So a guy in my class , we first talked on November because he was in my class. And he asked for my number and i gave it to him.

Bro we didn’t really talked much in class so idk him that well. He texts me every single day for no reason. He says “hey” 4-5 times a day.

That gave me an ick. I somehow know that he has a crush on me. But bro i don’t reply and even if i do i give him late replies and one word replies. It’s obvious that I am ignoring him but still he replies.

Haven’t replied to his text for a whole week and still everyday “hey how r u doing?” 2-3 times.

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩.

And now ive told him that I have a boyfriend. Still texts me everyday.

I can’t even block him now because he is in 2 of my classes this semester. Sits next to me and follows me whereever i go. Wherever i sit he sits next to me. ANNOYINGGGGGGGGGGGG

I have been using condoms for years,and none of them ever broke.

How does it happen? No lubrication? Huge dick?

Hi, so I’m 15 nearly 16 and I don’t have a bra size, I have a small chest but I literally am not a bra size. Is this normal? My sister has A cups and my mum has C cups. So I don’t think it’s about genetics. I feel really insecure but I know that women get 2nd puberty, in their 20s. So maybe it’s just a waiting game where they will develop later or something. I also have had my period for nearly 3 years so I dont know if its to do with that or hormones or something. My mum got her period when she was 15 nearly 16 but she developed fine. Any advice or whatever we be appreciated. Thank you!!!

Hey ladies!

I (24F) have always been very insecure about the size of my lips. I always felt thicker, plumper lips would better suit my face but all I've ever seen is the fear mongering around "duck lipped" celebrities who got wayyyyy too much lip filler.

My friend found someone who does lip fillers for a reasonable price and she got hers done and I LOVE how it looks. I can definitely afford it but I'm worried of unknown consequences or people in my life (specifically work) looking at me a little differently for doing so.

What are your thoughts?

21F, I'm planning on getting a prescription for hormonal birth control my next OBGYN appointment (for health reasons and to regulate my cycle/deal with possible PMDD). I am attracted to women and read somewhere that hormonal birth control causes you to lose attraction to women (something to do with hormones). is this true? bc if so i do not want to get on it anymore 😭

They will still say nasty things, they will still rape you, they will belittle your intelligence, and disregard your thoughts and opinions. Because even if you are fat they still see you as a sex object and a baby machine. For years in middle school, I convinced myself that I would never get a boy to want me cause I was fat and ugly. Then in high school, my boobs came in and grown men circled me like vultures.

As a fat adult woman; the ugly men, the men with rotten teeth, fat and ugly dudes with pit stains, the abusers who pray on those with low self-esteem come at you in all directions. I would get dick pics left and right of dirty greasy-looking men. They acted like I shouldn't have standards or preferences because I'm fat and that I should count myself lucky that they gave me the time of day. Ladies, I am fat, but I am pretty and out of these men's league.

Luckily, I found a man who meets my standards. He's a big guy, 6'4" and 300 pounds. He's kind of intimidating but is just a big ole teddy bear. He keeps himself clean and presentable. He is so adorable to boot. Also before anyone says I'm shallow Imma say that I do not experience physical or sexual attraction so for me my standards and preferences never had to do with looks. It had a lot to do with personality and values and morals. My husband checked all the boxes.

So me and my bf had sex on the 17th(20th) cycle day and the condom broke so we stopped. I know that I had thick white mucus that day that is said to not be fertile. I am on day 36th of my cycle and have pms symptoms. Also on the 1st I was on my period and condom broke but I took a plan b. My cycles have been a bit off in these past months (34,24,29,25 days)and I was also sick and stressing a lot because of university exams. Could I be pregnant?

Are they really attracted to a man when love him? Any experices?

I am by no means a MAGA girl but I’ve completely unidentified with the left at this point cause I have yet to hear or read any argument of theirs that is based in fact and research instead of subjective opinions and emotions. I hate to say that but it’s true. In fact just two years ago I was also terrified that we would be living in the handmaids tale by now. But…we aren’t! It was so easy to just believe the fear mongering that is still so successful. Then I decided to actually start face chdcking all the head titles I would read. Turns out almost none of them are true. For example, that Georgia has outlawed saving the mothers life during an OB emergency (so completely false that is not present in any of their laws). It’s true insanity.

I’ve been seeing since trump won that women have LITERALLY been getting hysterectomies and tubal ligations because they genuinely think access to contraception will now be restricted!! This is actually incredibly sad to me that the lefts fear mongering has been this successful. I’m a nurse and have noticed a large increase in these surgeries. It’s also a little bizarre to me that so many young women are so caught up in the politics of this they would rather have a hysterectomy, a massive surgery that has a MASSIVE effect on your life, rather than risk ever having a child…but that’s an argument for another time. That’s everyone’s own personal decision and I would respect it more if it wasn’t stemming from the fear mongering of our bodies being taken control of by the government.

Even today, I saw a video of an OB saying that the CDC has removed some baseline guidelines on their website for deciding which patients should get which birth control. Now we don’t know why they did that. They could be editing it for ANY REASON!!! Yet she insinuated it’s for evil reasons and the first attempt at turning our society into handmaids tale. She was also rather upset that they changed “pregnant person” back to “pregnant women”. Don’t get me started. The fact this was even allowed in the first place is the ULTIMATE misogyny to me.

So I guess my question is this. Anyone that feels this way - what is your hard evidence this is going to happen? (The handmaids tale theory).

Edit: I am Well aware I’m probably gonna get eaten alive on this thread but I’m open to it. I’d rather have civil disagreements and learn from each other than anything else.

Did outercourse he was naked but i had underwear on after it ofc we washed and HURTS like??? Yes he poked around and everything but i dont think any penetration happened? How come its painful

So I have OCD and have problems using the bathroom. I have long inner labia so I don’t really understand how to wipe after peeing. I literally spend 30 minutes in the bathroom. How do you all wipe after peeing? I can’t really understand the wipe front to back or back to front, I understand the point of not wiping from your butt to your vagina of course. But how am I supposed to wipe straight up when I have long inner labia so I can’t just place the toilet paper there then wipe because my inner labia are in the way. What I do right now is wash my hands for I don’t even know how long (yea it’s a problem) then I will get toilet paper (a lot) and hold my inner labia to soak it up, and I will do this 2-3 times. Then I will get a fold of toilet paper (a good amount), spread my inner labia and hold put it flat against my whole vagina area, and I would repeat this 3 times until everything is dry. But yea please tell me how you guys wipe because I want to get a sense of what normal wiping is and I hate spending long in the bathroom. Also do you all wash your hands before using the bathroom since your hands might touch your vagina area and germs could get on it?

Because I’m losing hope! I feel like I’ll never be able to make friends again. My one friend has a million friends, so we barely see each other, maybe once every few months & she’s about to move countries. I haven’t gelled well with anyone at university. I don’t see any parents on the nursery run as we are often the first & last ones there. I never made friends in the playgroups either. Other people I know just aren’t my people, have values or morals or interests that just aren’t me, want to meet up in clubs whereas I’d rather catch up over a cuppa at home. I don’t know anyone with kids, and even after reaching out over multiple channels in my area I just can’t find anyone? Is this normal or is there actually something wrong with me…?!

It’s been clear to me for a while that my mom is a bit misogynistic (my dad too, but I’m mainly talking about my mom). I’ve always felt like she was a tad TAD bit more tolerant of my brother’s outbursts than those of my sister and I.

For example, several months ago, we were talking over lunch. The convo turned to serious topics (we talk about serious stuff all the time), and she stated that, if someone was accused of SA, she would always believe the man/boy over the woman/girl because of how petty, vindictive, and insincere women are. Obviously, I was internally pissed at the comment, but did not express it.

I told her that I wouldn’t be friends with someone if they’re were accused of SA—— not out of judgement or because I actually 100% believe they did it (I obviously don’t know if they did), but for my own safety. There’s no way to know if someone is a predator except for the hard way, and simply being accused is a red flag (I view red flags that someone is potentially dangerous/incredibly toxic, not as absolutes). What if the accusations are true and I end up alone with this person? Obviously, it would suck if the accused was truly innocent and was being excluded socially, but my safety comes first.

My mom scolded me for this, called me quick to be judgmental, and told me to think about what I would think of my brother was accused and people had my stance. I told her that the protective sister side of me would hate people for excluding him, but deep down, the rational part of me completely understand.

Fast forward to last night when I was venting about work drama (that I wasn’t a part of but was still affect by). My mom cut me off twice before I could finish my story to go on a rant that segued into how women are petty and full of drama, how relieved she is when there are some men on her team (she’s an ICU nurse), and how relieved she is to have a male boss. She then said “I know that’s not the most politically-correct thing to say, but oh well”. She was also chewing loudly on these nuts (or something) while she said this, so my misophonic ass definitely wanted to strangle her.

I said nothing about it to her. I’m really considering gently confronting her about it if it happens again tho, so I’d like advice on how to go about this. She just doesn’t really like being argued with, and she has a track record of dismissing me and I express feelings and boundaries. I don’t want to cut her off tho, cuz, while this post def makes her sound like an asshole, she really is a great mom and I love her dearly.

Anyone with similar experiences? I don’t mind male input either.

Starting my first job tomorrow. I'm 20 years old, and often get mistaken to be underage. I realize it's common but it still bothers me a lot. My interview went well and all, but I'll be working in a branche dominated by older men and I'm just very fearful of how I will come across. The secretary has already made comments about how young I look, in a not very friendly way.

I think I'll just feel a lot more comfortable for the next day if I can plan an outfit ahead, makeup etc.

the most obvious one to me is when men disproportionately dislike anything a woman does for "no reason". As in, if there are 5 characters in a show, one of whom is a woman, everything the woman will say, do, wear is wrong.

"She's just annoying"

"I just don't like her"

"I don't like the way she talks"

I see this EVERYWHERE and ALL THE TIME.

You see this for female characters in shows, e.g, Diane from Bojack Horseman, Styler White from Breaking Bad, Summer from 500 days of Summer, Amber from Invincible, etc. Usually it happens when a female character does anything that goes beyond a basic sexist archetype and has the audacity to behave a little bit like a real person. Only men are allowed to be flawed and complex. Women have to be shallow so that men can project whatever fantasies they have on them. When women are complex, they ruin the fantasy and become an object of anger.

I was watching a video on a fun video game played by a couple of streamers together. All the comments were hating on this one specific female streamer in the video. I didn't know why. I scrolled down the comments to see what she must have done that was so horrible, that everyone kept attacking her (saying she was annoying, talked too loud, too much, played the game wrong even when she didn't) ? Then I find out that she has an OF. And of course, every nitpick that the men in the comments had against her were not because she actually did anything wrong, but because they have a visceral hatred towards women who do online SW despite having no issues consuming it. And this isn't me arguing in favour of OF, just saying that I know how much men hate the idea of women having any agency in porn (even though they often have very little) for some depressing reason.

The insane amounts of hate I saw against this woman by all these men over a video game actually made me feel uneasy and upset. They would even use micro reactions from the other streamers to prove that "they hate her too" and so on and so on. Like it's actually weird to me. But these men swear they don't hate women. "It's just something about her I don't like", they say.

Does anyone else ever feel like no matter what, they aren't going to meet their ideal body goals? I'm 5.4", I weigh 146ish lbs; I'm not skinny, I'm not particularly large. And I would argue that I love my body- when I see renaissance art of Aphrodite, or the muses or nymphs, I see my body reflected there more than I do modern day.

I am a sucker for vintage style. The textures, the patterns, the designs all feel so much more feminine from what I find nowadays- so naturally I thrift and look second hand.

But it feels like every person from the past was walking around with a 26-29" waist size. Do you know what I am? 33". The lowest it's ever been (after reaching adulthood) is 29.5"- it doesn't get smaller than that.

I love my body- I know it's beautiful, I know I can be elegant and desired and feminine as I am; but why does it feel like even at my best I don't qualify? Do you really have to take up unhealthy habits to even have a chance (smoking to lower hunger, binging, starving, etc) at being beautiful? Do I cut out the bottom ribs to lengthen the waist?!

It shouldn't matter- I KNOW it shouldn't matter- but there's been very little in my life that I couldn't just figure out through hard work and dedication, and this is one where I think I have to just come to terms with; I was born with a body that will never be THE body.

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I am a female dating my boyfriend for 6 months now. Everything between us was so spicy (Phone sex, naughty texts) We haven't had sex, yet but we were very physical with each other, like we would be over each other and all that, although I knew he wasn't a virgin but I told him I was.

Recently, he told me his first time wasn't very consenual, which made me realise neither was mine and I ended up discussing/telling him that I was molested the first time I had it, and very much non consenual (I haven't told him this earlier in our relationship) and even tho he reacted the way I wanted him to.

It was normal for first two days, until I decided to make our conversation more spicy and I just couldn't do it and neither was his response very much similar like before and It made me feel sad,

I don't know how to tell him that or discuss this with him without bringing that again but I can feel the shift in the energy very much.

Rant btw

So i looking for some videos of muay thai women and other gym stuff of women and tell me why every videos comments are all full of fucking egotistical men who say shit like “100 skill damage 0” or other stupid shit saying they’re doing it wrong or they’d lose in a fight or something along the lines of “an average man could still beat you” “You wouldn’t stand a chance against a gun or a knife” like bro shut the fuck up you’re probably not even as half as skilled and talented as the women you’re hating on why tf do ya’ll have to leave stupid ass comments on women trying to do their thing like nobody fucking cares nobody asked for your stupid fucking opinion

Just that. A variety of vulvas and the women who sent them in, plus their stories of overcoming insecurity.

Societal norms and beauty standards can make it tricky to come to terms with a normal body, but normal bodies are normal. Enjoy!

https://www.thevulvagallery.com/stories

Hey ladies of Reddit,

For those of you who have crossed the 30-year mark, what are some things you wish you had known in your 20s? Whether it's about relationships, men, love, career, personal growth, or just life in general—what wisdom would you pass down to younger women?

Some specific questions to guide your thoughts:

• What’s one thing you wish you had done differently in your 20s?
• Any hard lessons you learned about dating and relationships?
• What career advice do you think is most valuable?
• How do you balance personal growth with societal expectations?
• Any advice on confidence, self-worth, or handling setbacks?

Looking forward to hearing your insights! 😊

I’ve (F20) been talking to this guy (M22) for over a year. He’s even my schoolmate. We were clear that there will be no other people involved. We were pretty much exclusive. The usual flirting, eating together, kind of stuff. He constantly assured me that he isn’t talking to other girls, and if he is, it’s just for school-related things. He’s not the brightest bulb in the box, but he was gentle in the way he spoke to me and he was the first guy in years that I bothered talking to, so I gave him a chance and got attached. Biggest mistake of my life.

This August, I saw this girl in his recent chats and had my doubts about her. I asked him who she was and he told me she was just a friend. Business partner of a relative, apparently. In hindsight, I feel stupid for buying that excuse because that guy wouldn’t bother talking to a girl he isn’t attracted to. After all, we started talking, because of him approaching me, right? I got jealous because why was he talking to another girl on Instagram? He assured me that she was just a friend. (Fuck, never believe a man when he calls a girl a “frenny”. A straight man wouldn’t call a girl a “frenny”. He’s obviously at least slightly attracted to her.) Even told me that, of course, I was cuter than her.

This September, I found out on social media that he was dating the girl I was worried about while we were still talking. I found out about it because of a freaking TikTok video that the girl posted. He had his back turned to the camera while the girl was looking at him. I had a feeling that it was him because of the hair. But my heart was conflicted. We were still good, weren’t we? I wanted to trust him. My heart wanted so badly for it to be someone else who just looked like him from behind even though the resemblance was too much. But my gut instinct was proven correct when I saw him in the comment section of another TikTok of hers. A fucking 😩 emoji was what finally brought me to my senses.

I confronted him about the other girl. Got into hysterics. But he didn’t even bother answering my call or telling me about it in person. He just told me that “shit happens” because they just suddenly got together, that they’ve only known each other for a month, that he didn’t even court the girl. (Another lie, of course. How the fuck do you suddenly get into a relationship?) He told me that he didn’t have the guts to admit it to me at the time, that they’ve only been official for the past five days, He assured me that for the entire year we were talking, I was the only girl he was talking to. But how could I believe that now that I know about her?

He told me to curse at him. So I did. I called him numerous names until I eventually grew tired of arguing. He told me that he hopes one day I would appreciate the fact that he never tried to touch me or be inappropriate with me, that he still tried to take care of me by not taking my virginity. I couldn’t care less about it because all I wanted was for him not to talk to another girl and yet he still did it behind my back. He apologized. Said sorry countless times. Said sorry even on Microsoft Teams. I deeply want to forgive him because it’s so heavy to have to carry the burden of hating him but it still hasn’t taken the anger away because I just want to know why he had to do that to me. He told me that I was enough (in some twisted way of saying that it wasn’t me, it was him), that it was his fault, and that he hopes one day I would be able to forgive him.

He left me in pain. I cried and I cried and I cried. I couldn’t eat properly for days because of what I found out. The guilt was eating at me too, because I didn’t want to be the other girl, but he kept talking to me for those five whole days that they were already together and had no plans of telling me about her. No woman deserves to find out that there is another girl in the picture. I found out about it on TikTok, like I didn’t even deserve a proper explanation. Like I didn’t even deserve to not be lied to. All I wanted was honesty. All I wanted was for him to come clean and tell me that there was another girl in the picture. I would have accepted it and moved on. Maybe even wished him well.

I got blamed for a grown man's failing grades and had to talk to our college department chair. I also spilled everything, even things I have never told my closest friends, to the guidance counselor.

I (20F) talked to this guy (22F) for over a year. He dumped me for someone he’d only known a month. I didn’t even find out they were together until I saw it on socmed. That was in September 2024.

Things went downhill after we ended. Yesterday, my department chair called me in because apparently, his parents had complained that our situation was affecting his studies. He failed several classes last semester. I ended up having an impromptu therapy session with the chair because I just broke down and told him everything I’d been bottling up for months.

When we first ended, he told me to curse him out, to give him what he deserved. So I did. I said all kinds of horrible things. I told all my friends about what he did. Yesterday, I apologized to the chair for my harsh words, but I was really upset because I felt bad after saying them. No amount of vitriol will heal my hurting heart.

I don’t think I’m to blame for his failing grades. I think they’re blaming me because they think my friends and I are ganging up on him. But that’s not true. It just happened that in our group projects, he ended up with my friends. Sure, I it was awkward for him because everyone knew what happened, but that’s not a reason to blame me and my friends for his failing grades. He's the one who didn’t contribute to the group work, he's the one who chose to go to a Christmas party with his new girlfriend instead of contributing, and he's the one who was unresponsive and didn’t participate.

In October, he had the nerve to contact me and brag about how happy he was with her. He said he’d always choose to fix things between them. He’s apologized multiple times since then, but it doesn’t change anything. How can he say the situation is affecting him when he was so happy about leaving me?

Honestly, even when we were together, he was struggling in his classes. How dare he blame me? Maybe his parents are behind this because he’s too cowardly to confront me himself. But why are they so upset with me when it’s their son who hurt me? It just goes to show that people often surround themselves with people who excuse their bad behavior.

But the worst part is, I live in fear every single day because the guy has my private pictures and videos. I know, I know. I was stupid to send them in the first place. But I got caught up with my feelings for him and he was so good with words and I trusted him at the time. The guidance counselor consoled me about it, but I know everything is in his hands and I am at his mercy.

The best way to get someone's attention is by not wanting it anymore.

He made me feel like I didn't matter to him. He left me on delivered for hours on end or simply "seen-zoned" me when all I wanted to do was talk. He made me feel like talking to me was a chore or a burden, and like he was obligated to reply to me. I unsent my messages when I felt ignored, and he still continued to do it. He only called me "cute" or "hot" or "sexy" but never "pretty" and never liked my social media posts. I knew I don't look exactly like his type, but I thought that he liked me. He said so. I thought he had affection for me.

He didn't want me talking to other guys, but he did it himself with other girls. He was scared that his friend was trying to flirt with me, so I blocked his friend. But he was the one drinking with his female friends at his apartment. He was the one who ignored me in favor of his female friends.

When I had severe period cramps, he told me "at least you're menstruating." (Probably insinuating that at least I wasn't pregnant.) Nothing else. Not an ounce of empathy. Mind you, that was uncalled for because we weren't even engaging in any sexual activity. It took a lot of courage for me to end things, but that remark was the straw that broke the camel's back. It hurt.

So I ended it. I talked to another guy. He came crawling back. He kept bothering me. Asked for pictures of me because he hadn't seen me in a long time. Tried to bait me into engaging in a sexual conversation with him again. Asked me who was more handsome and had bigger muscles between the two of them. But all I could think about was the disrespect he showed me. So I blocked him while I was talking to the other guy.

Guys like that are unhealed. Unstable. When they have your attention, they don't want it. They ignore you. But when you're with someone else, that's when they come crawling back. Please be smart when choosing a man. No man is worth your peace of mind.

I know men are visual creatures, that they like beautiful, sexy women. But I have more to offer than just looks. I'm not trying to brag, but I often feel like that's all they see in me, especially since I'm well-endowed. I'm tired of it. I'm tired of being treated this way.

I used to accept so much disrespect from a guy I was stupid enough to think actually liked me for who I am, but in the end, he only wanted my body.

It was the first time in four years that I entertained a guy again. I was wrong about him. I was blinded by the red flags because he treated me well at first. He called me precious. He said I was different from other girls. So kind, so demure. He was a gentleman to me at first.

But the way he treated me a few months later made me feel worthless. It started with him asking for innocent selfies. I didn't realize that the line of my cleavage was showing. Barely, I mean, my face was the focus of the picture. But that's where his eyes zoomed in. He called me hot for the first time, and I knew why.

Then it leveled up to mirror shots. That's when I realized that men ask for mirror pictures to try and see more of your body. He asked me to see me in my sleepwear. Then there were comments about my body. That my body was just right, that I was fit even though I didn't diet. He was asking for more and more pictures every night. He said my cleavage was for his eyes only.

Then, for the first time, he steered the conversation into a sexual topic. He said he was turned on by what we were talking about. I let it go because I liked him.

I let it go because I was getting in the mood too. I admit I wanted it too. He wanted to see me wearing only a bra and panties. For his eyes only, he said. Then he wanted to get a glimpse of my nipples, then he wanted me to take it all off. Then he wanted to see me pleasuring myself. I showed him a video of me rubbing myself through my shorts, then my panties. I didn't want to pull my panties down. But he kept pushing and pushing because he said he was "so hard" and he felt like he was "about to cum," even if I just covered it with an emoji, that I should just remove one finger at a time until I finally showed him.

From there, he started asking for all sorts of videos. I complied with his requests even though I was uncomfortable fingering myself. I really couldn't insert my finger because it hurt, and yet he acted disappointed when I didn't even try. I don't know why he had some kind of power over me. I don't know why I let him do it.

Even when I wasn't trying to talk about something sexual, he would steer the conversation into a dirty topic. His comments became more shameless. He said I was getting a little thicker. That my boobs were getting bigger. Then he would pretend to be shy about it in a sleazy way. He also kept inviting me to come to his house when we had long vacant periods, but it never happened.

Eventually, he asked me out again (just to eat), but I said no because I had a prior commitment. A week later, he admitted that he had planned to get me to suck his dick. "If you wanted to," he said. Then he asked me if I would agree. Then he wanted to put it inside me because he said it would be "better," but I might start to "crave it." He knew I was a virgin, he knew I was saving it for marriage, but he still pushed it. He asked me what if he just fingered me, then what if he just rubbed it against me but didn't put it in, then what if he just put in the tip, then he told me not to stop him, that I should just let whatever happens happen because I might like it too.

I was scared at this point. I didn't want to go to his apartment because I knew he would push my boundaries to see how far he could get with me.

Then we broke up because he didn't tell me that he had a girlfriend behind my back. I guess what I was giving him wasn't enough, and he wanted the real thing. He said he wouldn't spread the things I sent him, and he wouldn't let me get ruined. "I know how precious you are," he said. I asked him, "If I'm precious, why did you have another girl?" But what I really wanted to ask him was, "If I'm precious, why did it feel like you only wanted my body?"

Yes, I know I was also wrong for entertaining the sexual conversations. I don't need anyone to chastise me for it because I regret it every day and I've heard every single criticism. Every day, I'm scared that maybe he isn't the man I thought he was, and maybe he'll spread the videos to his friends. I know I was wrong for sending them in the first place, but I trusted him.

This isn't an isolated incident either. Even when I was younger, I would meet boys who only wanted to talk about sexual things with me or ask for my nudes. He was the only one I ever gave them to, but I always end up being targeted by guts like this. My anger for the male species grows and grows every day because of the way he treated me when things ended. Not only did he deny his girlfriend but he also denied me to her, so we were both fucked over and yet she still chose to turn against me and slut-shamed me with her friends because I was "fat" and she was "prettier" than me and I was just jealous of her because they were together. He lied to her, deceived her, and destroyed my character.

I am working on decentering men and reinforcing my boundaries. I haven't entertained men in the past four months since the incident nor do I have any interest in doing so. I realized one thing: I used to be desperate to find love I kept giving in to his sexual needs. But now I know nothing I do will never be enough for a lustful man. And I know many men are lustful and obsessed with porn. There are so many stories out there of men cheating on their wives and girlfriends, destroying their relationships and families over a quick fuck.

No judgement just want to know what experiences you’ve had to get to that point

I’m 26F, and I feel so conflicted about marriage and relationships. My parents have put my profile on matrimonial sites, but nothing feels right—not because the men aren’t good, but because I can’t picture myself in a marriage. When I think about having a family, I just… don’t relate. I don’t see myself in a relationship or having kids. That’s how I feel right now.

At the same time, I don’t want to be a social outcast. I see people settling down, building lives together, and I wonder—will I regret it later if I don’t? The truth is, I don’t have the courage to live my life completely alone either. The thought of growing old without a partner or support system scares me, but so does the idea of forcing myself into something I don’t truly want.

To add to this, I was in a long-distance relationship for four years, and he ended it because I struggled to maintain it. Whenever my personal life got difficult—financial issues, family problems, or just feeling overwhelmed—I would break up with him impulsively. Looking back, I know I didn’t handle things well, and it makes me question if I’m even capable of a healthy relationship.

Has anyone else felt like this? Do these feelings change with time? I’d love to hear from others who have gone through something similar.

I just saw an instagram video of a woman trying to pay the tab for her whole table consisting of her FRIENDS, which included more than a few men. The waiter then eyed the men as if he was judging them for letting the woman pay the bill.

The comments (more women than men) then agreed that men should always pay for the women, and that if they don't, they're not considered men.

I'm just wondering, how can you claim to be a feminist, but expect men to always pay the bill? The reason why men before always footed the bill is because women have no right to work and open a bank account, that's why they had to rely on men for financial things. Now that women can and DO work, i find zero reason to expect men to always foot the bill, UNLESS both parties agree on it.

I just find it so baffling that a woman can claim to be a feminist but still support sexist gender roles. It's funny how we always brag about how we don't need men to survive and that we can provide for ourselves (which we do), but cry about men not paying for our meals at the same time.

hello hello, i’m a 24F who grew up in a somewhat conservative asian country. i moved to a western country in my early teens. my knowledge on sex education is a mix of both cultures.

i recently bought a vibrator just to explore. every time i use it or at least try to use it, i’m not sure how to explain this feeling but it’s kind of like guilt in a way? cause back home this kind of behaviour is and will not be tolerated, but here i know it’s normal with some even encouraging it. i know i’m an adult (and a virgin at that), but i’m somewhat lost. i can’t help but to compare myself to people i went to school with in long-term relationships and some already having kids.

am i the only one who feels this way? what can i do to relieve my anxiety?

at a teen, whenever i masturbate, i only seem to overstimulate myself. i can’t get to the point where i cum; i get too overstimulated and can’t power through. im not sure if it plays a part that im autistic and get autistic overstimulation a lot too, but yeah. i just can’t cum no matter what i try. just like… is that normal? do i power through? do i get toys? HELP!