Wife and I have been together a while, 8 years now, and we've lived together for 6. We have always had very different sleep requirements, She is typically in bed around 8-9 and I don't fall asleep until 11-12, we both get up at 6. It's been like this forever, typically I lay with her until she falls asleep but not always. I usually get up and go on the computer for a few hours before bed, either gaming or designing things to print on my 3D printer. I can't help but to feel a bit of guilt though when I come back to bed and see her sleeping alone. She has occasionally raised complaints about this saying how she feels like she's always sleeping by herself, how she doesn't want to sleep alone the rest of her life and she likes it better when I'm there, understandable. I don't know when else I would make time for my hobbies though as we usually spend ALL of our time awake together when we are not working. The way I see it, if I devote all her time awake to her and doing what she wants I should be able to do what I want when she's not awake since it's the only time I get to myself. It don't; think this is a huge issue in our marriage, but it's a persistent one. Looking for some advice if anyone has dealt with something similar.

I am extremely insensitive everywhere (including my boobs). It has always felt like nothing whenever I masturbate (whether I use hands or a vibrator). It feels like I’m touching any other part of my body, like I could be touching my arm and it wouldn’t feel any different. The most I’ll get is a slight tiny wave, but that’s after what feels like HOURS of trying. It never really bothered me until now because I now have a boyfriend. With him, I do get turned on, but it still feels like nothing whenever he touches me. It’s not technique, but I genuinely think there might be something off hormonally. Please help, I hate feeling like this and I don’t know what to do. It’s really frustrating because I hear people talk about how much it feels good to be touched and I really want to be able to feel normal when I’m with my boyfriend.

Does anybody else get a sudden sense of resentment and anger towards their s/o when closer to their period days?

I know I love him so very much but closer to my cycle I get this sudden anger and I just want to break up with him but once I get my period I’m all back to cuddles and kisses and all that.

Is something wrong with me?

Personally, I view this as extremely controlling. If a man thinks he can order a woman around like this, perhaps he should find another woman more suited to his liking.

My boyfriend and I of 4 years broke up on Monday. It was for the best for sure, but I’m still so lost like we were together for so long.

I’ve told most of my friends because I’m the type of person who needs to get things off my chest. I can’t act like things are okay. Most people were supportive when I told them, but nobody has checked up on me since. The only person who has is my best friend who I live with.

Nobody else has texted to ask how I am since I broke the news. I’m feeling sad about that. I don’t expect people to be around all day everyday for me to vent, nor do I want to vent all day everyday, but it would be nice to receive a text from my “close friends” saying “Hey, how’s it going today?” I feel like I’ve been there for all my friends through breakups and now that it’s my turn, nobody is texting me to check in.

Am I expecting too much? These are very close friends I’m talking about. Like college roommates, people who generally make plans with me on the weekly. It sucks.

Edit to add: We are all in our early-mid twenties. Nobody is married or has kids or anything besides a 40 hour work week consuming their time. I say that to add context. It’s not like I’m expecting a friend with 3 kids to text me about my breakup.

Hello lovely people! :) I terribly need some advice because I’m really confused and I’ve never been in a relationship before. Am I overthinking this or should I be concerned..

I’ve 'F27' been talking to this guy 'M27' for the past two months, and one of the first things I liked about him was how well he communicated. That's why he actually stuck on tbh.. He used to send me updates about his day, and we’d have these meaningful conversations. It made me feel valued and connected, and I didn’t realize how much I’d enjoy something like that. We have been on dates as well and those were very cute as well!

But lately, things feel different. Last week, he got a video game, and now I feel like he isn’t as present in our conversations. During the day he texts me during work but its limited and im not getting to know him through those cause understandably hes working, but the evenings are way different now. The time he used to spend talking to me feels less, and even when he does talk, I feel like he’s not listening the way he used to. I told him I feel like he’s not talking to me properly, and he said that’s not true—it’s just that playing video game is his way of unwinding and having fun. He insists he’s not being distant.

I don’t know if I’m overthinking this or if my feelings are valid. I’ve been reflecting, and I also think part of this is tied to my own need to feel seen and valued. I’m the oldest child... ( shout out to my fellow first born girls! ) , so I’ve often felt like my opinions or feelings were overlooked growing up. Because of that, I know I really value attention, respect, and validation in my relationships.

How do I address this with him without seeming overly dramatic or needy or bitchy or whinny? I’m also due to get my period in a couple of days, so I’m aware im a bit too semsitive comparatively. Still, this is really bothering me, and I don’t want it to build up and I'm already feeling kinda distant from him..

Am I being unreasonable, or is this something I should bring up more clearly with him? Any advice would mean a lot!!!

Hi there, I just wanted to know if it's normal to feel tingly down there when speaking to another woman. When I was little I remember kissing a girl while we were playing house and I really didn't think it was a problem then when I grew up around the church and it was seen as a sin to like a woman and I felt super guilty for that but I brushed it off since I was little and it's just children playing.

So I went to an only girls highschool and in my second year of highschool I found this one girl very beautiful and she was 2 years above my class and everytime she was around me I would feel very overwhelmed and when I thought about her I would normally ask myself how it would feel to kiss her and just be with her.

But since it was a catholic school such thoughts and actions were condemned and I really felt guilty for feeling that way, and then I had a crush on another girl. She was both beautiful and handsome I don't really know how to explain it so I just told myself maybe I feel this way because I am in a girls school. I still felt the same attraction towards men though.

Fast forward I finish highschool and I get into a relationship with a man we break up I have a few male crushes but then I was going grocery shopping and I saw this one "masc" woman,she portrayed a masc look so allow me to call her that for now and I don't know I felt some type of way towards her. When we interacted since she was working at the store I found myself looking at her and blushing. Everytime I pass by the store I would check if she's there.

I am not really sure if I am attracted to women or this is a completely normal thing for straight women to feel. I feel like when I explore I might not like it as much as I think I would and I don't want to use someone just because I was exploring.

Is this normal to feel towards the same sex, I don't even know how to call it, a crush,sexual tension maybe?

Hi, I am wondering if this exists. You know the shapewear that makes your waist smaller? I want one for my thighs. I don't have a problem with my waist, my thighs are huge and I hate them. Is there something like that?

Being a woman in my city is dangerous. Just living here is dangerous, but being a woman is especially. For as long as I've gone places alone (since age 13), by foot or public transit, I've been harassed, stalked, flashed, and more recently attacked by men. I love this city, I really do, and I know there aren't many places I could travel that would be totally safe for me as a woman. I just wish my gender didn't factor into everything I do.

I'm looking into moving and found a wonderful little apartment, but it's on the first floor with no fence or anything outside and I don't want to wake up to a strange man standing over me. Gender safety and equality issues already impact so much of my life, I hate that they're impacting such a special and important decision for me.

I feel like my ‘close’ friends are only close because we were close. Now all of our interactions feel superficial like a casual friend or acquaintance. They’re all in serious relationships and don’t open up to me about anything anymore.

It’s 1 am and I noticed something on my neck so i desperately need to know what that is. I will go to doctor tomorrow or the day after tomorrow.

I am suddenly feeling a slightly painful lump under my chin right above where guy’s have adam’s apple. Like if i look up i u can see slightly see the lump.

Idk what is happening to me, yesterday I got a painful pimple on the corner of my lips. Not pimple but it’s something else which is a lot better today.

Idk if it’s cold or not I am feeling a bit sick too, especially after i felt that lump. 😭

I said what I said ladies because it's the truth, if you're having unprotected sex with no protection, family planning, BC or vasectomy, you're trying to get pregnant. That is just that. I say this just to say, have fun with sex but dont allow men to have a fun time with you and your body then leave you to pick up the pieces. It is unfair how women have to do all the work when it comes to contraception. After the crack downs on abortion bans and our reproductive rights, it's time to take our sexual health more seriously and become more strict with our bodies.

I believe it's time to use multiple methods of contraception if you can. BC and vasectomy or BC and condoms, things work better together. Also if you're having sex with a man, he should be buying tests, condoms, plan b, getting a vasectomy etc as I said, it is unfair that ladies have to do all the work here when it takes two to tango! Also prevention now will help prevent pain later, plan b's aren't just a pop this pill and its over moment. I used to think that until I spoke with women who have taken them and told me it can be a grueling process.

Lastly, just like we went to school, let's be real, the education system failed us in one way or another. Just like our mental health is our own responsibility, so is our sexual health. This means any questions we have? Do research or talk to someone qualified to answer your questions (yes it's fine to ask mom but STILL do your own research from qualified websites and people. And it's closer than you think, follow u/drmilhouse u/drrachelrubinu/vaginarehabdoctor u/vaginacoach on instagram to name a few!

Finally when I say our health is our responsibility, I mean everything doesn't need to be dicussed with everyone. If you get tested bi-monthly, then you continue to do that for YOU, it doesn't matter if you love your partner and they would never cheat, you continue bc you have a responsibility to yourself. You may be in a relationship with someone but at the end of the day you belong to yourself. Have a lip up? Got pregnant? You make your decision on what you're going to do before you tell your partner especially if you weren't trying to get pregnant.

*There are exceptions where women are forced into sex, I sympathize with those women and I am not talking about them in this post*

Hi ladies or doctors, I was wondering if somebody could help me out here. So I am a 17 yr old female and I have had a UTI on and off frequently almost every day for the past 2 years now. It’s extremely uncomfortable to deal with and I can only drink water beverages, if I drink soda or anything but water it will trigger another UTI. The only way to get rid of them temporarily is if I DOWN water to flush them out. So I am drinking so much water every single day to the point I may be going over my water intake. I do not have sex often maybe once a month, so I am not understanding why this is an issue. I would like to enjoy sex, but my sex life has been taken away due to this. I also have a boyfriend so I’m not sleeping around or anything. I have tried taking D mannose which does help but I don’t want to be taking that for the rest of my life since I heard it’s hard on the kidneys and should only be used for a certain period of time until it goes away. I just want to be able to do normal things sometimes they really hurt and stop me from going to school or work, and I would like to enjoy other beverages as well. If anyone has any suggestion to what this could be?

Has anyone ever experienced this? If so, how did y’all fix it? This is kind of torture.

Lately, when I’ve reached orgasm , I’m only orgasming halfway. It’s almost as if my body is having an orgasm but I’m not, so there’s no pleasure. It’s like a dud. The build up up to it feels great, and then when it’s time, it flops. I can tell that I’m orgasming because my body is tensing up and I’m contracting, but there’s no pleasure happening. No fireworks.

What the heck is going on…??

I'll go first. This guy I'm seeing sometimes has a car and sometimes doesn't. I just found out he's been lying about having a working phone just so I have no way to reach him. When he wants to see me he will call or text from a friend's phone then magically have no way to coordinate schedules so if I want to see him I have to be quick. Then I have the duty to replace him right where he says instead of him helping me out by getting a different ride home. Too damn entitled. Today I took him to my job and left him there. He is wandering the city I guess.

Eyes !!

I (28) and have been in a relationship with my current bf (30) for coming up on 6 years Feb. I don’t think its a coincidence that I was thinking about talking to my married friend the day before, then the next day have a different friend ask us why we aren’t married and our thoughts around marriage, then today at an appointment had the dr ask the same thing. 3 days in a row this had been top of mind. My bf said if I wanted marriage he would propose, he can see himself marrying me but to him marriage is also just a paper/ social construct he doesn’t believe in if we want to be together then we just make that decision a paper doesn’t decide change anything. Background he grew up with a single mother. I grew up married parents who I wish got divorced, the constant yelling, fighting, and verbal abuse I witnessed made me decide I don’t want that but I do wish to get married someday with the right person who respects me.

I do love my bf but we have a lot of history. I trust him now but early on in the first few months he was not faithful. The problem isn’t that I don’t trust him now I do, he changed after we went through that he acknowledged his faults and did better to gain my trust again in his words it was his wake up call to grow tf up because he never really had a serious relationship before. I think that it made me realize how I deserve to be treated and made me not a pushover/ I speak my mind and don’t bend at his or anyone’s beckoning call. At this point I began to paint, write, read, and follow god to refind love for myself too. We have lived together for a few years now, we still laugh, workout together, he helps me around the house and is a good partner, we still do fun stuff and go out, we are best friends.

However, I feel like a part of me will always feel betrayed or like If I was the one he would have only had eyes for me since the start because I only had eyes and still only have eyes for him. I don’t know if all the stupid Disney princess movies, books, and poetry have lead me to think that love is perfect where infidelity and betrayal doesn’t exist but rather that person is like your oxygen and soul. I know that it’s up to me to make the decision and I know if we got married it would work, I can see him being a great father but my fear is never getting over this feeling of hurt in his decision for not initially choosing me like I did him. In my previous relationship we broke up because my love for him died. I am fearful what if this feeling leads to the same thing but at that point it’s too late?

My periods are so excruciatingly painful , but I've noticed a pattern during the past 6 months. Each period, the more and more i start to hate men. They disgust me so much to a certain level that I can't even explain. Especially during my cycle, i cannot be around them. I will become so highly irritated. I feel like the grinch. There are not many things in life that men have not ruined for me, i just have to get this off of my chest. In a way i feel like it's my body telling me that they are a threat and i need to stay away. They don't appreciate us. They dont appreciate the fact that we create life. They don't appreciate or even recognize the fact that our bodies are constantly changing , our hormones are constantly fluctuating ,that so many of us experience a week of absolute hell every single month.

25F

I started my monthly cycle in 4th grade and had cramps for the first few years. By the time I was 19 I had no cramps. Like ever. But I also had a tumor on my ovary that was growing and that caused pain and issues but different from my cycle. I got it removed when I was 20 and it was the size of a softball and suddenly I had cramps every month again. They took out the 1 ovary, the tumor and the tube on that side.

Why did removing half of part of my reproductive organs create cramps? Did the tumor just block the cramps while it was developing and growing?? I might ask my doctor at an upcoming check on further suspicious medical concerns but it seems embarrassing to ask because I waited so long to bring it up. I know I should have asked way sooner but it’s embarrassing.

Also I was birth control for at least 90% of that time. My cycle was very heavy so I was on it to lessen the amount of blood. It worked. However I also only got periods once every 2 to 6 months both on and off birth control for some reason.

Side note: I recently transitioned to male via hormones and I’m detransitioning back to female currently. I’m hoping when I get my cycle back it’ll be monthly because I’m sexually active now and I really don’t want to be constantly panicking about pregnancy. And yes, I’m getting birth control soon. In February this year when my primary care doctor is back. I feel more comfortable discussing this with her than her fill in.

I'm a virgin, my boyfriend and I have never done "it" but we've done some stuff (except penetration). We're in a long-distance relationship so we only see each other every few months. When we don't meet and do anything, my period is regular. But when we do (again, no penetration, just "foreplay"), my period gets delayed; my longest cycle was 40+ days because of this.

Can anyone explain why this is happening?

I just need underwear suggestions as every type of underwear I try is uncomfortable

I like boxers however the fabric is so tight around me as it's just like ew. Can you please give me suggestions that are like boxers but comfortable and loose around the crotch as the only pair of underwear I can comfortably wear is a badly ripped pair of trunks. Which is embarrassing to wear out

For those who have experienced both the wrong and right relationships, how does the right person for you make you feel? What is a healthy relationship like, what are some major differences between your wrong and right person relationships? Thank you

Did I self sabotage?

I (24F) have been talking to this guy (24M) for a couple weeks. We worked at event together in November and we’ve been friends all year. Because this event had a lot of preparations needed, we worked together for some nights alone in the office. We got close and started texting more and more until we both admitted we liked each other.

For the last few weeks, we’ve been acting professional if we have to see each other in the office, but we’ve been texting nonstop. Staying up until 2am texting, then waking up at 6am for work the next day and just giggling and being goofy when we see each other in the office.

He is awesome and so funny. We talk about everything and nothing at the same time and I love our conversations. He broke up with his ex ex-girlfriend back in August and he told me that he’s still in his head about his prior relationship, but that he doesn’t miss her. We agreed baby steps and that will take things slow, especially because we’re changing the dynamic from friends to something more. But he’s been incredibly kind and great. He constantly texts me selfies, teases me in and out of the office, he compliments me, always finds ways to help or support me at work, and he compliments me for me and not just what I look like. He said I have a lovely and beautiful aura and he’s happy we’re on the same page, feelings wise.

Anyways, last week, Wednesday, a week ago today he was being dry all day. After work, he texted me and asked me if I was all right. And I said “yeah are you”? To which he responded with “just got a lot going on but always good” and I asked if he needed space. He works 3 jobs and he’s getting his masters degree. He’s been stressed about finding a full time job and he’s exhausted from our job, serving at night, and babysitting and coaching on the weekends. Anyways he answered “wouldn’t call it space but just need to take a step back and kinda just focus on me at the moment” and I said “okay😊”

On Thursday and Friday last week, we had snow days at work so we didn’t see each other. However, this week, Monday, Tuesday and today, he’s been teasing me, acting like we always do, and constantly asking me if I’m OK. I’ve definitely been short and dry with him while he’s been the same.

I feel like every time we make eye contact, he’s asking me if I’m OK and today he asked me if he’s annoying me or if he has done something to piss me off because that’s the last thing that he would want to so. I kept saying no and keeping my head down. I’m definitely frustrated and confused as to why everything was so amazing and why he put the brakes on us. I genuinely wanted to give him his space so I haven’t reached out or wanted to talk about it but I am getting anxious.

I really like him and I don’t want to lose him , but I want to know where his head is at. I took what he said about taking a step back as he was not interested. But after speaking with my other friend at work, who is significantly older than me, she told me that he’s probably very stressed and I’m taking this the wrong way. She said he keeps asking me if I’m OK because he does care about me and the dynamic between us has changed. He’s still trying to make me laugh and teasing me, but I’ve just been giving him a soft smile and not really talking to him at work. I’m still being professional with him, but I’m definitely not all bubbly and giddy around him

My friend thinks that I self sabotage because all I said was “okay” and then I’m the one that switched up the dynamic in person. But I think since he’s the one who said he needed to take a step back, that he should be the one to reach back out. I was thinking about texting him this weekend and asking him if everything is OK and seeing if we can talk about what we both want and that we’re on the same page.

TLDR: my friend, and I admitted that we had feelings for each other about a month ago when we worked an event together. We were texting nonstop for three weeks straight and then all of a sudden he said he needed to take a step back and focus on him at the moment. He has three jobs, is currently looking for a full-time position, he is very stressed so that could be true. However, I took his message as disinterest, and I have been short and cold with him in the office.

Any advice?

Now I'm not sure how common this problem is but whenever I sweat wearing a white shirt it dries into these grayish marks at my armpits. I've been told this is caused by deodorant and that certain types leave different kinds of marks on clothes. Has anyone had this problem and found a solution? By the way I currently use mitchums which is great for odor prevention.

This is so embarrassing... Like im 16 btw, but I've been bleeding down there for literally years straight... Like idk if im on my period for years straight or if im just bleeding. It started when I was like 13 btw. Has anyone else experienced this?? What should I do??? Like can this be fixed at home???? My friends told me to see a doctor but im way too scared to because I don't want my mom to know.

I am more of a "keep it neat" person when it comes to pubic grooming. However, I was going to a water park and thought, well, why not try shaving to avoid any escapes? Let me tell you, this was a MISTAKE. Everything is kinda starting to grow back now and it is so God dang itchy.

My downstairs feels like one giant mosquito bite. It's been a long time since I started shaving my legs and arm pits, but I do not remember it feeling like this. I used all the same products I use on the rest of my body, so I don't think it's a product reaction.

Anyone ever had a similar experience? Do you just have to push through and keep doing it until your body gets used to it? How do you ladies who stay shaved all the time do it? Are you just always ignoring being itchy? Tell me the secret lol

I'm in my early 20s. I'm in a 5 year relationship - we live together (and have for 4 years).

He was my first everything, so there's a lot of emotional ties to him. I'm not a sentimental person, but I am an emotional person (and a major over-thinker - anxious, introverted, and shy). We started dating when I was 19.

Due to numerous familial losses, including the loss of a parent as a teenager, I have quite the fear of being alone.

I got off of hormonal birth control 3 months ago (after being on it for 10 years). Ever since, I have had heightened thoughts and cautiousness of pregnancy. Just ensuring that we are extra careful and that there are no accidents. This has led me down a road of "Is this what I really want?" -- basically, is HE the future I want?

I am not close at all with his family, due to us being an interracial couple. We have different beliefs, morals, religious beliefs, and our first languages are completely different, making communication not easy. But I try my best, despite them not being fully accepting of me.

Overall, our relationship has had its up and downs, but right now it's probably the healthiest it's ever been. Minimal arguments, good communication, regular date nights.

Despite this, I keep having thoughts that I am not sure if the future with him is what is best for me. I find myself asking for a sign (from the universe or from anyone) if this isn't for me. I keep reminding myself that I do love him and I would be heartbroken if we broke up, but these thoughts still keep creeping in.

I have always heard that women tend to mentally check-out of a relationship long before it's over. I don't know if this is what is happening to me, or if I'm just emotional right now as my hormones balance themselves out and this feeling will pass. Our lease is up in 2025, so I'm giving myself until then to see if this passes.

Any thoughts, or have you been in a similar situation?

In regards to differing treatment that results in women experiencing inequality and restricted access/resources/autonomy/voice there always seems to be a consistent deferral to the most common body sizes among men and women. The general indication refers to mens ability to, with mainstream frequency and success, easily overpower women due to their height advantage, greater muscle mass, greater grip strength, etc. The subsequent reasoning can be derived as the conditional capacity men retain by their physical superiority and the existence of this physical capacity is sufficiently rationalized by existing as an embodied and undeniable facet to our physical existence.

Since mens physical superiority is indeed a property of men that suggests a natural hierarchy in which they are at the top, and the course of nature is impossible to resist, then we must inquire and test the validity of this property to ascertain whether or not it is constant, amorphous, homogeneous, dependant, integral to survival, a defense mechanism, etc.

I believe that one of the beat ways to test the true capacity and impact of these size differences would be in measuring differences in mortality rate and propulsion as measured by time from their physical movements traversing from the top of a human habitat to the ground.

The largest concentration of humans live in cities and within cities the most concentrated amping of humans dwell in tall buildings, so it serves purpose to characterized tall buildings as a built aspect of an inherently human habitat. Therefore, the most elementary test for the physical size difference between men and women would be to measure any differences between their impact and collision from one end of their habitat to another, without either necessitating the exertion of energy. Since the hierarchy existing by natural occurrence of ph,sical superiority is upheld by relying on mens physical capacity as latent embodiment, or, merely existing, then the only way to truly measure whether their superiority is a hierarchy of natural course is by subjecting latent bodies to a force of nature, which will govern the results according to the innate and absolute realities of physical existence. Human bodies experience latency in falling; therefore, the innate and absolute realities of inequality based on physical properties can be tested by measuring a man and a woman, dropped from a building at the same time and the forces of nature exerted by gravity will determine whether hierarchy is ordained by a natural order or nature distributes the sexes equally, despite size and physical differences

i’ve been to urgent care twice and they just give me antibiotics that do nothing. I had bronchitis in september and I’ve had a sore throat, cough, and runny nose since. i’ve had no energy either. I am tired of this, does anyone have anything they’ve done that helps treat this?