tbh my life is probably at one of the best times, nothing's that wrong, but i just feel so sick and sad and idk what to do. idk what it is and i just want some advice

For context, I’m a 26 year old trans girl. I’ve been thinking a lot today (terrifying thought I know), but I’ve genuinely been debating the idea of actually coming out as trans. Largely these thoughts have been on my mind because of everything that’s been going on in the last 24 hours and because I’m worried that it’ll also affect me despite not living in the US (I live in the UK). I’m honestly not sure if I’m overthinking this at all.

I'm sorry for hurting you so much and for everything I've done and haven't done. I can't contact you anymore so I would just like to write this. I'm sorry for not being there for you. I'm sorry for not being by your side and for not supporting you. I'm sorry that you felt so lonely and unworthy here. I'm sorry for not understanding you. I know you will never forgive me, and what I've done is unforgivable, but just know that if you need anyone, I am still here. Please know that I love you and care for you so much. I'm sorry for letting you down. I'm sorry for not being a good sister. I'm sorry for not being better. I hope you can take care of yourself and I hope all your dreams come true. I hope you gain the peace and happiness you deserve.

Hey Munchkin,

Sucks that you don't even want to know I'm engaged or anything about my life, but weddingnplanning and saving is going well. The venue is really pretty. My fiance and I are well on the way to getting the house done so the saving for the weddings going well. Obviously you're not involved as I want to respect your boundaries even if I don't see why you've cut me out. It's your choice. I hope you won't regret it though as I tried really hard to be the sister you needed even if that wasn't exactly what you wanted. Hopefully you'll get the help required but I know how averse you are to those sort of things. I love you despite everything.

Hi big sis! Your 26 year old brother for a minute here, I talked to you yesterday and that was so nice so I thought I would talk to you again today, this time more about my thoughts, I think a lot 😅, but mostly or the biggest thing I think about socially is getting a girlfriend, I’m a socially late bloomer, I’m Norwegian and here we got something called folk high school, it’s a college-like place, usually a 2 year thing but I’ve spent some years there now, when i started there at 19 I got my first friends, I got much more social and I’ve thrived socially thanks to FHS but yeah i miss that special extra, I got a lot of girl besties , some guys are shy around girls, I’m shy in the same way around boys, I like girls much better, they are more patient and understanding, but yeah I miss that extra bond and to really show love to someone in another deeper way, I’m just afraid to scare of girls, I’m afraid I’m creepy and I don’t think many girls would like me “that way” , I just want to be more brave, I’ve never asked a girl out or kissed , I want to show more of my caring side to someone

Hi big sis, i wish you were real but i would just say i love you and miss you in my life, im a male but have always gotten more along with girls, you are more understanding and caring, something i sometimes needs being a more sensitive guy maybe, I kind of have versions of you in my gang of friends and yeah you’re the best , you’re kind, caring, understanding and you always have some good advice , so yeah wherever you are , i love you big sis❤️❤️

I don’t have a sister but I need a sibling my age(20f) . I’m so lost in life. I feel like i’m doing everything wrong. But the thing that’s always in the back of my head is i’m so single. I’ve been single for over 2 years and while I see everyone getting in relationships they don’t like I tell myself i’m glad i’m single. But it sucks. Sometimes I just want someone to love me. I want someone to know every detail about me like I know about them. I want them to know my moods, my thoughts and my facial expressions. I want them to get me. I’ve been pretty much outcast since grade school and I don’t know how to do it anymore. I don’t wear makeup, i like to dress casually, and I’m very much a homebody. I literally go to work and come home. I don’t know how to get out there. I can’t even make friends in the city i’ve lived in for 2 years. I feel so alone.

Figured I'd look for advice from women my age, since people my age in general seem to have rejected me as a whole, and I want to fix that and hopefully find a life partner in the end.

It has been made clear to me by my peers since I was a teen that I'm not worthy of having friends, and especially not a girlfriend. Idk what my problem is, but I know that I must be severely lacking in some areas for almost everyone to reject me. I'm going to try and lose weight again, but idk if that will be enough.

Sorry if this is the wrong place to ask this. I'm just tired of feeling unworthy of love and acceptance. The only people who have gotten close to me are either relatives, or they have no other friends, and I don't want to be a last resort anymore. I hope that isn't a bad goal.

Anyway, thanks for reading, and have a great day!

I did it. Even though mom and dad were too busy playing with the dog or gossiping to be proud of me, even though I'm juggling a lot.

I got first chair trumpet in my local orchestra.

I made a casserole for my neighbor who broke my leg.

I beat a deadline that was on my neck for a while.

I'm feeling so stressed out, though. I need someone to be proud of me. Please, can you offer me some words of encouragement?

I am a 32 years old unmarried, childless man and I am currently feeling lost in life. Therefore, and facing some embarrassment at first, I picked up the courage to seek professional support from a therapist for the first time in my life. Nonetheless, I've decided to post here in order to get additional advice from this community.

I think that my current feeling of being lost (or left behind) in life mainly stems from two circumstances: mild bullying which resulted in the inability to fully experience my teenage years if and when I compare them with the ones experienced by my peers and the loss of my father due to cancer when Covid-19 was ravaging in 2020. The first circumstance, in fact, turned me from a quite extroverted and carefree boy into an introverted, overthinking and resentful man while the second one wreaked havoc in my everyday life as I abruptly lost one of the most important people I was attached to in a phase in which everyone is supposed to settle down both personally and professionally. Cancer is basically like having to deal with a time bomb where you cannot see the timer and this puts you face to face with the precariousness of life.

Those events profoundly affected me, as I practically spent my teenage years most of the time alone focusing on my studies and these last years trying to settle down professionally facing great difficulties in both dealing with people (as I work in Sales & Distribution) and life itself. There are days in which I feel completely absorbed by what I am doing and therefore I manage to get things done as expected without having to deal with what my therapist calls "intrusive thoughts" and others in which I feel overwhelmed by a hurricane of negative thoughts and sensations about myself and the future ahead of me that make me cry silently on my pillow as soon as I get home at the end of the day.

I deeply regret the fact of not having been able to experience love in its blossoming, intense and raw nature during my teenage years, unlike my peers, the fact that those times and hangouts will never come back again thus leaving a deep scar inside my heart and lastly, the fact that I am very often going to be at unease in social settings when acquaintances/colleagues etc. discuss about their family, children and career prospects. At the same time I also drastically reduced the amount of time I spend on social media as people just seem to share the good things in their lives, but I always try to take any opportunity to hang around my friends and family members, even if some of them are starting a family and this makes me feel at unease as I previously explained. Going out for dinner/ a movie/ a play at the theatre all by myself is too much for me to handle and, quite frankly, humiliating at the moment. Casually going out for some drinks or travelling instead, are more manageable activities but come with some strain as well.

I'd like to become more optimistic and resilient in order not to find myself alone and hopeless as I reach maturity and retirement. What advice would you give me? Thank you for your help and please forgive me if I made some mistakes but I am not a native English speaker.

Hey sis, remember when we were younger and we were playing and I WWE RKO BODY SLAMMED YOU ONTO THE BED? And then the wooden plank on the bottom of the bed broke? That was literally hilarious, and mom spanked the living crap out of me while you were laughing? That was some good old times frfr. Hope you have a great day sis.

This is a rambling, nonsense sort of rant, please feel free to keep scrolling.

What would it have been like with a sister?

I'm the oldest and there were 4 of us already, so maybe in some ways it's for the best but still... What would it be like?

Would you have been a tomboy? Being surrounded by brothers I guess it makes sense. Or would you have been a princess? Most likely something in between because none of us are just one thing.

What would we have done together? Would you come to me for advice? What would I have taught you and vice versa? Would I be part of your hypothetical wedding? How would I be different compared to who I am now?

I've got sister-in-laws now and they're great wonderful women but I think it is safe to say it isn't the same thing. You could have been another shot at a kindred spirit, someone in the family who thinks the way I do about the world. Someone who understands how hard it is to a part of this family. But maybe you would have been a brat, or another one who wants to tell me how wrong I am.

I like to think you would have been the smartest of us, talking circles around all of us and frustrated when we look at you confused. I know you would have been loved and I guess that's about the only thing I know for sure.

The idea of getting to see you hold your nieces and nephews, playing with them and teaching them as they got older is a beautiful image to me.

I love my brothers, I don't want any of them gone by any means. I'm just curious I guess, about how things would be different if she had come along.

I don't know, maybe some of you can share your experiences and settle my restless mind.

Hey, sorry to bother you, but I really need some sound advice and encouragement. I'm really down, very much.

You don't know but it's been really tough since I was a lil kid. Tons of emotional abuse, grew up in fear of saying or doing smt wrong that would piss dad off. I never had anyone to turn to, absolutely no one, so I never learnt to do so. It has brought me a lot of problems. I learnt that the safe thing to do was to swallow your emotions until one day they explode. I have been doing that for 28 years now.

I exploded at myself, I have been very very bad to myself, treated me like I was the worst piece of shit to ever exist. I had several bouts of depression since I was a teen, I got bullied a lot and closed myself and hid from the world. I dropped from high school because of it.

Never had good cards and on top of it all I didn't know how to play the game. I have been learning though. I'm better at it but smt happened and it sent me directly to rock bottom.

Dad is an elderly man, a hurt, bitter, raging, narcissist. He's done to me enough emotional harm to kill a horse. Between some of his fits there is punching me in the face, push me against walls, break things, tell me I turned out bad, scream and insult me millions of times, tell me to die when that was the only thing I could think of, recently he started to take a liking for drawing knifes at me for not doing what he wants...

I had a relationship, and it was the best thing to ever happen to me. She was fantastic, she healed me so much, she took care of me, she was the first person to ever give me love, not whatever toxic shit I had with dad or with my mom, who was an aggressive alcoholic... I grew a lot thanks to her.

Sadly she had to go, I was a flower trying to grow in a garden in flames, she tried to water it and cover it from the flames but she couldn't remove it from there. The flower couldn't leave, he was in part that burning garden. For almost 4 years she tried to take care of it, protect it. But couldn't continue. And to be honest as a flower I've got thorns, she was hurt at points, she really was.

She had her own flowers to grow. She's gone, I hope the best for her.

I'm all alone now. I'm very very sad, very much so. Psychologically I lost it quite bad, after she left, I never been so bad. It's been months now and I still cry daily, sometimes more than once. Dad just keeps thinking he's the victim in this story, he will never acknowledge me for anything he's done to me.

I can't be here any longer, I'm going to go. I can't avoid feeling that I'm giving up on him, I'm the only person he has. But I can't take it any longer.

I regret so much not making this decision before, when she was still with me.

I miss how close we used to be. From sharing a room growing up to now barely sharing anything going on with my life with you. Not any of the real stuff anyway. I know our lives have gone in different directions but I miss you. I really need my big sister right now.

I'm feeling a little lost and unsure about life. I don't know where I thought I'd end up but I always thought I'd have my shit together by now. I have my career and I have my home. But I'm so lonely. I have no one to share the little moments with. After growing up the way we did I'm glad we're both at peace. But it doesn't stop me from being lonely.

I let a man (I know!) really get to me and my self esteem these last couple weeks. Thing is I thought I could see a future. I thought he did too. But by the way he just cut me off suddenly, I think he was just leading me on. Now I'm sadder than before because I feel even more lonely than before him.

I can't keep putting myself through this. But I really want someone to share my life with. Please tell me it's going to be ok? I hope one day I can talk to you in real life anout the things that have happened.

I’m a closeted transgirl and I’ve never really shaved my arms or legs before, so can you teach me the basics on what I need to get and what I need to do to prepare on how to shave my legs?

I feel spmdamn selfish right now but I feel the need to spill all this.

I currently came back from a 3 week holiday without seeing my family for ages. I bought them gifts and did everything and everythung was decent for a while.

I had to style my hair in the evening cause we were going out and my mum was helping me. Firstly, she kept laughing atu failed attempts and I felt rlly self conscious. She knows I have confidence issues but she's thinks I'm a wuss and all.

Later she found out the essay a friend write which I offered to look over (I do this like twice every year) and our if the blue just says I'm being used.

We devolved into a shouting match and no one took my side.

We are both stubborn and stuck to what we think. Big sis, am I right and can u help me feel better?

So my sister may have found out I’m trans because I let her use my Amazon Prime account so she could use Prime Video and she told me she accidentally saw my wishlists. It’s making me a little on edge even though she claims that she’s an open minded person, that I can talk to her if I need to and she wouldn’t out to my mum if I was. I feel like an idiot for not actually saying anything or even being stupid enough to have those wishlists in the first place. My brain is literally all over the place right now, I’m not sure if I’m ready for this conversation with her and I know it’s going to be difficult to pretend it didn’t happen.

Hey big sis, wish I could still ring you and talk to you. I just wanted to tell you I finally got a job. I go pick up the paperwork in the morning so I can start next week. I love you and miss you.

I study, I watch TV, but that's all I do.

I feel like watching YouTube and writing stuff down just rots my mind.

I wanna get a hobby but being the picky younger sis I am, I don't rlly want it to be educational or anything that costs lots of money.

Do u have any hobbies you have that id cool to learn?

Sis, How are you? Can I just check in with you? For about a year I have felt like I really needed to get my bearings. But please understand, I'm fine. I'm not going anywhere.

Mom, today my (25f) boyfriend (25m) broke up with me. It wasn't a long relationship. Just three months.

He taught me, that I am allowed to be me with him. That it is okay, that I am not a perfectly stable, mentally healthy person. We could just be us with each other. But he recognized, that his feelings for me aren't romantic anymore, after the first phase of seeing everything through the pink glasses passed. It is better that way and I know that. The last few weeks and especially the last ten days were really hard and full of anxiety, pain and depression. That's over now since I now know, that the relationship is definitely over.

I'm proud of myself for how I reacted. I called my friends and family and didn't stop calling until I had a place to go so I didn't need to go to my place. (We were in his shared flat) I'm with my parents now. It's so good to be safe here. And I had an important realization. For nearly a year, I lived in a constant mode of fighting for everyone and everything (which started after my last, much worse breakup in May last year). My first thought after the break up today was, that I'm so tired of fighting. I don't want to fight anymore. I just want to be. I just don't want to prove anything to anyone anymore. I am enough and I deserve people, who love me unconditionally. People for whom I don't need to fight to stay in my life.

But the break up of course hurts. It hurts so so much and I'm crying my eyes out. Please, I really could use some loving words, Sis :(

Travelled across the world to study, thought I’d be perfectly fine alone. I guess the holidays just hits me hard cuz Ive always spent it with my siblings. Its abit difficult to share this with others because theyre so proud of me, and I dont want to worry them or let them down. But honestly, its been really fucking hard, and I feel like a burden. I miss the shit talking, and the eye rolling from my “horrible” puns to try to discourage me. But I know they secretly love it. Would be cool to hear that Ill be fine here, that Ill do great and be able to figure shit out on my own. That Im being ridiculous for even thinking this way.

So I'm 22m, if that matters. I was scrolling through her Instagram, and found a picture of the event, and it just helped to remind me of how single and lonely I am, and how that could have been me. I know this is whiny and dramatic, but every time I think I'm okay with my situation, God or fate or whatever throws something at me to remind me that I really am deeply unhappy, and I probably will be alone for the rest of my life. Idk, just wanted to get that out there. Thoughts and opinions are welcome. Thanks for listening.

Hey sis, your trans sister here. Body dysphoria's roughing me up. I know, having the body parts I do doesn't make me any less of a girl, but knowing that doesn't really help much with the pain in the here and now, and I'm not feeling comfortable in my skin at all. I actually feel like I wanna cry but can't. In short: I'm not having a very fun time.

Hugs please?

Just for purposes of self identification, I'm 22m and she is 27f. I know, it's pathetic that I'm still pining over girls in my 20s, but here i am.

We have been best friends for 2 years, and i have been crushing on her for almost that entire time. This is the best friendship either of us has ever had, and we both want it to continue.

But every time I think I'm over her, she says or does something to make me thing there's hope, and then says she isn't even remotely romantically attracted to me. It destroys me every time, and idk if i should keep trying, get over my crush on her and be content staying friends, or just let her go completely (i really, really, REALLY don't want to do that, it would seriously hurt her i believe).

I've grown up to be a bit of a chameleon, but she is one of very few people i just naturally feel myself around. It is such a relief, and I'm scared that i won't find that with another woman who will be romantically attracted to me. Maybe my purpose in this world is just to change myself to make my future gf/wife feel good and I'm not supposed to be myself ever again. My personality isn't great, so it wouldn't be a surprise if that was the case.

But goddamn is it hard to get over her. I just feel so inadequate and hideous and (don't tell my IRL family, lol) i really just want to hurt myself right now. Not seriously, just enough to remind me of what a terrible person i am, and how ugly and undesirable i am.

Anyway, this post has gone on long enough. Any advice or encouragement would be appreciated. Thanks for reading, internet sis!

Im 27 and my sisters are 21 and 29 this year and they are both pregnant and one has a baby at the moment and I found out I can't have kids and I have been having a hard time. Dealing with that fact and I don't want them to know im hurting and maybe my question is how long does it for the pain to go away for not being able to have kids and watch your sisters be mums. 😥 sorry if this doesn't make sense

Hey Sis.
I’m planning on telling my best friend that I’m a trans girl when I meet up with him in a few days. I understand that the idea of coming out is kind of scary and anxiety inducing, so can you give me advice on how to make doing this seem less scary?
Wish me luck. I honestly hope this goes well for me.

Hi Internet Sister,

My bio-sis promised me back in December that she would make it to my graduation this upcoming June and let me know last night that she won't make it due to a mandatory work conference. She asked if she could visit sometime in the summer or September to make up for it.

With any other person, I'd shake it off and say "no big deal, I'll see you in September :)", but with her it just stings. She is my half sister through our father, who passed away a few years back from cancer. Around his death we were closer than ever, but ever since I started grad school two years ago she's been harder and harder to get a hold of. Which has been especially tough because I've gone no-contact with my bio-mom (who is dying btw) due to her drug addiction and refusal to get treatment. I have few family members that I can trust and rely on and I considered her one of those few until I started grad school. I don't know what's going on, but for the last year and a half she's consistently not responded to my texts, not answered my calls, will set up phone dates and then will leave me hanging the night of. I talked to her about it in October of 2022 and she promised to be better, but it's honestly been more of the same.

I'd love to see her this summer or in September, but I can't take getting ditched any more.

To top it all off, she told me she couldn't come through a text instead of giving me a call. I haven't texted back. How do I maturely tell her what I'm feeling through a text?

Thanks for your advice,

Your internet sister

I want to make a box of stuff for my gf that will help her take good care of herself. Basic and essential stuff like tampons and her favorite drinks, and good snacks, but also “fun” or feel good items like a vibrator, bath bombs, scented candles etc. What would you ladies recommend I add to the care package? Thank you!

I grew up perpetually thinking that I am too much for other people. Too sensitive, too troublesome, too many needs, too vocal, too bossy, too ambitious. I don't know what to think anymore at some point in my adulthood, until I learnt that I had a real reason for being so inconvenient. I learnt that I have ADHD very very late, and by then I already had other problems brewing at the back burner.

Growing up not knowing that I have ADHD was traumatic. I didn't understand why I was impulsive, impatient and forgetful, and why I couldn't stick to a few passions throughout my whole life "just like other kids". I wasn't great at noticing cues so friendships never seemed to last. I got bullied a lot for just simply being who I am. I couldn't understand myself at all.

My parents were super important to me so I wanted them to see how much I struggle and acknowledge it at first, and eventually I gave up. They are the same people who thinks mental conditions is a personality problem. Newsflash - they had a huge part to play in my depression and anxiety. Thankfully those are well managed now.

I am the oldest, so expectations are put on me and I became the parent. I don't know what is the point of me mentioning this, but I guess this added to my grievances. Like what I said, I really wanted to someone reliable and loving to look up to, because I got so tired of being expected to deliver all the time while not getting my needs met or heard by the people I wanted to love.

It also sucks not knowing if I will ever to meet my "person". Doesn't have to be romantic. Just someone who sees me completely and love me for who I am. Someone who doesn't say that I am overexaggerating or overreacting over something totally valid. I look at all the quotes saying that we'll eventually meet our person, things will get better, create your own meaning, emotions doesn't have to mean anything blah blah blah I feel so done with.

Doing the work to sort all of these complexities out is tiring and I know I need to do it for my own sake. Ironically, I also know I don't have to fix them. I just have to work these for me, in the most productive way possible.

By this point, it must be absurd to you that I am not asking for an advice or a solution. Because again, I just want someone to sit by me and don't mind being around me for a while. That's my deepest yearning and today this was especially strong.

I have plenty of space beside me and prepared tea enough to spill, so if you can, please sit by me today.