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i need to know something about you guys, When sexually aroused, do you feel any pain in the hip nerves? maybe numbness? because i experience this these days for the past months. i really don't know what to do..

Hello, I'm about to have major back surgery. Vertebrae replacement surgery on L1. I'm really nervous! My Nero surgeon said it's very painful and it has a long recovery time. Has anyone here ever had this procedure? I have questions.

Twomad Was Alone - Psychiatrist Analysis, Andrew van der Vaart, MD, PhD

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IqdA8w9Ak7I

Saw this video on lack of integration of the mind, and found it very interesting, my pain does this. I've never found a way to explain it to any of my doctors, especially since being at their office snaps me out of it temporarily.

I've tried to call it dissociation but this might be more in line

Anyone else?

I feel like garbage nauseous have both shoulders ac joint pain, Neck stenosis Lumbar Stenosis 17 years in pain and i don't know what to do. pcp doctor gave buprenorphine/Subutex since 2022- sublocade shot mental health what's causing all this pin pain is causing me pain. this is no life

48f with severe osteoarthritis in knees, hips, and lower back with a side helping of fibromyalgia. I saw my orthopedist today and she’s referring me for double knee replacement, but the doctor I have to see for the surgery has no availability for the next two or three months. She told me today she won’t give me anything stronger than prescription Naproxen nor will she refer me to pain management. Not because she doesn’t think I need pain meds, but because I’ll need them after surgery and if I take them now I’ll build up a tolerance. Does that make sense? And am I really in danger of building that much of a tolerance between now and then that I should just continue to be in constant pain? Because the knee replacements aren’t going to fix my hips and back. That’s a whole separate issue to be addressed down the road. So, at what point am I going to be in enough pain for them to actually try and help me? My quality of life is for shit. I don’t want to take meds to get high. I just want to be able to walk around my house or sit in a chair or sleep in a bed without wanting to cry from the pain. What does it take for them to get that?

Hello! I stumbled on a paper about pain med studies showing certain ones causing endocrine issues. It was broken out by men, woman, post-menopausal women. A bit strange that different meds effected hormones so differently depending on patient stats listed, for same meds. They tested opiates and things like gabapentin as well. Tramadol did nothing to men, but was bad for post-menopausal women, as was gabapentin. Then I did a quick search and more serious issues beyond hormones and the endocrine system came up for pain meds (I then searched Tramadol as I am on it...which I had not, and stopped reading. I also take gabapentin. Female, post-menopausal).

I apologize I can't link the paper here: it is on my phone buried in a zillion open tabs, which is who I stumbled on it. I must have pulled it up many years ago before Tramadol but taking Gabapentin OR at start of Tramadol when I thought I wasn't going to to be on it long term. I don't really know what to do... Does anyone know about this too? What have you been advised? Apologies this is so vague and without the paper. I wanted to first see if anyone knew anything who are on these meds or have been, or elected to not be... Men were effected by the oxy thing that other, not Tramadol or Gabapentin. Pre-menopausal women, the pic wasn't good either for Tramadol and Gabapentin, but for different reasons (reproduction interruption, difficulties).
Thank you all, I appreciate each of you.

Made a meme for us bc this is what comes to mind when it gets bad lol

Iv done my back in again. As long as I’m sensible, and don’t carry anything heavy, my back is normally okay. But my mum had a fall two weeks ago and broke some ribs. So Iv been helping her, been taking her shopping and helping around her house in between me working. I shouldn’t have took that heavy bag, but there was no one else. My mum suffers from chronic pain, and this fall has done her no favours. Iv been lying to my mum and telling her my pain levels are low and I’m absolutely fine. But I’m in agony. She needs me though so I’m gonna keep pretending I’m okay. Just wish I could sleep. I’m working on no sleep due to the pain.

I picked up a 3-month script for a muscle relaxer today (Tizanidine) from CVS. At 3 pills a day, it’s a fairly large script - 270 pills. I ran out suspiciously early the last two quarters despite taking it as prescribed, so when I picked up this script I took it straight home and counted. (This was my first mistake, I should have counted it in the pharmacy but I figured it’s 270 pills and there was a line behind me, I didn’t want to be a jerk. Of course as usual politeness screwed me.)

When I got home and counted there were only 245 pills. The bottle says 270, the script label says 270, but there’s only 245. I counted 3 times. It took forever but I got the same number every time. By the time I finished counting and called the pharmacy, it was close to closing time…and their ridiculously horrible automated system put me through a multitude of questions before it sent me to the pharmacy line, where the virtual assistant promptly told me they were closed and disconnected the call. No option to leave a message (seriously CVS’ phone line is just, the absolute worst).

I’m going to call when they open tomorrow, but I wanted to see if anyone had advice for how to handle this situation. This is not a controlled med, it’s just a muscle relaxer. Is there any innocent reason why I would be missing pills multiple scripts in a row? I can’t confirm the scripts were incomplete for the previous two, I can only base it on when I ran out, which was about a week early. I wasn’t told that they didn’t have enough pills, and the few times I’ve encountered that the actual number of pills has been on the label. I am very confused and frustrated.

Thanks in advance to all my fellow Chronic Pain Palz™!

For those of you with a medical marijuana card was it hard to get? Do you feel it helps in any way? Is it worth trying to get? Im just now trying to figure out the process. Im really confused on the one aspect of do you need a referral just to see the doctor that would prescribe it? Or can I just make an appointment and bring medical documentation of conditions?

I know different states have different laws. Im in Florida and was really hoping that it was going to become legal. That didn't happen and now im unsure how to proceed.

Any kind of advice would be appreciated.

So I suffer from Aquagenic Pruritus and my dermatologist kinda just went with stuck with it until they figure out why i have it (blood tests normal, creams and medicine is useless) Does anyone else have this and know of anything else we should be looking into? So far we are looking at ehlers danlos as I also have hypermobility and stretchy skin. Any advice? Just feeling lonely and lost. (And when its flared up its almost unbearable.) (New to reddit apologies if this is not allowed pr in the wrong place)

Has anyone experienced? Good- bad?

I’ve been dealing with this pressure from the upper portion of my back to the indent spot on my head and it works its way to my face. I drew where the pressure is. It feels like a sinus headache but without the sharp pain the eye? i usually get sinus headaches so i know the difference but this feels purely structural. My jaw is not in pain, and i’ve never experienced locking but i do have clicking sounds when i open wide. The pressure feels like it lingers to my jaw a bit so i feel the need to push my tongue up for relief. I also feel lightheaded even when im lying down, esp lying on my stomach.

I got CT scans for my head a week ago and was cleared for rhinitis and chronic sinusitis which was a big mental setback since i thought my constant sinus inflammation and congestion was sinusitis. I’m trying to get seen by an ENT for this and for my eustachian tube dysfunction but I feel hopeless for a long term solution. I haven’t been diagnosed with anything and i’m skeptical of what it could be. I don’t wanna further damage any tissue/muscle/nerve so i’ve been holding off on stretching. Any insight?

Um I don't know where to start and forgive me if you've seen messages like this. I just wanna vent about it I guess. Nerve pain has put me in my body and head like nothing else and I'm just looking for other people who have struggled. My story doesn't sound as drastic but if someone else has gone through something similar it'd be nice to just get advice. Back in September I went to see Linkin Park at Barclays Center and it was my first time seeing them ever and the millennial child in me went HARD. Headbanging all night, I also play live music for a living, bass and guitar and I sing so I'm active in the neck/trapezius and shoulder area already. For years, Im 35, been playing since 13 so my shoulders are already tired, plus I lift weights a lot. I stupidly went to the gym the next day for 4 days in a row and watched all my numbers plummet. Even then the pain was bad but manageable. It felt like "2 more weeks of pain) so I stopped everything in regards to exercise in hope that would help. A month passes it's slightly better but my joints start to ache from inactivity and I think "maybe you can lift, go light and use cables" sometimes I've recovered enough and the gym makes me feel better. BIG MISTAKE. I was careful but clearly an idiot because since then the pain that was a 3 became an 8.5. For 24 hours a day, sleep damn near impossible without loads of aspirin and boswellia oil on my neck. I found a PT and started this week but it's 400$ a session in Manhattan and it's just the worst time ya know. It's cold so my neck tightens, holiday season is coming up and I'm a freelance musician who really can't afford 800$ a week for PT. All I wanna hear is that, there's an end in sight and that I won't have searing pain in my neck, scapula and shoulder and bicep and tingling in my hand. So I can get back to making music without pain and re-injuring myself. Sorry if this was long and over indulgent. Just wanted to get this out of my head instead of complaining to my roommates

I stockpile what I might need during flare- ups, right in my bed at arms reach. I keep 2 large heating pads, a shoe box with an array of otc and a few expired pain meds family members have handed down. Ginger ale cans, water bottles, chargers, laptops, phones, work golders, nausea meds, feminin care products, make-up remover wipes, clorox wipes, everything ginger you can buy, snacks I've done this for decades, even before I realized what chronic pain was. It has frustrated boyfriends, and now my husband. My bed looks like an embarassing mess always, even when I try to use cute organizers.

I'm in bed like this for 2-3 days monthly and also at least a day each week.

Fybromyalgia, Adenomyosis, Endometriosis, full body myofascial pain, hyperprolactinoma...anxiety and depression I have hid well...

It's hard for him, even with our king size bed, to have to toss things around so he can go to bed at night. He is an excellent support filled with love and care for me, but his frustration and my embarassment are growing.

What's the lesser evil, askimg him to get me things all the time? Or living like this?

Not even at a point where I want to talk about how I've let my end of household duties go...

How do you manage? Am I just a total pig?

Sorry if this feels off topic but why? Does this come from an religious moral or simply not being to put yourself in a situation of despair and torture. I get there are problems with some things from the Canada government. All countries should be able to provide adequate healthcare, pain relief and dedicated Drs but this is not the case for the majority of the world so yeah I think people should be able to have a say, terminal disease specially now because drs are reluctant giving opioids even to those patients which is absurd and media/population are silent about that but demonize everything related to the subject based on a couple of incidents.

I don’t believe in a traditional God. I believe in the universe, that all things are connected, that we are the product of our environments (and genetics). I don’t believe in fate, in a ruler/ creator who decides everything, who made us to be cruel or really made us to be anything. I dont even really know if I think of it as a creator. My point is, I dont believe in the Christian God.

So how come im so angry at this idea of god that I don’t believe in. I don’t believe in anything that is causing my pain, that causes anyone pleasure or pain. Yet I am so angry at him. Why would he do this to me? Why does he want to torment me? Why am I forced to live like this?

My aunt keeps telling me I should take refuge in God. I understand why she says it, its what got her through her physical pain. But I can’t do that. I can’t.

My Dad tells me I should get angry and use that to push me towards recovery. Yet even though I am so mad at god, overall I just feel grief and pain. When it comes time to do things, which I do, all I feel is loss. Everyone tells me to remain positive because I am becoming more functional, but I can’t. All I feel is misery.

Maybe I want someone to blame, idk. Im just so tired.

I (26M) was diagnosed with Mild-Moderate Foraminal Stenosis in the C6 region. I have bone Osteophytes on my foramina. I have had constant arm and neck pain since August and I am so sick and tired of it. I had an accident back in 2020 where I dropped something heavy on my head, causing my neck to bend and since then have been in and out of the hospital. I get Migraines, I have constant arm pain, and I can't move my neck freely. The majority of my pain is in my shoulder. I had a steroid injection 3 months ago and have another coming up in a few days.

I work as an electrician apprentice and have no background in anything else. I am currently off work due to pain since August. I am terrified as I have not a fucking clue on what to do if I can't continue this trade. I hope I can at least get my license but that is still a few years away.

My daily life sucks as I can't stand for long periods of time. I am truly lost. I am grateful I have such a supportive wife but this pain is making my life a living hell.

he still ordered MRIs for my knees, thankfully. he seemed stumped cause he examined my knees and said they didn’t feel like they weren’t tracking and the x rays looked normal. but i told him how much this has been impacting my daily life. i can’t go on walks anymore, i can’t stand for very long, i go up the stairs one at a time. so he said he was ordering the MRIs due to how much its affecting me

idk….if i was a doctor, i’d want to know why a 24 year old is having knee problems that she needs hydrocodone for. why aren’t these doctors motivated enough to help??

Hi yall, this is my second winter with Chronic Pain. Last winter was miserable. I felt relief in the late summer and fall. But now that’s it’s cold outside I just wanna lay around all day and that makes my pain kick up. I know I need to be more mobile to help this so any tips there or dealing w chronic pain in the winter in general would be helpful.

Talk as in telling her about my chronic pain and another condition. I know it’ll be OK it’s just really scary.

24 M Hey all, for the past 3 weeks I've suffered from pain in both my temples, jaw/teeth, scalp, around the face & sometimes in my neck. I was on amitriptyline at first which helped great but then it just stopped working entirely. They still don't know what's wrong with me or why I'm getting said pain. It's 24/7 and rarely ever has a time where it feels ok.

I will mention that around the time this started I also started getting yellow mucus which has stopped about a week ago. I have no symptoms of sinusitus besides this pain. Im also on day 2 of going cold turkey on weed/thc as I'm currently trying everything to see if i can find the culprit. I also will mention that I have fibromlygia but it has never came out like this before. Id say the only time I feel any relief is from pain meds like ibruoefen. Any advice on what's causing this pain? Thanks.

On day 4 of 7 taking 15mg of meloxicam. Is it okay to drink alcohol on it or not?

Self wallowing post

I’m allergic to advil and aspirin. I can only have Tylenol which barely takes the edge off. The pain management clinic is so over extended that it’s months behind before I can even be out on the waitlist. The stack of referrals is taking months to go through. I’m an Indian healthcare patient and so it’s limited. I’ve quit smoking weed which was the only time I felt normal and I miss being without pain for two hours at a time. I miss not hating my lemon of a body and now my husband doesn’t want me to smoke again. He thinks I’m better off without it but dear god it hurts sometimes. I’m in constant never ending pain which spikes frequently. The only difference is what level of pain I am at the moment but it’s always there. I feel so torn and stuck so I’m laying in bed but it’s just wallowing at this point like this post.

My partner has a lot of mental health issues, and has behaved in verbally and emotionally abusive ways throughout most of our 4-year relationship. He has ADHD, PTSD, and some symptoms of BPD (although not diagnosed). This causes him to have terrible rage and impulse control problems which he hasn't managed to control adequately, and frequently picks fights with me over absolutely nothing (leaving a dish in the sink, not finishing my dinner, accusing me of things I didn't do, not giving him enough attention, etc), which often escalate to shouting/yelling, name-calling, tantrums, and throwing things. It takes me days to recover from these episodes, and at this point I am unsure if he will ever stop doing it. I am physically and mentally exhausted, and we have been on the verge of breaking up many times (often, he "dumps" me or threatens to dump me in a fit of rage). Each time he has these terrible episodes, he apologizes afterward and says I don't deserve to be treated this way, and he promises he will work to improve his anger management and to treat me better. He will treat me extremely well for awhile (be extra affectionate and complimentary, act in all the kind ways I want, do all the cooking/cleaning, etc), then things will be back to "normal", then eventually he'll have another outburst. These outbursts generally happen every few weeks or months, and they depend on his mental state/agitation level, which I have zero control over.

When he's not full of rage/angry, he's seriously the sweetest person. Extremely kind, supportive, gives me compliments, is my best friend, we relate to each other on many issues, we see eye-to-eye on a lot of things, he's loyal, and he otherwise has a solid moral compass. One of the biggest things is that he loves me unconditionally despite my chronic health issues, which is a huge source of insecurity for me (all the other men I've dated or been in relationships in the past eventually left me because they didn't want to be with someone who had chronic health issues). Despite all the positive aspects of our relationship, I am seriously considering whether I can handle continuing a relationship with someone who continues to have these patterns.

I am terrified about the possibility of ending our relationship. I feel like I am too old and have too many chronic health problems to be dateable. I feel like if I end this relationship, every other relationship I'll ever have will eventually end as the previous ones have, because biologically speaking, men ultimately want young, healthy women. I am not a model but I'm not terrible looking...I'm slender, I take care of myself, I've been told I am attractive. In the past, men have found me attractive, but not enough to stay with due to my chronic health problems. I've been cheated on, ghosted, and dumped so many times. I am unsure of whether I want a future with my partner due to his issues, even though I deeply love him (and ending things would absolutely break my heart). At the same time, I don't feel very optimistic about my dating prospects considering my age and health conditions.

I'm wondering if anyone could give me some perspectives, or share about dating success for women 30+ who have chronic health issues?

Mayo has been scheduled for RF Ablation on my C4-5 and C5-6 on 12/16 and 12/17. A year ago I scheduled a tattoo appt for my daughter and I for her 18th bday on 12/14. The tattoo will be on the lower part of my bicep so not near the area for ablation. I could use transderm on it during the procedure incase they rub me against something with germs. I will be awake thru it all. I am getting the tattoo at my normal place that is very clean and I have never had any healing or infection issues from there and I have more than a few already - about 40hrs of inking in the past few years. I have gotten Botox, occipital nerve block and trigger point injections right before and after having new tattoos but I don’t know if I should consider the RF ablation differently - any advice? Do I cancel my tattoo and crush my kids bday wish or do it and keep it clean and go for it?

So, I've been battling what I've thought/been told are muscular issues causing tightness, and pain in my traps, neck, and the back of my skull that creates some pretty brutal headaches.

Been getting semi regular massages for years but nothing has really improved. This last therapist I saw said it was a nerve issue. Kinda made sense considering when I get massages, certain areas like my rotators produce extreme pain with barely any pressure.

Now, grain of salt time, the massage therapist is also a chiropractor, "natural medicine" practitioner, and a few other woo woo bullshit practices, so maybe he's just a quack.

Is anyone familiar with any nerve conditions that could be causing this?

Hi, I am looking to see if anyone knows of a reputable and affordable cleaning service. Between school, chronic illness flairs, and all the other stuff I deal with my small 1 bedroom apartment has been very neglected. Its very overwhelming and doesn’t help with my other issues. If I take the few days off that I have and clean as much as I can I completely burn myself out and end up not being able to move around much the week after. That obviously interferes with school and stuff too. just looking for option.