I work political campaigns and was out of town for two months working in a battleground state for the presidential election. I am having such a rough time processing my feelings & emotions about my manager(s) getting into trouble for soliciting me for sex. I do know that I’m attractive, woman and many men approach me all the time even when it’s highly inappropriate. So regarding my immediate supervisor , It "did" happen although he knew the consequences & how much it placed me in a vulnerable position. Side note: omg, it was good sex. He keeps asking for more and even made disgusting comments about cuming inside me. This sexual encounter happened when he mentioned that he was being moved to a different part of the state for work & I was feeling lonely and starting to kinda have feelings for him.

He was usually vouching for me & kinda looking out for me in ways although he was still strict, yet tactful!

It's clear that he especially likes to use his position of power to carry out illicit sexual behaviors & I'm very sure it's not an isolated incident. He then took it a step further by obviously gossiping& encouraging his colleague to approach me for the same thing. I first noticed synchronized, childish & awkward stares when both were in the same room with me & l immediately felt uncomfortable. I raised this issue with the toxic a-hole & he assured that he was not involved but simultaneously shared that his colleague has to be "checking me out". A month later, this escalated to an unwelcome sexual advance in the form of a text sent by his peer asking to have drinks & for an invite to my room. It made me feel humiliated, dehumanized & degraded to have two grown men under their sexual gaze & compete for the same access to my body It is a pity because he( my ex-manager) is really good at his job and our professional relationship start out so well until sex got involved . Don’t know if I should continue to work with the company as u feel weird & don’t really trust anyone. They stated that I’m welcome to return to work when I’m ready & gave me a high ‘5 figure bonus’ for time off—-just deposited in my account. I’m not a very litigious person so I didn’t really plan on suing & sure this was also their concern… But I did feel hurt about his actions and trying to treat me as a pass around which could’ve created this reputation that im easy for sex & only getting ahead for ‘sleeping with the boss’. What’s also interesting is that he emphasized to keep ‘it’ secret by not tell anyone yet obviously sharing this information with his male colleague to boost his ego etc. Even looked both of them up on social media & they appear to be in a happy relationship with their significant others…so I’m a joke.

So he & the other is supposedly fired —-although I’m kinda doubting it… one of the so-called owners is pretty manipulative by trying to cover up and stating that this is the first incident of its kind, which I know is a big fat lie! Also there was no real investigation, and I know they value the contributions of those two. I was kinda expecting & wanting them to be reprimanded with a verbal warning—sort of. Didnt want them out of a job although I heard a comment that implied that my style of dress influenced their choice & sexual urges and I guess I deserved it. And I did like him and mostly enjoyed how he treated me in many aspects and looked out for me. Just struggling with feelings of anger, sadness, remorse etc. it’s been less than a week…even crying right now!

I want to be part of a movement that takes action in the uk against the rising misogyny and violence against women. I’ve also seen anti abortion protesters recently and would like to be involved in ensuring we keep the rights we have in our country. Anyone have any good suggestions? Sorry if it’s a dumb question I’m just new to it all!

From Shadow of the Giant by Orson Scott Card. Ironic considering the source.

From Song of the Lark, by Willa Cather

We’re all struggling with effective responses to the horrifying reelection of Trump in the States. There’s a lot of talk of bringing our individual focus back to community support and I want to give you a very easy first step- resuming wear a mask against COVID, flu, and other respiratory illnesses.

We need to be serious about the risks of these illnesses to those with sensitive medical conditions, and even the risks to currently able bodied individuals. Repeated Covid infections bring increasing risk of immune system dysfunction, vascular issues leading to higher risk of stroke and heart attack, ME/CFS, POTS, and other factors of long covid. Institutional racism and its component medical racism are not going to be tackled by the next administration, so our siblings of color will face disproportionately worse medical outcomes. We are also on the precipice of a potential H5N1 influenza outbreak among humans which could be devastating on the scale of the 1918 influenza pandemic.

Masks, particularly higher grade masks like KN95, N95, and aura masks, can be effective at protecting yourself from exposure. They are most effective as source control when worn by a (knowingly or unknowingly) infected person. One way masking will not be as protective of vulnerable individuals as universal masking. Wearing a mask again when you are in public is a good way to take care of yourself, but it’s an even better way to take care of those around you. It makes public spaces more accessible to those of us with disabilities, especially those who lack the privilege to work from home or isolate themselves.

Thank you for considering this simple action.

The terms 'Masculine' and 'Feminine' is perceived in different ways by both men and women in our lives. I'm genuinely curious about how different it is. Do share you thoughts and opinions.

See how the boys like it when Uncle Sam says SNip, SNip.

I work in an inpatient psych unit. After some training, we received pride pins to show allyship. One day, a new patient told me that they were desperately regretting coming in until they saw my pin. It made them feel safe, so they decided to stay. They were able to get the help that they needed.

I hadn't realized how powerful that symbol could be. It shows I am a safe person. It shows that if sometime needs help they will get it from me.

I was thinking about this today. I don't feel safe right now. I have some trauma history related to SA and last night I had a nightmare that I haven't had in at least 5 years. The idea of walking into a room and seeing other women and our allies wearing a pin or something like that would make me feel safe, less alone. It would make me feel hopeful. It would inspire me to take action.

I'm wondering if there already is such a symbol or if we could make one that people who support our rights could wear. It would be like a continuous protest and a way to show unity in a way that could lead to change - even if that change is us learning how to perform abortions, or other women- related care (including gender affirming care.)

What do you think of that idea?

EDIT: I think I'm guilty of wanting to make a symbol for the movement that I wished existed. I'm going to look into more tangible things.

I am at an all-time low feeling like hope for humanity is a bit lost since yesterday's election results. How could so many turn their back on women?
At any rate, I am putting together a rage play list and would like song suggestions. I will be wallowing for a few days before I force myself to regroup and fight this shit. I prefer alternative music, and obviously female singers please. 🫠😞

I've realized lately that this might be why I'm kind of "over" superheroes in movies (in spite of the fact that i have 6 tattoos that suggest otherwise). Sexism and intimate partner violence are so commonly experienced by real life women that #metoo was practically universal. That being the case, how is it possible that practically NONE of the women in superhero movies have experienced them?? Or if they have, they're barely depicted?

Harley Quinn is the one notable exception. (Jessica Jones and She-Hulk are also exceptions, but they're TV shows and not movies.) I think Darcy and Jane in Thor get the brunt of the old boys club in STEM for a minute. Wonder Woman had like a minute of being underestimated for her gender. But considering so many of us have had such intense struggles with sexism and intimate partner violence... it would be really nice to see those struggles in our heroines as well. It's like... men won't be able to relate with them as much if they have woman struggles?? (None of them have had periods or pregnancy scares or birth control issues either... i think Black Widow is the only MCU woman character with a reproductive system that's canon)

The comics don't shy away from sexism or IPV in the way that the movies do. The most iconic storyline in X-men, the Phoenix saga, involves an abusive relationship... which has been erased from the storyline in both movie adaptations.

How are women supposed to be able to relate with superhero movies when the dudes making them keep erasing the relatability of the women characters? And why do they keep just creating worlds where our deepest struggles just don't exist?

Am I way off?

https://youtu.be/OTZC7sIX6lM?si=XpGnQtM2B3Lew84O

this book was soooo helpful for me!

Here's the publisher's synopsis:

"In her follow-up to the #1 bestseller The Vagina Bible**, Dr. Jen Gunter, Canadian OB/GYN and the internet's most fearless advocate for women's health, brings us empowerment through knowledge by countering stubborn myths and misunderstandings about menopause with hard facts, real science, fascinating historical perspective, and expert advice.**

The only thing predictable about menopause is its unpredictability. Factor in widespread misinformation, a lack of research, and the culture of shame around women's bodies, and it's no wonder women are unsure what to expect during the menopause transition and beyond.
Menopause is not a disease—it's a planned change, like puberty. And just like puberty, we should be educated on what's to come years in advance, rather than the current practice of leaving people on their own with bothersome symptoms and too much conflicting information. Knowing what is happening, why, and what to do about it is both empowering and reassuring.
Frank and funny, Dr. Jen debunks misogynistic attitudes and challenges the over-mystification of menopause to reveal everything you really need to know about:
* Perimenopause * Hot flashes * Sleep disruption * Sex and libido * Depression and mood changes * Skin and hair issues * Outdated therapies * Breast health * Weight and muscle mass * Health maintenance screening * And much more!
Filled with practical tips, useful information and startling insights, this essential guide will revolutionize how women experience menopause—and show them how their lives can be even better for it."

I've posted about this in various other subs and have gotten downvoted for my trouble. I'VE HAD ENOUGH.

Evil female AIs have been plaguing the media whenever the situation calls for an evil AI. I get most AI are female now, but the sheer demonization of them needs to die. Even worse, they are usually in media/entertainment targeted at kids, like Matilda from Nickelodeon's The Astronauts, PAL from The Mitchells vs The Machines, and in escape rooms such as 5W!ts and Beyond the Lens.

I realized this once Sara from Toonami, who was made to be female empowerment and get more girls watching the block, became a MINDLESS ZOMBIE WHO WANTS TO DESTROY ALL ORGANIC LIFE for no reason other than she didn't get out of the way of lightning. (I REFUSE TO BELIEVE IT WAS AN "ALIEN INTELLIGENCE..." WHATEVER THAT SHIT IS. I CLEARLY SAW LIGHTNING IN EPISODE 2. SHUT UP WITH YOUR PLOTHOLE.) And Dana Swanson liked doing evil Sara's voice! Steven Blum (the voice of TOM) is an expert at voicing villains so TOM should've become evil. They also seemed to have done this in retaliation to me pretty much spamming Jason DeMarco asking when Swayzak would come back when I was a child. (It literally came a year after that.)

Which reminds me. I can't stand the evil female AI pollution in media because I think evil male AI are hot. Metal Sonic started this when I was 7 or 8, then S.I.R. from Disney's old Alien Encounter attraction. And with characters like Brainiac from the DC Animated Universe, I just wish evil male AI were commonplace again in something other than video games. GlaDOS was okay, because Wheatley became evil in the second game, and he is male. But Cortana becoming evil in the Halo games probably inspired Sara becoming evil, and I also hate SHODAN because she reminds me of evil Sara.

Video games aren't really for kids anymore, and stuff like television and entertainment centers will always do well with children. That's where evil female AI are more common. They even made Megatron a good guy in Transformers Earthspark, after Nickelodeon only 2 years before gave us Matilda. SAL from Kamp Koral was male, but he wasn't a serious evil male AI.

The way I see it are female AI are heroes and male AI are villains. Nowadays, female AI are villains and that's that. They've forgotten about heroes and male AI. It's just everywhere I look, I see evil female AI. I'm probably looking in the wrong places (I'm a big fan of regional entertainment, which is how I know of 5W!ts and Beyond the Lens having evil female AI), but it's not intentionally. If you have noticed this trend, then what do you think of every evil AI in media nowadays being female?