What i mean is I don’t feel like I have much of a life my mind is always fixated on work and the days off in between feel meaningless, I’m trying to find a way to see life more than working a 9-5

Got addicted to nic when I was barely 17. Kicked it a year and a half later and it was one of the worst experiences of my life. 2 weeks of brutal withdrawals and intense cravings for 18 months after.

I cut out everyone in my life who was over 21 and enabled my addiction so I had no one to buy for me anymore... but I turn 21 a month from tomorrow. The cravings that had since stopped are now coming back and they are BAD.

Anyone else going through this or have gone through it in the past? How did you deal with it? 🥲

I had a relationship where I fell deeper in love than I ever had before and felt like I finally understood what love felt like in a relationship for the first time.

I got dumped and we eventually made up and are still friends.

I don't want to get back with this person. Their values have changed since we were together and I don't think we'd be compatible long term.

So how do I get over the first love syndrome? I mean, every time my relationship endeavors fail, I find myself going back to wanting to have a relationship with this person again. We've been apart for almost a year and a half. I've dated other people. I had another relationship. But every time I think I'm over this person, something happens and I find myself missing them again.

Any advice?

Hey hey! Just wanted to check out the sub before I turn 18. I still have 4 more months still(September 26). If u have any life advice fill free to share! I need a lot of advice 😅

I was in a discord chat and casually mentioned I was going to a movie by myself. The people in the discord started saying how weird that it and how they could never do it, especially if you were the only one in the theater or if it was for a scary movie. What do you guys think? Honest opinions.

M or F idm I'm just bored while mining stone for my Minecraft road :))

We can talk about whatever you like :)

Hello Everybody! My name is Si, I'm in my 20s and I started a new project that I'm hoping would be of help. I'm starting a blog that has answers to all the questions we have in our 20s. My answers will be based on research, personal experience and opinions from interviews with people passed their 20s. Think of it as a little community or advice column.

I would also love for people to send me their specific issues and I'll write about it with the answer. That way, anyone in a similar situation wouldn't feel as lonely or lost.

Now, I vaguely know what to write about. I think the biggest issue we face is being lost over what we are supposed to do or feeling lonely. I would love it if you can write out questions you often ask yourselves, things you have googled more than once, or things you would like to know.

My themes are this:

Relationships:

• Family

-Friends

-Partner

Health:

-Body

-Skincare

-Selfcare

Skills:

-Baking

-Cooking

-Hobbies

Finance:

-Budgeting

• Career advice

• Side Hustles

I'll basically be covering the basics of each of those, for example how to make an easy meal or a skincare routine that doesn't need long.

Seriously, whatever you have questions about, don't be shy to ask. If you have specific situations like mentioned above, DM. We'll be able to talk about it better and I'll post about it.

Thank you for your help and support!

Warning for whiny post ahead:

I've been in college on and off since 2017. I'm finally just barely getting it together with engineering at a cc. I was supposed to graduate this semester but I'm pretty sure I failed 2 of my classes so I won't be able to graduate again and I haven't told anyone yet.

I know being an adult learner isn't a big deal, but I'm worried I'm ruining my relationship with my parents over school. Every conversation I have with them is slightly tinged by the fact that I'm probably failing a class or procrastinating on an assignment or supposed to studying and they KNOW but it's so goddamn tiring to talk about it over and over again for years. I've had school issues since I started high school. It probably would've been since middle school if I hadn't been home schooled then.

My younger siblings have gotten through high school/college without issues in STEM majors too. My parents don't compare us or anything and I'm grateful that they don't. They say it's fine that I'm taking longer to graduate but I know they're absolutely sick of my shit especially since they have other kids to raise and I'm just there in their house when I should've been gone a long time ago.

I just graduated college and want to move somewhere by a beach. I’m currently living in michigan with my parents and don’t know where to look. I’ll be looking for a sales/marketing job and want a city with lots of young adults and fun! But I don’t want somewhere too expensive (broke post college student lol) NY or Boston do not peek my interest. I’ve been told Charleston or Virginia beach… any other recommendations?

What I hate is what I am doing with it and myself!

:D

Hey guys, I’m turning 21 in two day and I can’t stop crying because I am so disappointed in where I am in life rn. I just thought I’d have my life figured out, or at least have dreams and aspirations. I’m also so sad because I am now an adult but feel like maybe I didn’t life my teens to the fullest, never went to high school parties and never had a young love. Feels like my life has been so bland and it’s looking like a bland future. I just want to live to the fullest and feel important. Idk ig I’m writing this to see if anyone feels like this.

people in relationships can ignore this post lmao, but i don't really mind, but wanted to know, since it's just odd, and was really interested in knowing what others around my age do with their free time, and if they feel or do the same things or not

After high school, I didn’t go to college. Instead, I decided to join the Navy. Recently, it’s about the time when school’s done and the senior class graduates. I see on social media all my peers I went to high school with graduate and I don’t know why, but it feels weird to me. It’s not that I feel like I missed out or anything like that because I had my fair share of fun with my friends. But at the same time though, seeing everyone graduate but me feels just, weird. I don’t know how to explain it. I guess maybe it makes me feel like I’m getting older now.

I’ve been chasing after this girl for 5 years or so now. Not sure if this is a crush anymore at this point. I didn’t do anything obvious or confessed cuz I don’t want to make her uncomfortable and ruin our friendship. Recently, we have gotten too close, and I might be delusional, but things are looking good for us in my perspective. Then, I realized I fear breaking up with her even though we aren’t even dating yet. There are too many differences that we have. And, I feel like she’s better off with someone else when I have this much internal issues. Should I just distance myself, or is it unfair for her? What should I even do?

I'm liberal studies. I wanna be a science major. I am self taught in some chemistry and computer science stuff. I just really really love science. I find it fascinating. I love chemistry, pharmacology, psychiatry and neuroscience.

My dream is to engineer medications like in a pharmaceutical company some day. I wanna make drugs for psychiatric illnesses like bipolar, schizophrenia, depression and such. At least that's just my dream.

The Relationship Decisions Lab at Western University (London, Ontario, Canada) is conducting the next phase of research on partnered sexual preferences. With this research, we hope to develop an inclusive and diverse scale of partnered sexual preferences to be used in follow-up research investigating sexual compatibility.

Eligibility Criteria.
Must currently be in a relationship
Have a partner who may be willing to participate (and their email address)
Fluent in English
18+ years of age

Couples in casual and consensually non-monogamous relationships are eligible.
What the study entails. If you agree to participate, you and your partner will be asked to complete two separate and identical confidential online surveys. The surveys will take approximately 60 minutes to complete each, and you will be asked a series of questions about yourself (e.g., your demographics and sexual preferences), your partner (e.g., their demographics and their sexual preferences), and your relationship with your partner. In total, the survey contains approximately 300 questions. Surveys will be sent to you via email. We insist you and your partner complete these questionnaires independently and highly recommend using separate private and secure areas.

Compensation. All compensation will be emailed to participants as Amazon gift cards. Participation in the research study will grant you entry to a draw for one of four $25.00 CAD/USD Amazon Gift Cards. Couples who complete the study will both be granted a bonus entry – for a total of two each. You are not required to complete all the questions to be eligible for the gift card draw. You can withdraw from the survey anytime by simply exiting your browser window. Withdrawing from the survey will not jeopardize your survey compensation.

Primary Contact (Ph.D. Student): Devinder Khera (dkhera@uwo.ca).
Principal Investigator: Dr. Samantha Joel (sjoel2@uwo.ca)
Website Link: If you are interested in participating, please visit the link below for our screening questionnaire!
https://www.relationshipdecisions.org/sexual-preferences-studySexual Compatibility Project - Perceptions of Sexual Preferences Study (18+, fluent in English, must be in a relationship or seeing someone; CNM participants welcome)

Ever since I was 16, my favourite activity outside the house has been grocery shopping. I don't like parties, I don't drink and I don't have a lot of friends (quality over quantity guy).

Today I went grocery shopping after a month or two. My parents (I live with them) had been doinh the groceries because I have college on the weekdays and I was busy with projects on the weekdays. I went alone and I had a great time

I feel like I'm super old for loving grocery shopping.

I’m currently taking some highschool courses that I need to get into university. I graduated highschool almost 4 years ago. I’m living with my parents, I have no job. I’m actively trying to make myself more motivated to do more things, but it just feels like I’m 16 again and that I don’t need to do anything yet. How do I feel more like an adult? More my age? I don’t go out often. I don’t see my friends often. I almost feel like I need to ask permission to do stuff, or that this high school courses are my life again. It’s not.

What can I do that makes me feel more connected to who I am now, how old I am, and just get grounded in my current life? I’m so lost.

Just discovered this sub and I felt like it was the right place to post that, not sure how to start this but here we go i guess, I (20M) recently dropped out of my school. I was aiming to become an engineer and realised midway I just wasn't cut for it. I spent like a year in something that's probably depression (though I never got it diagnosed) because I pretty much spent most of my time sleeping while being either sad for no reason or angry at everything and just the thought of waking up to go to school was making me physically sick.

Since then I went back to my parents house and found some work (since being alone in my room with nothing to do would do me no good anyway) and I'm waiting for the new "school year" (not sure how to translate that, I'm french so excuse my mistakes). Now, I've got something I want to do, at least I think that's something I'd like, when I'll go back to studying but now that I've dropped once, I just can't find motivation to do anything. I've got projects but they're just things I hope I'll enjoy doing cause it feels like everything lost its appeal lately. Most of my friends are either already working or studying for something they know they want to do and I'm the dumbass that's back to square one after almost 3 years of studies that went into nothing in the end.

How does everyone copes with life?! I feel like I missed an explanation about how everything suddenly seems all grim and worthless once you're out of highschool. I'm just doing things I hope I won't come to hate like I did with my previous studies and I'm not even sure of anything I do, it's everything is foggy and I still have no choice but to continue my way. Why does every life prospect seems like I'll live my life in a way that leaves little to no room for my own happiness because life's a fucking bitch and you're forced to find something that gets you money just to not die on the streets like a rat. I just lost all confidence in myself now and I'm afraid of making decisions that'll end up getting me in an even worst state than now.

Honestly I feel like I'm just a weak guy that can't accept reality as it is and is just hoping that life's as easy as it seemed when I was a kid. Maybe I'm that dumbass I think I am, maybe not, I just want some advice about how you people did or are doing and if you were in a similar spot, how did it go.

I( 22 M ) suffers from trichotillomania since i was 12 yo . It can go from mild hair pulling to severe hair pulling depending on the situation . I tried everything , therapy :cbt to be exact and medications .It helped indeed reducing the frequency of hair pulling however i still have anxious thoughts and i see myself still pulling hair when im stressed or anxious . I dont what theres left to do , and i feel so ashamed that at this age i still pull my hair . Is there anyone facing this problem ? And what did you do ?

How do you make money as a college student/young adult in the Philippines?

Shady lahat ng nakikita kong online part-time jobs. I'm looking for a way to make and save up money since 4th year education student ako next sy. Para bawas na rin sa bigat ng gastusin ng family ko. Salamat!

A little scared for life after high school. I guess I’m scared to start or accept the fact that next week I’ll be graduating and missing those lowerclassmen friendships, I highly value friendships, just guys being guys it’s those simple yet deep conversations I value. If you haven’t already figured all of my friends are underclassmen, for reference I’m in my senior year, so I’ll be ways off ahead of them. When we see each other and speak, have a quick discussion, etc. We don’t hang out outside of school nor have classes together, most of these have blossomed from being in a class together and it becomes a bond type of relationship, but in my conscience, I can’t help but think maybe I’m thinking of them too much as friends, what if they don’t look at me other than a common acquaintance, which makes me afraid of asking for their contacts so that we can’t stay in touch after high school, and I don't want to seem like some weird senior parading behind sophomores, But they really mean a lot to me, valuable as I’ve never officially had people by my side till this school year…, the year where I’m leaving them behind. I fear what life will be like after high school, as I'll be working and eventually move on from them, if this isn’t navigated properly, as a life without them isn't a life I'd like to imagine.

(I'm not sure what I'm Asking for, but possibly to my fellow, fellas out there how would you go about such situation? I just don’t want to be perceived as the weird kid again, or completely blowing our lengthy conversations out of proportion and having them deemed as friendships.)

In my own personal experience

(TW: graphic content & mental health)

Hii, I'm 21F and I am curious about your views on seeing graphic content on social media. I've noticed that when I watch too much negative content about from example current wars and conflicts it affects my mood and I sometimes feel anger, hopelessness, and I become pessimistic. Especially when I see videos where ppl are injured and helpless. Like I sometimes just can't understand why ppl do the things they do and in the comments of those posts people are always so negative and hateful. Do you guys experience this as well? I don't want to bother you guys but I would appreciate it if you guys could answer some questions about this. I'm asking this because I am genuinely curious on how ppl of our age group are influenced by those types of content. https://survey.uu.nl/jfe/form/SV_42eFLuyvJMN2jhY

It's a really short survey but it will help raise more awareness on the mental health of young adults. The fact that there was barely any research on this topic regarding young adults' mental health is really disappointing, especially considering that our generation deals with more mental health issues compared to older gens.