Dilemma

Recently I finished a month long trip in Australia. On the last two days I met a girl and we immediately hit it off. It felt like i’ve known here for ages and she thought the same. I’ve never hit it off this well with a girl. But unfortunately I had to leave the next day. The day I left we hung out as well and she dropped me off at the airport. We try to keep in contact but the time difference is 10 hours. She will probably come to europe in June but that feels like ages. For me money is not the problem but I’m stuck with the dilemma cause we’ve only met for a bit and I don’t know how she looks at it. Any advice?

I am sorry but I would love if their was a way to filter or block those types of posts or that they could be put in a different subreddit or blocked from this one. I was hoping this would be a place for people to share their happy moments and milestones in a LDR or get advice.

Personally it makes me feel upset seeing the 'we broke up titles'.

I know I have a secure and strong relationship with my fianceé, but have had anxious attachment and past toxic relationships so being reminded that that happens to people can triggering.

I want people to get the support and understanding that people from LDR can provide!

Anyways I think the best course of action might be that I leave because I don't want to be a cause for more struggle for those going through such a horrible time in their lives and if that is you I hope you heal and get the love that you deserve❤️

I miss somebody I don't know their last name.

I'll never know if anything happens to them or why it's gone so cold.

They gave me more support and emotional bandwidth and security than I've ever seen in my entire life. Nobody's ever been able to keep up like they could.

It's was nearly 3 weeks since I heard from them.

They would normally only check out for a couple days and check back in.

They're a random stranger from the internet but I've never felt closer to somebody with the amount of witnessing and comforting and enticing they offered me.

I always felt like I should tread carefully but I didn't and now I grieve someone whose face I've never seen.

But I've heard their voice.

I've seen them wait to respond to me with huge kindness and concern and care until my little "..." was finished with the fullest extent of dysregulated yap I could possibly offer.

They held space for my most abused and awkward moments.

Things I've never asked for from my (well known) loved ones before.

How do you mend a broken heart for a disappeared stranger who gave you the world- their big heart and heated sighs and only their phone number...

I can't bring myself to call it.

Long story short, we’re hopelessly in love in person but we haven’t seen eachother in two months. I feel like this has caused our relationship to hit a few rocky spots. I miss who he was towards me in person, but he’s not a phone person so for him talking to me on the phone, it’s just a chore for him. It seems like. I know he loves me deep down and when he’s with me, it’s different. I have constantly brought up small issues and I know he’s fed up. It’s not that I’m trying to be the person who’s right in an argument, but he makes it out to be like that. He wants to prove me wrong, that I brought out a silly little problem and he’s right. When all I want to do is tackle the problem, not each other. Recent arguments, he’s been disrespecting me and I told him the last time, imagine I’m your sister before you disrespect me in an argument. I think it made him realize at that point that he was being an asshole. Fast forward today, he didn’t care to acknowledge to make that correlation.

We’re supposed to get engaged in December. With our culture, his whole family is coming out to properly ask for my hand. Yesterday, I voiced to him that I was anxious because I have no idea of the details of their arrival, etc because they have yet to buy tickets. He told me I’m only anxious because I needed clarity and he’ll get that clarity once he speaks to his family that night. Keep in mind, I didn’t ask for him to ask his parents, which he doesn’t like me doing bc I think it stresses him out so I stopped inquiring. This time HE offered to ask for my peace of mind. Later when we’re arguing he said “look how dumb you look” me being anxious because I have idea what’s going on, he sends me a screenshot of a convo with his mom where she’s asking for the closest airport just yesterday. Like how am I supposed to know? I doubt he would’ve told me if we weren’t arguing. Anyway, I didn’t appreciate him rubbing my anxiety in my face when he’s upset at me and the thought of this made me sad because I don’t wanna be with someone like that. I just know that long distance is hard for the both of us. He eventually told me earlier that he’s tired of the endless cycle of arguing and he mentally checked out a month ago (evidently when he started being disrespectful), he told me he was done and that he won’t continue this relationship. I responded with begging him to stop and that we’ll work on it and I promised him it won’t be like that in person, that it’ll be easier once we close the gap. I whole heartedly think it would be easier, but I’m probably crazy anyway. So my pathetic begging got him to respond with this attached I’m thinking because his ego is so high, he’s too afraid to admit that he did fuck up with disrespecting me and he’ll use my begging as an excuse to give in and stay. Because why would you stay, knowing you’re suppose to come and ask for my hand in two months, that this is your future and you keep reminding me about it. And he was telling me all day that he’s miserable and no longer happy with my and doesn’t love me like he used to due to all our arguments. So why would you stay just because you pity me? Or was he saying all that out of spite? How he’s putting his feelings above mine, when if he didn’t that from the start, we wouldn’t be here. If his ego wasn’t so high, we wouldn’t be here!

I guess I know it’s pathetic I begged him to stay. My friends tell me I have too much patience for him when he has no patience for me. Can anyone give insight on him or his character? If they’ve ever dealt with someone with such high ego? Or why he would stay if he is 100% confident he wouldn’t want to move forward with me but he’s just doing it to meep me happy. I still have yet to respond to him, idek what to say anymore. What am I supposed to say? “Thank you for feeling pity and wanting to stay because you feel bad, not because you love me enough to us get through this obstacle called long distance?”

-I want to start off by acknowledging the rules on the age gap and stating that we met in a zoom group and we do private zoom chats so I’m not being harmed or groomed, we’re 2 adults and communicate all throughout the day via phone calls and texts.- Me (24NB) and my partner (54M) have been talking for a few months as friends and have to recently discovered that we have major feelings for each other. Main issue is that I live in Alabama and he lives in California. We want to meet so bad. I’ve been looking up flying out there in March but that’ll be 5 months from now and I don’t know if I can be financially prepared by March. Our relationship is really good right now but I want to be physically with him even if it’s only for a week. How long did it take you to meet your long distance partner and did anything make it easier for you to wait?

I’m lost and I don’t know what to do. I 18 F and my partner 17 F have been together for a year now. I still love them with all my heart. It’s just lately i’ve been thinking and feeling a lot.

I feel like lately I’ve been put to the side. Ever since she found a new group of friends to call and hang out with there’s been less us time. My partner is always with them before i can even ask to call or anything. Besides, if they already made plans i feel like it wouldn’t be right for me to then say anything to my partner about wanting to call or anything. By the time we finally call it’s time to go to sleep they usually passes out very quickly. So i just feel like i barely have time with her.

It doesn’t help that she texts dry so even during the day i feel like i’m not being heard. My partner isn’t really a word of affirmation person or expresses their love a lot apart from i love you’s. tbf her love language is physical touch which makes being in an ldr so much more difficult at times. especially cause i’m an words of affirmation girly.

it just gets so hard especially when she does stuff that triggers me, or even making me feel like sometimes i’m just a friend who’s being overly loving like someone in a relationship would. I’ve had a hard time just accepting her i love you’s cause my mind is filled with doubt again. For context throughout our relationship she broken up with me a few times, and i’ve gone back each time. maybe it was silly on my end to keep going back but i genuinely love her and would do anything to experience life with her again.

Even though i love her and even though she doesn’t show me often that she loves me too (apart from i love you’s and such) I have moments where im so triggered and im paranoid im going to be broken up with again. especially cause they’re barely spending time with me. and overall i feel everything about me is getting pushed to the side. (i’m aware i can communicate about different things but i feel like sometimes its a recurring pattern. talking about the problem gets fixed and then falls back again) I don’t want to keep living with moments where i have constant doubts and anxiety. even if i get better it always comes back and sometimes comes back worse than before.

i think because of everything that happened i’ve haven’t been taking her i love you’s to heart because im still scared im going to get hurt. sometimes i feel like an in person relationship is easier than and ldr (especially cause maybe she could give physical love better than words . ‸ .)

i’m really not sure what to do. i truly do love this girl with all my heart. but sometimes it gets so bad i don’t know if i can do it anymore. so many other things come up in my head so i just wonder would it be better to finally go our separate ways? but i can’t see a life without her. yet even if i get better with dealing with my anxiety/triggers of if she’ll ever break up with me again. it will never fully go away and i know that. yet i feel myself getting more distant day by day anytime my anxiety is bad. i don’t want to keep asking for reassurance. but i just don’t know if its worth to keep going or go separate ways.

sorry if this is messy and long i don’t know what to do. i know i keep repeating myself in some parts i just don’t know what to do. i’m genuinely sobbing my eyes while writing this. my heart hurts . ‸ . any advice would be greatly appreciated cause i really don’t know what to do. i’m torn with myself

Not too long back I was started texting this girl, things went amazing! We had a lot in common and enjoyed each other’s company, so not too long after we decided to start dating. First 2 weeks was amazing, we were responding to each others tests immediately, showing loads of affection, and have fun on call everyday of the weekend. But after those 2 weeks she started the natural pulling away thing a lot of girls do, my response to this has always been the same, not care and pull away with her. I never pointed it out to her that she was pulling away, if she took slightly or significantly longer to respond so would I. I hear after awhile of copying that behavior instead of chasing her brings her right back, but this hasn’t been happening, its now been 2 weeks of this behavior, and I’m not exactly sure what to do at this rate, please leave some suggestions.

Finally got to meet on Halloween! He (25 T) came all the way from Michigan to see me in California (38 T) spending Halloweekend together! 👻

how long is the distance

I've (m30) been dating my girlfriend (f29) for roughly six months. We met while we worked together, she told me she liked me after I had already signed a contract to work somewhere else in another state about 3 hours away. We initially started as a situationship, but it lead to a relationship.

We've been together for only a short time, but I'm positive she's the one. However I can't get past one thing. Not only is this my first LDR, she's the first parent I've dated.

I trust that she isn't interested in her ex, but it gives me so much anxiety when she does stuff that involves him. Her son is 2 years old. I understand the father wants to be involved in family stuff (i.e. they're doing halloween stuff right now). I'm already an anxious person, have been off and on ssri's for years, and the long distance on it's own is tough for me. The extra anxiety of her ex being around when I'm not drives me crazy, though.

If anyone has been in this situation and can offer some advice, I'd happily take it. I trust her, I really do, but my anxiety is off the charts, and I don't want to self sabotage by being a psycho boyfriend.

I put this under 2 other communitys for various responses❤This guy I kinda like lives way far from me but we text and he has been initiating every conversation we've had maybe for like a few weeks and now hes stopped chatting with me he likes my snapchat stories but still it's been 3 weeks he hasn't wrote to me should I start the conversation or wait for him to do so, the only reason I don't write first is cause I like when people write to me first ik it sounds bad but I dont mean this in a toxic way😭,did he not like me, is he not intrested in me anymore, if I text him will he still want to chat? from what Ik he doesn't have a gf. If u have any questions I will answer them. What do you guys think though?

I [48M] dated this "good girl" [42F] for good three years. Known each other for five years.

We met and chatted through the political social media. She voted for this and I voted for that, so we have kind of political conflict and agreed not to bring politics into dinner and bed.

Within a month of video calls, text, etc, we decided to meet each other in person. Just for the weekend.

First hour in, she shifting my stick while driving. Pulled my pants right off me as soon as she locked her door.

Everything was fantastic and all that. It's seems like we were the match because we knows ourselves too well.

We agreed to treat it as an one night stand and we aren't so much into the long distance.

Before I fly back home, she got upset and told me she never had a feeling like this because I treated her too good, shown how a lady should be treated and such. "You brought a woman out of me and I never have anything like that. You gave me the sexual awakening!" She told me that and I remembered everything she said and what we did together. She was total college ho and I was way too college incel.

Anyway, she called me porn star stud because I shown her more surprising positions than anybody ever could.

We still agreed to one night stand, nothing more than that. Well, I ended up flying back to her again. And again. AGAIN!

Until we had our fallout due to politics and she got mad at me. I felt like she dumped me, so I moved on.

One year and half later, she contacted me out of blue, got me on video call with her and we just talked very good, eventually turned into cyber sex.

She asked me if I'm seeing anyone and I said no. I asked her if she wanted another chance and she said yes.

I flew back to her again. Again. AGAIN! It took guts out of me but I decided to ask her to be my girlfriend and she said yes. I was afraid she would rejected me.

I told her that only way LDR would work if she make an effort to strike a conversation with me, initiated the first move on her part and she should visit me as much as she can and I will do the same thing.

She promised me she will do her best. 3 years later, she never make any effort and I just decided to called it off after she promised me she would visit me next week and she never did. I guess I got fed up with her BS.

I do know she cares a lot about me, she was happy to have me as her boyfriend... She even asked me to move in. I explained that I just can't move my whole life with her without get her to know MY life first.

I don't want a situation where I moved in then found out she doesn't like my hobby or how I'm doing daily and then be kicked out for no reason.

LDR is not that hard if both partners agreed to see each other and it isn't bad, she's only lives five hours away from me and it only takes one hour and half on a plane. We aren't kids anymore!

When I see her, I always planned everything in advance. I felt like she is too afraid to visit me because of her son who doesn't even live with her. She have only one kid and I have six kids and I have tremendous solid family support, they will babysit my children every time I go out of town.

Every time I asked when she will visit me, she always pulled up her son as an excuse... He is living with her ex-husband and his parents and she absolutely have nothing else to do except work all the way. Kept claiming she can't call work off but she doesn't work during the weekend.

She got upset when I called her out for using me like that... She knew I spoiled the shit out of her, brought her a coffee maker and stuff.

But she STILL would not visit me... Or keep in touch with me daily, even for the small talk.

I do regretted for called it off but due to her inability to make a time to visit me in five years... I'm not even sure if I did the right thing because there's nobody like her. She is rare gem and I'm man of patience.

Sigh. What do you think?

So me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for approximately 6 months. I love her very dearly and I really want to marry her. The problem I have is her forgetfulness. She promises me something that she will do it and end up forgetting about it and not doing it. At times things she promises get me excited and I anticipately wait for her to do for my expectations to ultimately fail because she forgot. The thing is I have no problem with reminding her about stuff but she says "I promise I'll do it. I won't forget" and I place my trust in her but she fails my trust. Ultimately this came to a boiling point when few days ago she forgot to celebrate my birthday. I had told her I usually celebrate it with my friends on 31st and with family on 30th. However, I'm far away from my family studying in university. I told her at least 2 weeks ago that Im thinking of celebrate my birthday on 30 with my dorm mates. In that 2 week period the discussion of how I'll spend my birthday was made multiple times as well. She didn't congratulate me and at midnight we called and I opened the topic about it. In conclusion we had a pretty big talk/argument. I said some harsh words, she said some problems that she was hiding from me. After that I have been very depressed. I didn't study or eat properly. I already had some mental health issues and stress from university and life was already putting lot of pressure on me. I was enduring them for the most part but the birthday thing just pushed me over the edge. She promised me that few days before my bd she would show her halloween costume when she had it on. She again didn't fulfill her promise. She offered to put her costume on but I declined. She is very awesome girlfriend and she is also going through some rough patches in her own life. Currently, I can feel resentment building up and I'm thinking of discarding the bd gift I got her and not congratulate it. What Should I do? I don't want to break up with her so I'm trying to solve the issue.

My girlfriend and are in ldr for a while and we are looking for some apps to spice up things. Apps like online truth or dare or any other 18+ apps that can help us in spicing up things.

Help me with some recommendations please!

My bf is pretty great, we met in uni 2 years ago and hit it off and he was the sweetest ever. We have been in a ldr for a 1 year now since I’m off to study my masters.

I have noticed as time goes by he seems to get less romantic. It totally makes sense that things don’t stay as sparkly like the beginning but I miss how he always called me his gorgeousl girl, being asked about things and remembering them, and how he sent me food occasionally when I was down

Recently I had a minor eye surgery and didn’t have anyone to drive me. He didn’t seem to ask much about how I’ll get home and I ended up walking home with my vision all blurry. When I got home I was starving and he didn’t offer to order me food either since I practically couldn’t see anything. Whenever I’m down and having cravings on my period and tell him that, he just changes the topic. He makes sure to spend time with me but I don’t feel like he cares much?

Also it’s been 2+ years and I haven’t received flowers from him

I don’t want his money, but when it comes to such occasions we all want to be taken care of. After all I would have. I see girls being taken care of A LOT

Is it normal to just pass time with your partner? Why don’t I feel that the relationship isn’t as meaningful? It’s hard already with a LDR so we should use our chances to make each other feel cared for. How do you describe a good meaningful relationship?

Today’s my birthday and my long distance boo sent me a cake and a bunch of other gifts. We’re not official yet and started talking at the end of August .. ahhh I’m already head over heels 🥰😍

i sent them a video with their account up and running, after i checked and it said this.

i met this girl while she was on a work visa, she is from colombia. i live in the united states i work at a golf resort and she ended up being placed here for work. she started back in may of this year and left back to colombia in September. i had seen her around at work but it wasn’t until early august that i talked to her it was then i learned she didn’t speak english. and i do not speak Spanish. so i asked her on a date through google translate. i never had and intent to take things seriously i just thought it would be fun to interact with someone who doesn’t speak my language. so i took her to bowling and to a arcade. the night was incredible she was the perfect girl and she had such an amazing personality. she was everything i wanted my partner to be. and we stayed in contact after that and we went on a few more dates. we tried to utilize the 3 weeks we had left with each other the best we could. and the time had come for her to return back to colombia. i took her to the airport and by this time we had built true feelings for each other. it is so crazy to think about i fell in love with someone who doesn’t speak my language and lives in a whole different country. we are doing long distance until she returns again next summer. but it is difficult at times we face time as much as possible and we text each other every day but i can say i honestly want to marry this girl one day. i feel like i left a lot out but i say all that to ask if anyone has a similar experience? how did it end up? what are some tips? i’ve always heard that 2 souls don’t meet on accident and that the heart chooses people not places and i believe that.

My boyfriend (23M) and I (21F) have been dating for a little over 3 years now. Since March 2024 we have been long distance (4 hour drive).

My bf works super weird hours and this week he work 12 (noon) to 11PM, and sometimes it can be noon to 4AM depending on how the day is going. I’ve been super excited to finally spend a Halloween with him now that I am 21, but the past day or two he’s been saying “I will let you know how Friday goes, because if it’s a long night, I’m not going to drive up”. I understand if he has a long night and doesn’t want to drive up after work on Friday, but he has 5 days off in a row and it makes me think, why can’t you just leave Saturday morning or afternoon?

It upsets me because I was very excited to see him, and if he doesn’t come up, I’ll be seeing him November 13th instead and I’d be the one driving down to see him. I understand he has a busy work life as well as tiring, but during the months of March to August he visited me twice and I did all the driving every 2 weeks to see him because he was unable to with work (only 1 day off a week).

I am not saying I have to endure what he goes through in a long day at work but even when I did not want to drive, I still did it to see him.

I need advice on how to talk to him and express how I feel about this situation without placing “blame” on him. But overall, I need to know if I am in the wrong if I make him feel bad for it.

Thank you in advance!

We've been in a relationship for 1 month after 3 months of knowing each other, it was all my fault because my dad wasn't going to let me go visit him, he is the nicest man ever and now I feel horrible for letting him down and for losing the person I thought was the one. Any advice on how to grief this situation.

My girlfriend lives pretty far (hence this subreddit) and also lives a pretty busy life. I have a high sex drive while she, let's say, has an average one. Considering all that I can't keep bothering her in asking for new nudes. The thing about older ones is that they lose their spark after like 2-3 alone time sessions. Is there any way i can make them feel exciting for a longer time period? 😭

Maybe I’m just a little bit bitter and upset because my best friend (bunny) that I’ve had since High School (I’m in my 20s now) recently passed away and it was both expected and unexpected (she was dealing with multiple health issues and constantly on medication and etc etc). I miss her so so much and I feel like a rollercoaster of emotions- one moment, I don’t feel as upset, and the next, I’m right back to heavily grieving.

The venting, however, is regarding my partner (25NB) of nearly 7 months. On Saturday, my bun got incredibly ill- lethargic, barely responsive, not eating, not using the bathroom, and only able to drink some water. I had let my partner (who also knows about my bun’s medical conditions) know via text.

My partner told me that I should get some food because I also need to take care of myself. Which… fair. But I genuinely did not have the appetite because I was stressed out and scared for my bun, so I let them know.

After a while, I gave my partner a call for the emotional support. I have another bun and he was going crazy (boy bunny and his hormones were acting up) and causing ruckus which made me more stressed because of the loud sounds.

My partner insisted that I should get food, and I ended up snapping at them because I was getting fed up of having to repeat myself (for the third time) that I DON’T HAVE AN APPETITE and CAN’T HAVE AN APPETITE when my pet might be dying. And then snapped at my other bun to quiet down.

My partner hung up, and to be honest… I didn’t care that much at the time because I was more focused on my bunny. I calmed myself down a bit to focus on my girl (the bunny) and called back (this was like 10-15 minutes later), and my partner didn’t pick up because they were upset? That honestly rubbed me the wrong way because I’m the one that’s getting stressed and scared that my pet might be dying, and now I’m having to worry about both my bun AND managing my partner’s emotions? Which didn’t feel fair to me. Granted, I shouldn’t have snapped.

Ultimately, I ended up taking my bun to the Emergency Hospital, and decided to get pain medication injected and some fluids and take her home because we didn’t want the possibility of her dying alone while getting hospitalized. She couldn’t have been operated on because she was already weak (and old, and plethora of medical problems) so there is a high chance that she wouldn’t have woken up after the operation. So instead, I took her home and stayed with her the entire night. While holding her, I wanted to give my partner a quick call to update on the situation (explaining the whole thing including how she’s probably going to pass). And we said our goodnights and that they would have to hang up on me because I’m holding my bunny and don’t want to disturb her… implying that the call should come to an end, but they still stayed. Maybe they wanted to make sure that I’m okay but quite frankly, it was a little bit bothersome that I had to spell out that I would like to be alone with my pet because she is dying: “I’m so sorry but I REALLY would appreciate some time alone with her because I’m pretty certain she is dying.”

I won’t deny that maybe I was being a bit harsh and also a bit of an ass but I really wish I didn’t feel like my partner was being insensitive.

Again, I’m just venting a bit. I most likely didn’t explain well enough, I am terribly with elaborating and explaining so please don’t hesitate to ask for clarifications or call me out for being an ass or whatever.

I really don’t know how to feel. My girlfriend is an exhibitionist individual and she just told me she’s planning on wearing ‘basically nothing’ to a Halloween frat party today that I’m not going to be at. I told her that makes me a bit uncomfortable and asked what the intent was, and when she asked what I meant I asked if she genuinely likes the costume or if she’s looking for attention for boys. She said that she doesn’t want that and when I asked ‘what is the reasoning?’ (In a non condescending/confrontational tone) she just got extremely mad at me and told me she was going to sleep.

Part of me feels apologetic, another part of me feels like my feelings are valid. I’m looking for someone to tell me if I’m the asshole or not, if I’m being controlling, etc. I don’t know how to feel right now and I don’t want it to ruin my or her night.

Edit: I replied this to a comment and will reply for others who might see this post. I’ve seen and recognized all of the comments - I apologized to her and I’ve recognized what this means to her. Rather immaturely, i viewed this as something that she was doing for boy’s attention, but even if she is- it’s not like she wants to have sexual relations with them or is attached to them. She feels good about herself and wants others to recognize it too- why should I put myself between her and happiness?

I am located in New York and she is located in Shanghai. We started dating when we met on my Asia trip in August but began talking online in June. Neither one of us really planned to get into an LDR but we decided to try and see what happens.

We began to plan a trip to Europe where I will stay for 9 days. The trip was first mentioned a month ago and we planned to book everything in the next 2 weeks. Last week she mentioned that she will stay in Europe an extra 6 days after I leave since she has no more trips planned for 2025. I asked if she planned to visit me in the U.S and she said that it’s too expensive for her to visit and that she won’t have any vacation time after Europe.

Am I wrong for wanting to break up? I was planning to visit Shanghai again in the summer if our trip to Europe went well. We plan to have a talk this weekend on our next video call. I wrongfully assumed she was eager to visit me, especially since she had mentioned many times that New York is her “dream city”.

Edit: I have no issue going to visit her more. I was more annoyed that she is going to burn all her PTO because she is staying extra days. We previously discussed doing more vacations but Europe would be our first one. She also mentioned that I visit other cities in China. She wouldn’t have any time off to do these.

Does anyone feel the struggle with splitting time with your LD partner and family and friends because of limited time together? I am based in the UK and my partner is in California. We have done a good job of seeing eachother every few months and that little time we get is very precious. I guess I feel like I have to make up for all the time apart by extra attention and quality time together. My family also live away in Georgia so I don’t get to see much of them either. They want to come over to California to spend Thanksgiving together which on paper sounds lovely, all of us together. However, I really really struggle with this and splitting my little time I have with my partner and now also my family. It causes me great anxiety and I feel really overwhelmed. Because if I’m with my family, I’m missing out on time with my partner and if I’m with him, I’m missing out on time with my family. I feel like my attention is divided and neither party is getting the full attention and quality time. I really really struggle with this to the point of near panic attack. The worst feeling is being dropped off to the airport knowing I didn’t give my time properly to either party. I also know myself and I know I would feel emotionally and physically exhausted from splitting time between everyone. Maybe I am just not capable of dividing my time and energy like that. On top of that, my partners family is amazing and I would want to get some quality time in with them as I don’t see them often. Any tips or has anyone gone through the same thing? I live alone in the UK and everyone I love is across the pond so I just find it very emotionally difficult.

Me and my long distance partner are meeting up for the first time (where he lives). He told me to bring a dress so we can take pictures together in the sunset and said he “wants to see me in a puffy dress” which seems oddly specific and sent me a picture of a yellow dress. is this a red flag if he’s telling me what he wants me to wear already and potentially controlling behavior?