A couple weeks ago a long distance friend and I who I've been going on dates with since new years had a conversation about our love languages. She told me her preferred love languages but also said that she doesn't really enjoy expressing or receiving those love languages unless she feels close to someone. I asked if she thought we weren't close enough for her to feel comfortable showing/receiving the love languages we just discussed and she told me she couldnt really answer that and just likes things to come naturally. To be completely honest hearing that really didnt feel great as I had thought we were really close as I've told her so many things and done so many things with her that to me are something I would only ever do with someone I feel close to. I'd love to be able to get closer to her especially as we continue to go on dates as if we do end up in a relationship I'd like to be close to my partner. I know getting close to someone is something that comes naturally but I guess I felt it was natural and we were close so now I dont know what else I can do to get any closer to her if that makes sense. I'd love any advice on literally anything (or if anything) I can do here like conversation starters to maybe have deeper conversations or anything at all that might make us closer.

I also wanted to ask if it would be a good idea to ask her for her address or any address that would work to get her something small for valentines with what I said in mind. Before we started dating I asked for her address to get her something for Christmas and she declined as she said she doesnt like to receive gifts so I'm just not sure if it would be a good idea to ask again especially considering she doesnt find us to be very close. I'd love a second opinion on this.

Thank you in advance I know this is a lot to read.

What would be the best way for me to ask her to be my valentines, would over call or over text be better and if so what should I say?

my bf (18m) and i (18f) are in a long distance relationship at separate colleges with 16 hours between us and a one hour time zone difference. we have different schedules, but we have a shared calendar that keeps track of our classes and other commitments. i like the calendar because it makes me aware of things so i know sometimes i'll have to wait for him to finish what he's doing, but i also know the end time. sometimes, he'll have game nights with his roommates and occasionally i'll have an unplanned dinner with my roommate. recently though, i've been struggling with feeling second priority to him. he plays board games with his roommates almost every other night now and will leave me waiting for 1-2 hours (i'm done with my homework and have already let him know i'm ready to call whenever). a lot of times, he doesn't communicate he's going to play games with his roomies until he's in the middle of playing. what should i do? i don't want to take away quality time with his roommates, but i feel upset and annoyed when he leaves me waiting. i brought it up to him and he says he wants to do better, he just doesn't know how, because his roommates and i are usually busy during the day, meaning our free times (mine and the roommates) conflict. thoughts? what should i do?

i'm in bed right now wearing his hoodie, squeezing the plushie he got me, wrapped in the blanket i got from him. i can't stop crying i feel so empty.

he left today—he's still on his way home, and seeing him leave at the airport broke me. i miss him so much. i miss his voice and his touch and the way he'd look at me.

this sucks

For two months, her words lived in my phone and her laugh existed only through our zoom calls. But yesterday, it all became real.

Let me set the scene. When I first saw her sitting there I didn't know what to do. My brain short circuited so I literally turned around and walked away like an NPC glitching out. I COULD NOT believe my eyes (and tbh I still can't). But don’t worry after standing there for 5 sec like a fool, I finally mustered up the courage to walk up to her and ask her if the seat beside her is taken (we decided to meet first time on a train lol).

We spent 8 hours together and it feels like a dream. Everything went by so fast. The whole world could’ve collapsed around me and I wouldn’t have noticed. She has this way of turning ordinary moments into works of arts (idk how to describe it). She finds kindness in chaos and light in places most people rush past and I just sit there like woah....

The writing on my hand is already fading away. But honestly I don't care. Because the way she makes time itself feel irrelevant and the memories we made out of those fleeting hours will stay with me forever.

Anyways I just wanted y’all to know that this may be the first ever recorded case of extraterrestrial life on earth because I think we have an angel on our hands.

To whoever is reading this, I hope you have a wonderful day.

Those 2 weeks went by so damn fast. Time to cry in my bed, alone, all night :’) Pls send some words of support if you can, I’m a mess 😭

I was thinking some handmade gifts, but I was wondering if anyone else had any ideas. Would be much appreciated!

We've been ldr for 2 years and together for 3. Ldr has been so hard for me. I said I would move to him to be together. He said he isn't okay with it until I get a FT job.

I got laid off late last year and have been working part-time. I don't have plans to be part time forever, I'm literally putting in 3-10 applications everyday.

He lives in his parents house. So all he pays for is utilities and groceries. Of course I want to live there to be with him and save some money. But I'm not trying to free load off of him. I feel like a lot of our issues could go away if we weren't long distance.

My friend suggested moving there if he's not okay with me living with him. I brought up that idea to him and he immediately brightened up. He really liked the idea. I was not happy. I told him I feel ridiculous to move there for him but I still have to make an effort to even see him.

Ultimately he told me I have codependency issues and he's scared that I rely too much on him. Honestly I was so shocked. I knew I could be clingy but I had no idea I was that bad. I've been trying to work through my trauma, I was in therapy until I lost my job. He told me he was trying to see if I could be more independent during this time of my life without telling me.

I'm so stunned. Was he testing me? Have I been making him miserable? Does he not trust me? I feel like I'm not the person he wants to have a future with. When I think about it I've asked him for so much and he doesn't ask me for anything.

I'm considering ending our relationship because I'm extremely toxic and the relationship has felt really hard. He always says we will work on it, he wants to keep trying, and we will get through it. He will never end it even if he is running himself thin. I feel like I have to end it.

I miss my boyfriend so much. We are both 18 (18F and 18M) and have been in a relationship for three years now. We were in the same school, but then we changed schools, and in the past two years, we have only met once. We live just an hour apart, but my typical brown desi parents won’t allow me to meet male friends alone. I don’t have any other friends—I only have him.

I want to meet him so badly. We are really serious about each other, unlike casual couples, but we don’t get to meet. It’s so unfair. I tried asking for permission to go with them or to invite a female friend along, but they didn’t allow it because they know I don’t have any friends. I don’t get to go out anywhere alone, and it’s just so lonely. I miss him so much. I wish I could hug him.

Now, let me preface, I understand when financial or work issues get in the way. I'm not talking about that. And I also understand traveling to your boyfriend that you know and have seen before multiple times.

What I'm talking about is young women jumping on a flight to another state or even another country to meet someone who they've never met in their life 💀

And I do get that it's the same situation for men, but I think we all know that traveling alone as a woman is more unsafe than traveling alone as a man.

And even then, if nothing bad happens in the plane or on the airport, the man you meet can still end up being a creep, which just makes the situaton so much worse. Because now you're a girl completely alone in unknown terrority.

So, I don't know, it just blows my mind how many young girls do it. I get loving someone despite the distance, and feeling that intense connection despite being never-mets. But girls, please take care of yourselves.

I’m hoping to get some advice or insights from people who might have been through something similar. Here’s my situation:

I (29F) had been in a long-distance relationship with my ex-girlfriend (26F) for about two and a half years. We usually saw each other once a month and longer during holidays every few months. We had discussed the possibility of closing the gap, but realistically, it would have taken another two years to make it happen. Things seemed to be going really well though.

A few months ago, she started becoming more distant. When I asked her about it, she said it was because of stress from work and exhaustion, so I let it go. However, it continued, and eventually, she admitted that she was struggling with the distance, feeling disconnected when we were apart, and missing the physical contact. She also said that when we were together in person, she needed some time to reconnect emotionally. But that then things went back to being good.

We tried making changes to how we communicated, but things continued to feel strained over the past few months. It seemed like she was pulling away more and more, and eventually, we ended up breaking up over the phone two weeks ago.

Last weekend, she came to visit me in person to talk about everything. When we saw each other, things felt natural again, and the awkwardness we had been feeling over the phone disappeared. We hugged, cried a lot, and had some very emotional conversations. She told me she still loves me, that she really wants this to work but that it was taking too much out of her to try to make it work and that she's really struggling with the distance and the sense of disconnection. She also said she feels like she needs some space for herself right now.

She's going to be travelling for work for a couple of months and we said that we will give each other space and set up a meeting when she's back in a few months. I still love her, and I’m not sure what to do.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you navigate it?

Thank you for any advice!

2 weeks ago I went to the embassy with my parents for visa application. We gave all documents that are reqruired. And today I went again to the embassy to take back the passport with hopefully visa. I got passport there and checked if it have visa in the passport. I couldnt find. I asked why there is no visa in all the passports. Staf said it is refused by the government. We were ready to meet her and ask for eventually proposal, the girls parents were ready too, but no visa allowed. I was angry and sad. I even think to if our relationship will go further or not. I am still really sad, my eyes are thick cuz of crying.

So I’ve (16m) been online dating with this girl(15f) for about a year. Her name is Kenedee. Kenedee makes me incredibly happy and I have nothing but good things to say about her, and I’m sure she could say the same thing about me. We call every days for 5+ hours every day and sleep on the phone together every night. She’s my partner in crime, she hears about every aspect of my life, and my family likes her.. but on her end it’s different. Very different. Her mom doesn’t really like me, and though I’m 16, due to me not looking my age her mom has made up in her head that I’m an adult who wants to prey on her child. Julie(k’s mother) took her away from me for two months before kenedee could reach out again, and just that really impacted our relationship. Today, Kenedee is going to have a joined therapy apt. With her mom and both of their therapists regarding me, and kenedee’s relationship. Kenedee says that she “has to come clean to her mom” and “can’t keep living in secret”, which I agree with, but can’t shake the feeling that this might go terribly wrong. I’m so scared of losing my sweet girl.. this is the most legitimate feeling of love I’ve ever had for anyone, and I feel helpless as if it’s about to be ripped from my hands…

Well, that’s pretty much it, I’ll update this post later after their meeting and let anyone who’s interested know how it goes. I appreciate anyone’s insight and opinions, thanks.

I was in a ldr with girl, we broke up but I already have tickets and hotel booked (location Vegas) do I still go or no? Obviously not to see her but kinda feel weird going to Vegas by myself first time going?

Is there still hope?

I 17F and my boyfriend 17M have been dating for half a year now. I've been trying go get him to do spend time together but he seems uninterested to my suggestions.

Ever since, the honemoon phase ended our calls are just repeated cycles of talking for a bit and then getting back to out own things. I've been becoming bored and tired of that cycle and trying to break it. I've ask him if there is a game he's interested to play together but he just answers 'nothing'.

I'm slowly getting tired of our relationship and I need advice on this please, what should I do?

• He's into gaming but doesn't want to spend so much on games we could play.

• Isn't that interested in watching movies/series unless it's about war

• Into war stuff

• His parents does not know about me except his sibling

• Can't do date night calls

• Can't send presents to each other (even on steam because of the price difference)(He's from Europe and I'm from Asia)

I really need help. I'm getting hopeless in our relationship.

My bf [m26] and I[f22] are dating for months now, and 13 hours apart. Currently, i can't earn a lot of money to go see him, and getting the visa is also difficult for me becuz it requires lots of things. It is easier and cheaper if he visits me. However, he has financial problem. He needs a new car and a new phone, too, both of these things are old now (he keeps them very well, for years). To compare, if he visits, he needs abt $2k, but if i do, it might be up to 10 grand. I can't force him to visit me, i can't make that much of money in a very short time, either. If anyone experienced this before, plz gimme some advice.

My (F25) partner (M24) has been dealing with some really bad chronic pain and it's really getting him down. I told him I will just have to give him some extra love and care right now. But the thing is that I'm so limited when we're apart. So far I have recorded myself reading him bedtime stories, written notes on paper and sent pics of them, given him extra virtual cuddles, and took nightwear pics he requested. 😆 But what else can I do to show him some extra love right now? I need ideas please. :-)

Did anyone try the bond touch 4? Should I get the bond touch 4 or the original version?

Any experience would be helpful.

I (22F) need some advice on how to cope with being long distance once again. I met my (20M) Boyfriend 2 years ago through a language learning discord server. At first we talked because our majors were the same and we just wanted to see the differences between our 2 countries. After a few months we started developing feelings for each other and started LDR. I was actually shocked with myself at how well I handled it, it never was difficult for me. After 6 months I went to Japan and finally met him for the first time. as he was having an exchange year there. After 3 weeks I had to go back to my country and it was really difficult coping with the loss. So after that for 6 months I worked hard to get enough money for a working holiday visa to be with him. We lived together for a few months and everything was perfect. Now that only 20 days are left before he goes back, I really have a hard time, crying so much even though I know we should make the most of it, and that now that I will stay another 10 months in Japan we will actually be closer, so even calling will be easier. (I'm from Europe, he is from China)

But the fact that we both haven't finished college yet and still have a few years before actually starting a stable job and living together, it feels really hard for me to think about the close future, and it makes me really depressed.

Please I desperately need some advice to cope with parting again.

Ps: Sorry for my English it's not my first language and sorry for the long post.

What are yall getting your long distance significant others for Valentine’s day!!? I want some ideas 😩

Everything online is more in person based which isn’t feasible of course!

Hi, I'm Joshua and I'm a 18 year old guy. I met someone here last year because of a video game and at the beginning we didn't play much together but as the time passed I asked him to play more with me. I didn't talk through voice in the beginning because I was scared but I managed to talk to him. I love talking to him and listening to his calming voice. We started to get best friends and I started developing feelings for him rapidly. I always asked him to play almost every day possible, in the beginning it was just weekends but then it started to get more. I really started to love him and it increased every day. We got so close as best friends and then I started to imagine being together with him. I wanted to ask him for a month but I was scared about how he would react on being gay with me. A few days ago we were talking about our feelings for each other and then I managed to ask him if he wants to be in a relationship with me. When he said yes I bursted out crying from happiness. This is my first relationship and it will be my only one because it will last forever. We love each other so much and I still can't explain how much I feel for him. He is the best thing to happen to me ever, he helped me through a depression that seemed endless for me, he is always there for me. I see him as my light in the darkest darkness. I love every little thing about this guy and I never thought I would be so proud of being gay with someone. I give him the best I can do because I truly love him and he deserves it so much. I'm planning on meeting him irl one day, the day may seem far away but there is no maximum distance for my love. I can't stop thinking about him and I'm so happy when I'm talking to him. As I'm writing this I'm in tears out of happiness. I love him endlessly and this is my real love. My life changed in a good way because of him. I love you💜

Hello guys. My name is Dacre, I'm 20 years old and male. I am in a mlm relationship as of two days ago. The person who I got into a relationship with was originally my best friend. We met back sometime in June through a subreddit on here of Fortnite Save The World. We played together and then after a few weeks we started playing more consistently. We would play every weekend and then we started talking to eachother outloud slowly.

He is a very sweet man. We grew closer over the months and trusted eachother with everything and told eachother many things. I fell in love with him once he started talking to me out loud, his voice really calms me down and makes me so happy. I started realizing it when I imagined being there with him in person and hugging him. I felt so close with him. I had to hide it for so long because I thought I'd ruin the friendship with the fact that I'm gay or the fact that I love him romantically. He always knows how to cheer me up and I feel so attached to him.

We revealed many things to eachother and there has been so many moments in the past month where I wanted to confess to him, but I couldn't. Then on January 29, we started talking more about our feelings and we happened to confess at the same time. My dream came true when he asked me to be his boyfriend. It meant everything to me and I exploded with happiness.

Since then, the romance and intimacy has been so pure. I love him so much. He is truly the most beautiful person I've seen and he has the most lovable personality. I feel devoted to him and I know this relationship will last because I never felt so severe for someone before. I feel an endless amount of love for him. I've never felt so much for a guy before or anyone. He is my true love and he really brought a purpose into my life and made me the happiest ever.

We are seven hours apart, but the distance does not change anything for me. I love him the same and we make plans to meet eachother, which I know it will happen even if it takes awhile. I love him with my life.

She sleeps way too much!!! Like part of it is health issues but she also just has a complete shit sleep schedule and I've been so patient but it's interfered with our time together for several weeks in a row. I dont know what to do I cantdo anything i cant even wake her up cuz her phone is always on do not disturb it's so frustrating I'm always trying to improve myswlf in therapy dealing with anxious attachment and shit but it's like she's not trying now im crying in a public bathroom because ibknow she read my messagws but hasnt said anything for almost two hours

Edit: no one in the comments knows how to read holy shit

Is it possible that I will reunite with my partner?

I met a girl on Instagram a month ago. I had been talking to her for about a year, but in December, I started talking to her more seriously. We became a “couple.” I never actually asked her to be my girlfriend. We love each other, but I had to break up with her because she didn’t want a long-distance relationship, and I felt very pressured to give her an answer about when I would be able to see her.

I’m in the United States, and she is in Venezuela, and I can’t go back to Venezuela until next year when I leave the country. I’m devastated because I love this girl, I want to be with her, and I don’t want to lose her. I’m so close to writing to her because I want to get back together, but I know I would only hurt her if I did.

How do I handle this pain? We agreed to talk again when we have more clarity about what we are going to do with our lives. My mom is coming to the United States in April, and that’s when I will talk to her and my sister about whether we will stay or leave. But that feels like too much time, and I’m afraid that by then, she won’t want anything anymore.

She told me that if we love and care for each other, we will be there at the right moment. But I don’t want to wait; it’s too long. I love her.

I wrote this with chatgpt because I didn’t want to waste my time writing because of my sadness. English is not my main language

TW: Medical Talk, Relationship Issues, Mild Swearing, Mention of Religion (mods please delete if not allowed)

I haven’t been truly happy in my own relationship for just over 6 months now.

I know what people are going to immediately think. ‘Why are you in it then?’ But it’s stupidly complicated.

My partner and I have been in a long distance relationship for 659 days (21 and a bit months). I love him so much despite the 17,000 km that divide us. We were introduced through a mutual online friend and clicked immediately. Genuinely I believe they are the one for me as naive or childish or whatever you think it sounds. And no we are not children, we are both young adults.

We met in the middle of a very dark time for me, one I am still trying to get out of to this day. They’ve only heard my voice a handful of times due to extreme situational mutism and sh!t happening in life but they we would sit on call for hours very chance we got, just watching each other do whatever we were doing, smiling. We messaged everyday, he would stay up late to say good morning to me and only go to bed when I told him he had to.

Last year…..they were going to try and come visit me but we had some issues with passport. Then sh!t started to happen. He started having seizures and passing out. We don’t know why. We don’t know how. I don’t know much at all.

He is in and out of hospital which is bad enough for me with my medical trauma, but worse was that those daily messages turned too weeks…..and now I’m lucky to get one every month.

I haven’t heard from him since mid December. Not for Christmas or new years……nothing. Last I heard he had been admitted to a facility and was being kept there……not much else. Their’ parents refuse to have contact with me as they don’t see me as a ‘proper’ partner and even blamed me in the beginning. All I can do is sit here and wait. If I had the money or means to be with him I would in a fricking heartbeat. Im mute and disabled, struggling to find a job for money or even just keep myself mentally afloat at times.

I just sit here and try to keep living and hoping. I don’t know how he is, I don’t even know if he is fricking alive. But all I can do is tear my hair out and sit here sobbing every night while I wait to hear from him. My father is upset with him, says I deserve better. But I keep trying to remind him it’s not in our control. I’m just trying to be patient……I just want him to be okay.

Amidst everything I’ve started to wonder if I really am cursed. It’s been 4 years of living hell for me with mental health in the gutter, everyone I love has some sort of illness. Whether I’m cursed to just bring pain to everyone I touch or love. I was raised religious…..I’ve even started to wonder if god is punishing me for dating a trans person. And with everything going on in America and the world, I’m just getting even more scared that the care he needs could be stripped from him at any moment.

Despite everything I can’t let him go though. I promised him I would stick with him through thick and thin and I intend to keep that promise even if it drives me mad. I truly love them with all my heart. I will hold things together if only to see him smile again when…..if….we can make it out the other side of this Sh!t.

I just feel like I’m starting to lose my sanity….i don’t know how much longer I can keep doing this on my own. But anyone that I tell just tells me to let go. I won’t. I can’t. I would never forgive myself if I let him down in his time of need, the person who kept me going in my darkest days.

I just want to be happy…..truly happy. With my Sunflower. Mi amor.

Whoever read this, thank you and I’m sorry. I’m sorry for wasting your time. I just needed to…..get this out a bit I guess.

Take care everyone💙

I'm curious to see how much of this is serendipity or active choice. I've been in several LDRs and while they present unique challenges, I think they have been more satisfying and exciting than most of my non LDR relationships.

Thoughts and experiences welcome.

I made a post the other day asking for advice. We ended up talking last night and broke up. He kept trying to skrt around the topic instead of talking about it. He called me in the afternoon and was just bsing. He was telling me he’s going out soon and trying to be lovey dovey. In that moment I realized I don’t care what he’s doing anymore. I wasn’t really in the mood to play his weird game of acting like nothing was wrong. I did what he does and just sat there not saying much. I’m sick of begging this man to communicate. After a while I asked so are you calling to talk about this or are you calling just to talk. He said he was calling just to talk. He then wanted to stay on the phone up until it was time for him to leave. So we just sat otp. I had shit to do that day so he told me we could talk about after I got home.

After I got home I called and again with the bs. I flat out said so what are we doing here? He was going on about how he hasn’t been in a good mental space and can’t show up for me the way I want. I just said ok take care of yourself. He said he wanted to have a discussion and that he didn’t want to lose me. To me there’s nothing to discuss. I’m not asking for too much and this is our relationship rn. If he can’t do that there’s no future. I feel like he wanted to go back to it being a situationship. So he could do whatever he wanted and me not questioning it. I already told him I’m not interested in that and if we’re not together there’s nothing here. He then tried to love bomb me again and I just wasn’t folding. Honestly I felt so relieved after the call ended. I didn’t feel anxious when he stopped sharing his location or when I didn’t get a funny tt.

Honestly I needed this to happen so I can finally start celebrating my future. I told him it was shitty of him to do this when something good is finally happening to me. He just said he didn’t want to end this in an argument. I realize I can’t be with someone who makes me feel like sharing my feelings is starting an argument. I feel like he enjoyed seeing me be unhappy and couldn’t take seeing good things happen to me. I’m glad to not have to stress anymore. I feel like he thought holding out was going to make me accept whatever scraps he was trying to throw my way. If anything it gave me time to mourn the relationship before it ended. I asked for a sign, a very clear sign because I was too blinded by love. Him saying he couldn’t be call me at a specific time and be open with me, was that sign and I took it. Because even though he was telling he loved me and didn’t want to lose me, his actions were not.