I have my first Pap smear next week and I can’t stop crying about it. I’m 24 and I’ve scheduled them in the past but have cancelled all of them last minute out of fear (probably like 4 or 5 of them). Every time I read anything about it, I freak out. I know it’s necessary so I’m gonna force myself to do this next one but I have so much anxiety. And it’s everything about it that I’m scared of. The exposure, the awkwardness, the potential pain, everything. I’m so incredibly stressed out of my mind about it. It’s my primary care doctor who’s doing it and she’s great but I’m having so much anxiety. Can someone please give me some words of comfort? Thanks in advance

For those of you- does your world revolve around 'looks' ?

Yesterday I sent a picture of my boobs to some random guy on snapchat 😣

I guess I wasn't really thinking straight at the moment, but now I can't help but feel this anxiety that somehow he's going to send it to every last person I know, even though I don't even know where he's from and he doesn't know me personally. Problem is just if he wanted to search me up online he could probably find me. He didn't screenshot or save the picture, I now deleted them and my face isn't visible in the picture, but I did send just a picture of my face on a separate snap. I don't care about my actual boobs being out there online, if no one actually knows they're mine, but I'm just scared they will somehow resurface and people will know it's me.

I don't really know why I posted this, some advice for women who've had a similar experience might be nice on how to just deal with it. I'm definitely not doing it again that's for sure 😅

My daughter is 28 and is graduating this year. What is a good graduation gift? If you’re near that age, what would you like to receive from Mom?

Some try to make us feel invisible, small, not enough. For those times, may we remember Maya Angelou and her powerful poem, “Phenomenal Woman.”

Soooo I'm a constant smut reader, but I've never had sex. I got drunk and had some guy eat me out but it was extremely underwhelming. Is sex as good as people make it out to be for women??? Or is it just something you withstand???

Just turned 28 and in the past 8-9 months I seemed to have gained weight that is here ti stay. I’ve never really had a big weight gain in my life so this is all new and kind of hard to deal with. I’ve always been pretty thin my whole life and I have done nothing differently as far as my life style goes, eat fairly healthy and exercise 2-4 times a week. I’ve always had a little cellulite on my legs (it’s never bothered me and I’ve always embraced it) but it has probably double these last few months. I guess this is what people mean by a second puberty. I am hyper fixated on it and it makes me feel so down and upset and self conscious sometimes. It seems like no matter how hard I work out, it won’t change it now. Just so frustrating and feeling so self conscious and can’t stop the comparing to every woman around me or on social media, it all of the sudden feels like everyone is “skinny” but me. I hope nothing I’m saying comes off annoying, really just wanted to vent in a safe space where I know we all have had our struggles with body image.

It all of the sudden is much more difficult to gain any muscle mass or tone, it’s like it disappeared over night.

Lol ok so I’m sure everybody here knows someone like this: You know those guys, that are father to many kids, that just leaves the house and drink all the money and act like the worst fucking idiots possible? I was thinking: “Damn why do women put up and accept these assholes in their lives?? Why do women accept unacceptable behavior from men? Why??!?!” But then I’m like .. you know maybe because I only see that part of society but maybe there is as much assholes mother and women? Let’s talk about all that.

1. Why do we accept and tolerate asshole behavior in our personnal lives?
2. Is there the opposite thing happening too, like men accepting terrible women in their lives, as much as there is shitty man?

Me and my best friend of 11 years both like the same guy. We're only 14 and 15 so idk what to do. We've talked about it and ig we're kinda at an understanding. It's a really confusing situation cuz if he liked her, I'd want them to be together (and ik that she'd date him,) and be happy cuz i love her and my friend knows that, but if he liked ME, she wouldn't want that bc itd hurt her even tho the other option would hurt me. Idk what to do. Any advice?

Hi queens! My friend opened a new small boutique, is clothing, very aesthetic. And I want to gift her something, what can I give her? I

Hello,

I grew up with mostly brothers and a little sister but I myself did not have anyone to turn to about things like make up, dressing up and things of that sort. I grew up pretending to be a tomboy to make up for where I lack but now I realized that I love and have always loved to be femininely. my little sister is also ultra feminine but we have a big age gap and i feel to embarrassed to ask her anything as i am her big sister. my mom was strict on me growing up and didn't like me putting on make up too early to ruin my skin or experiment with my hair because i might ruin it. now im in my 20s and idk how to do anything most women usually know how to do by now. i never went thru the awkward make up phase so i never figured out how to apply make up or what works for my facial structure or even what i like

idk what colors work on me and how to work them together and idek how to blow dry my hair

I heard there are places like ulta or sephora who can help you find what kind of make up works for your face but im too shy to call and ask if thats true

any tips? please be my big sisters for like an hour

i’m a female (20)! i’ve been due to have a wellness check for awhile due to personal reasons but have been holding it off because i am super nervous about it. i get embarrassed at the thought that my vagina will be exposed to someone random.. is this feeling normal? should i be scared? embarrassed? i’m honestly a very shy person and don’t really like having my stuff out for people to see. i have this huge fear that they will judge my vagina :( but aside from that — i have a few questions: what should i do to ease my anxiety before getting this done? is it better to be completely shaved? what should i expect? any pain and if so, minor or a little more severe?

As I said, I am not religious and honestly I’ve learned sex is a basic human need like eating or drinking water. As time goes on, it becomes more and more important for me to take care of my needs sexually. Which I do alone as I’m celibate and a “virgin”. I feel like for me it’s more of a thing where I cannot find an applicable partner. I have requirements that many people cannot meet. However I feel like why am I doing this? I’m not waiting for the perfect person I’m just waiting for somebody who is a good person. I feel like me not having sex is me ignoring my body and if I do my own thing it gets the job done but sex with 2 people is much different that diy. I just am conflicted, I don’t want to have sex with people below my standard but I have some love to share too, a lot. I’m really just stuck in between yolo and how long am I going to keep neglecting my needs. The way my standard is set up I even have to remind myself the next person I meet, doesn’t guarantee sex. It just seems so far away and I’m longing for the connection in it. I just don’t know, I really just don’t want to go against my standard just to share some love. Also I don’t want to regret anything, or hurt myself or introduce myself and my heart into feelings and situations I am not yet able to comprehend or deal with. Then ideally, when I have sex I’d like to be in a relationship and again this just seems so far away as I also have things to work on within myself. Just exhausted and heart broken and yearning severely! Side note, it’s even further away bc I don’t actively seek partners and I’ve never been touched kissed or anything so it’s hard bc I have to really question what I want. It’s like do I need to be held or do I want to have sex. And I tell myself I need to start from the beginning, I’ve never even held hands with anybody. It’s like my body is so horny but I have so many steps to check off the list this is just ridiculous. I really am hurting I wish stuff like this wasn’t so difficult and vulnerable.

So I know in 2024 lots of women will say they are equal and maybe many have never experienced this in which case please teach me your ways. But, over the last few years I had to deal with this guy at work and I won’t go into too many details but suffice to say he was the worst. When we were both promoted so we would begin working together I got so many phone calls and texts from other women I knew at the business warning me about him. They had since left not least of all because of him. He was just a bully, and he would always pick a woman to target a belittle and make it his mission to gaslight. It was so obvious, every year a different woman would work with him and be “crazy” and a “radical feminist” and he was just the poor victim. After a little while of working with him, it became clear to me all of this belittling and gaslighting was to hide some pretty sinister stuff he was doing that he didn’t want being found out. And I complained, like a lot. My boss was always really understanding and I’d sit with him and cry and he’d be like “yeah he’s awful, don’t worry no one believes him, you are obviously holding this place together” meanwhile he would do nothing about it. Then things started to get way more serious and still nothing. At one point, my boss having now decided I was the problem said to me “if you said something and he misunderstood it it’s your fault, if he said something and you misunderstood it is still your fault”. Paperwork documenting some pretty hefty complaints from other women was shredded. I was accused of being on a witch hunt and told if I mentioned it again I would be fired. Less than six months later a man made the same complaints about him on behalf of a woman- the guy was immediately fired. I was pulled into an office and told he was being fired and not to brag. As if this was a win for me and not a horrible end to a horrible situation.

A year later it has stuck with me because it’s insane to me that a litany of women couldn’t be believed but one man could. It’s made me really consider my voice and I am very reluctant to ever make any kind of stand.

I’m wondering, have other women had this realisation too? Is this a normal part of the female experience?

Also I know that obviously a lot of that stuff is illegal but as they loved to point out since they “accidentally” shredded the paperwork I have no proof. And no I no longer work there.

So I’ve just started my transition and I wanted like tips and tricks in womanhood. I’ll take any advice lol

Anyone have any ideas or input for any military or reserve options for married 35 female with kids? Of course looking for good and the bad but the benefits are definitely alluring and I'm possibly ready to switch careers. I just had a few people talk to me about this so wondering if it's a pipe dream or actually a decent idea to look into

Currently using birth control and I noticed that when I’m stressed I start to spot during the 3rd week of pill. I always start to spot when I’m stressed, and I usually don’t when I don’t have anything on my plate. Right now I don’t feel too stressed but I guess the spotting is indicating that I am. I was wondering if anyone has similar experience and has success in making the spotting stop.

He isn't my forever but my current person. He is getting more well known for a certain business he is in where people want to take photos with him , etc. He mades a lot of jokes about race, sex, genitalia etc. More like stereotyping than anything harmful--MOST of the time. Sometimes downright offensive.

I advised him he needs to be careful about this as you never know who is overhearing. He says "Oh i don' t likesensitive people fuck em, I don't want to hang out with em" he thinks "cool people have my sense of humor " -this is a major reason why I won't commit to him.

Have you ever seen this kind of thing bite someone /cause regret as they became more "well known" or had "fame"?

genuinely i founded NO-CURVE CITY because damnn. like im being so serious when i say that you could give me the tightest tanktop and the cutest highrise shorts EVER and id still have no shape. flat+zero curvature is a double whammy combo in summer my GAWDDD.

anyone got any style tips for how to dress without looking like a 12 year old malnourished boy?

People always tell me I'm super nice, kind, very pretty, good manners, hard working, educated and have a great personality? But why am I always overlooked in every aspect of my life? I've been told that I have everything and always get complimented by both genders but I get overlooked during dating, friendship and work all the time. People do like me and they have no problems with me but I'm just not someone. I get invited but I'm just there, good enough to be there, but never someone people go to, or notice. I feel so bland and always feel like I'm overlooked and invisible?

Are there any pills that actually help you lose weight? I'm 39 and I feel like I'm really struggling to lose any weight and I need motivation to start working out. Anyone have any success or tips to share?

I just Found out that my bf (m24) has been using only fans, he has used over 900usd in a month - he claims that he doesn’t chat with girls and is only using it to see 🌽, I don’t know anything about the platform so I don’t know if he is lying… I don’t know what to do and if he is lying. Anyone who has any advice on how to find out if he is lying? He deleted his account before I could look (I’m not an English speaker so sorry if it’s confusing)

I don’t mean this from any religious standpoint. I’m not relatively religious but I do practice modest dressing i.e trying to cover up to my elbows at least, capri length, a bit loose at the curves, etc.

I was looking into swimwear, and was curious about how many women are actually into the modest swimwear? I don’t see it much in my area but then again it’s not a very diverse population here. Any women who wear the modest swimwear? What are your thoughts? I’ve seen a few short sleeve ones and think they’re so cute but am a bit nervous to wear it myself at the moment.

Thanks!

This is a post for women who work in corporate environments :)

Dear women, I'd like to open a discussion about getting the same opportunities at work as men do. When I was younger, I always thought that these 'glass ceilings' wouldn't effect me, as I am ambitious, resilient, strong and I consider myself a woman who can switch between her feminine and masculine side.

Boy, was I wrong. I've come to understand that there's a lot more to it then just 'wanting things to be different'.

Personal branding at work is something that men are a lot better at, simply because the corporate world was built by men, for men. Being assertive, aggressive, very solution oriented, decisive, linear and logical are all very masculine traits. I get it, this traits yet stuff done. But as a woman, those traits don't come naturally to me.. and I also feel that my feminine traits are not valued as much. I'm very honest, human and people minded. I'll be honest about my strengths AND weaknesses, I'm not good at boasting about things I did well, I don't feel good when I snatch an opportunity away from someone else when it's a better fit for them. And all of these things have negatively impacted me in my current job. On top of that, a while ago, my female manager who just had a baby got fired.

I wanted to ask the ladies a few things:

1. Do you experience setbacks in a corporate environment because you are a woman?
2. What are some tips and tricks you've learned along the way to help you overcome these type of situations?
3. I'm thinking of starting an online community where women can talk about this subject and empower each other, do you think this would benefit you?

❤️

So we’ve benne together for 1 year and it never happened before, she have some painful menstruations not related to endometriosis ( as the doctor says ). Not related to a sexually transmitted diseases cuz I’m here first guy and I often do the test to make sure we are safe.

She doesn’t have reddit but and we don’t want to look on internet because we hate both anxious 😅…

If anyone have an idea ?

I was seeing a guy three months ago, and it was going well, but due to my own issues I pushed him back and we discontinued talking. Lately I have been missing him a lot, and was wondering whether I should text him or not. And if yes then what?

I dont want to embarrass myself if he is seeing other people.

I don’t get as many likes as I used to and I think it’s because I’m not as active as I was before - which I know can impact the algorithm.

But also I just don’t feel like I have any pics of me that are worthy enough to be put on there.I really want to, but then I later end up regretting posting the picture in the first place. I’m also quite plain looking. I feel like I’m not pretty enough to be on there.

I’ve been making a lot of posts here with my low self esteem because I have hit rock bottom again. I’m sorry if I’m too negative. I was in a crappy situation that took a toll on me and I’m just trying to process these feelings.

I’m 25 and my boyfriend of 4 years has been having an affair with a married woman for the past 3 months while I was grieving the death of my grandma and handling the stress of a new job.

I have ended things as I knew it would never be the same and I know I could never fully trust him again and it would drive me insane. We were not yet engaged as we were waiting to live together within the next year (we are long distance) but I am still grieving the future we have constantly talked about and waited for together.

My question is, to those who have experienced similar, how did you learn to trust new future partners again? My worry is that in the future this affects future relationships as I may not trust them. I never in a million years thought he could do this to me, he was always the most thoughtful caring person. So how do I know my future partner won’t, if I couldn’t see it with him? Or do I have to just live with not knowing, jump all in again and risk getting my heart broken all over again if it does happen.

To clarify: there seems to be a bit of confusion. I’ve ended things with the cheater, I’m looking for advice on future relationships and trusting men again after what’s happened.