/r/R4R40Plus

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A place where redditors 40 and over can get to know each other.

Platonic, looking for people with similar interests, single, married, swingers, open relationships, naughty from neglect, friendships, etc. All are welcome.

Perhaps you're younger than 40 but looking for the maturity and stability that can accompany being over 40. You are welcome as well! :)

Please mention your location in your post or flair.

Add flair to your username. Be creative :)

Please mention as specifically as possible what you are looking for in a friend, lover, D&D character, partner, hiking buddy, potential spouse, AP.

Partnered with subs:

/r/40something /r/RedditForGrownups /r/AskMenOver30

/r/R4R40Plus

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35F Finding Chat and Connections

Have a good weekend! I live in USA and it's a quiet Saturday night, anyone chat? At least let me know your ASL.

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2024/10/06
03:16 UTC

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36 [F4M] Fatty seeking fatty #Michigan #Kalamazoo

I am hoping to find someone I can hang out with irl, so that means someone reasonably local. :)

Not looking for anything specific, just a cool guy who I enjoy spending time with, to be friends first and hopefully more later. Going on walks/hikes, craft shows, stand up comedy, pub trivia, and doing art together are a few things I like to do when I go out.

I don't watch a lot of tv. I'm monogamous, progressive & atheist and looking for the same. I like psychedelics occasionally but otherwise, not really into drinking/weed/drugs too much. :)

Some pics of me:

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2024/10/06
02:33 UTC

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39 [M4F]- Anywhere - Powerful emotional connection

6'3 basketball lover and volleyball enthusiast divorced dad.

I'm a simple guy with great taste. Hate drama and looking for a genuine connection.

Love languages: Physical Touch + Quality Time and Spotify playlists!

Ask away whatever you may wanna know, we’re not 20 anymore 🤭

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2024/10/06
02:26 UTC

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40 [M4F] Online/EST - Lie to me

Let's pretend we'll actually meet. That this flirtation won't just be online. That our bodies will press together in the near future.

Let's pretend it's practical to like each other and that we're not hundreds or thousands of miles apart. That we'll still know each other in a month. That there's a real chance here.

Let's pretend this isn't doomed from the start and just enjoy our time together.

I am where I am for the foreseeable future. You probably are, too. But fuck it. There's a universe out there we share the same space and time and it's incredible. There you rest your head on my chest at night while my arm cradles you and my fingers play in your hair.

Let's visit that fantasy. Let's forget our reality. Let's indulge the hope. Let's talk freely and stupidly. Let's talk fears, dreams, traumas, kinks, art, music, science, pleasure, pain, life, death. Let's get on together and get off together. Let's be everything, anything, nothing.

Let's use each other while still appreciating each other.

Me: Single and open to mistakes.

You: I guess we'll see.

Lie to me. But be honest about it.

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2024/10/06
02:03 UTC

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39 [M4F] #Houston - Looking for chat notifications and passionate kisses

Anyone else looking to break up the monotony of life and make the day a little more interesting? Not anything crazy or deep, just some chatting and if all goes well maybe meet to share some passionate kisses while going for a walk? Or some other simple rendezvous?

This is perfect for a woman that just wants a little more spice in her life without any drama or doing something too risky or crazy. A woman who just needs a distraction from the hectic demands of the day to day.

A little about me, im tall 6’1” handsome with a thick muscular build with strong arms and hands. Think handsome brawny lumberjack. If youre into that sorta thing youd like me.

So if that sounds like fun, send me a message with your age and part of Houston and lets chat!

Single or not single is fine, looking for 27 or older, not interested in couples.

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2024/10/06
02:03 UTC

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38[m4f] - Looking for meaningless conversation with a chill stranger

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2024/10/06
01:48 UTC

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45[F4M] #Arizona #Online - Looking for a friend.

Hello! I would like to connect with someone who actually wants to communicate on a daily basis. I don’t want to be the person you reach out to simply because you’re bored or have no one else to talk to. Someone who can help carry the conversation and is open to talking about anything and everything. I’ll save all the things about me for when we chat so we can get to know one another together. I will say that I’m sarcastic, profane and sometimes a little perverted.

I get that we aren’t a good fit for everyone yet the only way to find out is to try so let’s see what happens.

Send me a chat with your name, age, location, one thing about you and your favorite color. Those who don’t provide all five things will not get a reply. Please US based only.

I look forward to hearing from you!

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2024/10/06
00:28 UTC

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44 [F4M] looking for something real. Read to know more.

I’m 44 female from my cali. Long long brown hair, brown eyes, glasses, 5’4, Hispanic. (Have Covid at the moment) About me: well I thought I’d try here see if I can find anyone worth getting to know. I enjoy the outdoors. I have a kid. I like thrifting. Netflix. I am a gamer of Warcraft. I’m very sarcastic and very funny. Im so funny I’ll make your day go by. I’m hilarious. I’m a Capricorn. I like bright colors. I love fall and spring. I’m a social drinker. I DO NOT smoke or do drugs. About you: Prefer someone usa/north America. Similar interests. 40s only. Above 5’10 I like tall what can I say. Someone fit if possible. If your a gamer msg me.

When responding tell me ur fave movie and why?

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2024/10/06
00:00 UTC

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68 [M4F] #Las Vegas - You're a total slut who is very ashamed, but you want your holes to be used by a much older tall but dominant white male when he visits Vegas Dec 6 & 7.

You want to be used by Daddy when he visits Vegas. You can be just over legal age or older, but you want to be dominated, used and also have intense orgasms too. You have never been with a man my age but now you want to.

You want to be slowly exposed, objectified, used, possibly bound, or or even share me with another female friend or two, but all under the direction of an older well educated mature white male. More details to follow once we exchange emails. This post is intentionally vague and if you are timid, this is not for you, but if you are very bored sexually and need to become more aroused than usual, then you should consider contacting me. While we will not have much time together I just want you for your holes and need for you to service me. While you may be ashamed thinking about this, it's normal to think this way and better to let loose and go for it, then keep it suppressed and miss out on the resulting very very naked fun and orgasms that cum when we meet.

I am white, 6’, 200, creaitve, kinky & dominant, but respect limits. At my age I know what I am doing, non smoker, look young for my age, thick, cut and great oral skills too.

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2024/10/05
22:40 UTC

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32 [M4F] Spain/Switzerland/Europe. Pediatric surgeon looking for a kind and curious lady. Open to any country.

Hello everyone! I’m a 32yo Spanish pediatric surgeon, now living in Geneva. I have left an abusive relationship behind some months ago and now I feel ready to meet a lady with a curious mind and a kind heart :), for friendship or something more serious.

I’m reeeeally bad introducing myself but I will try!. Outside my job my biggest passions are to read compulsively (any kind of literature or essay as long as I find the book enriching), classical music, movies, old cars, to study History, hiking, volunteering, painting miniatures… and a lot more I’m sure I’m forgetting now!

I’m really easy going and chill so please don’t be afraid of sending me chat request. It will be pleasure to get to know you better and see how it goes!

Open to any country and to anyone 18 or older. I don’t even mind we don’t share hobbies or points of views, it’s always nice to learn!

I hope to hear from you soon!

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2024/10/05
20:26 UTC

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51[M4A] #Naperville - Happy fun

Yes. Don't worry, be happy!

You are reading this cause you want to have fun, sexy fun, right? So, tell me a bit about yourself. What are you looking for? Where are you from? Only looking for locals. I am sure you have wants and needs. You wish to be appreciated, cared for, and paid attention to. I will do that.

I like to chat, message, and who knows much more. Let me give you want you are looking for. Messaging and chatting can lead us to an irresistible friendship. I want to know as much, ok, everything about you. Would hope you want the same? Read your words and feel your warmth in every possible sexy way is something I desire.

You do not have to be afraid to reach out to me. If you read this far you should find out more. I am regularly available to chat and like to. I will not ghost you, please do not me. So, let's get to know each other, arouse the senses, and give you everything you need. Amazing and enjoyable fun is just a message away.

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2024/10/05
20:18 UTC

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73 [M4F] #Long Island/Manhattan - You want a young looking tall older white male, older than your Dad (or even your Grandfather)  who wants to make your orgasms great again and much more.

While you want a friend you also want a friend who will want to make your ograsms very intense again and multiple times too. Read what I have to say and perhaps take a chance and contact me.

I’m an older in shape tall white well educated male seeking an intelligent but very very naughty woman who has only one thing one her mind. You obviously know what I want as it all still works. I trust you enjoy very very taboo salacious fun and pleasurable orgasms. Whether you’re married, dating or single, you’ve always wanted to go to bed with a significantly older male. If you are interested then lets start chatting and find out where we have common interests including sexually. I am not looking to meet immediately and prefer to chat and determine if an eventual meet starting off for a cup of coffee or something similar makes the most sense. I'm a retired professional with many interests and enjoy the company of intelligent woman. I will tell you that I am not a MAGA person and while I have many interests, I am not one who likes to keep talking about politics. Sexually I am wide open whether you just enjoy making love with lot of foreplay, kissing, etc. etc. Or if you are playful and enjoy light or even more kink and roleplay, of course within your limits. I’m 6’, 200, clean shaven, look young for my age, dad type body, still have 2/3 of my graying black hair, non smoker, do not drink. My equipment is cut, very thick and nice size but not monster. At my age I know how to give orally and if you enjoy an hour or oral without stopping I will be fine pleasuring you that way too.

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2024/10/05
20:02 UTC

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33[m4f] NY I'm bored you're bored wanna talk?

Hey my name is Alex I'm 33 and from New York I'm also paralyzed from a accident so that's slowed down life quite a bit I enjoy things like racing gaming spending time with family on holidays I watch lots of shows and movies from anything to like Yellowstone or Riverdale I play all different kinds of games all I'm looking for is someone to talk to throughout the day and if it turns into something then it does and if it doesn't it doesn't I'm definitely a go with the flow type just shoot me a chat on here and we can get to talking as you can tell I'm terrible with punctuation it never made sense to me lol and if you don't want to talk I hope you have a incredible day and find someone to talk to bc you're here looking just like me

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2024/10/05
19:57 UTC

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25 [M4F]: let’s talk about you.

I’m kinda lonely and horny. I don’t go out much. I spend a lot of time edging myself and I desperately want a release. Maybe you want the same? Tell me how you want it, I’ll tell you mine. Also, hoping to listening to the same songs while we do it? Idk, let us maybe instruct each other? Well I’m open to ideas, hit me up and I’ll make you mine.

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2024/10/05
19:51 UTC

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58[F4M]#Georgia I just want to be part of your symphony

I am looking for a long term relationship with someone who will hold me to that and not let go.

I work in a hospital laboratory and have a 2 dogs. I knit, crochet, do cross stitch, read and play video games. I started kayaking last year but have not had much time to go out. My plan is to do more next year.

I like horror, thriller, true crime, science fiction movies and books. I do throw in a romance novel every so often. I listen to just about any genre of music and like discovering new music.

I play mostly play role playing and shooting video games. I have a switch, PS5 and steam deck. My favorite series are Final Fantasy , Zelda and Mario.

Some things I am interested in trying are disc golf and pickle ball. I also want to get in better shape this winter to go hiking and see the waterfalls in Georgia and maybe hike a bit of the Appalachian trail. I also am interested in building Lego models and radio controlled cars (I am not sure if those are a thing anymore).

You are 40+, single and live within a 3 hour radius of me. I live 2 hours southeast of Atlanta.

Hit me up if want to have our songs on repeat and dance to each other’s heartbeats.

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2024/10/05
19:41 UTC

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38 [m4f] Online - Looking for an actual friend to sometimes fool around, edge and cum with

Trying to find someone who's fun to talk to and wants a long-term relationship online. I say relationship because I don't want this to be something where we don't feel a connection but frankly what I am looking for is a sexual partner online, sorry if that sounds crude but it is what it is.

But, not just that, we should certainly feel something for each other so we look forward to our time together. The best-case scenario is that we risk falling in love, even if we don't want to. Someone to chat the week through and 'chill' out with on weekends.

We will eventually move onto another more reliable and real-time platform than Reddit. So be open to that.

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2024/10/05
19:10 UTC

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32 [M4F] #Toronto #Canada # Online Seeking Like-Minded Connections

Hello Reddit community!

I'm a 32-year-old guy based in the Greater Toronto Area, and I'm hoping to connect with some like-minded individuals, who share similar interests. A little bit about me—I have a well-established career, and in my free time, I love to unwind by cooking. I’m always experimenting with new recipes, so if you're someone who appreciates good food and enjoys sharing a great meal, we’ll probably hit it off!

Another passion of mine is all things horror and sci-fi. Whether it’s diving into a captivating book, watching a thrilling movie, or binge-watching the latest TV series in these genres, I’m all in. If you're also into horror or science fiction, or even if you have some awesome recommendations, I’d love to hear from you!

I’m really looking forward to meeting some interesting and genuine people who share these hobbies and passions. Don’t be shy—feel free to drop me a message. Can’t wait to connect with you all! 😊

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2024/10/05
18:58 UTC

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50 M4F - Sometimes the worst place you can be is in your own head..

..come and occupy my thoughts.

Are you looking for a man who knows a thing or two about delving a little deeper than surface level chitchat, because underneath your wife and mother responsibilities, lies a woman itching to be noticed again, maybe the woman you once were, or maybe you've noticed yourself change the past few years, and you're in need of someone to pull you out from the monotonous routine of life, and remind you that you're a desirable woman?

I'm from the UK and im at the stage in my life where i want something just purely for me, my own slice of happiness. My marriage is ok, sometimes it's pretty good, sometimes not so good, i suppose that's life for you, but now that our kids are more like adults, i have more free time on my hands, which got me thinking, to actually find someone to invest good quality time with, to become each other's secret best person, would be quite something, don't you think?

I'm quietly confident and fairly intelligent, easy to get along with, inquisitive, down to earth and fairly laid back. I consider myself to be a gentleman, polite, courteous and emotionally available. I'm average height, high metabolism, considered attractive, been told i have nice kind eyes and that i look younger than i am, i haven't been asked for my ID since i decided to grow a beard when I was 40, which is now salt and peppered.

You're from the UK, at least 40 years old, a woman who is good with her words, you tend to 'think outside of the box', aren't constrained to convention, and who can bring a bit of banter and sarcasm to the table, but also able to show your softer side. You are confident, with a dark sense of humour. If you call yourself the mum next door with a mum bod, or curvaceous then you'd most probably turn my head.

Although this might not be where you thought you'd be (married with kids scrolling through Reddit), you found yourself here, curiosity got the better of you, and here you are, wondering if im the right man to reach out too..

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2024/10/05
18:54 UTC

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38 [M4F] Anywhere - Looking for an Online Bestie

Hey there from your brand new online bestie!

What am I looking for? Absolutely nothing specific. I work from home and also travel a lot for work so my in-real-life friendships tend to suffer. I also really enjoy the hit of dopamine that I get when the little orange "1" pops up next to my chats on here. I do prefer longterm chats over little one-day ones. If you're here to "hit it and forget it" in my DMs, it really just seems like a waste of time, no?

I've made some really great reddit friends along the way, but life seems to eventually get in the way for one or the other (the way of such things, I suppose). It gets in the way for me sometimes too! So I get it.

A Little About Me:

I'm originally from the Midwest, but now call Florida home. I know my name is "SportsJunkie" but It's a really old screenname because I've been around reddit forever. I can talk about lots else besides sports! That said, it's a big part of my life, so if I'm slow to respond, I'm at the fields coaching. I'm not very outdoorsy, but I love to cook and sing and hang out with a nice glass of whiskey. I'll save more deets for when we talk! I am rarely serious and always full of really lame dad jokes and lots of sarcastic banter. Just looking for friends on here.

A Little About You:

Please don't expect me to be around at all hours of the night because my night owl days are (usually) over. Maybe you work from home or are a stay at home mom who needs distraction or maybe work is just slow and you like to procrastinate like me. Please be willing to swap selfies at some point and potentially move to another chat venue because reddit chat is notoriously glitchy. Bonus points for being able to dish out the sarcasm as well as you can take it. Eastern timezone or close by is obviously a bonus, but I can make just about anything work.

Did I pique your fancy? Shoot me your age, gender and location in your first message along with your favorite color so I can weed out the AI bot overlords.

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2024/10/05
18:38 UTC

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34[M4F] Florida/online….looking for conversation

Hi! 34m from Florida. Hoping to find someone people to chat with on her. Had success in the past but things just fizzle out. Such is life lol Stuck at work today on a Saturday (healthcare 👎🏻). Want some people to help pass the time. Wish I was at home hearing up for a day of college football…at least I brought my laptop to watch the games at work. Down to chat about anything. Can carry on a conversation but I’m kinda shy at first. Probably why I’m looking for friends on Reddit. I am married with 2 little ones. Don’t care if you are or aren’t. Just looking to chat!

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2024/10/05
18:24 UTC

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36 [M4F] Ireland / Europe / Anywhere. Let's skip to the part where we talk about the things that make us happy, and forget about the real world for a minute. ☔️🍁☕️

There's enough stress and anxiety in everyday life, and i'm sorry if you're having a hard time, we've all been there. But i just want to curate a cozy little corner here, a safe space where trials and tribulations don't exist. Think rainy day coffee shop meets hobbit hole. Conversations starters can be anything from food and travel, to music and movies. Maybe you're an avid gamer, maybe you're a fitness junkie, there are no wrong answers. So consider this an open invitation to all kinds, with the one proviso being that we always keep it light. So what will you be having, pumpkin spice latte or an earl grey tea?

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2024/10/05
18:05 UTC

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48 [M4F] #Kansas City KS Looking for a DDlg experience with a woman.

Have an interest in being diapered? Heard of DDlg but maybe you've never tried it? Let's chat for a bit and see if it's something you'd like to try. I am looking for female company only please.

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2024/10/05
17:47 UTC

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35 [M4F] UK/Online - I miss having a friend I can flirt with, tbh

Hello. To try and keep this short, I thought of trying to give this a go since I've missed having a favorite online distraction.

The introvert in me makes me a great listener and will more than happily lend a friendly ear (or two) should you ever need to vent. Or just talk about absolutely anything under the sun. I won't say I'm a nerd in the conventional sense of the word, but my interests are all over the place and quite random. I don't judge so easy and safe to say I'm very open minded.

If you don't mind having a virtual friend who's flirty, potentially an online FWB, as well as a pen-pal with whom you can engage with throughout the day whenever the time permits it, feel free to reach out. You'd be keeping this professional over-thinker busy and out of his own head. And I'd gladly help do the same.

A little more about me:

  • I work for a social media marketing firm as a business development and project manager
  • Studying (or at least trying to) for my certification in counseling and psychotherapy on the side.
  • If it matters -I'm fairly average built, 6'1", black hair and brown eyes.
  • Love discussing anything art, science or music related (different genres from classical, to rock, to house and everything in between. My taste is varied)

P S. I should probably emphasize, so as to not waste anyone's time, that I'm not looking for anything too serious. At least for now.

Thank you for coming to my TEDtalk.

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2024/10/05
17:08 UTC

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66 [M4F] LosAngeles/California - Breast Worship And More

Hi. Please read the whole post, thanks.
I am a SWM, 66, educated, professional, witty, communicative, and patient, who loves using my mouth to make a woman feel great. I love being very oral, on breasts/nipples and all over. Not for a minute or two, but for extended periods of time to give as much pleasure, and as many orgasms, as possible. Just lay there and enjoy. I will pay attention to you and your sexual needs and desires, and even before I get mine.
I am 5' 9", about 180 pounds, D/D free, and I exercise regularly. And I can host in a safe area.
So, if you live in the LA area (or are visiting), are D/D free, and you want, or need, what I love to do, I hope to hear from you. Race and relationship status do not matter. But, no men, no one under 25, and expect only mutual fun. And by the way, I am not looking to be any kind of daddy.
Finally, I welcome any questions, just please be willing and able to actually follow through. Please. I really am very good at what I do. :)
Thanks.

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2024/10/05
16:29 UTC

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43 [M4F] London (but anywhere) - Saturday shenanigans? Who knows.

Hello, Hi, Good morning/afternoon/evening, or in fact Hey!

Here we are, you have clicked in, possibly through interest or possibly due to curiosity with such a title. Anyhow, whatever reason, thanks for stopping by, and wait, don't go, it gets better, well, maybe...

IIt is Saturday and it has been a lovely day so far but few plans for the evening so I thought why not put it out there to see if someone slides into my DMs (not literally) or messages and see what happens.

What am I looking for?? - In all honesty, who knows. No expectations at all and let us chat and see where we end up.

A little about me, as I mean I don't want to give you everything straight away or else no need to chat, educated, London born and raised, well travelled, doesn't take things too seriously and awful at these posts (as you can see).

So go on, jump in and hit me with something random - it could be fun*

(*Fun is not guaranteed!)

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2024/10/05
16:20 UTC

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41[M4F] #chicago seeking a fun and discreet evening. I have some really great molly and would love to take some together and do whatever we want. Can host tonight.

Send me a chat if interested at all and in Chicago area. I’m in Lincoln park. Let’s chat a bit, get to know each other, make sure we set some boundaries & feel safe, talk about any kinks. :) Feel free to ask me any questions. Would prefer to meet up first then come back to my place.

Send me a chat naughty Chicago lovely ladies.

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2024/10/05
14:14 UTC

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29[M4F] Craving Connection and New Adventures #Anywhere #India #Online

Hello!

I’m a 29-year-old adventurer with a passion for trekking, cycling, and discovering life’s hidden gems. But what I truly appreciate most is the captivating beauty, charm, and presence that women bring into every moment. I’m drawn to women of all kinds, each with her own unique allure, and I love building connections that are both exciting and meaningful.

There’s something irresistible about a woman who embraces her curves and exudes confidence. I find myself particularly enchanted by voluptuous figures, especially those with beautiful, big breasts. It’s that radiance and energy that lights up any room, and I can’t help but admire it.

If you’re a woman who enjoys deep conversations, loves a touch of adventure, and is curious about where a connection with someone who truly appreciates you might lead, I’d love to connect. Whether it’s for fun, flirtation, or a deeper bond, I’m excited to see what we can create together.

Let’s make something unforgettable! Looking forward to hearing from you.

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2024/10/05
12:40 UTC

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54 [M4F] #U.K./online

Hello. I’m a 54 year old white English male living in the U.K. looking for a female friend (from anywhere but particularly interested in girls from the USA ) to get to know/chat with ideally on a regular and long term basis both sfw and nsfw. I’m 6 ft slim athletic build blonde hair blue eyes. Particularly interested in girls 30+ and no upper age limit. If you’re interested and would like to talk then feel free to message me.

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2024/10/05
12:40 UTC

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41 [m4f] - another sleepless night

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2024/10/05
11:12 UTC

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F49M - new England region

Looking for relationship and more. No married guys. Text if interested

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2024/10/05
11:06 UTC

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