So I, F(25), found porn on my boyfriends, M(28), old phone. Yes, I know it’s an invasion of privacy. There’s been a distance physically and emotionally between us. Some lying and lack of communication. So I did the wrong thing and looked through an old phone that he kept. I went through his pictures and there was lots of porn going back 2 years, we’ve been dating for 3. He also saved pictures of friends he follows on instagram. I went on his browser and immediately it opened up to a porn site and there were multiple tabs of other porn sites. We’ve had conversations about how unhealthy porn can be and that I’m opposed to it. I just never thought he’d be the type to watch it. I can understand that some people think it’s normal but saving porn onto your phone, having a separate email specifically for porn sites, and taking screenshots of your friends with big boobs does not feel normal. I can’t stop feeling a pain in my chest and I know I did this to myself. I want to talk to him about it but I know it’ll turn back on me since I found it in the wrong way.

TL;DR Me (19F) and my bf (20M) Have been together for almost 3 years now we see each other every weekend as we are kind of long distance but not really since we are from the same hometown but not that far away from each others colleges.

So my '19F' boyfriend '20M' has an apportunity to travel abroad for 2 weeks. He applied to see if he can get into this abroad program the school is collaborating with. His female friend notified him about it since she's also applying to go, and so he agreed.

They've also flew out for an exchange program during the summer in Europe and I was so jealous they traveled together before us. Now this trip will be in Asia, but it's only 2 weeks over there.

I also invited him to go to my home country with me and my family is willing to pay for his ticket. The thing is I'm flying out to my home country the same time the trip to Asia is issued. So if he gets into the program he'll be going to Asia instead of going with me to my home country.

I just feel like it's not fair that he's travelled with her before us and is going to do so again if he's accepted. But it's such a good opportunity if he gets accepted and I also feel excited for him, but what gets me down is that he's travelling again with her.

I already feel uncomfortable with his friends and this just adds fire to it. It's a special moment they are sharing, experiencing a whole different culture together. I really wish that was us instead, I've always wanted to go to Asia with him. How can I be more supportive and less jealous?

Me (46)M my girlfriend (34)F last week I discovered some delated sms messages in her phone. The messages were between her and another man discussing that they would be making plans to get together soon. When I asked my girlfriend about it she said that she only told him they were going to get together in order to get him off her back and that he is just a person who won't leave her alone. I am not sure that can be a real thing.

How do i tell the guy im currently on talking stage with that the reason why i don't want to sleep with him is because he in my eyes isn't physically attractive and doesn't turn me on?

I don't meant to be toxic or red flag, he's a wonderful person but his looks are a turn off

So me F28, my boyfriend M30 and his friends (mainly men and 2 women) are going to Brazil for Rio de Janeiro Carnaval 2025 for my boyfriend’s 30th birthday. This trip is planned and he’s fully aware of it (obviously). I want to be able to surprise him with something while we are there, excursion, cute birthday gestures, etc, but I just can’t seem to think of a cute little surprise! I have a gift for him but I wanna do something really cute! His birthday does not fall on any of the trip dates and we are staying at an Airbnb with his friends.

Any suggestions? 😊

Well, so my transgender bf has been accusing me of cheating for a long ass time and I honestly think that it's a bit odd that he's accusing me of doing all this shit even though I used to have male friends before I knew him and has been adding randoms just to talk (this was when he knew my pass everywhere and he still does this day today) so i wouldn't really say that i do something wrong with sending regular selfies to whoever of just my face. After I removed my male friends he would be suspecting still and he had my password everywhere (🚩) when he asked me to have it so that he would feel trust so I just gave it to him immediately because I got nothing to hide even though I have male friends in my socials. Well here's the awful part, he suspected me long and still do but he keeps on showing me another woman in his social medias that he just shows the "friendship profile" of on snap and when i ask why he hasn't showed me the chats between them but wanna see mines everywhere, he keeps on saying "but i had a plan to hurt you with how i felt you would be cheating because I did not believe the people who told me you did not and not even when i seen your convos" and that's not wrapping around my head tbh because I always had him with me anywhere on ft and gave him ressurance whenever he needed it, sure I've spoke to males as a friend but not without him seeing whatever we spoke about and having full acsess + in the beginning of the relationship he never throwed accusions after me that way that he has for more then a year now, I don't know how to feel to be straight up with you all because I don't like being made prove my loyality when the guy don't do it back because that feels like something is off for me and I would call his behaviour hiding, not whatever plan he says the whole thing is because if he knew he wasn't gonna show me the stuff back as I did for him, why would he wait 50 ass days or more idk to show me that he even has another chic on his stuff? Idk, I need yall's opinion and I really feel sad about how he thinks that's ok to do against others. I feel being trans don't mean you cannot cheat on your partner, but he keeps on being mad ass fuck and twisting shit over on me when I ask questions back at him because he always accuses me and never prove his own shit, IMO i got all the right to feel mad or hurt. And to bring some clarity, he never proved other shit then having the person or whoever on his stuff and he didn't give me any password back either :/ I feel somehow cheated on, not gonna lie.

Sorry this is kinda long, my first time posting on here but I didn't want to leave out any context that felt important.

My bf recently (at the beginning of January) cheated on me. He didn't actually have sex with her but he texted his ex "let's fuck" and some other things, which is still cheating. When it happened, I found out that night cause I knew something was wrong immediately when he got home. I checked his phone right when he fell asleep (I've never once looked through his phone before this but I knew immediately that I needed to that night). I left that night and the next morning, I came home and talked with him. I decided I still wanted to try because I love him (not to mention, I'm 6 months pregnant with his child). But I set some rules in place. For one, his insta accounts are signed in on my phone. Two, I have his location all the time. And three, most importantly, he isn't supposed to be drinking (because he said his reasoning was that he was blasted). He didn't stop drinking but he had been asking me if he could drink when I'm with him. I agreed that it was fine ONLY under the condition that he's only drinking when I'm with him and that I have his phone. Since then, my main priority has been trying to find a way to trust him again but he has lied to me more than once since then. Today I had to go to a different city for the day, to see some family, and he went out to "eat" with a few of his coworkers. I simply asked him not to drink. After he left, I asked him if he'd been drinking and he told me no. Once I got home, I knew I still needed to check. After he fell asleep, I looked in his wallet for a receipt and found it. And of course, he lied again. I'm so exhausted. I don't know what to do. I don't know how I'm ever supposed to trust him again when he just shows me, time and time again, that he has absolutely no problem lying to me. I truly don't know what to do right now. He's asleep next to me right now, I've decided to wait until he gets home from work tmr to try and address it. I just don't know what that'll even be right now. I don't want to leave but he jus keeps giving me more reasons that I should. Someone help me out here please.

Okay so there's been this cheaters/do you know him Facebook group going around in my city recently. All the girls are either posting their man to see if they're cheating or to show someone else their man is cheating on them. It's all very messy as you can imagine. My boyfriend was posted on this page. Most of the other captions are like "is this your man or our man". "What the tea on this guy" and stuff like that. There was only his initials in the caption, and the photo of him was his profile picture. However, one of the biggest issues is his Facebook name isn't his real name. They have to know him in real life to know his first AND last initial. His Facebook name is just something stupid. And even at work, it's only his first name not even his last initial one his name tag. Of course when I confronted him he acted like he had no idea why or who would post him on this page. Unfortunately the poster is anonymous and they never replied to my comments. I'm not sure if this is some girl from his past just seeing if he's with someone, someone he's cheating on me with and trying to give me a hint? Or even someone he's been talking to on the side and doesn't know about me. I don't think it's some random girl that thinks he's cute, and just wanted to know his situation. By the way, we've been together for over a year and we live together. Which, complicates things a lot I honestly don't know whether to give him the benefit of the doubt anymore or not. This is all very recent btw and I just can't shake the feeling of insecurity and him cheating off my mind. I would appreciate any advice at all.. I feel so lost and I don't know what to do.

My gf (36 yo F) and I (22 yo F) have been dating for about 4 months. When I first met her, she was a machinist working 12-hour days. A month into our relationship, she decided to return to her previous profession as a barber. She’s trying to build her clientele, but I’ve noticed that she because she now has more free time, she goes out about 4-5 times a week and drinks heavily each time.

On New Year's Eve, she mentioned wanting to spend the evening with me at the movies. I didn’t know that her college friends from out of town had come to see her, and she went out with them before meeting up with me. When she came home, she was very drunk, slurring her words and being somewhat mean and argumentative. I tried to ignore it, but it really bothered me, and we had a minor argument. Once we arrived at the movies, she fell asleep almost immediately, which upset me since it was our first New Year's together. However, I understood her friends were in town, so I let it go, and we moved on.

A few weeks ago, she asked me to come over and make her dinner (spaghetti) while she was at work. I agreed and went grocery shopping. When I arrived at her place, I cleaned up a bit and waited until it was closer to the time she got off to start cooking. She was supposed to get off around 7, but didn’t come home until midnight. She explained that she had to drop something off at a friend’s bar and then got caught up there. I didn’t cook her dinner because I noticed she was at her friend's bar through our shared location.

When my gf finally arrived home, she was very drunk and immediately got upset when she saw that I hadn’t cooked for her. She ran upstairs and slammed the door to her bedroom. I felt sad because I noticed this was becoming a pattern. I went upstairs to talk to her, but she was too drunk and mean, so I went back downstairs to make her spaghetti and then slept on the couch. In the middle of the night, she sobered up and came downstairs to apologize. I forgave her and tried to move past it.

Last night, after work, my gf went to play pool at a pub near her job. She was there until about 11:30 and called me on her way home, slightly drunk. She immediately started making rude comments and being a jerk. At that point, I was fed up, so I told her I needed some time to figure things out because it was a lot for me. The next day, I didn’t answer her calls or texts until she reached out again after leaving the pub, saying she was sorry, etc. I called her to discuss why I was uncomfortable with her behavior, but she said she wanted to talk later. I agreed and checked her location, confirming my suspicions that she was at her friend's bar again after work at 11 PM. I texted her what I had said earlier, but I felt confused and exhausted. This is a lot, but I do love her.

Please help, I don’t know how to approach her without it becoming an argument.

I don't know what to do but I'm dealing with somewhat a relationship. But alright here is the story, I'm going to tell a lot because I need some suggestions on what to do. So, when my best friend was at our classmate's birthday party in December 2022, we stumble across his sister, who is 2 years older than I am, The first thought that came to my mind was that she was beautiful and she and probably is the most perfect girl I've met in my life. So I have this slight crush on her, but not enough to make me fall in love or anything. So we played tag, had a lot of fun, and all that stuff, and after the party, my best friend gave me her Discord. So we made a group chat and later it turned into DM's.

So fast forward to next year and I'm at her school along with my friend group. Our school divides our grades in a way so that we have lunch first and the older grades have lunch last so, we only see each other about 1 hour a day. But it's still enough to make me happy. So now I had a crush on her for months, and I have fallen in love with her. My for you page is all about her now and every day after school I was on the verge of telling her that I had feelings for her. I was 5 foot 1, skinny, and had an ugly hairstyle. And her being 2 years older than me she was more aware of her appearance and 10 times more attractive than me.

So, I finally decided that I was going to tell her about my feelings. So I'm in the dining room where my gaming setup is, and I'm typing to her on Discord, I have a little small talk, the usual, and then tell her that I have feelings for her. She said she doesn't feel the same way sorry, and she would still like to be friends. I couldn't handle the embarrassment and awkwardness, so I declined. I told her that we could never see or talk to her again. I only have one class together and guess what? We sat next to each other, so that was awkward I guess, I never looked at her or spoke to her for the rest of the year.

So it's my last 2 years at that school and now we do talk but not like how you think. She moved to a different school, and we just have online arguments that last for hours on Discord because I'm trying to figure out why her little brother hates me so much. Speaking of that, my best friend/her little brother is not my best friend anymore. He found very few reasons to hate me for no reason and then made them very overdramatic until he slowly distanced himself away from me, so I don't have a clue why he did that to this day.

So, now it's my last year at that school before I joined her in that school she is in now. We are good friends now and talk a lot on Instagram.

So it's winter break and we are talking, and out of now where she said she liked me, this was right when I found Christ which means this was a gift from Christ since she is also a woman of Christ. So I was ecstatic and that was probably the happiest moment of my life since I was still madly in love with her. So we passed our "honeymoon phase" after winter break and school started back up we rarely talked. I wanted to talk to her the whole day and night but I wanted to wait until she sent me a message first. But she never sends me a message first. If I'm lucky, I will get sent a reel. So a month has passed since winter break and in a short conversation I made a dirty joke about her little brother which I regret badly and should have never done in the first place. So she blocked me.

For your information, in the past, she is really trigger-happy when it comes to blocking people or me, I don't know, but in the past, she would go like a whole month or week with blocking me and then unblocking me because I did something little that made her unhappy.

So back to the situation. She blocked me on Instagram. But not on Discord. So for 2 days every 30 minutes, I would send her a message and she would ignore me. But she eventually responded after like 2 days and said her Discord notifications were turned off. I find that funny because when I called her on Discord it said it was ringing her phone. But she was taking dry texting to a whole other level. So she unblocked me finally and I sent her a whole bunch of reels on Instagram. So she left me on seen which made me really sad. Oh and just so you know, when she blocked me for 2 days I became depressed so yeah. So she unblocked me. Yay! But not so fast. When I was walking home from school today I sent her a reel and she blocked me right after. She doesn't get out of school until later so I think it was her little brother who hates me. But yeah I'm quite the overthinker. So she still hasn't unblocked me and responded to my Discord messages. and I don't know what to do. Please help me in the comments and god bless you!

Edit: I forgot to tell you guys, we won't date until I get to her school. And her whole family hates me because her little brother keeps telling them stuff.

I (34f) and my husband (33m) have been together for 9 years, married for 3. He recently came out as bisexual and then came or as poly. He has been seeing a trans woman now for 3 months. I’m trying to be open minded and understanding but I’m feeling put on the back burner. I have talked to him about it and all he says is sorry. I feel bad asking for more but I’m not sure how long I can feel like this. What should I do?

So I (24F) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (32M) for a year now, and I started staying around more at his house.

I don't really know if it's my own mental health or something, but I still feel so alone, like I'm talking to him but I feel like I'm talking to a wall almost. Then there are dates that I'd like to do that he doesn't want to do cause he is very introverted. He let's me do stuff that I'd normally do, like hang out with my friends, and go get food with them. He does good stuff too, like get me gifts and go to get food.

I always have a tinge of sadness and guilt that's in the back of my head, and I feel like that might be from not being around my family a lot recently, and my family has always been the type to stick together. I have been feeling like this for months.

My friends say that it could also be from us being in a big age gap relationship and I feel like that could be the case as well.

If you have more questions I can answer them as well.

So my question is, when you are in a relationship, is it normal to feella little guilty of being away from family?

TTLDR; after a few months in a relationship I feel a sense of sadness and guilt from being away from my family a lot, is it normal to feel this way?

My boyfriend (40m) and I (38f) have been dating a little over a year. I recently caught him messaging multiple females through messenger. One woman sending him explicit pictures. One woman he pursued on FBook and would tell her how incredibly gorgeous she is, one woman he works with (was sending kissy faces too) right after I left his house Christmas morning. He pursued her, she didn't even know about me. One woman he video chats with quite frequently for extended periods of time, which is his ex girlfriend. There were in total about 10 different women, but he would delete most of the conversations as he was going along. I feel like he wants attention/emotional connection and to me building an emotional connection with someone else and hiding me is cheating. What is your definition of cheating?

So, we give it a few days and talk about it..well, I do most of the talking and he just sits there. We decide we are both going to get off FBook. I asked him to just block all those women and he gets mad and says I'm just going to delete FBook all together.

He and I communicate a lot through video messages through Snapchat. He says that way we can video chat.

However, anytime we're together he acts very shady with his phone (well I think it is shady, I could be overreacting). It is either always face down, vibrate or ringer off, on him at all times or left under his bed pillow. If he gets ANY notifications it never lights up or vibrates.

I asked him the other day to see his Snapchat roster and he told me I couldn't see his phone because it is an invasion of privacy. However, he has to run into Lowe's and I stayed in the car because I was upset, he come out and told me he loves me and showed me his Snapchat, it was me and one of his buddies. I asked if he went in there and deleted everything, he said no. Would you believe your person?

I'm having a very hard time trusting him. We've had issues before this, where I've asked if he was talking to anyone else and he would tell me no. When he fact he was talking to multiple women.

He gets upset with me because he thinks I should just automatically trust him, but I feel like I need proof.

In your opinion, would you trust your person or leave? Am I overreacting? Do you feel like trust was broken?

We are not in an open relationship, we are supposed to be fully committed to each other.

What do I do? What would you do?

My heart and my brain are not on the same page and it is so frustrating.

This is just so hard for me and dating again. I am a widow, I was with my husband since I was 23 years old. This is the first person I've been committed to since my husband.

one of my close friends (24m) and me (23f) have known each other for years. a month or so ago, we entered a situationship and we went on like 6+ dates, but at this point i was working and in school. i ended things with him for several different reasons. 1, i would cancel plans and in the same night he would ask me several times if i was sure I didn’t want to hang out etc. I found this so disrespectful of my time. 2, when i did end things with him, he went to my best friend and asked her to convince me to be emotionally available for him. i found this manipulative. he also posted a petty video from tiktok on his story about it too. to be clear, i was as respectful as possible when i ended things with him. later when the drama cooled we ended up meeting up and getting to talk about it like adults who respect one another.

we still hang out and text each other, i consider this boy to be my family. lately i have been thinking about him a lot. i feel like we are honestly pretty compatible as we have the same interests and we love being around each other. the situationship ended sourly but it doesn’t affect how i see him because he is my family. i know he feels terrible about the way he handled things and i trust him to do the right thing. i just feel very comfortable around him and I dont feel this way about anyone else. im not condoning the way he handled our “breakup” but im wondering where things will go if i try giving him another chance.

TL, DR: my ex situationship ended in a dramatic way, but i forgave him because he apologized sincerely & i consider him to be my family. i feel we’d make a great couple. should i try giving it another shot?

Situation: bf comes home from a work event. I have white noise on (which he doesnt always like on, but I forgot to lower to the right amount as I fell asleep) he turns it down, and then goes on to be loud and asks me if it’s too soft and if that’s ok at that level (whilst I’m sleeping and he’s expecting a response ) I ignore but I wake up and respond it’s fine but mentioned it’s a bit inconsiderate to wake me up to seek validation of something that was ok for me in the first place, we then get into an argument as is defending himself and cannot see where I’m coming from.

He keeps on telling me that he was being considerate by balancing both our needs and that in fact he was quite nice and considerate to do so to make sure I was comfortable. He thinks this is very thoughtful and not selfish

He said his intent was to find a middle ground, but you do that in the morning it’s strange and weird to come and try and solve that when your partner is sleeping.

I feel like I’m getting gaslit into oblivion it’s hard to tell.

After further prompting I found out he was upset that I had it on so loud and I feel bad in saying this but it feels like he passively felt I was not acting right so he decided to wake me up to sort it out where really if he was selfless he would of just waited till morning as someone considerate of his partner ….

Might be a pattern to act in selfishness and frame it as selfless acts and manipulate then get defensive

Some of his responses:

“But I understand that it might be out of selfinterest”

“I am telling you that I believe that I wanted to check in with you that the volume was ok for you to still have a good sleep”

He was ready to ride or die that he was acting in a considerate way

Hi everyone,

So we’ve been together for about 7 months, and he’s always been incredibly sweet, supportive, and understanding. He’s created a safe space for me, never invalidated my feelings, and been a grounding presence when I’ve felt overwhelmed. I genuinely love him and care for him deeply.

However, over time, I’ve found myself feeling hurt and unfulfilled by certain patterns in our relationship. One of my biggest concerns has been a lack of consistency and follow-through, particularly with communication. Despite expressing my needs multiple times, I often feel like I have to remind or beg for the bare minimum. He has ADHD, which I know impacts his ability to maintain certain habits and routines. I’ve tried to be patient and understanding, but it’s been hard to separate what is ADHD-related from what might just be a lack of follow through. I genuinely know that he means well and wants to make changes. I think I’m just not sure if the trust and reliability which is so important for a relationship can be rebuilt.

Recently, I reached a breaking point and felt ready to end things. When I told him this, he was very upset and begged for one more week to prove himself. I know from his previous relationship he was always worried about being blindsided and not knowing when something is coming. I told him about a month ago that I was reaching a breaking point and really needed him to make changes. He has but I think the build up of everything made it hard to see past the changes he made. I agreed to one more week to fully decide but I’m conflicted about whether I made the right decision. Part of me is holding onto hope things will change and he’s the right person, and another part of me is saying it’s time to let go.

On one hand, I know habits take time to form, and I want to give him a fair chance. On the other hand, I feel like I’ve already given months of patience and communication, and my gut is telling me the relationship might not be salvageable. I’m also struggling with whether this is a case of “right person, wrong timing” or if we simply aren’t meant for each other.

To make things more complicated, his family has always been loving and supportive of me, which makes it even harder to let go. Sometimes they felt more like family than my own.

I’m just struggling with knowing when it’s time to let go even when you both love each other. And also how to balance giving time for growth without sacrificing your own wellbeing.

How do you know when it’s time to let go, even if there’s still love? How do you balance giving time for growth without sacrificing your own well-being, especially when ADHD is part of the dynamic?

I want to start off by saying right now he has thousand and thousands to his name because of a financial aid refund check. He spends this on meaningless, or at least meaningless in my opinion, things. I watch him spend hundreds on DoorDash, video games, vapes, alcohol. At the end of the day it is HIS money, so I can’t be mad. I don’t ask that he puts a penny of it toward me. However always spoil him. I have a part time job, recently my hours got cut to about 4 a week. No refund check. Countless times I’ve spent my last dollar on him. When he didn’t have as much, I was there to help him out. I spoiled him so much for Christmas. He had already blown all his refund money, leaving him with nothing to get me for Christmas. I’m not a materialistic person though, I was okay with him just giving me a photo album his mom made of us. I guess I’m just upset about my birthday. Any time he’d tell me he was going to go crazy, I’d say I’d be happy with just flowers or something from the heart. Fast forward and I didn’t even get those. He doesn’t have a car so he says that’s why he didn’t get those because it defeats the purpose if I have to take him. I don’t know how to tell him this upsets me without sounding materialistic and selfish. Also, he chose to spend most of our time together on my birthday on his video game, granted I did have some schoolwork to do, but he was very eager to get on his game. I hope I provided enough background information. He is a great guy but this upset me on what I consider to be one of my most special days of the year.

My girlfriend (21F) is a senior about to graduate from undergraduate. I (24M) am currently in the first year of my masters program. We are from the same town/high school. We are 2 years in and only her two sisters know about our relationship because her family does not approve of men of color. I have been extremely torn about this. Her reasoning is that her family pays for her tuition/rent/food etc and she is afraid that she will be cut off if they find out. I personally do not believe it would be as bad as she claims, she has bad anxiety. I have not been able to convince her and it has really caused a lot of issues in our relationships. I was not made aware of her family situation until about 3 months in and decided that we could work through it, expecting that it would be resolved by now. I hate to give her an ultimatum, because I can visibly see how hard this situation is for her. She is torn as well. Her graduation is coming this semester and I told her no chance that I miss it even if her entire family is there. I hold two undergraduate degrees and am Obtaining my masters while working full time. I feel as if I do not deserve to be hidden.

I love her and have always thought she was the one. But between the family situation and her anxiety about it all, it has been very tough to make any progress and it has been hard for me to see any future past graduation at this rate. If anyone has been in something similar or has any advice, I’d appreciate it.

I know some of you will say cut and run, and some will say fight for love. I am genuinely curious if anyone has been ima similar situation this day and age and how it turned out. Has anyone experienced something similar?

Me and my boyfriend barely get any time to meet properly. So this one day he's all home alone and he has invited me over to his place. But on the same day my uni bestie has kept her birthday party ( not on her actual birthday) and I feel guilty to choose one . I am in such a dilemma , what do I do?

Me (19M) and my girlfriend (19F) have been together for almost a year, our anniversary is coming up in a couple of weeks, but I don't think I want to be with her anymore.

Her mood dictates everything. If she's not happy then nobody can be. She is on her phone 24/7, and when she's on it, she's not even doing anything important, eg. checking her friends snapchat location, scrolling instagram, etc. She wants my life360 location on 24/7, constantly tries to start arguments because I don't post photos of her on instagram, and has definitely been through my phone without consent on multiple occasions. She also has no job and if I'm not at her house, she'll just rot in bed all day every day, even when I'm round her house, all we'll do is lay in bed doing nothing.

Is it wrong that I want more? I want a girlfriend that wants to go outside and do things with me, wont ignore 80% of the things I say, isn't obsessed with social media.

Things are ok between us right now so I'd feel bad for ending things.

Should I break up with her? Any advice is hugely appreciated.

I have a bf M21 and I’m F19. We used to be together in highschool but we broke up and went no contact now it’s been 3 years and we were able to figure it out and get back together. Recently he just told me that 6 months after our break up him and my bestfriend F20 kissed. He said they were both drunk and realized it was a mistake right away but what hurts me was that her and I were friends at the time. Now it’s 2 and half years later and I’m finding out and I’m not sure how to react. Or if I should confront. What hurts the most is she chose to never tell me. Should I be worried about this or should I let it go?

I have a kind of unique problem. My girlfriend and I (wlw relationship) have been struggling a little with our different ways of showing love. We both love physical touch, even acts as small as holding each other's hand. This works out great most of the time. The problem comes when we're in public. I'm very anxious, and was raised by a strict, homophobic family. I tend to avoid any sort of PDA, while she loves PDA. She tends to be sad, but tries to understand where I come from.

I just need advice on how to make her feel loved, or how to get over my anxiety about being queer in public. I'm from a very accepting city, I'd say, but it's just a force of habit.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Hello Im 19F and my boyfriends is 19M. I recently just started dating my boyfriend of 2 months. I thought everything was going fine. We are both college students and our dorms are right in front of each other so he basically just sleeps in my room. One night he went out with his friends and he left his iPad. I know the password to his iPad and Phone so I go through his iPad because I just had a feeling. I went through his iPad and I seen that he was entertaining these girls and asking them to send their location. Btw I go to a college out of state and I was away for Christmas break and that’s around the time. This is basically my first actual boyfriends and I really like him. I confronted him about this and he was just like those are my friends from middle school. And I didn’t think anything of it because there wasnt any flirtation. A couple of days later pass and I’m writing this because i just went through his phone again and went to the recently deleted in iMessage and I seen a girls name and it says 808 messages deleted. I undelete them and it turns out to be his ex. She texted him and he responded. So naturally I go through the messages and it’s just her texting who’s this and him responding say his name and in my head I’m like why are you responding knowing I had just talked to you about this and cried in your face. I go through his call log and seen that they had FaceTimed. I start to cry silently because he’s right next to me. I wanted to go and look a little further so I went into his camera roll mind you guys he never takes pictures with me. I go through his camera roll and just see bunch of pictures of her and then I also go into his hidden… it’s like 5 sex tapes of them. I don’t know what to do. I’m so disgusted and angry but I really like him so much I need help!

girls, do you feel the same way? When you’re being intimate with your partner but end up helping yourself finish—do you feel ashamed of it? Like you’re the only one trying to make it happen?

So my boyfriend has texted multiple girls flirtatiously on behalf of his male best friend to "set him up with a potential partner". The conversations have low and behold been extremely personal and the whole situation makes me question as to whether my bf is genuinely a dumbo or is it a self gratifying opportunity to experience chatting with other girls despite being in a committed relationship. Would appreciate some male perspective as well🕳👩‍🦯

So I 25F have been talking to a guy 30M online for about 4 days now. We've talked on the phone and really hit it off but there's one thing about him that's bothering me and it's that he wants to meet me already and he's asked me every single day since to meet him. He lives about 2 hours away from me and he wants me to drive down there and "hangout". I keep telling him no that it's too soon for me but he keeps asking. Now he thinks I'm not that interested in him... Do people really meet eachother the first days meeting on the internet? Am I the odd one out?

My boyfriend and I have a bet, one of us thinks it’s nasty to pee in the shower and the other doesn’t. What do you guys think?