These are them. I can't wait for them to get here, and I got the 2nd to last pair in my size.

Also I recieved a call that my dress arrived late last night. What an awesome morning.

So, I'm getting married in May next year. I'm letting my bridesmaids more or less decide what we do for a hen party (or Bachelorette party as you call it in the states!).

But, I would like to suggest a few ideas.

Inspire me (please)!

Are guests expected to give a wedding gift if they're attending a destination wedding? We're going to one in Punta Cana. My hubby is in the wedding so we're expected to go for the whole week. This is after an engagement party, destination bachelor party, and shower.

Hi everybody,

This forum has been such a great wealth of information. I recently got engaged this past month and we're deciding the places for the wedding. So the situation is that my fiancee is from Thailand and she has a lot of family and friends there. Also, my grandparents are in Taiwan and would not be able to travel all the way to California due to their health. However, they can make the three hour airplane trip to Thailand. So we decided to have the wedding in Bangkok. I'm born here so I have a lot of friends here. That leads me to a couple of questions:

1. Since we're having it in Bangkok, I would say a good majority of my friends will not be able to make it due to financial reasons. Would it be ok to have some sort of send off party before the wedding or a reception after we come back to California?

2. Also, if it is ok, should I send out wedding invitations for the wedding in Bangkok first and then invite the people who don't RSVP to the other parties? So I was reading some forums and I read that the send off party or reception after should only be for guests who can't attend the destination wedding.

3. Is there any type of itinerary for a send off party or reception? I was talking with my fiancee about it and she wasn't sure if it's supposed to be like another wedding. I wanted to get some more ideas.

Thanks in advance for any advice or suggestions.

Hi all, this may have already cropped up but I'm new here so I thought I would ask the question.

All of the weddings that I have been to with children under the age of 10 in attendance have been ruined (or rather, if it was me up there I feel it would have been ruined) because children have either been singing, crying, talking or sometimes walking up and down the aisle, and even right up to the couple tying the knot and totally interrupting what is going on. I understand that some people find this cute and things, but I feel it detracts from what you are there for!

I went to a wedding recently and I heard none of the vows because a mother wouldn't take her wailing son out of the church. I was three rows from the front so I'm sure nobody else heard them either.

I understand that it is up to the parent to decide when is the time to vacate the premises, but I think it is unfair for them to have to miss out on the celebration, and also unfair on the other guests in attendance to have to wait for the parent to make that decision.

We are only able to afford a small wedding, so we would like all of our guests to be as much a part of all of it as they would like to be; without having to worry about leaving to tend to a child, not drinking too much and not staying out late.

I know this may sound selfish but I'm really concerned that if we invite children to our wedding this will be on my mind all day. My niece and nephew are part of the bridal party and will be in attendance, my niece will be 12 and my nephew 10 so I feel they will be old enough to understand what is going on and be mature - but I don't want people to feel like I have got double standards.

So, had anyone else had this dilemma, and how did you politely let people know that children are not invited?

Tl;dr How do you tell people you don't want children at your wedding?

This happened to us the past weekend. We would never do this, no matter the situation. So I'm just wondering if any of you would and why?

Getting married in just about 8 months! I've picked the venue (which includes the food), booked a photographer, and picked the officiant. What else, if anything, should I be doing in the next month or so? Dress, DJ, Invites, etc. I have no idea what the 'proper' time is to do all this stuff.

Any suggestions?

Hi All! We have decided to go forward with our merger with /r/wedding. Please be sure to subscribe to that subreddit as this one will no longer be active as of Sunday, August 17.

Hi all, My wedding is this upcoming Saturday (8/16/14) and I would super appreciate anyone to give feedback on my vows.

---VOWS---

I, (groom), take you, (bride), to be my lawfully wedded nugget, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.

While writing my vows, I asked myself “What is marriage?” To me, marriage is the creation of a new family. (bride), you are the only one I can imagine creating a family with. My vows are my promises to our new family.

I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad. I promise to encourage us to try new things, and to always vaguely follow a recipe when I cook dinner. I promise to adore every nose scrunch, every silly face, every sneeze aimed and every drool bestowed. I promise to work hard to make tomorrow better than today so that the best days are never behind us. I promise to never forget to hold hands, to wink, to pinch, and to ogle. I promise to always be there for you, as your advocate, your confidant, and your partner. I promise to respect and honor you in every way I know how, and learn new ways as they come. Above all, I promise to love you. I promise to love you today and tomorrow, when you are sad or happy, angry or peaceful, anxious or relaxed. I will love you at all times because I am in love with you.

(bride), I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and as a part of my heart. Let it be a reminder of how much I love you, not only on this day, but on every single day of your life.

---END VOWS---

Thanks!!

SO and I aren't really religious and we want to move away from things like Corinthians. Any suggestions? Thanks!

My sister fell in love with these shoes called nina bryyce crystal ivory. We found one store that sold them but they were a size too small. If anyone knows anyway I can find these shoes in an 8 it would be greatly appreciated!

Hi! I've been working on my maid of honor speech for a wedding that's this weekend.

I'd love to hear your advice/suggestions if any of you don't mind having a look at what I have so far. I have a terrible fear of public speaking so this should be interesting. Haha Thank you guys in advance for you help!

------- SPEECH---------

For those of you who don’t know me, I’m nikidding, BRIDE’s friend.

BRIDE, it is an honor to stand by you on this profound occasion. To be completely honest, I was quite surprised when you asked me to be part of your bridal party, especially giving me the position of matron of honor. I’m late to everything, I’m disorganized and I can hardly keep track of my official duties that I have in real life. So when I say it is a huge honor to be here, it really truly is. Thank you for trusting me in spite of myself.

BRIDE would probably like for me to share how our lives together have included so much travel, that when drawn out, probably resemble a city map, intersecting at some points with a lot of parallel streets. And though I like this part about us, I think it’s important to dig a little deeper than the obvious.

In the 6 and a half years I’ve known BRIDE, our friendship made the most sense last March when I came to visit. I finally learned that BRIDE admired the Olsen twins as much as I did growing up and we both made major life decisions based on what our precious role models did.

For those of you who don’t know the Olsen twins, they were the ones who played the cute little babies in Full House. They later created a series of straight to VHS movies where they traveled to exotic locations, got into some sort of innocent mischief, and of course, met a local boy and lived happily ever after.

So BRIDE and I were on our own Olsen-inspired adventures. We traveled around the world. Got into innocent mischief, but sadly an exotic boy wasn’t written into our scripts. (Should I just focus on how bride traveled around the world and take out "Bride and I")

No matter how far BRIDE traveled from home, she never found a boy who had captured her interest quite like that local hottie GROOM from Somewhere High School.

It turns out, she didn’t have to travel too far from home to live out her teen fantasy of a hot teen romance that developed into her happily ever after.

And so I will leave you with a quote.

“Everywhere you look, everywhere you go There's a heart, a hand to hold on to”

(pause)

I lifted that directly from the Full House theme song.

Back to the celebration at hand. To BRIDE and GROOM and your happily ever after.

I bought my girlfriend an engagement ring and I'm going to give it to her next week. Her mom told me she wears a stock size, but I fear that it will be too big. We're going to Vegas and I want her to be able to wear it while we're there, and if we need to have it resized when we get home so be it.

What can I buy before we go to ensure that it will fit her so that she can wear it all week. I don't think it all wil be too small so that's no problem.

So I did the whole online officiating thing and have performed two ceremonies for my friends. I was going to do one for another friend of mine later this year but they instead had a court house wedding with only very immediate family in attendance.

That was in early June. However, at the end of the month they are renting out a space for a party with family and friends in a pretty cool garden. They have asked me to do something short and sweet, non-religious, so that those who weren't at the courthouse can still see the "marriage" take place.

So any advice? Has anybody ever attended a post-wedding party with a brief ceremony? Would you call out the fact that they are already married or treat it as if this is the actual wedding ceremony?

Any and all help is appreciated. Thank you.

My partner and I just became engaged and now the daunting task of planning a wedding for as cheap as possible without sacrificing elegance. We want to have a cocktail wedding and we are both vegetarian and want our wedding to be vegetarian too... I have looked at caterers online and it's so expensive and the vegetarian options are soon boring and limited. My finance is determined we can do all our own finger food for the big day... But I'm not convinced it wouldn't be too stressful. By the way we will only have about 50 guests. Has anyone else ever done this? Or are you in the process of doing it? I would love to hear your stories of success (or failure). Thank you

Hi there Weddit,

Have any of you any good suggestions for gifts for Dads? We want to present the Mums with a bouquet of flowers before the meal, after the speeches, to say thanks for being awesome. It would be a pity to leave the Dads out. One doesn't drink, so a nice bottle of scotch is out. Any other interesting ideas?

Thanks!

My gf and I have been dating for a year and a half. Both of us in our early 20's. Neither of us find any meaning in marriage other than legal perks. But I've heard stories recently where a person dies and their lover can't dictate anything about the funeral or even see their soul mate on their death bed.

We aren't religious in any sense of the word but our families are. If she were to pass, I can see them taking control of the situation and not honoring her memory or vise versa for me. Thinking of this happening to me or her is unbearable so I want to get married. Even if it's only to tie us together in the eyes of the law.

I know you don't understand anything about our relationship but some vague ideas that I can use as framework for a proposal would be greatly appreciated.

TL;DR: Need great proposal advice.

Hello! I'm Adrienna and I own a bridal boutique in Savannah, Georgia! Our store specializes in wedding dresses handmade in the USA, for the quirky + creative bride. I've worked in bridal, from corporate chains to small boutiques, for the past 4 years, and opened my own salon with a wedding planner friend in January! I can't wait to answer any questions you may have!

My husband and I are wedding planners that specialize in resort and destination weddings. We have been voted the "Number 1 Destination Wedding Planner in Texas" for the last 3 years in a row. Our weddings have been featured in nearly 50 wedding blogs, publications, and wedding related websites.

We are also speakers at a number of wedding industry related events.

I'm happy to answer any questions you may have about planning a wedding.

Thanks for your questions and responses! I've been DJing weddings full-time since 2008. I've DJed an average of 90 weddings per year, many years I've DJed over 100 weddings. I've seen some crazy things, but most of all, I've seen LOVE! Ask me anything, I'll be here until 1PM CST, after that I'll be responding to any questions as soon as possible.

Update: I'm leaving for now to attend meetings with clients. If you have any more questions send them my way and I will answer them as soon as I can.

I (26F) have been in a LDR with my boyfriend (40M) for almost a year now. This past May, we got engaged, and after he came down real quick for the 4th of July, we immediately started planning for a week-long stay down here in Florida (where I live). We plan on visiting Sanibel Island for a night, going to the aquarium in Tampa, and possibly doing something in Orlando.

Here's where we had sort of a miscommunication. I nonchalantly joked/was semi-serious about eloping in Sanibel. He wrote back "Sure!" So I just ran with that and realized that I would like to have my immediate family present, at least to have someone take our picture on our wedding day. So I started planning for going to the court house in my home town, having some lunch with the clan, and THEN driving to Sanibel.

Well the next time I talked to him, I was talking about a dress, hair, nails, our time schedule, etc. That's when he told me that he wasn't so sure about doing it in my town. He doesn't have a great relationship with his mom (and next to none with his dad). He said that if she found out that we had gotten married, and my whole family had been there, she would be pissed. He will never hear the end of it.

I tried reasoning with him - we can make it a not-so-big thing. I won't wear a white dress, he can wear a Hawaiian/Cuban shirt with nice pants, and we will have just one picture taken, with no family members in it. Then he said "I just don't want that to be the only reason I come down." That kinda confuses me. If anyone can help me figure that one out, that would be much appreciated.

Anyway he said he stills wants to make it happen, but only if we can "work it in". As in he doesn't want his whole visit to revolve around it? Very perplexing. That man is so complicated sometimes. My main question is, how does the whole court house thing work? I know all the things I need to bring and stuff. But how exactly does it go down?

Hello /r/weddings, Fred here to answer all of your wedding cake questions... or well anything for that matter. It's an AMA after all.

We run an independent, licensed bakery in North Florida, where we bake an average of 200 wedding cakes a year. My wife Yeni, is the main cake artist (who I'll bring in as needed) and we're a true family run bakery.

Some of Yeni's cakes have been featured on Weddings Illustrated, Cake Wrecks (Sunday Sweets Edition), The Cake Blog, Cake Central Magazine, Style me Pretty, Every Little Detail, Hostess with the Mostess, and others that I just can't think of off the top of my head.

Here's some examples of our work: Imgur gallery

We also make other items other than just cakes... but we LOVE helping to celebrate weddings.

AMA!

Update: So looks like I am early (darn time zone conversion)... so I'll just stay here longer. =)

Update2: Been about an hour since the last question... I will be running some deliveries and answering your questions as I check in throughout the day. Keep them coming! It's been an absolutely wonderful experience talking you you.

My name is Cassie and I am a catering and event coordinator for a hotel ballroom that holds up to 500 people. I have worked in the wedding industry for 6 years. I have previously worked as a day-of assistant wedding coordinator, and I have a degree in Hospitality Management emphasizing Event and Conference Planning.

I'm here to answer any questions you might have about reception venues, catering, hotel room blocks, and any other questions you might have!

And, I totally support him.

Yes, I'm a woman and he's a man and we're totally heterosexual couple.

We recently came across some dresses and we both fell in love with them. They're from a Korean designer who kinda does a fusion of traditional and modern. We're Americans but we travel to Korea often; we love it and have lots of Korean friends etc. (and love Korean fashion) and try to work it into our lives. We came across the designer because I got a different dress made (another fusion style) on our recent trip there.

And then we saw the dresses and were both blown away. Knowing we'll get married some time next year, I immediately wanted to wear one and my fiance loved the idea.

This is the dress I want to wear (scroll down for more pics)

After a few days, having discussed it a bit, the conversation turned to what my fiance should wear. It was at that point that he sheepishly admitted that he wishes he could wear a dress like that, too, because it's so beautiful. At first I just chuckled because I thought he was joking, but then he told me that if it were up to him, he would wear it. I could tell he was being serious.

I felt really sympathetic. I get to wear what I want, so why can't he? He's played around with crossdressing a bit before in private and I don't have much issue with some gender bending. Plus, it is a really beautiful dress.

So, frankly, I support him. He wants to wear it, so why not? We've talked about it a few times over the past few months and his feelings haven't changed a bit.

Fortunately, our friends and families are pretty progressive, though I'm sure some bit of a stir will be caused to some degree, of course. We're not going to have a huge wedding, but it won't be tiny either.

So our concern is what others will think. and what impact it will have on the wedding. I'm sure no one will cause a scene, but this is obviously going to have some kind of impact.

I asked my husband what he thinks about wearing a tux/suit rather than the dress and he said he wouldn't be very happy about it. And, especially as time goes on, I think I'd rather see him wear the dress. It's both because it makes him happy and I think he'll be gorgeous (not just in my mind-I think he can actually look beautiful in it). Another plus is that he's a fairly slim guy (not too hairy, rugged etc., too), so he'll fit into it fine and won't look crazy out of place.

We've also thought that if he does wear it, he'd certainly be prepped for it; he won't just throw on a dress. Body hair will be removed (fortunately he doesn't have a lot). He won't cut his hair before the wedding (it's already rather long for a man) and his hair will be styled and possibly colored. He will also wear full makeup and nails. (I'm thinking we'll give him a little insert support in the bust, too).

He's having a hard time deciding between dresses. Considering we go ahead with this and he wears one, which one would suggest? (especially considering I'll be wearing the white one linked above; perhaps the should complement each other).

#1 ivory http://moranbp.com/front/php/product.php?product_no=1207&main_cate_no=89&display_group=1

#2 pink http://moranbp.com/front/php/product.php?product_no=860&main_cate_no=89&display_group=1

Scroll down for more pics

We both like how the model has her makeup and hair and that may be inspiration for my husband's hair and makeup. What do you think?

Another thing is veils. I think it'd be sweet to have matching veils; not sure whether they should be half-length like the model is wearing in the link with my white dress, or full length like in the ivory dress my fiance is considering. Thought?

Finally, there's the bolero (shrug). We both think it would be really nice if ours matched. I'd love to get the one that's being worn by the model in the link of my white dress here it is again; scroll down to see it better. I really like the full front coverage and long sleeves; I think it looks very pure and bridal. What do you think? Think it would look good if we had matching ones? (fiance thinks it's pretty, too). We'd probably wear them during the ceremony and then take them off.

I would love any insight into both the situation surrounding this (husband wearing a dress and makeup, hair etc.) as well as insights into the dresses themselves.

Thank you!

edit: If he does it, think it'd be better to go full-on and do the makeup and hair etc., or just the dress?

edit part 2: We will be letting people know ahead of time (probably just telling them when we talk to them). We don't want to shock people.

Hey everyone! My name is Dave and together with my wife I run a wedding photography business in Western Canada. We have been photographing weddings full time for 5 years, and have shot on three continents and photographed around 150 weddings.

/u/Imabigdiva asked me to run an AMA for you guys today and I'll happily answer any questions you have about wedding photography or anything else I can answer about weddings.

Here is a small sample of our work, so you can get an idea of what we're all about:

Engagement work

Wedding work

So ask away, and I'll do my best to answer anything you can throw at me. And if I don't know the answer, I'll just ask my wife! :)

** UPDATE **

Ok it's almost 5pm mountain so I'm not going to be right at my computer any more for the rest of the day. That being said, if you ask a question here today, tomorrow or a month from now I will do my absolute best to answer it!

/u/kaleidoscope-eyes over at /r/wedding has proposed a merger of our two subs. The mods here would become mods there, we would take our current posting schedule there, etc. This post is for discussion of the pros and cons of that idea, and your general opinion.

Yay or nay, and why?

i am (22) recent graduate and my close friend also (22) is getting married tomorrow to his (18) fiance. I want to give them some cash because that is probably the most practical thing for them. Its a small wedding (kind of last minute) and i was thinking of giving them 50$ but i dont know if that too little for a wedding?