I’m close with one of my male coworkers who is a good friend and support and has been for years. We’ve recently had an older male coworker employed in his 60s who likes a chat and will hold me and other coworkers up to talk and touches me on the small of the back when I’ve said things to him which I don’t love but.

Anyway, I came into work and my friend said he had to tell me something the new employee had said to him as it was disgusting. Apparently they were talking about how quickly I complete tasks and the older employee said yeah she’s a ‘flash’ and turned to my friend and said ‘as long as she doesn’t flash us hey’ and said ‘she’d need a bit more on top and a bit more meat for that though’. My friend apologised to me that he didn’t stand up for me as he said he was processing it and there’s nothing wrong with my body from his perspective and he wish he’d voiced fit. I reassured him but felt a bit hurt.

I’ve never had an issue with men complimenting my body if I date them and I’m older now so I’ve become more comfortable with my boobs and my body and letting men see it. I’ve always had men want to see me again and focus on my chest or sleep holding a breast even though I’m an A cup since losing weight so I have been reminding myself that but still. It’s rough.

I feel icked out and self conscious of what I wear now and if my other male coworkers think that if they glance at my chest when talking to me.

This is coming from a queer woman who is not only attracted to small breasts, but is also envious of them!!! My girlfriend has small breasts (A cup) and i’m honestly jealous of them </3

•I love love love the look of small boobs in baby tees with no bra underneath !! •Obsessed with how they look when pierced •They give runway model vibes just in general •Love the way they look in crochet tops ugh omg!!! •They look amazing in lace lingerie! The cute flowy fem lingerie that don’t require industrial strength support wires 😭 •How they fit the allocated space for breasts in camis/tops with triangle shaped top cut!! •The body type of women with small breasts remind me of fairies, nymphs and other divine feminine deity types <3

I know it’s hard, but do NOT listen to people who try and shame you about your cup size, I can assure you that there are so so so so many people who find small boobs beautiful <3

I am asking for advice because my last relationship was hurting in that aspect. My ex boyfriend never preferred my chest size and loved "all boobs". I wasn't his preference or anything. He was a boob guy tho but I wasn't able to sexually please him. It was tearing me apart. I wanted to have bigger boobs for him because I knew his kinks and he said in the beginning of the relationship how he loves everything but massive, enormous boobs. Medium seemed to be perfect for him because he wanted to try certain sexual acts I couldn't provide with my size. I was broken inside. I refuse to do this in the future again. I want a man who loves my chest and prefers it over anything. I want to be his first choice. I don't want him to daydream about his perfect girl while I am right there.

I’m a white girl who you could call pear shaped, small boobs, big hips, and I’m mostly into Hispanic and black guys. Something I’ve noticed is they don’t care as much if a woman’s boobs are big or small as long as she has a big butt (not saying all of them are like this, just a lot of them compared to white men)

And for example in east Asia it seems like the beauty standard is, petite girls, short, slender, small perky breasts, are the beauty standard. Yeah in Japan you have some pornstars with gigantic boobs and some hentai girls with huge boobs but that’s mostly as fetish material.

Some men will try to tell you that it’s natural for men to prefer big boobs because it shows that she can feed a baby (even though all boobs whether they’re AAs or DDDs produce the same amount of milk) but in reality in different time periods and different cultures they’ve had different Beauty standards including for boob size.

I hate when guys say that guys who like small boobs or have girlfriends with small boobs are gay / pedophiles / settling. Imagine being so narcissistic that you think just because someone doesn’t meet your personal standards that it means they’re objectively unattractive or don’t deserve anyone. One of the rudest things I’ve seen a guy say to a woman online is “you’ll never be a real woman” because she was flat chested.

Newsflash: People like different things, it’s literally common sense

“But most men like big boobs”

Most doesn’t mean all, and liking big boobs isn’t mutually exclusive with liking small boobs

So my bewbs are rly rly tiny and I currently wear a wireless bra from aerie just to give my girlies some shape (see above). I have some rly cute off the shoulder tops I would love to wear but I’m too insecure to wear them out in public with just nipple covers/braless:-( Does anyone have any recommendations for a good wirefree sticky or bandeau bra with just a tiny bit of padding (not too much) that would give the same effect as above? My main problem is I need rly shallow cups and all the cups of strapless bras I currently own are too big and leave a ton of gaping. Ik there’s prob not rly a huge difference in how it looks w/ or w/o the bra given how small my chest is lol but it does give me some peace of mind wearing one. Ty<3

Chat about your small boob related issues in a safe place and get/give advice!

Women with small boobs complain about being body shamed, how their chest makes them despise their bodies, feel inferior, deformed and like nobody will ever truly like them and busty women come into the conversation, telling us about how their back hurts and that bras are expensive and how we should be grateful we don't have these horrible issues.

And everyone agrees and supports them, while we are treated as immature silly girls who will grow out of it eventually. As if our problems are not real but rather made up, and we'll never get to experience true problems like women with large boobs do.

To me, this is just another flavour or undermining mental health issues and refusing to realize how much they can impact your life and relationships with others too. This is not a competition and we also deserve to be taken seriously. And no, the fact that I can get cheaper bras does not personally make me hate myself any less.

Therapy is also expensive, in case anyone forgot!

The irony is that we don't even wish for big boobs that are tied to those kind of issues, we just wish we had something, yet people can't stop assuming we want 40HH cups that impair our daily lives for some reason...

Hearing or seeing people talk and make jokes about boobs makes me realize how disconnected I am from female experiences. This might be a bit niche, but even silly jokes I see online, like the ones with "now pop a tit" make me feel so bad about myself because nobody would want to see mine. And let's not even get started on anime or manga where fanservice is rampant. It's sad how being a woman with small boobs robs you of enjoying media

Tried looking up if there were any statistics on breast size and age of menarche but couldn't find what I was looking for.

But anecdotally, all of my large breasted friends seemed to have started pretty young compared to me being more of a late bloomer at 14. I'm a nerd so it got me curious on everyone's age when they started and if there was any correlation.

Either way small boobs are normal boobs and there's nothing wrong with us. You all are so beautiful as you are 🖤

Throughout my 20s I stressed about my bra size. Now in my 30s I’m sad I wasted so much time and precious mental energy on feeling that way.

I’m not shaming my younger self, instead I have compassion for her.

Here are the things that helped me:

I joined this subreddit at first and found it helped to know others were feeling the same way and get advice on what bras, swimsuits, clothing would be most flattering on my body type.

I made it a point to follow women who had a similar body type that I found sexy and inspiring. This way I could see how they were carrying themselves and the clothes they were wearing that looked great on them so I could try and dress similarly. Figuring out the clothing piece was a big part.

On a similar note, unfollowing ANY woman that you notice makes you feel worse when you see their photos. This is crucial!

I made a Pinterest board too of women with similar body types for the same reason. Some of the women I looked to were Kate Moss, Kristen Stewart, Zoe Kravitz, Emma Stone, Zendaya, Lupita Nyong’o, Shakira just to name a few.

For a while I wanted breast implants (and no shame to women who have them), but I watched a ton of YouTube vids on women who developed breast implant illness and the hell they went through trying to figure out what was wrong with them. In the end those that explanted were so happy to finally feel better and have their health back. It really changed my perspective.

Learning about Feminism and how women are conditioned to believe their main value is in their looks as a way to control us. Because if we’re too busy focusing on how to be what the media is telling us we should look like, then we’re not paying attention to or making noise about the injustices we’re putting up with constantly.

Developing my skills and personality so I could feel good about myself for other reasons besides how I look, this is so important!

Thought I’d share this little haul I got from TutuAnna I’m a size 30AA/65A. I used to think there wasn’t anything cute for my size but honestly everything I’ve gotten from this brand is really cute and pretty.

I need someone to prove me wrong haha

So for context, I came across Clara Dao's [video] about when breasts stop growing.

She shared her story of being elbowed in the breast when she was younger and assumed that's why she's flat chested

The comment section has some people also talking about similar injuries in their lives

I experienced falling on my chest, and hitting my brother's leg (maybe I was 15-16) 💀 and I wonder if that's why I'm flat HAHA

Can the ladies prove me wrong and tell me I'm delulu🙇‍♂️🙇‍♂️

*Edit: I don't mean to insult anyone with this post, I'm genuinely curious because shared experiences are just interesting. Like what a coincidence! But is there truth to it? Just wanted to clarify in case!

*Edit2: thank you all for sharing your experiences!! I'm pretty sure it takes more than a bump to stop boobs from growing, it just plagues my mind as a "what if"

My personal favorite is tutuanna since I range in size A65 and AA32 (US) I can’t really find any other brands that carry actually cute bras for that size so thought I’d ask.

Following is coming from a place of anger, but also from a place of power.

Small breasts are enough. They are sexy enough, big enough, small enough, tasty enough, pretty enough. Because for the fuck's sake, the only thing that is making small boobs not good enough is the MALE GAZE and misogynist men carrying it on and on and on.

Let's fucking OWN our small boobs! Why the hell not? Because of some immature people who are shaming someone else's body? Who feel entitled to comment something that is not theirs? Who act all gross when they're home alone? For fucks sake, those are not people that we should be concerned about if they are impressed by our bodies in any way

Let's be fucking glad that some people don't want us, and those who are like "meh, but i'll take it anyway" attitude WHICH again sends a message of our bodies not being good enough, but they will just go with it because they don't have anything better (in their eyes) on the menu at the moment? They can get LOST too. They do not deserve a tiny glimps of our bodies, not its warmth, and even less the PLEASURE they want to take from us. They do not deserve it.

People who have this mindset have a brain size of a fucking peanut. They are not mature, healthy, kind, sexy individuals that deserve our attention.

You know who deserves it? People who get all wet or all hard for our bodies, who can't get enough of it, who are caressing and playing with our boobs and enjoy their time wholeheartedly. And this makes them sexy as fuck in our eyes too, doesn't it?! And I really believe that shouldn't go for anything less than that. Because we are hot. And we deserve people who see us that way. x

I’m tired of the line of thinking that having smaller boobs means clothes are easier to buy. To an extent, but I have 34AA. Barely anything, I can’t even form cleavage. That cute women’s bra? Yeah, too big and will leave gaps. That training bra in the juniors section? Fits perfectly, but looks too juvenile for my age. Almost all shirts I wear are too large in the chest, but they fit perfectly in the waist and hips (I have a strong pear shape). Any formal dress needs extensive tailoring just to look right. Yeah, I don’t get back pain and worry about clothes looking inappropriate, but I still get struggles. Why is it big boobed women that act like they have a monopoly on clothing struggles? I’m otherwise confident about by chest size except for when I need new clothes.

I don’t know about you guys, but any time I see someone talk about their insecurities about their boob size and then people in the comments go on about “oh all boobs are good boobs”, “boobs are boobs”, or really anything pertaining to that, it frustrates me so bad. I can’t find the words to explain it but it just feels so invalidating and gross? Like I don’t want my partner to like seeing my boobs because of the fact that they’re seeing naked boobs, I want them to like it because it’s ME and they genuinely like my small boobs, you know? I don’t really care if Mr. John Doe on the internet gets hard when he sees any pair of boobs, that doesn’t make me feel better about myself. I totally get where these people are coming from, but the delivery of their point just feels so tone deaf and shallow. Especially when you consider the fact that the average person definitely has preferences and does not consider all boobs to be “good boobs” anyways. But I don’t know, maybe it’s just my insecurities speaking…

I hate when men say that women with small boobs aren’t real women or that men who like small boobs are gay or pedophiles or not real men. If you aren’t into small boobs that’s okay but it doesn’t mean you get to degrade us because you don’t want to sleep with us.

I swear guys who talk like like that have a fantasy that they’re so desired by women and that any woman without big boobs is insulting him by thinking she has a chance with him.

And they don’t speak for all men, 90% of men wouldn’t turn down a beautiful woman for having small boobs even if their preference was big boobs. I hate when they say those guys are “settling”, just because you are okay with something that’s not your preference doesn’t mean you’re settling, it just means you’re flexible. Preference doesn’t mean you can’t like other things, preferring big boobs and still liking small boobs aren’t mutually exclusive, and I’m tired of having to explain that to men.

Chat about your small boob related issues in a safe place and get/give advice!

Society: “Small boobs are unattractive! Get a boob job, you look like a little boy!”

Woman: Gets the boob job because of insecurities pushed onto her for years

Society: “Noo, why did you get surgery?! You look so fake, no man wants plastic!”

Or

Society: “How could you, we already have so little small boob representation!”

I really just don’t understand it. How am I supposed to love my body if one group of people are telling me it’s repulsive, and if I change it so I can be happier, another group is telling me that I’m disappointing? There’s actually no winning I fear.

First, english is not my native language, so sorry for any mistakes. Second, this post is gonna have some sexual content.

Since joining this sub, I've read a lot of posts about how women here feel like no man will find them sexually attractive, no one will ever like their body, and we even had a thread about sucess stories while dating as small boob women. I get it, probably the majority of people here are straight, and it's more than normal to feel awful when we think the majority of people of the gender we are attrached to are not attrached to us back. You can see my posts on this sub from months ago.

However, I'm bisexual. I like women, men, nonbinary people.

Women with small boobs or flat chests? Freaking hot. Pictures of celebrities with small boobs or flat chest? Go to horny jail. I know I'm attracted to those types of bodies, hell, I wish I had a girlfriend, and if she has small boobs? Great, take off the shirt because I wanna see them. And then put them on my mouth. Flat chest ? Do the same, because just nipples are hot too.

Anyway, what I'm trying to say is everytime I see a post here asking if will ever find them beautiful, I want to scream : Yes! I'm here! Me me me. But it's usually about men, and then I shut up and post nothing.

But even after all this, I still wish my chest was bigger? Maybe not that bigger, but fuller? To be able to see some underboob or cleavage on dresses or tops . Sometimes, I see people here or even on other subreddits saying : "Maybe you are just not your type". But yet, I dont feel that's all right.

Is anyone here also like this?