I am a gamer and I am a female who has had nearly all of my friends ripped away by a toxic ex boyfriend who gaslit me into isolation only to neglect me and then refuse to acknowledge the breakup after HE abandoned ME and ghosted me. The only friend I had left died a couple years ago and I just got friend-zoned by my soulmate/dream guy/love of my life a few months ago. I dont have any other friends and I dont have any family.

This is the only ABQ subreddit that would allow me to make a post at all. As you read this- if you start to see stuff dont like then please dont read any further, navigate away from my post without saying anything and find something else you do like. Bullying is wrong. Bullying someone who is in pain is more wrong. Just because you disagree with someone doesnt give you an excuse to be mean to them. I dont want to become "swee-sitel" from all the bullying and hopelessness I feel.

This post is FOR ME EXCLUSIVELY. If you identify with something I say then please DM me if you want. I dont need therapy I need a real friend. The kind of friend who stick with you even when youre unpopular, the kind of friend who will "help you move the bodies". (If you dont get the reference then youre probly very young and wont be able to relate to me anyway.) I dont know if there are even any older people on this subreddit over 40yr old. I know there might be at least a few over 30...

No shit I'm desperate for attention, I dont have any friends or family and I dont currently have a vehicle so the only human interaction I get is from a dr appointment or grocery shopping. If desperation for human contact creeps you out then youre not very friendly. If anything- its like taking food away from a starving person for having bad tablemanners.

The impulse control part of my brain is defective and Im very damaged. I grew up with no support in childhood. When you think of the idea about people raising their kids- I wasnt really raised at all. I was mainly self-taught via imitation. Nobody ever talked to me or explained anything to me so as a result I am developmentally delayed. I didnt have emotions or empathy. Everyone expects me to be like them instantaneously and they lie about having patience when they give up on me after 2 or 3 tries. I have serious abandonment issues. But I'm not gonna give my whole life story here- just a cliff notes. I never understood why I had "boundary issues" until very recently. What I can guess is that I push boundaries because of my abandonment issues. If people are just gonna leave me anyway then I would rather know sooner than later so I dont get emotionally invested, so I dont get hurt and waste my time. If people stick around even despite my behaviour then I feel like I can trust them. It takes a special kind of person to befriend someone who is broken and emotionally challenged and have the right mindset to be able to recognize the behaviours that push others away come from fear and insecurity and to hold that person tighter instead of abandoning them.

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I didnt know where to ask... I keep getting rejected everywhere I go. I grew up in the 90s and I have Asberger's Syndrome. Its too hard for me to find a friend anymore. Discord and dating site are all full of fail. Too much entitlement and insecure vitriol is so common in the younger nerd community. I get called a troll for failing to understand something. People are super nasty to me for talking about things that make me happy or sharing things I find funny or enjoyable. I cant discuss my feelings of hopelessness or what bothers me without being told im whining or complaining. So fucking what?! Theres not a single person who doesnt complain about anything ever in their whole lives. Am I the only one not allowed to express my pain?

Is there a community of social outcast I can be in? A place where a little bit of healthy toxicity is ok? Like where gentle trolling is fine and people can have spicy banter that nobody takes it seriously? Where people can talk without filters? Remember when a group of friends could shit-talk eachother and everyone knew it was all teasing? and people could make off-color jokes without being cancelled because at the end of the day we're still nice people with colorful personalities? Yeah... I miss the 90s too.

I'm a sweet and kind person but i have unpopular ideas and dark thoughts just like everyone. I just want a couple friends who have a thick skin like I do so that we can unwind from society together and that we dont offend eachother even if we disagree and that we can truly open up without fear of someone "going full REEE". I have never intentionally hurt anyone but I do constantly get bullied for not being a sheep.

I know I'm not alone... theres gotta be other people out there who know what I'm talking about. I cant be the only person in ABQ/RR who feels this way?

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None of the other New Mexico subreddits will let newbies post so... If you made it this far and I havent scared you off yet, I am looking to meet some real gamers over 30 who feel alone and ostracised from society to please contact me.

I’m 16 looking for friends to play video games with, I play dbd, all the soulsborne games, cod and some Minecraft. Also do online school so don’t do much throughout the day. Oh and I smoke🍃

Hello everyone. This Sunday I'm opening up the RC track from 10-3. It's a bring what you have place and just have fun. Mainly cars that are 1/16 or smaller. Open to everyone no matter the skill level

Hey everyone! We’re gonna be doing a little event tomorrow at New Game Plus - just a fun, low-key hangout with games, food, and good company. You can use your store time to play, but get a free hour for bringing food.

If you want to make some new friends and check out the gaming cafe, we’d be happy to have you. Webfishing is just a fun little casual game to relax with, but we’ll have tons of other stuff available, too, on PC, retro consoles, modern consoles, or board games.

Come say hi. ☺️

A couple friends of mine have a commander play group with too many players that just fluctuate or are flaky. Looking to bring in some local peeps. We play pretty regularly when we can through Spelltable but also meet in person from time to time to either play commander or draft. Let me know if you'd like to join our play group! The more the merrier and means more games!

Welcome! We are a chapter of the International Costumer's Guild, an affiliation of hobbyist and professional costumers dedicated to the promotion and education of costuming.This group is for anyone who's interested in costuming in New Mexico. Any kind of costume is welcome: Cosplay, historical, theatrical, reenactment...And much more. Join us!

https://www.facebook.com/groups/6724230707702631/about

Yo everyone, the RC track is open today till like 7. Come by if you wanna have a bit of fun on this Sunday afternoon

It's at 3023 D Cielo CT. Right next to the big lots and across cerrillos from Meow Wolf.

Hello,

Forever a lurker. But I am asking for help lol.

I need a team to go to the trivia. Hopefully there's other big fans of HIMYM in the burque. TIA

Hi all,

I wanted to send out a reminder about our 505 Female Friends (30s+) server which has grown to over 400 members 🥳.

This group is specifically for adults who identify as women, transgender, and NB to come together for friendship and support. Making friends can be hard, especially after 30, and this server aims to make finding friends easier and fun!

We have various virtual and in-person recurring meetups for board games, yoga, arts & crafts, Nerd Nite hangouts, etc. that are led by various members as well as non-recurring meetups if you just want to meet a few people for lunch or to get your nails done. If you just want to chat in the server, there are so many topics for a variety of interests too.

Discord link: https://discord.gg/VbgZExpba2

See my comment below for answers to Frequently Asked Questions!

Tuesday December 10th at 6:30 PM.

505 Steampunk is hosting a bi-monthly book club and social.
This month we will be reading "The Rising" by Ian Tregillis
Please join us even if you have not read the book. Lively discussion is always at the table.
Costumes not required but encouraged.

This months book club will be at the Kosmos Restaurant

https://www.meetup.com/505-steampunk-society-of-brass-and-steam/events/304541916/?utm\_medium=referral&utm\_campaign=share-btn\_savedevents\_share\_modal&utm\_source=link.

Howdy all. Are there any local shops that repair controller drift issues?

I’d rather repair what I have over buying all new stuff.

Experienced gm here looking to start a new group soon, wondering what everyone has the most interest in as far as games go. I can always run a game of D&D, but was seeing if there’s a want for something other than that. Thanks for your input!

The USS White Sands, the local Star Trek club will be in attendance at 1pm on Saturday 07 December.

Infinity Gauntlet tournament

Lost my father to suicide last week.

He was HUGE into Magic for many years, and I'll be going through his stash to see what he has. I'm not into Magic these days, so I'll be selling off a good amount of it, maybe keep a deck or two for myself.

First, I have to go to Roswell and go through everything and price it...

Anybody know of a trustworthy shop in town to start selling to, that will give me good prices on things? I haven't decided if I'm going to do local sales, or ship out of state. Whatever helps with funerary costs and such, I guess.

Hey folks,

An avid reader here who’s curious if there are any book clubs that are fantasy or sci-fi focused. I’d love to meetup with like minded folks to share interests and thoughts on some books. Located in Albuquerque.

Hey all! Just announced on our social media, we have a new Tournament coming just in time for the holiday! On Sunday morning, December 1st, we open our doors at 10 to prepare you for MK1! With an up-to-date roster of all the latest characters available, it’s a 2/3 match lineup!

Specific rules will be coming soon (and posted on our socials, website (thenewgameplus.com) and posted up in our shop.

Share with your friends and let everyone know so we can make this one a huge success!

I’m down to hang out if there’s any events happening this morning.