I’m living in a shared apartment with three girls (we’re all between 22 and 23). One of them has a room right next to mine, and the walls are really thin. She’s super strict about her routine — she goes to bed around 10:30 p.m. and expects no noise after that, even on weekends. Plus, we can’t just bring anyone over because she’s religious (not gonna go into details).

She’s already told me a few times that I’m “too noisy.” For example, I’m not supposed to talk on the phone after 11 p.m, even during weekends, because it wakes her up. This morning, she messaged me saying that my trips to the bathroom were waking her up at night. I have a UTI, so yeah, I’m going to the bathroom a lot, but I’m not going to hold it in.

She also said I was slamming my door, which isn’t true, because ever since she mentioned it when I first moved in, I’ve been trying to be as quiet as possible.

It’s really starting to bug me. She’s even argued with our other roommate about stuff like this. I don’t know how to make her realize she can’t just force her way of living on us; she doesn’t live alone.

What should I say to her ? I’m kind of a people pleaser and I think she’s taking advantage of this to complain a lot about me (she doesn’t do this with our other roommate), what should I say to her, so she can leave me tf alone

I have had a best friend well, I consider her my best friend but she never says I am her best friend, I understand with growing up and being grown at 23 people don’t say best friends haha unless they choose to..I have always had this flakey friend that only messaged me when other people wouldn’t message her or show her attention..I just brushed it off as adults being adults because lord knows everyone gets busy, things come up etc..but after some time I realized how much her flaking really truly hurt me.. she always does it last minute when I am dressed up feeling nice and I get that “sorry girl I can’t make it..” with an excuse before I see her out with someone else. The most recent incident of this is Halloween when after getting dressed up in my costume, she cancelled after making the plans in the first place..then proceeded to post with some guy before deleting it a short time after. As foolish as it was I tried not to cry before sending a quick its okay. It hurts always being the second choice but at the end of the day I know it won’t work.

I am genuinely wondering because I want to be a woman that can wear heels but even with a block heel or platform boot I’m in pain. Do most women not find it painful and uncomfortable? Is there a point where it becomes painful and uncomfortable? Is this just a me problem? Is it my feet?

Hi I am 17F, I used menstrual cup for the first time. I tried medium size first it didn’t work for me so I am using extra small now. It fits and does the work. Its hard for me to insert even though I bend the cup it still hurts but after it goes inside it fits and works. However its my day 2 and I have never experienced this severe cramps before plus I also have a lot of pain in my lower back which I also never experienced before. Is it because Im using a cup for the first time? There’s lower back pain and severe cramps and this happens while I use my cup for the first time. So might it be because of the menstrual cup? Am I not using it right?

Ok so context, I’ve (27F) been with my husband(34M) for about 8 years now, and my sister in law (35F) has always been the black sheep in a kind way but my father in law always supports her, she’s like super spoiled and makes super bad decisions. She has always make clear she doesn’t want children… So two years ago she had an accidental pregnancy (nothing happened because she miscarried) and now that she’s in a super toxic relationship she’s pregnant again! So my first thought is why wouldn’t you use a condom or something if you already knew you didn’t want children! Plus she complains about everything, as if she was forced to have this baby! She lives far away from us but still, my in laws give her everything… as they should is their daughter, but now that I’m part of the family, my dream has always being being a mother, and I was telling everyone this January I was going to try and get pregnant with my husband.

They have a family owned business and my husband is the only one that’s in front of that, cuz my sister in law only complains and want her monthly check

Idk if it’s some kind of envy cuz will be the first everything, the first grand kid, etc.

I’m an only child so maybe I don’t understand the joy of siblings… I’m just trying to figure out my feelings since this news are being so hard on me, and I literally have a change of mood every time they mention my sisters in law pregnancy

For the past 7 years, whenever I have sex or even enjoy some time by myself, I get UTI symptoms and they are horrible. It feels like I have razor blades coming out of me and I could pass out from the pain. I have gotten tested for UTIs and STIs many times but always negative. I went to a urologist and they said everything looks fine. I don’t know what to do anymore. I broke up with my boyfriend for the reason that I would be in pain after having sex every time and I cannot live like that. It effects my social life bc I can’t go out when I have this pain, my dating life and effects my work life because I’ve had to call into work because I’m stuck to the toilet crying in pain.

Please, if anyone has experienced anything like this, please let me know what I can do or what tests I should ask to get done because this mentally messes with me so much. Or if anyone has experienced anything like this, any advice or tips would be extremely helpful!!

I 21(f) sometimes have self esteem issues. And some days I just don't feel pretty but when I put effort into my looks, like wearing certain clothes or styling my hair, I feel prettier. I don't like makeup, except the occasional lipstick, but I've considered it if it makes me feel prettier but I also don't like having stuff other than eyes and lips, and I dont want to need makeup to feel pretty. I'm tall, 5'10, decent body, not model fit but not thick. I want to feel pretty always. But some days i can't decide on my style, one day I want to wear form fitting sexy clothes, other times I want to wear feminine modest clothes so idk. I'd love to hear yalls tips and tricks on what you do to feel prettier?

I have been straight for all my life even though men haven't impressed me as much. Anyways I realized that I acquired SO-OCD so I have this compulsive urge to know like know for sure. I know I ever only want to satisfy a man and I have found girls very girly and not my type. Yesterday I talked to a new girl about my ocd and I don't know what I felt , but when I started thinking if it was liking it still makes me throw up. I have liked men and I can only want to satisfy men in my whole life, and have it reciprocated.
Your thoughts?

I've had a couple of kids, haven't breast feed for 6 or so years. Lately my boobs have been feeling weird, aches or just strange.

Today I am 3-4 days before my periods due and they feel like I'm having a breast feeding let down tingly sensations.

Hormonal? I'm mid 30s, shouldn't really be changing hormones yet? I also haven't Been on hormonal birth control for like 10years.

Is this something to get checked out? My nipples itch too now that I'm thinking about it.

Ive been looking at a few different subs today to get different opinions on the feminism idea/movement. There's some things that are glaringly obvious just from a few posts. Women want to be able to go out at night, wearing what they choose, and not worry about being spiked, or raped by the taxi driver. Women want to not be groped by drunk men who blame alcohol for the assault. Women want to not be hit by their partner, and if they do, they are safe to report and jail the attacker. Women want to not be forced into marriage with a man twice/three times her age, and being murdered if she does not comply. Women want emotional labour to be equal without having to be a mom to their partner. Women want to be taken seriously in their job, no matter what that may be. Women want sex to e consensual and enjoyable for both, not degrading. Women want to feel like a valued person, not an object, or lesser being. This is what women cannot do, with complete confidence and Women have had almost every human right denied to them,

Meanwhile, the men who are against feminism, they mostly talk about the women who falsely accuse men of rape, This is a very real issue, However this only accounts for 2-10% of actual rapes, yet the men do not yell that the amount of women who are being raped is unacceptable. They also say women who cry false rape should be jailed, this is also true, But men go on to say these women should be jailed for the same time as the rapist would have gotten. Well considering only 1% of rapes go to court and end in convictions, most of the women falsely accusing should also walk free. Men also have mentioned being drafted is unfair, yet are the first to demean sexualise and insult a female soldier. The fact that it was THEM who denied womens access into the armed forces also escapes them.

What im saying is, women want to be seen, heard and respected. Women want feminism because it allows them to do things they previously were not..

Men despite their vocalness about having no rights and freedoms, do not mention things that feminism has stopped them from doing.

I only have a bathtub in my house currently and it'll be over a year before I can put in a shower, I got a yeast infection for the first time in over 10 years and the only thing I can think of is the hot baths. I have poor circulation and can't handle cooler water temps. Has anyone else lived without a regular shower and was able to avoid yeast infections while bathing regularly still ?

I want to have good sex and send out a text when I want it, but I also want someone to go see movies with me😂

I dont see people talking enough about how much women usually have this amazing compassion for others and a sense of humanity,and the way they view the world is so poetic and beautiful making it beautiful as well, even tho the world is harsh to them. Women usually sacrifice a lot for others and do a lot too without waiting something in return,theyre warriors and I can't help but admire them. Women are usually portrayed as "fragile" and "weak", but it takes strength to be one and be able to handle what they go through.Thank you so much for your existence,you guys should rule the world!

I’m sorry if this has been asked before, I didn’t see anyone ask this, but I accidentally left a tampon in for about 5-7 days. Finally realized and took it out this morning.

Feel fine but just getting a bit of abdominal cramping. Should I be worried or do anything about this now? Take advil or try a douche? Should I take anything that would help clear my system of any toxicity?

I cannot afford to go to the ER and I do not have a gynecologist. I just recently moved to a new city and have not set one up. Just wanted to ask advice first.

Thank you for your help!

Its my first time posting on this sub and English isnt my first language so Im sorry if there are any grammatical errors.

I (24F) have been feeling really conflicted over a situation I had with my boyfriend (32M) of 5 years.

For context, we met in university during med school. We both work the same job and Ill be graduating this year. We met shortly after both of us ended our relationships (I left my ex because he was verbally abusive towards me, and he left his ex because he fell out of love with her).

In December 2023, we suffered a huge fire incident in our apartment complex. I wasnt home during the incident but my boyfriend was trapped in the apartment and had to escape jumping from our window to a balcony with our pets where he could breathe safely until the firemen came to his rescue. Of course, I tried my best to help the firemen and police locate him from outside the apartment complex. A few people died that day, including pets, and it was all just very tragic and scary.

We lost our home and felt very mentally overwhelmed. My boyfriend suffered from a few burns and both of us were mildly intoxicated from the smoke. I called my parents to see if they could let us stay with them until we could find a new apartment, since we had no where to go. My boyfriend doesnt get along very well with my family (Ive had some rough patches with my family but I still love them and worked through them on my own) but he agreed to stay with them at least until we got back on our feet. We stayed with my parents for a few weeks until a friend of ours lent us an apartment he uses as an airbnb.

A few months go by, things start to get a little better. I took on most of the mental and physical load during this time, because I wanted him to get better, he went through a lot and I was just grateful that he was okay. I found us a new apartment to rent quickly, took care of his health, helped him with his studies and took care of all the household chores, did most of the moving to the new apartment, cleaned out all of the little things left in our burnt apartment that we could manage to save...the list goes on.

Everything was finally great after moving. We were both happy, despite the situation we tried our best to move on and live our lives.

Until 2 months back. While I was cooking dinner at home, my mother calls me. Shes crying, telling me that my boyfriend said very horrible things to her. He had sent her messages saying that he hated my family, he didnt want them to step foot in our house, and he didnt want my mother and father to be involved in our marriage or in raising our future children. I felt horrible for hearing my mother cry like that, and it hurt me that he would do something like this.

When he gets home, I confront him on the situation. We dont normally look at eachothers phones unless we need something because we both trust eachother a lot, but this time I told him to show me the messages. He truly said all those things...I asked him why. He said that he hated the way they used to treat me and wanted them out of our lives. He said he just despised them and couldnt ever stand them..ever. He realized after the fire that life was too short to have "people like my family" close to us. This made me sad, its true Ive had a rough relationship with my parents but we talked through it as a family and we got much better. They help us out a lot and they gave us a place to stay when we lost everything.

He asked me if it bothered me that we cut them out of our lives. I told him it would hurt me but I loved him so much that I agreed, I said we could try... He then told me to call them and tell them that we would be cutting them off. With every ounce of sadness, I did just that, and hated hearing on the other end of the line how badly my parents were crying. This was so against who I was, and I honestly dont know why I did it, I just thought in my head, "he always sacrificed a lot and did a lot for me, I need to do the same and I love him".

For weeks, I tried to accept this new way of living. I tried to not think about it, but it hurt and in the bottom of my heart I felt I was doing something very wrong. I kept thinking how sad it was to lose all my dreams of my parents being there for me in the most beautiful moments of my life, like my graduation, marriage, and kids.. During all of this, I was suffering through exams and work stress, along with most of the housework load.

I decided to talk to my friends about it. They told me this was very wrong, and if this was hurting me so much I should talk to him about it. I told them I was scared to because he would keep telling me it was easier that we break up than mend the relationship with my parents every time we brought up the conversation. I went home that day, and decided to tell him how I was feeling, in a firm and serious manner.

He FREAKED OUT. He told me he was sorry and all of the things he said about my family was a lie. He said he created this situation just to protect me from my family, since he worried that they would try to hurt me again. I told him that didnt make sense, because I had already talked things with my family a long while ago and we resolved our issues. He went to his closet, took out a little box with a ring and told me that he was going to propose to me soon, he begged for me not to leave him and to give him a chance.

In shock, I agreed. But only if we brought my family back into our lives. He said yes. That weekend he invited my parents over and explained the situation. We were all very hurt but agreed to work things out.

Looking back on the situation, I cant help but feel disgusted. He basically manipulated me, justifying himself by saying he was doing it to "protect me from them". PROTECT ME FROM WHAT? I was perfectly fine before all of this...he created a whole scenario and said horrible things, even making my father cry. I trusted him blindly because I love him so much, and he hurt my trust. I feel like he abused my trust to a point where he could have damaged my whole life and relationship with my parents just because he wanted to "protect me from them".

Some days I cant look at him in the eyes, and Im having pretty strong gut feelings about ending the relationship. But I feel so guilty for thinking that way. Other than this, hes a pretty good guy. He always puts me first and takes care of us. But I feel like this situation made me lose love and attraction for him. Im scared he could do this again, just to get what he wants.

I dont know what to do at this point.

I wrote this post as a worth sharing Public Service Announcement reminder that you are not really missing out anything if you think that you are a broken failure outside of the amatonormativity of traditional heterosexual monogamy.

Older women in general out there do not advertise the housewife life because they have learned with life experiences that stability security is illusory even in committed intimate relationships that are sexually and emotionally totally closed, whether monoamorous or polyamorous, because trust is not reliable, since even anyone that you love a lot can do you wrong and let you down at any time.

We can not tell definitely for certain how anyone and their beliefs, values, priorities, limits, boundaries, needs, wants, desires and feelings will or will not change, because everyone is as unpredictable as the future of existence is unpredictably uncertain.

You should not sacrifice your financial independence for anyone giving up on your academic and professional career also because there will always be, out there, somewhere, a diversity of better pals who, specifically, need you to necessarily exist as the most free, unrestricted and authentic irreplaceable version of yourself.

I really hope that sharing this helps to save at least someone out there from the same mistakes that I have learned from.

I had such a horrible routine during uni of eating like a meal a day and because of that I’ve lost all my appetite forever. I waste so much food because I just get grossed out by it or I just don’t feel hungry at all.

I’m trying to build muscle so a lack of protein really is hindering me. On top of that, I’m a social worker and my routine is hell so I hardly have the energy to cook - any advice?

how do I start feeling hungry again?

First time poster here. For some context, I'm a junior in college studying music education. I've been on a leave of absence to take care of some personal things this fall, but I've been helping out with my alma mater's marching band as a volunteer staff member to help pass the time. Our football team traveled to an away game last night.

The director asked me to run a paper with our band's announcements over to the home team's press box. Ran the paper over, but on the way back some of the home team's high school students started catcalling me. I look a younger than I actually am (20), mainly due to my height. I was wearing school identifying clothing and I had thought about saying something back, but I was confused about what the right thing to due was. I have an obligation to protect the students, but I didn't want to start anything, in case it possibly got our director involved. Did I do the right thing by doing nothing?

I'm sick of men that deny that violence against women is real. Every time I see a video or a post that talks about the very real issue, there's always men in the comments, either saying it doesn't exist, or 'well men suffer violence too' noone denies that. But we can't even have a conversation about women being beaten, degraded or killed, without a man saying ' what about men' which makes it another dig at women. We know men are beaten, which is also inexcusable. But women have been abused for a lot longer, and in more ways than men. People need to accept this, and try to be better, not deny the very real history.

I’m in the middle of a workplace sexual harrasment case. I’m unionized so we have trials where a member can be charged.

A male member was charged with sexual harassment towards women. He sent me pictures of his genitalia.

However it’s a boys club and I’ve been involved before and the treatment I received was blatant misogyny.

I am supposed to appear as a witness and I know I’ll be hit with victim blaming etc, my actions caused him to think he could do this etc.

I know I will be asked if there was any relations with him before hand. There was zero.

How am I supposed to answer that as it isn’t relevant just more women blame. I feel it’s inappropriate to ask me this. How do I answer that I don’t need to answer that.

I could be a nice woman and just answer it but no, it’s crossing the line and they need to be told.

Missed period for 4 months, is it really normal?

My periods were mostly if not always on time (either a bit late or early) but I’ve always had my periods every month regularly till now. I do have thyroid issues (hypothyroidism)

3 months in of no period, I talked to my endocrinologist and my doctor said it was normal, it’s been a month yet I still don’t have my period.

My thyroid levels are normal right now and I never miss medication for my thyroids.

I can’t tell if this is related to my missed periods but 4 months ago, I started going to a dietician since my doctor recommended for me to lose weight and ever since I have lost 6 kgs.

My diet isn’t anything restrictive I am just advices to eat healthier meals a day (around 1.9k cal)

Is this normal? What can I do to get back my period cause I’m starting to feel hopeless waiting every month for a sign of my period without even having the slightest idea of what I can actually do.

Both 25F. I just spent the afternoon with a good friend who is currently struggling with depression. I could literally feel her negative energy dragging me down throughout the meeting. As much as I would like to help her, it just isn’t possible. I tried to support her by bringing her flowers and chocolate at least and offer her advice on her situation and distract her with interesting stories from my life. None of it worked (I’m not a mental health professional) and she went completely silent and just “stared into the void” several times during the meeting for minutes at a time. I tried to remind her of the good times we had together in the past but it was like that part of her is gone and the depression has taken over. I ended up paying for her bill and taxi home and she apologised the meeting went to badly. This meeting has really affected me energetically. A part of me was happy to see a close friend who I haven’t seen for a while due to her mental health but at the same time, it was like there was a bubble of heavy negative energy around her which I could sense and literally feel around me and in my stomach. This negative energy has kind of dragged me down for the rest of the day too. Is there any way to cleanse this negative energy from my energetic field? I don’t want to cut her off by any means, but I couldn’t handle another meeting like this. What makes it more difficult is that she is a close friend and was my emotional support and source of joy/friendship until the summer when her depression kicked in. I miss the old her, and I feel pretty down about this

Im 18 and I feel like my hips are getting wider and wider, but on the scale im still the weight I have been for years... wtf is happening? A year ago I was 164 and 5'7 and I had a pair of jeans that were way too big for my hips and i had to use a belt to wear them. This year Im 163, still 5'7, but I can wear the pants just fine now??? How did I get bigger without gaining any weight? Does this happen to anyone else or is it a medical problem?

so it's to the point where some parts of my body (knees, elbows, and my genitals) are significantly darker than the rest of my skin. i've grown to ignore my knees and elbows it took years but i can wear shorts and tank tops now lol but i'm seriously insecure about the difference in color down there !!

and i know i know "love yourself" and i would never judge someone who had hyperpigmentation but it's different when it's myself you know?? it's hard to ignore it when it's just ... THERE ! so blatantly obvious when i look at myself and it makes me so insecure especially when it comes to wearing bikinis or being intimate with someone (i can never keep the lights on 😭)

i feel like it's the greatest obstacle in me being confident and loving my body which is really disappointing considering since leaving high school i've more or less grown to overcome/overlook all the things about my body i used to be insecure about ...except that :/

i (F18) have lived my whole life with no validation from men. last year to now ive lost 15 kg and intend on losing more sinve i’m still overweight. i often get told i have a pretty face and a funny and eccentric personality that draws people in, yet no man has ever been interessed in me, ever. a few conversations at parties, quick meet ups and a little snapchatting, but nothing real. no man has called me pretty, beautiful or hot. i also have BPD which makes me push men away, yet i crave attention and love so bad. what’s wrong with me?

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Just look at this damn post. Grown ass women talking about creating an "adult gc" in the comments and saying how hot it is when young boys do this.

Now just imagine if I said "how hot it is when 16 year old girls call me daddy"

Oh but it's "just a joke 😋 teehee"

Okay so I am struggling to find an organic tampon brand. I really need a good one that doesn’t leak or want to come out when I’m lifting at the gym, especially on leg day when I’m squatting or deadlifting etc,. The brand I use that isn’t organic are the platex sport in super. I tried the L. ones but I feel like they just want to come out and I don’t like that the shape isn’t similar to the 360 protection the playtex sport has so there’s a lot of leakage even when it’s staying in.

Idk I’m just really struggling and I don’t want to keep using these dangerous products. I really try hard to keep every part of my life that I can control “clean”. If anyone has any recommendations I would really appreciate it!

 It’s often said that our skin reflects what’s happening within, and this couldn’t be more true. The journey to a luminous complexion often begins with nourishing what lies beneath. Here are ten powerful foods that can support healthier, more radiant skin, each backed by science to work wonders for your face.

Have you noticed how life’s ups and downs can often be traced right across our skin? Stress seems to call forth breakouts and under-eye shadows, while dehydration saps our complexion, leaving it flaky and dull. On the flip side, consistent healthy habits—hydration, exercise, and balanced eating—can leave us with that enviable, radiant glow.

Why is this? Quite simply, our skin, covering an impressive 21 square feet on average, is the largest organ we possess. It displays the impact of our lifestyle choices—positive or negative—like an external mirror of our internal state.

Consider smoking: research demonstrates that it ages skin prematurely, disrupting the cycle of old cells renewing as fresh, youthful ones. Smoking also triples the risk of squamous cell carcinoma and contributes to various other cancers.

Stress also affects the skin profoundly, causing breakouts and accelerating aging. Yet, the opposite is also true—our choices in diet and lifestyle can encourage smoother, more resilient skin. For a thriving complexion, stick to a balanced, low-fat, high-fiber diet rich in fruits, vegetables, and whole grains. Add plenty of water, regular movement, and consistent sleep to make sure your skin can reveal the best version of you.

So, what does science say about specific foods for skin health?

Essential Fats

Research suggests that poly- and monounsaturated fats, especially omega-3 fatty acids, may protect skin against damage from sun exposure and aging. Cold-water fish like salmon, mackerel, and tuna are top sources of omega-3s, while olive oil and nuts offer healthy monounsaturated fats.

The Power of Tea

To understand how green tea benefits skin, consider the role of free radicals, which accelerate skin aging by attacking cell walls. Free radicals arise from smoking and sun exposure, but antioxidants combat their effects. Tea, especially green or black, provides a rich source of antioxidants. A study in Arizona revealed that frequent black tea drinkers had a reduced risk of squamous cell skin cancer—particularly those who added lemon to their tea.

Fruits, Vegetables, and Fish: Wrinkle Fighters

We’ve all heard that fruits and vegetables are essential, but their anti-aging powers are impressive. A Monash University study of 453 people aged 70 and above from Australia, Greece, and Sweden linked high consumption of fruits, vegetables, and fish to fewer wrinkles. Foods high in saturated fat, like meat and butter, as well as sugary treats and potatoes, correlated with more pronounced wrinkling.

Exercise: The Skin Energizer

Exercise enhances circulation and blood flow, delivering oxygen and nutrients throughout the body, including the skin. When exercising outdoors, be sure to apply broad-spectrum sunscreen to protect against UVA and UVB rays.

Vitamins: E and C, The Skin Saviors

While a balanced diet is the best source of essential vitamins, studies highlight that vitamins E and C, particularly in supplement form, can provide potent protection for skin cells against environmental damage.

Additional Skin-Nourishing Nutrients

Beyond the usual suspects, borage oil (high in omega-3 fatty acids), garlic, and ginkgo biloba may shield skin from free radical damage and harmful UV exposure.

10 Skin-Loving Foods to Embrace:

• Salmon
• Green Tea
• Olive Oil and Olives
• Sardines
• Brazil Nuts
• Blueberries
• Flaxseeds
• Non-fat Dairy
• Canola Oil
• Avocados

Each of these foods plays a unique role in fortifying and rejuvenating the skin. Incorporate them into your meals, and watch your skin reveal a new level of vitality!

Source: https://www.womenncorner.com/