Hi Dad, I’m breaking up with my boyfriend of 1 and 1/2 years tomorrow. We’re both 19 and have been friends since we were 12. Dad, he’s head over heels in love with me and says that I’m the best thing that’s ever happened to him. He’s going to be absolutely devastated.

My dad has terminal cancer and it’s really hard for me to balance that with a long distance relationship. I’ve had a nagging feeling that something was off during the entire relationship and honestly Dad, I don’t know that I’m even meant to be in a relationship. I can’t make myself feel that spark. I also just need to work on myself and I feel like I need to be single.

I’m so scared but I know I have to do this because I know I’m not the one for him. I feel like I’ve led him on for 1 and a 1/2 years and I feel awful. He’s going to be devastated. He says I’m the most perfect person he’s ever known. I’m going to have to go back to college after break and see pictures of him all over my wall. I keep collecting videos to send to him before I realize that I’ll be gone tomorrow. Dad, I just need some advice. How do I do this?

Hey dad, I’m (16)& I don’t really have much friends my age because I’m non-verbal& I use communication devices/ASL. My autism is the reason that it’s hard for me to speak and it really hinders my ability to form relationships with others. I just want you to tell me if it’s ok that I’m this way. I feel so alone. It’s like no one out there accepts me for who I really am and it’s tough. I have so many hobbies and interests that I just wish I can share to someone but every time I try to make a connection, I always scare people away. It’s like no one has the patience to deal with me or at least try to understand me. I’m not a freak just because I use another way to communicate that might be different than others. I’m human, why can’t people just see that? I hate being autistic. I wish I was normal.

It’ll be almost 15 years since you passed dad, I miss you so much. I can’t believe it’s been so long. I’m currently applying to gradschool and I can’t help but think how proud you’d be of me. I dedicate all my hard work to you. You truly have been what’s kept me going when times got tough. How I wish you could be here during this process and see me cross the stage and get my bachelors degree next May. I’ve started therapy and I feel like this will really do me good. I love you and will never forget you.

I recently moved out of my foster moms home (beginning of this month) she was planning to kick me out but i managed to use some benefits to move out and i just recently bought a new car! i’ve been 18 since july and im planning on getting a job soon! (this will be my 5th job in my life) Also i’m just wondering if you guys have any advice i’d love to hear it. I have other things i’ll be sure to ask about later but i just hope ive made you guys proud

I lost my AirPod case at around 3 PM and had been searching for it nonstop until ten minutes ago.

You started helping me look and eventually found it under the dryer. Holding it out, you kept your grip firm.

“What do you say?” “Thank you. Can I have it now?” “What do you say?” “Thank you, Dad?” “What do you say?” “Fucking thank you! Can I have it now?”

You just started laughing, like it was some joke that I’d been searching all day.

I couldn’t take it anymore. Already upset over things I couldn’t share, you made me break. I started bawling, and you just kept laughing.

Finally, you handed it over. Overwhelmed with anger, I spat, “Thanks for finding this funny,” and threw it to the ground. The case flew open, scattering my AirPods everywhere, lost again.

I stormed off to my room to cry.

You didn’t leave me alone. Following me, you pointed out how it was lost again, calling me dumb while still laughing.

I told you to fuck off. Only then did your laughter stop, and you got angry and left.

Then Mom came in, taking the opportunity to talk trash about you like she always does.

Normally, I don’t believe her—she’s crazy, after all. But in moments like this, when you fill me with so much anger, it’s hard not to wonder if she’s right.

I almost wish you hadn’t found it.

Hi! I did my A2 motorcycle license and bought my own bike. With my OWN money, like an actual adult! I did two track days, and realised I want to pursue racing. I think I look pretty damn cool, even as a short girl!

I also went to Wales twice AND Cornwall! 6+ hours and I did it on my little bike, navigating the way for me and my bf, and we never got lost or anything. We're planning to go down again next year. AND I displayed my bike at a show, and got lots of attention!

I've never had a dad to share it with, so thought you'd appreciate it! :)

Hey, we just had our “Christmas” family get together and it was nice seeing everyone but I’m not sure if you noticed but it was kinda hard on me. Whenever I looked around and talked to my cousins I felt like I wasn’t supposed to be there, like out of everyone there I’m the odd ball. Everyone’s got their future planned even my younger cousin already has a plan for the future but I’m sitting here wondering if Il make it to tmrw.

It’s really hard pretending I’m happy to see people that don’t wanna see me or I enjoy being asked how’s that job you have. It’s difficult to relate when I’m not going anywhere in life and it just feels like I’m running on a treadmill at this point. I’m doing stuff but all it gets me is the same spot and tired.

I’m really tired of all of it, even when I’m laughing it’s tiring, when I’m sitting it tiring, I’m just tired of trying everyday to get my school work done just to look up and see more and more. I feel so disconnected and the only ounce of emotions I can give is when it’s forced out.

I can’t keep doing this and I know “that’s just life” but just give me a time out like in tag any form of break to catch my breath because WOW.

I’m not sure how to fix this spiral but I’ve seen you do it but I just never could replicate it. I wish you know how much I need you to tell me what the fuck is going on and just hold my hand one more time to help me up the step. I need help. Because when April rolls around it’s gonna be rough

Ever since I was little I wanted to be a super hero. You know this, Dad. Whether it was in the form of a fire fighter, a doctor or a psychologist. I had this grandiose idea that I would change the world like my mom said I always would.

But who am I really, out of a population of 8 billion? You left when I was 8, I'm ugly and have heart disease plus really bad eczema. I didn't get the girl, I didn't get the grades or get into the best college. I lost so many friends and relationships because I was either someone I wasn't or just plain immature at the time.

For all the times I have inspired people. The times that I pushed myself to go to the gym. To eat healthy, work hard at my job. Vowing to do better at university next year than I did in high school. To be a better and more optimistic person. To no longer be who I used to be.

What is it all for? What am I for? Why do I exist and why do I continue to exist. Everything is going to end, everything is going to die including myself. Even the world so what use is there changing it?

I needed you, dad. I needed you to tell me something, anything. Just some semblance of guidance, of hope.

All my life I have had to be my own man. I had to learn sports by myself, figure out what career path I want to do. Fight my depression and essentially force myself to be happy and optimistic.

The truth is, dad, that I'm tired. I'm tired nearly everyday. Even when I'm happy I'm tired. I just don't want to do this anymore. I do not.

Hey dad I let a girl cheat on me six times and I just left her but I feel like a broken man she took everything from me I just want the old confident me back

Hey there hope you are having a good day!! I am a highschool senior now and this journey is coming to an end I have taken PCB as my core subjects and have informative practices and one of my other subjects. Everyone is like you need to become a doctor doctor doctor, but I don't want to like I'll be giving NEET but doctor was never what I wanted to really be though I am still a bit confused but I still love technical fields and if biology then forensics, marine and microbiology I get my parents and others saying they got little to no scope. Recently I got to know about bridge courses some collages provide through which we can also take engeneering courses my dad looked into it and now since morning he is like no you need to become a doctor only. Are these really that bad? I seriously need some guidance. And as for my preparation for NEET I am yet to revise class 11 study material fully and have found myself laging in organic chemistry these days. I think I have made it clear to my parents I don't wish to have a gap year.

What are my options realistically and can I actually get into technical field, and in my country most middle class family don't allow their children to get work experience so having none can I find work online/offline. As I wish to buy a motorcycle and travel.

Thankyou for reading my post. 😄

what do i do dad. should i get a credit card? should i start investing? should i go to my dream school? please tell me what to do, im so lost. i dont feel like anything. im also graduating high school soon with a decent gpa, but i just feel so lost in life.

Hey dad , i was supposed to have already deleted my account but i just didnt open the app , i need some advice because i dont know if i am being stupid , i have someone i know who works in the cinema and can get me tickets for free so i wanted to take one of my friends and then they could get snacks but then am i lying if i dont mention the tickets were free , would i then be a bad friend? I just am low on money a bit but still want to do things with my friends but i am worried if its a bad friend thing to do if i dont mention they were free tickets so they dont feel they should pay for my snacks too

Hey dad,

Im really struggling atm. Im in a 6yr relationship that feels like its fizzled out on my end, and with two kids under 5 (f2 &m4), and i dont know how to navigate this feeling.

My real dad was a pos, he abused me sexually, emotionally and mentally in the 13 years he was in my (f25) life, let my stepmum mentally and emotionally blackmail and abuse me, and never made me feel like i was actually wanted. As such, ive had a bad run in my relationships and when i met my current partner (m25), he matched that pattern. But hes grown in yhe time ive known him, hes become the complete opposite of what he was and is an all around decent man, with a good head on his shoulders, and is the best father to our children. Im auDHD so i find relationships exhilarating and its probably why i lean towards more troubling people, because they intrigue me, are unpredictable and i can HELP them. It was the same in this relationship too. But weve been through a hell of a lot, PND, cheating on both sides, and its just been hell since covid started really. Were an amazing team and have always come together when times are hard, but have been suffering together this whole time.

I just dont get, now hes literally come 180°, and is such a healthy partner to have, doesnt judge me, accepts me in all my ugliness just as much as he does when im at my most beautiful, why my love for him has disappeared… he treats me just how i want and deserve to be treated. He loves me wholly and completely.

Im also struggling with how i feel in general though. Ive been experiencing this sensation of living beyond my days - like ive accidentally avoided my own death somehow - and i have no motivation to live, to travel, to see people, even to talk to them. And believe me, i know it sounds like im suffering from depression - ive literally got the diagnosis. But this doesnt feel like the depression I’ve experienced since the age of 11, this feels like something more.. everything is going wrong, if im being honest, and i just dont know where to turn or how to feel. I cant even take refuge in the shelter of my relationship because all i want to do is run away from everything i know.

Please dad, i just dont know what to do anymore, and your advice and guidance is so craved… and i just dont know what a fathers love feels like anymore, to have that connection who only loves you for the person you are, with no ulterior motive or desires. Idk, this has no ending. Just desperation for some reason not to give in to the temptation and damage all of those around me as a result x

i dont think my future is looking so bright. first of all, when i was in middle school my family became homeless. we had to stay at my grandmas house for about a year. and because of the distance between the school i was in at the time from where we were living at, my parents thought it would be a good idea to switch me from my private school to a new online school and thats where the downhill starts, i practically dropped out right there. i was too lazy and too stupid, i never did any of my work and immersed myself in video games not being able to discipline myself at all. ive never even got out of the grade i was in when i switched schools. im supposed to be in junior of highschool and im still in 6th. i never thought about school or my future, if i wouldve just been able to stay in that nice private school or not be so lazy i wouldve been on the track to success right now. im just so stumped on what to do with my life. im going to have to face the concequences of my actions and work so much harder than the average person if i want to be even slightly successful. that thought overwhelms me so much, i have only myself to blame. i want to have money to myself and live a partly wealthy, comfortable life. but reality just gives me a mike tyson punch to my jaw. my best friend tells me i dream too big and shes right, my future is blurry. the only plan i can think of in my life right now is to get a ged and find a part time job then try to learn web development or something and find a career off of that. i dont really know what options i have for my future. i have the drive but i lack discipline and hard work ethic, i feel like such a waste of space and a screw up.

Hello dad, can you assure me that you will be there for me and do everything you can to protect me from the attacks of my narcissistically disturbed mother? To never leave me alone with her again and to only look after me twice a year (Christmas & birthday), even though you are separated from her?

In India, it's a matter of shame to be in a relationship and my parents recently found out about mine.

They've been emotionally and physically abusive ever since I can remember and all my wishes have always been about wanting a Dad's love. I really do hope some Dad who's just as desperate for a non-blood-related daughter finds me someday. Really hurting rn, would appreciate some kind words :)

Hi dad. I’m pregnant! It’s a boy! My husband is overjoyed. I’m 22 weeks. I’m really nervous and full of anxiety. I wish you were here to tell me everything is going to be okay. I was hoping you’d make the effort to come see me for Thanksgiving, but as always… grandma needed you.

I was hoping you’d at least stop by… for like 30 minutes even? I just wanted to see your face. I know she’s your mother but can we not have you at least one day out of the year?

The last time I saw you, I almost died from an ectopic pregnancy. And though that was one of the most terrifying moments of my life, being with you brought me so much joy because prior to that I hadn’t seen you in years! Do I have to be on the brink of death to see you?

Anyway… I really wanted to tell you about your grandson in person. I wanted you to be here, hug me, touch my belly and tell me how happy you are for me. I didn’t want to text it to you. I wanted to see your eyes light up when you saw my belly and the realization hit you. I didn’t want to call you and tell you, I wanted you to hear in my voice that I really really need you.

I’ll never hold it against you. I’ll never hate you like my brothers do. But I can’t be that 14, 15, 16 year old girl begging her father for attention and affection. I can’t beg anymore. I won’t. I’m tired of chasing you. I’m tired of constantly being turned down for your mother. But I will always be here when you remember I exist and that I’m worth making the drive for.

I love you. And congratulations on being a grandfather. I really hope I get to see you before he’s born.

Hey dad, I'm doing this right before going to sleep because I feel a little bit of courage at the moment. I'm trans. I know you always knew me as your first born son, but it turns out I am your second daughter instead. I really wish you were still around so I could tell you this in person and so that you could get to know me as your daughter. I love you and miss you a lot.

My Dad is a transphobic pastor and I would appreciate it if you guys could pretend to be my Dad and give me some encouragement or compliments.

I am new-ish to this country (3 years) and new-ish to my job (1 year). I have been really unsure about myself as I have to handle difficult negotiations in this second language of mine in this new country. This line of work, while I have been in for around 4 years, doesn't get easier and now concerns a different market/product. I am so happy when a (very competent) colleague said he had read my work and found it really good. I am so proud!

My dad IRL would just give a blank facial expression and my mum IRL would not react positively without any snarky comments or mentioning that it is only because I was given her genes or in other ways redirecting the topic back to her, so I want to share with my internet dad(s).

Mom had a wreck, she's okay, but her car is totaled. And the cat I've had since I was 6 is very ill and the vets aren't sure why. She's 17 but it still hurts. I'm lonely as hell, guys make me feel like I'm boring. I can't stop spending because I'm dysphoric everyday, trying to make it better. And to top it off I probably can't keep my new piercing because it was pierced too shallow and it's cutting my ear. It was fine at first.

Everything just sucks. My life wasn't together, and it's still somehow falling apart. Things never get better. I feel so alone. But there's nothing else I can do.

Me (32F) and my sister (29F) lost our Dad almost 4 years ago very suddenly. We grew up very close; there's always been a level of competitiveness but we've always had a good relationship. I was "the smart, successful" one in a lot of peoples eyes - top grades, got a great job after graduation in investment banking, bought a house etc. She was never as driven to start a career, stayed on in education to do a Masters and a PhD which she's been working on for 6 years so far. My Dad often helped her out financially.

After losing Dad, he left us some money and also some assets (rental houses), which we've been jointly managing. I've taken the lead on the majority of dealing with his estate, my sister always seemed to be struggling more and could never seem to cope, but she's never left out of decisions I just tend to do most of the admin.

I moved to Canada shortly before we lost our Dad, and in the years since have had a career change, worked remotely and lived in a ski town for a while, renovated a campervan, got engaged and married (paid for with own savings) and now I'm 3 weeks away from having my first baby. My husband and I work hard and have been able to afford a nice lifestyle for ourselves.

Shortly after losing Dad, my sister also moved to Canada (albeit jobless and still working on writing a PhD), bought a very old van with the intention of living in it (but ended up in airbnb's for 6 months), also got engaged and married, and has lived a very nice lifestyle of travelling (spontaneous trips to Peru and Vegas), skiing, and buying nice stuff. Given she had no job, I know she's just using her inheritance.

Very recently, she's started asking me and my mum for money - it's clear she has run out of inheritance but she hasn't changed her lifestyle. She's almost 2 years late on finishing her PhD and hasn't even had an interview for a job (other than part time sales assistant, dog walking etc.). My Mum tends to feel sorry for her and give her money.

Now, with the rental houses we agreed to sell some of them in order to repay off of the mortgages across the portfolio. However, with those sales having recently completed she no longer wants to pay off the mortgages and wants to keep the money.

Yesterday she asked again if she can take a significant amount of money from this pot because she can't pay her bills. I was reluctant, and we had a huge argument - her saying I keep judging her and saying it's not fair because I've got money and she hasn't; me saying she's got herself into this mess and she needs to grow up and deal with the consequences. She thinks she's been hard done by and she's the victim in this situation; that I should have more sympathy and help her out. It was a horrible argument and she hung up, I felt so worked up after that I was physically sick.

My baby is due in 3 weeks, we've got my baby shower tomorrow and she's coming to help set up and make a cake. I just don't know how to balance this bitterness between us in the lead up to the birth. I want us to have our close relationship back. I feel like everything I said was honest and she needed to hear it, but maybe I just need to butt out of her life and finances.

I miss my Dad, I wish I could talk to him and know he could give me some advice on this but he's not here. Any Dad advice out there please?

Hi!! This is my first time posting here but I could use some advice. The past two Christmases my dad has gotten me some extremely great (and expensive) presents and he was also very welcoming to my best friend who visited our country for the first time last year. We have sort of a difficult/strained relationship but I’d really love to repay the kindness this Christmas.

We’re both very introverted and when we talk it’s often kinda just awkward small talk but I do know that fishing is his main interest. There’s also one type of chocolate that he loves but everyone always gets him that so I’d like to do something different. I don’t have a big budget especially because I want to get something for other family members too. Also if I ask him if there’s anything he wants, he says he doesn’t need anything lol.

Any ideas? Thanks in advance :)

Well, I slept early but paid for it by being a wake a few hours during the night. I'm in between awake and sleepy right now ...<laughs>... It's good that it's a mellow day. Well.... You know me, I try to string happy and mellow moments into a good day usually anwyay. But, yeah, less work pressure today, as I don't need to be on call.

The weekend will be nice. And, after it, next week the temperatures should be a bit less bone-freezing as they have been. Snow can be very romantic; freezing your butt off, less so. Plus, you look odd without a butt ...<laughs>...

Have a nice day, kid.

• Love, Dad

Hey dads, moms, sisters, brothers- etc. I’m having trouble getting my life together.

I struggle with OSDD, (Dissociative Identity Disorder) BPD, and a few more. But I’ve been having really bad crash outs and self destructive behaviors that play it out.

I want to go to college, I want to get my drivers license, but I’m always too lost in my own head. I want to be someone, but so much shit has happened to me, and it sucks.

I have to go to the store tomorrow, i entered an episode that led to a one night stand because i was triggered. The guy was cool- (thank god) but I don’t know how to get my life in order. I know it’s rough. I know life sucks, but life is good, right? Because sometimes my episodes make it so I want to just end it. I feel like no matter what, I am the bad person my trauma made me be. I am my intrusive thoughts. I am ruined and need to end it or else I’ll hurt everyone around me. Not just that, but I want one mercy. I know it’s messed up to view dying as my only mercy, but life sucks. I know I can’t compare myself to people because they didn’t go through exactly what I went through, but tonight I just remembered how some friends just made it through life. And here I am.

I know these feelings will pass, but my god I have let people ruined and take advantage of me all because they said they’d do better, or I didn’t defend myself because XY and Z.

I know this is a bit off topic, but I don’t know what’s okay and what’s wrong. I only know what’s morally wrong. If someone treats me badly, I let them because I love them. I only know love is by drowning with others, even when they pull me down.

I just turned 18, and I'm in my first semester of college. This is my first time back. I've been really happy at school, but visiting my family again and having to see my dad has reminded me of how I don't think he's even noticed I've been gone. He's never been emotionally there for me, even a little bit. I had a friend die over the summer, and he didn't even know because he's just so uninvolved in my life. It feels like he had kids because he felt like he was supposed to, and definitely not because he wanted us. I'm eighteen, and I can't remember a single time where he's taken me somewhere, just the two of us, or tried to spend time with me one on one. I can't remember a single day or memory where he hasn't ruined it with his anger issues or emotional immaturity. I'm not going to get into it, but he's also been physically abusive once or twice (he dragged me out of the house and threw me into his car by my ankles one time because i didn't want to visit family that day). Beyond this, the emotional manipulation and trauma that I've endured over the years is also great, but there's too much to even bring up.

I've come to terms with the fact that the only dad I will ever have will be in movies or shows that I watch. I cling onto tv shows and movies that show dads actually loving their daughters and being so involved, because it makes me feel better about my situation. I just wish he loved me. I see all of my friends, and their dads love them and are there for them and present emotionally beyond the most superficial things. I can't remember if he loved me or not when I was little. I just really wish I had a dad. He doesn't love me at all. It makes me feel so lonely, like I'll never have what other girls get to have. I just wish I could have a dad who actually loved me, or was there for me.

This was mainly just a little rant, because I've been super down the last few days.

This is my first time posting here sorry if I break any rules.

My dad died when I was 9 and i am not really close to my family.

Im 21 and I have never been in a relationship, every-time I am in a talking stage with someone they eventually decide they don't want to date me for one reason or the other.

I am a relatively normal liberal guy with an average face, body, goals etc

This has happened to me 5 times at this point and I am scared of the pattern I am seeing and I can't stop crying. I can't stop thinking of all the mistakes i made that caused all those people to want to not date me. I can't stop blaming myself.

The worst part about all of this is I have tried my best and constantly tried to improve myself over all of these failed attempts only to have all of them still reject me.

Now here I am sobbing - sitting alone in my dorm room - terrified that this is probably how all of my thanksgiving will look like for however many years i have left

I just can't see it getting better at this point and i have no one to reach out to

A close family man to me has a 69 Camaro he has been building for awhile, it’s really nice but idk anything about it lol. I asked him what parts he still needs and he said a carb and carpets, I have typed in on google both 69 carb for his car and the carpet, for the carb, the first one is about $500 Called Camaro Holley street demon Black composite fuel bowl 750 CFM.. Will this fit? I’m sorry I sound silly but I have no idea and want to surprise him for Christmas but don’t wanna order the wrong thing

I wish I could tell my dad but he has been gone for over ten years now. I’ve learned how to drive all kinds of machines. My favourite is the combi truck. But tomorrow I’m going for my reach truck certificate. I’m so excited but also very nervous!

I really wish I could tell my dad. I miss him so much…