So someone close to me, for the second time has cussed me about an intimate part of my body they happen to have seen. This part of my body has been a deep insecurity of mine for years, causing me to feel embarrassed and less than and even scared me away from marriage. You understand this is something that’s super personal and a disgusting invasion of privacy when it’s mentioned normally, never mind in a derogatory manner.

How do I deal with this? I mentioned to this person to not comment on it again. This is the second time.

Is it justifiable to stop speaking to them for 2 days completely so they learn their lesson? Should I offend them back if it happens again? I know for a fact they won’t apologise and we’re not a “sit and speak about it” type of crowd.

What should I do? I genuinely feel disgusting and feel like my respect has been exploited. I can’t help but be even more insecure about this particular thing.

Assalam Alaykum, I am looking for a baby girl name with letter S but non seems to be fit as i am very picky with names.. i have searched for over 6 months and I came across this one name that i cant seem to forget "Siena" I love it so much but the problem is i cant find a meaning out of the name Siena as it just means a city in Italy and colour "orangish-red"... can you please advice Thank you...

Assalam Alaykum

After years of mulling over it I'm finally planning a solo trip to Malaysia in a couple of weeks. I'll cover KL+penang over the week. It would be cool if I get to meet/travel with fellow hijabi(s). So hmu if you're looking for a travel buddy. Even if not, I'd love to hear some tips and advice!

P.S. this is not an invitation to nsfw wierdos

Hello sisters! Pretty simple question but I wanted to ask if it'd be haram to use henna to draw things that belonged to tribes?

I'm born muslim and my mother too, but I've been getting closer to my mom's native culture. Her ancestors were from a tribe in Algeria that I've been learning about. I have clothes and jewels that belonged to my passed grandmother.

The tribe had tattoos (they were not muslims), but I found them absolutely stunning and my mom says it'd be okay to use khol to do them for an event or so.

But I kinda want to henna those drawings. They look super cool and henna isn't permanent.

I wonder though, if it'd be haram to tattoo something from a non-muslim originating culture? I know culture and religion are not the same at all, so I guess it's fine? I don't know

Assalamu alaykum sisters!

I’m a very new revert, still in the learning stages so I don’t feel comfortable taking shahada until I know I can pray properly and understand concepts that aren’t typically translated. I’m still kind of anxious about learning to pray too, there’s so much to remember all at once! Has anyone else gone through this? It seems like there are so many terms and little specific things that I get lost and I worry I won’t be able to retain everything. Most people online are really kind about this learning process but I’ll admit that I’m afraid of going to my local masjid because I’ve heard the sisters there aren’t particularly welcoming, so I don’t have a community IRL to lean on.

Usually I would look to the revert subreddit but I wanted some advice specifically from other women, it feels way easier to be vulnerable about this with sisters! Any tips and advice would be super appreciated, inshallah this will get easier with time.

Jazakumullah khair 🫶

I have just spoken with my mum about not celebrating Christmas and that I won’t be there with family this year. She then went on to say that there would be nothing “Christian” about it and that it would just be family being together. I then asked if that’s what it is, why call it Christmas? Why say it’s Christmas at all?

I’m 31 I’ve been Muslim for a year and I think it’s something my family thought I would grow out of. They are Christians and thought I would be too but it wasn’t for me.

Inshallah if I have children I don’t want them being confused about what their religion is so I want to set the precedent from now.

What do you guys do? Do you go and spend time with them if it isn’t going to be Christian? What it represents is more what I’m concerned about, and the origins of the day, I don’t want to be a part of that.

Guys I need help. I have been working with a law firm as a digital marketing manager. My work is fully remote. I wasn’t practicing hijab before and have recently starred. It’s a white firm. Now my boss is calling me in the office for one day only for a meeting as we have never met. I’m kind of embarrassed going with Hijab and also scared that it might put my team off. I feel they just hire white people and I’m the only Muslim. I can’t afford to lose this job. What shall I do. Shall I just wear scarf on my way and take it off when I enter the office? It’s just one old boss and a lady 😂 I don’t know what I’m saying but I’m really confused.

I have worn my hijab since I was 23 - 27 years old. I took it off mainly due to unemployment reasons.

This year was very difficult for me in terms of search. A guy tried to touch my hand without consent; another one stalked me and I need to file a police report; a guy sent me my AI naked pics; and so on. All in all, I do not feel comfortable meeting Muslim men anymore without my hijab. I feel like it is for safety reasons and to protect myself in the future.

I will try wearing it on/off for the next year and then get full time Insha Allah in 2026 due to financial circumstances. I am well aware that this decision comes from a place of selfishness and not from worship of Allah, and I feel really ashamed about it.

Is it ok if I start wearing my hijab for safety reasons? Will Allah forgive me if I make the intention to worship long term as well?

Are there any other sisters who started wearing hijab for other reasons but have now fallen in love with it?

i’m feeling a lot of regret over a dumb decision i made ☹️ and now it’s hard finding as good an opportunity as the one i gave up. please help me get over this feeling

Hello Sisters I am very new here. I am currently homeless but felt the call to convert and I wanted to know if there are some ways I can still dress properly while I have no resources or if there is somewhere I can look for resources to find proper hijab and wear so I can be modest while I am struggling. I am in America so stores are hard to find here and often far from me. Any help is very welcome.

Salam,

I know that obviously many sisters have taken off hijab only to put it back on, but I’m wondering if this feeling is common. Let me explain:

I am a revert of 8 years and put the hijab on for the first time ever 6 months ago. It was 100% my decision and I felt really good about it. With the recent holiday season and seeing some family members more often, I started to panic about other’s perception of me and felt that I had rushed my decision and ultimately I felt it was better to take it off. It’s been about a week since I removed it and both me and my husband’s families have now seen me without hijab. I felt a brief sense of relief but I still miss it.

I came back to work today since taking it off and decided that I was going to wear my hijab (I thought I was just going to continue without hijab until I could slowly return to it at a calmer pace but I just wasn’t ready to “start all over” yet). What surprised me was how much more confident I felt wearing it today at work after “officially” taking it off over the last week. When I first wore hijab I didn’t really care that much what people at work would think but I found myself trying to not be seen as much by my coworkers because I was subconsciously avoiding being seen by them. But it’s so weird that I didn’t feel like that at all today. I felt prouder and held my head higher than ever before and I don’t feel scared/intimidated at all for people to see me.

Has anyone else had a different, somewhat more empowering experience like this when putting hijab back on? Im guessing maybe because the first time around I didn’t exactly have an experience with hijab and although I did choose to wear it, I didn’t know what I was signing up for. But this time around, since I had not worn it for about a week, I felt the lack of it in my life and I didn’t really “have” to wear it to work since I decided to remove it temporarily. But I feel like that decision just made my decision to wear hijab to work this morning even more meaningful. I don’t want to impulsively decide to wear it again just based on this feeling but I think it’s a really good sign. Did anyone else experience this?

We know that when two people fornicate, they both get, according to Sharia, the punishment of lashing. But why is it that a woman needs to take care of the child on her own, when the child wouldn’t be there if it wasn’t for both of them? The child cannot inherit from the father and the father has no obligation to the child, only the mother is held responsible for the sin. Why? Doesn’t this just amplify the idea of zina being worse for women than men? It’s the same sin though? I feel like I'm spiraling but I really don’t understand but want to. I want a proper explanation, not "Because Allah said so". I would like to understand.

Here are the sources:

• https://www.islamweb.org/en/fatwa/214204/child-of-zina-has-nothing-to-do-with-his-biological-father

• https://www.islamweb.org/en/fatwa/122944/dna-test-shows-that-he-is-not-the-father-of-his-daughter

• https://www.islamweb.org/en/fatwa/89082/status-of-child-born-out-of-wedlock

There are many other sources that confirm this.

Salam, sisters. I wish I had something more profound and less shameful to say. But I feel very alone and ashamed. It's been an issue since I was a preteen and I know its haram to intentionally do things to cause harm to the body, but it's like all the therapy and treatment can't fix my brain and desire to destroy myself

Last night I found myself extremely excited for Ramadan so I could fast without being questioned and then felt so ashamed that I'm using a beautiful and holy season to indulge a self destructive tendency that I started crying and I haven't been able to stop. .

I guess I don't know what I'm trying to ask. Maybe for your dua. Or if any of you have overcome this without constantly slipping up or relapsing.

what to do to stop your mil from taking your jewellery for “safekeeping”

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Assalamualaikum!

I am wearing this dress for one of my friends wedding events (it's all girls). I am not a hijabi (yet, inshallah I will get there one day) or I would just solve this problem by using my hijab as a cover. I do still dress modestly. As you can tell the back is a bit low cut, even a little more so in real life. I am debating on getting a tailor to just attach/stitch cloth underneath the dress to go over that area. But idk if that's worth the trouble and if there's some other way I can manage to cover it. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you so much

How many hours a day do you guys study? And do any of you study for more than 12 hrs a day??? If yes then how do you manage it? Like how many hours can you study in one slot without getting distracted??

I’m overwhelmed by fear in Islam. I am a revert as of about 2-3 years ago. I am missing almost all of my prayers. I feel like nothing I do will be enough. I feel like I just don’t understand Islam sometimes. My conversion started out so well but over time I just feel this crushing weight that I will never be a good servant to Allah SWT. I struggle so so much to make my prayers. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I’ve spoken to an imam about this and my husband who is very knowledgeable. But it seems like every advice I get brings me further into this place of fear. Idk what I’m asking for. I want to keep being Muslim, I believe in Allah SWT and the basics of Islam deeply. Why can’t I just understand how to be a Muslim. It’s like I believe it but I can’t apply it to my life.

I recently had a very heated altercation with my little brother, for context we have a 5 year age gap. Although he started it, I still got told off severely. And he has a tendancy to create arguments.

He is physically stronger than me, and I ended up slapping him lightly to which he was able to push me really hard. That meant that I was told off, and told not to ‘push his buttons’ or say anything in case he does anything. And told off more, for bringing up how he instigates arguments.

So overall I felt very useless. This has sparked interest in me to go to the gym. Because I hate how they weaponise me being small and fragile to essentially take disrespect cus of that. But I am also not sure where to start as a muslimah. Any advice please jazakallah

So, to start, I'm not religious in any sphere. More power to you for believing in things. Absolutely wonderful for you. I'm starting to wear hijabs for modesty when I'm out of the house without my partner. He's ordered me a few from Amazon, but I'm not sure what to do with my hair underneath. I have dreadlocks only on the crown of my head. They're pretty long and thick, so I figure that I should put them in a low bun or pony tail to make everything lay correctly and look good, but I'm concerned about them being bulky or showing down my back. Also, I live in Florida and am not sure how to respond to people when they approach me about my hijab. Again, I'm not religious, so I don't have anything except wanting to be modest. How have you dealt with harassment and feeling uncertain about your hijab experience?

Not sure if there's actually anyone who will reply to this, but it's worth a shot. I don't know where else to go. Thank you.

I'm invited to a Muslim wedding.

I need advice on what clothes or dress to wear. I'm planning to thrift shop because that's all my budget allows, so I need suggestions for the style. If there are any rules for the wedding, please let me know. This is my first time being invited, and I don't want to feel out of place or look like I don't know anything.

Thank you for reading, and I hope you can help me.

I'm not sure if this happens to anyone else but almost every time I'm particularly consistent with my prayers, Quran, and remembrance of Allah— I get my period. It's usually pretty discouraging but I'm trying to not let it demotivate me this time.

What do y'all do to "replace" the time you would typically be praying to Allah?

Some things I try to do include increasing my adhkaar (remembrance) and studying translations and tafsir of the Quran.

Would love to get more ideas from the sisters! May Allah accept our efforts and increase our taqwa during these times.

I live in a West African country a few days ago I wanted to sew my own habaya using African fabric like bogolan, kenté, bazin, dampé etc (not for a specific purpose commercial it's just for pleasure)

but after research I learned that the traditional symbols used on certain fabrics had spiritual meaning such as the bogolan which was worn by women after adulthood or after childbirth to absorb "dangerous forces » today I believe that no one wears these clothes to protect themselves but I still have doubts on the subject, can I wear them without a second thought? I also want to wear accessories like cowrie shells but it's the same concept, cowrie shells were used as talismans to fight the evil eye, can I still?

Allah SWT wants me to come closer to Him right? He is supporting me, He won’t leave me, He’ll help me with my Islam, right?

Salaam everyone! Welcome to Venting Mondays!

Having trouble with your parents? Going through some personal struggles regarding wearing hijab? Just want to blow off some steam? Share your thoughts with us!

Please note, we will be redirecting venting posts to this thread. We are not doing this to silence your feelings, rather, we are aggregating the posts from the suggestion of the greater community. Insha’Allah, it will be easier for the community to come back to this thread to provide support and advice as needed.

Just a reminder that even though it's a vent thread, the rules still apply. Please don't disrespect others.

Salaam sisters! We don't have Barbies at our house, but when I asked my soon to be seven year old what she wants for her birthday, she said "dolls" and then went on to perfectly describe a Barbie 🤦‍♀️. I have been looking for alternatives and so far haven't found anything. It looks like Razanne is no longer produced (?), and Fulla is hard to get in the United States. Does anyone know of any good alternatives? It doesn't have to be specifically Muslim, but we are looking for something Barbie similar (size wise), modest dress, with realistic and simple proportions, and hopefully some fun outfits to change into. Thanks in advance!

Assalamu alaikum sisters, I have a question about taking the hijab off.

So I don't want to take the hijab off but my parents somewhat pressure to do it and I had a bloodsample and the results are not very good. I have a vitamin D deficiency by 6,7 ng/ml and so my parents force me to wear (sadly I did it, I regret).

My question is, is it allowed to take the hijab off due medical reasons?

I hope I will wear it again after I moved out from my parents.

To the Muslim girl who took their hijab off, how are the reactions from the people?

Salam everyone, I hope you're well. A while ago someone spread lies about my character and said that he saw proof and I found out. Firstly let me make clear this has no truth nor basis and at one point this person even used a very derogatory term with my name. I would like to clarify that these allegations have no truth at all, this person even went as far as saying I only pretend to be religious. I hold my deen very close to me and this whole situation has been hurtful.

Anyways after I found out I confronted this person and they said they could not tell me as they had said wallah they wouldn't.At this point I got one of my family members (cousin) involved who talked to 2 shaykhs one of who is a mufti. The mufti said if he said wallah he shouldn’t have said anything publicly in the first place but now that he has he’s a liar until he doesn’t prove it . He called another shaykh and he said he technically already broke the wallah and he has to now pay the compensation for breaking the wallah. We forwarded this into to the person who said the lies and since then the person has only apologised for using the derogatory term as he's afraid I will not forgive him and hell this will affect his aakhirah and as far as the proof he is hiding behind his unqualified friends who have apparently told him he doesn't have to show proof when the opinions of 2 scholars are already there. My whole thing if if tbr person was genuinely sorry and genuinly did not want to summon Allah swts wrath upon him he wouldve shown the proofs as per the mufti or even his own conscience to actually clear things up or fix things. I don't understand where this has all come from none of the allegations are even close to the truth I've lived my life in a way to protect my honor so no one would ever even think about speaking about my character.

I told this person that there would never be any forgiveness from me and that I hope he goes through the same thing to understand its effects. Idk what to do I've prayed to Allah swt to conceal these disgusting lies as you can imagine I've been very torn about this and it's been affecting me very much as I mentioned before I've lived my life in a way to protect my honor so no one would ever even think about speaking about my character.

I've also offered to get my father involved but this person keeps refusing and atp not the person who lied nor his friends are replying to messages about showing proof or clearing my name.

Should I just leave it atp and pray my dua comes true so they never do this to anyone else?

JazakAllah for any advice in advance.

i posted this to the islam subreddit as well but i thought i would post here as i honestly am scared and just need any advice, sorry if this is against the rules.

salam. this post might be a bit messy because im just very anxious right now so i apologize in advance. i am using a throwaway because i just dont want this to be tied to my main reddit.

i just found out my little sister has a girlfriend. i have no issue with the fact that she is lgbt. she did come out to me a few months ago and i accepted her as i believe the belief isn't haram but the act is. at the time i did not think she would act on it but this past year she has completely changed.

she used to always be kind to our parents and would listen to them, but has recently started fighting with them. my mother isn't the easiest person but she tries her best and usually i would be on my sisters side for some things but she argues for no reason and stresses out my father badly. my father is the most patient man on the earth and so kind and she constantly stresses him out and it worries me. for example, the night of Eid she decided she would go sleep over at a friend's house without communicating to us the entire night. my parents are incredibly against it and i understand as it can be pretty dangerous. this is their one boundary as they are very lax with us and let her go out and do whatever as long as shes home by midnight (we are young women so this makes sense). my dad was up almost all night due to stress and it just soured everyone's mood on Eid.

i suspected that she had a deeper relationship with this person when she started spending a lot of time with them and going to lengths to spend time with them. this person is an american girl she met online through instagram and i guess started dating almost a year ago. the first time they met up in real life she begged my parents to let her see her. they were against it at first but changed their minds when i said i would go with her. i went because i want my sister to experience fun things in her youth like going to new cities with friends. we ended up going to this place twice and she spent a bunch of time with this person.

recently we went on another trip. this time my parents were very against it as its break, they wanted us to spend time as a family and also traveling just didn't fit in our budget. she ended up funding the trip herself and going to this random place JUST because this girl was vacationing there with her family. this is where i thought it was extremely weird because who just does that for a friend? the entire time i was left alone while she spent days with this girl (im just now realizing how naive i am, i know).

i found out through tiktok as the girl's account was recommended to me (i guess cuz my sister follows her). on her account i saw her referring to my sister as her girlfriend, how they were celebrating 10 months, how she paid for a recent shopping trip for her, them being physically affectionate with each other, etc.

honestly seeing it just made me cry as i didnt think she would do something like it. i understand shes a grown woman now but shes my baby sister and i feel as if i failed as a big sister and as a muslim. we are a religious family and my parents always stressed the importance of all 5 pillars. i honestly dont even know if she is still muslim as i dont ever really see her pray unless i remind her. before anyone accuses me of homophobia etc i would feel the same if it was a man as it is still zina.

i came here because i just dont know what to do. i dont have any friends (like genuinely) i can talk to or anyone really. i dont want to talk about this with my parents as i know it will break their hearts and i dont want to add any stress to them. i also do not want to out my sister. my mental state is already very bad as i suffer from depression and anxiety and haven't been taking my meds. am i overreacting? is there anything i can even do? i love my sister, shes my only friend i have irl and i want her to be close to islam and never forget Allah SWT but i feel like shes drifting. i am most afraid of how much it will hurt my parents. they sacrificed so much for us and i dont want them to suffer from stress like i am right now. shes changed so much and it scares me because i dont want her to go down the wrong path and be hurt.

im so sorry this was very long and i apologize if this isn't the right place to post this but i truly have no idea where to go or what to do. thank you for reading.

Salam sisters! I need advice on how to cope with my dad constantly mocking me.

So I(16f) belong to a Muslim family. But, none of my family members are practicing muslims. I grew up without having anyone teaching me how to pray Salah and read Quran pak. Even though I have never seen my parents offer Salah or read Quran, they sometimes encouraged me and my siblings to be good muslims. My older brother(18m) and younger sister(10f)don’t even know to recite Quran. Last year, I read some novels and got closer to my deen. Since last year, I Alhamdulilah offer Salah regularly ( all except Fajr, I’m working towards it as well) and even recited all of Quran and have started it for the second time. I have completely changed my outfits and have started to live by Islam. I have tried multiple times to get my family to get closer to Islam and pray Salah. I told my siblings the importance of offering Salah and Islam but they totally ignore me. I even told my parents but according to them, I quote, “ it’s okay if you don’t pray, Allah knows what your intentions really are and you will be forgiven on the day of judgement.” Now, I have stopped talking to them about Islam as it’s been over a year and they haven’t changed at all. But, whenever as a family we talk, my father keeps bringing me praying and keeps mocking me. He keeps saying, “ Praying doesn’t mean you’re a good person, you have to do everything your parents tell you to. You have to do other stuff to be a good Muslim. If you’re praying that doesn’t mean you’re better than anyone else.” It is also to be noted that I have NEVER thought of myself better than ANYONE. I have never even showed off. Now, I’m just annoyed. What should I do?? Is it something I unintentionally do? Please guide me sisters. Thank you so much!

Does anyone know a YTer w many hijab styles playlist? I saw someone on insta but lost her acc.

If y’all know someone pls lemme know