Hey everyone

I'm in at loss on what to do. My transphobic manager and family have been noticing im struggling but can't directly tell them its my gender dysphoria, the family does know but gets angry when i talk about my authentic gender plainly. Each one of them had a blow up at me even my 13 yo bother and tried my best to handle it calmly disarming it.... Mum called me a >! indignant cunt !< and forced me to agree with her about that because I didn't reply to her because I was uncomfortable dysphoria wise (can't say that) not to mention busy and barely heard her anyways.

I have been trying to apply for new jobs rapidly but nothing yet. I feel increasingly swallowed and trapped. im worried it's going to lead to a bad mental health outcome soon, its getting harder to do normal things having to act as a guy esecially work. My social worker (therapist) and counsellor are already doing everything in their power.

I'm half tempted to hit my fail-safe and sell 18k of prized goods I've accumulated over the years like my car and my bike. Just so I can move out until I find a better paying job... I don't really feel like I have many options yet

I'm so sad and butter. I genuinely don't feel alive anymore. I want to stick around but I don't know how much go I have left. >! Currently leaving myself with bruises because I hate myself, started picking up binge drinking and smoking weed to numb my pain !<

Hi, I made an appointment with The Telehealth Gender Clinic today, the web interface made it look like I was choosing an appointment for the 13th of december but it ended up being the 13th of march. I’m currently on DIY HRT without blood tests or any medical help, and I just want someone that I can talk to right now that can help me over the phone rather than having to go outside in my 8 month hrt body. If anyone has any suggestions I’d be so thankful <3

Sorry, I know there’s been a few posts. I am MTF - three years HRT. I have large breasts and must wear a bra. I am not out to anyone except my wife and a few close friends so I will be presenting male.

I fly from Melbourne to Hobart on Friday and am concerned about the scanners. The main issue is that I’m flying with a group of people who don’t know that I’m Trans.

Will the airport body scanners pick up my chest? If so, will they pat me down in front of everyone or will they take me away? Will I get straight through? I wouldn’t be so stressed if I wasn’t with a whole group of people but anyway, I just want to be ready and know what to expect.

The TGA has updated the next supply of Estradot to 31.12.2025. Estraderm is supposed to be back in supply from the 16.12.2024 but as they're going to be the only patch on the market here for at least another year I imagine they are going to go back out of stock pretty fast. See here https://apps.tga.gov.au/Prod/msi/Search/Tradename//338060 and here https://apps.tga.gov.au/Prod/msi/Search/Tradename//67090

Hi, I just found out about this event which is a takeover at The Chippo, Chippendale. I want to go and I would rather go with someone/a few people. Is anyone interested?

It’s organised by transpride_au (Instagram tag), here’s the link: https://www.instagram.com/p/DCJL9S8SlPC/?igsh=MXQ2eGwwYWxxbndtcg==

Currently inquiring how van life here in Australia would treat a freshly transitioning individual like myself?

Trying to escape transphobic family and live a authentic life. Was curious to ask if there was any folks on here who do the van setup? Do you get many problems on the day to day basis, sustainable? Thinking of it as a solution to lacking current means to afford rent as well. My wick is growing very short of my current situation having to mask.

Thanks everyone!

I'm considering studying abroad in Australia, and I'm wondering if I'm already on T in my home country, what's the process for continuing it in Australia? I already know if I want to import it (beyond traveling with 3 months' worth) that's a whole process bc it's a controlled substance. If I have a prescription, then how easy is it to continue care (assuming in a big city), and is there anything I should know about this process?

Also, if anyone knows about the Overseas Student Health Coverage covering things relating to HRT (like doctor's visits and bloodwork) I'd appreciate it. As far as I know, those aforementioned things are covered but not the HRT itself, but it varies based on the exact insurance (?)

Does anyone have a recommendation on a transfemme friendly place to get brows done? Thanks in anticipation.

I had nipple reconstruction a while ago so it's definitely healed up enough for a tattoo. I got surgery at the Austin Hospital in Melbourne where they are usually treating breast cancer patients. They had pamphlets for like beautician tattoo people, but I dunno if it would be better going to a proper tattooist.

I planned on getting a chest piece done at some point anyway, when I can afford it lmao.

Would you assume someone doing beauty style tattooing would have a better/realistic result compared to a tattoo artist? As tattoo artist all have their own styles with some doing a lot of photorealistic stuff anyway.

I guess I am still concerned about reactions/treatment about being trans.

Jeez, should I just skip the realistic areola and just get a different design covering the are, that's not a fill chest piece?

Hi everyone, I’ve been apart of this community for quite a while - I had PI (Penile Inversion) vaginoplasty with Dr Gideon Blecher on the 4/11/24, and I wanted to share my experience. I’ll try to be as detailed as I can, and cover my experience so far.

There isn’t too much information out there about my surgeon, and I wanted to make this post to help any Australian trans women who are considering using him. I have kept my DM requests open, and I will check this fairly regularly if anyone wanted to ask a specific question.

Before I begin, I quickly wanted to state that overall, I am very satisfied with my surgery outcome. Dr Blecher was pleasant to meet with, was understanding of both my Autism and ADHD, and delivered a result that I am happy with!

Pre-Op In the lead-up to the surgery, I met with the surgeon four times. He was able to do most of these virtually (as I don’t live near Melbourne, Australia), however he did require one in-person appointment so he could do a quick examination and show pictures of his previous work. Over the course of these appointments, I asked a lot of questions, and he was always honest and straight-forward. One concern I had at the time was his lack of experience when compared to the few other surgeons doing vaginoplasty in Australia, and I directly asked him about it. Currently he’s completed roughly 10 vaginoplasty surgeries (with a mix of no-depth/full-depth). In response to my question, he showed me previous examples of his work, and also that he was trained by Dr Ives, and that they assist on each other’s vaginoplasty surgeries.

Pre-Op Requirements The pre-op requirements were mostly easy to complete. Using WPATH guidelines, I needed a letter of support from both a clinical psychologist and a psychiatrist. In order to schedule a surgery date, you will need one of these letters already completed, with the other done within ~3 months of the operation date.

Following our in-person appointment, Dr Blecher recommended laser hair removal as the areas requiring hair removal all had black/brown hair - and I wasn’t incredibly ‘hairy’ down there to begin with. I had 10 sessions of laser hair removal, and I felt this was adequate for me (YMMV though, depending on many factors).

Two days before surgery I started a low-residue diet, and one day prior to surgery I had to complete the bowel prep (It had been several hours and I thought it wasn’t working - it will, trust me).

Day Of Surgery Thankfully, I was scheduled for a morning procedure so I wasn’t awake long enough to get super anxious! I arrived at the hospital by 7am, completed a fair bit of paperwork, was shown to my room and had a nurse do some obs (heart rate, BP, etc, etc). Once they were ready for me, I walked to the pre-op room, met with the anaesthetist who put a cannula in and also gave me something to help calm me down (Midazolam I think?). From here, my memory goes a little fuzzy - I don’t even remember actually going into the operating room, or being put to sleep, it genuinely felt like I just suddenly teleported into the recovery room.

Hospital Recovery You stay in the recovery room for about 30 minutes, and then you get taken back to your room. Although I was in hospital from Monday to Sunday, it didn’t really feel like it - the time flew by. The nurses were all lovely, and made sure I was comfortable as I could be. After the surgery, I had bandages going all the way up to my chest, and then going up behind. These were removed on day four, on day six the internal packing was removed and I begun dilating. On day seven, they removed the catheter and I was discharged by midday. I stayed in an AirBNB for a week following my discharge, before flying back home.

Dilating: (utilising the medium set of soul source dilators) I started on the smallest dilator in the hospital (3.5”), for 20 minutes, three times a day. When I left the hospital I was allowed to switch to 30 minutes, twice a day, and I moved up to the next dilator (4 inches) and then again to 4 1/2 inch dilator once I returned home. I am meant to switch to the orange dilator (5 inches) at three months post-op.

Post-Op From the date of this post, I’m currently 33 days post op. Obviously still early days, but I’m feeling pretty great overall! The swelling has gone down massively, and dilating hasn’t really been very painful at all. I think the most important thing I’ve learned is that although it gets easier every day, that progress isn’t linear. You’re tired from the dilation routine, exhausted from all the energy your body is using to heal, and your hormones are a little all over the place. But I’d do it all over again in a heartbeat. Because I’ve never felt more like the person I was truly meant to be.

Thank you for reading this! I hope this post can help provide some more information - I’ve received so much information, guidance and support from this community in the lead-up/prep for this surgery, I hope I can return that favour ☺️🫶

Scarnon spanian fans Parramatta, I'm a fellow MtF individual, Where tf do y'all buy shoes, in dude size im like a 10.5 so that's like nearly a 13 in chick sizes but no stores sell anything above standard oggday feet sizes adlay.. im about to cut my toes off to fit into stuff Cheers friends

TDLR; need to get my E pellet put in, only doctor that could do it said he can put it in the front/belly area. I had my first implant for there (not by choice) and it was a bit more uncomfortable, but idk if it hindered my levels or not and I've heard there's less blood flow in that area in general (bad for pellets?)

Been trying to find a doctor to insert my pellet while my main is on leave until mid next year.

My pellet is due now but all the doctors I have found in regional NSW either tell me they're happy to right up until I have the implant and the trocar in the room with them, or they tell me they "don't care for transgender" and I "need to find someone way more specialised for my care."

I know this isn't the case, but every time I've tried bargaining with the doctors/nurses lately by showing them the procedure video on transhub (by Cairns University, or any other procedure video guided and narrated by a doctor) or signing a release form, they laugh or say they don't trust it as if I've just brought them a wikihow article and a rusty knife.

I managed to find one doctor, but he says he will only put the pellet in my belly/front area, I had my first pellet there in 2022 but it felt more uncomfortable, and I'm not sure if it affects the levels

Hey all. I just wanted to share my story on going out on a night out for the first time presenting as fem. Context I'm 24 and started HRT 3 1/2 months ago with 3 laser hair sessions on my face. I never presented fem in public before and have pretty short hair and swore to myself early on in transition that i would never be able to present fem until at leasttt 9 months in and had some real massively noticeable physical changes to myself.

Atm i haven't had much physical change, little bit of booby growth like an A cup, bit of extra weight on the face but my thighs and legs have definitely shaped more fem since starting.

Well fast forward to a couple of days ago when a few friends let me try on their dresses and holy hell it was like a new person appeared in front if the mirror. I actually felt good about how i looked for the first time in my life. One of my friends were nice enough to let me take one of their dresses as they never really wore it enough but said that it looked good on me.

Come tonight and a few work colleagues of mine wanted to grab a few drinks after work and i took that as an opportunity to finally go out in fem with the dress my friend gave me.

Only went out in just a dress and my hair styled a bit, no makeup on at all, and oh my godd. It felt amazing, i never thought to myself that I'd be going out at night to bars in a dress so early on in my transition but it felt liberating. I didn't go out to a queer place or anything like that just me and my work friends usual stomping ground for after work drinks and it felt amazing. I finally felt myself loosen up a bit and didn't feel like i was putting on an act for the first time in my life.

Wanted to post to just share my excitement and hopefully give some hope to other trans fems early on in transition that those mental barriers you put on yourself to going full fem will become so much more relaxed the more you dip your toes in the water

I put in the form to change my name at the registry office in Perth on Wednesday last week, and the adjusted birth certificate and change of name certificate arrived today! I was told it would take up to 6 weeks, so to get it back barely a week later is fantastic.

So hello, my name is now Julia!

Now I have the fun of changing it everywhere else..

wondering if theyre very trans supportive and understanding

Hi guys!

So, I ftm have been on T for around 7 months now. I had only just noticed that the top left and right corners of my hairline have started to recede? Like at the temple. More so on one side than the other. I looked at some old pre - T pics and compare them. It looks much the same regarding the hairline, but I do feel some hair is no longer there anymore... My mums brother started losing his hair in his 20s so I know I'm at risk of balding, but I didn't think it'd be this soon or anything. I was informed it was around the 12 to 18 month mark that hair thinning and receding can be noticed. Can anyone share their experiences?

Fast track Endo referral, hells yes

I got my first passport in the post today and I’m stoked to see M on it! I started transitioning 10 years ago and most of my paperwork and identification was changed a loooong time ago so it’s been a while since I’ve had a moment like this. Still feels good!

Lucky last will be that NSW birth certificate next year once the changes come into effect. Very thankful I only needed 1 additional form in my passport application to ensure I wouldn’t be travelling with that big ol F next to my burly mug, I really thought it’d be a much harder process than it was.

Hey my fellow trans folk, can anyone suggest a good way to cover my facial hair? Like I can shave and put foundation on. I have heard but orange on, but is that orange concealer, orange blush? I just don't know. Please help.

Hi, does anyone know good hair dressers that are inclusive of trans people in north west Sydney

i’m mtf but the salons near me do women’s haircuts only and i don’t pass enough or feel comfortable enough to go.

i live around the rouse hill area, ty

Hey everyone, I'm looking to legally change my name and gender soon (I'm in ACT if that matters) and was wondering if I need to print the documents, fill them out, then scan them in again or if it would be good enough to just use a pdf editor to fill them out on my computer? I would much rather fill them out digitally cause it'll save time and paper but I'm worried they won't accept it. Thank you very much :)

I just watched i saw the tv glow. It's such a good film. More people need to watch it. I wish it wasn't viewed as a trans or lgbtqai+ movie or an emotion movie. Fair warning though its pretty dark in its themes. But society is pretty dark as is.

If you ever felt trapped by society, or your job or people then this movie is super relatable. And i have not met someone who has not thought this at some point.

Does someone know a good doctor in Ballarat?

My name is James Hill, I’m a PhD candidate and a trans Ngarrindjeri man at The Kids Research Institute Australia, and I’m researching the impact of transphobia/stigma on the mental health of trans and gender diverse young people. I’m currently looking for trans and gender diverse young people aged 16-18 years to take part in a study on stigma.

The study is an online survey that shouldn’t take more than 20 minutes for people to complete, with a shorter follow-up survey in 6 months’ time. Questions about stigma were based on interviews with trans young people, and co-designed with a reference group of other trans young people to be as safe as possible given the sensitivity of the topic. You can follow this link to read more about the study, and to participatet: https://uwa.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_416go92jrgy6vDU

Anything you’re able to do to help me reach young people with this survey would be greatly appreciated! I'm struggling to reach people at the moment and your help could make a big difference. If you’d like to know more about this study, please let me know. No question is too small or too big, and I’m especially keen to answer questions from other trans young people who want to learn about this study or my research more broadly.

Kind regards,

James (he/him).

PhD Candidate and Provisonal Psychologist

The Kids Research Institute Australia and the University of Western Australia

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Hi, just wanted to make this post to share for anyone looking to get top surgery who might be interested in Dr Hewitt. I'm currently around 5 weeks post op and had an overall really positive experience. if anyone has further questions or wants to PM me, feel free to. I thought I would go over my general experience for those who are looking for more info on him. This will be a long post as I wanted to touch upon everything.

I have to say firstly that every body heals differently, surgery is surgery and is going to have an impact but it really comes own to your anatomy and body and how it heals. This process showed me my body has a great ability to heal and taught me a newfound appreciation for it, considering how rough dysphoria has been all my life. So for me, I healed quickly, smoothly and wasn't in much pain. But this may differ from person to person. The reason why I emphasise how quickly I healed is because I was really anxious going into surgrey as i'd read a lot of pretty intense descriptions of top surgery and how rough recovery is and was expecting the worst, when I shouldn't have worried at all.

I booked my consult in Feb 2023 and was told the closest next appointment date was Jul 2024. Insane waitlist and I was paying out of pocket. so for those interested, book your consults asap. you need to deposit a small fee to hold the consult, around $50-$100 (can't remember the exact amount). Consult is pretty typical, all of the receptionists were really friendly and respectful. Dr Hewitt is very matter of fact and knows his stuff which I really appreciated, he will go over the basics with you. He also dispelled a lot of concerns I had, I had read about others experiences of top surgery (in general, not with Dr Hewitt) online and was expecting very limited mobility, that I wouldn't be able to shower, sleep on my side, life my arms to do basic tasks, that i'd have drains and a medical binder for weeks and would stink because I wouldn't be able to clean myself. He made it clear all of those worries weren't necessary, that drains come out the day after surgery and I'd likely not have a binder for longer than a week (which turned out to be spot on). He also said my mobility would not be anywhere near that limited which was also totally accurate and you are able to shower post op, you just need to be delicate with your dressings. You also are able to loosen or temporarily remove the binder if it's getting really uncomfortable.

He will also examine your chest, no it's not fun in terms of dysphoria but he and his team were as respectful of the situation as could be. Then you go over costs and have some quick photos taken of your chest. you also book the hospital date. my hospital date for surgery was in late Oct, so a few months later. I had to pay seperate fees for the surgeon, anaesthesiologist and hospital overnight stay. You'll be contacted by everyone individually, mine was over email, with further instructions and due dates for payment. You also need to purchase your own compression socks ($30 at a local chemist) and surgical wash (roughly same price, also at a local chemist) and you must wash yourself morning of but not your hair or face, and bring the socks into surgery with you. You do not purchase a medical binder or anything else for surgery, that is supplied for you.

Again, I paid out of pocket so unfortunately can't supply input on insurance. Hospital for an overnight stay was $5000, paid day of. The reason I stayed overnight was because they will remove your drains the next morning and I felt that'd be easier than managing the drains myself. Anaesthesia was about $800 and you have to pay a week before I think, but precise instructions will be on the email you receive in advance. Cost for surgery was $6750, you must pay this fee 2 weeks before your surgery date and you will receive a medicare rebate of $1400 (in my case at least, unsure if this varies), but you still need to pay the full amount upfront to receive this.

I will also mention that you must have someone pick you up from hospital, and it can't be an uber or taxi or public transport. They won't let you leave without this and they also expect someone to stay with you for 24 hours, however I stayed overnight at hospital the first 24 hours anyway. I initially wanted to go through surgery alone as the only family members I was out to were very unsupportive of my transition. I ended up coming out to other extended family and they turned out to be super supportive so I was very lucky to have that help, but in case you are concerned about recovering alone, I don't think I would've been screwed alone, it would've made the first week awkward but not unbearable. However, I still really appreciate their help.

Pre surgery you have to fill out some forms, this is all emailed to you and theyre standard medical questions. Day of I arrived in the morning, sat around for about an hour in the waiting room, filled out some more forms with a nurse. Then I was greeted by my anaesthesiologist who went over some more medical questions and she was also very friendly and made me feel at ease. Then Dr Hewitt came in and checked in on me, briefly went over the procedure and took another look at my chest. After that I went in for surgery. I was really nervous and I did not enjoy the sensation of being put under lol but everything went smoothly and im very grateful for that, also everyone appeared to be relaxed and in a good mood before surgery and that helped calm me down.

When I woke up I was in some pain, take note that I have a high pain tolerance. For my stay in hospital I used a 0-10 scale to rate pain. The pain I felt upon waking was a 5/10 and felt like a burning stinging kind of pain across my whole chest. It was pretty sore but not unbearable and I wasn't in tears or anything. Before I could even express pain the nurses were already taking care of it. The nurses were all absolutely lovely, every single one of them, they checked in on me regularly and asked me how comfortable I was before I could even voice any discomfort, made sure I was taking all my meds, wasn't in pain, and was assisted to the bathroom in need be and had food, drink, help with movement. anything I needed they were there. They gave me pain meds right away and after that I never felt anything close to a 5/10 again, I felt around a 2/10 and sometimes a 3. but the pain meds were very effective. I didn't feel drowsy or out of it though but I was tired. I had a bad reaction to the antibiotics because they made me really nauseous and made me vomit, so unfortunately for a day I couldnt keep any food down even though I was hungry, but I was able to keep fluids down and they were hydrating me through the drip anyway. I remember pre op being worried about the tightness of the binder because I have sensory issues with that feeling of compression, but I actually couldnt even feel it, not sure if that was because it wasn't that tight or if it was just me being out of it or numbed out.

The nurses changed my dressings at some point and loosened the medical binder a bit and that was also the first time I saw my chest. I was really amazed at how neat and clean it actually looked, I was fully expecting gnarly bruising and a gory appearance, not the case whatsoever. It almost looked months post op to me, the scars weren't even very dark, they were exceptionally thin and while my nipples were black there was no visible bruising around the area. I also appreciate how accurate Dr Hewitt's nipple placement is, on top of how delicately he manages the incisions. I've seen some results with nipples in differing areas but male nipples are farther apart than people realise, mine feel like they're in a very natural area. My pre op nipples were huge and he resized them perfectly to a male size. I had some bunching at the incisions but he told me this was normal and would flatten out over time and by even 5 weeks post op it's already smoothed out a lot.

I did apparently have bruising at my armpits but that was gone in a week or so. Dr Hewitt came in the next day to check on my chest and said it was looking good. My drains were also removed and I remember worrying about drains pre surgery, well there was nothing to worry about, I couldn't even tell they were in and when they were removed I couldn't even feel them come out, it took under 30 seconds to remove them. They send you home with some strong pain meds, anti inflammatorys and antibiotics. I also opted for anti nausea meds due to my antibiotic reaction but I was only mildly nauseous for a few days and then that went away.

The worst of my pain after leaving hospital, which was really more discomfort than anything, was a stinging/burning type of feeling around the incisions when i'd move. If I stayed still I wouldn't feel much of anything. a week post op your dressings are changed and your nipple dressings are removed. I had a feeling of very rubbed raw nipples when wearing clothing for a week or two which was mildly uncomfortable with the nipples, however I simply held my shirt away from my chest when it became too irritating. By now, that feeling of rawness is totally gone. When I woke up from surgery I had full sensation everywhere except for directly on the nipples and a little section above the incisions. I now still have some splotchy numbness above the incisions and nipples are still numb but not as much as they were, they're numbish now. Everywhere else I have totally normal sensation, as though nothing ever happened, and no pain or pins and needles.

Overall recovery has gone very smoothly and I feel very blessed in that way. I felt great after a week and even a few days post op I was tired and gentle on myself but I didnt feel incapable or super out of it, just took things easy. I was able to take my medical binder off after a week which was nice and it really has felt like each few days I improve massively with healing. Now, at 5 weeks, I regularly forget I even was recently in surgery, I have no pain at all, no discomfort and my mobility is back to normal.

I haven't hit 6 weeks yet and 6 weeks is when you begin scar care, so maybe I will make another post in a months time. Dr Hewitt will give you post op appointments to change dressings early on and supplies scar care ointment and instructions. Because I healed well, my next check in with him is next year. Note that if you want to avoid your scars darkening keep them out of the sun.

I apologize for such a long post but I hope this is helpful to anybody looking to get surgery with him. I was very anxious while waiting between booking my consult and getting to the surgery date because I was expecting the worst and expecting things to go wrong (due to generalised anxiety), and in hindsight that was all totally for nothing. Things essentially couldn't have gone smoother. That's part of why I make this post, I personally highly recommend Dr Hewitt and his team. Wishing anyone looking to get it the best in their process to accessing top surgery.

Hey peeps. I’m from Australia and recently had some FFS consults in the US and aside from making a choice on which surgeon I’m going to go with (Dr DB or Dr M), I need to find an Australian travel insurer who will cover FFS in the the US specifically. My partner has been researching it and while there are options for other countries there doesn’t seem to be any that are willing to cover this in the States. I’m not really sure why, but I guess it has to do with the astronomical cost of health care in America ? So, basically as the question suggests, does anyone know of any insurers ?

Hi everyone, I just received my compounder prog, though it comes in like those hard shell capsules with powder inside opposed to the prometrium type. Would I still be able to take these rectally? Anyone do the same with these ones?

Got some questions on hrt I have been on it for a little over 20 days now mane like 24 days now but I take the pills any good advice on them cause I take 2mg estrogen and 25mg Spyro. I just am so curious. Because all I have right now is strong and hair and soft skin. Just wanna know before I go to my next doctors appointment few weeks.