Right now, my (32F) bfs (33M) mom lives with him. She has lived with him for 4 years - once he became a single dad. She helps around the house and takes care of his 7 year old while he is at work / before he gets home. His mom is in her 60s. She doesn’t drive or work. She is the best mother in law one could ever ask for and I wouldn’t mind us all living together however, at the same time, I am concerned about how that will affect us as newlyweds since we have been discussing moving forward with engagement and marriage. I am wondering how I should bring this topic up? I don’t want to be rude or make it seem like she has to leave etc. I’m genuinely curious about how that could affect our privacy and all the learning things as a married couple, etc. would it be okay to buy a multi family home and for her to have her own space? Or a home with a mother in law suite on the property? Again, we are sitting down to talk about it all - what would be the best way to express this without sounding like I’m asking “what do we do with your mom?”

Hello everyone I got married on 31st December 2023 Arrange marriage My wife was asking me what is the plan for the anniversary month

And I was puzzled

I had plan for 31st December But not for the entire month

Please share ideas everyone

Thank you 😊🙏

Please help. My husband 33 and I also 33 can't sleep in the same room. This is hurting our marriage. ( yes the bedroom is dead) He has to have the tv on to fall asleep, but can't stand my white noise machine. I can't stand the tv and need white noise to sleep. How do we meet in the middle and still sleep in the same bed? At this point one of us is sleeping in a different room. We have barely been married a year. I can't believe we’re sleeping in separate rooms. Our intimate connection is suffering. Am I crazy, or is this normal?

I just got married last Saturday and I’m overjoyed that I’m finally at this stage in my life, where I can enjoy my life with my now spouse. But I don’t know what to expect legally wise now. I don’t know how to do my taxes being married now, I don’t know what else to expect legally and I’m just at a loss because this is all so new to me. Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

Hey everyone! 👋

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Good evening all. My oldest is engaged and I am at loss of what to get them for Christmas. Trying to keep it to something they will need/use as they rent and don’t have a lot of storage space. What gifts would you appreciate getting?

We’re finally planning our wedding, and I want something truly special that captures the day forever. I'm thinking of a unique keepsake, not just for us but maybe something our guests could share in too. I’d love any creative ideas for incorporating something meaningful that we can look back on and treasure. Would love to get ideas and I am open to all suggestions

Ok my husband (40M) and I (35F) have been married for less than 3 months. We… I wanted to wait for marriage to be intimate with one another. If I’m being truthful, although this is my second marriage, I was afraid of being intimate with my now husband. I am about 185 pounds. My husband is almost 500 pounds. I’ll be honest when I say I really wasn’t sure how intimacy was going to work and therefore stayed away from it as long as I could, now we are married, and I seem to be the only one not satisfied. With the size difference I have not been able to figure out any positions that allow our lower regions to connect appropriately. My husband knows he’s a big man but is extremely sensitive on the topic so I’m not really sure how to approach it without making him feel bad. I’m aware physical intimacy isn’t everything but I have to say I was looking forward to that portion of marriage and I can’t seem to figure out how to make it work. Also, my hand and jaw are both a little tired. I could really use advice, but please be gentle. I’m already beating my own self up and I don’t need it from anyone else.

So my (27NB) and my partner (24NB) just got married last month. It was a beautiful wedding and we rode the highs of the wedding for a week or so. Recently we’ve gone back to work after taking two weeks off. 1 before the wedding to get everything in order and 1 after the wedding to relax and recover.

Now that we’re back we’re working more than we used to before. My partner is also in college so work and school take up a lot of their time. Both of our jobs are very draining and most times we come home super exhausted. Recently our days have consisted of coming home, watching some tv and going to bed. We haven’t had much time or energy for dates, sex, or intimacy in other forms lately. I know a lot of it is just mental and physical exhaustion. We’ve gone through something similar to this prior but I guess before we were kind of able to break the cycle in a way by going out and doing something, however right now we’re still trying to recover financially from the wedding.

Is there any advice on how to reconnect when two people are in love just very exhausted ?

This is my first post so please be kind!

My Husband and I got married two months ago, and life has been great. Our wedding felt strange because there was some tension between my side of the family and my husbands side of the family. We had the wedding reception in my now In-Laws backyard, and I think it made my parents feel weird or like they didn't want to overstep due to it being at someone else's home. My In-Laws were very involved in helping with the wedding, whereas my parents were not. The tension between families at the rehearsal dinner and wedding/wedding reception was really off-putting.

Is this normal? I feel like it's not uncommon for there to be tension between In-Laws, but it's extremely uncomfortable to experience first hand. If anyone has gone through something similar, will it be this way for the rest of our life? Tension between sides of the family? It makes me worry for random life events in the future like holidays, or our children's birth/birthdays. (also note that each family love the both of us very much, and support our marriage 100%)

My Husband and I got married this year and I am working on our first married Christmas card. I chose not to change my last name. In the template we picked it says “The Huangs 2024” on the bottom. I’m not sure how to adjust it for us, if I should do The (husband’s last name), our first names or just leave it blank. I’ve attached the template as an example. Any feedback is appreciated!

I ‘44F’ just found out that for the first two years of dating my husband ‘44M’ was seeing another woman and being intimate with her. He ended it after two years of seeing me while he dated her, and I had no idea. We started dating in 2016 and he ended it with her end of 2018. We married in 2022 and I literally just found out by finding physical evidence and he told me “most” of the story.

Tl:dr If this was you, how would you feel and what would you do?

Was it annoying people around asked you about your wedding or it's just normal for you.

My gf, future fiance, and I are buying our first home (VA Loan). Proposal is within the next 6-8 months and we are going to be ELOPING!!! in 2026 the latest. We don't want kids, and we will be throwing a wedding/eloping party. We have everything we want/need going into our first home. How do we go about asking for Money instead of Gifts to friends and family in order to travel (honeymoon?) Any and all comments are appreciated!

Hi everyone! My husband (23) and I (22) got married this May. I had been on birth control for 3 years and we decided that for my mental health and overall health I should try not taking it anymore, and let me just say I feel sooo good mentally and physically!! I finally have a normal cycle, and I just had my yearly check up with my doctor today. While we are really excited to have kids, we just aren’t really ready to try yet. Since my husband and I aren’t TTC right now we’ve only been “doing the deed” when I’m not ovulating, and with condoms. She recommended I start taking a prenatal because, and I quote, “when you aren’t using a contraceptive, you’re trying to conceive”, which I thought was odd in the moment but let it roll off my back until I got home to talk to my husband about my appointment. We are just wanting some advice about whether I should start taking a prenatal or not, I’ve read that it can be overall really beneficial even if we aren’t TTC for me but I’ve also read that it isn’t necessary/wouldn’t help me at all.. Is it possible that it could make me even more fertile than I already am? Sorry for the long post, but I’d really appreciate any advice!!

Howdy y’all! My husband and I are celebrating our first year anniversary today. We thought it would be fun to ask advice, hopes, and wishes that you would give to a young married couple. This past year we’ve moved to a new state and have experienced financial hardships, but are stronger than ever! We’re looking forward to seeing your responses 💕

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Looking to change my last name but kinda nervous about what happens with wills and other beneficiary accounts if anything happens in the midst of the name change. How do you handle this is the name on the beneficiary doesn’t match the new last name ? Has anyone dealt with this?

Hi all, not sure how to word this, but here it goes lol. My husband and I have been married for about a year, and he has asked me several times when will I change my last name to his. Changing my last name was not discussed, he just assumed I’d take his name. I really don’t see what the big deal is, we’re already married. I’ve asked if it really means that much to him for me to change my last name and he says yes, but I don’t see what the big deal is if I don’t change it. Maybe there’s something I am missing, I’d like a different perspective from different people. Thanks!

So my (25)husband (30) already had two kids before )one he didn’t know about until later in life and one he’s in their life) but he says he’s done with having kids it’s not really something we talked about before getting married but he’s serious about having kids even though I still want at least one

I love my husband deeply, but at times, I find myself feeling unhappy. We got married five months ago, and I never really felt like we experienced that 'honeymoon stage.' When we met, I was a virgin and, as someone who had reserved herself, I expected him to desire me. However, we rarely have sex, and when we do, I often feel unsatisfied. I've communicated my feelings and expectations, but nothing seems to have changed. Don't get me wrong—this isn't about lust. I just long to feel desired by my husband. What should I do?

I just had the huge argument with my husband after I caught him watching porn while I’m blowing him. He promised to change and not do it again to fix our marriage but I’m still bothered by it. Is it normal?

I’m looking for advice on choosing the right time to get engaged. My boyfriend (20M) and I (19F) have been dating for 4 years, and we both attend the same university for undergrad. We’ve talked about engagement, and he’s asked me to give him an idea of when I’d feel ready, so he knows the timing is right.

Here’s my situation:

I’m planning to attend a 4-year optometry grad school program after we graduate, which will likely mean we’ll have to do long distance.

I’m torn between a few options for timing:

-Getting engaged after undergrad, then being engaged for about a year and getting married while I’m in grad school.

-Getting engaged sometime during grad school but waiting to get married until after I finish.

-Waiting until I’ve completed all my schooling (I’ll be 25) before getting engaged and married.

I’m unsure about the best timing with everything that’s going on, especially with the distance and the stress of grad school. I'd love to hear from anyone who’s been in a similar situation or who has advice on how to navigate this.

I hyphenated my name when I got married in July (for internet purposes we'll use aliases say I am now Mary Hunter-Green and my husband is Alex Green. his name stayed the same!). can I say we are "The Greens"? I plan to have our future children take just the name Green. We're ordering our thank yous right now and so many cute ones say "the Greens" but if my last name is Hunter-Green can I really say that we are "the Greens"?

Hi! Married 2.5 months ago, and haven’t gotten anything back from our photographer. I know in the contract it stated an estimated turn around time, which is approaching.

I’m curious how long other people have waited for their wedding pictures to come back?

Hi all.

I am in the process of putting together a date night card game for newly weds. It's an opportunity to sit together and think about your future, which you'd then revisit in 5 years time.

It's still super early stages - I don't yet have the cards put together, just the instructions and questions, but I'm trying to get some initial feedback into the idea and questions.

The 'game' would take about 30 - 60 minutes to do, then I'd ask if you could give me feedback via a short 10 minute survey.

To say thanks, I'd like to offer those who complete the game and feedback a free version of the game once it goes into production.

If you'd be interested, please leave a comment and I'll reach out. Thanks!

Hi everyone, I’m about to get married with my fiancé soon. He asked me how we should do the last name and he told me that he would like to have me change to his last name. I’m born and raised in a different culture where women don’t change their last name to their husbands’. Plus i feel like my last name is also a part of my identity and heritage and I’d love to keep that. Is this reason valid? Is it also a huge thing that really really matters in the US? I love and care about him very much so I don’t want to upset him.

I just got married yesterday and I’m feeling all the pressure of everything I need to do to change my name legally. I heard the big three are your license, passport, and social security card. Does anyone know how long I have to change my passport and social security card? I know my license is 30 days, but I’m having trouble finding information on your passport and social security card.

Got married in February 2023, went to our "honeymoon" in Vienna for one week in August 2023. The reason why I put in quotations is because we stayed with family members who live in Vienna. That was our one and only trip as husband and wife ever since getting married. I have been wanting to go on vacation with my husband, even if its 2-3 days, somewhere local, but it seems like I'm the only one to ever bring it up and initiate a trip. My husband does not care/mind to take one, which really irritates me. His family lives in Austin, Texas and every time the opportunity comes up, he'd rather fly in to go stay with them and see them. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to go see them too, but it just bothers me that that's the only time we travel (is to see family members). I have been trying to get him to renew his passport since February of this year to at least go away for my birthday, but he hasn't. I just feel like ever since getting married, everything has been so boring and routine based. WAKE UP, CLEAN THE HOUSE, GO TO WORK, COME HOME, COOK DINNER, CLEAN, SLEEP, repeat. This really does affect my mood as well and does affect our intimacy. What do I do? Our age range is 28-32