There are 8 billion people in the world right now. Each one of us is doing something; living, working, struggling, dreaming and juggling problems that are countless and unique. It’s wild when you stop and really think about it.

We’re all lost in our own little worlds, trying to make sense of things, and some of us are even brave enough to push through, to try and break free from the noise.

If no one’s told you this today: I’m proud of you.
For waking up. For showing up. For keeping up with the hassle, even when it feels endless.

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Im 26 now, old enough to have had some experience w women but wasted it being fat and not taking care of skin(girls approached but I hated myself too much to even engage w them). Now im 26 NEETing w 0 social circle, I live in a second world at best country where meeting women outside university is very rare. They all already have their socail clique and stuff. I think ill be fit enough and groomed enough in 5 months or so but feel like I just wasted my prime due to not knowing how the world works (No one told me ). I have to get skin procedures and stuff cos of brutal sunburns and evan a few scar from picking, before all that is done Ill be 27 . I am not looking for pity or anything just curious is dating apps the only way or do you only really find them in workplace nowadays (I am interim NEET due to suffering from DSPD which is a sleep disorder im trying to fix)

We actually aren't married quite yet but that's besides the point. Anyway we'll call him Man (I can't think of a good fake name and he's a man so...)

Anyway me and Man have been together for 4.5 years and before anyone in the comments says "break up with him" that's not going to happen. He's the love of my life and i'd love him even if he didn't have a penis.

So we have been together a while and our relationship has been awesome the whole time. Amazing communication, same outlook on life, in agreement on how to raise kids someday, same interests, we absolutely love eachothers company, work through problems in a healthy way, you get the point. Something unique about him though is a surprisingly low sex drive compared to what other women tell me their men are like.

I'm not particularly upset but I often wonder what it would be like to have a hyper sexual man. Basically I can't relate to videos online joking about how men never get sick of looking at boobs, mine did. He said when I am naked all the time every day he gets used to them and they aren't exciting anymore. Which I completely understand, but other women say their men wouldn't get bored of them in a million years.

The next obviously big one is initiating sex. Don't get me wrong once we're doing it he's fine but 99% of the time we have sex it's because I initiated it and the times he did were all in the morning after waking up together. He is also very...how should I put it, nice? I have been asking him to hit me for 4 years now and he just won't. I ask him to be more aggressive but he just can't get himself to or doesn't understand. It's fine though I like being aggressive so I just take on that role but I'd like the experience it in reverse sometime.

He has never smacked my ass once, never called me sexy (he calls me cute or pretty never hot or sexy), he's never looked at me like a piece of meat before. I have literally said to his face multiple times I want him to look at me like a piece of meat but he struggles to, it goes against his nature.

I do find it funny though that every single meme or video online I see making fun of how men act in a relationship, I can relate to but it's me to him. I'm the one smacking his ass, tryna fuck, dirty talking to him randomly, calling him sexy all the time, always tryna feel him up or sneak a peak when he's naked, all the things men are stereotypically thought of to do. I also fart louder and smellier, am much louder, I'm a bit of a disorganized mess and he is clean and detail oriented and thoughtful, like it truly feels like we are the reverse couple sometimes.

Please tell me i'm not alone? This isn't a complaint post as much of a sharing my story and wondering if I'm alone? I love him to death but it does feel like we are the only couple like this

I'm not asking who to vote but I'm asking how should I vote. In my country the elections are currently taking place. I'm 20f and I'm gonna be voting for the second time. The first time I voted, it was for a small scale election and I wasn't worried abt it much since I voted who my parents would vote. But seeing the US elections his year, in filled with worry. I suddenly have realised how important my vote truly is. But the things is, both the parties are bad. I don't believe in either of them. How should I vote? Should I vote lesser of the two evil or should I just not vote for either?

I have a bad habit of reading romance novels, convincing myself that I want to actively date again, and downloading apps only to remember why I deleted them in the first place. I really don’t want to be dating right now, but today I was reading a particularly cute little small town romance and kept getting swept up and downloading bumble only to immediately delete it once I opened the app. I actually did this a couple times before calling my best friend so we could laugh at my silliness together.

Why can’t book bfs be real??? 😭🤣

My (23f) coworkers have a tendency to imply that I’m less mature than them due to the fact that I live with my parents and don’t have any children. I’ve put up with their annoying comments for almost 3 years now. I don’t ever reply negatively or imply anything, but I get really annoyed with this specific group of people. I understand there’s a lot of people who move out from their parents’ home at the age of 18 and never turn back. I also understand that a lot of people have kids at a very young age, whether planned or not. In some instances, both are true, but neither of those facts will ever determine the way I choose to live my life. The economy at this time will not be kind to a single person such as myself, with no kids, who makes >$50K annually. I have no interest in putting myself in a situation to struggle, especially when it’s unnecessary. I understand that is a privileged position to be in, but it is the case for me. I just get so sick and tired of the ladies I work with who are not happy with their own lives. Normally, I have sympathy for people who are not as fortunate as me. However, with this specific group of women, I’m totally over it. It’s not my fault that you had children you cannot provide for. It’s not my fault that you lay your head every single night next to a man who impregnated you and then had no intention of or ability to take care of you. I’m so sorry that watching me live “carelessly” and “irresponsibly” reminds you of a lifestyle that you never experienced and will never know. But I refuse to apologize for being happy and knowing what I can handle. I enjoy being single and child-free. It feels great knowing I can do whatever I want whenever I want. I know I may not have the same fire lit under my ass, given that my bills are paid regardless. But IDGAF. You chose your life, not me. Sorry you have to be a slave to pay your rent, but I don’t. Don’t be a bitch towards me for it by calling me “immature.” To be frank, I think I’m more mature than you were at my age. You couldn’t even be bothered to wait until you were on birth control, or at the very least have the nuts to tell someone to put a condom on. Go work like a dog to make sure you can eat tomorrow, but don’t call me lazy for not wanting to work for an 8th day in a row.

Long read…

Interested in people’s thoughts on this. Because it’s something I definitely don’t understand based on everything I grasp about healthy human behavior (41m). My adult son (20), experiences mental health problems and has for some time. He’s been to outpatient therapy, trials of many different medications, went inpatient for SI / emotional crisis, and hs gone through a month long substance abuse / mental health residential treatment program. I’m quite certain genetic influence plays a huge role in his mental health, given that his mother (my ex wife), my mother, and his grandfather (maternal side) all seem to struggle with anxiety, depressed mood, and most importantly - personality disorder features (predominantly borderline PD). Not diagnosed per se, but due to my profession, I am virtually certain about BPD and other PD symptoms in my son. We’ve always had a good relationship as father and son, until about a year ago. He started experimenting with drugs (although I don’t think heavily by any means), mostly to deal with emotional problems and anxiety (self medication). He also started to say very mean things to me, which he’d never done before. Things like “You never help me…you never cared about me…You created this problem, now you have a mentally ill son…you never got me help…you never got me help when it mattered…you’re terrible at your job (mental health)…no one cares about me…no one can help me.” He’s also called me names over the phone and over text. When this happens, I end the conversation and shut things down. He’s never done that to my face however, most likely due to a significant strength and size difference between us. He’s never physically attacked me, as that would not go over well for him at all and he knows it. But he does engage in mental and emotional abuse toward others - then when confronted, he plays the victim.

Anyway, he will tear into me relentlessly every once in a while, I ignore it…and after a lot of time passes, he will randomly send me a song link...like Spotify, YouTube, etc. But no accountability for his actions whatsoever. Rarely he’ll send the word “Sorry.” Or he’ll say something like, “It’s ok if you want nothing to do with me…no one else does so it doesn’t matter” or similar. When he sends a song…It’s as if that’s his way of moving on and pretending things are fine now. Or if talking about his emotions. Meanwhile he has said he hates when his mother does that exact thing, meaning he hates when she behaves poorly and then pretends nothing happened…which is exactly what he does. I just don’t entertain it anymore. No reinforcement, no reaction, no response.

Is this a generational thing? Just completely ineffective and terrible communication ability? Or is that straight mental illness along with all the other aspects of mental illness he has? Why would he think randomly sending a song after being mean is somehow meaningful or important? It’s nothing I’ve ever modeled, taught, or encouraged in any way. It’s funny how he used to be a lot like me and now he’s almost unrecognizable. To me, some of the behavior seems immature, like a much younger teenager trying to get negative attention.

Personally, i started off having a lot od trouble learning after 4th grade untill just before finishing highschool, and i was always doing poorly in most subjects. So when i become 14 or so, i decided to learn how to learn, after i heard about it from a voleetering organisation and that activated my curiosity about things, and then in the next 10 or so, ive gotten into pretty much any feild that come in my way. The lesson i learned is that there are a lot of simular concepts from feild to feild, and that using the scientific method and formal logic works really well to smooth out any inconsistencies, and so it becomes really easy to learn a thing since you imediatelly have a basis.

Oh, and, trying to create something with the things you learned, is maybe the best way to solidify it in your mind.

Tldr: I am 23 I live at home, I dont work, I dont pay anything. I am just doing nothing, and I am kinda okay with that. I feel like a spoiled brat, I possible am, but I am gonna be working 40+ years anyway, why rush it, when I can for the first time in my life do something for me. Which is nothing other than endulge in hobbies.

Okay here goes. This might just be what a person of another generation would deem 'whats wrong with this generation' but I need to say something.

Truth is I for the first time maybe ever am doing something for myself by yeah not doing anything. I am in the very very fortunate position where I, 23, half a year after I finished my degree is doing, nothing. I live at home still, I dont pay much to be here, my mom doesnt want me to, and I dont work. There are alot of factors behind the above, but what I just almost realized myself is that I am taking time for me. I get to do what I love doing, my hobbies every day, I get to have days where I just want to binge a whole season of a show in a day. I am 23 and I am in the very priveleged position where I have never had a job before and I know thats not a good thing, but thats a whole other topic. I feel alot of guilt and shame maybe even pressure from others and myself that stems from not working in my 20. But truth is I have the next 40-50 years of working ahead of me and I am in no rush to get to that point when I am in a position where I dont have to. Now after 3 months and technically I gave myself until january so less than 2 months left to not do anything, I think I am finally able to be okay with the fact that this is how it is. I probably shouldnt I am a spoiled brat in a lot of peoples eyes.

But I am doing something for me. I have never done that before. I was miserable in school everyday from 7th grade, I went to HS because I had to, I was miserable everyday and questioning if I was at the right one but I pushed through. I started my teaching degree because it was something that peaked my interest and that is really scary to me but also really rewarding. I was miserable everyday for 4 years not because teaching isnt for me, I was just struggling with life, but I did it.

So why shouldnt I get to take some time for myself for once. I know what path I am supposed to hit, so is it really that bad that I am taking the little longer way to get there?

Now I am in no better position with everything than I was 3 months ago and I am not going to be in 2 months, a part of me feels like I am just waisting time but I am not. I am enjoying not feeling socially anxious everyday, of not feeling like I dont deserve to be a teaching student or a teacher, of not feeling good enough, worth anything, of not being physically ill everyday as I hit bedtime.

I dont know why I am writing this, maybe someone relates maybe everyone will think I am spoiled and entitled and I am just another gen z who is complaining, but I think I am getting to a point where I am okay with this being me.. for now. Is it really that wrong to put yourself first?

hi :) i (f18) recently graduated high school and im currently looking for my first job. i decided to not go to college this year and give myself time to think over some things, maybe plan a little for the future and what i want it to look like. however, i can't do that because i feel like im running out of time. i cant get rid of the idea that once i will start working im not gonna have anything to live for, no interest or goals, my life will be only about work work and work. i can't live like this. i wish i went to college this year instead of waiting

If so, do you work or study?

It's like a wide eyes reading your mind type of look and she would pretend to sleep or close her eyes when I saw her staring. Asked my gf why and she just said she was just looking at me but idk why it caused an alarm in me lol

For context, I’m f(20) and my partner is m(20)/ goes by he they pronouns. We’ve been dating for almost a year now and we respect and love each other very much, this is our first serious relationship out of high school as well. I come from a Hispanic household so my family is more traditional and conservative when it comes to gender roles and relationships, his is not. I currently live in an apartment with roommates and he still lives at home with his parents, sometimes I sleep over at his place a few times per month. It doesn’t happen that often but I enjoy spending time with him and his family, but I always have to ask my parents for permission to sleep over at his house. It’s always a bit of an argument every time I ask and me fighting for my dignity because my parents view it as a distasteful and inappropriate thing. They say that no self respecting daughter in law sleeps at her in laws house before marriage. It makes me feel gross and distrust my partner and their family because I feel like I’m doing something sinful or morally wrong. I don’t want to lie to my parents about where I am and where I sleep , and they also have my location at all times through an app called Life360 (it’s for safety reasons I suppose). But I don’t know why this happens so much for girls since my boyfriend does not share these feelings at all, since his parents let him sleepover at my apartment and my family home with no trouble( my parents make us sleep in different rooms at my house btw). I just think it’s a lot of precautions for something bad thats not even happening and probably will not happen. My partner and their family are good honest people and my parents and his have met each other etc. I’m a grown adult in college, it just feels a bit demeaning and childish to be sneaking around the subject with my parents. I’ve heard of a few female friends that also experience this, but idk? Is this like a normal thing? Am I in the wrong here for being confused and frustrated? And are my parents right about me sleeping over at my partners house as something wrong? Please and thank you!

We all know that wE lIvE iN a SoCiEtY where you must work to survive. I have no problem with that, I actually enjoy the thrill of being hired, learning a new job, and collecting these paid experiences like pokemon.

Problem is, most jobs nowadays treat their employees like shit. They throw you to the wolves instead of training you. You can’t listen to music. You can’t eat. You can’t bend your knees to sit. You can’t speak of your true opinion on your workplace or your personal life unless you want a brush with termination. You can’t even take breaks when you need to despite your body and mind screaming otherwise.

It’s so fking hard to be a human being when everything in my life expects me to be an emotionless max-efficiency robot.

Not only that, job hopping is looked down upon, even if you express that these changes were beneficial finnancially and skill-wise. So I’ve found myself qualified to work jobs that I get denied from because they’re looking for career janitors or career CSRs.

I don’t know what to do. I can’t stay anywhere because of my “unreasonable” standard of being paid enough to pay rent. I fear eventually becoming homeless in my future because of my unwillingness to comply, but honestly it seems like my next life change whether I want it or not.

This probably should not bother me, but it does. It feels like the older I get, the more I’m lucky if I even receive a “Happy Birthday!” text from family, friends, loved ones, etc. Just because I’m not 10 anymore doesn’t mean I don’t want to hear you stop in and send a nice text; hell, even a card would fucking do. Why is it that people think you don’t want to receive familial love after age 18??? You’ve known me my entire life AND have me added on Facebook, there should be no excuse to not ask how I’m doing I feel. I don’t even want gifts from people, just a damn “Happy Birthday!” to let me know at least someone gives a shit about me.

This has been happening to me ever since August, but it never had any actual long lasting effects until early October.
I used to hang out with some people from Uni (we're all first years but we're not all the same age), I had a blast with them as I could finally have a mature conversation with someone about the things we loved and life in general, people who had the same interests as me and someone that I could also play with as they re-awakened my will to play music. I talked to some of these people nearly every day from conversations to sending each other dumb reels on social media. Then one of us moved and it all went to shit, well for me at least. They all remained close, kept playing together and acting together (we were part of a theatre group too but most of us were just sort of a theatre band) and even went watching movies together while I was left behind for no apparent reason. I became lonely and if that wasn't enough I also fell ill from this (don't want to get into too much detail on this though), every time they get close to me now they just look at me weird and when someone forces me into the conversation they tend to be passive aggressive. I genuinely don't know what went wrong, it's gotten to the point where I've started to think that one of our classmates that knew me before university spilled the beans about what a dumb idiot I was in the past or about something that I did (keep in mind these 2 people knew me when I was 6 to 13 and haven't seen me since), but even I'm smart enough to realize that's just a dumb coping mechanism. This whole thing is so weird and it legit left me with no friends since I went NC with my old high school "friends" after meeting them, even though I would've done so anyways since they were jerks and were turning me into a jerk too.
Has this happened to anyone of yall before? And if it did how did you deal with it?

There's a few things I wanna write about, I'll try to keep it short but that's not going to happen.

1. There was a video of a skit where it shows a high school kid being happy, albeit very overworked, and managing school for 8+ hours a day and all these extra stuff after school and homework and friends and whatnot and then they get to college and they can't handle waking up at 9am and having to go to 3 one hour long classes. This is exactly how I feel, minus the happy part in high school.

It feels like I'm slowly but surely falling apart, and it feels like 99% of people around me outclass me (I'm doing music minor and everyone else seems to be so much better, even high school kids and I'm in college). I know comparison is the their of joy and all but like, I just suck at it and it feels like no matter how much I practice I never get to the point where people will hear me play and go "wow...". This kind of relates to something else I want to talk about, which leads me to the next point.

2. It feels like no matter what I do, I'm not good enough at it. Obviously starting new things means you won't be good but I can't shake the feeling that I need to be better. I've tried writing, songwriting, animation, drawing, basically anything creative related I have tried and it hasn't worked out. I have all these ideas but none ever get done if I can even start them let alone finish them. I keep seeing this amazing sax player on YouTube, his name is Patrick Bartley and the dude is a legend, and I know I'm never going to be that good even though it would be cool. It just hurts knowing I'm going to be mediocre at whatever I do because no matter how much passion or motivation or whatever you want to call it I have, I'm just never good at things.

3. Why the hell is going to the doctor so expensive? And why is insurance so impossible to get? This is short, I just don't get it dude... I know I have issues, and I want to get them checked out, but I literally can't because a simple doctor visit is like $200 out of pocket. It really pisses me off a lot.

Hypothetical Scenario:

I am 24 still living with parents but I work and make my own $. I just graduated college I am responsible and mature. I thought doing an only fans was a good idea because i could make more $ as a side hustle but I know my parents will not accept it even though I am an adult. Even my friends and cousins say it's OK if I do that because I am an adult. My parents say " My house my rules if you do not like it move out!"

I recently came to the realization that I have a type, which is pretty inconvenient but the heart wants what the heart wants. And my eyes, the aesthetic is very pretty after all

So what can I do to achieve that? I live about an hour from Atlanta so the alternative scene is unfortunately not very local. My interest isn't totally superficial either so I think that would make it easier. but still, lacking for opportunity

i’m 21 and I have been extremely humbled from these past few months. I graduated from a college program that kept rambling on how the job i’m doing today is in demand but when i graduated i realized there’s no jobs for what im doing right now. I only got 2 jobs which have very low and degrading pay no benefits and no security. I work in healthcare and i think half of the population doesn’t even know my job exists… because it’s almost non existent.

I feel horrible for spending money into something like this. I wanted to work in the hospital but i didn’t get in because my classmates got in with nepotism/favouritism. I work at 2 clinics now but i don’t get paid well for the work i do. I was too confident and i listened too much into my professors words of our jobs being in demand when it isn’t.

I am reconsidering everything. My family call what i have a “career” but it barely feels like a one. I was thinking of enlisting into the military but i don’t know for certain yet.

passing by.

I'm not the best socially in tuned person, but at least I have a friend that helped me with that a bit. Unfortunately he's not going to be on campus much next year, but yeah.

And male-female friendships were both parties doesn't have feelings for one another is just 👌. Was my birthday yesterday, I didn't really do much, exams is a female dog. Treated myself with pizza and a great view, invited a friend that wasn't too far away. I shared some pizza with her, we talked at least like 2 hours. Sure, it's something you do when on a date, but we know it wasn't going to be like that. We even talked and joked about.

Appreciate the good in life and it will grow, you'll enjoy life more. For those who say they don't have anything to be appreciative of. Go for a hike, alone if you have no other choice. Look at your situation, do you have a roof over your head? Do you have access to education? Do you have a job? And if you don't have friends, it's quite easy in my experience to change that.

Go to a hobby shop where you can play games, just ask a group that's not busy playing to explain how the game they just played worked. And just ask if you can join them now or later. That is my next strategy to meet new people.

But anyways, I am just grateful for the situation I am in, hope all of you have a splendid day/evening further

I personally still feel like a kid, it's crazy how I'm this old already!! 😅 I don't feel 21 at all!... 😭💀🎉

hi! i (20F) was invited to attend my boyfriend's (21M) company holiday party as his +1. i've never been to one of these (i'm still in university and he's a recent graduate) and i have no idea where to start with an outfit. does anyone have any advice?

I always thought of young adulthood as 18 to 25, but now I’m 25 and still feel like a young adult. Imo it depends on the person. 25 and married with two kids isn’t a young adult, but 25 and still in school figuring out life can be.

The thing is, I turned 22 in September and I've been thinking that the 20s (at least early 20s) are a very strange stage in life, one doesn't know if one is a teenager or an adult, and somehow "one is still attracted" to teenager lifestile, a few days ago I said that "it must be fun to go to university", and I was surprised because I never thought that about school. A few days ago I was going to the CC and I couldn't help but see my classmates as "teens" instead of adults, it felt weird. The same when I look at social networks, high school looks more fun than working in an office, and a lot of the clothes are still basically the same as those one had when they were teenagers.

Not sure if this is the right subreddit so let me know if not :)

I (17f) have pretty bad social anxiety. I do schooling online as a result and have for several years. I'm not bothered too much by once off interactions with people (e.g. making small talk with a cashier), but I struggle a lot with situations where I would need to actually spend a lot of time with new people/get to know them, especially if the other people around already all know each other. I find it really daunting and overwhelming and genuinely dont think I could cope with actually getting a job because of it.

However I really want to find something I can do to make some money and just to be doing something more productive with my life. So I'm looking for ideas of potential ways I could make money without getting an actual job. I'm happy to learn new skills etc, I just dont know what and where to start. It also doesn't have to make a lot of money, I just want to be doing something and be making some sort of money.