This is my first post so please be kind!

My Husband and I got married two months ago, and life has been great. Our wedding felt strange because there was some tension between my side of the family and my husbands side of the family. We had the wedding reception in my now In-Laws backyard, and I think it made my parents feel weird or like they didn't want to overstep due to it being at someone else's home. My In-Laws were very involved in helping with the wedding, whereas my parents were not. The tension between families at the rehearsal dinner and wedding/wedding reception was really off-putting.

Is this normal? I feel like it's not uncommon for there to be tension between In-Laws, but it's extremely uncomfortable to experience first hand. If anyone has gone through something similar, will it be this way for the rest of our life? Tension between sides of the family? It makes me worry for random life events in the future like holidays, or our children's birth/birthdays. (also note that each family love the both of us very much, and support our marriage 100%)

My Husband and I got married this year and I am working on our first married Christmas card. I chose not to change my last name. In the template we picked it says “The Huangs 2024” on the bottom. I’m not sure how to adjust it for us, if I should do The (husband’s last name), our first names or just leave it blank. I’ve attached the template as an example. Any feedback is appreciated!

I ‘44F’ just found out that for the first two years of dating my husband ‘44M’ was seeing another woman and being intimate with her. He ended it after two years of seeing me while he dated her, and I had no idea. We started dating in 2016 and he ended it with her end of 2018. We married in 2022 and I literally just found out by finding physical evidence and he told me “most” of the story.

Tl:dr If this was you, how would you feel and what would you do?

Was it annoying people around asked you about your wedding or it's just normal for you.

Is it normal to feel really down after getting married? Depression started less than a week after our big day. I feel hopeless and like there's a big wall between us. Our wedding was beautiful. We waited 20 years to be together. Our background story is beautiful and we really love each other. Maybe reality has set in. We're having some financial trouble and our intimacy is lacking. I'm feeling overwhelmed. Everything feels like a problem. Does this shake off after a while?

My gf, future fiance, and I are buying our first home (VA Loan). Proposal is within the next 6-8 months and we are going to be ELOPING!!! in 2026 the latest. We don't want kids, and we will be throwing a wedding/eloping party. We have everything we want/need going into our first home. How do we go about asking for Money instead of Gifts to friends and family in order to travel (honeymoon?) Any and all comments are appreciated!

Hi everyone! My husband (23) and I (22) got married this May. I had been on birth control for 3 years and we decided that for my mental health and overall health I should try not taking it anymore, and let me just say I feel sooo good mentally and physically!! I finally have a normal cycle, and I just had my yearly check up with my doctor today. While we are really excited to have kids, we just aren’t really ready to try yet. Since my husband and I aren’t TTC right now we’ve only been “doing the deed” when I’m not ovulating, and with condoms. She recommended I start taking a prenatal because, and I quote, “when you aren’t using a contraceptive, you’re trying to conceive”, which I thought was odd in the moment but let it roll off my back until I got home to talk to my husband about my appointment. We are just wanting some advice about whether I should start taking a prenatal or not, I’ve read that it can be overall really beneficial even if we aren’t TTC for me but I’ve also read that it isn’t necessary/wouldn’t help me at all.. Is it possible that it could make me even more fertile than I already am? Sorry for the long post, but I’d really appreciate any advice!!

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Looking to change my last name but kinda nervous about what happens with wills and other beneficiary accounts if anything happens in the midst of the name change. How do you handle this is the name on the beneficiary doesn’t match the new last name ? Has anyone dealt with this?

Hi all, not sure how to word this, but here it goes lol. My husband and I have been married for about a year, and he has asked me several times when will I change my last name to his. Changing my last name was not discussed, he just assumed I’d take his name. I really don’t see what the big deal is, we’re already married. I’ve asked if it really means that much to him for me to change my last name and he says yes, but I don’t see what the big deal is if I don’t change it. Maybe there’s something I am missing, I’d like a different perspective from different people. Thanks!

So my (25)husband (30) already had two kids before )one he didn’t know about until later in life and one he’s in their life) but he says he’s done with having kids it’s not really something we talked about before getting married but he’s serious about having kids even though I still want at least one

I love my husband deeply, but at times, I find myself feeling unhappy. We got married five months ago, and I never really felt like we experienced that 'honeymoon stage.' When we met, I was a virgin and, as someone who had reserved herself, I expected him to desire me. However, we rarely have sex, and when we do, I often feel unsatisfied. I've communicated my feelings and expectations, but nothing seems to have changed. Don't get me wrong—this isn't about lust. I just long to feel desired by my husband. What should I do?

I just had the huge argument with my husband after I caught him watching porn while I’m blowing him. He promised to change and not do it again to fix our marriage but I’m still bothered by it. Is it normal?

I’m looking for advice on choosing the right time to get engaged. My boyfriend (20M) and I (19F) have been dating for 4 years, and we both attend the same university for undergrad. We’ve talked about engagement, and he’s asked me to give him an idea of when I’d feel ready, so he knows the timing is right.

Here’s my situation:

I’m planning to attend a 4-year optometry grad school program after we graduate, which will likely mean we’ll have to do long distance.

I’m torn between a few options for timing:

-Getting engaged after undergrad, then being engaged for about a year and getting married while I’m in grad school.

-Getting engaged sometime during grad school but waiting to get married until after I finish.

-Waiting until I’ve completed all my schooling (I’ll be 25) before getting engaged and married.

I’m unsure about the best timing with everything that’s going on, especially with the distance and the stress of grad school. I'd love to hear from anyone who’s been in a similar situation or who has advice on how to navigate this.

Hi guys. I'm planning for international travel March/April 2025 and most likely doing a civil wedding before then. I just renewed my passport March of this year. Do I need to renew it again if I'm only hyphenating my last name??

For context, I got proposed to end of July and looking to get married soon so didn't plan ahead when I renewed my passport in March! Lol

I hyphenated my name when I got married in July (for internet purposes we'll use aliases say I am now Mary Hunter-Green and my husband is Alex Green. his name stayed the same!). can I say we are "The Greens"? I plan to have our future children take just the name Green. We're ordering our thank yous right now and so many cute ones say "the Greens" but if my last name is Hunter-Green can I really say that we are "the Greens"?

Hi! Married 2.5 months ago, and haven’t gotten anything back from our photographer. I know in the contract it stated an estimated turn around time, which is approaching.

I’m curious how long other people have waited for their wedding pictures to come back?

Hi all.

I am in the process of putting together a date night card game for newly weds. It's an opportunity to sit together and think about your future, which you'd then revisit in 5 years time.

It's still super early stages - I don't yet have the cards put together, just the instructions and questions, but I'm trying to get some initial feedback into the idea and questions.

The 'game' would take about 30 - 60 minutes to do, then I'd ask if you could give me feedback via a short 10 minute survey.

To say thanks, I'd like to offer those who complete the game and feedback a free version of the game once it goes into production.

If you'd be interested, please leave a comment and I'll reach out. Thanks!

Hi everyone, I’m about to get married with my fiancé soon. He asked me how we should do the last name and he told me that he would like to have me change to his last name. I’m born and raised in a different culture where women don’t change their last name to their husbands’. Plus i feel like my last name is also a part of my identity and heritage and I’d love to keep that. Is this reason valid? Is it also a huge thing that really really matters in the US? I love and care about him very much so I don’t want to upset him.

I just got married yesterday and I’m feeling all the pressure of everything I need to do to change my name legally. I heard the big three are your license, passport, and social security card. Does anyone know how long I have to change my passport and social security card? I know my license is 30 days, but I’m having trouble finding information on your passport and social security card.

Got married in February 2023, went to our "honeymoon" in Vienna for one week in August 2023. The reason why I put in quotations is because we stayed with family members who live in Vienna. That was our one and only trip as husband and wife ever since getting married. I have been wanting to go on vacation with my husband, even if its 2-3 days, somewhere local, but it seems like I'm the only one to ever bring it up and initiate a trip. My husband does not care/mind to take one, which really irritates me. His family lives in Austin, Texas and every time the opportunity comes up, he'd rather fly in to go stay with them and see them. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to go see them too, but it just bothers me that that's the only time we travel (is to see family members). I have been trying to get him to renew his passport since February of this year to at least go away for my birthday, but he hasn't. I just feel like ever since getting married, everything has been so boring and routine based. WAKE UP, CLEAN THE HOUSE, GO TO WORK, COME HOME, COOK DINNER, CLEAN, SLEEP, repeat. This really does affect my mood as well and does affect our intimacy. What do I do? Our age range is 28-32

This is my first post but I need to get this off my chest and get some advice. I got married in October of 2023 and before the wedding we were the perfect match. In the 5 years we dated before being married, he was fun and so energetic. So excited to spend alone time with me and just enjoy my company. He was impressed with my independence and took part in the things I enjoyed doing while also showing me things he enjoyed to do. We had a blast and never thought it would end. He was my soulmate in every way and supported me through everything. While planning our wedding I was fired from a job unexpectedly and was also getting off of effexor and experienced some terrible withdrawal symptoms. I was unemployed for 8 months (got married during this 8 month period) with a few short jobs in between until I found the right job fit for me in February this year. My career change required me going back to school and accepting a lower paid job so I can obtain the degree I’m after. He gave me his full support when I decided going back to school would be best for both him and I in the long run. (I’m going to nursing school and work as a nurse assistant at a low hourly rate currently). I feel this time and decision severely impacted our relationship and though he won’t explicitly tell me if this had turned him off of me in some way, I can feel that it has changed his perception of me. He is distant and does not support me the way he used to. He has begun telling me how I should try to take better care of myself and criticizes me when I make choices he would not make. When I’m able to convince him to spend time with just me, he is at a loss for what to do and typically falls asleep on me before the night ends. I try to tell him this hurts me and I can feel the distance but he is flippant to my opinion and blows it off for whatever reason he finds suitable in the moment. I am incredibly hurt and bored by this behavior and am at a total loss as to what I should do to fix it. I didn’t see this coming and am unsure how to fix this issue to save our new marriage. I don’t want to lose him because he is such a great person and had been an incredible partner to me in the past, but now I feel more alone than ever and I keep thinking that there has to be something better for me than this. I’m so afraid for our marriage if this distant, flippant behavior continues.

Any advice is welcomed, but brutal honesty is especially welcomed.

We're both 20 and its just that typical thing where women just get randomly mad at something you did during the day or maybe even a week ago, and then you ask whats wrong or what you did and then she says "oh its nothing" but then treats you like you killed her dog or something but still doesnt say what you did or whats on her mind. This is definitely the worst thing a relationship and the silence is deafening whenever shes mad. Would like to know what to do whenever shes on her mood swings, pls and thank you.

So I, (28f) married my husband (29m) a little over two months ago after almost 6 years of dating. I recently found out that he’s been cheating on me before and after marriage. It’s mostly been with the same person and she knows that we are married. They have a strictly physical relationship. I am okay with him having sex with other women as he has a high sex drive and I don’t. After we got married I asked him if he still wanted to talk to other women and if he did then we needed to talk about it and set boundaries. He said that he didn’t want to and I thought that he would come to me if he did. While I am deeply devastated and processing my emotions I mostly feel relieved because it meant I wasn’t going crazy. We have a 3 year old together and he’s a good guy and takes care of us at home (not necessarily financially). The crazy part about it is I probably would have been fine with him having a sexual relationship with another woman if I would’ve known about it. However, I just feel so betrayed and a little blindsided that he would fuck her 37 days after we got married. Our non-refundable honeymoon is in two weeks and I don’t even know if I want to go. I’m on the fence about kicking him out because he acts sorry for what he did, but I feel like he would absolutely do it again. In my state, you can’t get a divorce until you’ve been separated for a year so I know that I need to make a decision soon if I do want to proceed with divorce. I’m just so numb right now.

I have quite an interesting situation going on with my husband’s side of the family.

Back story: I LOVE his family and genuinely am significantly closer to his side than I am my own. We get along great and I love to spoil them with gifts and what not (my love language for others is gift giving). We’ve always had a perfect relationship!

My husband’s brother had a baby last September and since our nephew was born, we planned that we would fly in (they’re out of state) for his first birthday this September. This past February, I went over dates and everything with the sister-in-law over the course of a few weeks and we picked dates the week of our nephews birthday (5 days) and she said it was the perfect time to come out.

Fast forward: my husband and I got married a little over 2 weeks ago. Although we both put in for vacation time at our job back in February for our September trip, it was denied so we both have been fighting like heck with our jobs to get this fixed so we can be there. My husband and I finally were getting somewhere with our managers and yesterday I got a text from SIL that the nephews birthday party won’t be until the weekend AFTER we leave. This was a HUGE bummer for us because these were dates we planned with SIL for his birthday and out of the 5 days, it just sucked.

Given the fact that we are struggling getting the time we already spent thousands of dollars on off and the fact that they scheduled the birthday for after we are gone, we decided we will just cancel the trip. It’s a huge bummer but it happens.

End of story right ? No…I get a call from my husband saying he spoke with his brother and he said I hurt SILs feelings and she is super guilty. Which if roles were reversed, I’d probably feel guilty too not considering the out of state family but that’s life 🤷🏼‍♀️ I was confused because all I did was explain how hard it is to get time off even if it’s 6+ months in advance (we had to fight to have our own wedding approved). And then stated that we are going to have to cancel plans because it’s not worth the stress with our managers to fight to fly in if we aren’t going to be there for festivities.

So husbands brother tattled on me to which my husband defended me stating I did absolutely nothing wrong. Then a few hours later, his dad texts him asking to speak to him in private, without me in the vicinity. So they talk and his dad was calling me out for being inconsiderate and blah blah blah…my husband immediately shut it down stating he read my texts and how I was nothing but kind and gave facts. But all of a sudden now h I s family is just going around saying how I hurt the SILs feelings…I was crying last night because I’ve done nothing to this family and it’s always been great but like, why?! Idk…I just needed to vent. Also props to my husband for defending me to the end as that was an issue in our dating phase so I’m proud he held his ground…

We're (me, f 26 & m 27) moving very soon after our wedding, so we'll be doing a full honeymoon once we get there. But we're considering having a weekend getaway or something right after our wedding. It's really up in the air because we don't have his schedule for moving yet. But what would you say would you have wanted to do? Our wedding is going to go pretty much all day and late into the night. We're wondering if we should just fly or drive to a fun weekend getaway or allocate sometime to do absolutely nothing and recover.

Am I tripping? My husband mentioned his family reunion months ago. Finances have been pretty difficult lately. So we were planning on not attending. His father offered to purchase his plane ticket so he can be there. I feel left out. I would not go if A. We couldn’t afford to go. B. I would not go without my husband to a family reunion. I’m stuck at home. I think he’s being inconsiderate. We have never had issues like this before, but I think this is insane.

Would love to talk to people who struggled or is struggling after finances, had a friend who struggled with his partner looking to get insights on some problems that may arise