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This is part 1 for anyone that’s curious : https://www.reddit.com/r/LongDistance/s/paaKD4I2yH

So I ended up speaking to her again about it while crying my eyes out on the phone and she said she didn’t need any breaks or space for herself in the relationship and that she wanted me to act normally everyday, she also still feels extremely distant with me and I’m starting to doubt if she lost her love for me that she used to have after the incident.

She used to always say I love you too or just I love you in general whenever I told her and now she doesn’t say anything and while I was talking to her about what I did she said “you did what you did and you thought it was right now please stop talking about it, it’s starting to annoy me” so I respected her wishes and I stopped and she told me to stop crying because she didn’t know how to comfort me but I was just crying because of what I did and how I felt.

So yeah now the relationship feels strained and on edge I’m hurt and I don’t know what to do I’m starting to feel like she doesn’t love me anymore but I’m never gonna give up on her or leave unless that’s what she feels or says.

Is there anything I should say to her like do you still love me or something or any advice I can get to help the situation, please and thank you.

I hurt my girlfriend badly. My girlfriend has been through some really rough past relationships and she's also going through depression and a lot of stuff right now, so she's all over the place and she cries almost every day.

The situation now is that because she's long distance, we always play games together and so we got matching outfits and everything. So yesterday, a friend I knew randomly joined us while we were playing and I was stressing out about it because a lot of people see these online relationships as weird, you know? And I didn't want to get judged, so I changed my matching outfit and pretended she was my friend. I still don't know why I did that, but it was too late, and so my girlfriend just left the game.

I messaged her, but she's being really dry and distant with me. I guess I cried all day yesterday, some of it on the phone to her too. I wanted her to know that I was really sorry for what I did, and I know it was messed up. She saw me as her safe space in her lonely and depressing world, and now I don't know what to do. I love her so much and I just want things to go back to how they were, but I can barely hold a conversation with her. She just responds with "yeah" or "okay" and then kind of wants to end it, but I'm still sending her big paragraphs because I want her to know that I still want to talk to her and I'll keep on talking to her even if she gives me dry responses.

Over five months ago I started talking to someone online and we started dating maybe two weeks into talking up until December.

A lot of things happened where he and I were hurting mentally and suddenly he stopped responding and went radio silent. I had a feeling I knew why so i messaged his friends in hopes of getting an answer.

Two weeks later his friend at first told me if he hadnt answered by now i should just move on but then i mentioned suicide because my bf had mentioned it to me before and thats when his friend said that yeah he actually did attempt. I was confused why he didnt tell me that first thing but its probably because he sees me as a stranger online which is understandable. (Cuz in reality that is all i am)

From then on I’ve just been waiting hoping he’ll get back in touch. Ive been a wreck these past few months and i was also doing horrible mentally and this whole thing made me go even more crazy. I actually attempted to run away and walk to his state because i was so desperate. (It wouldve taken days)

There have been instances where my messages were seen as read but no response. I don’t know if it’s foolish to continue hoping and waiting for him, or if its selfish of me to hope since he was going through such a rough patch and I couldnt do anything to help. Ive been calling and messaging him nonstop since December and truly have no idea if hes really seen it or not. I havent gotten any response from his friend either. Should I give it up already?

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Hi I've recently gotten into this long distance relationship its been almost 2 months and everything has been going good for us so far until recently as a little backstory my girlfriend has been through some trauma and homesickness since she's moved away from her family for university and we used to spend around 6-7+ hours on the phone together but now her sister has moved in with her around 2 weeks ago the amount of time I get to spend with her shortens day by day and now I only get to talk to her or do things with her at night around 1-2 am and its really hard for me because I just love her too much and it pains me that I can barely talk to her throughout my day and now I can barely get in 1-2 hours in with her per day and I just miss her too much, and I'm afraid its impacting my life negatively I feel sad and somewhat depressed whenever I'm not with her or don't hear from her and now I'm starting to think that she doesn't love me the same way I do and that I may have just been a form of coping or healing for her.

Is there anyone out there that can help me with these emotions and give me some advice please?

My girlfriend (20f) and I (20f) been dating for a little over six months! She lives in Canada while I live in the United States. My sister and a few of her close friends know of our relationship. And my sister had to hear me complain of my gf’s past poor communication. Which lead to me requesting a break. I was extremely distraught after the break and we still remained close friends.

Well the other day she began to make moves to communicate more with me. And i made the decision to resume dating. I’m beyond happy as she’s texting and calling me nearly every day. I told my sister and she was disappointed in me. I know she wants what’s best for me, but it hurts my feelings knowing my sister thinks so negatively over my relationship!

Advise?

I am on a two-month long-distance relationship I've been navigating lately. The first couple of months were intense – chatting every day and all that jazz. He's big on continuous chatting, which was cool because I had tons of free time. When it comes to chatting, he gets a bit annoyed if I step away in the middle of our chat or if my responses are kinda unhinged.

We decided to be exclusive after just a month of talking but only making it official until we meet in person, which seemed like a good call. I mean, I appreciate the gesture, but it felt a bit fast for me. It was him who asked to make it official and us someone who don’t like dating multiple men, so i decided to give it a go. At the same time, he sent me a packages which I was surprised, i like the gesture but i also find it a bit too much.

Fast forward to now, and things have hit a bit of a rough patch. Only this week, his conversation with me has started to lessen, I opened up to him about feeling anxious if there are changes of the way we communicate and it led to some tears on my end. I didn’t told back because he's always encouraged me to express how I feel.

He felt bad that I was hurt and said that being with him might make me sad. Then, out of nowhere, I asked him what's up with the weird vibes between us, and he dropped the bomb that he's not ready for the whole long-distance thing because I feel like I've been love-bombed, and now I'm thinking of calling it quits if there's no certainty.

I told him if LDR is not for him, then I am okay with it. I have zero intentions of pressuring him to be in this relationship, and he said that “I don’t know”. It seems he can’t decide if he wants to end our thing or not.

Another information to include he has ADHD so he has the tendency to be hyper and at the same time lost interest into certain things.

I told him I need some space and I will get back to him soon I am done with my reflecting. I also told him to think it over our relationship and figure out what he needs in our relationship.

Some friends are saying it's time to cut ties because of lovebombing red flags, while others think we should cool down and reflect on our relationship. Honestly, I'm lost. Any thoughts or advice you have on this whole situation would be gold right now.

Hello! Almost 4 years ago I started a relatively successful discord server, which means almost 4 years ago, I (M19) met my closest friend (F17). We talked off and on for a year or two until our friend group mostly fell apart. Everyone began treating her very poorly, and I was angry about it because she is the sweetest, smartest, and funniest person I've ever met. I soon spoke my truth to the group and no one listened so I essentially dropped everyone.

Throughout everything, my friend and I have still on good terms, but we were only talking occasionally over text. Fast forward another year or so, and we started talking, whether it's facetime, calling, or texting, for months on end without a break. This is still going on as I type this, and we facetime at least once a week usually, sometimes more depending on how we feel.

I trust her with my life and I really feel like she trusts me too considering how much she tells me about herself and her life. I have only realized recently the warm feeling I get when I think of her. She's my best friend, and yet it still feels like I want something more. My problem is simply that I'm not sure how a long distance relationship would work for me, or her, or even if she likes me back. I'm scared to try a LDR because I've never had one before and I just don't know if I'll be able to deal with not being with her in person. I also think(?) she's flirting with me sometimes but for all I know, that may just be her personality.

The question is, do I take the risk and tell her everything? Do I risk losing my best friend? I just don't know and it makes me sad. If any of you have some input, I would greatly appreciate it. I know this is a lot but I at least needed to say it somewhere.

ive been dating a guy ive met online long distance for over 6 months. we live in separate countries very far from eachother. but i feel as our love is so strong. i just love him so much no matter what, hes so charming and handsome and sosososo kind, caring. hes just so precious to me and the type of guy i want myself to marry one day. hes the light of my life and the reason i want to wake up in the morning, to talk to him. the reason i want to keep going because he makes me feel my worth when other put me down.

but the downside to the relationship is that we are both. 17. and if i told my mom she would probably be unsupportive and i wouldnt get to meet him. i want him so bad. i crave him so much and it hurts. i really feel as though he is the one. i cant just let go of him. i need him. but its so hard :(

ps: im literally sitting here almost in tears because of how much i love this man

My late husband and I met online almost 24 years ago. Way back when we had dial up modems. We had almost 18 years together before he passed away very suddenly. I miss him terribly but am so grateful to have had such a wonderful life with him. Never give up!

He reached out to me on social media, and despite my initial reluctance, he persisted until I finally responded. From the moment we started talking, I could tell he was sweet and incredibly handsome. What's more, he was living abroad, but just two days ago, he returned home, and we had the chance to meet in person. He was a true gentleman, the kind of person I could easily fall in love with under different circumstances.

I find myself on the verge of falling for him, but there's a massive wall that's preventing me from fully embracing my feelings. I'm typically a very discerning person when it comes to everything in my life, and he checks off about 90% of the boxes on my list of an ideal partner. For someone who knows me well, that's an astonishingly high percentage.

He's incredibly intelligent, hardworking, sweet, considerate, funny, and kind. But despite all these qualities, I can't help but feel that I'm incapable of loving him right now. I sense that one day, love may come, perhaps not in the immediate future, but I'm aware that it's on the horizon.

The issue lies in the fact that I was in a beautiful relationship that ended terribly just a year ago. Although I believe I've moved on and healed, the pain still lingers in my heart. The fear of being hurt again, of being mistreated, of having my trust shattered and being made to feel like a fool and a burden—it all continues to haunt me.

Whenever he asks about my feelings, I'm honest with him. I express my happiness in talking to him and my desire to have him in my life. But I also make it clear that my feelings haven't reached the same level as his. I'm transparent and open about what I'm experiencing and thinking. However, I'm afraid that my honesty might inadvertently manipulate him into waiting for me to love him, even though it may never happen.

I have no intention of playing with his emotions. I genuinely adore him and believe he's the perfect man for me. I want him to remain a part of my life, and I can even envision a future together. But deep down, I'm terrified that I may never be able to reciprocate his love.

I'm going to try and keep this short. Me and my girlfriend have known each other for about 2 years. I told my mom that we met at school and my gf moved away to a different state. Now my mom wants to take a vacation up to where she is and I don't want to go on the trip without her knowing. I do know what my gf looks like, and I know almost everything about her. It's a normal relationship basically (besides the part of it being long distance and online) I'm kinda scared of the possibility of me telling my mom and her making us break up. I don't want to not tell my mom and then going on the trip and her thinking it's a waste of time. She's a really caring mother but l'm not sure how she would feel about me online dating. How should I tell my mom the truth?

Recently I(24M) met a 21F online that is just my type. We’ve been snapping and texting daily for a few weeks now and I am liking her personality and vibe too.

Shes responsive and sends pics of herself to me. I think shes liking our texts since we typically end off on we’ll talk tomorrow. But I am usually the one to start the convo, she started once. We are both busy, so we haven’t called or gamed online, shes open to it but we haven’t gotten it to work yet.

She mentioned that she likes my vibe. She did say that she would like to visit me once she becomes more comfortable with me. Shes planning a trip with her friend to visit my state and me. Her best friend knows of me.

She said she’s single, but wants to work on herself. I want to believe it this time, she had valid reasons. I just have that feeling that shes feeling the same way, but maybe she just likes the attention? Im not sure why she would keep me around. It will definitely be hard to convince her to do LDR.

From this i wanted to ask, how do i gauge her interest? We have yet to do more than just text and snap, i know we just started talking so ill give it time.

Also, how would I go about stating my intentions? I was definitely put off by her saying that she wants to work on herself, not sure how to proceed.

I appreciate any advice, lmk if you have questions too

Tldr: I met her online and we’ve been texting and snapping everyday. Shes giving me mixed signs and told me she’s working on herself. How do i gauge her interest and how do i set my intentions clear for a LDR?

So after a year of talking online my boyfriend and I met irl. He lives in the UK and myself in the US. Before we met we had a very intimate relationship via video with the help of toys that were remotely controlled on his end. As well as other ways of having long distance intimacy.

Now that we've been together in the flesh and I'm having to separate again, I'm not sure if it will be as satisfying going back to the old ways knowing now how connected we are physically.

Has anyone experienced this, and if so what were some things you did to continue that bond in between visits?

I (22f) and my current bf (19m) have been together 8 months now, and have managed to grow just from playing videogames, to having full on calls everyday, exchanged phone numbers, video call, send each other pictures from work and so on, and have both been through so much just during that duration. My point of posting this is, if you really think its worth it, you're both transparent about information, and keep each other cared for, even from a distance, you might just find what you're looking for. LDR and online dating is very hard, and for lots of you, patience to meet the wonderful person you met across the country, or across the globe, is very hard, but with good patience, you will find something quite special. Keep up the hard fight for love, as love these days is very hard to come by!

Some time ago, I started to follow a voice actor on Instagram after watching some of her work. I then started to respond to her posts and have some conversations with her via Instagram DMs. I have since developed feelings for her and a desire to get to know her better as a person.

Was therefore wondering what things I could possibly do next that would allow me to befriend her and further develop a relationship.

I am really conflicted about this thing. We sext a lot and also video sex, almost every time we speak. Actually our almost every conversation has been turning into sex at the end lately. I (27F) like him (27M) a lot and I desire him too, I fantasize about him a lot, etc. but then sometimes I just feel too tired or simply I need to sleep early for work and this makes him check out. He has the opinion that couples should do it even though they dont want for their partners and I guess he feels like he is not desired and instead seen as a safe bet thinking I dont make an effort. I feel like I am really guilty and question myself why I dont want it sometimes even though I am also a highly sexual person. I sense like he is highly affectionate and wants me all the time if we sext and wants me to keep doing stuff on video even if I am about to fall asleep but then he told me if I am not into it, we arent compatible and he can find someone who does this for him and I should find someone for my needs too.

We are nevermets and I will fly to see him this summer as his work schedule would be difficult because of time difference and also he has a condition making it difficult for him to travel and even risky. I will cover all the costs first time even if he decides to come as a last resort. I actually volunteered to do that because he is careful about finances a lot because of his difficult childhood and doesnt have a stable job as I do but I am also from a third world country while he is not and he can make more than me, etc. I dont want to burden him in any way and sometimes it feels like I am not doing my best, I am not enough but I am also tired and dont know if we have a future at all. He says he can have me help him in his business and he can give me 50% of it to cover my travel expenses which is logical but then I dont know. Sometimes it feels like he thinks I will be lucky enough to meet him thus expenses will be worth it but then it feels like the value I give came down to sex only. There are many other issues but then it would make this post too long but basically he has been controlling and suspects I might cheat any moment even though I do everything to show that I am not and I wont and I didnt. He only fixed this a bit after he wanted a break and instead I wanted to break up. But still he thinks that he is too desperate and like a safe bet and like a clown if I dont sext if he wants it as he can find another local girl who can do.

I am conflicted as he is also affectionate a lot, helps me a lot but then also I feel off sometimes and feel the need to convince him all the time of my worth.

I dont even know what to think or feel anymore.

I hope it is okay to post this here. It's not about a romatic relationship, but a friendship, though we still met online. I just don't know of a better sub for this.

I (27M) met a girl (26F) online approximately half a year ago and we quickly became very good friends. We mostly play video games together and voice chat every evening. The amount of time we spend talking every day is, in my opinion, quite staggering, especially considering she is in a relationship and we do this every single day with very rare exceptions. It's not uncommon for us to talk for 8 hours straight on Friday/Saturday nights and 3-4 hours on other days. Basically, the only thing stopping us from talking even longer is having to go to work the next day and we already end up with only 5 hours of sleep a night. I should also mention that she gives me many compliments every time we talk, telling me how smart and funny and kind I am. We also text throughout the day, chatting about pretty much everything and often asking how the other is feeling multiple times a day. As I've never received that much attention and affection from another person, I develop feelings for her and eventually tell her about it. She is flattered, but nothing can happen, because she already has a boyfriend (30m), which I knew already, but I felt like I had to tell her anyway. She talks with him about it and everyone is fine with us staying friends and nothing really changes. We still spend a huge amount of time together, talk and chat just like before, compliments continue, etc.

During all that time she often tells me how shitty her life is and how much she hates that nothing ever happens. I ask her why nothing happens and she tells me that she asked her boyfriend to do stuff together, but he declined everything she suggested. I tell her that I'd be down for pretty much anything whenever she wants, as it is only a two hour drive to her city. After a couple months of her waving it off, she agrees to meet, but her boyfriend insists on joining us, at least for the first couple times, which is understandable given my feelings for her. So I create a long list of activities for everyone to rate and interestingly enough he rates the stuff he declined previously very high. In general he rates everything very similarly to her (ratings of others were visible). This makes me wonder. Is he only rating stuff high because of me and the possible "danger" of us doing stuff without him? They have done pretty much nothing together for the past six months (though I suspect for longer than that), he declines every one of her suggestions, but now that she's planning to do exactly those things with me he's interested?

This whole situation and the friendship in general is confusing me to no end. Now the obvious thing would be to just talk to her about it, but I'm scared of the consequences. She has been very understanding so far and while she hasn't given me any reason to, I'm scared of risking our friendship by making her feel guilty or putting my nose where it doesn't belong. She is by far the best friend I've ever had and I don't want to lose her. I'm also very much into her, which makes this all very difficult to deal with, as I repeatedly get my hopes up, only to have them crushed again. I need an objective opinion on all this to know if I'm reading too much into it. How would you handle a friendship and situation like this?

So, I (24M) started dating this guy (19M) at the end of last year and became official at the beginning of 2024, but we met online and my parents are pretty protective over me. We're approaching our second month of being a couple, we had video called so I know he's real and we also checked each other for criminal background.

The issue is that my father is against me having an age gap with a partner, especially since we are of the same gender, and his parents aren't good people either (my family wants to meet his), so I know I won't be able to stop them from protesting against my relationship.

Any advice on how I should approach this?

I met my online friend four years agoz For her privacy I’ll call her Adele. Since this is anonymous I’ll tell the whole story.

I’m a Reddit newbie and also posted this on r/aita- I hope that’s not incorrect somehow.

I’m willing to answer any questions or fill in any blanks I missed because I’m writing in the heat of the moment on my phone.

We met on a role playing amino in my first year of high school (we are both 17 now and I’m female)

One of my old irl friends and I just reconnected. He heavily encouraged me to block her right away so I started to think about it, because I value his advice.

I’ve wanted to stop texting her and ghost for years now on and off but never did, or if I tried she would argue with me- telling me what a bad person I was or how everyone always ghosts her in the end. Looking back I should’ve taken that as a sign right away. (If everyone ghosts you, and you have no irl friends chances are you’re the problem)

I have FaceTimed her and we messaged through instagram so I know she’s actually 17. I never gave her my location or real identifying information… we would roleplay on amino or text from morning until night- except for when we’d bring up the different family issues we had or our mental health struggles.

Regardless of her intentions our communication styles have never meshed. I would spend a lot of my energy complimenting her or encouraging her when I got the exact opposite reaction from her. She would often give me underhanded compliments or pick on my insecurities disguised as jokes. She would say that she cared about me as a friend but would encourage me to stop talking to my irl friends or parents calling them “toxic”

Here’s where I might be the asshole- Today I finally got the guts, after a long vacation to lie and tell Adele not to contact me anymore. She gave me long paragraphs about how she cared about me and was worried etc- but to me, just sounded angry. She called me repeatedly when I asked her not to (I was out with family) and asked questions like “what will you do when you’re depressed/your parents get mad at u/etc)”

I told her I swore to my mother that I’d never speak to her again in order to keep my mom’s trust. and she still argued with me about how terrible of a parent my mom is and how she’d always been there for me which made me so angry. I took the bait and we texted back and forth and I kept telling her we won’t talk again. But she just sounded pathetic after awhile, genuinely begging me to stay and text.

But at the same time I feel guilty. This toxic relationship has absorbed my high school years and the weeks I spend without it were some of the best of my life. I felt totally present and anxiety free even through some problems that came up.

We talked every day for hours and I started to hate it more and more but was afraid of what would happen if I tried to ghost her.

I wasted so much of my teenage years staring at my phone rping with this girl when I could’ve been present and living life. I feel used but still wish she’d respect my decision.

I honestly don’t know if it was wrong of me to ghost and take off but truly I’m just sick of her and how disrespectful she’s been of me over the years. It feels like all she’s done since day one is tell me how much I need her as a friend to keep me around.

Was it wrong for me to lie? I’m honestly just looking for someone to tell me what to make of this situation. I know we’re the same age but I feel groomed and gross after cutting it off and need encouragement to stay away. I have friends and family I love but haven’t told any of them about this girl. I just need some advice. She was horrifically angry and told me how sad I was making her.

I’ve been talking to a guy that I met while gaming on and off for the past 7 months. He’s 26 from Germany and I’m 29 from the States. We primarily communicate via the in game chat and our gaming sessions usually last a few hours at a time. We talk about anything and everything and I feel like we’ve gotten closer. We also have so much in common! It probably sounds crazy but I feel like I have developed feelings for him.

So here is my dilemma. We have no idea what each other looks like. I will admit I am curious to match a face to the voice I’ve been talking to. I’ve hinted at exchanging social media but he either didn’t pick up on it or chose to ignore it lol. There’s an option to add your own pic in the game so I was thinking about putting up my own pic and seeing what he says. But idk. What do you guys think I should do? How can I go about asking him for his social media? Ughh I’m just so awkward when it comes to this sort of thing.

So, I've been talking to someone online for nearly two months now. We have good chemistry (I think), we talk daily for several hours, and all the kinds of stuff you'd expect for a good foundation. The only thing that's giving me pause when it comes to initiating a voice call or exchanging photos is the nature of how we met. We met in a creative writing forum and there's not really any pretense within that community for voice calls and photo sharing. I'm nervous about the idea because I don't want to dramatically change the dynamic.

I may be overthinking this (most likely am) but does anyone have experience or advice on bringing those ideas into the fold?

Anything is greatly appreciated! Thank you 😁

I met someone through a language exchange app. My intent was not to meet someone because I feel long distance is so hard, and I am at the age where I want someone near. I have tried dating apps and meeting someone organically in my city, but with no success, so I am just enjoying my single life!

So, over 1.5 months ago, this guy messaged me. And we instantly hit it off. We message each other every day, and our chats are just so easy. We talk about everything.

His English is limited, and my Spanish is very limited. So, we do translate a lot of our convos. We do video calls, and when either does not understand something, we message and translate it. But neither one gets annoyed or frustrated. We somehow manage to enjoy each video call, and we spend so long on each call. It feels like I have known him for years.

Truthfully, this is not the first person I have spoken to online. I have made other connections through the years with people around the world. And those who have done the same may understand me when I say that those connections never left me feeling like this. Those connections were like, wow, you are a great person; I would love to meet you one day. But it was never as a romantic connection; maybe there was a thought like perhaps we would go on a date, but nothing beyond that thought.

That is why I am shocked at myself that I have developed these feelings for this guy. There is just something about him that has me so intrigued. And from what we have talked about, we have similar thoughts about life and shared interests.

We both have expressed our feelings for each other. And last night he asked me to be his girlfriend.

However, there is something that is making me question if his intent is genuine. Is he just asking that for fun, or does he mean it? I asked him if the distance was a problem, and he said for him, it was not. I am trying to be realistic and practical about dating someone I have never met because I feel a little stupid to say I am falling for someone online.

But I have read a few posts here about people meeting online and dating for months or a year or more before meeting in person.

So, my question is:

How did you open your mind to the idea of dating someone you never met? How did you openly accept them as your boyfriend/girlfriend?

And how did you trust that they were not speaking to others? Or that they were not dating someone that lived in their area?

Did you hesitate at first like I am, or did you just openly let it happen?

Thank you so much to those who take the time to read and reply! I appreciate all advice or tips!