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Been talking to this person I met online for over a month. We’re not from the same country so we haven’t met yet but we’ve sent photos back and forth. My question is how do I know if this is the start of something or it’s just a situationship lol

I never thought i would be posting this and i am so excited.

We met on reddit 4 years ago.

My girlfriend (F23) and I (F29) met through an online game in September 2023. After two months of chatting, we decided to meet in person, and things quickly turned into a passionate relationship. She’s a university student, studying about five hours away by car, while I’m working six days a week in a small city.

During the early stages of our relationship, she would skip some classes to come and stay with me because I couldn’t take time off work. I admit I wasn’t very mature back then—I always wanted to see her, plan dates, and take her to nice restaurants. Whenever we were together, things felt magical.

However, she always had to return to school, and that’s when things became harder. Long-distance brought more arguments because she didn’t seem as affectionate or warm as she was when we were physically together. This led to misunderstandings, as I thought she wasn’t as invested in the relationship anymore.

The most difficult time came in July this year. We were constantly fighting, and both of us felt unappreciated and misunderstood. It got so bad that we broke up. But even during the breakup, we kept in touch daily, and I realized I truly cared about her. She wasn’t over me either, so in September, we reconciled. I even planned a romantic trip to a small island to make up for the past, and we had a wonderful time together.

That said, things didn’t return to normal right away. I noticed she had started to avoid me emotionally in some ways, likely because of the stress from her studies. After several heart-to-heart conversations, I decided to give her more space and focus on supporting her in ways that wouldn’t overwhelm her, like sending small surprises and gifts to show I care. Over the past three months, we’ve grown closer again, and I’m confident we love each other deeply.

Now, the challenge is the future. She’s preparing for graduate school, and we don’t know where she’ll end up working after graduation. I can’t move to her city because my current job is tied to a promise I made to my uncle (he’s also my boss). He supported me financially during a tough time in my life, so I feel obligated to help him grow the company in return.

I dream of me and girlfriend living together one day, but it feels so uncertain. How can we navigate this?

I pulled together a "Truth or Dare" sex game for long distance couples. Truths & Dares go from vanilla to hardcore bdsm.

I thought some other redditors might like it, so here it is.

Truth/Dares are in random order, so skipping around is fine!

For more explicit Truth or Dares, please check out the app I made https://apps.apple.com/us/app/truth-or-dare-app-for-couples/id6474484893

Some dares:

1. Virtual Date Night: Plan and have a virtual date night where you both dress up, share a meal, and watch a movie together via video call.
2. Sexy Photo Shoot: Send each other a series of sexy photos throughout the day, building anticipation for a virtual meeting later.
3. Love Letters: Write a heartfelt, romantic, or erotic letter to each other and read them aloud during a video call.
4. Phone Sex: Have a steamy phone sex session, describing in detail what you would do to each other if you were together.
5. Shared Playlist: Create a playlist of songs that remind you of each other and listen to it simultaneously while on a call.
6. Virtual Strip Tease: Perform a strip tease for each other over a video call, taking turns to build excitement.
7. Game Night: Play an online game together, with the winner giving the other a sexy or romantic dare to complete.
8. Fantasy Sharing: Share your deepest fantasies with each other and discuss how you can explore them together in the future.
9. Virtual Sensual Massage: Guide each other through a virtual sensual massage, describing in detail where and how to touch.
10. Scavenger Hunt: Create a scavenger hunt where each of you finds items that remind you of your partner and shares them over a video call.
11. Story Time: Write an erotic story involving both of you and take turns reading it aloud during a video call.
12. Memory Lane: Share photos and memories from past times spent together and talk about what made those moments special.
13. Countdown Calendar: Create a countdown calendar leading up to your next visit and send daily photos or messages to mark the days.
14. Future Planning: Plan a future trip or experience together, discussing all the details and getting excited about what’s to come.
15. Virtual Shower: Take a virtual shower or bath together, describing how you’d wash each other if you were there.

We met online 2 years ago, and we were in a relationship from mid September up to early December. Shortly before his trip, he broke-up with me: One of the reasons why was our frequent fights. However, the same night he expressed his interest in still wanting to see me, pushing through with our plans, and spending time together physically. I noticed his coldness though. We were supposed to visit a friend of his who's also living in my country but on a separate island. He booked our tickets, but my departure date was a day later than his. He said one of his reasons why was he was nervous in doing intimate activities with me (he's still a virgin).

Last Tuesday, Dec. 10 it was the date of his arrival to my country. He was giving updates, though he said that his internet connection was slow (his sim card was on roaming). However, when he was at the baggage area he completely ignored my chats and calls. He had a scheduled domestic flight that night to that friend I described in my previous paragraph so I was extremely worried that we might not have enough time to meet that night. I was feeling angry at him, but that was superseded by my feelings of being worried for him. I reached out to his friend, and he just said that my ex-bf is fine. I messaged my ex, telling him that I needed to go home because I was feeling hungry and I didn't want the train stations to close. I told him that we would just meet the next day with his friend on that separate island. However, before I went back home I received his most haunting message: He had to flew back immediately to his country. His reason was: His luggage was tampered. Three of the zippers were broken, his card inside was stolen, and his luggage tag with name and details was lost as well. He told me that his mental state collapsed, he felt vulnerable with his luggage, he didn't want anything worse to happen in his life and he said sorry for never meeting me in person, and it was probably for the best. He sent me some money for my effort in seeing him but not being able to push through. I didn't ask for it, because I know that he already lost a lot of money because of his cancellation. The planned trip would've not happened if he didn't intend to see me. One painful thing was he was able to inform his friend about his cancellation of trip, but he said that he couldn't face me. I just thought that he knew that friend for quite some time and met in person, but he had trust issues on me.

For context: It was his first ever overseas travel, he was uncomfortable during the almost 9-hour direct flight and he couldn't sleep because he has big legs. I'm 3 hours behind from his time zone. He received lots of doubts about going overseas from people around him and they accused me of being a scammer, only in for his money, fraud, etc. He admitted that he was initially feeling excited but felt dazed upon his arrival. He sent pictures of his broken luggage zippers upon my request so he's not lying. Also, he has been formally diagnosed of having autism spectrum disorder since he was a child. One of the reasons why I received those accusations from people around him was we didn't have video calls until November as he had a hard time in expressing himself through voice and video calls compared to chats.

I've been feeling heartbroken because I felt that he was selfish. Yes, we broke up but it was him who was still interested in meeting-up when I was originally about to move-on already. But I've been also trying to understand his mental state, and I myself had experiences of having big reactions on what other people perceive as small things. Today, we are two ex-partners who are still in communication and acting like a couple, without obligations, responsibilities, and ties. Because we weren't able to continue with our plans here in my country, 2 nights ago we had a sexual live show through video call. I told him that maybe I can forgive him but I can't fully heal about what happened. We both stated our desires to still meet one another in the future. We still love each other. But right now, I feel lonely. He's out there with his friends, having a good time while I'm here lonely and broken. I'm unemployed (long story why), don't have much friends (another reason of our fights was our differences), have more boring hobbies compared to him. I have symptoms of depression. He's supposed to be here in my country right now, with me but he isn't. I feel like he's more okay with it than me, saying words such as he "probably" took the wrong path, maybe it wasn't meant to be, the deicision was something that he will live with, etc. One of his other friends also advised that he might have problems on our immigration due to his double flight in my country back and forth last December 10. He told me that he's contemplating about his future travel here again for a proper meeting with me, but he's waiting for the flight prices to go down in addition to immigration issues.

It's a lot easier for him to visit me in my country because he has a stronger passport, he doesn't need a visa. When it comes to me, I have to acquire a visa together with supporting documents, I am financially broke, it'll be more expensive, and our immigration office is notorious for being harsh in interrogating people leaving their country. We don't have new partners of our own yet but we have an agreement that we can and once we have, we will inform the other to completely cut ties. I'm open to having a new boyfriend but I'm not into chasing guys right now, I'll take the initiative from them. It's just hard for me to move-on from this guy. Us never physically meeting each other is like having a strong cliffhanger. The mission was not accomplished. We didn't even have a quick meeting just to hug and kiss. 🥺💔

One of the reasons why his planned trip here is supposed to be this month is because my birthday is coming soon. If it wasn't for my birthday, he would've visited me around November and it would've been better as we were still a couple that time and in better terms. Lesson learned: If physical meeting is desired, don't wait regardless of the reason. Do it as soon as possible. But today, he won't be physically with me on my birthday and I feel extremely sorrowful.

Should I still hope for him, not for rekindling romance but physically meeting? 💔🥺😓😭😥

was with my boyfriend for 2 years and 3 months long distance, we met in person on our 2 year anniversary and had a very emotional time together. we talked about how we would get married once we finished college, how we would get an apartment together, how we wanted to have a family.

i ended up finding out 2 weeks into his intended 1 month stay that he had a massive collection of onlyfans girls in his camera roll. i was crushed, i deal with trauma surrounding porn and felt especially betrayed by this since i was always open about never being okay with him looking at other women. he begged me to stay, promised me he would change, that he would go to therapy. so i stayed, for 3 months i tried to forgive but i was still having my pity party and felt so angry.

it was hard to talk to him without crying, spending time with him became draining, i felt angry and sad and anxious all the time. it was hard to get through the day without wanting to vomit because i was so anxious and letting myself overthink about what ifs. he was in therapy but i felt him pulling away from me, the situation made him depressed and embarrassed and he openly talked about how the regret and guilt was hard to deal with. i should've been there for him but i was hurting so badly that i almost felt relieved he was hurting too.

we argued so much, every other day, over pointless things. i was insecure and emotional. i was always scared that he would betray my trust again. i was pushing him away too without realizing it. eventually after another petty argument he was fed up, told me he needed space and ghosted me for 5 days.

when he came back he said he wanted to end things because he was exhausted emotionally. he said he felt unappreciated and maybe he was right. i wasn't the best partner, if i agreed to forgive him then i shouldn't have thrown it in his face so often. i felt this impulse to always remind him because in a way i was comforted by the thought of him feeling guilty because then he wouldn't want to do it again.

i'm not justifying anything, but that was my thought process. he said he was unsure if he wanted to fix things or not and just needed time and space. i was a wreck, i had constant severe panic attacks - ones so bad that i would faint or certain limbs would go numb. i already struggled with mental illnesses and deep unresolved trauma from my childhood and i lack any coping skills so i genuinely fell apart.

my panic attacks were so frequent and becoming so extreme that my body was releasing too much histamine and i would develop rashes or itching so terrible that i would scratch until i bled. my neck, chest, and cheeks were covered in scabs.

we kept in minimal contact, had a few arguments due to how emotional we both were but still tried our best to care for each other because we were still in love. i ended up admitting myself to a mental hospital because i felt, and still do, so hopeless without him and didn't trust myself to not do anything i would regret.

i also was causing him too much stress, we both rapidly lost weight and he expressed that he was picking his skin and ripping chunks of hair out from the anxiety that i would hurt myself. i reassured him that where i was going i would have nurses with me and i would be safe and that i wanted to be better.

this eased his worrying which made me relieved also, but it was difficult being there because all i could think about was how once i got back we would have to talk about whether or not we were going to try to fix things or part ways.

i spent 18 days there doing intensive therapy and was also prescribed 3 medications by the on-sight psychiatrist (prozac, hydroxyzine, and propanolol) which helped. i learned a lot about myself, gained perspective on my relationship, and felt ready to go home and have this talk.

on my last day there, i suddenly had a very abrupt panic attack and wanted him for comfort. we texted and i don't know what came over me but i just blurted out that he needs to tell me if he wants to fix things or not. my mind was racing and in the brief moments of clarity that i had, i knew i wanted to ask him while i was here so i wouldn't have an episode and hurt myself at home.

he said that no, he didn't want to pursue anything further. i broke down a bit, begged, pleaded, tried to bargain but nothing i said could convince him go try to fix things.

there's more to the story but it's far too long and draining to type it all. to summarize, we talked for a few more days after this, we were both very emotional and weren't ready to completely cut each other off yet. we ended up having one final phone call yesterday, lots of words were said - we were both angry and bitter - but by the end of it we just cried and kept saying sorry and how we wish things didn't end up this way.

he said he believes i'm his soulmate and he doesn't see himself ever pursuing anyone else but that he also can't bring himself to be with me currently. i said i felt the same, he feels like a completely new person and how he's treated me lately has been mean and outright disrespectful at times and i don't want to be with someone that would talk to me the way he has, but that i also doubt i'll ever be able to be in a relationship with anyone that isn't him.

we acknowledged that this isn't healthy, that we're very codependent on each other and that we've trauma bonded deeply and that if we were to try again we would just hurt each other more.

i cried and asked if i could say something selfish, he said okay.

i asked if we could try again in the future, in a few years when we're older and done with college and mature enough to handle these complicated feelings the right way.

he said okay, that one day he'll find me again. that he'll reach out and we'll start over.

i know that it's borderline delusional to believe him, and that it isn't healthy to keep the mindset that we'll eventually get back together one day for years to come - but genuinely he is my soulmate. i only get one chance at life and every part of me wants to spend it with him. i want to love and take care of him til my last breath, and my love for him is so strong that i'm willing to work on myself and wait for him to work on himself too for these next few years until we're ready.

but wow its so fucking hard. i feel so devastated and my chest physically aches whenever i think about how i won't be able to see him or hold him for the unforeseen future. a day won't go by where i won't mourn this lost time, and i will think of him for every second until we meet again.

i built my whole life around him, genuinely how do i pick myself up and not let my life fall apart? i'm failing my college courses, i had to quit my internship under my professor due to the severity of my panic attacks, the stress, and my depression. now that i'm home and not in the mental hospital i kind of wish i could go back but i can't afford it, but the weight that was lifted off my shoulders while i was there was so freeing.

i don't have any friends, the few that i do are online ones i met on social media or through games and truthfully we aren't that close. i feel very isolated and lonely, i don't know how i'm supposed to go on with my life normally now.

i have autism and bpd, i struggle to make friends and i have no real hobbies or interests, it genuinely feels like the world is ending - like there's no point anymore.

how do i get myself out of this mindset that nothing else but him is important? i seriously gave up on school and my job and my social life, the only thing that interests me is laying in bed and letting my body shut down. i just need any advice or insight that i can get, i need help convincing myself to keep fighting and not lay down and die

TLDR: Should i have another discussion with how i want to feel loved from my LD bf before meeting him, or should I just end things before our scheduled meeting next year since i've noticed a pattern? Are these dynamics normal in LDR? OR does it not matter since we are ENM anyway and I should meet him still?

I’ve been in a long-distance relationship for almost 5 years. We talk nearly every day, but we’ve never met in person (and don't plan to merge lives) but we're planning to on our 5th anniversary next year. We are in an ENM relationship. I'm aromantic and greysexual so really i've been on the hunt for "the one" locally but haven't had luck. He says I'm his biggest love, and while i love him- i feel no love from him at all, and i'm suspicious he is just enjoying an ear to talk to and the attention.

He’s introverted, and I know calling daily is a big expression of love for him. However, I often feel like I’m not truly loved or appreciated in the way I need.

I’ve tried tentatively to voice my needs multiple times over the years, but the compromises only last a short while before things return to the way they were. I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells to avoid triggering his avoidant tendencies, yet my efforts to create balance so I'm not so burnt out from feeling like I'm carrying the relationship —like complimenting him less or scaling back on gestures—only upset him more. He does not reciprocate AT ALL but expects the full service from me. I struggle to believe that not reciprocating is love? I moreso feel he loves what I do for him, rather than me, especially since lately he is showing some contempt for my personality trait of being over analytical. (which is my main personality trait and very ME).

When I analyze the relationship, it seems very one-sided. I go out of my way to show my love—through thoughtful gifts, notes, compliments, emotional support and surprises—but I rarely receive the same energy, intimacy or support from him. I struggle to think of just one thing he did just for my benefit to have me smile in the 4 years we've been together. He seems very selfish and thoughtless (even his birthday gifts for me were items that i am allergic to, or can't use for the most part, or generic like flowers or plushies (i'm 35)-- which i don't even like). Conversations are mostly about him, and he doesn’t ask about my day, my thoughts, or engage deeply when I try to share. Even small gestures, like replying to my messages, complimenting me, or being concerned for my well-being aren't there. When i finally have an emotionally deep conversation he gets bored and ends the call while I'm riding a rare high of FINALLY feeling close to him, the whiplash hurts.

The thing is i'm ace. I am rarely attracted to someone. I love his appearance but wasn't drawn to it at first. I was drawn to our similarities. I grew to learn he was incredibly fun to talk to, he had a lot of compassion for the less fortunate, he was intelligent, and funny, and talented and his hobbies i find extremely interesting. He has a calm grumpy nature that I actually find really attractive. I appreciate him for who he is. I have never met anyone like him. I've only felt feelings like this for one other person which lasted 10 years. And when i find someone i love, i know how special they are and i make sure they feel special about it every day. It's not that he is some random guy i'm making it work with, he is one of the few people that the more i talk to him the more i am drawn in and love him. usually the more ppl talk the more i'm turned off. We're compatible in a spicy way, but not in the romantic way it seems. That's literally the only part of the relationship that I am struggling with. I think he loves that we are long distance because it's so convenient for him. He said his ex called him very selfish and i'm beginning to see validity in her accusations. While compassionate for others, his interpersonal skills, romantically, are lacking. I feel like a lot of what he says are just "what's right to say" and hold no validity behind the words.

I feel stuck because I love him and want this to work, but after years of the same patterns, I wonder if I’m just holding on to a hope that things will change. Is this normal for some people in LDR, or is it a sign we’re fundamentally incompatible? Has anyone else been in a situation like this, and how did you handle it? Are some guys just not romantic and unwilling to go out of their way to make you smile or support you emotionally or seemingly care about you?

I am stuck, because while I would like this to be more and to give him ANOTHER chance, i feel i'm kidding myself. However... we agreed we'd never live in the same country, and as we are ENM to find someone to start a life with locally. So as a "side bae" he doesn't need to tick all the boxes. However, i do wish i felt love from him. Should I end it before we finally got a chance to meet? It seems unfair at least not to air it one last time. I just know meeting him, i'll be disappointed by the blankness behind his eyes, it will crush me.

Thanks in advance for your thoughts!

I’m gonna keep it short

• We’re both 15

• known each other for exactly 20 days.

• sent selfies on day two

• Said he liked me after 3 days of talking (and him flirting)

• After, he blocked me because I “upset” him (for thinking his feelings were jokes, we’ve known each other for barely a week)

• Unblocked me after I sent him a long rant apologizing and said I like him too (unfortunately I cried ok. Also not official or anything, he just flirt and I reply with it)

• one day, he sent a message that said something along the line of “I’m losing interest cuz we’re not alike” and we talked then he started crashing out and insulting me. Wishing death, pregnancy and rape on me (like ok bro) even saying he wants to put me on kazakhstan curse?? (Still don’t know wtf that is)

• next day, he apologized and we just talk normally. He ended saying some “I won’t talk to you for a month cuz i want my feelings to go away” so i said ok

• he never ended up doing it so we just kept talking

• Atp I stop saying “Ily” or anything sweet back to him but he still express his feelings freely for me

• Threaten to kill himself because I “rejected” him and then saying it was a joke

• Now he wants to know my feelings cuz i kept telling him “I’m figuring it out” (Which I am)

How do I know if I actually like him? Idk what to do or feel. Btw I’m the first girl he has ever talk to, and he’s the first guy I’ve also talked to. Help me tame this psycho (jk) and figure this out 🙏

I've never done it but there's someone I am thinking about travelling to. They go on a lot of trips on their own and I'm not sure how its done. Is it better to go on a short trip somewhere together? if you find there's nothing there in person then your already with them. Do you book somewhere seperate to stay and have a solo trip and meet them during the day? I've heard people staying with the person after meeting them if they feel its right?

I met my boyfriend online just 3 months ago and once we began dating we sent each other pics of how we looked like. Time passes and he would slowly began sending me more pictures, and so would I despite how shy I was. He made me feel more comfortable with sharing my looks. 1 month into our relationship we began face timing but never showed ourselves but just other things we would do, since I’m still very shy. 2 months into our relationship though, he sent more and this time he looked far more different. It kind of made me curious so I compared the pictures altogether and he looked a lot different. He told me it was just his glowups and “weed effect” so I let it slide.

One day he shared me a post his “mom” uploaded on facebook. Supposedly he got into a fight and his mom found out and was posting about finding the people who fought with my boyfriend. Thing is, I was looking at his so to be claimed “moms” name on Facebook when just a month ago he shared me a picture of his mom in one of his baby pictures, and the Facebook one was a complete different woman. Sure he could’ve had two moms but he could have told me. So I was curious and I looked through the Facebook page of this lady and I noticed the boy in the fighting video and her sons name is completely different than my boyfriends.

Therefore, the boy in the fighting video was not my boyfriend at all. This woman is not my boyfriends mother. I went on Instagram and search the boys name up on my boyfriends following and I found his account. This guy goes to school, I forgot to mention this but my boyfriend told me he dropped out of school and only does homeschool. I scrolled through the woman’s Facebook page further and found the photos my boyfriend would send to me of this boy he claimed to be.

It upset me. I began to wonder, why is he sending me pictures of this boy and letting me find him extremely attractive all this time? I would shower him with so much compliments. Now knowing that’s not my boyfriend why would you let me say these things about a boy who doesn’t even know who I am.

I made more deep searching on Facebook and found my boyfriends real mothers page. I looked through her followings and his family members. I found out how he looked by myself.

He continues to send me pictures of the other boy and I don’t know how to feel because I was so in love with the way he looked to be honest. His personality is wonderful don’t get me wrong. But why would you lie about how you look.

It just makes me feel stupid.

I haven’t told him at all about this, he still thinks I believe it’s him. I don’t know what to do. What would anyone do in this kind of situation?

I've been talking to this girl for past 6 months. I'm really into her and she said she likes me too. We have been planning to meet but yesterday after a fight she told me that she is still in love with some guy she used to talk to on discord from 3 years ago. They haven't talked for more than 3 years and he's been disappeared from her life. And here i was hoping a future with her. Is it just a random feeling? Idk what to do. Someone please advice. I'm still considering a future with her if she let's me.

Edit : for more context. We have been flirting and stuff but now she says she don't wanna do these things anymore and just wanna stay friends.

does anyone else feel like it's pointless to keep going?? to stop waiting for your partner and just end it all there? that's how i feel a lot of the time, like we won't actually ever meet, and all this waiting for them has been pointless, and a waste of time :-( i do wanna keep going, i know we'll meet one day, it's just hard when you wake up every day without them by your side every day. we've been together for almost 2 years and all this waiting has done a toll on my mental health, i have depression and this isn't helping it, just adding on with all the stress. i'm scared we both won't get enough money to see eachother. any tips/advice on how i can keep going, and feel more positive about meeting them?

Throwaway here - apologies in advance for the length of this. I’m currently spiraling and don’t know what to do 😞 For a bit of background, she and I met online and started talking back in June 2023. We went through a lot together - I helped her get out of a dangerous living situation, and she helped me get through the death of my grandfather. We have a ton in common - similar beliefs and principles, we’re both musicians, and we both like video games. Most recently, we’d been playing COD together all the time.

This girl was amazing - I was completely smitten, and she was more reserved, but we always flirted, and even shared spicy pics back and forth. We’d talked about meeting in person, and honestly things seemed great between us. We’d constantly be up until 3-4am talking to each other, gaming out, texting, and we would talk about almost anything. As sad as it is to say, I’ve never felt a connection to someone like I did with her.

We were texting like normal on Tuesday. I had a busy day at work, so I sent her a Snapchat message when I got off, headed to the gym, and sent another message from there. At that point, neither was opened or read, and I figured she was busy, no big deal. I wrapped up at the gym, went home, had dinner, etc., and I still hadn’t heard from her. I figured she was busy with the holidays and didn’t think much else about it, until I saw that she was active on Snapchat and her Snapscore was steady going up (we shared locations on Snapchat and all that).

The next day, my messages still went unopened, but the Snapscore had increased more, so I just sent her a Snap saying that I hope she has a good day off. I went about cleaning and running some errands, hit the gym again, and finished up late afternoon/early evening. By this point, I was worried that I did something to upset her, so I’ll admit I was checking Snapchat more than was healthy. The whole time, her Snapscore just kept going up. I’m not a psycho (famous last words, I know) and I’m happy that she has friends and other people to talk to. However, at this point I felt it was clear she was going out of her way not to look at my messages. I sent her a message asking if everything was okay, and if there was anything she wanted to talk about, then hopped onto Call of Duty to try to keep busy.

Once I got on, I saw that she was online too. I hopped into her lobby, and tried calling her on Discord (she was chat banned at the time) - call ignored. She saw that I was in game with her - did our usual squats to acknowledge each other at the start of the match and all that. So we kept playing in silence. After that match, I tried calling her again, but she ignored it again. I sent her an in game message asking if she was mad at me or something, and then she finally replied to me on Snapchat saying “no I’m just in a bad mood lol”. That gave me some piece of mind, so I told her that was fine, I’d give her some space.

I hopped off the game, ate dinner, and then went back upstairs. I went to send her a goodnight message wishing her a Happy Thanksgiving and to let her know I’m always there if she wants to chat. Suddenly, her profile disappears from Snapchat. I try to open our conversation, and I’m told the user can’t be found. She blocked me, and I immediately went into a panic. I opened up Instagram to check there, and lo and behold, I was blocked there too. Hopped back onto Call of Duty, and she was no longer on my friend list. Every single platform we communicated on - blocked.

She was slower to remove me from Discord, so I fired off a message saying I saw she blocked me, and let her know that I was devastated, but that if she wanted me out of her life, I would respect her decision. I did ask her to at least tell me why though, so I could at least try to get some closure to carry me through my impending mental breakdown. A few seconds later, her Discord profile showed that she blocked me there too.

We went from constant communication almost every day, talking about everything and being there for one another, to her suddenly cutting me off completely without any warning or any reason why. Honestly, I think what upsets me most is that she won’t at least just tell me why and say goodbye. I understand that long distance doesn’t work for everyone, and if someone wants to call it quits, then they’re more than entitled to do so. But the fact that this all happened so suddenly - from constant contact to complete ghosting - it makes me feel like someone has died. I feel like a part of me has died. If I’d gotten closure and/or a goodbye, that would be one thing, but having no warning and no reason is absolutely killing me.

I’ve spent the last few days with very little sleep, and I’m a complete emotional mess. I feel like I’m being completely irrational, and I know I probably handled things a bit too “clingy” at the end there, but I’ve genuinely never felt so devastated at any loss in my life as I do with this, even after failed relationships that weren’t long distance. I know where relationships are concerned, nobody is “entitled” to anything, but I have to ask - am I out of line feeling like I’ve been wronged in how I was cut off? Am I asking for too much in wanting a little bit of closure to the situation?

I’m so emotionally empty right now that I’m sure I rambled through half of this, but honestly the only thing I can do right now to keep myself sane is recount everything that happened. If anyone took the time to read this, then to them I say “thank you”. Feel free to comment or drop your 2 cents on the matter, but I can’t guarantee how much I’ll engage. I don’t feel like doing much of anything now, and I’m currently bouncing between waves of complete apathy towards everything and excruciating sadness that leaves me sobbing.

Hi everyone,

I’ve been in a long-distance connection with someone I met in person two years ago. We spent a whole day together and then parted ways at the end of our vacations. Since then, we’ve been talking regularly, and our bond has grown stronger. Now, he’s coming to visit me in Montreal and staying at my place.

We’ve talked openly about how unique this situation is, and we’ve both admitted to feeling moments of anxiety about it. I care about him and have strong feelings, but I also feel really unsure about what I’m doing or even fully feeling.

I don’t want to be judged—I just feel like I need someone’s insight. Has anyone navigated something similar? How do you figure out what’s real versus what’s imagined in a situation like this? Any advice or perspectives would really help.

Thanks so much.

shes here! forever! well we'll probably move somewhere else later but we're together at last. we've met up before the move btw ive been nervous because im a major commitmentphobe (not a cheater, just autistic) but having her here to stay has been incredible. its so nice to text her and ask her whats for dinner after work, and go home and shes there waiting for me, and we get to cuddle at night with no date that she has to leave. it can work yall! gl

We have been dating for a year now and are finally ready to talk about meeting up. We’re in different countries so it’s an hour or two plane ride away. We have talked about it before a while ago and agreed that we should meet at hers in spring when she’s 18 and should tell our parents around December time this year.

However, we talked yesterday about it more and she said she wanted to do it differently. She suggested flying to me instead accompanied by a friend, in the summer instead of spring, and only telling her parents a few weeks before the trip that she’s seeing me, or even after the trip is done. I have some big concerns with this.

One, I don’t want to meet for the first time in the summer because I hate the summer heat and I don’t like wearing just t shirts because I’m very skinny and insecure about it and don’t want that to be her first impression of me (I have shown her my body but it’s different irl).

Two, I understand why she’d want to bring her friend as if things go bad then she can be with her and she hasn’t flown before so it would help with that too. But I’m worried that I wouldn’t be able to see her as much as I’d like and that the first time we meet would be me with her and her friend which I don’t want a third wheel. I also don’t want her friend to be alone when she leaves to see me. Preferably she comes to me alone or I go to her alone. I want the trip to be special and about just us not a holiday with friends.

Third and most importantly, we have to tell our parents. I don’t see any way around it regardless of her coming her with or without a friend or me going to see her. I don’t know how to explain that to her without seeming rude but we just have to do it. If we delay it and then tell them under different circumstances maybe they’d be more mad and less supportive, particularly if we’ve already met/ telling them the few weeks before. Why not just tell them now and get it over with? If they aren’t supportive that’s annoying but we can make do especially when she’s 18, we can see each other regardless of what our parents think of it. And besides I think they’ll support it or at least the idea will grow on them over time.

All in all, I need to explain this to her but I don’t want to make her upset, so what should I do? Be upfront or tell it lightly or hold back?

so this girl I've been texting/calling for past 6 months recently hasn't been texting me like she used to. I get she's busy with work and life but even after I ask if there's anything she says no and then goes another 24+ hours to send another text.

when I asked her what was wrong she said she's on YouTube these days and not insta... like okay but don't you get like 5 mins to at least let me know you're busy or something? cmon I'm not asking for back to back convo just one sentence "im busy I'll text when I get time" or something would've been enough. instead she just replies to whatever I have sent her previously and nothing else.

this is not the first time things like this happened with me, even the previous ones have been like this. I now think there's a problem with me. Ive just given up completely now, can't keep doing this anymore.

hello everyone, okay so there is a content creator (M~30) who i (F20) found on instagram who lives in my city. we share similar interests and we were born in the same country (we’re both immigrants where we live now). he has ~10k followers on instagram, and i assume he’s single now (based on what i’ve stalked about him online).

i replied to his story once just to see if he’s checking his dm requests and he replied back. i didn’t text him anything special, just wanted to see if he’s gonna reply lol

so now i’m thinking should i make a move and somehow make us meet in real life and how can i do it

i’m a pretty shy person and i also think it would be kinda awkward or even creepy to hit him up with “hey yo let’s meet up for coffee” or something. but at the same time i think that if i do it and he rejects me i can just move on and i don’t need to live with those “what if” thoughts.

any ideas guys? should i move on and leave him alone? or should i try? and if yes, then how? maybe y’all have similar experience or y’all heard some stories like that?

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It's exactly as the title says. My boyfriend has some problems dealing with stuff from his past, and he spirals often (maybe around once a week). Usually, I try to comfort him, but my idea of comfort isn't what comforts him. Usually I try to reassure him, and give advice on what he's dealing with, but he's saying that doesn't help. He says he wants me to just be there for him, but I don't know how to do that. He says that I'm not his boyfriend when he's not feeling good, and that I'm more like a therapist when that's not what he needs when he's feeling that way. This is my first ever relationship, and this is the only person I've really loved my whole life. I know that more like than not, we're not going to last. But I at least want to last as long as possible. I want to be the best I can for him. He's been doing great as a partner, but I feel like I'm not living up to expectations. Any advice on how to just show up for my partner, and be there for him? For context, we're both in high school, and planning to meet up after high school to go to college. I really love him, and I want us to work out or to at least last long, and end up as a healthy relationship. I appreciate any advice given to me, thank you for reading and thank you for your time.

I'm close friends with a guy I met online in 2019. There's also some romantic backround. We never met (hopefully yet, we kind of started discussing that). My friend just got out of military after almost 6 years and he's moving back to his hometown. As far as I know he wasn't seeing anyone the whole time he was in military. I'm very happy for him, because I know he hated it there, but at the same time I can't stop being upset. I don't wanna sound selfish, but I'm worried he'll find someone now that he's out and just slowly forget I exist. Real girls have to be better than virtual ones after all, no? Does anyone have any advice how to deal with those thoughts?

Me and my girlfriend have been together a year later this November (never met until early next year). I really love her and want to get her something nice for our 1 year anniversary but I’m not sure exactly what to get or what she’ll want. We both play video games a lot so I was thinking about buying a game that she might want, but I also want this to be special and I’m thinking about getting something more. I could get her a bracelet or other jewellery but I don’t know her address and don’t have much money…

Any ideas on what to get?

hi! i’m 20F and my online friend is 18 and nonbinary! we met on discord in a supernatural server 6 months ago. i directly messaged them after they said something funny, and from there we were immediately friends. they actually live in another country, and it’s a 5 hour time difference. but starting from there, we talked every day. some days it’s 4 hours a day, sometimes it’s 2. but it’s every day, and i can’t help but realize that i really, really like them. i think i’ve known for a few weeks, now. it feels like i’ve known them for years. we’ve already planned for me to fly out there in 2026 after we both save. we’ve both said things that don’t sound very platonic, but there’s no way of knowing until you actually ask, which i’m terrified to do because at the end of the day, they’re my best friend and it would hurt to lose them. does anyone else have experience with the kind of will-we won’t-we thing?

Throwaway account. And I don’t wanna to share too many details for privacy reasons

But long story short. He started washing alpha male content few months ago. Probably started believing that all that.

I just miss talking with to him, as we always used to . He is experiencing me to start conversations but I can’t do that without him even paying attention to me. Most of the time I just get ghosted.

I don’t if I’m doing something wrong, or just idk. I just want the old him

Hi! So I met on Saturday (10/19/24) through reddit (different subreddit) since I wanted to play someone to play pixelmon with.

We've played together on Monday and Tuesdays for roughly around an hour and a half to two hours both days.

So far our convos have either been about the game (we're playing on a public server) or some basic things (movies, tv shows, what our plans for Halloween are, & anime).

Anyway, after our first ever call on Monday, I just couldn't stop thinking about them. And my initial thought was "do I have a crush on this person?"

For context: I'm 17 and they're 19. We only recently met (online). And she lives two states below me (and share the same time zone). I've never had a crush on an actual person before either. (Fictional and celebrity crushes are completely different)

I don't want to rush things either considering we only met. I mean we already exchanged numbers but that is because discord wasn't properly working as we couldn't hear each other so they suggested we exchange numbers. I made sure that they weren't uncomfortable about it either.

But in the end we exchange numbers so we could call while playing pixelmon.

So should I just try to get closer to them and know them more as a friend right now? Meeing them irl is out of the question as they live two states away and I start college next fall.

Also, I'm not sure if they're into girls either. (They use they/she pronouns according to their discord profile and they definitely sound feminine so they're afab from my assumptions) But I also just feel a little weird for asking since we only met a few days ago so it's too early to tell, that's for sure.

(Note: I made a new reddit acc so she won't see this post as we met through reddit and I wanted to hear advice from other people)

Just out of curiosity, what do adults who know what it's like to fall in love online think about these apps? (For those who don't know they are apps to make friends as teens but almost everyone uses it to date)

Okay so this will be kind of long. Anyways, when I was 17, I got really into basketball and so I downloaded twitter to like talk about it. On it, I found this account that loved the same team and players I did and they were really funny so I just followed them as like they were my fave account. Over the days, I realised they were my same age and literally only lived like 20 minutes away from me and they were just genuinely so fun to talk to and has aspirations of going to a good uni and becoming a lawyer and they loved history and im a MASSIVE history geek so it felt like we had so much in common. By this point I had like fallen for this person which sounds insane cause I have never met him. 2 years later, he fell in love with another girl (obviously), but when it didn't work out between them, we were planned on meeting so I was obviously like wow all of this waiting and hoping has been worth it. But then for some stupid reason I told him how I liked him and he said it's best we don't meet etc. and that he doesn't feel the same for me cause it was all online and now I'm literally heartbroken. There's more to this story where I sort of messaged him a few times even though he left me on seen and like I know I'm a problem, but it's been 3 years and I can't move on and I never even met the guy. Is this some insane limerence? what do I do? How do I get over it? I think it's limerence ,but then again I did genuinely like him, and there was one night when he expressed interest in me and I was the most happy, whereas I guess if it was limerence I wouldn't have really liked the reciprocation? But I'm just so depressed and I want a guy I never met so so bad it's insane

I used to own a discord account that was getting some traction in a specific type of community months ago. I would post on reddit looking for those who may be interested in joining. One day, this reddit user with a pink haired avatar messaged me asking to join. I let them in. Gave her a rundown how to use discord cause it was her first time. About a week goes by, she confesses she is intrigued by me. I was into her as well. She ends up buying a plane ticket from UK to Canada (Where I live). We fell in love like crazy. Now were engaged as of two weeks ago. This has been the best 6 months of my life