/r/cf4cf
Neither of us has or wants kids. Ever. In any form. So let's chat and see where it goes!
New Lemmy https://lemmy.world/c/cf4cf
Subreddit for CF people who are looking to meet up with other people in the CF community, as friends or more.
Please post a bit about yourself, what you're into, ballpark of where you live, and of course, a photo or two never hurt. If you've got a evening free or weekend to kill, feel free to ask what's up in the neighborhood.
A few thoughts/tips/guidelines:
-Please post your location
-Please post your interests
-Photos aren't needed, but of course don't hurt
-Events and gatherings welcome!
See also:
www.childfree4childfree.com Website and Merch
Discords:
Childfree Dating and Events - Our expanded home https://discord.gg/tN3mVmagNM
CF4CF Official (Managed by @Hawkie) https://discord.gg/f767Zmh
CF Peeps https://discord.gg/gUgsBdKYrD (Managed by u/AnimatedBroomhandle)
Sister Subreddits:
/r/cf4cf
Hey there. 29f USA, Asian American
Looking for a simple life without kids. I like nature, books/audiobooks, films.
Interested in a slow life and a relationship where we truly cherish one another, push each other towards our goals, and create a life where we can relax and enjoy it.
I kind of have grandma energy - just slow and I enjoy the small things
Looking for someone truly kind. And I’m looking for a relationship where we still put in effort and reciprocate after the honeymoon phase. I would enjoy getting to know one another slowly. I honestly love some of the old traditional types of relationships of being just with one person and truly, truly just enjoying every day with them solely because they are your beloved partner.
I didn’t have the best childhood, so I missed out on a lot. I’m slowly working towards my goals. I just have to go at a slow pace or else I get super anxious and that would cause me to slow down anyways. Just looking for a genuinely kind partner to go through life with. I just want a wholesome relationship where we have a true connection.
Honestly hope there’s someone out there that thinks like me.
Can send a pic and state where I reside after conversing a bit. I know I didn’t put much, but feel free to message me and ask me questions.
Childfree, loves cats, gainfully employed, own a condo. Also demisexual.
In a world where ‘no kids’ preferences are often a footnote, I’m seeking someone who shares my vision for the DINK lifestyle. If you’re all about pursuing passions, travel, cozy nights, and meaningful connections – with no plans for the pitter-patter of little feet – let’s see if we’re on the same page! Looking forward to meeting someone who’s as excited about building a full life, just the two of us.
I'm a 24-year-old Indian who recently made the big move to Hamburg for my M.Sc. It’s my first time abroad and my first solo journey, so everything feels both exciting and new.
With a brown background comes a life with rigid restrictions and little to no wiggle room, so much so that all my previous secret relationships felt like long-distance due to my curfews. Hence, I'm seeking someone in or near Hamburg to finally have the chance to date someone the way I want. Anywhere within Germany would also be okay, but I would at least like to have semi-frequent visits. I date with the intention of developing a long-term relationship. I do not do casual dating.
If you are looking for a 5’3” touch-craving, always-looking-to-bite-your-arm girlfriend, here is your chance. Might forefully sit on you and practice my eyeliner skills on you.
Achtung: I will put your phone into cardiac arrest due to the cat reels I send throughout the day, tagging them with "us". If you play any sport or instrument (especially the drums), I have a soft spot for ya :P Don’t worry, the nerds in the other categories shall receive the same love. ♡
Appearance: 5'3”/Thin but not skinny/Dark Brown eyes/Shoulder length hair/48 Kgs/ I moderately exercise but I wish to increase that frequency
Main Hobbies:
Religious Beliefs: None; I’m an Atheist.
My Preferred Age Range: 23 - 29
My Type:
Pets: I have no pets. I'm more of a cat person. Dogs are adorable too (from a distance ever since a fully grown German Shepherd jumped on me and tried to bite me).
I wish to have a saltwater tank in the future. I find Wyoming Clownfishes the cutest.
No Fencesitters: I knew kids were not my cup of tea since I was 16. I do not think I will change my mind, ever.
Location: Hopefully, I find an apartment in Harburg. But I would be moving in around this area. I do not mind if you live far as long as there are opportunities for us to have visits. I have not thought about where I want to be in the future. It does depend on my job opportunities but I would not mind relocating elsewhere for a long-term partner.
I am a meme connoisseur, who’d prefer someone the same since I would be bombarding our chats with references.
Good afternoon (or morning, or evening, as applicable). I think posting here may be a bit bold, but they say fortune favors the bold (or some other corny bullshit), so here I am. I say this because I have another, more sexually explicit, post in my post history. While sex is important to me the rest of the connection is much more important than the details of sex. I am childfree, and find childfree people tend to share my other core values, so perhaps being bold will help me in my search.
I'm sure I've left many details out, but it's more fun to learn those as we go, anyway. Hopefully I've caught your eye - I'd love to get to know you.
My ideal lifestyle is one in the countryside, away from the smog, the rat races, the cars, the constant hurry. Growing one's own vegetables, building beehives out of spare wood, planting saplings to reforest an area, in addition to tons of other DIY projects. Making investments into solar panels, better insulation, passive heat exchangers, rainfall capture, etc. in order to life a self-sustainable life without needing to buy much. A life of learning academic knowledge, skills, instruments, crafts, creativity and practical knowledge. Figuring out how to enjoy any activity, instead of choosing just the few familiar ones. A routine of the exercise, meditation and mindfulness that keeps one grounded, grateful and aware of the lessons learnt. The ability to goof around without prying eyes, and the time to experience the childish delight of just being a part of the world. Few meaningful friends over large superficial groups. I'd like to find a rural place with progressive people, where knowledge, humility, genuineness, adventurousness, creativity, tolerance, comraderie and kindness are emphasized.
I like avoiding egotistical thoughts. I detest the more usual kinds of normie conversations that devolve into competitions, fueled by insecurity. I want to be real with someone, vulnerable. I want to talk about deep, logical and mind-broadening topics. Even when not considering other people, I want to diminish my private consideration of ego adjacent thoughts. I've found that self centered thoughts often lead to anxiety, inadequacy, and fear, while thoughts totally devoid of self can be blissfully zen.
I like living by the motto "If you love something, set it free". I'm keenly aware of how obligation can ruin even one's favorite activity. My struggles, my mood, my chores, my failures are my own. If a partner chose to help, I'd try to be mindful to view their help as something gracious, and not something to rely upon, something to begin to expect. No good deed should be punished by entitlement.
I like structured care and change. While I think that I have a decent memory, I'm under the impression that we are very biased in our day to day thinking. We assume that the other person will understand words in the same way, that their preferences, morals and annoyances are similar to ours. Even when informed otherwise, it is hard to avoid falling back to the same old routine way of thinking. I want to write down these differences and regularly remind myself of them in order to avoid the small frictions, to augment giving.
If my ideal lifestyle and I seem appealing to you, please contact me through a message, or by adding me on discord(vosheck). Willing to use some other platform as well. I heavily prefer voice chats to text, so I hope you'd be open to having a voice call sooner rather than later. Simple small talk messages like "Hello", or "How are you doing?" will be ignored.
Thanks for reading.
CONDITIONS
Please be a woman, childfree, religion-free, and plus-sized. Thank you.
MY FEATURES
Atheist, skeptic, antinatalist, misanthrope, efilist. Introvert, deep thinker, politically left-leaning voter. Scientific and evidence-based worldview. Has some mental quirks. Not the best but not the worst in social situations. Not an animal person. Other likes: PC gaming, PC hardware, horror stories, very hot/spicy food, creative writing (fiction and non-fiction), drinking alcohol. Gainfully employed in IT career. Has own house in a suburb of Bloomington, Indiana. Drives a plug-in hybrid car. Debt-free. Disease-free. Vasectomy. Vaccinated against Covid-19, the flu and HPV. Exclusively attracted to plus-sized women. Caucasian, long blonde hair, earrings, average body size. Pictures available upon request.
Hey everyone, my name is Luke, and it's my absolute pleasure to meet you!
Thank you for stopping in to read a little bit about the man behind the screen, let's get into it!
So, who am I, what am I looking for, and what makes me well, me? I'm glad you asked!
Well, I am 28 years old, I am very tall (I'll leave that up to the imagination so you can guess! Got to have fun somewhere, right?) and I call the great state of Tennessee my home, I have for almost 12 years now.
I am looking for someone who loves love and life as much as I do, I'm a super big empath so someone to complement that would be fantastic, but it's all open to interpretation of course! I want someone to text me cute things throughout the day, if I don't answer for a while double texting (or even triple texting?) to check on me, because even though I'm okay it will warm my big heart knowing you're thinking about me! Someone who loves to laugh, sing in the car, someone who wants to bake with me even though we may not be very good at it, and just someone to call when I'm having a bad day to make it a little better.
And what makes me who I am? I am an empathetic man at my core, a big hopeless romantic, cuddler, holder of hands, provider of big warm hugs, holder of doors, and all these things and more, you'll have to message me to find out the rest, I have to keep some mystery about me, after all!
I love skipping over small talk and getting into all the topics that help me learn who you are as a person. So let's go with these two, what is one piece of advice you picked up in life that still remains with you, and what does being a good partner look like to you? Have a good night/day wherever you are!
I'm a 5'8" thick Latino teddy bear from Southern California, who's super affectionate but suffers from anxiety and depression I have shoulder length black hair, with nothing special brown eyes, and light olive skin, just looking to be loved. I'm a NEET (please look that up.) I like spooky things like the paranormal or the supernatural. I like to cook and learn new recipes, I'm into music and really wish I was talented enough to make my own, I like rock, metal, punk, indie, electronica, some hip hop/rap. I do smoke weed but it's not my whole personality. I play video games quite often, I am a console gamer.
I'm physically affectionate, really clingy, and have a really dark and irreverent sense of humor I would like someone with those same qualities as well as attractive, monogamous, and child free. I want a long term relationship with no children. I'm looking for a woman who is kind, caring, and supportive, who's willing to put the time in and make me a priority in their life.
I'm looking for something IRL, but have no qualms starting online as long as we can make plans to meet if things go well, I'm willing to relocate. If any of this interests you please send a selfie along with a brief intro, one word replies will be ignored.
I thoroughly enjoy waterparks, hiking, kayaking, puzzle games, chess, watching a good show, cooking and I have pictures upon messaging me. I'd adore a good woman to converse with and more ;)
Currently a fiber optic technician and soon to be personal trainer. Adventuring and working out are 2 big hobbies. About to start traveling a bit more soon. Single for 3 years and would just love to get to know someone.
Adore deep conversation, even light playful ones. Playing a game together or watching something together.
I'm Sam, 33, living in Southampton.
I'm 5'6, 80kg, beard, bald, glasses. Average build.
I've been single for a while now, I'd love to have someone to spend Chistmas with this year.
Despite being a gamer, I also enjoy the outdoors, and enjoy walking. Coastal routes are wonderful.
As for what I'm looking for, I'd like either a short or long term relationship depending on how we match. Someone around the 25-35 range. I really don't think I have much of a type, though I'm not typically keen on neck length hair or shorter.
Also PLEASE be within at least 2-3 hours of me. I don't have any interest in long distance, but I am okay to travel an hour or two.
I'm more than happy to share pics. Hope to hear from you soon! Discord/Whats'App may be the best ways of reaching me. Chat and mail both work, too!
Hi, my name is Joe and I would like to find someone who will be special to me, where we could talk regularly, i have a huge thing for communication and spending time together and enjoying each other’s company. If it goes well, I’d like something build a committed relationship based on honesty, loyalty and trust.
About me, I like cooking, baking, spending time with animals and in trying to get back into reading and drawing (badly).
I consider myself an introvert and i have a small number of friends and would like someone more on the introverted side as well but i dont mind the occasional adventure. Also I’d like someone who likes doing a mixture of both indoors and outdoors activities, we can play games one day and go for a hike the next or go to try some new food spots (im a huge foodie). We can chat first, and I don’t mind exchanging photos if we get along 🙂
dont be weird, just be normal lol. Dont be outside of the ranges that im about to specify i wont be replying otherwise.
Im from the UK but I don’t mind if you’re from elsewhere, as long as the time zones aren’t too far apart, lets say +or- 7hours. Tell me your age and where you’re from pls. I’m only looking to talk to people from ages 22-35, so please be in that range.
If you’d like to know more about me, you can ask in messages. So yeah, if this caught your eye, message me and we can chat more then!
Hello, SLC CF peeps! I (39F) am making this post to meet other Childfree people to have fun activities with. I am currently not looking for a romantic connection but platonic ones which hopefully blossom to meaningful friendships.
I enjoy traveling, eating delicious food, trying new things, easy going outdoor activities, creating things with my hands, and getting to know people. I would love to get together as a group and have meetups so that we can get to know each other. Maybe somewhere chill where we can introduce ourselves without too much pressure of showing our best selves?
If you are interested please reply below with your age/sex/general location and a little something about yourself.
I’d like to organize the first meetup on 10th of November and hopefully another one at a later date.
This has been a an absolutely incredible week. I'm itching to share some of these wins and joys with someone so here I am lol😅. I had a teacher and my doctor compliment me in the same day for just being me, and I couldn't be happier with myself for just being true to who I am. Plus it doesn't hurt that I'm absolutely killing it in the midterms. More on this if/when someone decides to drop me a line (gotta stay realistic ya know?). And I got to see Evanescence live right up front in the pits, which was a dream come true for my inner teenager 🖤🤘🏻.
Even though im single, i do not expect to find a partner here right away(or at all). I'm a bit of a slow burn being demi. I just want to meet a new alt pal to hang out with sometimes, share music, watch shows, and get high, without any expectations ya know? . I'm very "green" , LGBTQ friendly, childfree and absolutely love animals. In two weeks, last month I adopted an absolutely adorable cat and he's definitely been an amazing first cat for me ❤️. I've accumulated a huge collection of hobbies, interests, and activities, both indoorsy and outdoorsy. I'm 5'9, 160 ish lbs, long black curly hair, glasses, and have tattoos, with plenty more in my future, and about to get my eyebrow pierced again. I don't believe in gender conformity nor do I believe in gender specific hobbies or roles.. It's open season for whatever piques my curiosity in that moment. Also I have usually tested as INTP or INTJ so I swing between the two like a pendulum lol. I'm also highly pragmatic and mostly operate on curiosity and logic. I also love pebbling (irrespective of whether it's a romantic partner or not).
I'm back in school and have a plan for the next few years which involves me being in school a lot (more than I initially planned on doing). Currently studying to become a veterinary technical assistant, but the end goal is to become a registered tech in surgery. Most of my life I've had a penchant for STEM subjects, but never had an opportunity to formally pursue education in the field, till now 😊. I already have a degree, kinda redoing life on my terms. I'm also no contact with my birth family, and have a chosen one instead 🖤, so no more walking on eggshells. It's been a long hard road to recovery for me, so I do feel like it's important to mention that I do have complex - ptsd, however it is very much managed and under control. And last but not least, my particular flavor of neurodivergence is audhd, and live with chronic pain (this is where the w**d comes in), have my own house, a car and a life full of adventures 😁.
You : please be single, and childfree. 25+ and location does not matter. I also don't like texting for too long so calls are preferred please and ty.
Hello! I'm a 27-year-old man in Melbourne, Australia. I'm a counsellor, and also host a podcast discussing psychology. I'm a massive lover of music; it has great meaning in my life and is an amazing form of emotional stimulation, and I write songs and plan to one day play in a band. Outside of it all, I love to spend time with people in the company of nature or animals (brushing horses and throwing balls for dogs, anyone?), have a good conversation, crack jokes (I challenge you to have a wackier sense of humour than me!), and enjoy good food. You may also find me working with my hands on projects occasionally. I'm around 5'10", Mediterranean, slim and well-built, and have dark and extremely short hair. I'm equal parts thinker and doer; I'm passionate about trying to be the best that I can be in every aspect of my life and enjoy the challenge of examining and learning about the world, setting goals for myself, engineering my life, and helping others. I'm a free thinker, so within reason I'm not just looking to associate with people who share all of my values; I want to learn about others' perspectives and see the humanity in people.
I'm seeking a long-term, monogamous relationship with my eventual soul mate, as well as solid friendships. I've decided that I want to remain child-free and live separately from my partner, as I believe that not being co‑dependent creates freedom for us to enhance each other's lives. As long as you're at least 18 (of course!), I'm not as concerned about your age or background; I'm seeking mutual attraction, intuitive chemistry, and the willingness to properly get to know each other, listen, and commit. I'm a celibate, but other forms of physical and emotional affection are fundamental to me, so I'll want to exchange warm snuggles, cute glances, and genuine words of affirmation.
While I'm happy to meet a range of people, I do have my deal-breakers. I am only seeking in‑person relations with people in Melbourne. My hard limits are smoking, excessive alcohol usage, narcotics, crime, and extremism. Please also be emotionally available, communicative, willing to enter in to respectful discussions if we don't agree, and please don't ghost!
53, about to be 54 very quickly. Never wanted children, never had any, only had 1 serious man in my life. I only wanted to find my soul mate. Someone to share my shitty life with. Give my heart to. Make him happy, hopefully have him give me the same. I feel so passed over, never seen. Only reminded of the life I wasted by not having kids that were never needed nor wanted. Seeking validation in the worst people. I was never the priority in their life. Such is the life of being a people pleaser. Loneliness is my friend. Why, why why? Only brave enough to post this bc I'm trashed. Just wondering if there's just as many lost souls as me. Trying to lose the weight gained by menopause. Such a heartless task. Fully expect this to be deleted by mods. Love everyone who knows what they want in life, especially being child free. Happy Halloween everyone!!!
Looking for monogamous relationship.
I’m south Asian, kind, loyal, empathetic, nerdy, romantic, sensitive and traveller
Being childfree means we have plenty of time to enjoy and this is how I would like my life to be with my partner.
Watch sunsets & aurora, go to the mountains & beaches with my partner
Dance in the rain, clubs, be fashion nerds, start a business, live our 30’s & 40’s like our 20’s but with more money 😉, I have a long list
I’m an engineer and have double masters in civil engineering and software engineering. I have worked in both fields. I like to learn new things and talk about stars, night skies, science etc.
Physical attributes Height 5’1” South Asian/Indian Smoke: never Drink: rarely Very slim and fashion conscious Not religious but I like to talk about religions and geopolitics
I’m open to relocate anywhere in the North America after a year.
I’m looking for someone health conscious and preferably in a technical profession. Age preferably below 37 :)
I'm sure this will get lost in the sea of posts, but I figured I'd give it a shot anyway.
About myself: I am recently separated and ready to restart my life. I'm relatively independent with a decent job, so I can take care of myself.
I have various interests, but my main passion is making music and I want to become an established artist some day.
I'm an atheist and child-free which I know can be an issue for some. It usually takes me a while to warm up to someone, so I apologize if I'm awkward at first.
I'm the type of person that complete strangers trust with the deepest information about themselves, so take that for what you will.
I really dislike ghosting, so I only do when the other person can barely give one or two word responses.
I strongly believe in honesty, so if I don't think things will work out then I will be upfront with you.
What I'm looking for: I'm open to basically anything. The only requirements I have is to please respect my choice to be child-free, and ideally be 20+.
I don't have specific preference when it comes to physical attraction, and I'm willing to give anyone a chance.
Assuming anyone reads this: I always respond to any messages I get as soon as I can. If I don't respond please message me again because I didn't receive it.
Hi there, my name is Reed, I'm a 28 year old guy from Orlando looking for a meaningful connection with someone who is looking for the same thing, what exactly is a meaningful connection? I think it's hard to exactly define as every relationship is different but I view it as someone that I can genuinely look forward to talking to, to being around to do everything and nothing with at the same time, be that close friends, or something more I'm totally open to either and would love to see how things progress for us, any kind of relationship takes effort to build and while I do respect your time I'm not interested in rushing into anything and someone getting hurt in the process.
About me
I currently have a job and a half I like to say, I work full time in a typical day job but also have a side gig creating content/writing online and am looking to eventually scale this to a full time thing so I can quit the day job, it is increasingly lucrative by the day and something I would say I'm really passionate about, feel free to ask me more! I'm a big time nerd who loves learning, I'm always going down new rabbit holes/looking to try new things, I've lost days of my life watching YouTube videos or reading articles/infographics. I was once upon a time a 'professional' gamer and still really enjoy PC gaming but don't do it as much as I did once upon a time, I really enjoy movies and would love to talk favorites with you. I'm also a HUGE appreciator of art, art in every form to me is effort + creativity, I am not artistically inclined in anyway shape or form but Music and Film are my two favorites. I also have more active hobbies that I really enjoy, I've been going to the gym pretty often lately and enjoying the process and progress, I've also always really enjoyed getting out and exploring all kinds of random things, I love pawn shops/thrift stores/garage sales and just seeing new places and trying new things (especially food.) I'm 99% sober as in I don't drink, smoke or do drugs but will very rarely enjoy a drink in a social setting, cool if you do any of these as long as you're responsible about it. (No hard drugs, sorry.)
I'm a fairly liberal person who swings to the right on certain topics and would love to discuss anything and everything with you, I'm an open book and always trying to expand my world view so I welcome those with differing opinions as I feel it makes me more aware even if it doesn't change my mind. At the end of the day my motto is 'do whatever you want if you aren't hurting anyone else.'
It is worth noting as this is important, I am very close to legally blind and cannot/do not drive, I live an entirely independent life and have for pretty much my entire adult life despite this fact and often times people don't even know until I tell them that I do not drive, this does not define who I am but it is part of who I am. :)
Who I'm looking for
I'm looking for an another adult (anyone 21+ is cool with me) who is emotionally available, a strong communicator and looking to build something great, kindness and transparency are things that are very important to me so even if we aren't on the same page I appreciate someone who is willing to work towards it with me, or find a compromise if not. I don't have a 'type' I think all women are beautiful in their own ways but would love to meet someone in Orlando. At the end of the day what is important to me is as mentioned above, a meaningful connection with someone to just really be able to enjoy life with.
I hope this stands out to you,
Reed
I live in Las Vegas, work remote, and spend my free time reading, writing, going to concerts, playing video games and board games, and watching film/television. I geek out pretty heavily on anything Spider-Man related, have a love for The Dark Tower series of books, and love playing silly games like Lockdown Protocol with my friends.
I’m 5’11, around 250ish pounds (and continuously dropping), blue eyes, brown hair, glasses, almost always wear black, and I wear a lot of metal band / concert shirts.
I am looking for someone with similar interests that likes to talk about things they enjoy, I love hearing someone geek out on things they love. Bonus points if you have a dark sense of humor.
Things that are dealbreakers for me: Not driving, not having stable income, being obsessed with work, being shitty to restaurant staff.
I’ll share photos through messages once we start chatting, I prefer not to post them for bots to scrape. Feel free to reach out if you think we would get along!
In fear of over sharing or explaining, I'll keep this brief:
I'm looking for a like-minded person who is educated, kind, funny, and values genuine connection (or as close to genuine as you can get via the Internet). Whether that leads to friendship or romance, I'm open to seeing where things go.
Hi there! As it clearly states, I am a 29 year old F looking for a connection somewhere relatively close with the option for meeting regularly but am open to LDR for the right person and situation. I'm looking for something longterm, monogamous and adventurous. I am loyal and devoted to my connection and am looking for my person to grow with through life and keep searching for rainbows in the rain.
I am childfree by choice (looking to get steralized in the future), obsessed with spiders and exotic animals, my dog, and smoking lots of weed before going to the gym most days. If any of this isn't for you you should hit the back button and keep scrolling lol.
I am 5'10, long curly hair, glasses, a few tattoos and piercings. I love going to the gym but never say no to desert, life's too short lol. I am also neurodivergent with a sprinkle of the tism so bonus points if you're on the spectrum haha.
I love binging shows like You, The Office, Friends, Grey's Anatomy, The Grand Tour and whatever true crime doc I haven't already seen. I love Harry Potter just without the transphobic author crap lol, scary movies, cooking shows and anything Formula 1. I love to color, paint, knit and really just be busy with my hands. I love going to the gym and feeling strong and capable in my body, it's an addiction.
I'm hoping to find someone who is adventurous, wants to travel, loves animals and wants to have fun and make memories, this is the only life we get. I'm open to M/F/Trans 25-45 years old, hopefully near the bottom of Ontario. Happy to share sfw photos to see if an attraction is there to build off as well.
Hit me up and let's see if you're my unicorn 🦄
Depending on the upcoming election results (jk we're fucked either way), I would say I'm about a month or less away from leaving this vain capitalist hellscape behind and moving out to the woods to subsist on tree bark and pine needles. But I figured I’d give this online dating thing one last shot while I still have Wi-Fi.
I'm a fairly reclusive vegan guy who lives in the Midwest. I mostly enjoy solitary shit like listening to music (my favorite band is deftones, but I like everything from ambient to hip-hop), reading (I read a lot, mostly non-fiction, which is ironic for someone as stupid as I am), thrifting, and taking long, meandering walks (can't run anymore due to plantar fasciitis). I do all of my own cooking and impress myself with the myriad ways to ruin a recipe; I'm equally inept at keeping my many houseplants alive. I like kids and pets but do not have nor want any of my own due to allergies. I may smoke a lil weed at night but barely drink and have never done hard drugs; I'm indifferent to what you do as long as you promise not to steal my TV to pawn off for meth money. I have a job, an apartment and a car—all unimpressive I assure you—but other than that I have largely opted out of the rat race, instead choosing a frugal, bare-bones existence.
I'm interested in anything ranging from online buddies (though I much prefer video chat and phone calls to marathon text convos), to possible romance (long distance is fine as long as you're in the contiguous U.S. or are willing to travel here). Would love to find someone to go to museums and concerts with, and hopefully some road trips or Amtrak rides. It would be nice to meet someone who is vegan too, but that's not a deal breaker as long as I can convert you later (cue evil laughs).
If any of this doesn't completely bore or repulse you, then please drop me a line with a picture (here's mine) and your current favorite song (here's mine). Thanks for your time and consideration.
(Considering how “unsuitable” I am, posting this is like playing the lottery, but hey, you can’t win if you don’t have a ticket, right? So, here’s my ticket.)
Looking for: Long-term partner.
I’m this, that, and the opposite. I can be on both ends of the spectrum.
I can be a sweet kitten (there are a few witnesses), but mostly I’m a bitter, salty, sour, spicy, cranky bitch.
I live in a bad mood but spend my time singing, dancing, and laughing ironically, sarcastically, and cynically at… well, everything.
Left-leaning, but with balls. Anti pseudoscience and anti-bullshit. Not a fan of anyone or anything. Disillusioned with pretty much everyone and everything.
I love to read. My favorite genre is humorous fantasy (Terry Pratchett, Neil Gaiman, Christopher Moore, etc.), or anything that makes me laugh. Discworld books are my favorite. I’m also into authors who turn your thoughts and emotions inside out, tear your life open, and throw the pieces to the beasts. For poetry: Benedetti, Alejandra Pizarnik, Julia Prilutzky, Bécquer, Jaime Sabines.
Hobbies: biking, puzzles, outdoor activities, pretty much anything out in nature.
Six things I could never do without: something to read, something to listen to, life like a musical, rain, wind, and nature.
Hardware store "fan". I’d rather fix things myself.
Currently working to live a simple life, but not a boring one, up in some mountain, with minimalism meets high-tech and good design. Preferably with a “wind tree” (Frodinia tremula) nearby.
Collector of melancholy music genres: tango, fado, zamba, bolero, ballads, Peruvian waltz, tonada, blues… but I dance through life solo, preferably samba-like steps.
Sometimes I feel I am 5 years old, other times, 200.
Honestly, I’m quite SICK of almost everything and everyone, but I still try to help out here and there when I can. I’d like to be Mary Poppins, but life turned me into Cruella de Vil. I’ve got a cemetery inside me, filled with all the things I've lost. I complain a LOT and criticize even more. If you can’t handle this black hole of a woman, nothing happened here, just keep walking.
I refuse to be treated as a second-class citizen, whether for being a woman, from a “shithole” country, or whatever else. I’m too strange, too eccentric, too bitter, and too sour to be a scammer, and if you think someone with my personality could be a scammer... let’s just not waste each other’s time.
Photo: https://imgur.com/a/FxpTFZX
YOU:
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Unas veces me siento
como pobre colina
y otras como montaña
de cumbres repetidas.
Unas veces me siento
como un acantilado
y en otras como un cielo
azul pero lejano.
A veces uno es
manantial entre rocas
y otras veces un árbol
con las últimas hojas.
Pero hoy me siento apenas
como laguna insomne
con un embarcadero
ya sin embarcaciones
una laguna verde
inmóvil y paciente
conforme con sus algas
sus musgos y sus peces,
sereno en mi confianza
confiando en que una tarde
te acerques y te mires,
te mires al mirarme.
— Mario Benedetti