ICE thinking we are Latino illegals and being asked for papers or being caught up in an ICE Immigration raid. How concerned should we be?

So in this last post, I polled y'all about naming patterns. As a short follow-up, I thought I'd analyze.

Looks like taking out the non-answers, we have 195 responses, of which approximately 58.5% of y'all said you had a pattern in your family. Technically the "no answer" also includes other, but there isn't a feasible way to put that in the data. If you're an other, care to share what patterns I missed?

Of the patterns, vast majority (72%) were for alliterative names (same first letter), which was expected.

I was surprised to see so many more names of the same theme than (almost) anagrams. I only know one f_m with the former, and 3 for the latter in my Bengali group. Anyone care to share their themed names?

Hey everyone,

I’ve been thinking a lot about the patterns of endogamy among us diaspora desis—whether that’s within religion, caste, region, or even broader racial/ethnic lines. While the reasons are often tied to family expectations, culture, and shared values, I’m curious to hear from those who consciously choose endogamy for themselves rather than just going along with external/family pressures.

For those who have or plan to marry within their religious, regional, caste, or ethnic group, what factors influenced your decision? Was it personal preference, upbringing, cultural continuity, dietary preferences or something else entirely? Also, how far do you take endogamy—same ethnicity or religious (i.e. Indian vs Nepali vs. Bangladeshi, or Muslim vs Jain, etc), same cultural group within your country of origin/religion (i.e. Sindhi vs. Bihari vs. Bengali, etc), same sect or caste within your religion/cultural group (i.e. Ahmadiyya vs Sunni or Vaishnav vs Kshatriya, etc)?

In line with that, how do you navigate endogamy in a multicultural setting? If your preference is based on cultural or religious alignment, do you actively seek out partners in specific spaces (e.g., community events, dating apps with filters, religious groups, or family introductions)?

Also, would especially love to hear from not so successful stories: those who actively wanted/tried to seek out alliances in their religion or caste or ethnicity, but something didn’t work out for them. What was it? How is your life in a “non endogamous” relationship?

Disclaimer: I don’t think endogamy is bad or regressive, so I’m definitely not looking to judge anyone, and just eager to learn. I’m genuinely interested in how people think about this in the diaspora, where exposure to diverse backgrounds is a given but endogamy still persists in different ways. Let’s discuss!

does anyone’s mom here smoke cigarettes or get high? just curious if that’s a thing in the diaspora, so many of my american friends parents partake with them, but am curious if that ever happens in our community.

With the Liberal leadership race under full swing, candidates are starting to campaign, with Mark Carney looking like the frontrunner. There were 7 candidates, including one, Chandra Arya, with suspicious ties to a foreign government and religious extremist organizations.

The leader of the conservatives, Pierre Poilievre, tooled his whole campaign around the 'fuck Trudeau' movement and was really hoping to campaign against him by misdirecting growing anger at complex issues like global inflation, provincial mismanagement, and international supply chain issues, at Trudeau. Unfortunately, Trudeau's an easy target due to having been a successful PM for 9 years and having made some unpopular yet necessary choices that prevented Canada from going into recession and created one of the best post-Covid economies in the world. Trudeau, realizing the danger of a Poilievre government, selflessly stepped aside, and now Poilievre can't compete with the frontrunner Mark Carney, a self-made educated outsider who has the expertise to correct the economy unlike Pierre.

When Chandra Arya started running, his campaign was a hot mess. No one took him seriously, and he was not likely to win. Conservatives saw this and started fraudulently signing up to vote for him in the leadership election. Liberals then disqualified him as a candidate partially due to this campaign by the Conservatives.

Now these same Conservatives are pushing the narrative that the Liberal party is racist against South Asians, or even 'Hinduphobic', when the truth is the Liberals simply don't want a candidate that can't speak both and has suspicious ties. Not to mention, many experts agree 'Hinduphobia' doesn't really exist, and is just a term created by people who weaponize it for political purposes in India.

Only one party has continually fuelled racism against South Asians by spreading misinformation about the immigration system and pushing hateful rhetoric. Don't fall for their strategic concern about racism in politics now that it benefits them.

Only one party has betrayed Canada by pushing Trumpian rhetoric and being aligned with the Republicans who've threatened to invade Canada.

Only one party had dinner with German Far-Right nationalists, handed out coffee and donuts to people waving swastikas and chanting euphemisms for Nazi slogans.

If you ally with Nazis, you should not be allowed to form government. This includes failing to remove members of your own party caught embracing Nazis. When the party that allies with Nazis tries to misuse racism they caused to support a compromised candidates, it's our job as Canadian Desis not to fall for it!

Saw a few videos about this

They hate themselves but feel like whiteness is the one thing they have going for them. Or the area they have superiority over others in

Yet, they realized the world has been changing. Look wise, whiteness isn't put on the same pedestal it once was. Other ethnic features are seem as highly desirable....and that pisses them off. Threatens them even. But they know they can't say that

They might even be aware of their white privilege....but feel threatened when poc are doing better than them in life in other ways

And how does this play out? Backhanded comments, undermining, pettiness, copying without credit, dangerous scheming

Self hating white people who don't work on themselves are dangerous (regardless of political affiliation) and this is a hill I will forever die on.

Fellow Desis, be careful. Learn to love yourselves if you don't already. Be aware of the power that you hold in the world

Cutting into a school pick-up line, grocery store, or any other queues why can't we wait out like the rest of the people? School: they come late and flash signal to cut in line. Grocery sore: you see a line formed but cut in at the next available checkout station. Multiple times I've seen this happen and getting tired of it. Not sayinyin it's always a desi, but 9/10 times it is.

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